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Latest post on 16 June 2013 - 13:28
I would go now, and if they say it's too early, check into a hotel close by... my first baby was born an hour after we got to hospital (and if we'd had to drive an hour to get there, we wouldnt have made it in time), second was born an hr after contractions started (and there was no time to go to the hospital so baby was born at home). like Meagle, I had had contractions earlier in the week, then just stopped, nothing for 2 days, then baby arrived with very little warning so i must have been dilated to some extent already. the absolute worst scenario is delivering on the side of SZR, so rather be safe and go now.
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Latest post on 16 June 2013 - 13:21
got really excited after reading all these good reviews, registered on the website, and i can only find 6 items from my list : ( no rice krispies, no big box of persil detergent, no apple/grapetiser or six-packs of choc milk...and many more basics besides...i guess it's back to the supermarket. (sigh)
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Latest post on 10 June 2013 - 07:10
If its only your strap size that has gone up (ie cup size unchanged), destination maternity sells bra strap extenders for 25dhms. Much cheaper than buying a few new bras every time you go up a size. They also have a branch in Dubai marina mall which I've found has more stock/ sizes than DM.
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Latest post on 09 June 2013 - 14:21
then i'd insist she take the holiday : )
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Latest post on 09 June 2013 - 14:17
it depends on what you have agreed as part of the contract, but I dont see why you should pay 2 months salary if its her choice to forego her vacation and work through it. If she was going back, you'd pay 1 months salary while she is on holiday plus plane fare. If she chooses to stay here, you should not be out of pocket, so i'd pay the plane fare plus the month's salary that she would be working through. <em>edited by KH on 09/06/2013</em>
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Latest post on 09 June 2013 - 14:05
it's definitely easier to apply to some countries rather than others...when i last had to apply (many years ago now), France was easiest. Italy was a nightmare. might be worth calling a few EU embassies to find out processing times here in Dxb.
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Latest post on 09 June 2013 - 11:16
Good that they have to live the consequence oif this, because is criminal negligence. In some cases it might be 'criminal negligence', but in the vast majority it isn't. After police investigations, the parents are usually not prosecuted. although they live with a life sentence in a different kind of h**l. <em>edited by KH on 09/06/2013</em>
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Latest post on 09 June 2013 - 11:06
i went to the toysRus in times square on thursday because of the advertised sale - they had signs and posters all over the store, but just a few small shelves of c**p actually on sale!! was livid to have wasted my time. i didnt check the baby section though. for branded (Avent/ medela) b/pumps, sterilisers etc, baby shop was similar price to mothercare when I was looking to buy a couple of months ago but their own branded stuff was cheaper. If you can, ask someone to purchase for you in the US/ UK and send it over - you will save at least 50% on dubai prices. or shop & ship, even after shipping it's cheaper. for furniture like cots/ changing tables etc, babyshop did have some cheaper stuff, but check out mothercare when its on sale as well.
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Latest post on 09 June 2013 - 10:53
It happens A LOT, and to really good parents. Oprah did a segment on this in the US a couple of years ago, it was incredibly tragic. the parents (more than one family!) never recovered. it is so easy to judge others, but sometimes bad things happen to good people and they have to live with the consequences for the rest of their lives.
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Latest post on 09 June 2013 - 10:48
KH....mind if I asked where you ordered yours from? I got it from justglobes.co.uk if I remember correctly. i think the shipping costs were around 80dhms on top of the purchase cost, so it wasn't cheap, but was exactly what I was looking for. am very happy with it, and my son loves it. amazon have a wide selection of children's globes as well, and they may have some on special so worth checking there as well.
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Latest post on 08 June 2013 - 18:12
Please call genesis perinatal care clinic and ask for an appt with dr George ASAP - I'm sure he could fit you in before 18 June if you explained the situation. He is excellent. Can also recommend dr yulia at Cooper Clinic. Good luck! ETA just saw you managed to get an appt to see someone tomorrow, fingers crossed for you. <em>edited by KH on 08/06/2013</em>
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Latest post on 08 June 2013 - 17:49
There are some at kunokunia (sp?) the big bookstore in DM. The ELC ones I saw were for toddlers, so I ended up ordering one for my 5yr old online and shop&shipping.
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Latest post on 05 June 2013 - 14:18
i think you do pay VAT for services provided in the UK; we always have. similarly, you can't claim back VAT for hotels/ restaurants on leaving the UK as you can VAT paid on goods purchased there and brought out.
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Latest post on 05 June 2013 - 11:12
The buffet restaurant on the beach at Jumeirah Beach Hotel (cant remember the name) has an indoor play/ games room and if it's cool enough, kids can play on the beach just off the terrace and you can watch them as you eat. Also the restaurant at Polo Club in Arabian Ranches has kids play area I think, not sure if this is just for Friday brunches though.
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Latest post on 05 June 2013 - 11:08
I need to get a few things and popped round DM to have a look earlier this week; saw stuff I was ready to buy, asked sales assistants if they thought it might be marked down during the sales, and they all said no as it's 'new' stock and sales stuff is from 1-2 years ago, comes from the warehouse and they dont know what it will be until it arrives. I also recall seeing the same top in the FCUK 'sale' last summer that I had purchased in the 'sale' 3 yrs previously... I would check out UK on-line sales and shop&ship or wait for ASOS summer sale. Happy shopping : ) <em>edited by KH on 05/06/2013</em>
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Latest post on 03 June 2013 - 14:18
it kind of depends on the expectations of the visitors and if you feel you want the help - with my first two, I had my mum, then my MIL, back to back for the first three months - but the reason for their visit was to help me, not to have a holiday/ be entertained. When SILs came to visit they totally took care of themselves in terms of cooking (in which case they cooked for me and DH as well : ) ) taking themselves out, organising their own entertainment and helping out with the little ones when they were at home. At the time, we lived in a large house so there was plenty of space for everyone and I didnt feel 'crowded' - i needed my space to breastfeed/ express etc and just escaped upstairs with the baby for hours when i needed to. this time (i'm due in a few weeks), i've made it clear that I dont want any visitors when the baby is born or for the rest of the summer. we live in an apartment and i already have 2 kids, plus live-in maid, so any more people and it starts getting cramped with sleeping arrangements/ bathroom schedules etc. i suspect i will get some after the summer, but at least i'll have 3 months on get myself sorted.
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Latest post on 03 June 2013 - 13:48
Compared with the UK, and in my experience, being a working mum is easier in Dubai than London for the following reasons: 1) I get to drive my kids to school, then drive to work, park underground and be at my desk by 8am. I leave the office at the end of the day and drive home in 25-30 mins, and am back in plenty of time to cook dinner, catch up with kids on their day, be there for their dinner/ bath/ bedtime story. In London, I'd be leaving home at 6:30am to catch an overcrowded train to work in the City (commuting time 1 hr each way), and get home after my kids have gone to bed. 2) home help is WAY cheaper here than the UK, which means it makes more financial sense for me to work and save/ pay off my mortgage than it would in London, where pretty much all my salary would go on paying the nanny. 3) school fees here are expensive, but at least you are paying from non-taxed income. In the UK, I'd still want to send my children to private school, but would be paying similar fees AFTER the taxman had taken 50% of my salary. I doubt I'd be able to afford it there. There are other quality of life things that for me rank Dubai over London at this point in our lives - we live 10 mins from the beach, so it's easy to pop out on thursday evening after school/ work for a splash around; the kids spend a lot of time out of doors and very little time in front of the tv, extra-curricular activities are relatively easy to get to etc. However, Dxb is expensive for rent, medical insurance, clothes, entertainment etc - it is hard to get into good schools and even the 'outstanding' schools dont offer the kind of personal attention that you would get from a good private school in the UK. As the children get older, we may decide that Dubai is no longer the best place for us to be, but in the meantime, it makes sense for us. The key thing in making your decision is whether the numbers stack up from a financial perspective - will your package be sufficient to cover EVERYTHING and still allow you to save? Even if the numbers do stack up, the first few months getting yourself organised here as a single parent will be difficult. Red tape can be severe and confusing; finding good home help, getting your daughter into nursery, buying a car, renting a home and dealing with the dreaded estate agents - all of this is hard enough when you have a partner to share the burden with; it will be doubly so on your own. if you decide to move, if you can get your mom or another close family member to come over with you for a month or two to lend a hand and some moral support, that would help immensely. Asking your sponsoring company to include a relocation consultant to assist with these things would also be a huge benefit. good luck!
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Latest post on 30 May 2013 - 13:13
How do the others manage in an emergency? Not being nasty about it, just curious. we are applying 'western' concepts of the right to come and go as and when we choose. I suspect that if someone was very sick/ dying back home, even if individuals HAD their own travel docs in their possession, most would not be able to simply catch a cab to the airport and jump on the next plane back. Most would rely on family already at home to do what needs to be done. if they could afford to take time off work and pay for a (return) flight back, they would have to wait a day or two to get their travel docs if they couldnt reach someone on the weekend. to some extent, the risk of not being able to get home 'in time' in an 'emergency' is part and parcel of expat life, no matter who you are.
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Latest post on 30 May 2013 - 12:58
Just a question KH. What would happen if you needed your passport urgently and the office was shut for the weekend? edited by Geordie expat on 30/05/2013 I have my passport. I would not accept a role that required me to give it up, but then I have the luxury of this choice; many others don't and rely on these jobs to support extended families and villages back home. If they are asked to hand over their passport to their employer as a condition of employment, they would do what they had to do. I was just responding to one of the poster's questions about why anyone would keep an employees passport, to say that it is 'standard business practice' for most expats in the region, and not just for maids.
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Latest post on 30 May 2013 - 12:47
This has been said before - What happens if you need your passport in an emergency and it's the weekend or worse still a long weekend?? I don't dispute people holding their maids passports as majority of the time there will be someone available to get hold of it in an emergency. As for company employees NO WAY. just saying it is the way it is.
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Latest post on 30 May 2013 - 12:39
Sorry to hijack the thread, but I don't understand why someone would hold their maid's passport. I'd be interested in the justifications for it. it is the way it is here as far as i understand. our maid's passport is held by her agency (howdra) in Abu Dhabi. construction labourer's passports are held by their sponsoring construction company. i work for a large (government owned) retail bank and most of the expat staff's passports are held by HR. There is a formal way to request its release if you need it to travel or for other official purposes, through the company intranet. generally only management/ senior management hold onto their own passports.
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Latest post on 30 May 2013 - 12:12
Then tenants should also have access to information on the owners finances, whether he has paid his service charges or not. Whether he has paid for maintenance previously or not. Just as owners are at risk from tenants, tenants are also at risk from owners who dont pay charges tenants absolutely can (and are encouraged to) check to make sure that landlords have paid all service charges before signing a lease. dont see why they should have access to other financial information though - it's none of their business how much money the landlord has in their bank account. in the UK, if you do not pass a tenant credit check (which includes a letter of reference from employer and salary details), then you have to pay 6-12 months rent in cash up front, or provide a bank statement showing sufficient funds in your account to cover the annual rent.
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Latest post on 29 May 2013 - 14:20
I have similar issues with my maid - lovely and a good heart but not too bright. I have a notepad and pen permanently on the kitchen counter and have told her to write down stuff immediately she opens 'the last one' - this way, there is always one unopened whatever in the store-room. i also write down a list every morning of specific things she needs to do/ buy from the grocery store that day, what to prepare for the kids lunch etc etc. it has helped a lot, but does take a bit of extra effort until she gets into the habit. I would definitely do a list of what needs to be in the nappy bag before you go out. she still ends up occasionally leaving stuff off the list, but not that often anymore.
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Latest post on 29 May 2013 - 14:12
just got one reply from the 4 agencies I contacted..min 4 hours, 40dhs/hour, so 160 dhs per day, average of 22 working days in a month makes 3520 a month....makes me think if it is all worth while, going back to work :-( I think this is why most people go down the route of sponsoring a full time maid - it works out to about the same cost as a p/t through the agency, and that way you are guaranteed to have the same person every day. Also gives you help with cleaning/ laundry while you are at work and kids at school, and the odd evening baby-sitting for the same price as you would pay for a 4hr stint from an agency maid...
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Latest post on 29 May 2013 - 12:41
Apparently when there is a global recession on, the amount of C Sections performed rise! I did read it costs more to perform a C Section therefore the insurers coin it in! insurers would be out of pocket if they have to pay out...only hospitals and doctors would make more money. In countries with publicly funded health care (like the UK), the higher costs make it harder for women to elect to have c-sections for non-medical reasons. In the US where it's all private/ insurance funded, the rate is likely to be higher as doctors dont have incentive to keep costs down.
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Latest post on 29 May 2013 - 12:22
My DH's viewpoint is the opposite. His view is that his time off with his family is precious, so if he has a day off he wants the maid to be working ! He really believes that her day off should be during the week, when he is working and the kids are at school, so that she is around on the weekend when he is off. Doesn't happen of course, but that is his ideal scenario !!! it's my ideal scenario as well - I'd love to have our maid work the full weekend so that we can rest a bit (i work full time as well), but have given up on this idea after facing uncomprehending blank looks the first few times I suggested it. Ditto with trying to give Saturday as the day-off (rather than Friday) as we are up and about Saturdays with kids activities anyway. It's like I've asked for the moon : ) LOL!
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Latest post on 29 May 2013 - 11:30
No. They are usually the only days in the year that DH or I do not have to wake with the sparrows to look after the kids, as the maid give them brekkie and keeps them occupied for a couple of hours while we have a little lie-in.
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Latest post on 29 May 2013 - 11:04
My general impression (both from what I've read and talking to people) is that most OB/GYNs here are very c-section and induction happy. This is just one example: [url=http://www.thenational.ae/news/uae-news/health/were-not-too-posh-to-push-say-mothers-but-c-sections-still-rise'>link[/url'> May not be an issue for some moms to be and doesn't mean every doctor is, but it's something to give careful thought to when deciding where to delivery and by whom. This article highlights more women opting for elective c-sections, even where doctors have advised/ recommended natural birth... in my experience so far, my OB/GYN (city hospital) was pushing me for a natural birth even though I am inclined towards an elective c-section this time. After a hear-to-heart at my last apptmt, she has agreed to schedule one for me, but still told me to think about it in the coming weeks, and that I can even change my mind on the day of the procedure : )
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Latest post on 28 May 2013 - 20:55
Can't comment on the delivery part yet (due mid-July) but so far my experience here has been much better than my 2 pregnancies and deliveries in the UK. I wouldn't consider going back to deliver no 3 there. Adequate insurance is critical though, as Meagle said. Don't know what Canada is like though, so can't compare with that!
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Latest post on 28 May 2013 - 20:50
Thanks for your messages ladies, today went really well!!! We got to see our tiny little baby and hear its heartbeat. Doc measured it at 6+4 so last scan must just have been too early. So relieved xxx Great news, congratulations!
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Latest post on 28 May 2013 - 19:33
Yup!
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Latest post on 28 May 2013 - 19:26
It will be a selective school, finally. I believe that there is a hole in the market and there will be a lot of rejections in the applications dept. Does it cost more to educate a selected class of FS1 children? Well of course they will have very experienced, mature teachers so will comnand a higher salary hence the higher fees.. Hahaha...that has to be the funniest thing I've read all day ;)
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Latest post on 28 May 2013 - 13:31
her name is Asma and her number is zero five five six five three nine four zero zero. She is British. i've let her know an EWer might be calling : ) <em>edited by KH on 28/05/2013</em>
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Latest post on 28 May 2013 - 13:07
just call them and ask them to collect from your home.
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Latest post on 28 May 2013 - 13:03
it does seem a bit crazy - i think new schools always apply for the highest fees they possibly can, as they know they will be limited for future increases. When JBS started, they were asking 50,000 for KG1 and KG2 and 65,000 for Year 1. at the time (3 years ago), it was the most expensive school in dubai, but I dont think they have been allowed to increase fees since then (or at least not by much).
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Latest post on 28 May 2013 - 13:00
are you looking for life insurance/ savings/ retirement plans? We have always used Stuart at Synergy Financial and been quite happy. I also have a friend who is very good, honest and pro-active but works for a company that doesn't have a great reputation (I have no hestitation in recommending her though). Let me know if you are interested and I can put you in touch with her.
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Latest post on 28 May 2013 - 12:50
a proper, thorough, professional pre-move-in deep cleaning company would be FANTASTIC!! post your details once you are set up...
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Latest post on 28 May 2013 - 10:50
AISS do swim classes for kids and adults and also have a parent and baby class. we've been mostly happy with them, although there has been a high turnover of staff. not that important for baby splash though i guess, as you'll be there in the water with them.
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Latest post on 28 May 2013 - 10:44
Agree, they are not highly competitive. I just see it as 1) an opportunity to play lots of football outside of school and 2) good coaches could teach new/ different techniques to what they would learn in PE. but it's nothing like Australia / SAfrica competitive with local leagues, provincial and national selection and competitions etc. for the older kids, the barcelona school arranges summer trips back to FCB school in Spain, where they do play matches with other teams and train in the 'official' home academy.
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Latest post on 28 May 2013 - 10:19
Our paediatrician did my DDs a couple of years ago, and did a great job. I wouldnt go anywhere 'non medical' in dxb, as you just never know... It's a cultural thing for some people pierce baby girl's ears, I dont think they feel it any more than they would a vaccination jab. I waited until my DD asked for her ears to be pierced, she was 5 when she did and didnt shed a tear!
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Latest post on 28 May 2013 - 10:11
my son goes to the barcelona soccer school at Wellington and he has come a long way since he started. he is only little, so no coaching at school that I can compare it with. it's hard-core though, three evenings a week. a colleague sends his (older) son to arsenal soccer school, which i think is out near the Dubai Sevens, and he is really happy with it. HTH
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Latest post on 28 May 2013 - 10:00
yes, Just Kidding can sell you just the frame and wheels, it will cost around AED3000 I think for the cameleon frame and wheels. Alternatively, you could just buy a second hand bugaboo (for much less) and use your own bassinet/ car seat. it would work out much cheaper. <em>edited by KH on 28/05/2013</em>
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Latest post on 26 May 2013 - 19:00
Thanks ladies. Starting interviewing again this afternoon! Love having a spotless house, so going to brave it again, this time with a bit of wisdom behind me. I've learnt so much about maids recently, so fingers crossed things work out next time. You might have better luck by getting someone through an agency who is new to Dubai, rather than someone who has been here for a while and has a list of demands as long as her arm. You can still do interviews over Skype or the phone, and agencies like Howdra/ explorer can offer face to face interviews once the candidates have arrived.
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Latest post on 26 May 2013 - 12:48
if the GP saw him and verbally told him to go see xyz specialist, I'm sure he'd be ok with putting this in writing now. if your DH referred himself (without seeing a GP first about the problem), he'll have to pay the cost himself. <em>edited by KH on 26/05/2013</em>
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Latest post on 26 May 2013 - 12:38
from the GP who referred him?
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Latest post on 26 May 2013 - 12:13
I dont get DH any presents unless I know it's something he really wants (that we have looked at together while out in the mall, or he has mentioned it in conversation). He's very fussy about his stuff, and I dont want to waste my money getting him something just for the sake of it : ) usually, kids and I bake a cake and do the whole singing/ candle blowing palaver, but it is definitely more for them than for either of us grown-ups!
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Latest post on 26 May 2013 - 12:07
I would still contact KIA management abroad (i just used BMW as an example, by the way, it doesnt matter which car maker it is) and make a big fuss. at the very least, they should get in contact with the manager of the Dubai dealership and lean on him to resolve the issue to your (customer's) satisfaction! and yes, complain to UAE consumer rights dept as clairehdp suggested as well.
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Latest post on 26 May 2013 - 12:01
you might try asking the teaching assitants/ teachers at your children's schools if they know of anyone looking for this type of role who is already in Dubai. You can then interview personally here at no extra cost and save on agency fees. Of course, you may still need to sponsor that person, but it is easier if they are already here as a spouse or living with their parents.
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Latest post on 26 May 2013 - 11:56
in my experience, there is rarely any recognition or loyalty when you have gone over and above what you are 'required to do' as an employer. no quid-pro-quo if you like...I learned this the hard way too. I live in a large apartment with separate maids room and bathroom, and when looking for a new maid, you would not believe how many women refused to even come for an interview because I didnt live in a villa in Jumeirah/ umm suqueim with external maid's quarters!! it does seem daft though to give up a good job because your TWO rooms are 'too small'...the grass is always greener i guess.
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Latest post on 26 May 2013 - 11:42
OK - so one idea that I would be interested in getting going is a shop that imports stuff from home that is not readily available here. for me the problem is not that stuff from home is not available here (most things are), it's that I hate being RIPPED OFF with prices 50-100% more than at home (where shipping/ import costs are more expensive and 20% VAT is added on) so I just dont buy stuff here. Unless you are going to start supplying imported stuff at reasonable prices, I dont see what advantage you would have over existing shops. And I for one would be prepared to pay a premium for good service. unfortunately, even the stores that seem to have 100% mark-ups on UK retail prices have staff that are clueless, uninterested or downright rude, so the extra money clearly isnt being used to fund recruitment & training of competent staff.