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Latest post on 11 June 2011 - 08:43
Thanks Noddy. Yes, you had answered a post about this for me earlier which is why I looked into the Media Rotana. But I really would love if anyone has info on the Grand Millennium. They're coming in at a fair bit less per person for the whole shebang and actually have a higher rating on tripadvisor (based on more reviews) which surprised me. Anyone?
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Latest post on 10 June 2011 - 18:19
Interesting. I didn't find it soulless when I went in to check out the conference rooms and that but then again, I was only there for all of 15 minutes. Ummm... sorry but I'm not very good with short forms... DK? "Don't know"?? Anyone else have any thoughts / opinions?
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Latest post on 09 June 2011 - 19:48
Oh! Oops!! Wasn't thinking of it as a loophole. Just wanted to know as I need to put a large sum on my cc as downpayment for a conference and will then have it refunded from the hotel when delegates pay and was asked by bosses what I want in terms of compensation since am doing it as a favour. Wondered if I'd get to keep the miles as that would be compensation enough!!
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Latest post on 09 June 2011 - 09:39
Sorry but "no u don't" what? You don't get to keep the miles, I assume, yes?
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Latest post on 04 June 2011 - 22:11
pffff... I'm with you on this one emmaH. It is as you say, the height of ignorance. I'd be livid and probably would have said something to her, as I am wont to do!! But hey, that's just me!
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Latest post on 04 June 2011 - 22:08
Argh! Don't get me started on the sodding ants!! Seriously. EVERYWHERE! NOt only everywhere but every type too... small, big, with wings... you name it, we've got them! And I have an 18-month-old who is on a mission to rid the world of the little critters. Only she doesn't want to have to touch them herself so she stands and points and yells every single time she sees one and I have to squish it with a tissue. Can you even begin to imagine what my days have been like of late?? Went out and bought a new ant poison we're giving a try. Will see how it goes. Not easy to find things to try when you have a toddler running around!!
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Latest post on 03 June 2011 - 21:38
Right. Shopping list: Triangular crayons (Borders) Small Magnadoodle (ELC) Stickers iPad!!! (will tell DH need one for DD!) Have to say, had a good laugh about the iPad. Not that I doubt you for a moment. My little girl LOVES my iPhone and can do things with it that I don't know how to do! And I do let her play with it sometimes, but not so keen on letting her do so on a plane where it might slip down the side of the seat and I may not notice! And no, sadly, I don't have an iPad. And yes, the ELC magazine sounds very boring. But my DD does love magazines. Of all kinds. So the ones on the plane should be quite entertaining for her. But what the he11. ELC one can go in the carry on! Thank you ladies. <em>edited by m_king on 03/06/2011</em>
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Latest post on 03 June 2011 - 20:09
Problem being, my little girl isn't too keen on television! I mean, that's GREAT! But not on a long trip, it's not!! She'll watch for about 10 mins but then gets bored. Although, i think she may well enjoy walking up and down the aisles and checking people out!! Oh, and we're flying BA. Yes, I was thinking of crayons and a note pad. Is she too young for a magnadoodle/etch-a-sketh? Don't want to try her out on it as would rather make it a surprise toy for the plane. But where can I get one???
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Latest post on 02 June 2011 - 15:36
Oh dear. Was going to go next week for the first time. Can I ask what the problem is? And did they actually say that they were a business and not interested in the concerns of mums and dads??
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Latest post on 25 May 2011 - 20:12
Sorry to say this but I really don't think you have a hope of collecting luggage and making the connecting flight. Maybe I'm wrong but I really don't think so. In fact, I don't know if you can make it an hour and a half without the luggage problem. I'm fairly certain that if you go onto Heathrow's website, they tell you somewhere how long it takes to get from one terminal to another. You should really check that. That said, i am VERY surprised that they won't book your luggage through. Are you certain of this. Despite being on two different airlines they should book it through because you can show that you have this connecting flight. I imagine the two flights are on the same ticket, no? Although, even if you have two separate tickets, it still shouldn't be a problem. ETA - Good luck!! <em>edited by m_king on 25/05/2011</em>
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Latest post on 25 May 2011 - 17:40
To the best of my knowledge - and said knowledge is very limited, I admit - you MUST have a sharia will if you have children/property. Looking into it myself. Can someone recommend a good law office for this? Good luck.
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Latest post on 25 May 2011 - 15:47
Thank you both!
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Latest post on 25 May 2011 - 15:44
Hungarian chicken. mmm... REALLY easy to make. Particularly if you have a pressure cooker. Skinless chicken thighs (bone in). About 8. Brown in a tbspn oil. Then in pressure cooker, put a large coarsely chopped onion, 4 tspn mild paprika + 1 tspn hot (or 5 tspn mild is fine), and 2 cups chicken broth and bring to boil. Add chicken. Add 2 coarsely chopped large tomatoes on top (don't mix in). Sprinkle 1 tspn salt on top. Bring to a boil & simmer 40 mins or so if in a regular pot or 12-15 mins at pressure in pressure cooker. When done, remove chicken and keep warm. Boil sauce 10-15 minutes to thicken. Then mix in 1 cup labneh (or sour cream)... start by mixxing 1/4 cup sauce into labneh & whisk then add that back to the pot. Return chicken and briefly reheat but don't boil Serve over rice. Yummy.
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Latest post on 25 May 2011 - 13:13
Someone suggested to DH that we should buy a 1-bed in Old Town as a good investment property. Apparently the 1 beds are good because they're generally rented by young 'yuppie' couples with money. But from what I can see, you're looking at a cost of about 1.2 to 1.8 million and they seem to rent for about 90k/yr Meanwhile, we could buy a 2bed in the springs for about 1 million and they rent for approx 80k. Am I missing something? Are the 2 beds in the springs less sought after? Could we risk having the place sit empty while in Old Town, demand is high?? Can anyone advise? Would you go for something other than either of these (at around 1 to 1.5 mill)? I'd ask a real estate agent but I don't know one personally and wouldn't now if I could trust that they really knew what they were talking about, nor if they really had my interests at heart as opposed to just selling a property to grab the commission! Sorry if that sounds nasty. I'm sure there are good agents out there. But we've had some bad experiences. Thanks in advance.
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Latest post on 25 May 2011 - 11:10
I actually had the easiest birth ever. But apparently the lead up can be just as important and I was told that because I went through so much trying to conceive, it was essentially the same. waterbaby, I'm so sorry about the traumatic birth you mention. don't be hard on yourself and try to tell yourself constantly that you're not mad and that it IS normal and that it's also understandable, all things considered. Maybe you can speak to your doctor about it, if you think he/she would be understanding. Just so they know and can help you, if necessary, after your delivery. DubaiCat, as you say, it is SUCH a relief to find out that you're not the only one and that you're not going mad
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Latest post on 25 May 2011 - 11:04
Thanks Drew... will definitely have a look!
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Latest post on 25 May 2011 - 11:01
It really is the most personal thing in the world and we can't judge another for wanting more or not or which gender regardless of how many she may already have of one or the other. While we were going through all our failed IVF cycles, I was on a forum with other women going through the same and it would infuriate me and twist the knife in a bit further each time (and there were many) I would read someone going on about her wonderful child or children and yet talking about the terrible emotions of fighting to have number 2, 3 or even 4! I was so jealous and I truly believed that if I was lucky enough to have one I would consider myself so and wouldn't dream of yearning for another. I had the one. There is a hole inside of me that will never be filled because it was a special little place for number two. And I never even knew it was there until I had my little girl. I love my little girl with all my heart and that little empty space inside of me doesn't mean I love her any less. In fact, one part of the reason I so desperately wanted number two was for her to be blessed with a sibling and knowing that I will never be able to give her that kills me. Like Cheeky Monkey, I wanted her to have a sister, like I had. And it's hard for me imagine that anything else (a brother, no sibling) isn't less than perfect because I have a sister and we are so close. But I try to remind myself of all the family and friends I have who have brothers or who are single children and are perfectly happy. And of the many who have siblings and either don't like them, or at best, hardly have any contact with them. As for the insensitivity of people who come right out and ask about number two, I answer very honestly (and usually very coldly) that I don't get to have two and I tell them why (in small or great detail depending on the situation). Normally makes them feel like $hit. ETA - This is a great thread! And it helps to know that so many others are in a similar (if not the same) place as me. <em>edited by m_king on 25/05/2011</em>
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Latest post on 24 May 2011 - 19:56
Sorry, I also can't advise you with regards to your specific situation but like Speed queen, I can try to give you hope. My issues were different from yours but I had to go the IVF route. We were told by several doctors that we had an excellent chance. First try didn't work and I was devastated but figured, it was just the first try and really, I'd have had to be enormously lucky for the first try to work. So we tried again. And again. And each time, we were told that everything was PERFECT at every stage. But when I got to try number 8 I got very VERY sick of hearing how perfect everything was. And I was so convinced that try number 8 hadn't worked that I was considering using a surrogate but the thought that the baby would be biologically ours and yet she would have the right to refuse to hand her over in the end, was terrifying. My sister offered to carry a baby for us days before I found out that try number 8 had worked. My little girl turned a year and a half yesterday! Extraordinarily difficult though it is, you must try to relax. do whatever you can to not stress whether it's a job, a trip, whatever. I think that I was so convinced that try number 8 hadn't worked and I was so sure I wouldn't be going through it again (for better or worse) that devastated though I was, I stopped stressing). Granted, not the advisable way to go to try to stop stressing but do try to find a way to do it. Good luck!
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Latest post on 24 May 2011 - 13:24
I'm getting teary eyed just reading this. My ideal is two (perhaps also because I am one of two) but I think I would have kinda liked to consider 3 as well. Unfortunately, I'm one of the 'yearners'. It took 8 cycles of IVF to have my DD who is now a year and a half and due to my and my husband's ages, we thought the prospect of trying again was perhaps a little foolish and maybe even a bit selfish. But as if that wasn't enough, I have health issues and I must not get pregnant while on treatment and since treatment is life-long, I'd have to stop it (for at least a year) before trying again. So then we're back to the age thing and the fact that I wouldn't be doing my health any good! It $UCKS in a big way but then I am so overwhelmingly grateful for my little girl and I thank God every day that I was lucky enough to have her.
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Latest post on 23 May 2011 - 16:23
Being a Brit, we kinda have it easy with visas..... But seriously wanting to know names of siblings when they are not travelling...... Yes, I remember how difficult that was to figure out! We had to ask each of DH's 9 siblings when their birthdays were. lol Oh yes - doing for my boss.... so that's fun trying to find out DOB for his siblings and parents as well as the same for his wife!!!! LOL... have to admit, I'm surprised. I didn't think we were THAT bad. Although, we re-elected Harper so there's clearly something in the water!
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Latest post on 23 May 2011 - 15:47
I never felt anything like that but I wonder if it might have anything to do with how you quit? I mean, if using patches or some such, maybe you feel this way because of them?? Just an example. Or did you maybe quit using hypnotherapy?? I only ask because I'm surprised that the thought of a cigarette should make you want to gag! I quit more than 3 years ago and haven't felt a need for a cigarette since but I've never felt like gagging at the thought of it. Maybe that's just me but I wonder if that's related to you feeling dizzy etc... All that said, I think I remember hearing the same thing from other people who've quit. Even after such a short time I cant stand the thought/smell of it. I just stopped, no patches/hypnotherapy, just cold turkey. On the plus side I feel amazing for not smoking anymore, just have this little annoying sick feeling that doesnt seem to go away. Might not be related. Maybe its because I stopped drinking alcohol too!!! Wow... interesting. Yeah, I stopped without using anything too. Well... I read a book! Was gobsmacked that it actually worked. Never looked back. But also, didn't have any sick feeling. Well, congrats on stopping. But maybe you should pop in to your doctor's and just ask? Perhaps it isn't quitting that is making you feel this way. And perhaps it is but there could be something you can take to stop you feeling sick until your body adjusts??
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Latest post on 23 May 2011 - 15:38
I never felt anything like that but I wonder if it might have anything to do with how you quit? I mean, if using patches or some such, maybe you feel this way because of them?? Just an example. Or did you maybe quit using hypnotherapy?? I only ask because I'm surprised that the thought of a cigarette should make you want to gag! I quit more than 3 years ago and haven't felt a need for a cigarette since but I've never felt like gagging at the thought of it. Maybe that's just me but I wonder if that's related to you feeling dizzy etc... All that said, I think I remember hearing the same thing from other people who've quit.
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Latest post on 23 May 2011 - 14:15
We're an awful ana1 lot aren't we!?!
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Latest post on 22 May 2011 - 22:21
I have a degree in psychology and have read huge amounts about PND and yet, I wasn't able to see it for what it was when I was under its influence. That said, I do think that maybe the second time around, you are more prepared to at least accept it for what it is.
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Latest post on 22 May 2011 - 16:17
Is there not someone else here who you can trust with a key and who can go and do the rose petals or whatever you like while you're away??
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Latest post on 22 May 2011 - 15:34
Well, we went with the recommendation and had a surprisingly nice meal. in fairness, the service wasn't great but there was nothing specifically bad about it either and never having been before, we didn't think anything of it, particularly as it is a food-court-y type of place. But I do have to wonder what it is with some posters and their fixation on other people's expectations? Is there anything wrong with having high expectations?? Sorry jewelsmiddle but you've had the same go at me over BAA so it seems to be a thing of yours.
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Latest post on 22 May 2011 - 15:12
Island Girl, by no means do I want to dismiss how you felt. I've had the baby blues - as do 50-80% of women who have babies - and they're awful. But this isn't quite the same. WHat I'm talking about is actually a form of PND or Post Natal Depression and affects about 2 to 3 % of those women who have PND. It's also more common among women who are slightly obsessive compulsive to begin with. And these imaginings, or whatever you want to call them, are deeply disturbing 'visions' almost. You feel like you're witnessing this terrible thing happening to your child and there's normally nothing you can do to stop the 'story' from unfolding in your head. Hence, the link with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. And it'd not a one off thing. It happens a lot. For me, it started out being several times a day. Now that I've gotten things under control a bit, it seems to be once every month or two but then it's phases. Something will trigger it and then it'll happen several times over a period of 2 or 3 days, all with the same general 'theme' (linked to whatever set it off) and then nothing for another month or two. Sanddy_Dogg... your youngest is 6! And here I was hoping that once I actually managed to put mine in school, I'd get used to it and it would all be ok!!! edited by m_king on 22/05/2011 <em>edited by m_king on 22/05/2011</em>
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Latest post on 22 May 2011 - 07:56
People are making rapture jokes like there's no tomorrow...... LOL!!
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Latest post on 21 May 2011 - 13:36
Hands up everyone who's still here!!!
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Latest post on 21 May 2011 - 13:35
thank you
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Latest post on 21 May 2011 - 13:04
YAY... got my business tickets today!! Thanks ladies for all the input. Will go for premium when she's a bit older and not be so stressed about it!!
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Latest post on 21 May 2011 - 13:01
Thanks salsB... where is that? Not seen it before.
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Latest post on 21 May 2011 - 13:00
I think, for the most part, you'll find stuff here. I find that many people (myself included) will balk on first arrival in a new place and feel like you can't find ANYTHING. But after a little while you'll realise that you forgot that when you first arrived you thought you couldn't live without this that or the other. And over time you'll either have found the things you thought weren't here or you'll have found suitable equivalents. And in the end, you'll probably have enough of most stuff to last you till your next trip home (like your make up etc..) and when you go home you can bring back whatever you really miss. It's just so personal that it;s hard to make suggestions. Myself, every time I go back to Canada, I pick up my hair mousse (there are loads here but I really like this one Shwarzkopf one). And I buy some sour kids (candy - for those who don't know!). That's it! Something I do miss - but I'm not about to go bringing it back with me - is Campbell's cream of Asparagus! I make a lovely chicken dish (recipe on the back of the tin!!) with it and cannot find it here. Loads of Brocolli but no asparagus! Ah well... life goes on! But that's what I mean by thinking you can't live with something then realising it's really no biggie. But DO load skype!!
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Latest post on 21 May 2011 - 11:45
October, your story gives me hope. Who knows? Maybe one day I will be perfectly rational too. Hmm... but then again, I never was!!! DubaiCat, yes, that's what I read. I meant to say earlier that you don't actually have to feel depressed. But it's still part of post-natal depression. And in fact, we should count ourselves lucky because it's actually the same condition that makes some poor women experience visions of hurting their children themselves. it's not that they want to and it must be quite horrific to experience it. It's bad enough imagining someone else hurting your child. I couldn't begin to understand what it must do to you to imagine that you're hurting your own baby. Must really make you think you've gone over the edge. But it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. And I forgot to say in this thread that apparently mild anti-depressants work wonders for this sort of thing. Again, just because you may not feel depressed doesn't mean anti-depressants can't help. So maybe if you're really freaking out, you should consider trying anti-depresants. And if your doctor isn't empathetic to this sort of thing, consider going to one of the doctors that come highly recommended on this forum. I was going to try anti-depressants but decided I would give myself a little time to see if I coulndn't get it under control. Now, as I said, I'm doing so much better, but really, I think I was a bit of an idiot not to try the anti-depressants. I could have been feeling better a long time ago!
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Latest post on 21 May 2011 - 11:23
ashc... that was my main point for posting this... just so others might be able to realise it's not just them. Even if they don't necessarily want to post. I know it's VERY hard to admit for some. It was hard for me, and I'm the type of person who is quite open about things that are hard to deal with because I find admitting them and having them out in the open make them easier to, well, deal with! julzandrews, that's great that you can laugh it off. Like your Taliban scenario, all of mine are situations where someone or something (a situation, whatever) is trying to / could cause harm to my child and I can't help her either because I'm being prevented from doing so by people or because I am hurt / unconscious and can't do anything. My biggest problem was that I couldn't 'shake off' these thoughts. They were like movies in my head and I couldn't / can't stop them. I have to see them through! It's awful. But getting better. a) they happen far less often and b) sometimes I am able to turn them off!! In the early days I used to worry that I'd never be able to send my daughter to school because I couldn't possibly be separated from her because I need to be there to protect her ALL THE TIME. Although the thought of school does still freak me out a little, I can actually see myself sending her now!! LOL (And this coming from a woman whose daughter will go to daddy's school!! Yes, my DH is in education!!)
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Latest post on 21 May 2011 - 10:22
To all those mummies who have 'ahem' issues with their imaginations, I'm starting a new thread about this if you'd like to jump in. Although it may sound odd, I'm wondering if we can't help each other and newer mums who are dealing with the same thing. I know I would have given anything to know you ladies were out there in the first few months after my little girl was born. It just would have been an enormous relief to know it wasn't just me.
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Latest post on 20 May 2011 - 22:40
ashc... it's most emphatically not only you! I have truly wild things that go through my head and I can't stop them and they are wild enough that I thought in the first months that there was something very deeply wrong with me. I then discovered that it is in fact a form of post-natal depression (even though you don't necessarily feel depressed). It affects very few women but generally affects those who are already at least mildly obsessive compulsive, which I am. Sorry, I realise this is going a little off topic from the OP's post but I think it's important to say... anyway, apparently it's a condition that responds very well to anti-depressants. I came close to going for them as it was getting really bad. But in the end, I seemed to get it under control. I do still get these wild stories through my head and when they happen I can't stop them and they can be seriously disturbing but they are far fewer than they were. If you ever want to be reminded that you're not nuts, email me... mercedes dot king71 at gmail dot com
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Latest post on 20 May 2011 - 21:21
The maternal instinct thing is rough... I've mentioned before on this thread that I have wild stories that go through my head since my child was born!! It's easy (I find) to let your imagination run with all sorts of bizarre things. But as has been said below, this looney-tune is seriously looney!!
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Latest post on 20 May 2011 - 20:39
No, but now I'm curious. What's it supposed to do??
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Latest post on 20 May 2011 - 20:31
I haven't got a virgin.net email but I've had that problem with Yahoo and with hotmail in the past. I've never quite put my finger on whether it's an internet provider problem or a problem with Yahoo/Hotmail but it always resolves by the next day. Sorry, that doesn't really help you now.
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Latest post on 20 May 2011 - 14:17
BuckeyeD could you tell me if this group has older players? My mum comes out from November to May and she'd love to play too. She's 75 but quite fit! I wouldn't say she's a FANTASTIC player but she can hold her own. Thing is, I don't think she'd be comfortable playing with much younger women.
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Latest post on 20 May 2011 - 14:05
In case anyone wants to know... I found it! There's a Kiwi/Aussi/S.African bar in Downtown Dubai at Al Manzil Hotel. It's called Nezesaussi Grill. Non-smoking. Kids welcome. Menu looks good. Lovely guy answering the phone!!
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Latest post on 20 May 2011 - 13:46
How bizarre is THAT??
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Latest post on 20 May 2011 - 13:43
Carlton vs Geelong. It's on OSN4 (two games per week) C'mon... someone out there MUST know where it's playing. Poor Dh is losing it!!
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Latest post on 20 May 2011 - 13:11
Medhelp.com has a fertility forum - http://www.medhelp.org/forums/Fertility/show/96. It was invaluable to me through my eight cycles of IVF!
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Latest post on 19 May 2011 - 20:20
Thank you both. ooooh... DubaiCat... may have to give the Thai option a try. Love Copper Chimney but not in the mood for Indian.
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Latest post on 19 May 2011 - 14:41
Oooh... thanks. Love the directions DubaiCat!
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Latest post on 19 May 2011 - 14:34
Isn't that nice!! Makes me so proud!
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Latest post on 19 May 2011 - 13:24
There's a reason why they say Canadians abroad should be extra careful about getting in trouble They ain't about to come running to our rescue!!!
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Latest post on 19 May 2011 - 10:22
LOL... I'm Canadian and I dialed 0 once for "Canadians in distress" and they STILL didn't answer. I sent an email to the Canadian government to complain - this is about a year ago - and I resent it 3 times so far. Still no answer!! Makes you proud doesn't it!!