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Latest post on 17 March 2015 - 12:12
Moist.
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Latest post on 17 March 2015 - 12:11
Sorry to hear that. The current nursery sounds awful. I think I know which one it is if its a big chain of nurseries. Anyway, I hope you will be moving your LO for the new term.
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Latest post on 17 March 2015 - 09:31
I've been told that it will be announced by next Thursday end of term!
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Latest post on 17 March 2015 - 07:41
Does anyone have any information on this nursery, specifically the knowledge village branch? TIA bye:
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Latest post on 17 March 2015 - 07:37
As you may have heard JAPS is expanding to A levels and also moving locations. Due to this they are now also changing a compulsory 20k debenture, refundable when your child leaves the school. JAPS is a lovely non profit school. You can always get in touch with the school to find out if there any updates on the new location but I believe they will be announcing it within the coming weeks anyway. I would make my decision once I know where JAPS will relocate to. Good luck.
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Latest post on 15 March 2015 - 08:39
i've used both Geant and Trolley.ae. Both are reliable. Geant online is slightly cheaper but Trolley.ae can deliver within a couple of hours.
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Latest post on 12 March 2015 - 12:15
Playing devil's advocate - perhaps you should look at your role in this... obviously you have complained a lot, enough so that the nursery have had enough...... Thats ridiculous. OP please don't come to the conclusion that you can't voice concerns for your child because the nursery might get upset. How do you know it's ridiculous? maybe OP had been on the phone / email / daily..... How do we know you're not a bitter old man typing away from timbuktu? We don't. We just choose to see the better in people and try to be helpful where possible. And how is it helpful to tell someone that they are right and its awful blah blah blah when the OP's actions MAY be the cause of everything.... Hi Izzy! You must work in my DD's nursery. If not, you should. You would fit right in. Burn. OP, I'm glad to hear the Director has taken things seriously! I hope things get sorted. Try to relax and happy Thursday bye:
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Latest post on 12 March 2015 - 11:55
Playing devil's advocate - perhaps you should look at your role in this... obviously you have complained a lot, enough so that the nursery have had enough...... Thats ridiculous. OP please don't come to the conclusion that you can't voice concerns for your child because the nursery might get upset. How do you know it's ridiculous? maybe OP had been on the phone / email / daily..... How do we know you're not a bitter old man typing away from timbuktu? We don't. We just choose to see the better in people and try to be helpful where possible.
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Latest post on 12 March 2015 - 11:45
Playing devil's advocate - perhaps you should look at your role in this... obviously you have complained a lot, enough so that the nursery have had enough...... Thats ridiculous. OP please don't come to the conclusion that you can't voice concerns for your child because the nursery might get upset.
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Latest post on 12 March 2015 - 11:18
IF I've ever used a VPN its only to catch up with Eastenders! I probably deserve to be locked up for that alone. :lol:
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Latest post on 12 March 2015 - 11:15
I completely sympathise with what you are going through. Although rewarding, teachers have a very stressful job as well. For this reason teachers don’t teach and run the management at the same time. Every nursery should have a friendly parent orientated front office person who can take care of parent relations. Since moving to Dubai this is something I’ve bought up myself many times and I’ve come across a fair share of stressed parents like yourself. Speaking so coldly to a parent is just unacceptable and downright unprofessional. Yes it is your right to bring up concerns. The problem is with them because they cannot cope with their internal issues. You might even get told that its only you that complains. Trust me, i highly doubt that! I can’t say for sure but it sounds like the person you spoke to just has very little experience in how to talk to people. I doubt that your DD is just sitting in the corner not doing anything all day because like you said she’s coming out of her shell. For now I would recommend you wipe off the tears, go take a nice hot shower and give yourself a break this for an hour or so. When you feel up for it make a non emotional list of all the concerns you have had with the nursery and how they have dealt with them. Email the list to the Director of the nursery and request a meeting. If you get the same response from the Director then you know this is a management problem cascading down. After your meeting contact KHDA and Ministry of Education with the same list. After your meeting sit and decide what you would like to do moving forward as most school terms are now coming to an end. Take all emotions out of the equation. I know how difficult it can be with a shy LO but sometimes us mothers blow up out of proportion how we think things will turn out. Then in the end we realise it was a blessing in disguise. It may take some extra logistical planning, it may be difficult at first to work around but in the end your LO will have a much more nurturing environment to learn in. One where she is happy and so are you as the parent. I work in early years. Please get in touch with me if you want to talk or just vent. <em>edited by Hungry_Caterpillar on 30/03/2015</em>
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Latest post on 12 March 2015 - 11:14
I would just tell her to put in the safe with the rest of the families passports till she needs it. Its readily available.
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Latest post on 11 March 2015 - 15:56
I loved everything about our time in the Springs besides the invasion of mosquitos because of the lakes! DS was constantly being bitten even when covered in repellent. He must just have some juicy blood! :lol:
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Latest post on 11 March 2015 - 15:51
Holding anybody's passport, maid or not, should be illegal. It's their personal right and if they can't be trusted with their own identity, maybe they shouldn't be trusted around your family, period. Rude but my opinion. It really makes people feel undignified and disrespected to not be able to hold their own identity, believe me. And yes, it is hypocritical to complain you'd like to get your own passport in an "emergency" yet don't treat your hired help with the same respect. Have you had a maid abscond Cherpie? It's a nightmare. I disagreed with holding a maids passport until I had a maid abscond, got a ticking off from immigration and went through a lot of worry and expense. Our maid is welcome to leave our employment, through the correct exit channels, at any time and at any point in her contract. She is not welcome to illegally abscond, leaving us a time consuming, expensive and stressful mess to sort out. This.
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Latest post on 11 March 2015 - 14:13
Not much to say for tourism but in terms of safety, my friend was there last week and had no problems as well. Just be careful about your belongings (wallet, phone etc) as you would in any city. Enjoy!
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Latest post on 11 March 2015 - 14:11
No no it won't. Don't be sad! *hugs* It may take some time but you will be so surprised when you see your child catch up to her peers and even surpass them. You can always continue learning through play at home to help her along. I'm an early years professional so if theres any advice you need please don't hesitate to write to me!
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Latest post on 11 March 2015 - 13:17
I'm not holding back DS 'just because'. Our son's pediatrician and the nursery wrote a letter requesting KHDA to allow DS one more year before entering FS1. If there weren't any developmental delays I wouldn't have held him back- or have been allowed to do so.
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Latest post on 11 March 2015 - 12:51
I believe we both have toddlers at the same age, my little one will also start same time but in my opinion and my personal choice I'd definitely not put her on the bus. Are you holding yours back a year as well? 2.5 now. He'll be 4 when he starts school. Hi HC! Has the school agreed that your son can start FS1 at age 4? Agreed and signed off by KHDA thank god. DS needed this.
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Latest post on 11 March 2015 - 12:50
I couldn't agree with you more. My friends DD goes here and and its a nightmare. They claim to follow EYFS framework but know very little about it. For example my friends DD is a bit of an introvert and my friend was worried about her. She asked the nursery about her daughters key worker and the Manager just looked back blankly. She had never heard of it. They never reply to parent emails and concerns. They always lose lunch boxes/bottles and pass the blame back onto the parent by saying it was never there! If my friend asks about a scratch on DD's face on pick up the answer will always be 'it was already there in the morning!'. Horrible. Avoid.
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Latest post on 11 March 2015 - 12:34
Also, consider if your child needs to use a booster chair or not. If your school uses the minibus style, they should use booster seats BUT only if there is a 3-point harness seatbelt. If they use a booster seat w/ only a lap belt, that is incredibly dangerous and every single car seat manufacturer says it explicitly in their manuals. [b'>You must NEVER use a booster chair w/ a lap belt.[/b'> I've brought this issue up to the attention of a big nursery chain here, but they have yet to get back to me even though I have followed up with the manager. Their transportation policy is that booster seats are mandatory on their buses, but their buses aren't equipped for boosters. It's shocking that they haven't rectified it. I'm glad that they are passing on the right message of the importance of car seats/booster chairs, however even safety equipment used improperly can be dangerous. Which is exactly the case here. I think I know which nursery chain you mean. I had the same conversation with them but nobody got back to me. In the end we decided not to send DS there. We moved to an area with a nursery nearby and its just walking distance.
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Latest post on 11 March 2015 - 12:13
I believe we both have toddlers at the same age, my little one will also start same time but in my opinion and my personal choice I'd definitely not put her on the bus. Are you holding yours back a year as well? 2.5 now. He'll be 4 when he starts school.
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Latest post on 11 March 2015 - 11:38
Oh i see. Not Fish wrangler then.
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Latest post on 11 March 2015 - 11:35
and the parking in stupid places to let the little people out..... driven by FW of the highest order. Izzy what is a FW?
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Latest post on 11 March 2015 - 11:24
Far too young and to be honest, go look at how school busses are driven..... wouldn't put one of my cats on them. Yikes. I thought the 'outstanding' schools would have an equally as 'outstanding' bus service. Never mind.
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Latest post on 11 March 2015 - 11:05
I havent dared to try it but apple cider vinegar has been used a long time time for hair. Apparently it can stimulate hair growth, it conditions, balances the pH and the big one for me- it can reduce frizz! I don't think my children at school would appreciate me with stinky vinegar hair :lol: If you try it keep us posted!
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Latest post on 11 March 2015 - 10:56
i'm working so I'm here all summer. I tend to go back to UK for Christmas. DS loves it in London that time of year. I think you'll find lots of people stay. Especially those who are working. Besides the blistering heat its nice and quiet :)
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Latest post on 11 March 2015 - 10:33
Agreed. Thanks for the advice ladies. I will look into all options and decide accordingly when the time is near. Currently me and DS have a cuddle ritual in the morning that I'm hoping to hold onto as long as I can! We would miss out on that in the morning if he had such an early bus pick up. Well we still have nearly 18 months to sort this out! :lol:
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Latest post on 11 March 2015 - 10:27
I completely respect both sides of the debate. Like I said, I only now hold my current maids passport because the one I had before ran away. This was a massive inconvenience. She now calls me crying because her boyfriend is not good to her and she feels she made a mistake. If you decide not to hold her passport just keep coloured copies of her passport page and visa page with you.
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Latest post on 11 March 2015 - 10:22
Oh I forgot to mention we live close to the two schools we have in mind. On the bus service our area is the first stop for both schools. I completely agree that the extra sleep makes a difference. I wouldn't want to wake up DS at 6 something either just for him to be sat around in a bus for over an hour.
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Latest post on 11 March 2015 - 09:55
Quite simple holding anyone's passport is illegal. But then there is a bit to it than that. First of all domestic help doesn't fall under the labour law and therefore it's not technically illegal under Dubai laws to keep their passports. A domestic workers lives in your house, deals with your kids and might have access to valuables. If your maid ends up running away for whatever reason and you go to immigration the first thing they will ask you is for her passport. If you don't have it you will hear a long lecture over why you didn't keep it. It's happened to me. We keep our new maids passport now but she knows she has freedom of resigning and taking back her passport whenever she wishes. We won't hold her captive! The only reason I don't hand over my passport to my employer is because if god forbid there was an emergency back home and I needed to fly back ASAP I don't want to get stuck here if no one can get in touch with the guy with the key. I've seen it happen before and it's horrible. Someone I know missed a close relatives funeral because the company said they couldn't get her the passport till Sunday. In my maids case the passport is right here at home. If she needs it she can have it. <em>edited by Hungry_Caterpillar on 11/03/2015</em>
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Latest post on 11 March 2015 - 09:01
I would not recommend making a long journey to get to JAPS. The teaching & learning is still good but the facilities are very 'tired' and there appears to be very little money being put back into the school. Also personal debentures of AED25,000 for new students kick in from next academic year although the fees are still reasonable, around AED 40,000. Many families have moved their children this year to other schools or have them waitlisted elsewhere. The premises are moving - although the location is yet to be confirmed it appears it is not going to be in Jebel Ali village or even nearby. Is it 25k now? I was told the school would stay in Jebel Ali and the debenture would be 20k.
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Latest post on 10 March 2015 - 12:19
Sometimes, for the sake of your marriage, it's best to just take a deep breath and try and forget. She sounds like a pain in the rear. See below, hopefully will make you smile. 1, Toilets are like mothers-in-law: the farther away the better. 2, I really DO have a soft spot for my MIL. It's out in the garden behind the garage. 3, I haven't spoken to my mother-in-law for two years. We haven't quarreled. I just don't like to interrupt her. 4, Q: What is the worst thing an emergency doctor can tell you after admitting your MIL? A: Sir, we were able to save her! 5, My MIL is banned internationally from playing poker, as she keeps all the chips on her shoulder! 6, Q: What do you do if you miss your MIL?? A: RELOAD, AND TRY AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!! Have a good day Love this! :biggrin:
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Latest post on 10 March 2015 - 12:18
Take a deep breath, relax and do something much more useful with your day than writing her a letter. <em>edited by Hungry_Caterpillar on 10/03/2015</em>
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Latest post on 10 March 2015 - 09:34
I have a long hair. He sheds constantly, needs regular trims/grooming and even with daily brushing he ends up getting all knotted! Maybe you could give a short hair cat a go? Good luck with whatever you decide.
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Latest post on 09 March 2015 - 20:59
Hi Hungry_Caterpillar , Like you, I love Dubai and cant see myself moving back to the UK. The West does not appeal to us anymore. Europe too cold and for me not as safe - guess I am spoilt in Dubai with the safety aspects. We are considering to move to Asia - mainly KL and Singapore and perhaps Bangkok. Would love to retire there too but not sure how expensive it will get with time in Singapore. In terms of retirement, I also heard Chang Mai is lovely - not sure about the safety. I guess you need to figure out why you chose Dubai and what you dont like about the UK. then you need to research on countries that fit what you are looking for in the next move e.g safety, weather, tax free. Wish you all the very best! Hello hitch! Your reasons for not wanting to go back to UK are pretty much identical to mine! I can't stand the cold weather and because of DS I would like a very safe environment. You also seem to have similar countries in mind- Malaysia, Singapore, Thailand. I guess what puts me off is that I think I know Dubai now so well. It will cost some money to up root to a new country and it won't be worth it if its even more expensive than Dubai. I hear Singapore is much more expensive and this was top of my list! If you come up with any more ideas get in touch hitch! bye:
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Latest post on 09 March 2015 - 19:23
We were both retired when we moved to Dubai in 2005 and had seven wonderful years there and still have great friends there, too. We love going back to visit but we moved to Muscat in 2012 and absolutely love it - a slower less frantic lifestyle, beautiful country (desert and mountains both on our doorstep), miles and miles of gorgeous beaches but top of our list of 'best things about Oman'? The Omanis themselves - so very friendly, welcoming and helpful. Couldn't be happier ?? Sounds lovely debliz. I've put Oman on my list!
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Latest post on 09 March 2015 - 19:20
Also JAPS have started a compulsory 20k debenture. Double check if it would apply to you. I think its only from 2016. <em>edited by Hungry_Caterpillar on 09/03/2015</em>
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Latest post on 09 March 2015 - 19:09
If you have a place at JAPS or Horizon, take it.
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Latest post on 09 March 2015 - 17:03
Cyprus... Canada... Both lovely places to move onto. With $$ on my mind I've been thinking about Singapore but the cost of living being more expensive than Dubai put me off. More recently I've been thinking about Kuala Lumpur. I'll probably just get lazy and stay here :lol:
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Latest post on 09 March 2015 - 16:56
I see a lot of problems between DIL and MIL when neither want to accept the other person as an important figure in the mans life. Theres an urgency to have 'all his love'. Being a mum of a boy myself I now understand how it feels. My son is so close to me and I imagine him as always being my boy. I can understand my MIL more now. So simply put when it comes to their sons, its important for a wise MIL to know when to let go and let another woman into their sons life. Its equally as important for the DIL to respect that MIL was there first. Theres a lot to learn for both parties. <em>edited by Hungry_Caterpillar on 09/03/2015</em>
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Latest post on 09 March 2015 - 16:42
I find Homecentre too expensive for what it is. I've furnished our lounge from IKEA and the bedroom from Marina Exotic- sturdy bed is always useful ;) Home Centre quality is definitely better than IKEA though. <em>edited by Hungry_Caterpillar on 09/03/2015</em>
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Latest post on 09 March 2015 - 16:37
My son kept trying to bring the toys over to the table to 'show mummy' so it was a bit of a struggle between us, the supervisor and our son to get the toys back to the play area :biggrin: He did but he's very attached to mummy so he's not really into independent play. If he's playing so am I! It can be a hit or miss. Give it a go!
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Latest post on 09 March 2015 - 16:34
My son kept trying to bring the toys over to the table to 'show mummy' so it was a bit of a struggle between us, the supervisor and our son to get the toys back to the play area :biggrin:
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Latest post on 09 March 2015 - 16:25
I second Latitudes at the Jumeriah Beach Hotel and the IBN one is pretty child friendly too. The Address has a brunch great for kids with face painting, toys and activities. <em>edited by Hungry_Caterpillar on 09/03/2015</em>
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Latest post on 09 March 2015 - 10:52
DS is 5, there is a gang in class who keeps picking on him, today morning he asked me to put perfume on his cheek as there is this boy who keeps sniffing him and tells him his cheek is stinky and this kid's friends copy him. I told my son that he smells good as he showers every night and he shouldn't listen. Today when we reached school DS was so upset and he refused to go in until I went in with him to speak to his teacher. His teacher is nice and very understanding, she called those boys and asked them to stop this behaviour and to apologise to my son. Those incidences with the same boys has been going on since the beginning of the year. She called their parents but their behaviour didn't change. My son is very sensitive and quiet in school and this is not helping. Should I complain? I never saw this child's parents at school , an African maid picks him up, she doesn't speak English and her arabic is bad. I also don't want to speak to a maid about a child's behaviour I don't know what I should do I'm so sorry you're going through this. As a parent of a sensitive and quiet child I can understand how doubly worrying this is for you As an educator myself I would say there is absolutely no harm in requesting to meet with the Head of Department. So in your child's case it would be the Head of FS or the Head of KS1. If you feel more comfortable meeting directly with the Principle then do so. This is your child and it's your decision to make. Everyone at the school is there to support your child so they will be prepared to listen to your concern. If I were you I would do the above and ask for an action plan on how this will be solved. No child should feel afraid of an environment where they go to learn, socialise and make friends. I really hope that the problem goes away soon. You have a brave little boy.
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Latest post on 09 March 2015 - 10:44
I am not a teacher but just curious. Surely you would need a teaching qualification and 2 years experience before teaching here. How will you get that experience? During your PGCi you would be working in a school so those placements would count towards your experience. You should add them on your cv. After finishing your PGCi you should be prepared to work for less money as a teacher or as a TA to build up your CV a little first. It's a bit of a journey!
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Latest post on 09 March 2015 - 10:34
If you plan to go back to UK: the PGCi is pretty useless. You would have to do the PGCE course all over again as the syllabus varies. Do a search on tes.co.uk for more information from forum users discussing the PGCi course in UK. If you plan to stay here: You can have the certificate attested by UK notary, FCO, UAE embassy and MOFO here. Your certificate will not say the mode of study I.e distance or online learning. Your certificate has nothing to do with MOHESR. The only reason Nottingham Uni is mentioned by MOHESR is because that uni offers the PGCE here in Dubai. It's recognised as a local qualification. The PGCi through Sunderland is a course entirely from the UK which would be attested by only the above mentioned bodies, excluded MOHESR. The PGCi is the only way for people outside the UK to gain the qualification that most international schools are now asking for. Your other option is to go UK and do the PGCE there which would be recognised everywhere including the UK. I hope this clears everything up for you. After giving things slot of thought I decided against the PGCEi and I'm now perusing an M.Ed. As a UK citizen I will do the PGCE once I'm back home. I don't want to spend twice on the same course. <em>edited by Hungry_Caterpillar on 09/03/2015</em>
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Latest post on 07 March 2015 - 15:36
I just wanted to add the below information provided by Sunderland. Basically, this PGCE is for overseas students only who want to be able to right they have it on their resume. Theres very little chance of getting QTS if you plan to return to UK to teach. "Please acknowledge that you are fully aware of these facts: 1. The Postgraduate Graduate Certificate in Education is an academic award. [b'>2. That this programme is intended for teachers working, or intending to work, in International Schools in countries outside the United Kingdom.[/b'> 3. I understand that the PGCE does not, in itself, confer any state registration (such as English QTS) and that it should not be considered as an alternative route to gain QTS. 4. To gain state registration as a teacher in any country, I understand that it is my responsibility to demonstrate to the state authority concerned my ability to conform to their requirements in force at the time of application. 5. The University of Sunderland is the awarding body for the PGCE and is responsible for the quality assurance of that award but has no control or influence over the awarding of state registration for any country including countries within the United Kingdom."
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Latest post on 06 March 2015 - 21:09
Can I just say - everyone get a flu' jab. Used to get very sick after flying but not at all since having flu' jab every year - so far! I understand the flu jab is just for influenza but have you noticed you have less colds and chest infections too?
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Latest post on 06 March 2015 - 21:06
I always order online spanx