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Latest post on 25 September 2013 - 11:49
Buy him some book on how to manage business,Tony Buzan et al and put them in the bathrooms. Don't nag or mention how stressed to him, just make life easy at home for him and see if talking to you can help by bouncing ideas off you to help reduce work load.
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Latest post on 25 September 2013 - 11:42
There is quite a debate going on in the UK at the moment about the niqab (face veil) with some pressure to ban it completely or just in public buildings (I think some would like to ban the hijab too). I have been very vocal on Twitter about the state having no role in defining what women should wear and that includes the niqab. Using the same logic I don't think schools should be doing so either. Obviously if I had my way I would totally mandate age / size appropriate clothing at all times. And in the recent press is the case in Ethiopia where a brave woman refuses to cover her hair and is up for 100 lashes or worse. <em>edited by Lolacat on 25/09/2013</em>
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Latest post on 25 September 2013 - 11:39
54" Flat screen TV with three remotes and surround sound system connected to X box and Wi!
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Latest post on 25 September 2013 - 11:37
Up and running is in Jumeriah, not that far, they could get a taxi?
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Latest post on 25 September 2013 - 11:33
DB you have to do what works for you and your family. I would not have left her crying at 5 am, i know many do and it works for them but never have i left my children crying in their beds. I may have been lucky but mine were all very happy babies and only cried if they wanted or were upset, but i have had friends who have had babies who just cried day in day out, so understand that for some leaving baby to cry was their way of coping. Top tips for good nights sleep. Lots of fresh air, exercise, stimulation during the day, healthy well planned meals, not too much milk replacing food, great bedtime routine. Maybe try letting her have her afternoon nap a little later and keeping her up until 7/ 7.30 pm and then putting her down, replace milk in the night with water. I'm afraid i am one of those mums who always had the cot next to the bed rather than in another room, this allowed me to quietly get up and deal with whatever the issue was that woke them. Sometimes it can be getting too cold, too hot, just need a gentle hand on them to re soothe back to sleep, sometimes need some water. Generally mine all slept through he night from very early on but they did wake by 6 and if they woke it was for a reason. Having children and babies is not easy, life changes for all parties involved and it's a massive learning curve that continues for years and years. How you raise your first will be completely different to how you raise your last. Having bad nights and stressing is all part of being a parent! Priority for you now is getting through this pregnancy safely and as relaxed as you can, don't stress the small stuff, don't fight with DH, sit down and talk things through with him. Say what you have posted here, he is who you should be discussing this with, let your emotions out and let him help you.
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Latest post on 25 September 2013 - 11:07
How on earth is that a pop quiz?
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Latest post on 25 September 2013 - 11:06
Get another laid back dog to walk with.
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Latest post on 25 September 2013 - 10:59
These sort of threads are always hard as only one perspective is given. I am a huge advocate of believing every baby is different and there is not always a right way or wrong way when it comes to parenting. What i do believe is that there has to be good communication between parents and agreement based on mutual discussion as to how baby is raised. This means there has to be input from both parents and issues such as the ones raised discussed between both parties. Cross cultural/ cross class marriages can often come under great strain when children come, due to the different raising styles of the involved cultures. From a health perspective feeding too much milk avoiding proper foods will lead to hunger and waking in the night. As one poster has mentioned finger foods or foods with texture are vitally important for hand eye co ordination, muscle development, taste, health and so much more. Diet definitely needs discussing and maybe a third party is required to help reinforce this. I'm not sure you can baby a baby too much if other areas are balanced and on the right path. Not sleeping could well be due to too much milk, not enough proper food and lack of sleep training (said loosely) . I am also not a great believer in leaving babies to cry, but understand this works for some. Understanding why your child is waking through the night may well help solve the problem. I do wonder how you are going to continue to work and have two young children, do you think your DH is trying to subconsciously compensate for you not being a SAHM? If you were at home do you think things would be different? <em>edited by Lolacat on 25/09/2013</em>
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Latest post on 24 September 2013 - 08:30
You have answered your own question with what you have written, appears ethics are misplaced and loyalty to the bigger fish is greater. Stop immediately and find someone else outside of school who will work in partnership with you, the parent. I would like to think you can find someone else whose priority is that of your child.
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Latest post on 24 September 2013 - 08:27
yes, brilliant, just love it!
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Latest post on 23 September 2013 - 14:07
I would be horrified at any teacher or parent who yelled as ritual, regardless of whether a child has an issue or not. All children are different any parent with more than one child can tell one that, all children think in different ways, many children struggle to adapt to the more structured formal learning approach in some schools when they leave FS2, many children have short attention spans, this does not mean many children have issues. Many children are down right miserable and hate school when they have a teacher who is below their expectations. I've seen children plummet down their academic sets from having a teacher who did not gel with them and seen children rise from below average to way above from a nurturing passionate teacher. One only has to remember the subjects we did well in to know that the teacher made us love those subjects because we enjoyed learning from them. Its always easy to blame the weaker party, the child, but our role as a parent IMHO is not only to look into how we can help our children but also to question why. I would ask why a teacher after a very short time would be quite so quick to determine a child has issues, yet not suggest constructive techniques they are implementing to help resolve those issues, bring in LS and the parent on a more formal approach. That tells me an awful lot about about your child's teacher I'm afraid. Negativity builds negativity and now those vibes are being passed onto your child. Here is an idea, why not tell your DD that the teacher said fabulous things about her and how well she behaved and listened and you are so proud of the way she is trying, also explaining that you understand how hard it is for her with a new class teacher and friends etc. See what happens. <em>edited by Lolacat on 23/09/2013</em>
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Latest post on 23 September 2013 - 11:04
The other thing i would do is sit down and ask your child what she likes/dislikes at school and how she feels. She may feel very frightened and insecure which is why she may be playing the fool, she may feel it's boring and everyone is so slow. Listen to your child, let her try and tell you what is going on.
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Latest post on 23 September 2013 - 11:01
Sevenseconds please don't be too quick to think this, that or the other, far too many children are over diagnosed IMHO with all these sorts of issues when if fact they are just being children. The teacher can have a profound effect on the way a child performs and behaves in class. I have seen this over the years with my own children and dread each new year as to who we get, many teachers are very very average or at best dull. They plod through the curriculum and couldn't inspire a lettuce leaf let alone a bright 6 year old. Rather than having a problem it sounds from what you describe that your child may well be very bright (often confused by those who don't appreciate) and to be honest could just be bored stiff and not willing to conform to the monotonous boredom and slow pace of school. Great for her, this should be enhanced not squashed. I would be looking at having her iq tested and finding a school that appreciates and nurtures her rather than keeping in one that will destroy her. if you can look at foremarke school, the classes are very small and academically she will be challenged.
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Latest post on 23 September 2013 - 10:41
I also renewed all our family visa's last week and this was not the case, it sounds as if your friend has got misinformation, why not go to one of the DNRD offices and ask someone or look up their hotline and ask what is required.
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Latest post on 20 September 2013 - 16:53
Also try goggling Dr John Mcewan ENT, he will be able to help and advise further.
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Latest post on 20 September 2013 - 16:48
being ahead academically is not always worth the sacrifice it may come with.
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Latest post on 20 September 2013 - 16:45
Thank you for all your useful comments. Lolacat - she has been tested for Gardia and that came back negative, she has has a whole host of blood tests which all came back negative as well. We use Vet care at the Polo Club. We normally see Dominic but was on holiday on both occasions that I took her in. As I mentioned in my initial post I maybe just being over anxious but I do think there is something not quite right with her but I can't but my finger on it. Well it may be worth seeing Dr Dominic and treating her for Gardia anyway and see if there is an improvement.
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Latest post on 20 September 2013 - 16:44
Prices will only increase if people pay them. Always offer what you can afford, it's never worth going over budget, keep a sense of perspective on rental accommodation. There are many areas where that budget will find you a very nice villa. Personally the ranches would not be on my list, there are far more affordable just as good areas to live. Also look at Victory Heights, the green community, falcon city, The villa, Dubai Silicon Oasis.
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Latest post on 20 September 2013 - 16:40
Be prepared to take up issues to the relevant person on behalf of the other class mums. Send out parent rep meeting notes or any other teacher notes immediately, making sure they are well written and spell checked. Ask other mums in the class if they have any ideas for gifts for the teacher when it comes to Christmas and summer leaving. Remember you are just a representative not faculty and being a class mum earns you no brownie points anywhere.
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Latest post on 18 September 2013 - 10:11
Take her to a good vet and take in a stool sample, she probably has Gardia picked up from kennels. If she was trained beofre and passing more stools than normal it is highly likely she has picked up a bug and its not her fault, please take her to a good vet. I can recommend the Vet Hospital, Nad al sheba vets or Arabian ranches if you want to take her for a second opinion.
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Latest post on 18 September 2013 - 10:02
Not re registering your car and gaining fines and breaking the law is hardly something to be boasting about or proud of. Not driving with valid insurance because you have let your registration run over is not only illegal but immoral. Your insurance will be invalid if you have allowed your car to run over by months on the legal requirements of the land, check the small print. Having an accident whilst driving without the proper legal requirements will not only land you in a whole heap of trouble it could also cause huge distress to any other parties involved. As for it isn't a big deal attitude, well that's just terrible, cars that are on the road that are not legal are a danger to everyone who travels on the road.
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Latest post on 17 September 2013 - 22:06
You could look at the Villa, Falcon city, Arabian Ranches, Dubai Silicon Oasis for starters.
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Latest post on 17 September 2013 - 22:02
Why not look into some voice lessons as in singing? This may well be a fun way to overcome whatever it is you need to overcome? Or join an adult theatre groups? <em>edited by Lolacat on 17/09/2013</em>
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Latest post on 17 September 2013 - 22:01
I saw that earlier, great news for UK parents :) Unless they go to a private school and pay already! Is providing lunch for your child really that difficult in 2013?
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Latest post on 17 September 2013 - 21:53
A rather sad reflection that rather too many parents (if one a can call them that) place little value on their childrens' nutrition or welfare. Of course next there will be court cases and daily fail articles due to schools feeding little jimmy the wrong foods!!
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Latest post on 17 September 2013 - 21:50
Google Tip top painters, very reasonable and fast.
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Latest post on 17 September 2013 - 21:49
You can easily renew the insurance and get the car re registered before you go.
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Latest post on 17 September 2013 - 21:47
Hi ladies, I went for a routine smear test today; first time in Dubai and went to see Dr Anna at the DL clinic as recommended on this site, she was lovely and it all went well. I'm 42 years old with no history of gynecological issues or any other health problems. However, she's recommended that I return next week for a breast scan, mammogram and a TV scan (trains vagibal scan). I'm not sure if these are all really necessary as I thought mammograms usually started from 45/50 years or younger with a family history. I've never even thought about having a TV scan...except if pregnant which is no chance. I'd appreciate your views on this. Basically if it's common practice now and purely for my own benefit then I'll go for it, however, if it's not necessary then I'd rather not go through the additional hassle and expense. I don't mind paying if it's necessary but don't want to waste money on something that's not really relevant. Thanks in advance At 42 you should certainly have had a mammogram and a well woman check.
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Latest post on 17 September 2013 - 21:45
and.........nothing beats self checks either, once a month is important (always keen to promote this one as that's how I found my tumour!!!) Im religious about this. Well highlighted! Hope you are doing well now! 18 months clear and fighting fit :o)))))))))))) Hi Scribs, I got confirmation of bc this week (found by self examination previous mammogram 18 months ago was clear), seeing oncologist soon, before surgery during the next few weeks. Everything is happening so fast and can't get my head around it all, would you be willing to chat to me about your experiences as I am sure you realize talking with someone who has gone through it all would be beneficial. Sorry to have hijacked this thread, but if offered mammogram and ultrasounds I would not hesitate to have them done. Sorry to hear this Dally and wish you all the best and the all clear soon!
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Latest post on 15 September 2013 - 20:09
Would a shuttle bus work? for parents and children. Continuously going on a loop from Spinneys car park to the school and back again. Parents could hop on with their kids at Spinneys, alight at the school, walk them their kids to their class and then jump on the next bus back to Spinneys. Would take a lot of cars off the road. The principal had actually mentioned this back before the summer - so I don't know why it is not in place??? I don't know that stats, but I imagine a shuttle bus from Spinneys to School would save about 80 odd cars....??? Also, it would be soooo easy to build a gate in B Block and then a cement path to cross the sandy area which leads directly to the school. Semmer have opened their gates at peak hours for the school, why can't Cedre?? Imagine how many kids could then cycle, or walk? Not only would this relieve parking spaces, but how good would that be for the kids (and parents) to get some extra exercise in a safe environment?? edited by YRUFAT on 15/09/2013 edited by YRUFAT on 15/09/2013 Excellent idea, cutting down the traffic from close residents by opening a 500 yard footpath is so easy and would cost peanuts. Maybe this should be suggested to the powers that be?
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Latest post on 15 September 2013 - 20:06
I parked at 3pm today in the new underground car park. I made a point of counting empty parking spaces, there were 60, and you would still be able to park in undesignated areas without obstructing. There is also already built "a drop off zone" a bit like at the airport. I guess this is for when the build is further on, in theory, it should make drop offs easier. It has pedestrian crossing areas and a route into the campus. Like they say "every little helps"! Lol You're counting spaces at 3 pm ? Urm it's the peak times that are a major problem, the morning for not only school patrons but residents who have to get to work or get their children to another school! Everyone i know who lives here is having to leave up to 30 mins earlier to try and avoid the congestion!
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Latest post on 15 September 2013 - 08:40
Sohar ENT Clinic Mazaya Centre Office 1009,B block,Sheikh Zayed Road Ph: 04 3465262 Dr. John McEwan 050 901 4083 Fabulous, has rights into some of the best hospitals and is brilliant when it comes to ENT, just go and see him.
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Latest post on 15 September 2013 - 08:37
This is actually more common than people think with family dogs who have been imported, something happens to them and trips a new brain wave pattern that was not there previously. This also happened to us with one of our dogs years ago after flying to the ME. I really did not want to cage the dog and never did but it meant we always had to have someone in the house. With your situation i would be tempted to buy a really large crate and resort to using it, making it very much your dogs space and somewhere nice to go. Leave a radio on whilst out or the TV. Don't give your dog any attention when you come in and out and just try and ignore most of the time.
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Latest post on 15 September 2013 - 08:32
Parking at the school has improved massively. Since they opened the new car-park at the start of term I have been able to park easily. Many people are not using this car park as they do not want to park and walk up to meet the children. They are still blocking the road and trying to get as near to the building as possible. Bad parking and impatience are causing the majority of problems. I think the sheer volume of traffic is more likely to be causing the problems, hence why every morning the Al Ain junction is stuffed and all the surrounding roads leading to the school.
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Latest post on 15 September 2013 - 08:30
Sounds as if she needs some professional help, but the right kind that can help her with her anger management and self worth. Maybe look at cognitive behaviour therapy. Your role is very hard and good on you for taking on someone elses kids, but at the end of the day you are the adult in all this and you have the ability to reason and find out what is eating her up. Every action has a reaction, so why is she reacting? Fighting will get you nowhere. You have to reopen the doors of communication and love so does your DH and help her become an adult.
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Latest post on 12 September 2013 - 21:25
is there a contact page/ facebook /website with more info?
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Latest post on 12 September 2013 - 21:23
Sounds great to me! Wish i could do that once in a while, enjoy it! lol
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Latest post on 12 September 2013 - 21:21
Eat some ALL BRAN cereal with prunes for breakfast!
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Latest post on 12 September 2013 - 19:49
I just had woken up and getting ready for work when I heard what happened on the radio. Switched on the t.v and could not believe what I saw. I remember the fear back home that something would happen in our country too. Yes I have my thought and opinions on the why and who of this tragedy, which I will not share. But ultimately it was the start of a time of violence, fear, mistrust between "groups" of people, and sending your men and women to fight wars that never seem to end nor seem to have any pure intentions nor benefit anyone. And yes RIP to ALL victims. The people that died that day, the people that have died because of it and still continue to die every day. And may the people who have lost their loved ones be able to move on and maybe one day get true answers. And all strength to the people who are still suffering the effects of that day, the people who have risked their lives to save others. let's not forget them either. Marrosh so nice to see a poster who does have a different opinion maintain dignity, decorum and respect in her post. Thank you.
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Latest post on 12 September 2013 - 19:45
I also live in DSO and the extra traffic from the school is becoming a nightmare for anyone trying to get out during peak hours or indeed in!!! The expansion is on going and yet no extra car park to accommodate the increase??? Has anyone written to DSO about their concerns and received feedback? I would hate for an emergency to happen in this area during peak times as i can not see how the emergency services could get through. <em>edited by Lolacat on 12/09/2013</em>
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Latest post on 12 September 2013 - 12:03
May the innocent victims rest in peace.... Whatever your thoughts about the event surrounding 9/11, Singarosa, please don't forget the innocent victims that died that day. 2,977 innocent people who were murdered. That's thousands and thousands of people who lost a loved one who had simply gotten on an airplane or gone to work that day. I know a woman in her 30s who is a widower as a result of that day. She never spoke of it. Moved halfway across the country and never uttered a word to anyone, even friends. My friends, her coworkers, started putting 2 and 2 together. Knew she'd been married but now wasn't. Was from NY. Never came to work on 9/11. Got visibly upset whenever anyone spoke of 9/11. Etc, etc. Cannot imagine dealing with that grief. May all the innocent victims around the world rest in peace.. RIP the 2976 innocent victims on 9/11, the 48,644 Afghani's and the 1,690,903 Iraqis that paid the ultimate price for crime they did not commit and the hundres of thousand of palestinians who experience this everyday and lets also not forget syria... RIP innocent victims... i'll probably still be accused of gate crashing this thread.. and ill also probably be banned.. i honestly don't care anymore.. edited by Singarosa on 12/09/2013 Can't quite work out your point.
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Latest post on 10 September 2013 - 20:35
We all remember where we were on the dreadful day.... yet ask me what i was doing this time last month, would I have a clue. That day nearly 12 years ago, will go down in history. I seen the re-runs on Sunday night, still glued to the story unfolding, yet I have seen it all numerous times. I will be thinking of those that lost their lives and family and friends. Not forgetting everyone else involved..... SO very very true SalsB. A day that changed the world.
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Latest post on 10 September 2013 - 20:33
I use Zurich now as i found there pricing very competitive but there are a few search engines that can look for the best quite for you. BB, AXA again? You on commission? lol
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Latest post on 09 September 2013 - 10:03
I must have been unlucky then - got charged! Was this recent? Because I think they changed the rules and no longer give out the grace period/ Maybe it's more likely you are correct !
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Latest post on 09 September 2013 - 10:00
We are not in AD! I personally re register my car every year. Last year i was 4 days over and got a fine of 25 dhs a day. Here is a link to a rather interesting article. http://www.emirates247.com/news/emirates/no-grace-period-for-vehicle-registration-2011-01-23-1.345820 If you have got away with it great but i certainly did not find that the case and was told quite clearly in the testing RTA office last year when i questioned the charge that this was the rule. So i would advise anyone not to take the risk of a big fine. really i didnt noticed!!! did you know that if you have axa insurance they will do the registration process for you for free, but of course, maybe that only applies to AD! anyways if its 10dhs or 25dhs a month its hardly the end of the world. and you should be aware as they do sms you it now, so there is no excuses. Do you work for the RTA Busy bee? Please try and accept that you may not always be correct and that there may be ambiguity with this. The registration is annual and as proven on this thread it obviously depends where you go and who is at the counter as to what may occur. I was fined 25 dhs per day for being over the annual date but within the 13 month insurance. yes the registration is annual, dont you think i have done it quite a few times over the year, over many many cars. as others have posted some have to pay the fine some dont so its the usual uae thing, depends on the day..! 25dhs is hardly the end of the world now is it..... no need to get all stroppy! I didn't realise you were a car dealer! lol 25 dhs built up over a month to some might be money they can ill afford to lose from poor advice. Why waste money when you don't have to? so then re-register when your registration runs out and not into the 13th month of insurance in fact as i have said with axa anyways the more you go into that "free" month the more it will cost you on renewal.... so that would be more than 25dhs a month saved...! did we get out the wrong side of the bed today. lolololoolo "Anyways" a colloquial corruption of “anyway.” I'm surprised you don't know that your insurance is re credited and/or carried forward, therefore the 13th month has no effect, therefore your point is pointless. lol
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Latest post on 09 September 2013 - 09:55
You should ask if they steal and watch their reaction! and if they have a BF / like to Paaaarty Oh yes the husband here and the husband at home conundrum!
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Latest post on 09 September 2013 - 09:54
Once she steps into the UK you may find her family status is not quite what you thought it was, which is why immigration make the procedure complex.
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Latest post on 09 September 2013 - 09:52
Go to Satwa, there are lots of glass shops there.
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Latest post on 09 September 2013 - 09:50
We are not in AD! I personally re register my car every year. Last year i was 4 days over and got a fine of 25 dhs a day. Here is a link to a rather interesting article. http://www.emirates247.com/news/emirates/no-grace-period-for-vehicle-registration-2011-01-23-1.345820 If you have got away with it great but i certainly did not find that the case and was told quite clearly in the testing RTA office last year when i questioned the charge that this was the rule. So i would advise anyone not to take the risk of a big fine. really i didnt noticed!!! did you know that if you have axa insurance they will do the registration process for you for free, but of course, maybe that only applies to AD! anyways if its 10dhs or 25dhs a month its hardly the end of the world. and you should be aware as they do sms you it now, so there is no excuses. Do you work for the RTA Busy bee? Please try and accept that you may not always be correct and that there may be ambiguity with this. The registration is annual and as proven on this thread it obviously depends where you go and who is at the counter as to what may occur. I was fined 25 dhs per day for being over the annual date but within the 13 month insurance. yes the registration is annual, dont you think i have done it quite a few times over the year, over many many cars. as others have posted some have to pay the fine some dont so its the usual uae thing, depends on the day..! 25dhs is hardly the end of the world now is it..... no need to get all stroppy! I didn't realise you were a car dealer! lol 25 dhs built up over a month to some might be money they can ill afford to lose from poor advice. Why waste money when you don't have to?
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Latest post on 09 September 2013 - 09:47
You should ask if they steal and watch their reaction!