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Latest post on 25 April 2011 - 17:32
This is a problem all over Dubai and suppose someones expat husband does the planning etc etc . Seriously though, who plans a shcool for, how many kids go there? With zero parking facilities from what I can see? I hardly think the current situation constitutes adequate parking!
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Latest post on 25 April 2011 - 17:26
Irish village shop has some designs, saw them in there when at Tennis in Feb <em>edited by jewelsmiddle on 25/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 25 April 2011 - 17:20
Oh Yes !
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Latest post on 25 April 2011 - 15:37
Excellent thank you just made me smile.
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Latest post on 25 April 2011 - 15:32
Any medical centre can give the injection but you better check if they have the hormone or you may run out of time.
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Latest post on 25 April 2011 - 15:29
Between cockroaches and rats all over Dubai , what else should we be wary of ? Are both all over Dubai for the same reason ?
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Latest post on 25 April 2011 - 15:25
Certainly it is a life time job that yourself and your husband created and worked together so now it is time to let the birds leave the nest and you and your husband adjust together. Maybe the reason the world is a mess may be because families have fallen apart but too many marriages fall by the wayside through distance and someone else may try to fill your shoes when you are not here permanently in Dubai . Look after your husband and yourself together and continue to set the good example for your children that life is tough and decisions need to be taken and make the best of it. Life is not a bed of roses as you know well and if you have always been a cry baby maybe it is something you can look into and see if you can improve on it and you would benefit I am sure. Your children in time will look back and admire ( but may take years) you for making the best and how difficult it was to let them go. Love is - letting go when you need to. I miss mine as does my husband !
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Latest post on 25 April 2011 - 13:22
National pest control will sort it for you
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Latest post on 25 April 2011 - 13:20
Do a search on forum as have been many threads for this and recently so should have many dr's on it..
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Latest post on 25 April 2011 - 13:16
Check offically how many contact days one is supposed to have for your school with KHDA and check if they have had them by the end of year. You may be getting frustrated without reason if they are covering all the contact days they are obliged to. If not the case, complain in writing to KHDA Good Luck <em>edited by jewelsmiddle on 25/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 25 April 2011 - 13:04
I wish I had a book like that for My children. Think I might get it to read . Thanks for posting it. Read this book and then get your daughter to read it. Lots of strategies and understanding. http://www.amazon.co.uk/Queen-Bees-Wannabes-Boyfriends-Realities/dp/0749924373/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1303719809&sr=1-1 Also, for me if I can tell in the car I offer to stop for a coffee/chocolate because I've had a bad day ;-) and open up a dialogue. Works for me most times.
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Latest post on 25 April 2011 - 12:02
Hope this weeks goes better for the OP, as someone wrote it never rains but it pours. Why call the police ? OP said they( I assume security or managment company would deal with her and if she ( person who has parked in wrong space is away ) is away how can it be dealt with ? When person is back and if it happens again find out why ? Maybe the security told her it was ok to park there. If it happens again and person is just being difficult then call the police. Take a deep breath and relax. What a terrible time. As for the selfish person taking your spot, call the police and report her, they'll fine her for parking where she's not supposed to.
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Latest post on 25 April 2011 - 09:55
This left out is happening alot for teens and just do not understand why. What about having someover for a movie, go to the pool and helping the situation. The queen bee will be difficult as she may feel threathened by your daughter. This type of thing happens alot with teens.Speak with the class tutor, or head of year or pasoral deptment. Thank you ladies for your reponse. I did have a casual chat with her and I believe the Queen Bee in class is making it difficult for her. Teens in general want to be accepted and I feel she is suffering from the feeling of being "left out". It has happened a few times. Honestly I cant remember that stage of my life and cannot even recall how my mother handled it :) I honestly do appreciate all your responses. Thank you.
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Latest post on 25 April 2011 - 09:49
This type of thing is terrible and hope your daughter is doing much better now. The question is "where are these children learning these bad behaviours from and being allowed to behave like that" ? From their parents, who either act similar or do not stop negative behavour , in many cases the parent do not know any better and it is allowed to go on and on and on. My oldest had a revolving door of problems with kids in Dubai for 2 of the 3 years she was there. It was a nightmare. And it certainly wasn't one sided b*ichiness. A few times we got involved because things got extremely out of hand and the rest of the time, we let her fight out her own issues. The biggest problem was last year when a girl sucker punched her from behind at school and my daughter laid that girl down flat which ended that drama.. Good luck.. Its not fun no mattet what
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Latest post on 25 April 2011 - 09:42
When only " A " understanding means " one" cat fight, leave to figure out and as I wrote in time ask if there is something you can help with. The teen may have got over it by the morning and if not ask the following day unless it is so bad you need to ask sooner. If it is happening a number of times , of course one needs to find out more and teen needs to know you are there to help them. Parents especially mothers sometimes get too involved and it depends on the situation and mothers can make things worse sometimes but with good intentions. I understood this poster was referring to one fight. Bullying is a different matter and certainly needs addressing. Leave them to figure it out , in time ask if there is something you can help with. Teens go up and down for a few years and sometimes best not to interfere . it's not really interfering - if a teen is having an issue, who else is going to be close enough to them to help ? Far better to let them know that you are aware that all is not well and that you will be there for them, than to leave them to it, thinking that you don't care... edited by jewelsmiddle on 25/04/2011 <em>edited by jewelsmiddle on 25/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 24 April 2011 - 16:11
Life is just starting for you at 40. Yes we should thank God and make the best of our situations. My son is 17 & on the verge of flying the nest. My younger one is 16 so I too dont have that much time before my kids fly the nest. Snowflake your posts have touched such a spot in my heart. I will keep u in my prayers and I am already dreading gowing thru wht u r feeling next year. Why is life sooooo tough??? Sometimes I wish I had had my kids later in life and not when I was 23 yrs old. I also feel like turning the clock back and I would have lived my life differently. But I guess its not good to feel like this, & live in the past that one cannot change. We should all thank God for what we have and try and make the most of the situations we are in. All the best Snowflake....time is the best heeler and u will feel better eventually xx
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Latest post on 24 April 2011 - 16:07
Snow flake, Bad idea on a permanent basis. Your children I think you may be talking of two children, will need space and learn to deal with life on their own. You married your husband and need to be with him but maybe you could go back every 3- 4 months for a week or two. If you want to be married, look after your husband , he feels as you do but may not show it in the same way. Start your group maybe now, put your contact details out there and see how the response is before the summer and if not very positive as its near May, try again in Sept /October when people are back and children gone to Uni. There are many lonely people here and even though we see people we do not always see the loneliness and an opportunity to meet new people and if possible encourage other nationalities not just from your own country. I feel for you. WOULD ANY OF YOU EVER CONSIDER MOVING BACK TO YOUR HOME COUNTRY (LEAVING YOUR HUSBAND HERE) SO THAT YOU COULD BE AROUND FOR YOUR KIDS TO POP HOME TO ON THE ODD OCCASION.....OR SO THAT YOU COULD KEEP THE CONTACT GOING BY OCCASIONALLY GOING UP TO MEET THEM FOR LUNCH, ETC. I never ever thought I would consider this as an option, but suddenly it seems something I would conisder. Many of us live here with our families and hubbies often travel, work long hours, etc......but when the kids leave, the house is empty (not a home anymore) and like it or not, hubby is very busy and away a lot......makes you wonder why you should stay here anymore. Friends back home who have gone through this despair tell me that it makes their day when their kids pop down for the weekend, etc (even if it is just to wash their clothes and stock up on food, money, etc). Wouldn't that be better? Skype just doesn't make up for lack of hugs, etc Am I just frantically trying to grasp at straws of salvation here, or does this make sense to anyone else? I know I have my lovely hubby.....but with the best will in the world.....he is always very busy......and it would probably make more sense for him to travel back to see us. Suddenly contemplating this (despite hating UK weather).....what do you think? Bad idea? <em>edited by jewelsmiddle on 24/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 24 April 2011 - 15:56
Leave them to figure it out , in time ask if there is something you can help with. Teens go up and down for a few years and sometimes best not to interfere .
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Latest post on 24 April 2011 - 15:52
Interesting, on the poverty line ? Wonder on definition of poverty ? Some think poverty today is one does not own a computer of mobile these days. What is real poverty ? Where are the days when people worked to help fund University while studing as was the case in my time and i did not have expat parents. If you can't afford it don't do it but living a basic lifestyle when at Uni is not poverty , it is Life ! If you had that many credit cards you were not in poverty. "They" can be very intransigent when they want to be and can and will let you rot if you don't meet the criteria and fall through the net - I was seriously on the poverty line at Uni, having to even pay my Council Tax and food with credit cards, whilst seeing jobless families waltzing around the town in their Nike gear... but would either the Uni or the Council listen and cut me a break? Nope... all because we hadn't been savvy enough. No grant, no loan, no hardship fund, not Council Tax or housing benefit... just full time education, 3 part-time jobs and 4 credit cards. My expat parents weren't rolling in dough, you see. Not every expat does.
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Latest post on 23 April 2011 - 23:07
ah thanks I don't think she has anyone in particular in mind, only an ácquaintance and not a friend. Let me say here though, a friend is as likely to steal as an acquaintance, unfortunately.
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Latest post on 23 April 2011 - 22:59
Have you mentioned it to the person you may think has taken it ? If so how did they react. Just be careful in case you have the wrong person and it is very upsetting but you don't want to fall out with the person if it is not them. Thanks for your replies. Perhaps I shouldn't have used the word 'expat'...I guess I wanted to make the difference between maid/gardener/gas man and a 'shiny caucasian' (shiny Caucasian!!!). I could have phrased my question better to "would seemingly well off and well-respected people of decent employment and backgrounds and who seem very pleasant, genuine and honest steal from you given half the chance?". I guess only because I would never think of doing that to anyone else whether friend or stranger that i naively think that I can expect the same of others. It makes me feel I'll that one of the many people who have come to my house may have done it. I have turned the house upside down and it's nowhere to be found and thinking back to the last time I saw it. I don't think it was a friend who stole it more an acquaintance. My question was poorly phrased...but the sentiment behind it still stands. Thanks for all the input, really appreciate it Ps: sorry you've been irked, Desert Boot, was generalizing, if you want, when I used the word 'expat'...probably wasn't the best choice in words. I see what you mean, really edited by Mrs_T on 23/04/2011
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Latest post on 23 April 2011 - 22:55
Some people travel into Uk or somewhere in Europe and get a connecting flight into Ireland. You need to check many routes to see which is best. There is an airport in Waterford, it may have flights from France and Uk and maybe elsewhere. One of my children has flown into there from stanstead in UK a few years ago. ask the person who has suggested the area if they have any suggestions.
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Latest post on 23 April 2011 - 19:26
Why ? do it after work and school. Now i am jealous, i will be working on Sunday and my DS in school, its the pits :(
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Latest post on 23 April 2011 - 19:24
Marks and Spencers and get fitted for best results
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Latest post on 23 April 2011 - 19:22
Wise ! Good Luck and hope he takes you up on the offer. i would never jeopordize anyones career no matter how strong the attraction and he seems like a sensible enough guy not to do himself either. As mentioned previously i only have a few session left and the only time i would ask him out for a coffee would be on my last session which technically would not make him my therapist anymore.
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Latest post on 23 April 2011 - 19:19
Don't know what you wish to do with them but if a cake, colour the icing instead is one idea.
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Latest post on 23 April 2011 - 19:17
In some cases, it can be an illness but not for many I suspect. I had a family member steal all the time, and she always denied it!!!!!!!!!!
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Latest post on 23 April 2011 - 19:16
Now that is the attitude to have, good for you snowflake. I will send any ladies your way if I see your email address. October onwards will be tough months for many. Good Luck !
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Latest post on 23 April 2011 - 16:45
Snowflake, I know how you feel and many have been there. Do your children go to University or have they left home ? Why not set up a University Mothers group, there will be many ladies like you feeling as you do. Even if your children are not at Uni , why not set up a group? it would do you alot of good and others also. These groups are common in expat area's around the wortld just need someone to start it in your home, do a coffee morning. Why not You ? Good luck
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Latest post on 23 April 2011 - 16:39
Sad to write but Yes ! Expat may steal from Expat. Have known of it happen to other people when I lived in other countries and not always the help doing the taking. As Guinness wrote some similar to times are very difficult for many people and one could fall by easy, there but for the grace of God go I. People who steal may be the wealthiest not always the poorest. What about all those spongers one pays for when out drinking and are great fun and never pay a round and yet drink all the alcohol on a regular basis( not a one off ) , have you ever come across one of those ? <em>edited by jewelsmiddle on 23/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 23 April 2011 - 15:42
Resident for 3 years , apparently not so as I hear many of people talking about this subject from the Uk in particular and they say they should be entitled to free university or go as a Uk resident even though the children were not raised there but as expats most or all of their children's lives. Which is weird a country such as UK willing for fork out for people who are not resident yet earning well as an expat . Who knows in time they may close the loop. People think they can take advantage just because there are loop holes, hope they remember that when there may not be enough money for schools for the grandchildren or relatives if they do live there or cancer treatment or such like is desperately needed. Unfortuntely many legally push the system and take advantage, does not mean it is wise or right. what ever country it happens in its Short sighted ! Oh for godsake get off your high horses. I have paid my National Insurance's worked since i was sixteen, and i and a british citizen, we still fill out a tax form every year. We live here because of my husbands job. It is not as am entering he UK illegally. MY Children were born in the UK and should still be entiled to education in the UK when the time comes to go back to UK. When i go back to UK i will be paying taxes again. and the thread is about UNI not my tax situation. However isn't it the case that unless your kids have been resident in the UK for 3 years prior to going to University they will be classified as overseas studentsfor tuition fees etc?
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Latest post on 23 April 2011 - 11:22
Rents have dropped but it may be difficult to get a place with a pool unless a 3 bed for 140 k. You also need to remember prices may rise and cost of maintaining. May be wise not to have too high an expectation and not to compare with home. Houses with shared pools are also available in Dubai.
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Latest post on 23 April 2011 - 11:13
Is it no wonder why countries are broke when people who do not live there and are not paying income tax are using the system in any way to avoid paying for University and such like. Income tax is what is used for these services. If you paid then there would be money for the famous N H S for people who really need it . Along with stopping all those others who keep taking taking taking looking for loop holes, there would be more money to be used on proper schooling and facilities and medical care. Your grandchildren and later will suffer even more.
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Latest post on 20 April 2011 - 14:07
Does the same apply to Christmas ? I work in a nursery school here. We are not allowed to mention Easter at all,or do any craft with eggs, bunnies etc in case we offend any Muslims in the school - yet Aswaq, a very local supermarket, has a huge Easter display and promotion, written in English AND Arabic, so as to include everyone. Go figure!!
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Latest post on 20 April 2011 - 14:03
Many people enjoy Christmas with food/drinks and family but do not celebrate the religious reason why there is Christmas. It is all down to profit , profit , profit and how these times of year have been marketed by big companies and how foolish we all become spending vast amounts of money we cannot really afford. Like many things people follow the crowds but do not necessarily know why.
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Latest post on 20 April 2011 - 10:12
Roll them
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Latest post on 20 April 2011 - 10:10
In writing is always best and get a signed stamped copy when it is delivered so you know it has been received and if no follow up from company within a reasonable time contact them and you have your signed copy if for some reason the correct person never received the letter of complaint and you need to reissue it to them. Alshaya own the boots franchise in the middle east. Seriously ring them.[taps nose'>
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Latest post on 20 April 2011 - 10:07
If you are upset, angry , then deal with the situation. You write it was the manager of the store, if you are sure as sometimes staff say they are a supervisors. Go back and get the manager to tell you his name ( go with a friend) but remain calm and do not get into discussion. If it was a supervisor then contact the store manager in writing. If you are confident it was the store manager you need to contact the head office of the company in the U A E and see how they respond before taking further action. I hope you follow up otherwise it will make you very bitter, remember most of these people in security are badly paid and probably not well trained. Take positive action and good luck. I was in Batuta two days ago and passed by Boots and of course, didn't resist and went inside to scan around my favourite brands. Checked Soap&Glory, make up sections and N0 7 as well as their 10AED and 20AED promotions. I was just looking and barely touched anything but the whole time felt awkward to have the security guard so close following me. It put we off of hanging in the shop and so I left. When I was 20 steps away came the manager and 2 security guards calling me and the manager had an opened box of Soap & Glory missing the content and he straight said that I have taken the product and the security wanted to check my bag. God, what a pain! I showed them everything I had, opened all zips from my bag, they went through all brands in my make-up bag and surely couldn't find anything. Then they insisted for me to go back to the shop to be searched by a woman assistant, which I surely refused. I dindt feel angry neither offended, actually, but I was more scared and intimidated. I told them firmly that I didnt have anything to hide and would only accept to be searched by an police officer and with my lawyer (imaginary, just you know - lol!). They them let me go .... 2 days later, it is still in my head this story and I just wont go back to Boots. But my feelings are: - could they accuse me like that, without any proof? and have an employee searching me, really? - could it have had a bad end ... I dindt steal anything but I was very concerned they could mess it up and incriminated me? - and what if it was a brand I had in my bag coincidently, like bourjois, nivea etc? Lucky me they don't sell MAC, Chanel, YSL and Inglot because THAT is what I carry in my bag - lol Mind you, I hand only my small hand bag with me, no extra shopping bags or anything else in my hands, and I was wearing a dress with no pocket and a thin cardigan with small pocket (where you dont put anything inside anyway). Anyway, ladies be aware, they a re looking to blame someone I guess. Since this experience I cannot relax in the shops any more, I feel like they are all checking on me. And I probably look more suspicious than ever!!!!
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Latest post on 20 April 2011 - 09:54
Speak to a specialist, some blood tests have been sent to Europe for testing but some are now available in the UAE recently. This may also be the case for the test you are referring to. Doctors organize for the tests to be sent to europe, do not know about canada.
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Latest post on 18 April 2011 - 19:03
Which type of school does the child go to ? Indian schools are very pushy and generate good students but all work and little play is not healthy. 7 year old on a special priject for 2 hours i can understand . Was it a project ? or is it the norm 2 hours a night ? anyone else think that kids just get too much homework full stop? a friend of mines 7 year old came home the other day with 2 hours of homework. my jaw literally dropped. she is only seven! but she says her 16 year old regularily gets 3 or 4 hours of homework a day. i seriously dont remember getting that much when i was a kid. even at A levels if i did 2 hours a day that was alot. it just seems crazy.
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Latest post on 18 April 2011 - 14:19
will it not depend on the school one is at ?
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Latest post on 18 April 2011 - 14:13
It amazes me why so many people end up paying high amounts of money for tutors for children at very young ages. Why are children not helping other children ? without payment if they are good at something they could help a friend or class mate if there is difficulty, this concept has been around for a long time. I feel for the o p, and as many have said most children do not want their own parent showing them. If someone is good at a subject will not always means one is a good teacher so here is a suggestion / s , Why don't you see if there is another parents you could ask to help your child and offer to babysit or cook or do school run, child care. Why don't you get a friend over and get them to do homework together and maybe the friend can help the child. Everything is about money and not everyone can always afford a tutor as maybe they are at their limit already financially.
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Latest post on 12 April 2011 - 12:05
You should see a specialist for your skin. if you do not know of one or someone here can recommend then see a GP who will hopefully refer you to a good specialist who knows a lot about acne. Do a search on EW for acne as there have been posts previously.
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Latest post on 12 April 2011 - 10:18
Sugar beach, why are you upset over comment, I am not having any go at you at all. Read carefully what I had written and it was not personal to you . It is a fact if interest rates are low people , will not save cash and people over the past years have mortgages and remortgage , borrowed to the hilt, lived good lives and it is now crashed down. Many people got mortgages more than one or two but would not have been able to pay them if they did not have tenants and that is one example of someone not able to afford. I hope when you reread you will see the point and be objective and not take it personally. aJM. If you read carefully, I didn't say I don't save cash (I do - but I effectively pay for doing so, the bank doesn't pay me in real terms), I said I didn't FEEL ENCOURAGED to do so. Of course, people buy their home on money they don't have, it's called a mortgage. Not sure what the point is you are trying to make in your post. But no, I don't believe I'm part of the problem you are referring to. edited by Sugarbeach on 12/04/2011 <em>edited by jewelsmiddle on 12/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 12 April 2011 - 10:07
You don't need a wine rack unless the bottles have to old style corks and most do not now , just lie them if you want on the sides and stack them in between two machines to keep you going until kitchen done, or stand them up.
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Latest post on 12 April 2011 - 10:05
Rain would be fine but if thunder and lightening, it would be dangerous.
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Latest post on 12 April 2011 - 09:10
At home in beautiful cosy surroundings, nice to also meet at a coffee shop but not as comfortable as home .
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Latest post on 12 April 2011 - 09:06
How many check receipts ?
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Latest post on 12 April 2011 - 09:05
About time ! is it spooky that this is in the GN this morning http://gulfnews.com/news/gulf/uae/general/every-fils-counts-a-change-in-attitude-is-needed-1.790716
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Latest post on 12 April 2011 - 09:03
The point is , they need to be at the tills so to reduce short changing by shops and pressure needs to be applied on shops to supply sufficient change and gives the customer the immediate option to put in box. Unfortunately the other option is for shops to increase prices as unlikely they would reduce them. Charity boxes for change could easily be put beside cash tills and issue easily resolved and loose change going to the place needed most not the shop keepers coffers. This was pratice many years ago in some countries I think this practice is done in many countries where the small change is insignificant. But, I think it works both ways, if the bill is 30.30, I give 3.25 and they never said anything, sometimes they even give me a few fills more. I dont see a big deal. Even in the USA, many people dont even take the pennies they get back, many even throw them in the garbage. I was a cashier there, so I know. edited by jewelsmiddle on 12/04/2011 I was about to say the same thing! Literally throwing money away is just weird... and quite wrong! Certainly most supermarkets here have charity boxes close by and most do in the UK too... as well as places like chemists... or you could always pop into a charity shop... <em>edited by jewelsmiddle on 12/04/2011</em>