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Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 05:26
Plain and simply [b'>NO!!!![/b'> Dubai is full of butchers in small saloons and I must add in big ones too!!! If you found somebody good stay with her. Not just in Dubai! I left Dubai with a new haircut that I was absolutely thrilled with. Redundancy and all that I went to a well-known budget chain here in Aus for a trim...lovely haircut destroyed!!! Am now waiting for it to grow enough to hope someome with an iota of talent can resurrect it. :(
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Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 04:46
Contrary to all the advice below, I think you should consider leaving him if you don't have children yet. If things are this bad now, they will only get much, much worse when you do have kids. Then it will be harder to leave him and the kids will suffer. I'm afraid I agree. Someone who needs professional help as clearly as your husband obviously does will only get anywhere if he realises he needs help AND asks for it himself. It cannot be pushed upon him. Give yourself a fixed timeframe (two weeks, one month, six months...), get some professional advice yourself on how to approach him about it and if he's not making positive progress in your set timeframe...move on. I'm sorry but I can speak from painful first-hand experience. You cannot help someone who does not want to be helped and your life with him WILL NOT IMPROVE until he does seek help. It WILL GET WORSE and whatever you do DO NOT bring children into this situation. Love and strength to you. ETA - My most sincere apologies for making the assumption that you don't have children with him yet. If you do, the children will also be better off with two parents apart but happy rather than two parents together but miserable. xx <em>edited by Green-ish on 16/01/2011</em>
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Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 04:21
Big hugs Shenkins. It's SO hard when the little ones are so close in age. My first two are 20 months apart so I have some idea what it might be like for your son. While it's really exhausting right now, just wait until they are a little bit older and the very best of mates! :D I love watching my two play so well together. I love Hello-Kitty's suggestion of spending as much time as you can (while still looking after yourself) with your older child. I also found feeding times the easiest time to concentrate on my older one. He'd snuggle up next to me and we'd sing quiet songs or read a book or just snuggle. I too agree that as much as your husband's schedule allows, he needs to be "Bedtime Guy". If Daddy can't do it, maybe try carrying the baby in a sling while you tend to your son? Try to get a really set routine happening which your husband carries out from start to finish as often as possible. Ours was always dinner, bath, story & milk then bed all done over a period of about an hour. No TV on in the house, no loud music (calm, soothing background music can sometimes help), dimmer lights if possible, quiet talk...none of this Daddy-comes-home-and-the-rough-play-begins business. ;) Try as often as you can to be reading stories before your son is really tired so he's getting into bed calm and sleepy, not over-tired and wound up. Fingers crossed he's dropping off to sleep by himself very soon.
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Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 04:08
Congratulations Sgilli3 and family! Wishing you and Griffin a wonderful babymoon. xxx
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Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 04:05
Has any 'research' been done into the long-term affects all of this pageant business has on these tiny children? Surely there are adults now who were part of the pageant circuit as toddlers? It's nothing new is it? I have only ever seen the TV documentaries on this nonsense and I'm well aware that the editors have the final say in the view we see of what actually happens. Documentary sensationalism or not, I just don't understand it. I look at my precious children who need a good 2 hour nap during the day and 10-12 hours at night and I think these women who drag their wee ones all over the country at all hours of the day & night are nothing short of cruel. I don't understand a mother painting chemical laden cr*p all over her child's face. I don't understand a mother subjecting her child to the hours and hours of practice and harassing the child to do something perfectly and teaching her that less than perfect is not good enough. I don't understand the desire to put your CHILD up against other CHILDREN and repeatedly demonstrate to them that being prettier/more talented/less hairy is the be all and end all of what defines that child as successful in this world. I wonder how the poor wee tots fair as adults in the real world?
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Latest post on 16 January 2011 - 03:48
Oh PL2, what a difficult situation for you. Sounds like she needs help from a dog behaviourist (or rather, you need the help ;) ), not so much a trainer. I don't get in here as often as I used to...I know Verity had to leave Dubai but surely there are other specialist behaviourists in Dubai/AD. Is Caroline still with one of the vets? NAS or Safa maybe?? Even if you can't get things to work for the dog within your family, it's probably really important to get a behaviourist to help you select the right new home for the dog. As much as I always loathe saying it, sometimes euthanasia is the 'best' solution. If you can't get to the bottom of her behaviour, then she's living a very stressful life. As you have said, she needs a pretty specific home environment and sadly those homes are few and far between in that part of the world. Best wishes to you.
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Latest post on 14 January 2011 - 08:09
Hi Sam... mirdif dot mum at gmail dot com Insurance claim still pending so I prefer not to name the *rseholes publicly!! :) I'll go and check now in case you've already tried to email me. I'm housesitting this week and only have intermittant internet access.
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Latest post on 14 January 2011 - 07:40
I agree with Green-ish, but we have found that the desert weather here is pretty rough on BBQs. So if you've got a really nice one it may not survive as easily as it would in another climate. True granola!!
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Latest post on 14 January 2011 - 06:52
I think it depends on the quality of the BBQ you have. If it's a really good one, you won't find a similar replacement in Dubai. Anything we saw there that's of half decent quality is very, very expensive. Picture bottom of the range Bunnings stock at over AUD300 for a relatively cr*ppy three-burner. ;) I've seen the lower quality range of Beefeater BBQ's in Dubai, but again at a premium.
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Latest post on 14 January 2011 - 06:44
Hi Alisha. I'm a Bris Vegas girl recently returned to Aus after 5 yrs in Dubai. I adored living in Mirdif so you may be very happy there... assuming it's close to your husband's place of work. Travel time is crucial to take into consideration in Dubai or you'll never see him. ;) Royal Dubai and Uptown both have very good reputations and another I think is worth looking at is Star International. My son went there for the equivalent of pre-prep when he was 4 yrs old (they start from 3 yrs old in Dubai!) and I could not fault the school in the time we were there. http://www.starschoolmirdiff.com/ (In my opinion one of the worst maintained websites in the universe and an ongoing bone of contention at the school...PLEASE don't let the site put you off the school. At least the contact details are up to date. ;) ) Make sure you take the kids to Dubai Mall. You'll entertain them for a whole day in there with the Aquarium, Ice Rink, awesome Kinokuniya Bookworld, Dubai Fountain (a MUST SEE...grab an ice cream and sit outside after 6.30pm) etc etc Be sure to hop on a Dhow on the Creek too...the heart of Dubai is around there. :D In the glorious winter weather, you can't go past letting the kids stretch their legs in Creek Park or Safa Park. I hope all is well with your home in Brisbane. <em>edited by Green-ish on 14/01/2011</em>
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Latest post on 14 January 2011 - 06:20
Gosh...I've just seen some national news. Four more states now experiencing evacuation orders and floods. Love and prayers to those affected in NSW, Vic, SA and Tas. My heart is mostly in Goondiwindi this morning where I have lots of family and spent most of my childhood holidays. Fortunately it's looking like their levy (sp??) banks are holding. Full credit to an awesome, pro-active local council in Gundi! WA fires...my heart goes out to the people there too.
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Latest post on 14 January 2011 - 04:57
It's just not good news. Most of my family are affected. Some stuck in Toowoomba, some on the coast, some in Rockhampton. The videos have to be seen to be believed. I don't want to send back money because the exchange rate is so bad and they will end up with nothing. I'm going to put together a 25 kilo FedEx package, will cost 1'800dirhams, and will fill it with clothes/toys/toilet paper etc. Supplies are what they need at the moment, not money. Cheques were given out to people but banks were flooded so they have cheques without money. To anyone else whose family and friends are in trouble, all my prayers are out to the brave people. It makes me proud to be a QLD'er when I see how much they've all pulled together to help each other right now. It's going to take a long time to clean up this mess. Amy...while your heart is clearly in the right place, the authorities are still asking for cash donations only at this point. Anything you send may be stuck for weeks or months at a depot or on a ship because the logistics of getting goods anywhere at the moment is just a nightmare!! I'm a fair distance from the flood zones and most of the supermakets are emptying, the fast food outlets are closed etc etc. Roads and train lines are closed so goods simply cannot be transported to their intended destinations. Perhaps get your care pakcage together and hold off sending it until things are a little more organised on the ground here? xx
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Latest post on 14 January 2011 - 04:51
Best wishes Baklawas! For more support during your pregnancy and birth, have you considered having a doula by your side? Someone you build a relationship with during your pregnacy and who can be there for you through labour? Doulas are 'just' women who are passionate about childbirth and supporting women through it all. While I say "just", I think they are heroes to those they support. If you do a search you'll find a couple of fabulous doula groups operating in Dubai. Of course there are great ante-natal classes that you can do too and still benefit from the classes and the relationships you can build with other classmates, even for a second delivery. I'm told Birthing From Within classes are AMAZING...I know the book is!! Now, there's a book worth getting your hands on! http://www.birthingfromwithin.com/
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Latest post on 13 January 2011 - 17:06
Hi everyone. Apologies for dragging up an 'old' thread, but I don't have time to look for any more recent ones. Our premier keeps saying the rebuilding from this disaster will be of post war proportions. Our state is devastated, the death toll grows, agricultural, industrial and massive mining areas have been wiped out. Our economy is going to be a mess for years. People are fighting over bottles of milk in the supermarkets (and I'm not even in a flood affected area!!!) I heard yesterday that the land area affected by flooding, some of which has now been going on for 22 days, is equivalent to the size of England...NINE TIMES OVER. 75% of our massive state is now under water or just beginning the clean-up. Northern New South Wales is now beginning to receive the flood water so more families, more communities to be devastated. Bl**dy selfish, d*ckhead *rseholes are looting people's homes and businesses. Some other fricken t*ssers in WA are deliberately lighting fires and people there are losing their homes. Our country is going through enough. Kim67 - I hope you and your loved ones are ok. CT, I hope your sister got away safely. Advice Seeker, unless you're ready to put on your wellies and start helping people to get back in their homes, I'd steer clear of my beautiful home right now. NOTHING here is going to be the same for a long, long time. In a year or so, I hope anyone that can will consider amazing Queensland as a holiday destination. Come and spend some dollars here and help us rebuild. ETA - oops! Thank you for all of the well wishes! :) <em>edited by Green-ish on 13/01/2011</em>
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Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 08:06
...the mumsie of a fwuffy wittle bwunny. ...as an aside, hubby picked up the rabbit in the afternoon and says mr vet man is suitably terrified of self! lol! Apparently I am rather formidable when have my grown up face on. Thanks everyone for all your help and support. Lol...you scary scary nasty woman picking on poor wee Mr Vet Man. ;) Glad to hear you got somewhere and fwuffy bunny is ok. x
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Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 07:46
Like Kim said below...it has simply not stopped raining here. We've been back in Aus for almost three months and have literally had five days of no rainfall since we got here. I'm on the 'Sunshine' Coast, stranded at home with the three little ones, fridge broken, no car and husband can't get home. If I serve pasta or rice to my kids one more time I think there will be mutiny. Lol. Pizza boy got through last night so we owe him big time! I have never in my life seen rain like this. The ground is so wet where we are that a massive tree fell down over the road an hour ago. We have similar trees all around the house, close enough to land on it so I'm officially getting nervous. I may have to ask a neighbour with a 4WD to give the children and I a lift to my Mum's house...not that her area is any drier but at least a tree won't fall on it! I feel sick watching the footage on TV. I can't stand our state premier but I really felt for her this morning. She just looks genuinely distressed that she can't get enough rescue teams to help people who are stranded on their roof or in cars somewhere. It's just indescribably awful.
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Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 07:32
Hi Frances! *wave* We found a really lovely one in Toys R Us of all places...costume section in the Disney range. I'm not a huge fan of the licensed stuff but my little girl fell in love and I'm a pushover. :D
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Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 04:17
Now do we finally think it is a good time to bring in the police???? I've been following this from a distance and cannot believe the police weren't brought in long ago!! Actually the police were brought in from day one. When hubby told the immigration it gets registered with the police straight away. he did go into a police station several days later just to double check and they showed him on the computer how the case was on their file. Sorry Ginnee...that just wasn't clear from what's been written so far. I'm so sorry you and your family are going through all of this.
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Latest post on 10 January 2011 - 17:55
Nice to see that so many miss lovely Dr Brian...but all he did was leave the country. He still IS a wonderful Dr, ;) This ain't an obituary.
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Latest post on 10 January 2011 - 17:50
Now do we finally think it is a good time to bring in the police???? I've been following this from a distance and cannot believe the police weren't brought in long ago!!
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Latest post on 10 January 2011 - 17:44
If you have the time to look around and interview a lot of girls AND pay a decent amount, there are quite a few maids out there with lots of childcare experience who could become an invaluable part of your family support network. The terms maid and nanny get used interchangeably in Dubai but it's worth keeping in mind that maids almost always are NOT nannies and have no training in early childhood education, first aid, nutrition etc. If you can't find a really good maid (good at childcare) you can pay a premium for a trained nanny, or use any one of the very good nurseries that do exist in Dubai. No matter the choice you end up making, letting someone else take care of our children is a VERY VERY hard thing to come to terms with. All you can do is make the best decision you can for your circumstances. Good luck!!
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Latest post on 10 January 2011 - 17:36
I loved Robin Barker's book too as a go-to manual for just about anything that comes up in those first months. And also all of the Dr Sears books...my favourites are "The Baby Book" and "The Discpline Book".
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Latest post on 10 January 2011 - 17:34
frenchy...there's also Gulf Montessori in Garhoud. I never got to check them out myself but it's always worth seeing a few before deciding isn't it? http://www.gulfmontessori.com/newindex.htm Hope you find the right nursery for your little one.
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Latest post on 10 January 2011 - 02:39
Hi juzzrach... maybe drop me an email so I can try to help you? First time we went to Italy the children were 3.5 & 2 and I was pregnant with number three. Second time they were 5, 3 and 9 months. I do know a thing or two about Italy with small children. :D As much as I love hanging around EW :), I'm getting less and less time to do that these days. mirdif dot mum at gmail dot com Thanks for the heads up C. Miss you! x
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Latest post on 06 January 2011 - 09:19
"LIKE"!! :D Lucky pups who end up in your home! x
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Latest post on 05 January 2011 - 15:56
erm blue skies, beautiful weather, amazing people, diverse cultures, so much to see and do (still discovering things after almost 3 years) , friendly and welcoming place...i would stay even if i was saving zero! Sounds like Perth, Western Australia :) :D
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Latest post on 05 January 2011 - 15:55
The Aussie dollar is strong...hovering around 1 for 1 with the US dollar. Makes me wonder why we pay more than double the price of goods in the US. My recent Christmas whine was about Nintendo DS games - in the US, $19.99; same game in Australia $58.75. *stamp foot* (whinge over ;) )
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Latest post on 05 January 2011 - 15:48
Thanks Shaf, the spoon with cereal just does not work, she just can't get the angel right and she ends up picking up the bowl and drinking from the bowl! TanyaR - the fork seems to be going ok, but she gets a bit frustrated as well when she is hungry, especially when I feed her noodles :) I think the key is to just keep giving them to her and she'll use them eventually. It doesn't matter how she gets it all in at the moment. ;)
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Latest post on 05 January 2011 - 15:47
Some Advice Please: I did BLW and it is all great. But now at 12 mths she wants to do it herself with the utensils, which I want to encourage, but, I can only cook food she can get on a fork otherwise it ends up on the floor if she uses a spoon. And, how do your LO's eat cereal. So, my question is how to go from BLW with fingers to using utensils and at what age. Miss Charlotte is almost 14 months and can now use a spoon really well. I mean, she makes a massive mess (!) but she can dig it into a yoghurt pot or cereal bowl, get food on it and guide it into her mouth. From almost day one of BLW, any time there has been food that could be 'forked, knifed or spooned' I've just put baby-friendly utensils on the table in front of her and let her go for it. In the very early days I gave her a loaded spoon but otherwise I guess she's just picked up what she's supposed to do with them all by watching the family eat. The only thing I still spoon feed to her is weetbix and milk. I just cannot deal with that particular mess... which sets like concrete! ;)
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Latest post on 05 January 2011 - 15:38
Their rates have been the same for ages and an increase of 2 dhs per half kilo is still not bad when you think of the increase in the fuel we have all had to pay. I'll still be using them as you save so much on the UAE shop prices even after shipping Yeah,thats true. Just complaining as everything seems to be getting more expensive all at once. I thought Dubai was expensive...until I came back to Australia where petrol is currently over $1.30 per litre (around AED4.20) in my area and a 500mL bottle of water or diet Coke is AED10 in the supermarket! ;)
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Latest post on 05 January 2011 - 03:19
But no-one is required to sing, surely. Just to stand respectfully while the national anthem plays, something I expect my children to do regardless of the anthem being played. Singing optional :) This was the case at my son's BC school last year (and I believe still is this year?). The national anthem is played every day and the children can join in and sing if they want to. Many do, partly no doubt because children love singing. I even found myself humming along most mornings. :)
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Latest post on 05 January 2011 - 03:15
Oh aishahmed, my heart aches for you. I have no extra advice to offer but I'm sending you my prayers.
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Latest post on 05 January 2011 - 03:05
How about paying for a photographer to do a newborn shoot and buying some lovely tiffany photo frames to put the photos in. ...[quote'> Giant "Like" for this idea! ...and for the delivered meals. There's nothing quite like the utter exhaustion of the first few months with a newborn and not having to think about dinner is utterly priceless. I had PND after the birth of my first child. My husband saw it before I did and because he worked long, long hours he arranged home delivered meals for a short time for us and I honestly felt it was a lifesaver! <em>edited by Green-ish on 05/01/2011</em>
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Latest post on 05 January 2011 - 03:01
I miss S&S. :( Having gotten so used to S&S in Dubai and getting goods SO much cheaper from the US, I wince every time I have to pay prices asked in Aus. S&S doesn't ship here and the best rate I can get direct from the US is USD40 for up to 500g. One company charges $40 per order PLUS shipping and handling!
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Latest post on 02 January 2011 - 13:33
Compared to my first two children, and having to carry prepared mush with me, I found BLW much easier when going out. Charlotte just eats whatever is safe and interesting to her from my plate. Like beigey, in the early days we just carried bibs (and spare clothes just in case) and got on with it. Don't forget, your little one will eat if she's hungry. If she's not hungry, she'll spend more time playing with her food (which is a good thing when you have the time). If you want meals to be 'quick' when you're out, make sure you are feeding her when she's both hungry and well-rested. :) A nutritionist once told me that it's ok in babies to look at their diet over a week rather than over a day. As long as there's variety in the meals over the course of a week, all is good...no sweat if they have the occasional carb only or vege only day. ;) I focus on 3 balanced meals and healthy snacks from about 12 months of age. Of course, plenty of people combine the two and do feed purees when out. For me, the whole point of trying BLW was to teach my daughter healthy eating habits and to reduce stress in the process. Do what feels right for you and your little one. <em>edited by Green-ish on 02/01/2011</em>
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Latest post on 02 January 2011 - 11:10
Just cover the floor and walls with plastic covers, wear wellies and tin hat and give baby a little plate of chopped up food, fruit, cheese, whatever you think. There will a bit of spluttering and watery eyes but most babies get the hang of things very quickly. I used to give my 2 a spoon to "play with" as I popped in the odd mouthful but they managed fine. Choking is a big fear of course but babies cough reflexes are pretty good. Just make sure that pieces are not too big and make sure he/she is upright when eating and never leave baby alone while eating. Agreed on most points except the size of the pieces, for two reasons. If following 'true' BLW, baby must be allowed to do it all for themselves. At 6 months old, to have a fair shot at that they need to be able to hold the food. Each piece of food (my daughter's very first meal was steamed broccoli) must be big enough for them to grab and for it to stick out at either side of their fist. :) The second reason is the possibility of choking. If the pieces are too small the risk of choking is greater. You're better off with very large pieces of soft steamed veges or soft fruit or finger sized chunks of lean meat they can gum to death and swallow mushy bits as they get them into their mouths. :D BLW is brilliant because baby gets to truly enjoy food a whole lot quicker. I did the puree 'nonsense' (just my opinion having used both 'methods' ;) ) with my first two and BLW with the third. BLW is SOOOOOOO much easier, except for the mess. And boy is there some mess! :D
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Latest post on 02 January 2011 - 10:55
I'm going to make more, buy less and pursue a new career! ETA - Oh, and spend a LOT less time on EW. ;) Happy New Year old UAE buddies! <em>edited by Green-ish on 02/01/2011</em>
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Latest post on 02 January 2011 - 10:52
As has been said, you may need it on arrival in your chosen country, if it's Australia you do, for example. ... I flew many times from Dubai to Aus (Perth, Brisbane and Sydney) with one, two or three of my children and almost always without my husband. I have never been asked for a letter. I also flew to Asian, UK and European destinations without any hassles. ginabeana - given the very different experiences of the ladies here, why not just ask your husband to write something for you and carry it just in case? :) <em>edited by Green-ish on 02/01/2011</em>
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Latest post on 02 January 2011 - 07:30
Oh good luck Tiggy! I met a lady the other day (here in Aus) who has four danes, three of which are rescues. They are the most gorgeous couch potatoes...'though Tiggy may not exactly be couch potato material if he has boxer in him. ;) Fingers crossed the perfect home comes up for him.
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Latest post on 02 January 2011 - 07:18
When my son needed a new passport we were told his current visa remains valid and to carry both old and new passports with us. It may be the same when changing name to. Your Embassy/Consulate will be able to confirm.