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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 21:50
Life's far too short to be overly dramatic all the time.
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Latest post on 05 November 2013 - 21:49
google The Music Box facebook page Dubai and give them a call, they have some terrific guitar instructors and two locations.
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Latest post on 04 November 2013 - 12:08
I got one for my eldest but not my youngest and they're at different schools !! At my youngest's school we were told we don't all have to fill them in... (I usually forget anyway !! lol) but there were some spares if we wanted to... As per the survey, parents responses and the inspection they are big catalysts to give schools reviews that allow them to rise the fees! my younger child is dismissed at 1 PM, only 1 PE class per week, 1 music class per week, 1 arts class per week, no swimming for him and more fees paid this year - comparing my elder with the younger, and been on a waiting list for the waiting room to pick the younger at 2 PM, as 2 school pick ups killed me, and if the parent is late for the late pick up 3 times, the child is literally kicked out of the waiting room and must be picked up at 1 PM and won't be allowed to be in the waiting room! So I have my share of complains against the school With all due respect i do not think having different pick up times is a particularly valid complaint. Having one session of the aforementioned subjects is now common practice in most schools here who have had to accommodate the requirements for Arabic and Islamic lessons without expanding the school week or day. Every school is facing this dilemma, something has to give. When childhood obesity is on the rise and associated diseases one pe lesson a week especially in primary is IMHO is a real concern when it comes to the big picture.
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Latest post on 04 November 2013 - 12:02
I don't think that the survey should be based on the eldest child if the school is split into two sections or more. Most primaries and seniors are run by different Heads/SMT and are completely different with different issues and concerns. If i give a poor survey result against the senior section it is highly unfair to say the junior section which i may be very happy with. I'm sure many are in the same boat be it vice versa etc. How anyone compare say early years to a 6th form? They are both totally different in soo many ways.
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Latest post on 30 October 2013 - 09:50
From what I'[ve read elsewhere Cedre Villas and Semmer villas. The cats are just being covered in fuel - which will burn their skin anyway. It's peoples pets being targeted from what I gather - not the strays. I don't live there, I don't have any other info, other than what I'm seeing on another forum. Can you direct us to which forum please, i'm really concerned. A quick google of silicon oasis dubai cats led me to the post on another forum, thank you for posting OP i will be on the look out as well. <em>edited by Lolacat on 30/10/2013</em>
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Latest post on 30 October 2013 - 09:45
OMG this is amazing, what a gift!
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Latest post on 30 October 2013 - 09:40
Well first time parents are an easy target and until you have more kids there is an argument you no nothing.............lol Use reverse psychology and ask for their advice on the most obscure questions or put your brave knickers on and say straight out that you are fed up. When you have teens you will be asking for advice! <em>edited by Lolacat on 30/10/2013</em>
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Latest post on 30 October 2013 - 09:34
Fairydust is this in a compound if so which one please? Or which area is this being found in please. Can you tell us more, how can you tell, how much damage to the cats and are they being set alight as well or is this just being poured over? One of our cats a while back had a burn on the back of his neck and i wondered how he had got it, thought he may have somehow burnt himself under a car? Now i am wondering. Has security and DSO been informed? Have spinneys and the shops that sell lighter fluid been informed? This is really terrible, any ideas as to who is doing it?
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Latest post on 22 October 2013 - 14:03
If you contact THE MUSIC BOX in DSO they have a new branch open in Jumeriah for music lessons and voice. Far more economical than most places and excellent results. https://www.facebook.com/themusicboxdubai
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Latest post on 22 October 2013 - 13:54
NO! It is not normal and very bad for the plant as exposes to disease and all sorts. DId your gardener use large shears? this sometimes happens. I would make sure you ask him to use proper equipment and get him to show you what he is using, if you don't like then change garden companies.
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Latest post on 22 October 2013 - 11:08
http://www.mackenzie-search.com/ I understand from a friend this firm is a specialist recruitment firm in the financial sector.
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Latest post on 22 October 2013 - 11:05
Also remember that however well you think you know people you never can know what really goes on in a house. Many fathers (and some mothers) have got away with abuse for years because they are nice people.
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Latest post on 22 October 2013 - 11:04
We don't have a child protection officer, theres a very good learning support team/counselors though. I have to say that I am very reluctant to go to another agency (say the school) for a very big reason that I don't feel I should say here. The Mum (and Dad) have a very good relationship with us, and all the concerns about childs behavior are discussed openly and in detail. I just haven't drawn attention to what I feel could be a connection between her other behaviours and these *games* and other things. And I guess, given I'm au fait with whats going on and their helplessness in trying to discipline the naughty behavior out of her then I'm in a very good position to do so. She will take me seriously, and I imagine will be absolutely horrified at the possible conclusion I've drawn. I hope to God I am wrong. Yes but it may explain her behaviour and they need to get outside help asap, perhaps suggest some trained therapists (western trained pref and female) who could help dig deeper and help the parents parent!
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Latest post on 22 October 2013 - 10:56
Why does she not just go to immigration and ask them in more detail. How on earth she is going to survive here on that salary i don't know.
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Latest post on 22 October 2013 - 10:51
I can not think of anything worse, why not take them to the Dubai mall section and organise a proper tour where the animals are kept in their environment. <em>edited by Lolacat on 22/10/2013</em>
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Latest post on 22 October 2013 - 10:49
ok. This will come up in normal natural conversation (the childs behaviours always do) and hopefully I will be able to gently suggest some help for her without it all turning into a horror fest. Even if it does, then maybe I will have planted a seed that will let them get to the bottom of it and get help for the girl. Thanks ladies. Sadly i think you have to sit the mother down and have a very serous chat about this girl and your observations. Any descent mother would be wanting to know and horrified at what you are saying and would investigate further. She needs to be informed, good on you.
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Latest post on 22 October 2013 - 10:38
As everyone else has said this is [b'>not normal[/b'> and suggests there is far more going on somewhere in this other girls life. For me i would be talking to someone at her school if the girls go to the same school, ie the child protection officer or head of pastoral care. You need to speak to someone with experience and age. I repeat THIS IS NOT NORMAL and indicates something is going on somewhere in this child's life that is not ok. Does this child have older siblings? Can you speak to the parents? I actually had a sort of similar issue last year (the school got involved as at school) and went straight to the teacher and it got resolved immediately. It was not as hard core as what you are describing but def verged on inappropriate for this age range. Always follow your gut instinct with these sorts of issues.
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Latest post on 16 October 2013 - 18:30
Thank you for all your kind responses. Yes, we were aware of an earthquake in Phillipines but hearing stories of how people 'try it on' in situations of adversity, I was sceptical - and still am however, and I mean however, she did send us the receipts of the passport (she has never travelled out of the country before and therefore, DH paid for her passport to be issued). An added concern for me now is the addition of the quality posts from others who mention without the use of an agency, it could be difficult for her to come into the country considering, it transpires, she knows no one here (letter of invite apparently) and no prior work experience. Please do not ask me why DH chose this particular girl - but I have to abide by his rules / thoughts unfortunately :-( I am just trying to fathom out if this is going to work by all parties. Did she send a photo?
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Latest post on 16 October 2013 - 18:28
This is as helpful as a dose of bedbugs but i have truly come to the conclusion it really does not matter what you do when it comes to elec/water bills (within reason). Every summer without fail ours are higher yet usage non existent. In answer to your question i wash everyday and use a dryer. I bought LG, why because i have found the servicing from LG excellent compared to other brands. Most modern appliances here are A rated nowadays, the more you pay for a good brand - long term will benefit you. ie my washer has quick wash and works it all out and does what it wants. There is no direct correlation between my usage to bill that i can find, ironic i know.
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Latest post on 16 October 2013 - 12:52
Oh the cynics! Could it be that this girl is just dirt poor? It was all over the news yesterday (as another said) that the Philippines was hit very hard by earthquakes and huge amounts of damage was done, hardly surprising buildings fell down is it? Her guilt so far is what? She's asked for advance help financially in trying to get to you to make a living for herself, to leave her home country and travel to a foreign land? She's provided receipts so she has not scammed you so far. So you send her a small amount of cash and what's the worst that can happen? You lose a little cash? I think some forget that there are people in this world who have nothing. Yes there are those who scam but there are many who are just in a bad place. Give what you can afford to lose. As for reliance on charities? Are people serious?
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Latest post on 13 October 2013 - 08:50
As MG says the reality is that Dubai is a new environment and a heavily populated one with many people traveling in and out all the time. This exposes residents to many different viruses then they would probably be used to in their home environment. Teaching good hygiene and being careful about what you eat and where from is paramount. There are certain times of the year in the ME that illness is rampant, it normally coincides with a change in the weather so many people tend to link the two. But really it is normally when travel and return is at it's peak, ie when school returns, Eid etc. Keeping your kids vaccinated and eating healthily with clean fresh water is paramount. But when a child is sick very often antibiotics are the only way to go as many chest issues turn into secondary bacterial issues. Younger children are especially prone to picking up bugs and it does seem as though they are continually sick, but they will get well and have a stronger immunity for it (eventually!).
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Latest post on 13 October 2013 - 08:42
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/scoliosis/DS00194/DSECTION=symptoms an interesting link, the Mayo clinic is world renowned for spinal problems.
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Latest post on 13 October 2013 - 08:35
Last week during the school medical, the nurse noticed by daughter (8 years old) had a mild curve in her spine and we should seek further medical advice. Within the next 24 hours, she has seen a spine specialist and been diagnosed as having scoliosis; her curve is already at 33 degrees. DD now needs to have a MRI scan and will need to wear a chest brace for the next few years, 23 hours a day. Surgery will be very likely in later years. Does anyone know of a family who had to deal with this situation? We are getting a second opinion, I understand she has scoliosis; it is the treatment I want to make sure we get right. We have been told it is 95% chance it will get worse. Thanks for any advice or guidance. Hiya, same story here, however we are taking a different route. Lil miss not only has scoliosis, but her spine curves forward in a curve over her pelvis. She has a right roller coaster going on! Decent size hump over her right shoulder. We were told surgery would be our only option. As they grow, with out treatment, remedial stuff..yes, it will get worse. Surgery is a last ditch option, and from what we have discovered, the brace *may* be needed as she hits the teens and has done most of her growing. In the mean time we see a chiropractor once very month/6 weeks...he has her xrays and he monitors and adjusts. Swim training, excellent as it exercises both sides of the body simultaneously; Yoga (Stotts in particular, if you can find it for kids) or Pilates. DON"T RUSH....research, take your time. Everyone is in too much of a hurry to do surgery here. Just out of interest have you taken her to the UK specialist center such as the NOH in Oxford for guidance? They are true miracle workers in many many fields.
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Latest post on 13 October 2013 - 08:28
I don't think it is shameful and am quite simply amazed anyone finds it so. This is a historical period drama and life for the servants was not always perfect. It is no different to the Bates storyline previously or Lady M's secret with the Turk. These things happened and there was nothing actually seen, just powerful acting with suggestion of what occurred, that i find well done. Downtown can not just be *lovely* every week, it has to have drama's and story lines in order to keep it on the TV and the viewings up. It hit the audience hard as it was A who is one of the characters the audience has in their minds built a great affinity with. What happens next will be fascinating, will they run with what actually would have happened in that era or not?
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Latest post on 12 October 2013 - 20:42
I just read an article today about a soloist (ballerina) who was diagnosed with Scoliosis as a child and was only allowed to take her back brace off for a bath and ballet as for 8 years. She is now one of the top up and coming soloists in the ballet world. Just to share that these things are sent to try us but where there is a will there is a way. I would always look for second and even third opinions, try looking to see if there are some forums that could help or organizations (UK or your home country) with more information. If you are from the UK look at the Nuffield Orthopedic Hospital in Oxford and go there for advice/diagnostics/treatment. They take NHS and private patients, worth every penny to get the right help. There is also GOSH. I've been in and out of orthopedic hospitals for many years with one of my children and seen incredible things done with spines etc. Good luck.
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Latest post on 10 October 2013 - 13:15
I have used them previously as have many of my friends and never had any issues with them and always found them extremely helpful and polite.
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Latest post on 10 October 2013 - 13:13
No, I don't think she should decide, but should nonetheless have a say. She is adaptable and outgoing, which makes a transition easier. Other than the geographical issue (local friends etc) I see no reason why she wouldn't be equally happy there after a while. i agree that some things are worth making sacrifices (convenience) for. I would certainly prioritise education over convenience. Well you need to make a choice soon before moving schools within Dubai is not allowed (only certain dates you can do this by in each academic year). Also there will be a whole que of others wanting (desperate for your place).
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Latest post on 10 October 2013 - 13:09
umm - she is a maid; she works when you need her -no? Or am i missing something. Seriously? yes And this is based on extensive experience employing maids, being married and having children to look after? hmm, now which poster is it that always posts about leaving the office on time, with countdowns ?
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Latest post on 10 October 2013 - 13:05
DH and I have decided that we need to plan a night out for ourselves weekly, we have been on a bit of a slippery slope in the relationship department recently and one of the things we feel we need to do is to get back to doing things alone together, just making some time for us as a couple. The point of my question is that Friday night is really the only feasible night that we can make free for ourselves, to go for a meal, go to a movie etc. However, I feel bad that this means our helper will not have a Friday night off, she is usually off from Thursday at 6pm to Saturday at 9am or midday depending. Now she will have to come back home by 7pm on most Friday's, she will be paid extra of course, but I doubt she will be happy about it. We would also love to go for a short walk or play a game of tennis, when the kids are in bed, once or twice per week, so basically it means she would have to babysit 2 to 3 times per week (incl Friday, weeknights would be from 8-10pm) I am wondering how others schedule their babysitting needs with their live-in's? We don't have any other option for babysitting. Thanks. edited by mum2girls on 10/10/2013 I don't want to delve into your marriage but seriously once you have kids life changes and that's the bottom line. If you wish for your maid to babysit then you need to change her working hours and pay to reflect that, if you expect her to work all day and babysit in the evenings be prepared in 6 months time for a disaster. Just because she is a maid does not mean she is not entitled to civilized working hours and respect for her rights, although many may disagree with this. You are leaving her with your children you had better make sure you deal with this subject well.
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Latest post on 10 October 2013 - 13:01
umm - she is a maid; she works when you need her -no? Or am i missing something. Seriously?
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Latest post on 10 October 2013 - 12:56
I think you have to work out what you really want and if you want good solid proven education be prepared to move and drive. Personally i would not be letting a child decide her educational future, for me it's a no brainer.
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Latest post on 09 October 2013 - 09:54
Why is the title of this thread so all over the place? Hiccups?
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Latest post on 09 October 2013 - 09:52
Thursday has come early this week? This really has to be one of the most ridiculous threads ever on EW. M&S as many of the stores here employ Arabic speakers. I am sure should there have been a problem the sales staff would have found one of the Arabic speakers to translate. Dubai is a shopping hub for many nationalities from around the world, only recently a poster was mentioning how strong the tourist market is. The shops here employ speakers of many languages, not just solely one language. Emiratisation within the private sector will no doubt help to address such issues.
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Latest post on 09 October 2013 - 09:52
Filipinos can speak two languages which is more than most people on here im sure. Well said!
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Latest post on 08 October 2013 - 21:40
Don't even worry about it.
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Latest post on 08 October 2013 - 21:36
Does anyone know if there are any held in Dubai? (for a friend) lol
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Latest post on 07 October 2013 - 13:13
any news on this?
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Latest post on 07 October 2013 - 13:11
What sort of help does FD want? She has to either move or get rid of her pet. Full stop. It's what happened at JBR, right? Does she think it will be a different story just because she doesn't have an oceanfront view? Has everyone in JBR really got rid of their pets? Well i suspect she posted to see if anyone else was in the same predicament and whether there was anything that could be done, isn't that what EW is for?
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Latest post on 07 October 2013 - 13:04
I really think all this you should have had the foresight to know is extremely unfair and absolutely no help whatsoever to the original poster. Just because a developer in one development makes such a rule it does not necessarily mean they will in another development. If this is a new rule in the development i would think you may be protest it or ask your LL to. It's very sad that such things are now happening and a complete nightmare for those caught up in such a situation. Pets are family members to many.
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Latest post on 06 October 2013 - 21:35
google or do an EW search for a lady called Sarah Booth (Speech therapist) from Repton school, she may be able to help you find the right people and school.
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Latest post on 06 October 2013 - 21:31
What's the going rate for mirror wills these days? We made ours some time ago and it's probably time for an update. Thanks Why not just update it yourself and get it translated into Arabic then get the quote to do whatever they need done nowadays.
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Latest post on 06 October 2013 - 21:29
Huge thanks LC Pleasure, just note it's all a bit painful the first few weeks and you will need lots of cash for all sorts of things and copies of everything. Also bring lots of passport photos, copies of attested certificates etc. The main sponsor, your DH if he is the employee here will need to go in person to set up most of the accounts, you can then run them online. The process is painful but once done quite easy to administer. Look at E life with Etisalat which can run your internet/phone and TV rand compare to having OSN showtime and Etisalat. edited by Lolacat on 06/10/2013 Is this is the same if we (well DH) has been in Sharjah for three years and rented a villa previously? Well it will be easier if you have done it there, sorry thought you were coming from UK for some reason and never rented before. Although i thing the companies and rules are slightly different for Sharjah to Dubai as they have SEWA and Dubai has DEWA. But your DH should know the system then.
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Latest post on 06 October 2013 - 21:27
contact DKC for advice http://www.dkc.ae/
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Latest post on 06 October 2013 - 21:24
drink a bottle of castor oil. It irritates the bowel as well as the womb. Walk walk walk. Boil a handful of cloves and drink its tea....My Gyne told me to also have as much s@x as possible when I was due....have fun WOW OH WOW the dangers of taking castor oil especially in difficult pregnancies are well documented.
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Latest post on 06 October 2013 - 21:17
Huge thanks LC Pleasure, just note it's all a bit painful the first few weeks and you will need lots of cash for all sorts of things and copies of everything. Also bring lots of passport photos, copies of attested certificates etc. The main sponsor, your DH if he is the employee here will need to go in person to set up most of the accounts, you can then run them online. The process is painful but once done quite easy to administer. Look at E life with Etisalat which can run your internet/phone and TV rand compare to having OSN showtime and Etisalat. <em>edited by Lolacat on 06/10/2013</em>
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Latest post on 06 October 2013 - 21:11
Please do check out the costs of several companies, there can be quite a range and it really does not need to cost the earth to make a will. The main thing is to have a translated copy in Arabic . For financial advice look at Holborn Assets. For legal , Davidson Legal are excellent <em>edited by Lolacat on 06/10/2013</em>
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Latest post on 06 October 2013 - 21:08
No your 6 year old can wear what any 6 year old would wear, summer dress etc. No she does not have to have knees and shoulders covered, but maybe carry a cardi as some malls can get quite chilly (ironic). For ladies a elbow length shirt is more ideal or a pashmina/cardi. Short sleeve T shirts for western areas are fine.
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Latest post on 06 October 2013 - 21:05
Yes i agree, really like this and the new Peaky Blinders. For a chuckle the new Citizen Khan has some great moments.
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Latest post on 06 October 2013 - 21:01
Oh my, pull it together and get a divorce asap and leave this relationship quick sharp. Leave Dubai and start afresh back where you are happy, life is too short for this nonsense. Get strong before this destroys you and makes you a weak abused wifey stuck somewhere you don't even like!
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Latest post on 06 October 2013 - 20:57
DESS and DESC are getting very hard now to get into, very sought after and for good reason, think hard about turning down places there.