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Latest post on 18 August 2013 - 20:14
Being a SAHM of 3 without a maid, I feel I really need some "me time"...unfortunately DH does not really help with that. He makes me feel like he is really doing me a favor when he looks after the kids! Needless to say he does get a lot of time to go out with his friends, watch a game etc... What about you? Do you get some time off? What do you do to relax? Are your DH looking after the kids? Train your DH now. Or threaten him with a visit from your mother.
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Latest post on 18 August 2013 - 20:00
Given the security checks at airports there is no way they hadn't a chance to alert the authorities for help, but neither of them look too bright (though one does look as tho she has been around the block a time or two) so perhaps they were stitched up over drug debts, or the love of a handsome stranger. But even so, with all the stories over the last few years about drug mules getting caught out, it really beggars belief that they fell for it. It's the parents I feel sad for.........guilty or innocent those girls are going to be in a very unpleasant place for a long time.
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Latest post on 18 August 2013 - 19:18
Goodness me, we have all leapt to just one unflattering conclusion, haven't we? If it were me and I had no access to cash, I would be in a perpetual state of panic. What if daughter had a mishap and needed the hospital? How would I pay for the taxi, the treatment? If the power needed paying? if I ran out of milk? Ok, so not everything is actual PANIC panic, but how do you run a household on a day to day basis with out access to funds? If you are a spendthrift and not to be trusted with cards etc because you have a history, then maybe the plan is to have an *allowance* for the week. It's yours, cash in hand, and it's for ALL the household expenses...you'd have to work out what is a fair and reasonable amount that works for your family. I have friends who work on this basis for what ever reasons, and they even manage to save a bit, so it might be worth thinking about? Certainly gives you scope to become a creative cook/housewife! Exactly.
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Latest post on 16 August 2013 - 15:05
Jemi........why don't you set your novel against a background you actually know? The scenario you are thinking about could happen anywhere and with all due respect, it takes a very experienced writer to replace authenticity with research. The golden rule used to be............write about what you know.
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Latest post on 15 August 2013 - 17:41
Better the teen you know :D In the Middle Ages in Europe noble families used to send their adolescent children to neighbouring grand families to act as pages and maids in waiting. They may have had a point, teenagers can be quite civilised around other adults, it's just with their own parents they turn into something out of The Exorcist.
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Latest post on 13 August 2013 - 22:21
Livelytrish - my Mum warned me not to eat green or 'blighted' potatoes when I was pregnant! Is this a Scottish thing? All four of my children were induced (clearly I have the gestation period of an elephant!) and none of them is autistic. No, not specifically Scottish, it was a UK wide govt warning. And I believe other countries also gave it out as "official" advice to pregnant mothers. If my memory serves me correctly it was based on a study done in Ireland which concluded that green potatoes did the damage, at the time it seemed feasible, but as we all know now the real cause is lack of folic acid. But it scared the sh@t out of a lot of pregnant mothers, and loaded up the guilt on those poor women who had given birth to children with neural tube defects. Which was very very sad. And I believe based on one single study............which was, and is the problem with these leaps of faith, one study does not prove the cause, but it does make headlines (and cynically I may add, more research funding). <em>edited by Livelytrish on 13/08/2013</em>
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Latest post on 13 August 2013 - 20:37
And in my childbearing days there was a study indicating that Spina Bifida was caused by eating green potatoes. These studies individually prove nothing for certain, are frequently wrong and only cause concern to parents. It's a great pity that researchers are not a little more cogniscent of the panic their prematurely published papers cause to real people.
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Latest post on 06 August 2013 - 19:28
Lolacat, if horses were wishes beggars would ride.............. and if all spouses communicated more there would be far fewer divorces. Sadly it seems to me that whenever any problem arises, all too often communication becomes the first thing casualty of war. And there are a lot of women out there who don't have the back up of family or long time friends to offload to, so posting on forums is as good a way as any to vent. Some good shrinks actually advise writing down the problem as though it were a letter so perhaps posting on EW is a similarly useful coping mechanism......the real difficulties arise if the poster takes too much away from the responses. As for the sudden spate of marital problems, these things are like buses, nothing for ages, then three all at once, doesn't mean they are fake, more likely they have been encouraged by example. And for some people that outlet is invaluable, just a shame so often the post descends into a catfight, but then I suppose that is the nature of the cyberworld. ETA................my advice? Vent the pain or anger on here or anywhere else away from the other party concerned, then cool off and start to communicate constructively. <em>edited by Livelytrish on 06/08/2013</em>
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Latest post on 06 August 2013 - 18:41
I've sat on my hands all day but can't stop myself now.........I can understand why people share their worries on here, it is after all an anonymous forum with the advantage of a lot of differing inputs, but I have to say this to anyone who posts in response................please post what you would actually DO in the situation, rather than what you would LIKE to do. The two are very very different, and please remember you may be dealing with people in a vulnerable state. The hardline " take no prisoners" attitude in some responses, on this and on other similar threads. could prove very dangerous, please remember it is just a forum topic to you, for the OPs it is their LIFE.
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Latest post on 05 August 2013 - 21:10
Given the amount of winding up the OP has received on here it's scarcely surprising that she has gone off on one with her DH. Which is a great pity. Perhaps EW is no longer the place to post such problems, given the inability of some people to resist pushing their personal agendas. This used to be, to coin an old phrase, a much broader "church". edited by Livelytrish on 05/08/2013 <em>edited by Livelytrish on 05/08/2013</em>
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Latest post on 03 August 2013 - 22:51
Without knowing the OP or the two other parties concerned all anyone can do is hazard a guess at the true nature of the situation, and there is the added danger of viewing the facts through one's own personal perspective, which is always skewed by individual and cultural bias. Having said that, in my own experience I have always had close male friends, usually through work or common interests and that without there being anything untoward on either side. My DH has female friends, again through work or more usually that damm golf...I never would even think about worrying..............he has had many dinners with female friends or colleagues when working away........again, that doesn't concern me. If he were meeting up regularly with someone in our home town, and excluding me, then I would start to see alarm bells, or if he were to try to hide it, then I really would start to worry. . From what the OP says, she cannot understand why a man and woman would want to meet unless there were something other than the desire for company and common interest. Presumably this is not the norm in her culture........it could be that her DH has been exposed to other cultures where it is less taboo, and doesn't realise how much it worries her. In any case the answer is communication, as some one else pointed out, and perhaps the OP should try to work out exactly why it alarms her so much. Is it quite simply suspicion that an affair might ensue, or could it be that she feels excluded, and perhaps insecure, especially if she is at home with children and feels herself not on an equal footing with someone who is a part of her DH's working circle? Either way, she needs to talk about her concerns in a non accusatory way, her DH may have no idea that this is causing her such distress. <em>edited by Livelytrish on 03/08/2013</em>
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Latest post on 02 August 2013 - 21:44
http://lifeofastrangerwhostolemyphone.tumblr.com/Sorry but I didn't like this. The guy bought a stolen phone. He clearly can't afford to go to Ibiza as a professional thief. He's a single Arab bachelor, lower middle class. I want to find that masjid he loves to pose in front of. The woman writing the blog is clearly more educated and far wealthier than this guy could hope to be, shame on her for ridiculing those with less material opportunities. Don't share your opinion. He is a thief, shame on him..
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Latest post on 02 August 2013 - 17:58
Marrooh, the clip is meant to be light hearted. I suggest you try to adopt the same attitude.
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Latest post on 02 August 2013 - 16:27
My understanding is that living out per se is not illegal.....as long as sponsored by employer, and solely working for that employer. Surely it is the visa issue not the living arrangement which is the subject of the law?
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Latest post on 02 August 2013 - 16:00
Perhaps if the authorities were to go after and prosecute those individuals who are making a very good living by selling these visas to maids this problem would disappear.
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Latest post on 01 August 2013 - 16:22
Am happy to help. :) And I'm close by so it will be no problem at all. As ever you are a star......................Teddie and Minnie send hugs to you and Momma Cat xxx
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Latest post on 01 August 2013 - 10:49
They are called Paper wasps I think, 3 doesn't mean a nest. We have a few that visit regularly as we have flowers in our garden. I think you would see their nest as we have an old one in our garage and it looks like a lump of plaster on the ceiling with holes in it!!! It was sprayed by pest control before we moved in and we haven't had to treat it again. The only way to stop wasps is to get rid of flowers, otherwise you'll have to do what we do and scream and run in the house (can't stand wasps lol!!). Hornets do not make those "plaster" nests, those are made by paper wasps which are harmless. Hornets nests are large papery structures and most usually found in dead tree trunks. The orange hornets are just that, orange hornets and they are not definitely NOT harmless. They have a very nasty sting indeed. However three do not mean a nest is nearby, they are very common in the Gulf at certain times of year and the best thing to do is to avoid them, go indoors if they are around. If you are unfortunate enough to find one in the house use an insecticide spray, do not attempt to swat it and do not pick up the body until you are quite quite sure it is an ex hornet. Consider them an unwelcome visitation, not an infestation, there is not a lot pest control can do unless you actually have a nest on your property. Just be aware and very very careful.
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Latest post on 28 July 2013 - 22:13
Tired33, I'm sorry no one else has responded to your post but it is getting late, and your post is so full of despair that most people are probably trying and failing to think of a brief but helpful answer. I can only say that to me at least it sounds like your husband is deeply depressed, hence his lack of interest in life in general and in you. And you are probably just feeling utterly hopeless. There are many ladies on this forum who have been through h@ll and back and have shared it on here and been helped, which is probably why you decided to come on here and share your pain, Please be patient for replies, and perhaps give a little more detail, not because we are curious but because it may be easier to find common experience and advise appropriately. But in a word, to answer you, no it is not normal, you sound like a family in long term crisis and beginning to crack. Hopefully in the next few hours and days other posters will be able to help you work your way to finding some answers, in the meantime please don't feel totally alone and helpless. Good luck and remember, nothing lasts for ever, not even the bad time. Trishx
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Latest post on 28 July 2013 - 17:10
Zinger, it would be impossible to prove the origin of the infestation. You just have to accept that you don't have a case, either get the offending bed treated or get rid of it and put it down to rotten luck.
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Latest post on 28 July 2013 - 16:42
have had some pretty dubious medical advice even in the UK (including re breastfeeding); and it was a doctor who had previously worked in the UK who told me she couldn't hear my baby's heartbeat 'because the placenta was at the front' when every scan had said otherwise and nobody else had any trouble..... basically I don't think it's an exclusively regional thing; simply that doctors are not divine but as fallible as the next person, and some more fallible than others! Totally agree, there are good and bad doctors everywhere, however in my own experience I was unfortunate to encounter rather more of the latter in Dubai than elsewhere, I must also add I was also treated by some absolutely first class practitioners in UAE, but I was left with an uncomfortable impression that the early boom years in the region had led to some less than rigorous hiring procedures.
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Latest post on 28 July 2013 - 16:31
Unfortunately in some cultures b/f is regarded as inferior to formula for socioeconomic reasons. There is a subconscious perception that those who do cannot afford to do otherwise, hence there is an unspoken prejudice which only grudging accepts it for the youngest of babies. In the UK the incidence of b/f amongst women without higher education is by far the lowest, with the introduction of free or subsidised formula from 1948 onwards, bottle feeding became the norm, and breast feeding was associated with the "bad" old days when only the poorest had no other choice. I suspect both in UK and many other regions there is still an undercurrent of belief that bottle feeding is a sign of enhanced status.
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Latest post on 28 July 2013 - 16:11
Having once sat in a room in a well known Dubai hospital and listened to a doctor reading a scan and pointing out a "problem with the ovary" .............when both ovaries had been long removed.... I can only believe that not all doctors practicing in the region have attended all the lectures in their training.
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Latest post on 28 July 2013 - 10:31
For those ladies who enjoy historical novels look up Jean Plaidy /Victoria Holt /Philippa Carr. She is the same novelist writing under various pen names, the above are her most well known, all fairly light reading but historically sound and with a wonderful way of bringing the past alive. Quite a few are available free on ebooks.
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Latest post on 27 July 2013 - 22:31
Wolf Hall & Bring Up The Bodies - Hilary Mantel The Other Boleyn Girl - Philippa Gregory (or any of her novels!) Town House (Suffolk House Trilogy) - Norah Lofts Kite Runner & Thousand Splendid Suns - Khaded Hosseini Behind the Scenes at the Museum & One Good Turn - Kate Atkinson Camberwell Beauty - Jenny Eclair ........and LOTS of others! Have you read Katherine by Anya Seton? If not, please do.........possibly the best historical novel ever written and a recognised inspiration for some of today's most acclaimed writers in that genre, <em>edited by Livelytrish on 27/07/2013</em>
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Latest post on 24 July 2013 - 21:34
EHS is a Dubai Govt division. I was given this info by an EHS officer during a work training session. However, LT has a valid question about if anyone has actually faced prosecution over this. Or if it is merely that person's misinterpretation of the law. I think most people run into this at least once in Dubai.
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Latest post on 24 July 2013 - 21:21
GEORGE ALEXANDER LOUIS it is!!!
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Latest post on 24 July 2013 - 21:13
Sky news are saying that an announcement of the name will be made in the next ten mins...................
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Latest post on 24 July 2013 - 21:07
:) oh how I love British traditions :) I have heard Spencer as a first name so often, I forgot it was actually a surname :) Thank you Trish, I knew you would know x You're welcome Irooni..............I'm so old I might even be a British tradition!! x Antique perhaps - would go for a fortune with your knowledge on the Antiques Roadshow... ***runs a mile**** lol[/quote I'll have you know I am one of Great Britain's stately ruins. You need to buy a membership of the National Trust to meet me. Lol- then I must be of the Stonehenge era!! Only.........if like me you can remember watching the Coronation!!!!! I remember vividly the coronation of King Harold :-) OMG.................was that you in the huge hat in front of me?
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Latest post on 24 July 2013 - 21:02
:) oh how I love British traditions :) I have heard Spencer as a first name so often, I forgot it was actually a surname :) Thank you Trish, I knew you would know x You're welcome Irooni..............I'm so old I might even be a British tradition!! x Antique perhaps - would go for a fortune with your knowledge on the Antiques Roadshow... ***runs a mile**** lol[/quote I'll have you know I am one of Great Britain's stately ruins. You need to buy a membership of the National Trust to meet me. Lol- then I must be of the Stonehenge era!! Only.........if like me you can remember watching the Coronation!!!!!
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Latest post on 24 July 2013 - 20:54
:) oh how I love British traditions :) I have heard Spencer as a first name so often, I forgot it was actually a surname :) Thank you Trish, I knew you would know x You're welcome Irooni..............I'm so old I might even be a British tradition!! x Antique perhaps - would go for a fortune with your knowledge on the Antiques Roadshow... ***runs a mile**** lol[/quote I'll have you know I am one of Great Britain's stately ruins. You need to buy a membership of the National Trust to meet me.
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Latest post on 24 July 2013 - 20:51
They weren't available in UK until about 28 years ago, so neither of my children nor William or Kate had them..........just saying. Honestly, they are a marvellous and welcome invention, but some people do get carried away What do they think, that the little darling aged 36 hours is going to unbuckle himself and seize the throne from Grannie? Haha love it! :) All this talk about names and "spencer", reminds me we have a little boy on our street by the name of Mark Spencer, don't know his surname but those are his first and middle names! My children are quite mean about it! Behind his back that is :) I am sorry but the parents should have known better! I once worked with a poor chap whose name was "John Thomas"....................which is an English euphemism for the male whatsit. Poor man..............what were his parents thinking of?
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Latest post on 24 July 2013 - 20:46
:) oh how I love British traditions :) I have heard Spencer as a first name so often, I forgot it was actually a surname :) Thank you Trish, I knew you would know x You're welcome Irooni..............I'm so old I might even be a British tradition!! x
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Latest post on 24 July 2013 - 20:37
Can't remember which channel( in Canada ) it was this morning but a pic popped up of the baby in the car seat,seat belt buckled up and hands visible.News anchors were discussing at length. Will try and find which Channel it was . You mean we have to tie their hands? For goodness sake why? HaHa I know what you mean.....I too did a double take. The one anchor said yes but the hands should be tucked in secured under the blanket....possibly a North American thing litigation and all the jazz.So long ago since I had infants in car seats we were so chuffed with ourselves when we got car seats at all 35 years ago........so not too up to date with what is the correct way to harness infants today. Eta still looking for the channel.....when DH gets hold of the remote all bets are off....... edited by Nomad on 24/07/2013 edited by Nomad on 24/07/2013 They weren't available in UK until about 28 years ago, so neither of my children nor William or Kate had them..........just saying. Honestly, they are a marvellous and welcome invention, but some people do get carried away What do they think, that the little darling aged 36 hours is going to unbuckle himself and seize the throne from Grannie?
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Latest post on 24 July 2013 - 20:13
Lovely idea as one of his names, but unfortunately it won't be allowed as his first name. I understand that the Queen has to approve the name but why is it not allowed? Because it was Lady Di's surname or is it something else ? Thanks Using surnames as first names is not a British tradition.
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Latest post on 24 July 2013 - 20:11
Can't remember which channel( in Canada ) it was this morning but a pic popped up of the baby in the car seat,seat belt buckled up and hands visible.News anchors were discussing at length. Will try and find which Channel it was . You mean we have to tie their hands? For goodness sake why?
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Latest post on 24 July 2013 - 20:00
On the news this morning some are banging on about the baby's hands not being secured properly in the car seat. I wondered how long it would take for someone to find something wrong on such a happy day. How on earth could they see that?
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Latest post on 24 July 2013 - 19:48
Can anyone come up with an example of a Good Samaritan actually being penalised in this way.....or is it another of the Dubai myths (which are in all honesty perpetuated the opacity of law in the region) akin to the tales of suicidal pedestrians throwing themselves under cars in order to provide for their families with the blood money?
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Latest post on 23 July 2013 - 22:49
He's going to be a big lad...did you see the size of his little paws?
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Latest post on 23 July 2013 - 22:45
Lovely pics of the new family...........unforced, totally relaxed and natural and just so very happy.
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Latest post on 22 July 2013 - 20:44
And 5% of the world's male population can be traced back to Genghis Khan............ a fact, from proven DNA analysis............. the human gene pool is far smaller than we'd like to think. And the majority of people in the UK can claim very distant descent from King Edward 111. And we all share a huge number of genes with a banana. <em>edited by Livelytrish on 22/07/2013</em>
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Latest post on 22 July 2013 - 12:15
Just check out the US news outlets...............whether we like it or not this is an event which attracts worldwide interest. Or look at the hundreds of journos from around the globe who have been camped out for days. I don't understand the implied carping at the coverage ...on or off the site.
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Latest post on 22 July 2013 - 12:08
Quote - The Queen recently overturned a 1917 decree whereby the 'Succession To The Crown Bill' will make the UK’s old fashioned rules are fit for the 21st Century! Should the new heir be a girl under the old bill she would take the title of Lady, now, she will not only be third in line to the throne, nudging Prince Harry down to forth, she will be given the title of Her Royal Highness (HRH). So, how comes, the Duke of York's children are known, since birth, as HRH Princesses Beatrice and Eugenie respectively? They were born some twenty years ago and not as close to inheriting the throne as the new baby will be (if a girl of course). Until the recent proposed change............only the grandchildren of the reigning monarch are entitled to be Prince or Princess. This baby will be the queen's great grandchild, the York Princesses are grandchildren.
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Latest post on 22 July 2013 - 11:59
Oopsiedaisy what's not diverse about this being on the side panel? Diversity is about encompassing and celebrating all different cultures and looking at the side panel and other headlines this is exactly what EW does. The Kate headline, for example, is sitting between a guide to the best Iftars and a Ramadan guide. The fact that EW is diverse means news such as the Royal baby should be celebrated not excluded. I was only kidding!! And referring to another thread. But since you seem to find my comment disturbing, I gave it another thought and must say there are many more international headlines (be it other countries royal babies, royal ascending to the thrown etc.) that do not make it to EW side panel. For many years the UK Royal family have been a source of worldwide interest. Possibly it's part of the Diana legacy, but also because so many countries have or have had strong political or cultural links with Britain. And what is it about internet forums that even something that should be totally non controversial within minutes manages to take on a critical aspect?
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Latest post on 22 July 2013 - 10:53
Oh really where did you read that? (These are moment where the English side of me comes out, doesn't happen often :P) BBC. Off to have a peak. Or even a peek? Just joking! But saw worse in the DM.............pique written as peek!!! Ooooooh now I see it. Lol no peak, a peek yes. The joys of English......as she is spoke!!
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Latest post on 22 July 2013 - 10:52
Nooooo way! How do you know??? ooooohhh! All over the news channels, story headlining in DM.
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Latest post on 22 July 2013 - 10:49
Oh really where did you read that? (These are moment where the English side of me comes out, doesn't happen often :P) BBC. Off to have a peak. Or even a peek? Just joking! But saw worse in the DM.............pique written as peek!!!
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Latest post on 22 July 2013 - 10:45
Oh really where did you read that? (These are moment where the English side of me comes out, doesn't happen often :P) BBC.
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Latest post on 21 July 2013 - 22:37
It has always been like this. I wish I could agree with that.
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Latest post on 21 July 2013 - 22:31
We are probably all expat women, but perhaps from a much wider range of countries and cultures than used the forum before? Which you would think.........or at least hope....would make it more tolerant and accepting. That doesn't seem to be the case.
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Latest post on 21 July 2013 - 22:16
It has definitely changed in the last few years.