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Latest post on 21 July 2013 - 09:36
Come home to a real fire - buy a cottage in Wales. Pure gold.
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Latest post on 17 July 2013 - 20:38
I wonder if any salon in Dubai uses these products? http://www.organiccolorsystems.com/salon-products/organic-color-systems/salon-hair-color/ It doesn't mention PPD. There are many organic hair products around, but if they are dyes............they all contain PPD. As do some hennas sold locally, especially the "black" henna. The only product I have found to be reasonably effective (tho not very long lasting) is Surya Brasil henna cream..good range of colours, great conditioning but only lasts a few washes. it's available online. Sorry OP but with PPD allergy there is no easy answer. (Although there are mutterings about safe dyes in the pipeline, the number of serious reactions and the long term implications of PPD exposure is starting to worry both health professionals and the industry) <em>edited by Livelytrish on 17/07/2013</em>
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Latest post on 17 July 2013 - 18:56
NO man strays.................unless he wants to. No matter what the temptation. I disagree. Some of their women are true basic predators Oh rubbish.................what do these predators do? Drug the poor helpless man? The old phrase.............you can take a horse to water..........................but you can't make it drink.
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Latest post on 17 July 2013 - 18:52
NO man strays.................unless he wants to. No matter what the temptation.
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Latest post on 17 July 2013 - 18:17
I came to Dubai last sept as dh had been promoted to oversee his company's middle east branch. As per lots of people's situations he's working long hours, continuing it at home and sleeps or is grumpy at weekends. DD is in boarding school in uk and son is in school in Dubai so we're scattered but this is not my first expat move. My issue is that my dh has no time for us as a family, refuses to socialise and informs me that I must suck it up as I agreed on a 3 yr contract for him to work here. Also, refuses to take any holiday leave. I'd like to stay in uk with my dd and school my son there, also as I feel lonely in Dubai although I've made some good friends. I've left dubai for the school hols and the more I'm away the more I dread returning. I cannot talk to dh as he is and always has refused to see it from anyone else's point of view, his reply was that he's not enjoying working long hours either so why should he have sympathy for me if my only problem is loneliness (lonely in my marriagre). Please help me I'm so down at the moment :( Your husband signed a three year contract...............did you? It seems he is taking the marriage contract to its extremes, you did not sign up for the job, nor for Dubai, he did, and he should be taking on board your concerns. I was about to write that he might be under huge stress with a new work role, but on rereading your post it seems he is not exhibiting new behaviour. He obviously feels his role is fulfilled by working and presumably financially providing................he is obviously living in another century. I'm not going to ask if you have tried talking to him, obviously you have to no avail, it looks like you are going to have to seriously evaluate your life. How do you think he would react if you refused to return to Dubai? It sounds as though you need to make a stand of some kind.
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Latest post on 17 July 2013 - 17:24
If you are at all worried, go back to your doctor. Trying to diagnose yourself via forums and the internet is really not going to help your anxiety.............for what it's worth, from purely personal experience an arrhythmia can be relatively harmless, and your symptoms could be realistically explained by a combination of LBP and anxiety attacks. But don't take my word for it, go back and explain your worries to a medical professional, he or she will decide what tests are necessary. And again in my experience, Drs in Dubai are never slow to recommend further investigation.
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Latest post on 17 July 2013 - 13:59
Surely nobody borrows/steals somebody's used underwear. Revolting. Or will that be a new thread? "My maid stole my knickers and I don't know why as she would drown in them" You haven't read the stories here? Maids posting her pics on FB in her employers swimwear with her buddies in employers house? Unless the ones who started that thread were making it all up... Marroosh.......do you have a maid? Or are you just recycling old stories from EW? N0rdique................I think you'll find that those posters who take such a hardline stance on the maid issue are those who have no intention of returning to their countries of origin. There are maids who do abuse the good intention of new or naive employers, and there are some employers who for various cultural reasons do not regard maids as equally entitled human beings. And then there are those in the middle who do not end up posting on EW with horror stories either way, but in the main it is the extreme examples which become such polarised and polarising threads on the forum. And sometimes the healthiest way to approach what is in effect a cultural divide is to make light of it, otherwise EW would self destruct. Sliced mangoes and even cucumbers are very cooling.....................
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Latest post on 14 July 2013 - 20:49
I would love know how you think a bunch strangers behind a computer screen, bickering about maids and ramadan-wear, can help you solve your existential questions. Thank you. I have found this forum excellent in every aspect. Although i know of maybe only a few expats indirectly to this forum, perhaps, as you say, this is not the best approach to try and find, from the wealth of knowledge here. edited by Alaingirl on 14/07/2013 No doubt EW is a great resource for expats. But I don't think these sort of "deeper" questions have a place on a public forum of this nature...people don't know you or your circumstances, or your emotional state, so you want to make sure you don't take everything too seriously. Always better to speak to a trust friend, therapist, something like that. Just my opinion of course, but I really don't think you'll learn how to find meaning in your life on here :) edited by Sakhifa on 14/07/2013 Sometimes the anonymity of a forum is just the place to share feelings and ask questions Perhaps you don't recall the poor lady who posted on here late one night, having just lost her teenage daughter in tragic circumstances............that very evening. The rest of the family had managed to get some sleep, she was alone with her pain. Not only did she find it a blessed release to pour out her anguish but others were able to share their own experiences and both give and find comfort. It's not always maids and Ramadan. I think that, from recent posts I have read, Alain Girl has a great deal on her plate at the moment and needs an ear. Not everyone on this forum is consumed with their maid problems or Ramadan menus. My point exactly.
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Latest post on 14 July 2013 - 20:24
I would love know how you think a bunch strangers behind a computer screen, bickering about maids and ramadan-wear, can help you solve your existential questions. Thank you. I have found this forum excellent in every aspect. Although i know of maybe only a few expats indirectly to this forum, perhaps, as you say, this is not the best approach to try and find, from the wealth of knowledge here. edited by Alaingirl on 14/07/2013 No doubt EW is a great resource for expats. But I don't think these sort of "deeper" questions have a place on a public forum of this nature...people don't know you or your circumstances, or your emotional state, so you want to make sure you don't take everything too seriously. Always better to speak to a trust friend, therapist, something like that. Just my opinion of course, but I really don't think you'll learn how to find meaning in your life on here :) edited by Sakhifa on 14/07/2013 Sometimes the anonymity of a forum is just the place to share feelings and ask questions Perhaps you don't recall the poor lady who posted on here late one night, having just lost her teenage daughter in tragic circumstances............that very evening. The rest of the family had managed to get some sleep, she was alone with her pain. Not only did she find it a blessed release to pour out her anguish but others were able to share their own experiences and both give and find comfort. It's not always maids and Ramadan.
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Latest post on 13 July 2013 - 22:06
LT, watch out, you might have just been hashtagged. Oh dear.........that word isn't in my vocab.........................is it in the OED yet? Should I be worried?
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Latest post on 13 July 2013 - 21:52
Actually, people do. It's a commonly used word to describe a specialist teacher not based in a particular school. And is still occasionally used as a synonym for wandering..............and I have used it both in speech and in writing when I found it appropriate. Perhaps that's simply because I wish to appear "somewhat" educated............... which might be the reason why I would never use the word "somewhat" in a sentence, The English language is an incredibly rich treasury of nuanced words, it is always sad to hear it being mangled, but even more so to watch the gradual destruction of a wonderful vocabulary by those too dim, lazy or self important to make the attempt to use the apposite word. There is more than one kind of intellectual arrogance.
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Latest post on 13 July 2013 - 11:53
It will be interesting one thing for sure - we won't have a queen pippa! The chances are that as a future queen in her own right, a girl is most likely to be given a name with some Royal precedent............Elizabeth, Mary, Anne............and there has in fact been a Queen Philippa, the wife and consort of Edward 111. And then there is always Caroline, or Matilda or Eleanor and of slightly more recent vintage Alexandra (my best bet).
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Latest post on 12 July 2013 - 16:08
This case is a waste of time and money. They are only arguing human trafficking in order to have a charge as the "offenses" occured in KsA, so not their right to charge for. It will be shown to be a human rights issue, not human trafficking. End of the story will be the Saudi princess pays the victim some money, says 'my bad, lesson learnt'. KSA princess will return to KSA. Kenyan victim will return to Kenya, never being able to work in the ME again. The only winner is the lawyer who makes himself known for being a humaniyarian. The charge could be described as prosecution overkill......................on the other hand the alleged culprit should feel herself lucky they didn't go for kidnapping. That is in terms of penalty a far more serious crime. And whilst having no intention of becoming further embroiled in this debate, I can't help but notice the irony in the subject matter of two adjacent threads on the board today. And in the thought that she has done no more than some posters on this site have recommended over the years.
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Latest post on 07 July 2013 - 15:26
Totally agree FairyDust. Some if not all blockbuster movies these days, not to mention popular TV shows are full of graphic violence. And don't even mention the video games. I can't really believe any one has been ever driven to psychotic levels of real life crime by watching a couple kiss. Or by hearing them say certain forbidden words. Just to be clear, I am referring to mainstream Hollywood and TV, and readily available games, not of course rightfully illegal p@rn. We are allowing our children to become totally inured to scenes of violence.............and that is a very effective way to create a generation of psychopaths. And please don't say they can tell the difference between real and fiction, they can't. And this is not a new phenomenon, twenty years ago my then 24 year old son went to see "Saving Private Ryan".........some young teenagers in the row behind were giggling and laughing at the loss of life. They were very nearly victims of some real life violence. <em>edited by Livelytrish on 07/07/2013</em>
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Latest post on 07 July 2013 - 14:31
A lot of violence. I hated it, DH liked it, but then he's a Sopranos' fan.
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Latest post on 07 July 2013 - 14:27
Well, I'm a proud Scot...............but I can't support Murray just because of his nationality.............. frankly I can't abide the grimacing, gurning ungracious lout. And I think he is a poor excuse as an ambassador for Scotland. Nor do I think he's that great a player, powerful yes, but no flair and less style. <em>edited by Livelytrish on 07/07/2013</em>
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Latest post on 07 July 2013 - 12:12
DB, there isn't going to be a happy ending either way. Very sad all round. (And no need for apology, it's a very complex subject, just wish I hadn't been forced to learn about it at close quarters,,,,,,,, very sorry that you too are experiencing the tragedy of seeing someone known and loved slip away.)
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Latest post on 07 July 2013 - 11:49
LT my mother currently suffers from and my grandmother before her suffered from Alzheimers so I know only too well the symptoms. Presumably he is still working in which case it would become extremely apparent to his colleagues not to mention close family and friends that something was amiss. I don't think a public episode such as this would be how it came to light that his behaviour was inappropriate. He has a reputation for being aggressive and moody, and his eloquent justification and full knowledge / control of what he is doing shows a level of lucidity and awareness that you do not get with early Alzheimers. JMO. I didn't mention Alzheimers, I said Dementia which has many causes and many different symptoms...........vascular attacks which can be otherwise symptomless can and do cause damage to the frontal lobes which control behaviour. Without necessarily affecting language or significantly impacting memory or cognitive ability. Believe me I have witnessed it in my father, it was only with hindsight as his condition deteriorated that the pattern of isolated incidents added up to a diagnosis. And we the public have NO idea how long this man may have been behaving in private. Frankly I feel that his statements post the event even more convincing than the assault, he is not behaving in a manner commensurate with a full set of marbles. And I doubt very much if his statement came with the approval of his legal team, I imagine they are choking in their cornflakes as they read it. <em>edited by Livelytrish on 07/07/2013</em>
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Latest post on 07 July 2013 - 11:28
Perhaps before the public lynching goes any further, perhaps it might be insightful to Google the early symptoms of dementia. Unfortunately personality change, loss of control and mood swings resulting in inappropriate behaviour are all too common. One of the greatest cruelties of this condition is the degree to which it robs people their good name as a result of actions over which they have diminishing control. I have witnessed at first hand a hitherto gentle and kind man become an unpredictable volcano of aggression. A geriatric specialist once told me that old women become weepy, old men become angry (and even more tragically, often sexually uninhibited) Like the rest of us, I have no knowledge of the actual truth in this horrible episode, but given his age and his most recent inappropriate comments I would at least hold back on passing moral judgement on someone who may well not have total control over his thoughts and actions.
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Latest post on 07 July 2013 - 09:33
I wish the media would leave them both alone, I agree his behaviour is dreadful but I wouldn't be in the least surprised to hear in the future that he is suffering from the early stages of age related dementia. Both the "assault" and his subsequent statements could well indicate impaired judgement.
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Latest post on 07 July 2013 - 00:02
Just looking at TV................looks as though miracles do happen sometimes.
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Latest post on 06 July 2013 - 21:38
Flydiver, I totally agree with your feelings, BUT.............any parent that thick is not going to listen to you. Sadly, in one ear and out the other..........
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Latest post on 06 July 2013 - 21:04
Apologies about the confusion. I'm used to having to take various shortcuts due to lack of some ingredients in this part of the world so I was only trying to offer some help. Sorry, didn't mean to sound critical, was just trying to clear up any confusion. And yes, watercress is the one thing I miss outside of Europe and North America. There really is no substitute for that wonderful fresh peppery taste!
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Latest post on 06 July 2013 - 20:35
If you have a balcony that has some shade you might be able to grow watercress there (it's too hot in direct sun to grow most things). Another option is indoors. Dubai Garden Centre on SZR might have seeds and watercress seeds can actually grow on damp cotton wool in a dish indoors. Are you sure you are not confusing watercress with "cress".............watercress needs to grow in running water. "Cress" aka "Mustard and cress" can be grown on wet paper but it is a totally different plant, in fact not so much a plant but sprouts. Any recipe calling for watercress does not mean cress.
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Latest post on 06 July 2013 - 20:25
Horrific.... Unfortunately i think there will be quite a few casualties. Sadly it's hard not to think otherwise, but miracles do happen.
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Latest post on 06 July 2013 - 20:21
Very frightening, hope there aren't too many serious casualties.
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Latest post on 06 July 2013 - 20:19
I would employ less staff. So many shops here have too much staff and a lot are not given proper training. How about spending more money on training staff or employing staff with the right experience/skills? Or perhaps employers should remember the old adage......"you get what you pay for".
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Latest post on 04 July 2013 - 21:12
That;s good news shaks, been thinking about you since this all kicked off. And keep us posted, news "from the front" is always really interesting. Trishx
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Latest post on 04 July 2013 - 17:54
When an institution like the army removes the democratically elected leader and suspends the constitution, it is called a military coup. edited by fjcruiser on 04/07/2013 edited by fjcruiser on 04/07/2013 People don't always get what they thought they were voting for. Look at 20th century history of Europe, if a military coup in Germany had removed a certain democratically elected leader, millions of lives world wide would have been saved. Calling something democratic doesn't necessarily bode well. I sincerely hope that Egypt can hold things together for long enough to find a more inclusive middle road path to a government fair to all the people. Stay safe shaks!
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Latest post on 04 July 2013 - 11:46
There should be a thread like "Overheard in McD's" ..........for repairmen's excuses. I was once told the reason our (new) oven didn't heat properly was because " it's a SLOOOW oven, Madam". Actually they hadn't adjusted the inlet pressure correctly..........which we discovered AFTER we had binned the bl00dy thing. And the cooker hood .............."oh Madam, these models do not suck in air".................well after DH took it to pieces and extracted the handbook from the interior................it magically worked. I could go on, the water pressure (leaking valve of course)............"Water pressure not strong in Springs". This was all in the first month of living in a brand new Springs villa. It happens here sometimes, same thing, come up with an excuse rather than a cause for a problem. We had dreadful damp in one room , all the builder could come up with was "it was ok until they built the house next door". Oh that's all right then.................like the leaking roof.............."Oh but Mrs Trish, it rains a lot in the winter in this village". Took them two hundred years to figure that out? You just have to laugh weakly.............and go and lie down in a darkened room.
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Latest post on 04 July 2013 - 11:29
Hi LivelyTrish My Dad has just given me this info: Perguia which is near Coral Bay in the Paphos region This I think, may be different, (sorry I am clueless about Cyprus). Same place, Greek alphabet can translate in many ways, especially in Cyprus. The consensus of opinion recommends DJ Rocky (Panicos) tel 0035799611698... his website is www.iwantataxicyprus.com Hope this helps!
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Latest post on 03 July 2013 - 21:43
Hi, sorry I can't remember your username! I hope you can help, I am needing a driver from near Pathos to Larnaca, do you happen to know of any reliable taxi service companies I could contact for a quote? Thanks so much, P x Where exactly near Paphos......let me know and I'll get back to you tomorrow, our chap is good but we are outside Paphos, if you can give me the name of the village I can ask friends for the best bet, there are some real cowboys out there! Hi, thanks so much for replying. it's in an area called: peyia Tomorrow is absolutely fine - thanks x Oh ok,,,,,,,,,,,,we are the other side of Paphos (closer to Limassol) but I know people there who do know the best taxis,,,,,,,,,,as I said will post tomorrow with details.
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Latest post on 03 July 2013 - 21:21
Hi, sorry I can't remember your username! I hope you can help, I am needing a driver from near Pathos to Larnaca, do you happen to know of any reliable taxi service companies I could contact for a quote? Thanks so much, P x Where exactly near Paphos......let me know and I'll get back to you tomorrow, our chap is good but we are outside Paphos, if you can give me the name of the village I can ask friends for the best bet, there are some real cowboys out there!
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Latest post on 03 July 2013 - 21:01
Migraines affect everyone differently, I personally feel very "distant" but at the same time extremely oversensitive to sound, light and scents, the nausea kicks in with the pain and the severe visual disturbances (flashing lights and distorted vision). The OP's symptoms do seem to have some symptoms in common with a migraine, but it's impossible to tell for sure. Also from my experience and that of others I' have known, migraines do seem to start to occur at puberty and continue at regular intervals, they aren't random one off events. They are usually self limiting, 24 to 36 hours max......best go check with a doc if the symptoms continue longer or occur again.
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Latest post on 03 July 2013 - 20:11
Bedlinen is like pans, the better (and more expensive) the longer they last, White company if you can get them at a decent discount are fantastic, they last and feel good for years.
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Latest post on 03 July 2013 - 16:21
From what I have heard it is 50 - 50 you get half of his and he gets half of yours. I guess he is implementing that now :( edited by pollydxb1 on 03/07/2013 Once you return to the UK, if he stays here it gets more difficult with a divorce My friends ex BH lives here and he doesn't pay a penny to her back home and the UK courts could not do anything, even if he sets foot back in the UK she cannot claim anything from him as the court orders could not be enforced as he is no longer a UK resident :-( But he's not paying her anything in UAE.........in fact, he is, "bleeding her dry". Seriously it sounds as though he is calling all the shots, or as I said before, bullying. Oh and there are worse things in life than not getting maintenance...............like being trapped at the whim of a bully. OP......get a lawyer's advice.even just one hour's time should be enough to clarify your position- NOW. If there any one in your family who can lend you the funds? Have you any jewellry you can sell? Then go home, pretty sure you can get Legal aid there........if you have no funds, and then wait for him to bring your DD back into UK. You might have to be really devious, lulling him into thinking you are giving up, but once you are back home you will be in a much stronger position. Oh.and keep a record, even if it is just a diary, or letters to family of everything he says or does. Again, good luck,
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Latest post on 03 July 2013 - 14:42
Brunchgoddess, your DH is using the threat of Sharia law to bully you into submission. You are both Brits, you married in UK, yes? You need to see a UK qualified lawyer NOW. If he is preventing you from taking your child out of the country, but planning on taking her back to the UK in the future you need to play clever and have your own ducks in a row, once she is back in UK jurisdiction you can put your own travel ban in place pending a UK custody hearing. Just don't let him know you are planning that, and in the meantime get legal advice soonest to clarify your rights back home. Once you have done that and he takes her back, be ready act legally. In the meantime play dumb and suck it up..........he is not the first European husband I know of, to have pulled this stunt, he obviously feels he holds more cards here as a male and a sponsor, the UK courts will not view that kindly. Good luck. <em>edited by Livelytrish on 03/07/2013</em>
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Latest post on 02 July 2013 - 22:13
Quoting Lovelytrish "get a friend in the same situation"... BUILDING ON from this, "preferably one who isn't as attractive and has RaeALLY struggled to lose the baby weight" :D Joking! All of my friends here were still single so they got better looking as they tried to snag husbands as I became baby left overs o_O It did get better as I got scheduled and my kids grew up. I then went and had a third when the eldest two had reached that nice age everyone tells you about so I'm back at messy hair times as I have long hair an don't always have the time to brush it properly! Get an easy hair style Have blush, mascara and foundation on hand (use foundation on the eyes but less on the rest of the face) Get bubba involved (carriers help, but my arms toned nicely, we'll sort of, with dependant DD) Find a baby salsa class or similar style Meet friends in baby friendly places (not forever but yes for now if you don't have help) There are lots of little things you'll learn along the way, I was so much more unorganised with one than I am with three! (Of course with three you have two older helpers for the 'grab me that' or 'play with him while I have a shower (still with the door open)' privileges :) You'll be fine. I too shall watch this thread for handy tips though :) Ha ha...............well back in those days i really was "Lovelytrish"................so it never occurred to me to worry about my friends!!!! But seriously, back in my day daycare was not the norm, in fact nurseries barely existed so mutual self help was the only way unless there were family members around.
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Latest post on 02 July 2013 - 20:13
Being a mum means not being able to close the loo door for a LONG time. But that passes. In the meantime, try to either get a friend in the same situation to swap baby patrol for a few hours, that worked for me and a friend when we were trying to finish theses .............. or get your DH to take over for the odd weekend afternoon to let you go to a salon. And remember, there will be many more years when you can pamper yourself............waiting for the little darlings to phone. There is no magic trick , you just have to change habits for a few years. <em>edited by Livelytrish on 02/07/2013</em>
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Latest post on 02 July 2013 - 16:20
Some of us expats have paid into the system most or even all of our working lives, tax and NI.............and remained abroad on retirement. I don't think the numbers of expats in that category are doing to exactly swamp the system, it really irks me to think that people who have moved to UK from other countries can immediately claim on the basis of a few months tax, and in many cases, no contributions at all. Personally I am still fortunate enough to be able to pay for health insurance, but here in Cyprus there are many Brits who are living on very limited incomes, and ironically many of those have spent their entire working lives overseas on behalf of HM forces. The government was also happy enough to take a healthy chunk of any UK investment income, not to mention in my case nearly forty years of tax and NI ..............
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Latest post on 30 June 2013 - 15:56
For live-out, as for people who say they have left their maids with their passports, it is a case of sponsor beware, they have no additional recourse in the event the maid does get caught in illegal positions. True, I guess. People who are above these laws are equivalent to the people above the drug laws in other countries. Incidentally they ten to be the first to cry poor me/woe is me when the law catches up with them. Many tax countries are burdened with the poor me druggies who later face health issues the government has to pay to treat, or pay for their drugs as they do not have time to get jobs. edited by AmyAus82 on 30/06/2013 Oh please...............on that basis illegal parking is morally equivalent to drug dealing. I think I'll bale out of this discussion now and get back to reality. Good afternoon ladies.
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Latest post on 30 June 2013 - 13:43
no - it's illegal. and yes you can get in trouble. and also *** with her bf is illegal (which i am presuming she is partaking in) I asked on another thread if anyone actually KNEW of an employer who had actually been penalised for the misdemeanors of an sponsored employee. We all aware that technically it is the law, but does it happen in practice as proposed to rumour? And I am specifically excluding cases of working part time for a non sponsor.............
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Latest post on 29 June 2013 - 12:40
I posted on here a few weeks ago to recommend this company............my DD bought a Fendi bag from them online after I spotted it on their site (having seen their ad on EW) and they shipped it to her home in NYC..........she is delighted both with the bag and the service.
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Latest post on 28 June 2013 - 23:28
I seem to have unintentionally started a bit of a debate on this issue, apologies. My intention is to absolutely respect the local customs, hence why I asked the question in the first place as I was unsure as to 'special circumstances'. Am certain no one would 'clobber' a very pregnant lady over the head for having a sip of water in public. However, I shall hide away in designated or appropriate non fasting areas until Ramadan is over. Thank you for all your replies, much appreciated. And it would have been better if you had been given more tempered advice, There are plenty of discreet places to eat and drink in public venues, for exempt Muslims and non Muslims alike, some mall cafes and most hotels have screened off areas and it is perfectly possible to go about everyday life without offending anyone. To suggest otherwise is frankly quite wrong and unhelpful. All that is required is consideration for others and a little common sense...........on both sides. <em>edited by Livelytrish on 28/06/2013</em>
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Latest post on 28 June 2013 - 21:48
LT I should hope that you do not decide what is a suitable age to start fasting. Most children start between 7 and 9 years old. I had no idea that was the debate. And I would not even begin to enter into it, that is an issue between the child, their parents and their deity.
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Latest post on 28 June 2013 - 21:45
Does anyone have a link where it actually says who can eat in public and who cannot? Some people are saying it is fine. Others like me are saying it is not. Is it officially declared anywhere? Try the Quran, Chapter 2 , Revelation 185. It is quite specific, I think. That is about those exempt from fasting................ HTH. edited by Livelytrish on 28/06/2013 I know who is exempt from fasting. I am just wondering what the UAE's stance is on who can eat in public besides young children. It should be written somewhere because I remember reading in previous years that people were fined for eating in public. It would be good to have clear guidelines... I read those reports also, the offenders were not in the exempt categories, They were blatantly breaking Islamic law, not to mention being inconsiderate and rude. There are however an increasing number of posters on this forum who seem to take delight in frightening new posters from different backgrounds and faiths with scare stories about living in the region. It does neither the site nor the host country any favours. Tolerance and mutual respect goes a long way.
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Latest post on 28 June 2013 - 21:14
Does anyone have a link where it actually says who can eat in public and who cannot? Some people are saying it is fine. Others like me are saying it is not. Is it officially declared anywhere? Try the Quran, Chapter 2 , Revelation 185. It is quite specific, I think. That is about those exempt from fasting................ HTH. <em>edited by Livelytrish on 28/06/2013</em>
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 28 June 2013 - 18:25
I really do think it is disrespectful to eat or drink in public, regardless of pregnancy. I do remember a time where anyone would be clobbered over the head for drinking in public. I have never heard that it is ok, perhaps people are more lenient now, but do remember that it is hard for fasting children to see others quenching their thirsts. I will not be dragged into a debate on this, there will always be people who say that their local friends don't mind it, well that does not mean that it is not illegal, nor does it mean that it is okay to do so. edited by AnneCoulter on 28/06/2013 edited by AnneCoulter on 28/06/2013 Sorry AnneCoulter but children should NOT be fasting. Nor should pregnant women.....nor the unwell nor the menstruating woman and not even the traveller. Not a question of leniency nor legality, just doctrinal FACT. Use a little discretion and respect the feelings of others certainly, but do not be bullied by bad behaviour from others..............clobbering over the head indeed!!! <em>edited by Livelytrish on 28/06/2013</em>
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Latest post on 27 June 2013 - 19:47
And I too have had the comments of how I must be an Mazing parent because my kids are so well behaved and then I have had people give me evil looks because my kids are out of control other days. They are just kids and bottom line there is no magic way to raise them and no one way to do things that works 100 percent of the time. Everyone has their own method and opinion and I've never met a perfect child or even a parent who claims to have one so I can't really shoot down anyone else parenting style any more than I can praise my own. ShannonB, we all just have to wing it, and hope we are doing our best, and that the little darlings forgive us later for the mistakes we make. My eldest is 43 and so far he hasn't come gunning for me, or written a MisLit memoir about Mommy Dearest. The thing I do worry about though are those people who write BabyBibles........ and fool vulnerable new parents into thinking they are workable handbooks.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 27 June 2013 - 19:25
I recently posted on my Facebook about my youngest spitting and asked if anyone's kids had done that and how they stopped it and said that time out isnt an option cuz I thought he was too young to understand. And every single person. Probably 20 people said to pop him some even said they popped theirs in the mouth when they did it.... Not suggesting anyone to pop in the mouth or trying to stir things up just giving an example of how it is normal where I come from. That's all a little worrying. I spent quite a lot of time in your part of the world about 35 years ago and was surprised at some of the accepted child rearing styles, especially in the Bible belt areas. I had hoped things had moved on. (And ironically enough, my children were the wonder of everyone they met, I was continually asked the secret of my "good parenting"..............not that they were (or are perfect) but the little brutes were always very good at putting on a show in public!!!! However, I did encounter some parenting behaviour I would have had no hesitation in reporting in the UK.
 
 
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