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Latest post on 05 August 2014 - 11:06
Dear Red, how much does your husband earn? I have an offer on 40 000 AED per year and I'm not sure if that would be enough, it seems like a lot of money but when you put it like this... I'd have to pay for schooling and rent by myself as well. Do you mean 40,000 per year or per month? Would you be the main/sole wage earner? Advice would be different depending on your answers. sorry, of course it is per month, my mistake. And I would be the sole earner for the first time being (my husband will help the kids with the school etc...). He might look for a job later, in a couple of months. Is this with housing and schooling allowance or a set salary where you have to fund everything from it? What age are your children and what sort of schools do you want them to attend?
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Latest post on 05 August 2014 - 11:03
Thank you so much Geordie , FairyDust and FairyDust.. I called again and it is really cheaper to have GP. I will go for it. Thank you so much! :D Just book in to see a good GP like Dr Carol Smiley at Mirdiff, you we be so relived you did and that you found such a fab doctor.
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Latest post on 03 August 2014 - 12:00
Best to buy online from Amazon/Ebay or get people to bring them back from Europe. I can not believe this craze has not hit Dubai and how unprepared the shops are here. In Europe they are everywhere! And i mean everywhere, every shop you walk in they are being sold! It's the number one craze and toy running in the world at present, yet there is nothing here! ' If you you tube you can find some great tutorials and things to make, mine love it and have made some amazing things to date. So far the only place i have found is in MCC, the little shop on the corner near the Bowling/Little Explorers place has a some mega packs available.
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Latest post on 03 August 2014 - 11:52
Hi Red, Welcome to Dubai. I hope in a few weeks that things look up for you and that the following tips help, remember that this is the hardest time of year to be here, in a few months the weather will be cool and will hopefully bring about a whole new outlook for you. 1. Drive your DH to work in the morning so you have the car for the day. 2. Stop being worried about your house - friends who would judge you on it are not friends! 3. Post what sort of job you are looking for (but also consider what you are going to do with your LOs. Maybe something like mystery shopping could work so you can be with LOs but a little bit of income coming in). 4. Get to some of the Mums/Tots meetups 5. Say where you are located (or pop up your email ad), I'm sure someone on here will be up for a natter and a cuppa! Following are a list of 20 low cost activities in Dubai for kids, some will be better for the cooler months but they are now only a couple of months away, or you could go later in the afternoon. :) 1. Public swimming pools at Mushrif Park/Mamzar Park (entrance fee for car is usually around 10 AED then 10 AED for the pool). 2. Mushrif Park has miles of cycle tracks, 10 AED for the car and there are donkeys, goats and little houses themed by different countries 3. Posh Paws petting farm, 10 AED entrance 4. Children's City Science centre, 15 AED entrance and you can stay all day (includes a soft play area & planetarium) 5. Late afternoon at the beach & shwarma picnic, 5 AED per shwarma 6. Some of the malls do these free 'shows' during Summer, (often they don't start til 4pm), but can be worth it if your LOs are into that sort of thing! For example the Transformers are at Burjuman. http://www.dubaiprnetwork.com/pr.asp?pr=90450 7. JBR beachfront is lovely now for a wander and have a look at the huge sandcastles, Burj Khalifa etc 8. A trip to the fountains at Dubai Mall is free and fun to sit outside and watch. 9. Nad Al Sheba Cycle Park 10. Any of the parks, there are loads of smaller free ones too. 11. Dubai Sports World (can go with scooters etc) at the Trade Centre, this says it is free, not sure but anyway will be v cheap if not free. http://www.timeoutdubai.com/sportandoutdoor/events/17310-dubai-sports-world#.U92kGPmSwXs 12. There is a lovely library at the top of MOE - register and go for an outing and pick up some nice books. They also do weekly story time for children but prob only when term starts again. http://www.theoldlibrary.ae/ 13. One of the cinemas does half price tickets one day a week, I think it's Reel Cinemas on a Tuesday but would need to investigate! 14. Al Nasr Leisureland (Ice Skating, Bowling etc) is much cheaper than other places http://www.alnasrll.com/rates.php 15. Sharjah Aquarium is a fraction of Dubai costs - http://www.sharjahaquarium.ae/Contact_Us.htm 16. Sharjah Wildlife Centre, free for kids and 15 AED for an adult http://www.sharjahtourism.ae/en/heritage/museums/sharjah-desert-park 17. Sharjah Discovery Centre, 10 AED for adults and 5 AED for kids http://www.sharjahtourism.ae/en/heritage/museums/sharjah-discovery-centre 18. Sharjah Natural History Museum, free for kids and 15 AED for adults http://www.sharjahtourism.ae/en/heritage/museums/sharjah-natural-history-and-botanical-museum 19. an afternoon at the airport watching the planes take off (take a picnic for the kids and buy yourself a coffee!) 20.take a drive out the desert and watch some camel racing (free). Hope that gives you some ideas. :) TB with the best intentions and a great list but lets get real this woman has 3 kids under 4, to get them up and about to take DH to work is a nightmare.
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Latest post on 03 August 2014 - 11:50
I just don't know why BA are not following what all the other airlines are doing with their routing. Re fear of flying, you are just going to have to get a grip I'm afraid and stop worrying about something you have no control over.
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Latest post on 03 August 2014 - 11:44
Walk away and find another apartment.
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Latest post on 03 August 2014 - 11:43
I would make sure you actually visit any previous employers and ask questions that the nanny may embellish the answers to when she is asked. I would also consider a nursery with western staff if baby is to be left all day as you are returning to work. I would also ask about her medical status and that did she have any issues being on camera? so you can set up web cams all over the house.
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Latest post on 03 August 2014 - 11:37
As the men have taken a fancy to the cats and are obviously looking after them why not approach the company and see if they would pay to have the kittens vaccinated, wormed and neutered? Then the cats can stay, be looked after but not reproduce or die of a horrible disease? Why not call FF and ask of there are any vet practices that would do a special deal on the 4 kittens? I know the Vet hospital is always helping out in such cases but other vets are as well. Maybe a visit to a few of the clinics asking if they could help out with vaccinations and neutering at a cost price? TBH i do not agree with advice given to stop feeding them at 4 weeks old, the men are correct. To stop looking after them is a death sentence and probably a pretty miserable one. If this is the route to be taken it would be far kinder to take them to a proper vets and ask for them to be euthanized. These sadly are your choices. Be responsible and get them vaccinated and neutered and look after them as long as they survive (ie not being hit by a car) or take them and have them euthanized. If you can get hold of the mama cat she also needs to go and be neutured, pregnant or not or be euthanized. The reality is no one is going to do anything for nothing, and the shelters and fosters are full up to the brim. There is a huge stray/domestic pets being dumped issue and as an individual/society a decision has to be made as to whether to do something or let nature take it's course. Thank you for posting and caring. <em>edited by Lolacat on 03/08/2014</em>
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Latest post on 01 August 2014 - 17:24
I would think very hard about having any treatment where there is no recourse. So many disaster stories, so many ruined for life.
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Latest post on 01 August 2014 - 17:23
Squash them and put them in the recycling bin.
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Latest post on 01 August 2014 - 17:21
Reconsider your maid nationality choice.
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Latest post on 30 July 2014 - 18:25
The downside is obvious;money! Everything costs more and as soon as you go over three traveling becomes very expensive.
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Latest post on 30 July 2014 - 18:24
I know of a family, not sure if Sydney though. presently they are their hols, when they return i will ask for you, could be a while though. Perhaps send a mail to the school (registrar) and ask if their are any other international boarders from this region or transiting through Dubai.
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Latest post on 30 July 2014 - 18:22
Without hesitation get her to Moorfields Dubai. They are excellent and have some first class people. I would book in with whoever you can asap and be referred as per their recommendation. At least you will know then if there is an issue or an impending one. http://www.moorfields.ae/en/Team/Orthoptists/Katy.aspx Has she seen a good GP also for a blood test? Dr Carol Smiley is around at Healthbay polyclinic at Mirdiff and is again excellent.
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Latest post on 29 July 2014 - 08:54
Apologies if this is a silly question. If weight allowance is 1 bag per person @ 23kg, and there are two passengers travelling but only carrying one bag @ 30kg, is this allowed? Or do you have to take two bags and separate the luggage. Thanks. NO! If the weight allowance is 23KG that is per bag per person not a joint effort! use two bags.
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Latest post on 29 July 2014 - 08:51
Hardly urgent! Why would you not ask who you are staying with this question and their permission to use such equipment? I would be furious if a house guest started attaching equipment to areas of my house without asking first.
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Latest post on 29 July 2014 - 08:49
We have recently rescued a German Shepherd dog and it looks like she's staying with us...that being said, we don't want to keep her in the house and the Dubai heat is too hot for her...we already have a portable AC unit for her but we need to find a reasonably priced Kennel / small shed to install. Does anyone have one for sale or know where we can buy one, thank you very much. Why don't you want her in the house? Is this a family pet or a working dog?
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Latest post on 29 July 2014 - 08:45
I guess it depends on how you see things. A lot of people keep their national dress here whereas it would not be tolerated elsewhere. Also, lots of men walk around wearing makeup here. In my home country, that would be sure to raise eyebrows. I have met Jews living in this country with no issues... What land is this you speak of?
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Latest post on 27 July 2014 - 17:05
they get comfortable and start to throw their weight around - I would flat out say if she was having a problem working for you / under your terms you could let her off the hook if she thought she'd get it better elsewhere. That might put her in her place. Why not offer to pay her more for working the Eid days? That might make it more appealing (?) Seriously? This is the year 2014!
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Latest post on 27 July 2014 - 17:02
The whole things sounds dodgy. How can you sponsor a maid if she is married living out the house? Also, holiday entitlement is every year, if not taken you pay for the flight cost as cash. EID, public holiday so should be accounted for at some point, it's not inclusive of her annual holiday it's additional. like any public holiday. You can either give her another day off, pay her extra or give her the time off. You must record and both sign every decision made for both your protection. All holidays and salary should have been discussed and placed in contract prior to employment start, one can not randomly decide whether you are giving holiday one year and not another! She is entitled to her holiday and it is quite outrageous for her to be told she would have a month of doing nothing, what someone does on their holiday is their business and irrelevant to an employer/employee conversation. Put the shoe on the other foot for a moment. This is why there are laws, rules, regulations and contracts. You deem the job cushy, yet she still works over 8 hours a day. whether you deem it cushy and well paid is completely irrelevant as to her contractual entitlements and the law. As for she teared up, why would you need thoughts from a random group of strangers on a public forum? You were there, you should know your maid and you are a mother, what exactly do you want someone to tell you? <em>edited by Lolacat on 27/07/2014</em>
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Latest post on 27 July 2014 - 14:30
I would have thought 2 was a little young for suspenders! lol Do you mean braces? Maybe try Marks and Spencers or online?
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Latest post on 27 July 2014 - 14:27
thank you all , i got it from sixt but higher than usual rate Great news, do try negotiating as well, sometimes you can negotiate an upgrade or something else.
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Latest post on 27 July 2014 - 13:05
Posters should be careful what they write in their posts, just becareful. Never heard of this company but wow they must be one of the most expensive out there, 50 dhs an hour? Loads of my friends use this company and never have any issues. http://www.homesafe.ae/homesafe-blog/index.html
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Latest post on 27 July 2014 - 12:55
Why don't you save some money and just do some reading and light maths/English with your child. There is lots on the internet you can download, worksheets, ideas. You could also make learning fun and incorporate it into activities you can do together, even doing the shopping together you can easily use maths (money, weighting, space, shapes). There is Mathnasium as well, there are some links on EW education page that may help.
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Latest post on 27 July 2014 - 12:49
mosquitoes and not to touch stray animals!
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Latest post on 27 July 2014 - 12:44
Everywhere has sales in some form.
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Latest post on 27 July 2014 - 12:43
http://www.sixt.co.uk/rental-services/rental-information/ http://blog.novacarhire.com/2007/09/13/driving-your-hire-car-across-borders/ Companies such as Sixt will do it for a fee, but you need to speak directly to them (link above).
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Latest post on 27 July 2014 - 12:42
My DD would say Dr. John McEwan is excellent. Removed tonsils and adenoids of her DS last year and absolutely no complaints. He is now treating her DH and does investigate to get to the root cause of problems. Second Dr John McEwan, used him for years, brilliant ENT.
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Latest post on 24 July 2014 - 18:42
LD, Site looks fine and reputable, yes 971 is the country code here. Good luck with interview, finding work for you will be easier than your DH but will not pay so well. You can sponsor your family as the wife if the company supports you in that process and you earn enough. You need to be taking home either one of you or both combined a min of 30K AED plus a month if not more depending on benefits. If you do a search on here there are a few threads with figures that can help you, if not set up another thread with questions. Remember, medical insurance (x 3), Rent, Car, Water & Electric (DEWA), Housing tax, School fees, etc just as a starter guide. 30k a month may sound lots but actually if you have to pay rent and school fees out of that it's really not much.
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Latest post on 24 July 2014 - 18:25
I never realized buying a suitcase was so complicated. Just go to one of the big supermarkets and buy some. me neither - husband just bought a new one in Carrefour An EW first i think? lol
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Latest post on 24 July 2014 - 18:20
Also try a google for other *British expat* forums that cover that area, there may be more traffic.
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Latest post on 24 July 2014 - 18:19
I never realized buying a suitcase was so complicated. Just go to one of the big supermarkets and buy some.
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Latest post on 24 July 2014 - 18:18
Look at Dubai Silicon Oasis, drive around the area. Also there are flats at Festival city, not sure on cost though. There is Mirdiff and surrounding area as well.
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Latest post on 24 July 2014 - 18:16
LannyDuff, your enthusiasm is overwhelming, BUT please please research very very carefully. Please note ; There are fraudulent recruiters, please do an intensive check and do not pay any money ever. You need to sit down and work out living costs and salary required to live, the cost of living in here is very expensive. DO not move your family here until a job is signed and sealed, do not disrupt your DD education and life on the hope that you will just find a job. As soon as you are on the ground here you are likely to come under what is known as local contract, which means your package will be much smaller. Most of all remember this is a country where debt is no laughing matter, research well. RESEARCH IS THE KEY. For construction jobs, look all over the world.
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Latest post on 24 July 2014 - 18:08
The Catherine Tate sketch is worth a chuckle, very funny.
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Latest post on 23 July 2014 - 20:53
I saw this the other day, maybe an idea if she is available. There is a course running from Aug 9th. http://www.thegyem.org
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Latest post on 23 July 2014 - 20:47
Wow, it goes on. Really delusional behavior. So sad she is preying on those who are desperate and vulnerable, good on the GN for chasing this up before any more get too hurt.
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Latest post on 23 July 2014 - 20:44
You can not go wrong with either a Nissan or Toyota, re sale is strong and they last forever! Drive both and see which you prefer.
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Latest post on 23 July 2014 - 20:38
It's awful how many people are being killed... I am happy that at least in the Netherlands the victims are getting the respect and dignity they deserve. In other places in the world funeral processions get bombed. Sometimes I just want to switch everything off and go sit under a rock so I can avoid the news. Yes, if only the world would just stop turning for a minute and a few heads could be banged together in order to see some sense. It was also moving that villagers near the crash site in eastern Ukraine have held their own memorial for the victims of flight MH17. They too are innocent and this must have been terribly distressing for them.
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Latest post on 23 July 2014 - 20:33
I have to say I am quite proud of my compatriots. So much respect is shown for the victims, they are lining the roads, and cars on the opposite side of the road are actually slowing down and coming to a complete stop until the cars have passed by entirely. Beautiful. Agree.
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Latest post on 23 July 2014 - 20:32
It really has been the most terrible two weeks, all we see in the international news is innocent children injured or dead. Whatever the circumstances i just wish children would not be involved, it's heartbreaking. The live feed from the Netherlands was so incredibly moving, who could not shed a tear? And yet more tragedy; another plane has gone down (accident) in Taiwan, with yet more deaths. And to cap it off two military jets are being reported shot down in the same area as the MH17 in less than a week! Needless wars, needless deaths.....when will it end. LT thank you for posting
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Latest post on 23 July 2014 - 20:25
Good grief, why would anyone red thumb my post on a subject like this? Never have a problem with anyone disagreeing with me, but really? I'm appalled that anyone could thumb down such a post, in fact admin should disable the thumb thing for this thread.
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Latest post on 23 July 2014 - 15:14
When a worker falls foul of the law the employer disciplines the worker. But how many employers here dictate what a worker should be wearing [b'>outside the workplace or at home?[/b'> If the OP is concerned about whether the maid is bringing someone over or not, a camera would be the most logical solution. edited by Arch on 23/07/2014 As mentioned earlier outside workplace I do not care what she wears, but at home I do care [b'>because it is "inside workplace" for her[/b'>. I decided to have a chat with her this afternoon and tell her that she can wear whatever she wants outside but at least dress modestly when she is going out and coming back home " the workplace" It's also her HOME !! Home, then she must respect the rules of the house like all other members of the house.
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Latest post on 23 July 2014 - 15:12
Lolacat, some Western expats are in the privileged position of working in jobs which are highly skilled and their expertise highly paid. Obviously, if an employee is failing to obey the law or is failing to perform well at work, that will have serious repercussions, irrespective of pay grade. But in the case under discussion, there is no suggestion of illegal behaviour. It's laughable to suggest that international companies routinely scrutinise the sartorial choices of their employees at the weekend for no reason. As anybody who has been here more than five seconds knows, the experience of maids as opposed to professionals in the workforce is barely comparable. Professionals with international skills and the consequent mobility which this brings versus domestic help from impoverished countries? Maids are in the unenviable position of working in unskilled jobs where they are seen as disposable and they often live with their employer, subjecting them to 24 hour scrutiny. I am grateful that I come from the kind of privileged background which means I don't have to walk in their shoes and I never cease to be amazed by some of the attitudes exhibited towards maids. This has nothing to do with social class, it has to do with employment and boundaries. If an employer requests modesty and respectful behaviour whilst out of working hours of their employee then the employee has to honour those requests regardless of who they are. And every employee is disposable when under employed regardless of education, class or nationality, anyone who has been employed should understand that. Regarding illegal, well that is a moot point. Dressing like a hooker certainly breaches modesty laws here, regardless of nationality. Having a relationship with another of the opposite *** outside of marriage is not legal. Why should maids be treated any different to any other employee? The attitudes you speak of are yours. The reality is that any employee who brings an employer into disrepute through poor behaviour is at risk of legal implications.
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Latest post on 23 July 2014 - 12:40
No adult xxxx rated stuff, everything else is fine.
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Latest post on 23 July 2014 - 12:39
Really, keep it simple and no doubt your school will inform you of what is to be learnt. You can look up the British curriculum and primary school websites via google, but relax and let your child enjoy school!
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Latest post on 23 July 2014 - 12:36
The dentists at Dubai London Clinic are brilliant with kids/adults etc.
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Latest post on 23 July 2014 - 12:32
How long has this maid been with you? If she has been a good employee for, let's say 5 years, I'd let it slide. But if she has only been with you a few months, I would be concerned... she has been with me for 5 months now, she usually leaves thursday afternoon and come back friday night. and yes I am concerned about the way she dresses and behaves because she is taking care of my son when I am at work and I do not want her to end up bringing someone to the house while we are at work. I am sure she is dating someone, however it is not my business, what I care about is the safety of my son and not to get my DH into a trouble since he is her sponsor. PS: and I also know that as per UAE law , she is suppose to dress modestly. You are the employer not her friend, set the boundaries and enforce them or get rid of her, it is clear you do not respect her or trust her.
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Latest post on 23 July 2014 - 12:28
Threads like this are interesting because they demonstrate how some people believe they have a right to dictate every detail of someone else's life, including what she wears during her one day off, simply because she mops their floor. I wouldn't want a total stranger living with me and would certainly never wish to be in the onerous situation of controlling every aspect of this stranger's behaviour. Having a maid is a huge responsibility and it seems that often it's an adversarial one. At least judging by some of the stuff you read on this forum. Are you employed? Because if you are and your employer deems any of your behavior outside of the work place unacceptable you will be disciplined. This is the reality of the working world, regardless of whether one is a domestic or a top executive. There is nothing complicated about employing a domestic, the complications come when the relationship dynamics are confused and employers don't set their expectations down clearly from the start.
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Latest post on 23 July 2014 - 11:07
yes. Do you let her stay out at the weekends? IF you do,perhaps monitor her social media - as this doesn't sound like the behavoiur of a happily married woman. And how is a happily married woman supposed to dress and behave? She's 36 - not 60! well taking selfies and posting on all sorts of social media is the behaviour of someone wanting / needing lots of attention... for sure she will be getting it at the weekends if you let her walk around looking like a hooker. And who are you to judge how people dress??? Please, live and let live! naive, how people dress is judged and live and let live has no place in the world of employees.