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Latest post on 30 April 2013 - 10:27
All due to greedy landlords and agents. If someone else is willing to pay a higher rent than you, then that is the market rate. would you choose to accept a lower return on your investment out of the goodness of your heart? and LL do pay agent's fees here, same as tenants, which is more incentive for them to renegotiate with existing tenant if the tenant is willing. they save on the costs of having the property empty while finding new tenant and then having to pay big % in agency fees again, vs just AED1000 to renew an existing contract at higher rent with existing tenant. of course some LL are daft and would rather have a property empty for a year or more because they have unrealistic expectations of 'market' price. totally irrational and inexplicable, and yes, greedy.
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Latest post on 30 April 2013 - 10:19
agreed that LL shouldnt be able to evict tenants at short notice etc. and i know the market here is not very efficient or transparent. but at the end of the day, 12 months notice is a long time to make alternative arrangements. if you were the LL, what more can you be expected to do if you want your property back for whatever reason? there are also many more options/ supply of housing available to rent now than there was in 2008, when there was a real shortage which is why people were willing/ forced to pay such crazy rents. I do hate moving here though, especially dealing with cowboy estate agents aka extortionists and I hope OP finds something suitable or can reach a new arrangement with her current LL.
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Latest post on 30 April 2013 - 10:05
I buy another brand of Omega 3 supplement from my local pharmacy, cant remember the name, but it's mainly codliver oil with something else, and kids have no problem with taste or taking it.
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Latest post on 30 April 2013 - 09:57
Our landlord gave us 12 months to vacate as he intended to sell our apartment. however the 12 months is nearly up and he has not sold the property, nor have any prospective purchaser viewed it. It is fairly clear that notice was given simply so he can increase the rent to new tenants. Do we have any rights in this situation? I don't mean to sound harsh, and I sympathise with you having to look for a new place to live, but does it really matter if he is selling/ has sold the apartment? It is his apartment and he has given you 12 months notice to vacate it. If he subsequently chooses to let it again for a higher rent, surely that is within his right, as he OWNS the apartment and has not turfed you out at a moment's notice? You could always offer to pay a higher (market) rent to stay for another 12 months? Tenant's rights in Dubai seem to be much stronger than in other parts of the 'developed' world; in the UK, you only need to give 2 months notice (and no reason!) to evict tenants. What you choose to do with your property after the tenants have moved out is none of their business. For what it's worth, I am not a landlord in Dubai, I rent and have moved when my rental contract has expired without being renewed. I usually look around at the going rate for similar rentals three months before the end of the contract, and work out if it's more cost effective for me to negotiate to pay a higher rent with my current landlord or to move. usually, I have managed to come to an agreement with the landlord on the next year's rent that is acceptable both to LL and to us.
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Latest post on 24 April 2013 - 14:34
I do not want to cause a new debate or any trouble but why should working mothers have different rights to childless people. Many people would like to work through lunch and finish early etc as we all work long hours here Not all of us surf the net for 2 hours or sit on our mobiles I for one like the fact that the UAE gives the same rights to each of us It's not so much asking for different rights as simply asking for some flexibility on working hours and/ or a reduced salary to do the same work. If you are asking for fewer hours in the office, you need to put in the difference at home, after the kids have gone to bed, or get paid less than someone who is putting in full office hours. Really, its deliverables that should be measured, not hours with your bottom on your seat. Personally, if a member of my team (parent or not) has delivered what they need to deliver, I dont care if they leave the office in the middle of the afternoon. I know that at some later point, when there is a deadline looming, they will be willing to work long into the night for no overtime pay, to make sure they deliver what is required, on time. Clearly this strategy is not appropriate for everyone - a teller at a bank or cashier at a supermarket will have to work to shift hours, and a PA would need to be available as long as her boss requires it, but if you are a professional and can work independently, it should not be difficult to accommodate flexible working as long as targets are met and projects delivered.
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Latest post on 24 April 2013 - 12:23
Sorry to hear that mks. it is so frustrating that employers here dont recognise that mums are often more efficient and can add huge value to a company. to turn someone down, who is otherwise a perfect candidate, because they want to work through lunch and leave 2 hrs earlier every day when others will take 2 hour lunches or spend that time surfing the net or on their mobiles, is imo very shortsighted. their loss really. although I guess it also depends on the nature of the role. In my experience, it sometimes helps if you start doing the regular hours, then once you have proven yourself and what you can deliver (and made yourself invaluable : ) ) you could then negotiate a little flexibility. this is risky, because they can always say no, but it has worked for me in the past. don't give up the search, there are some firms who will value output and performance over 'face-time' spent in the office, however inefficiently used. good luck!
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Latest post on 24 April 2013 - 11:58
most of the local banks have them, but it is not that easy to find a space! you have to call around head offices and branches to see if they have anything available. You would need to be a customer of the bank to qualify, and some ask you to put down a massive deposit or hold a large minimum balance in your account. It's probably easier and cheaper to get a box in your home country.
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Latest post on 24 April 2013 - 11:53
i've always stayed on my husband's visa, despite working for 2 different companies since arriving in dxb. it hasn't affected any of my benefits, i am covered by my company medical insurance. DH had to provide an NOC/ letter 'allowing' me to work, and I had to provide a copy of his visa as well as my own.
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Latest post on 24 April 2013 - 11:34
we've used Stuart at Synergy Financial (advisors) since we moved to dxb several years ago for all our insurance (life, medical etc). he is very thorough and offers a few different quotes/ policies that you can choose from. we've always found him cheaper than going to the insurance company directly, plus it saves you the hassle of getting several different quotes. HTH
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Latest post on 24 April 2013 - 11:29
Apple Seeds in Gold and Diamond Park (Al Barsha) have classes/ groups for under 5's.
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Latest post on 19 April 2013 - 13:36
Daza, if you don't mind my asking, who was your ob/gyn? [url=http://www.drtazyeenobgyn.com/'>Dr Tazyeen[/url'> she has delivered my last 3 babies, all c-section and she's been great. Thx!
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Latest post on 19 April 2013 - 10:22
Thanks again for all your valuable input. Kiwispiers, the stats I have looked at are what made me decide in a c-section in the first place, unfortunately there isn't much longer-term research on consequences of VB after a 3rd/ 4th degree tear, but what there is indicates a high (in my view) probability of further damage. Of course I won't rely solely on others' experiences to make my decision but it is useful to know what others have experienced. Whatever I decide will be after I've had a second opinion from another specialist, and in conjunction with whoever will deliver me. Also, after my first two births on the NHS, returning to a mid-wife led birth, even if that was an option, would be my worst nightmare! My older two children are no longer toddlers, so no issues with not being able to carry them afterwards. Ruby-A, this is exactly how I have been feeling. I hate drama and uncertainty (both of which are the overriding memories of my natural births, along with the long recovery). I would much prefer a calm, controlled birth. Daza, if you don't mind my asking, who was your ob/gyn? Thanks again for ALL your comments and support. Inshallah this birth will be smooth and safe, whichever way I decide in the end!
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Latest post on 18 April 2013 - 10:06
try Cara in the gold and diamond park - they sell bars and coins and in the past have been cheaper than the old gold souk downtown.
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Latest post on 28 March 2013 - 12:12
I dont think you will ever find a good paediatrician anywhere in the world who is 'anti vaccine'.
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Latest post on 27 March 2013 - 11:13
Keep the ring in a safe place (like a safe deposit box in a bank) and forget about it for now. you may want to resell or re-set at a later date, but wait until you are feeling less emotional about it.
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Latest post on 27 March 2013 - 11:09
Never mind that, the communications director at the french school quoted in the article can't spell Morocco or Tunisia!! Sloppy editing too...
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Latest post on 27 March 2013 - 10:49
We have found the greens a great place to live. when we arrived we thought it would be a ' temporary' place for us until we found our feet and moved to a villa - that was more than 4 years ago! There is a shopping centre in the Greens that has a choithram grocery store, pharmacy, bookstore, mani/pedi place, beauty/ hair salon and a few other things besides. also good eating places when you cant be asked to get in your car and drive somewhere, and they are all kid-friendly. The village centre is towards the Emaar business park, the 'older' part of the Greens. Have a wander over with your son and take a look! I hope you enjoy the community, we have been (for the most part) very lucky with our neighbours and our children have made lots of friends.
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Latest post on 24 March 2013 - 11:45
I think that is your best option. most insurers have a deadline after which they wont accept claims, and it doesnt make sense to risk them not paying at the end of the package. If your colleagues have been reimbursed the 20% co-payment then I'm sure you will be too. I am using direct billing as well, I didnt even consider the antenatal packages as I hate dealing with insurance companies here. I just show up, present my card, see the doctor/ do the tests, pay 75dhms per visit and leave the rest for the hospital to sort out.
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Latest post on 24 March 2013 - 08:44
Depending on how old your children are, you sign them up for ASA at their school on most days. this would mean you pick them up much later in the afternoon and could go straight home afterwards (depending on your working hours of course). Many employers here are flexible in allowing parents to do school runs during or instead of their lunch breaks. It just depends on where you work and what you do as to how much flexibility you might be able to negotiate. I have 2 children, work full time, my husband and I juggle school pick-ups 2 days a week (staggered finishing times and our 2 are still quite small) and have a nanny to do school runs, after school activities, homework etc on the days my husband and I can't do them. He works for himself so has a bit more flexibility, but my employer is very accommodating as long as I get the work done. This often means working from home at night after the kids are in bed. I am curious as to how you manage after-school care in the US if you dont have a sitter/ after school care for younger children? what happens on the days they dont have ASAs and you have to work?
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Latest post on 23 March 2013 - 15:05
Our insurance policy has a max 3 month period during which you can claim back medical fees. In this case, they wouldn't pay the package costs 9 months later, once all treatment is complete. If your insurer says they won't cover antenatal packages, I wouldn't risk it. Rather pay 20% each time than end up paying 100% at the end IMO. If you can get in writing from your insurer that they will reimburse the costs of the antenatal package after delivery, then you may want to opt for this. But make sure you get it in writing, and be prepared for to-ing and fro-ing afterwards trying to get your money back. people here are so 'process' oriented that anything out of the ordinary is usually 'sorry maaaaaam, we cannot pay as this is not our policy.'
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Latest post on 14 March 2013 - 17:04
I would not choose to have a dentist extract a tooth without anaesthetic, so I personally dont see anything wrong with taking advantage of effective pain relief during child birth. This is not a fair comparison. Childbirth is a normal human function, a tooth extraction is abnormal and is done specifically because someone is ill/the tooth is unhealthy. There's a major difference. I'm not saying in any way that women shouldn't be allowed to get epidurals during labour. Quite the contrary. I had one with one of my births and was glad I had the option. However, childbirth isn't an illness. When we treat it like an illness and have a highly medicalised birth, we take on additional risks. As long as women are aware of those risks and are willing to undertake them for the pain relief, more power to them. In my experience, however, most women are not full informed of the risks. I know I wasn't. In would argue that childbirth has become LESS risky as it has become more medicalised, in that advances in medicine have allowed more lives to be saved. This is why the number of women and babies dying in childbirth has fallen over the last 50 yrs and why it is lower in developed countries than developing countries. I am grateful I did not have to give birth 200 years ago, or today in rural Afghanistan for example. Anaesthetic as we know it is a modern invention, but I suspect that before it was invented, people used whatever they could to relieve the pain on childbirth. Queen Victoria is known to have used chloroform as an anaesthetic during child birth, and I would imagine that modern epidurals are infinitely less risky than that! To imply that all women managed fine before epidurals implies that using modern pain relief makes us somehow inadequate, because we don't do what billions of women have done since the beginning of time in the same way. And that's simply not true. Billions of women died or were badly damaged by natural child births because they didn't have obstetricians, anaesthetists, forceps, sterile theatres for c-sections that we take for granted and that save lives today. Taking advantage of medical know-how should apply equally to childbirth as it does to pulling teeth or treating cancer, in my opinion.
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Latest post on 14 March 2013 - 13:34
Breastfeeding is not an effective contraceptive (i speak from experience :) ) Also from my own experience, it is near impossible to maintain milk supply just by expressing, and doing it at work is incredibly difficult. I breastfed both my babies as long as I could, then switched exclusively to formula and they are healthy, happy kids. dont sweat the small stuff :)
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Latest post on 14 March 2013 - 13:26
I had no pain relief (i dont count gas & air as pain relief) with either of my two babies in the UK, but that was definitely NOT my choice. I begged for an epidural only to be told that as i had made it thus far without, i could do the rest. the real reason, in my view, was that an epidural would require an anaesthetist, closer monitoring of both baby and me and would therefore cost the NHS much more than a pain relief free birth. yes, I did manage, because I had to, but was left pretty traumatised both times. I would not choose to have a dentist extract a tooth without anaesthetic, so I personally dont see anything wrong with taking advantage of effective pain relief during child birth. Yes, there are risks with an epidural, but there are plenty of risks generally with a totally natural birth as well - hence the high rates of maternal and infant mortality in days of yore. You wont know how you feel, or how the birth will go, until you get there. Do your research (actual scientific studies, not hearsay), speak to your doctor about the probability of the epidural not working and then see how you go. If you want the pain relief while you are in labour, take it. PS - even though I didnt get the epidural during labour, I had to have it afterwards to get stitched up after no. 2. the needle went into my spine and felt like a pin-prick, the anaesthetic worked as it should during the procedure and i had no subsequent back pain or anything else after it wore off. PPS - I am expecting my third baby in a few months and have already asked for the epidural :) Good luck!
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Latest post on 10 March 2013 - 09:27
This is one of the great benefits I have found. Also, I have not had any problems moving from mac to PC using word or excel. The problems have been moving within pages from MacBook to iPad and document sizes and therefore formatting issues. iCloud is terrific - syncs all notes and diaries between my iPhone, iPad, and MacBook Pro. This sounds great, thank you! now i just have to figure out whether I really need to spend several thousand dhms right now, or can wait until my current pc completely breaks down. have had the blue screen of death a couple of times now, but restarting seems to do the trick. My DH is trying to convince me to take his 'old' (about 2 years) MAC so he can get himself the latest, thinner, lighter, supersonic version :)
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Latest post on 10 March 2013 - 08:59
Dr Yulia from Cooper Clinic delivers at Medcare, and she is very good. If you need a doctor that practices in the hospital, I think all the obs at City are recommended by various posters on this forum. might be a case of calling the hospital to see who can register you without a waitlist?
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Latest post on 10 March 2013 - 08:53
the first stage rear-facing car seat should last at least 8-9 months, if i remember correctly. Defo shouldn't have to change at under 4 months. check Graco website or customer service (we used maxi cosi so am not familiar with Graco, sorry).
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Latest post on 10 March 2013 - 08:42
thanks for the helpful feedback, I also have been thinking of switching from PC to Mac, but have been worried about working at home on a Mac and then having issues with transferring files to office PCs. I can't risk losing things/ incompatibility in excel and word. would love to have all diaries and calendars sync'd though, at the moment i seem to be making the same entries at least twice in two different places (outlook and ipad/iphone).
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Latest post on 10 March 2013 - 08:35
If you bank with HSBC both here and in the UK, you can make unlimited free transfers between all your HSBC accounts, online. Just add all your accounts to your 'global view' in online banking and away you go. The exchange rate they give is not bad either. TBH, this is the only reason I still bank with HSBC in the UAE. Hope this helps.
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Latest post on 04 March 2013 - 13:27
It just seems that as soon as you reach a decent level in your career is about the time when kids come along, and then you get offered even more salary and better / more demanding jobs at a time when you can't do them. I got called by a headhunter last night about a director role - of course I turned it down. It is impossible to have it all isn't it and there comes a point when you can't juggle both. I'm not even that interested in career any more, since becoming a mum I only do it to get paid at the end of the month! I would rather take baby to the park and play with her than sit in boring meetings lol. x Thanks - I hear you about the 'having it all' being impossible. I too have had to turn down promotions and opportunities where I could be earning double what I am now. Just cant (or wont) do it with 2 little ones and another on the way. my employers are very flexible and accommodating of my situation, which is worth more to me than a more senior role right now. A part time maid will really help you, at least you'll get home to a clean house, breakfast dishes washed, beds made, laundry ironed and food prep done for dinner! good luck.
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Latest post on 04 March 2013 - 11:24
I always use Blush and Bloom, she comes to you or you go to her. Check out her website, you can buy online also if you know your size and from memory I think she delivers it personally. thanks for this, will keep in mind for nursing bras when the time comes. i spent 2 hrs at Dubai Mall yesterday trying to find mat bras - no sizes in M&S and the woman who measured me insisted I should be wearing a size SMALLER than the one I was wearing, which felt uncomfortably tight. eventually got something at destination maternity, and they do these nifty bra-strap extenders for 25dhms which seem to have done the trick for the time being! I went onto the TKD facebook page, and they only do larger cup sizes right?
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Latest post on 04 March 2013 - 11:00
In addition to the excellent tips below re cooking on the weekend (I try and do 3 dishes for the freezer) and getting daily agency help for a couple of hours every evening, would it be possible to negotiate with your boss to work from home 1 day a week or even 2 mornings/ afternoons a week for the next 3 months? once the baby is on solids, she probably wont be waking as often for feeds at night (if at all) and the routine gets a bit easier. Alternatively, perhaps you could agree to a 20% pay cut and move to a 4 day week, also on a temporary basis for the next 3 months? It may not be possible, but if you have a good relationship with your boss, then worth a shot? I am sure it will get easier as you and your hubby adjust. I am rooting for you as I will be in exactly the same position (going back to work after 3 months mat leave) later this year.
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Latest post on 28 February 2013 - 22:20
KH - what clinic does Dr George work at? Thanks He was setting up his own practice in Feb, but should be up and running in his new place from March. If you call N9ne medical in healthcare city, they should be able to pass on his new contact details. He also writes a blog, I think it's called pregnantindubai or something similar which may have updated contact details. Let me know if you don't have any luck. Edited to add: his full name is Dr George Michailidis <em>edited by KH on 28/02/2013</em>
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Latest post on 28 February 2013 - 13:28
I can highly recommend Dr George. I had my first two appointments with him including the scan, and if he had been part of city hospital, I would have stuck with him as IMO he is the best in his field. However, my insurance is a bit fiddly with reimbursing out of network claims, so I have decided to deliver with a doctor in city hospital as they settle direct and are cheaper (my insurance would not have covered all the costs with Dr George). I am with Dr Elsa, and she is fine, so I'll prob continue under her care. However, will still be seeing Dr George at 30 weeks for the next big scan. I have also seen Dr Yulia at cooper clinic pre-pregnancy and she is lovely. if she was still delivering at City, I would have booked in with her. Dr Sant is also highly recommended by a friend who delivered with her recently. I wouldnt wait for an apptmt so late in the day with Dr Elsa if you can book in with another well-regarded ob/gyn.
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Latest post on 28 February 2013 - 13:15
there is a recommendation for antenatal classes on the Sep due date board : ) It's my third so I wont be needing any. I think Sunshine is right though, the system here is quite different to the UK, where I would have said antenatal classes were essential for first-timers to understand what will happen during labour and what their options are. The only thing that might be useful here are the tips on what to do AFTER the baby is born; eg how to bathe, top & tail, change a nappy, feed etc. The second day of my two day ANC in the UK was devoted to this, and was invaluable for me as I was clueless.
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Latest post on 24 February 2013 - 11:26
I second Kerry Maloney! She has worked for over a year with my DH and his colleagues, and has really made a difference to all of them in the way they communicate and work. They are all CxO level managers. I've met her as well and can't recommend her highly enough.
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Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 11:01
20 weeks! had my scan yesterday : )
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Latest post on 17 February 2013 - 10:49
'A girl who sits on the table wont find a husband'. From my aged Afrikaans teacher in high school. My grandmother also believed in the fish/ milk/ white patches on skin theory.
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Latest post on 17 February 2013 - 10:39
But, as a side not, if the father has ceased to have any parental responsibility, and you went through the Australian Family Coutt to confirm that, technically he does not meet the criteria as someone with parental responsibility. I agree, this is prob why OP is so frustrated - she feels she has all the docs to prove that he does not have parental responsibilty, but embassy is still asking his permission to issue travel docs. It would make me mad as a hatter.
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Latest post on 17 February 2013 - 09:50
Anyone knows where to find decent maternity clothing for working mums? I've looked at mamas papas, mother care, Jane rose, maternity destination....couldn't find decent pants/trousers to wear to work ;-( I have also struggled finding maternity clothes for work here, your best bet is to order online from Isabella Oliver (v expensive though) or next in the UK and get it shipped here. M&S uk also used to do good maternity trousers for work, but the UK department stores here dont seem to have any maternity clothes. I managed to get a decent pair of black trousers from destination maternity on sale a couple of weeks ago, and another pair of pin-striped trousers from the store across the way from DM in Dubai Mall, also on sale. basically i just alternate them : )
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Latest post on 17 February 2013 - 09:18
This must be so frustrating for you! Could you get your Aus lawyer to contact the embassy and explain that the father has given up all his parental rights?
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Latest post on 10 February 2013 - 13:25
Don't do it! I visited Ajman for the first time a couple of weeks ago, to visit friends who had moved from Manchester (UK). My firt and last thought was 'why would somebody move from Manchester to Ajman, with 3 little kids?'. They live in one of the newer apartments, but still...there seemed to be very little in the way of things to do with the kids, green space, or other facilities, and she wasn't happy with the international school her eldest child was going to (which was also quite expensive for what was being offered). Needless to say, they'll be moving back to the UK permanently this summer! I am not Australian, but my husband is, and we go to Aus for a couple of weeks every year. The quality of life there is probably far better that what you would be able to have in Ajman on the salary you are being offered, IMO, even if you were able to stay home. and I say this as a working mum (in Dubai) who would prefer to stay home with my littlies. If you were offered a full relocation package to Dubai, and a salary of at around AED35k per month, I would consider it as you wouldnt be paying school fees immediately. but honestly, no amount of money would get me to relocate my family to Ajman (or what i've seen of it).
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Latest post on 16 January 2013 - 11:22
@Admin, If I search for a something and pull up a thread, i can only see the last page of the discussion. if I try and click on earlier pages, i get an error msg saying 'topic not found'. i mainly use the forum to search for advice/ feedback from previous threads and have not had this problem before. pls fix asap! PS i really like the new look!
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Latest post on 22 November 2012 - 17:02
thanks ladies! you are right globetrotter1 - it is hard to decide as they were both great. i will get my NT done with Dr George next month and then decide, but I suspect it will most likely be Dr Elsa because my insurance is limited to AED25k for everything, and Dr George's charges for the first appt were much higher than Dr Elsa's. If I stayed with him, I think I'd have to pay another AED5-10k over my limit. Also City claims directly from my insurance (so less hassle for me) whereas with n9ne medical I needed to pay and wait for reimbursement.
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Latest post on 13 November 2012 - 22:32
Dr George, according to my research, is a foetal medicine specialist (UK trained) and experienced with high risk pregnancies. He delivers at city and consults from his own clinic nine medical. You'll find contact details on google. Haven't met him yet but he comes highly recommended on this forum.
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Latest post on 13 November 2012 - 20:30
thanks Shelly. i just had got used to the idea of going to one, now i have another option. it's unsettling ;)