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Latest post on 04 June 2014 - 13:30
DH sent me an image of a poster outside a restaurant saying 'free cock with every biriyani'. I replied that I could use one of those. was the end of the dry spell :)
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Latest post on 02 June 2014 - 21:47
I've used them for more than 3 years now, it's pot luck to some extent as to who you get. I've had 2 ok/good maids, 1 who turned out to be a really nasty piece of work but I only discovered this a year into her 2 yr contract, and 1 that lasted 2 days before I asked to swap for my current maid (one of the 2 ok/ good ones). The agency itself has been fine to deal with in my experience when it comes to renewals, or to resolve any issues either from the maid's side or from mine. I know others on this forum have not liked dealing with Howdra though, so again possibly luck of the draw. HTH
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Latest post on 02 June 2014 - 21:37
If you want to get it right on a visa application, you'd be better off consulting the relevant UK government website for the *actual correct figure* than asking a public forum in another country. Google should help you find the right .gov.uk website to check.
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Latest post on 27 May 2014 - 09:19
Most nurseries will charge for the full morning/ afternoon session, even if your LO is only there for 3 hours. Hummingbird in DIFC charges by the hour, and you can choose the hours and days that suit you. It will be within your budget for 3-5hrs per day, but is not in Al Quoz. I think you will have to compromise on location to get flexible hours. If you go with a morning/ afternoon session at a local nursery, remember to add in costs for holiday camps, as the fees wont cover these, or you'll have to pay for alternative childcare while nursery is closed.
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Latest post on 27 May 2014 - 09:18
Most nurseries will charge for the full morning/ afternoon session, even if your LO is only there for 3 hours. Hummingbird in DIFC charges by the hour, and you can choose the hours and days that suit you. It will be within your budget for 3-5hrs per day, but is not in Al Quoz. I think you will have to compromise on location to get flexible hours. If you go with a morning/ afternoon session at a local nursery, remember to add in costs for holiday camps, as the fees wont cover these, or you'll have to pay for alternative childcare while nursery is closed.
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Latest post on 14 May 2014 - 19:58
The best place to check is immigration. It used to be the case that you could sponsor help from your country of origin, but had to prove she was not related to you.
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Latest post on 13 May 2014 - 21:27
Is Anne still the principal of Child's Play?
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Latest post on 05 May 2014 - 14:16
Please take your DD to Nabiha at Hairworks in Al Barsha - she must be feeling mortified after what happened at the other place. Nabiha is fantastic with my 7-year old, treats her like a little lady, asks her how she wants her hair, and makes her feel really special. And she's a good hairdresser! afterwards, you can both pop next door for some ice cream :)
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Latest post on 30 April 2014 - 18:36
Perhaps because we all live in Dubai, and see what happens here, which is completely different to our home countries? I lived in another country for 8yrs before coming to Dubai and never encountered a single nanny or maid. I'm not saying it doesn't go on elsewhere but that might answer your question about why Dubai is a focus on this Dubai-related forum. I don't know where you lived before coming to Dubai, but in London, every single working mum I knew (and plenty of SAHMs too) had either a nanny or au pair. Most working couples or singles (without kids) that I worked with had a cleaner come in at least once a week for a couple of hours. Really nothing to write home about.
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Latest post on 28 April 2014 - 21:18
they provide pretty much everything, bar the clothes and baby blankets (although I suspect if you asked for some they'd provide it). if you prefer a particular brand of nappies/ wipes/ baby toiletries then bring your own. If you plan to use formula and have a preference as to brand then bring that as well. for you, they provide toiletries, pads etc so just need to bring your pyjamas, clothes to leave in and of course iPad/ phone charger etc. your doctor should see to it that all the registration/ documentation for birth is processed in the last few weeks of your pregnancy so you shouldn't have to do anything more, besides settle the bill on your way out. Good luck!
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Latest post on 28 April 2014 - 20:59
nope. sorry. ETA - I've even tried using a UK credit card and that hasn't gone through because the billing address is still in the UAE. it's a tricky website - it looks like it's all gone through, then you get an email a day or two later saying the transaction has been cancelled. <em>edited by KH on 28/04/2014</em>
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Latest post on 28 April 2014 - 20:56
it'll get held at customs if there is duty to pay - if it's over $213 (ish) - random amount - you'll have to pay the duty. they do ask for a copy of your ID as well. Aramex will pay the amount to get the package released and you reimburse them on delivery, along with the shipping charge. or you can pay it all online. HTH
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Latest post on 01 April 2014 - 18:22
I always have change from AED 25k a month and we are/have as follows 3 adults (one is a maid so all associated costs along with that), 1 child with nursery paid up for a year, 1 on the way, 2 dogs, 4 bed villa in Umm Suquiem, 2 cars, healthcare for all of us (dogs included) fully fed and watered, holidays when we want them and NO DEBT I do not get ANY allowances but my medical is covered by my work and I pay for hubby, maid and kids and dog Wow! How do you manage this? A 4-bed villa in umm suquiem must cost around 180k per year, plus DEWA etc alone would be 15k per month? Add nursery, maid's salary plus visa costs, groceries, running 2 cars (assuming both fully paid and just petrol/ servicing/ insurance costs), groceries, 1 holiday per year and this has got to be over 25k pm... ETA: this is a genuine question, not trying to be funny or saying i don't believe you! would love to know so I can see where I'm going wrong :) <em>edited by KH on 01/04/2014</em>
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Latest post on 18 March 2014 - 18:53
I don't think deporting her is enough - she should be in prison, and the phone may have been used to track down others involved in taking that photo (and god knows what else of that little boy). I too would have taken her and her phone straight to the police rather than return her to the sponsor and hope that he deports her. what's to stop her doing this in her home country (she would be a free person) or finding her way back here using a fake passport or whatever. frankly this makes me feel ill. edited to add, it's not too late. you know where she is and you can take proper action to have her charged with possessing illegal photos and hopefully they can find that child. <em>edited by KH on 18/03/2014</em>
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Latest post on 18 March 2014 - 18:45
i don't think metanium is available here - i S&S's from boots in the UK. i may still have an unopened one for you, will check and come back if I do; you're welcome to it. i buy the olive oil in the little bottle with the red cap from the pharmacies. i just can't get my head around basting the baby with bertolli's :)
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Latest post on 18 March 2014 - 18:38
don't do it! life is too short :)
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Latest post on 18 March 2014 - 18:37
Do it!! looking back on the blur of the first weeks (8 months ago), I wish I had.
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Latest post on 14 March 2014 - 22:49
sorry adooli, but she's already found a job. wish you all the best in looking for someone. i know how hard it is. i offered the job to a lady today only for her to turn around and say she wants a trial day(which i don't mind doing) but that she wants 35dhs an hour and she'll let me know at the end of the day. am i the only one that thinks this is crazy??? Wow. Did you laugh out loud before showing her the door?
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Latest post on 02 March 2014 - 22:21
so very very sorry for your loss, and under these appalling circumstances. there is a lot that I want to say, but this is not the place to do it. you may want to make a formal complaint/ request to the hospital to investigate what happened.
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Latest post on 07 February 2014 - 13:43
if you are living in the UK, you need to speak to an accountant/ tax advisor about how to gift this to your children or hold it in trust for them until they are adults.
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Latest post on 06 February 2014 - 15:01
I didn't want to say it as so many people use these products, but the fees are extremely high. Financial advisors like to sell these products because they are paid by Zurich and FP. IMO you would do better to go through an online stockbroker (such as Barclays, Hargreave Lansdowne or similar) and invest in equity or bond funds through their 'fund supermarkets'. If you can do this through an ISA, it's tax free. Entry fees are often 0% and annual management fees are discounted. This doesn't suit everyone though as you need to be comfortable choosing which fund or funds to invest in.
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Latest post on 06 February 2014 - 14:04
if it's a small company, it's not surprising to get an email from the owner about an transaction that has failed. all online sellers will be aware of all attempted transactions on their websites, whether they have gone through or not, I don't think this is unusual. it's also not unusual to follow up a failed transaction to try and trouble shoot. I've had several US vendors email or even phone me to say that transactions using a non-US credit card haven't been processed (even though the website completed the transaction) and I've had to go over the details with them again via email or on the phone. it's unusual that they cancelled a successful transaction, he must have really taken offence at your email!
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Latest post on 06 February 2014 - 13:43
I was hoping to be able to pick up today, but have resigned myself to waiting a week or two for it to arrive. the Sinbad website is much cheaper than amazon btw. thx
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Latest post on 06 February 2014 - 11:46
Hi Kelly Jane There are some relatively low risk investments that you could make, that would limit your losses, but also limit your potential profits. Unfortunately the only 100% secure saving is cash, provided your bank doesn't fail of course, but as you well know, inflation eats away at the value of your cash savings. A good financial advisor will take into account how you feel about risk and recommend less risky investments that may suit you better. Generally, if you leave money invested for a long time (eg 10-20 years) in a well run fund, you will make a profit. It also helps if you save a bit every month rather than putting in a big lump sum, then as markets rise and fall, the price at which you buy your investments averages out. I am not a financial advisor, but I work in the finance industry. I would say there are 2 golden rules you need to keep in mind when making a decision about investing: 1) if you don't understand the investment, don't put your money in it 2) there are no free lunches in this world. if someone promises you a return that seems too good to be true, it usually is, and you need to be wary of the person trying to sell to this product. HTH.
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Latest post on 04 February 2014 - 18:43
for cereals i use formula but for cooking i use cow's milk. i understand babies under 1 yr find it difficult to digest raw cow's milk and it's not recommended for them.
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Latest post on 04 February 2014 - 17:14
it really depends on you and what you want and how you feel. I stayed home with my first and second until both were 2 (with a year's maternity leave in the UK). Really enjoyed that time with them, had my hands full and had no idea how women juggled both work and babies. Had my third child last summer and returned to work after 3 months as mat leave was 45 days. If I had had the option of staying home longer with him, I would have. was very sad leaving the baby when he was so little, and am still struggling with juggling everything although it gets easier every day. I also really enjoy my work and I'm happy when I'm in the office, with grown ups, doing interesting things instead of spending my *whole* day feeding, changing, baby talking, cooking etc. As it's your first, and it sounds like you have a real choice, I would stay stay home until you feel ready to go back, and then start looking for work again. you will find another job, you won't get your baby's first years back.
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Latest post on 28 January 2014 - 11:32
Hi...I can feel your pain lol. my 6.5m old has only just started sleeping through to 5:30/6am, with a dream feed at 10pm. My DD slept through from 12 weeks pretty much, and DS1 from around 4 months. I followed the same routine with all three of them from birth (pretty much get in as much food between 7am and 6pm as possible, with some napping during the day) but was a bit more relaxed about it with the third. this may be why he took his time to drop the 2/3am feed. although he rarely took more than 100-120mls at any one time, so probably did need the extra middle of the night top up until he was established on solids. So basically, it depends on the baby in my experience. I would just persevere with your routine to try and get the max amt of milk in during daytime hours, and eventually he'll come right. HTH
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Latest post on 20 January 2014 - 14:58
This strikes me as particularly inefficient. Why don't you post what you have to sell instead? lol - spoken like a true economist DM
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Latest post on 15 January 2014 - 19:04
I had 2 normal vag deliveries (no epidural); the first took me 4-6 weeks to recover after stitches, the second took me closer to 3 months. i chose to have a c-section for my third, and TBH, it was the 'best' delivery for me although I did feel a bit nauseous during the event and the day after was a b1tch. i was actually excited to see DS2, held him almost immediately, lots of skin to skin during recovery and generally felt the euphoria one would normally expect after giving birth, which I hadn't felt with either of the other two as i was so lost in the pain and then afterpains of the 'normal' birth. i BF no 3 within the hour, with the other two it was several hours later for various reasons i won't go into here. i also recovered much quicker after the elective c-section than after either of the 2 NVDs. i would absolutely say try for a normal delivery on your first attempt unless medically advised otherwise, as a 'perfect' normal birth is the easiest to recover from and of course, the 'holy grail'. However, i think these are actually quite rare, and in my case, the elective c-section was gazillions better than the NVD, especially in terms of bonding with and b/feeding baby immediately afterwards.
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Latest post on 14 January 2014 - 14:23
cosmetic olive oil (available from pharmacies) is really good too.
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Latest post on 14 January 2014 - 14:18
i've made a substantial saving on a planned trip to Muscat using the vouchers - they used the best rate I could find on the internet, and I got the 2nd night free plus 20% off remaining nights (incl breakfast). just be aware that often they will 'block' peak periods, such as easter hols, and you wont be able to use the vouchers at all during that time. best to check with the hotel if they will allow you to use the discounts on the dates you want to travel before buying the book. I also wouldnt buy unless i was saving more than the cost of the book with the first use. HTH
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Latest post on 04 January 2014 - 09:00
We had never been to a CDS show but took our kids to see this one on NY day. We both love MJ, so enjoyed the show but I would agree with Kaz1 that there wasn't that much in the way of amazing acrobatics. I was underwhelmed after the first half, thinking my expectations had been too high, but the second half was MUCH better and I'm very glad we went. DD is now a MJ fan having learned 'the dance' during the interval. DS (6) fell asleep in 2nd half. The couple in front of us didn't come back after the interval, but we were almost on our feet dancing at the end. Happy we went and would go again.
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Latest post on 22 December 2013 - 14:53
thank you all. is there anyway I can get the school to take disciplinary action against her? I don't want to change my child's school as they are quite happy but I want her out. I would do the same as she has done to you, go to her in a quiet and calm way, show her all the messages, give her the option to resign otherwise you will inform the school of her actions, if you inform the school please be prepared for this to go legal, they may wish to inform the police of the "affair" this could result in all of you loosing your livelyhood here. I sure as **** would not let her get away with it ! i think this is a good idea - she told you out of spite but lied about her role in the whole sordid situation, most likely to save her job. she absolutely should bear the consequences of what she did (i.e. flirtation/ affair with a married parent of one of her charges, and then trying to break up a marriage). why should you have to move your child, and no way should she continue to 'teach' your DD. I would let her know over the phone once you are home that you have proof of the relationship with your DH and will forward evidence to her sponsor/ employer if she doesn't resign immediately. and follow through by sending them the messages if she doesn't leave. i am assuming it is possible this was just a flirtation and nothing further.
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Latest post on 22 December 2013 - 14:19
you must be shattered - so so sorry and so angry on your behalf.
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Latest post on 21 December 2013 - 22:10
Healthbay polyclinic can help you find a western childcare person (whatever you want to call her) and the girls are already here so presumably you can interview etc. they are very expensive though - more than hiring a nanny in the UK i think - and live out.
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Latest post on 18 December 2013 - 12:06
We need an EW flying squad that can go and deliver a good talking to and a sharp slap to some of these men. This is by no means a laughing matter, but the image that's popped into my head of this flying squad has given me the giggles.
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Latest post on 18 December 2013 - 11:51
i loved all the Frances Hodgson Burnett books around that age (little princess, little lord fauntleroy, secret garden) also beverley cleary's 'Ramona' books. these are classics, not sure what's popular at the moment...
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Latest post on 09 December 2013 - 13:28
I suspect most of the experienced obstetricians here would be fine with multiple c-sections. the usual suspects are worth meeting to see who you best 'fit' with - Dr Elsa (city), Dr Yulia (cooper clinic), dr George (genysis perinatal). am sure other ladies have other suggestions.
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Latest post on 09 December 2013 - 13:20
Rugrats I've signed in just to say to you...please please don't.
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Latest post on 27 November 2013 - 13:49
arabella pharmacy at the spinneys centre in Umm Suqeim has some. you have to ask the pharmacist, they have it in a cupboard. around AED30 a bottle if i remember correctly.
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Latest post on 26 November 2013 - 21:44
Sit very still (simply because you can) and listen. Can you hear that? Enjoy it, its the last time you'll hear silence for the next 5-7 years. LOL - very true...i would add 'sleep as much as you can'. Take time in the last few days to get your hair and nails done, massage, facial etc. Go out for dinner with your DH as much as you are able to, go to the movies, out for coffees with friends etc. on a more practical side, you could cook and freeze some nutritious meals, get the layette and cot linen washed, ironed and put away, stock up on nappies, wipes and formula (if you think you may want to go that way). declutter your home and get rid of stuff you haven't used and won't be needing. you'll get the urge to clean absolutely everything in the last few days/weeks. get any maintenance that needs doing done - the leaky tap, lightbulbs that need changing, air conditioner servicing/ cleaning. if you are working, write a hand-over list for whoever is going to cover your maternity leave, and go over it with them. make copies of all your work and delete personal stuff off your work pc. clear out your desk so someone else could use it if needed while you are away. i could go on, i was unstoppable in my last trimester : )
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Latest post on 04 November 2013 - 14:42
Hi WID, many many congratulations on the birth of your daughter! I also can't offer any advice but just wanted to say that you did your absolute best - what happened was written both for you and for your baby girl. these things are beyond your control and not in any way reflective of your behaviour/ effort etc. Please dont beat yourself up about it, these first few days and weeks with your newborn are so precious and fly by so quickly, immerse yourself fully in memorising how she looks right this minute, how she smells, how tiny her hands and feet are. in a few weeks she will be different and you will miss this time.
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Latest post on 31 October 2013 - 12:00
i had my most positive birth experience 4 months ago, it was an elective c-section (after 2 NVD with no drugs). it was calm and everything went to plan. i was able to focus on the baby being born, enjoy the skin to skin immediately after his birth and put him straight to the breast this time. i wasnt even aware of when they moved me from recovery to my room as i was just wrapped up in the feel of my son's skin on mine and him nursing contentedly. with my first two 'natural' births, it took several hours before i felt able to put baby to breast and wasn't immediately comfortable doing so. recovery was also quite quick - I was up and about the day after the section, and while on painkillers for more than a week, I was mobile and very capable of looking after my newborn and 2 older children from the minute i got home. i was driving 2-3 weeks after delivery. i wasnt daft and didnt do any heavy lifting etc, took my time, rested when i needed to which i think helped. All in all, it was fantastic, almost enough for me to think about doing it again. Almost, but not quite : ) best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy and your delivery.
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Latest post on 31 October 2013 - 11:12
you can use your buggy up to the door of the plane on departure, but on arrival it's usually delivered to the baggage carousel/ oversized baggage area in arrivals. I used to carry my babies in a sling from aircraft to baggage carousel to have hands free, but Dubai airport is usually pretty good with offering free strollers or other assistance when you disembark.
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Latest post on 31 October 2013 - 11:01
Isnt it bizarre that they didnt even know for sure what position they were looking to fill? Nor did you know what position you were being interviewed for? how does one conduct an interview for an unknown job?!
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Latest post on 29 October 2013 - 21:54
Is the Rivington Grill in Souk Al Bahar kid-friendly? the one in madinat jumeirah isn't really (IMO)...am looking to take some visitors for dinner to see the fountains and we have 4 littlies between us.
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Latest post on 20 October 2013 - 21:50
short answer - as much as you can carry! it depends on what you already have and what you still need to get. Big stuff like stroller, car seat, cot etc are much much cheaper in the UK and if you have the luggage allowance to bring those over you will save a fortune. smaller items like bottles/ breastpump/ steriliser/ playmate/ bouncy chair/ baby clothes/ bedding and toys are also much cheaper and you have a bigger variety of stuff to choose from over there. if you really want to plan ahead a few months, bring teething gel/ powder of your choice that you may not find here, nappy rash cream etc. so really, as much as you are able/ can be bothered to carry!
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Latest post on 17 October 2013 - 15:55
Hi - my DS is mixed breast/bottle fed. The MAM bottle is the one he feeds from the easiest, and he'll take a full feed from this bottle without too much fuss (important for when I'm at work). With the avent bottle (my preference) he'll take an ounce or two if he's hungry, then just play with the teat in his mouth. The problem I've had with the MAM is that sometimes, when I have sterilised and filled with cooled boiled water, it leaks. It's not happened every time, but often enough that I can't risk doing this in case I find my nappy bag or kitchen shelf flooded a few hrs later and not enough water in the bottle to make up a feed when needed. So my work around are: use the ready mix formula in the carton; just pour into the MAM before feeding and use; or Store water in sterilised avent bottle to make up feed. Store empty sterilised MAM bottle. Mix up feed when needed in avent bottle, then transfer to MAM to feed baby. It means double the washing up and sterilising but in my case, it's only 2 or 3 feeds a day, only for a few more months before he'll take a beaker and I have a maid to do the washing up.
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 13:33
it sounds daft to be building more malls, but I avoid them all on weekends as they are so crowded! can barely walk in Dubai Mall without crashing into people/ buggies on a friday evening. clearly the stores are making money, or there wouldnt be demand for more retail space...
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Latest post on 25 September 2013 - 22:00
Nah the one about the chair that was raped by a cat takes the biscuit...LOL