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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 31 December 2013 - 15:56
LT, I'm hope I'm as lively as you when I'm your age! Happy New Year to everyone on EW. Why thankyou!! (Rattles zimmer frame in appreciation)
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Latest post on 31 December 2013 - 15:41
Lola you are making DR positively ancient; it's dr1958 not 1928? Spoilsport .............for one glorious moment I could pretend I wasn't the senior crone on EW! Happy New Year everyone! LT(1948)x
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Latest post on 30 December 2013 - 19:39
It's sad but the realities of life in the region make it very difficult for most people to act on or even to express the more normal impulses of "Humanity". The financial, not to mention the legal implications of involving oneself in simple acts of human kindness tend to put a brake on them. This desensitiving effect on otherwise altruistic caring individuals probably explains the seemingly harsh responses on this thread. As I said, sad, but true.
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Latest post on 30 December 2013 - 16:22
I don't think that Lolacat was suggesting that the OP needs to financially support this pregnancy and childbirth, more that she was pointing out the sad contrast between the two kinds of "expatwomen". Accident of birth, it really is the greatest of life's lotteries.
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Latest post on 23 December 2013 - 20:07
MIL coming for Xmas?
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Latest post on 23 December 2013 - 11:17
Thanks Oopsiedaisy, very cute.........that cat is the very image of one of mine! And a Very Merry Christmas and a Peaceful New Year to all on EW. Trishx
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Latest post on 17 December 2013 - 19:08
Thank you all for responding. I had my tests and am good and all my lumps are nothing to worry about. Its a huge relief. Two doctors have seen my DD and both say its nothing, I feel its grown in the past two weeks, I did not get a referral for ultrasound for her even though I requested over and over - we are paying cash anyway and I am going to go back now and insist. They feel its nothing which is great, but I think I would only be relieved once an ultrasound is done and the lump assessed. My all clear was such a relief only for this beginning to really worry me. Please someone tell me that they have had something like this at puberty (she's a skinny girl) and doctor has confirmed its not hair follicle related. My DD has this problem at around 12 years old, it proved to be totally harmless and apparently is quite common. Try not to worry.
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Latest post on 17 December 2013 - 12:48
With apologies in advance to DR, her final comment was a little ambiguous, although I didn't read it as implying an additional and more sinister complication in the life of the OP in the other thread, but I can see why others might. I assumed (and I believe correctly) that she was referring to a particular mindset which seems to seize the brains of some people when they arrive in Dubai. It is something of a mixed blessing, in that it combines an enthusiasm and energy which seems to make all good things possible, without recognising that bad things can happen too, even to good hardworking people with great business ideas. Dubai and failure (of any kind) are rarely to be seen in the same sentence, and whilst this "dare to dream" attitude is one of the driving forces behind the growth of the Emirate, it is also responsible for a great deal of individual human misery. In the latter stages of the last boom I saw more than one person take on commitments totally predicated on continuous growth, even after the slump. There seemed in some case to be an almost obsessive belief that the worst could not happen to them. And when it did, the denial often took the form of a refusal to accept that cutting their losses and going home was beyond unthinkable. Knowing when to quit is a very valuable quality, probably even more so than the attitude that failure is impossible...........but that latter concept can become almost a form of madness, and I suspect that is the mindset to which DR was referring. The OP's thread is not the first such instance of personal disaster on this forum, over the years there have been many cases of good people coming undone, because they allowed the Dubai dream to cloud their vision, and they didn't realise that going home was not the worst option until it was too late. And for various reasons it seems that the male brain, probably because it is in general better wired for risk taking, is particularly susceptible to this kind of blindness. And I suspect it is responsible for even greater damage to marriage than the more usually discussed temptations of the "darkside" of Dubai.
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Latest post on 16 December 2013 - 09:19
I agree that KenzaB's DH must be feeling terrible, and he has my sympathy. I am sure he never intended any of this to happen but the best way he can make amends and thus start to feel better about himself is by being realistic and putting his family's welfare first, and soon. Sitting around and hoping for a miracle is not going to work well.
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Latest post on 16 December 2013 - 07:39
Ladies come on now!!! Why is the majority here encouraging her to break up her marriage? Yes her marriage has issues which needs to be fixed!!! Not broken! Why break something that can be fixed? There are kids involved!! They're both adults and can fix this. Besides, your only hearing her side! I'm sure her husband is sorry about what he's done to his family here! He took a risk for the family, he failed unfortunately! Everyone makes mistakes! No one is perfect. My husband didn't work for 10 years. I was the bread winner those 10 years. Yes it was difficult but we together got through it! Yes I too sent out resumes for him. Its called marriage! For richer or poorer! For goodness sakes, no one is encouraging the OP to "break up her marriage"..........they are telling her to save her family from destitution. And it is precisely because there are kids involved that she must do everything in her power to get out of Dubai and go to a place of safety. Unless her DH gets his head out of the sand he will not be around to be part of his family, it's pretty difficult to be a Dad from inside the Dubai Hilton. it takes two people to break up a marriage and so far she has done everything to keep it together, meanwhile he has been risking his family's entire well being to follow his own dreams. If OP can get back to her home country, then that is the time to start thinking about saving the marriage, but right now she's looking down the barrel of a very scary gun, if you think that creditors, landlords and schools are going to take pity on this family to save a marriage then you are very misguided. To KenzaB, please listen to the very good and well informed advice from other posters, get home and then reassess your future. if your DH has got one iota of sense (and a little shame will not come amiss either) then he will do his dam@edest to sort himself out and step up to being part of the marriage in circumstances which do not put you all at risk. I think you have sacrificed yourself and your children long enough, please don't allow anyone to make your life even more difficult by sending you on a misplaced guilt trip. In fact to put things bluntly, if your DH doesn't face up to the reality of what he has done and do everything in his power to get you all home. then his commitment to the marriage isn't worth a bucket of spit.
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Latest post on 13 December 2013 - 20:18
It does get better.............the first few months I was In Dubai I think I was in a state of shock, felt as though i were wading through treacle to get the simplest things done, it is very wearing. Eventually you learn to do the "only in Dubai" shrug and cope with it. It does get easier (although I have to thankfully admit I am now just an occasional visitor.........Dubai has its own charm but not it's not for everyone).
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Latest post on 10 December 2013 - 22:18
Quite right - after all, she's only sold 19 million albums...and her first tour sold out (admittedly across Scotland !! lol) Yes she did..................and that is part of the problem. As I am sure you well know.
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Latest post on 10 December 2013 - 21:20
I think she must have a very poor management team if they honestly thought Dubai had the demographic who would pay to see her. Which is a little worrying, considering that she is, whatever her diagnosis, a very vulnerable woman. Personally I have always felt extremely uncomfortable about the whole "Subo" phenomenon. There is a very fine line between discovering talent in unexpected people...and the old fashioned freak show. I truly hope that there are at least a couple of decent and honest people in her team who have got a game plan for her future after her celebrity wanes.
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Latest post on 07 December 2013 - 16:40
I. Figuring a way to pay for all the vanity projects which will be built.
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Latest post on 05 December 2013 - 16:07
Brother in far North east of Scotland says it's blowing off the Beaufort scale up there.
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Latest post on 05 December 2013 - 10:33
http://gulfnews.com/about-gulf-news/al-nisr-portfolio/xpress/life-style/rolling-stones-to-perform-in-abu-dhabi-1.1263443 That's if you can remember them first time around :) Rooling Stones haha ;-) Not my cup of tea at all but I imagine their show will be good Yes just realised what I wrote :) DH has just called them the Strolling Bones, probably quite apt at their ages :) Drooling Stones might be even more appropriate!
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Latest post on 03 December 2013 - 16:16
I agree with DT, this kind of behaviour is at best childish and an embarrassment and at worst trivialisation of violence towards children. If anyone doubts the latter I suggest they take a trawl through the almost weekly court reports of babies being abused and murdered by brain dead "parents". The defense "I was only playing" tends to crop up with sickening regularity.
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Latest post on 03 December 2013 - 15:06
Of course they say it's legal! They want to make money. And some of them genuinely believe it is legal because they have paid good money to an unscrupulous individual who has sold them a "visa". It's a very great shame that those individuals are untouchable.
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Latest post on 02 December 2013 - 15:50
Have you cooked a goose before? I only ask because I am always surprised at how little eating there is, compared to other birds of the same size. 3 to 4 kilos is not huge.
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Latest post on 27 November 2013 - 21:33
Turkeys voting for Christmas... You had the nerve to say it!
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Latest post on 27 November 2013 - 21:14
Not wanting to rain on the parade, but what do you think will happen the day after Expo?
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Latest post on 27 November 2013 - 21:05
The phrase.........Be careful what you wish for .......springs to mind here. I truly hope this means good things for Dubai but in all honesty, does Dubai need another bubble?
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Latest post on 27 November 2013 - 21:03
Pre children I would have said absolutely not, that's disgusting. Post children I say, yes it's fine and far better than sticking your finger down there and getting a nasty surprise. Have you ever read Hannibal? Considering how often my children fart, if I took them to the bathroom to check their nappy every time I smelt something I wouldn't get to eat a thing :D I once had a husband like that.
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Latest post on 27 November 2013 - 21:00
Boundaries anyone? Not tonight :) Goodness me, is it Thursday already?
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Latest post on 27 November 2013 - 20:57
Boundaries anyone?
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Latest post on 27 November 2013 - 20:29
Nor Crystal palace Which swiftly became a "white elephant", was dismantled and moved to another location in the suburbs and finally burned down. Not exactly the best example of a legacy. Oh, I dunno ... they're off the bottom of the league table as of now. ;) Oh you optimist!!!
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Latest post on 27 November 2013 - 20:27
Nor Crystal palace Which swiftly became a "white elephant", was dismantled and moved to another location in the suburbs and finally burned down. Not exactly the best example of a legacy.
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Latest post on 26 November 2013 - 09:44
My initial reaction to your first post was that I felt you were being unfeeling and selfish, but now that you have given a little more background I can see that you are in a very difficult situation. However, your DD is in a worse place than you and your DH, no matter how imperfect her mother is, she is her mother. And your DD is very young, and still at an age when pleasing adults is very important, the poor kiddie must, in spite of anything she tells you, be feeling very confused and torn. Please try to think ahead, she will not be a child for very much longer and she will be more willing to truly express her feelings, and work through them...........IF you back right off and remove the pressure. Please don't say you are not pressuring her, by allowing this to even be an issue and discussing it with her is opening a whole can of emotional worms for her. You seem to have provided a well adjusted and functional family environment for her, but that in itself must only be highlighting the differences in parental situations. Amongst other emotions she will feel a degree of guilt (albeit misplaced) a sense of responsibility towards her mother and a host of other feelings she cannot yet articulate. But you and your DH cut this Gordian knot....you can afford to be emotionally generous (and please try to separate the financial implications from the real issue here, it hopelessly confuses things and is probably responsible for some of the more acid responses on here) and allow the child to spend EVERY Xmas day with her mother, for now. In a very few years she will decide for herself.......probably quite forcefully! Do this, and you will remove a huge burden from her little shoulders and in the fullness of time she will reward your patience and generosity with a lifetime of absolute trust and the satisfaction of knowing that you both have put her feelings above your own. Your DD will be much more yours if you do this. Sometimes being a parent means letting go, there is a lot to be said for the judgement of Solomon. I speak from experience.
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Latest post on 24 November 2013 - 12:54
Please do not disable the front airbag............I am recovering from a horrendous car crash which wrote off our CRV and the other car. Friends who drove past the wreckage shortly after the accident were horrified at the scene and assumed there had been fatalities, I quote "No one could have survived that". Thanks to the airbags. we have broken bones and lacerations but no internal injuries, and are buying another CRV.
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Latest post on 23 November 2013 - 18:59
Oh no - so sorry to hear that, hope you're looking after yourself. Just read the other thread - awful that people still choose to ignore bad stuff - they should know differences CAN be made! Buckle Up is going well - I'll be in the Downtown Parade on National Day next week - eek! Good to hear, keep up the good work! Trishx
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Latest post on 23 November 2013 - 18:45
P.S - long time LT -hope you're well Wow, that's funny, was just wondering about you when I was reading the thread about dangerous driving ! I'm well, recovering from of all things, a bad car accident! Crazy drivers aren't unique to Dubai! Hope all going well with you, how's the BuckleUp campaign going?
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Latest post on 23 November 2013 - 16:51
i have just bought the new Kindle paperwhite, it's really great. Small, light but with a very clear screen, and you can download just about anything you can think of. Think it was about 110 British Pounds.
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Latest post on 21 November 2013 - 17:21
Hi ladies, Can you recommend a treatment for garden snails? We have literally thousands of them, tiny little brown snails. We've had a professional garden company out to spray, which seems to kill them for a week and then they return. The spray I poisonous to animals so we need to keep the pets inside for days. We've used a slug pellet remedy from the Garden Centre in Dubai but at 250dhs per application it's becoming expensive since it seems to work for around 3 weeks, after which we need to re-apply. If you know of a treatment / remedy that's worked for you please let me know. Thank you. It is utterly pointless to spray to eradicate snails, I think the "professional" garden company saw you coming.
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Latest post on 16 November 2013 - 18:45
The Roma are generally accepted to be the most persecuted minority in Europe and the tone of these articles, I find pretty disgusting. It's 200 years since Engels wrote about Ireland "spewing forth the worst of its pestilent hoardes" into England. With talks of avalanches and influxes the standard of debate doesn't seem to have moved on. If you listen to the interview, one chap has lived there for 10 years and been working during that time. Lots of interesting debates on this topic next week no doubt when my friend who is a UKIP PPC visits! Interesting that you should quote Engels............he too was an immigrant to Britain. And from the majority of the articles highlighting the "Influx' of Roma, so are the protesters of relatively recent immigrant background. Funny that..............seems to be a deeply human characteristic to pull the ladder up behind oneself.
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Latest post on 16 November 2013 - 18:17
It's a short and relatively inexpensive daily flight.
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Latest post on 16 November 2013 - 10:44
Just to clarify a little, I was merely questioning why that particular link was posted on this forum now. It is neither topical nor particularly geographically relevant to the area, and at any given point in time, social media and the popular press is awash with maps and statistics, which in any case are not always accurate. No attack was intended, just curious as to why figures from fifteen years ago should be highlighted on EW now. like I said, it's doing the rounds on facebook - the artist who put it together has just released it having spent years on the project... Thankyou. Now I understand.
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Latest post on 16 November 2013 - 10:35
I would suggest that all Brits go home and fight to save their country. We can't..........it's full.
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Latest post on 16 November 2013 - 02:36
Just to clarify a little, I was merely questioning why that particular link was posted on this forum now. It is neither topical nor particularly geographically relevant to the area, and at any given point in time, social media and the popular press is awash with maps and statistics, which in any case are not always accurate. No attack was intended, just curious as to why figures from fifteen years ago should be highlighted on EW now.
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Latest post on 15 November 2013 - 20:19
Most plants in UAE don't have a dormant period, but obviously they need a little less when the temps drop, but remember that wind is even more drying than heat, your best bet is to check the soil around the plant, if dry then water.
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Latest post on 15 November 2013 - 19:32
Cut them back hard, then give a little fertiliser. And don't overwater.
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Latest post on 14 November 2013 - 19:31
Sorry but why would you post that on EW?
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Latest post on 10 November 2013 - 21:29
In all the 5 years in dubs, never found a great Indian, just come back from home and eat myself thru all the great balti's I could handle. Good on you that you found a brill place, I will check it out when I'm in dubai next . Really looking forward to a decent curry.... Lol For eat in have you tried the Indian restaurant in the Marriot? It was our favourite in Doha..... DD ate there last night and said it was still super.
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 22:28
There are probably many of the old time posters, who like me look in from time and to time, and occasionally post but more often sit on their hands and log off in despair. There appears to be a clique now of posters with a relatively hostile attitude to those expats who are more recent and less locally involved than they are. Which is a great shame for a site claiming to be free and friendly. I remember the Witches Coven, that was fun!! Sssshhh.................
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 22:21
oh for a cucumber controversy! A classic!!
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 22:19
There are probably many of the old time posters, who like me look in from time and to time, and occasionally post but more often sit on their hands and log off in despair. There appears to be a clique now of posters with a relatively hostile attitude to those expats who are more recent and less locally involved than they are. Which is a great shame for a site claiming to be free and friendly.
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 20:25
This boy had been encouraged by an adult in his family, believe it or not, but I did witness some parents that so proud to have a boy - like it was an achievement ! - and do encourage these little boys to kiss hug and more than this, I remember a friend of my sister saying proudly how the teacher in the class separated that boy from a specific girl in the class, as he keeps touching this girl - like a man! - with no remorse on the mother face, bare in mind that boy was only 7 years old! this woman I did gave her a piece of my mind and how by her irresponsibility she is raising a pervert, not a man! OP, you need to get your DD to not let anybody, young or adult, man or a woman - specially in her tender age - can touch her, if it happen, then she must tell the teacher about it, as this is wrong. If it was me, I would go at the pick up time in the school, ask my DD to point out this boy, then I will talk to his parent(s) who will be picking up him, and this should stop it. And you would be quite. quite wrong. That kind of hysterical overreaction to innocent if irritating child's play is totally inappropriate and slightly worrying. Not all human contact is sinister, and to look for evil where there is none is at least as damaging than ignoring real harm. Please don't confuse your children, not ALL contact is sinister.
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 19:01
I think its a phase and it will pass. My son is this age and he thinks girls are gross. Lol! Just tell her to go to the teacher immediately next time he kisses her. She can tell him to stop it. He is probably just being cheeky. Exactly, it's very worrying that anyone should read anything more into it.
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 18:53
For goodness sake, it's only three weeks. It's a phase. she will soon get bored with pasta...........my son only ate celery and cucumber for several months and he grew up to be 6 foot 5 and an all round athlete (not to mention v bright at school and uni) and now a very fit and healthy forty four year old who regularly competes in Iron Man races. And eats everything now, no fads whatsoever since he was in his early teens..........unless you count broad beans which I never could persuade him to try twice! <em>edited by Livelytrish on 05/11/2013</em>
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Latest post on 27 October 2013 - 20:18
That is a very disturbing video clip. Why on earth was it posted on here? Absconders, even criminals are due some basic human respect, being filmed and put on Utube and then peddled around the net is demeaning both to them and those promulgating the video. I had always assumed that "Run Away Slave" posters went out with the American Civil War.
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Latest post on 20 August 2013 - 18:34
Recency Car Hire are very good, you can Google them for details. As for eating out, there are loads of little tavernas in the villages around Aphrodite Hills and down at the coast there are plenty to choose from but I have no idea if any of them are involved in the Entertainer scheme. If they do the chances are they are aimed at the tourist market and hence probably not the best value. With small children I would suggest half board at AH and either have picnic lunches or try some of the local taverna, if you stay in the hotel. If in a villa, then you can still use the restaurants in the complex.....there is a great pizza place....but you will need a car if you want to eat elsewhere. If you do rent a car (which will be as economical than a taxi each way to AH) then check out Mandria (for great fish and chips, not Cypriot but very good) also in Pissouri Square O'Vrakas is excellent, or try one of the tavernas in Kouklia (nearest village to AH). Best local shops are the Muchtar's shop which is facing you as you come off the motorway for Mandria or Papantonios in Pissouri. All easy to find on a tourist map. Hope this helps and enjoy Cyprus. <em>edited by Livelytrish on 20/08/2013</em>