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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 14:54
Where I work, HR always tries to offer the least salary they can get away with. I have recently hired a senior person and thus know exactly the salary range we can offer for each level of positions. The candidate is excellent. But HR on highest level wants to still offer much less. It is so difficult to get really good and competent people over here, so many incompetents that came for interview (seriously no idea how they had gotten their current jobs either) and we found an absolute gem of a candidate and it all became a circus with negotiations. Almost lost the candidate as well, and who could blame him. Your friend has to have a proper written and signed offer - with all benefits and perks clearly mentioned. Otherwise she should not even consider. Sometimes with companies they mention the salary range but if it is a multinational the final offer needs to go via global HR, and sometimes they will not go for the proposed figure for lots of reasons. Happened to my DH once - all was almost set but gloal HR rejected the offer.
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Latest post on 30 January 2011 - 17:24
I am sure they would let you try to see how your daughter likes it - especially with the little ones. I did not do that, bought the 7 week course straight away - about Dhs 450 or so for 7 weeks. And my DD has liked it a lot so we keep on going and renewing after every 7 weeks. One advice, do not buy all the expensive gear - all little girls will need to wear pink ballet outfits, tights, the shoes etc - until you know your DD will continue. Cello sells these outfits but you should be able to find elsewhere aswell. The first couple of weeks, lots of girls were in different outfits.
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Latest post on 30 January 2011 - 17:14
I second Jem Jar. Maxi Cosi is excellent. We kept our DD in te infant seat till she was 12 kg and then moved onto the forward facing one - both from Maxi Cosi.
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Latest post on 30 January 2011 - 14:40
From Shalespeare and the men's hair salon, you turn to left and Hayaa Club is just there. Cello is there - my daughter does ballet there. Very nice place.[/quote Thanks mokkapala for the directions. I wanted to check out the ballet place out for my DD. How old your DD if you dont mind me asking and how did she find the classes. My DD 3 yrs old so lookign for something for her to do. edited by Sham on 30/01/2011 The ballet place is ok in my opinion, my daughter likes her ballet classes a lot. She started few months ago and has just turned 3 herself. Same as your daughter! It is a nice activity for the little girls. My daughter is now into all the pink, ballet, princess stuff. And she then likes to show us at home what she has learnt. They have classes during afternoons and Saturdays also.
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Latest post on 30 January 2011 - 14:31
We have a very long gate system we no longer need, if you are interested to buy second hand. It is built piece by piece. We got it from Ace initially so you may find them brand new there as well.
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Latest post on 30 January 2011 - 14:27
From Shalespeare and the men's hair salon, you turn to left and Hayaa Club is just there. Cello is there - my daughter does ballet there. Very nice place.
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Latest post on 30 January 2011 - 14:21
Cello is in the Spinneys Town Centre. You need to go to Hayya Club - from where you see all those ATMs. You go through the entrance to Hayya club reception and Cello is there at your left handside.
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Latest post on 29 January 2011 - 09:17
I agree with Izzy. There is a way to say things. You can say she has done a good job with you with regards to the duties you gave to her but you could not comment on her childcare abilities as those were not part of the job with you. Yes this is a good response, so i'll leave out the "are you a complete numptie" part then? ;) Yes, maybe just that :)
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Latest post on 29 January 2011 - 07:40
I agree with Izzy. There is a way to say things. You can say she has done a good job with you with regards to the duties you gave to her but you could not comment on her childcare abilities as those were not part of the job with you.
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Latest post on 28 January 2011 - 08:07
On Fridays, like any other day I wake up when DD wakes up - used to be 6am, these days 7.30am. I let Dh to sleep later, he works hard so deserves a lie in. I take DD to the park after breakfast, usually meet one of the other mums whose husband also sleeps till later. We sit on a picnic blanket, do some coloring and draeing with the kids, kids play, we have a snack. During winter months when weather is great to be outside as much as we can and let DD get lots of exercise and running around. We go back home around 10am, my DH will be up then and lately as I am 9 months pregnant, he then takes DD out for some daddy-daughter time and I get some rest. Often they eat lunch outside too, or if not, we eat lunch around 1pm. Then at 2pm it is naptime/rest for all of us. 3.30pm we get up and hang out at home for an hour or so and then we go out. Often meet friends with kids for early dinner at some family friendly restaurant around 5pm.
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Latest post on 27 January 2011 - 14:04
Many single people here, so I am sure she would make friends easily. I have to agree though with some of the posters that it is difficult to meet a serious minded man if you want to settle down - especially if you come here and are in your thirties already (not that it is old age or anything). I know it happens, and it happened to me too when I was 31, I met my husband here but prior to meeting him I found it very hard here to meet anyone you would want to settle down with. I have friends here who have been here for years and starting to approach their 40s and are pretty depressed,they do not seem to find anyone but men in their 20s and they are not interested to settle down at that stage. Of course the serious minded men exist here but how to meet them. I may be wrong with this advice as have been married for 5 years now. I did not meet my husband by chance - I was introducd to him. I would also say that Dubai has many things to do, lots of social aspects to it! Itis fun and vibrant. And many good jobs going even in this economy!
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Latest post on 25 January 2011 - 12:26
What does it mean to have own maid's visa?
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Latest post on 25 January 2011 - 12:03
Some doctors should have their license taken away from them. That treatment is just awful. My maid barely gets sick but did have a pretty bad experience herself - and I was there to witness it - in a government hospital. We are looking into getting a health insurance for her. Here according to labor law, all companies should provide a health insurance - if I am correct. But labor law does not apply to domestic help. But should somehing happen, then an insurance would be a good idea to have. That is what I was thinking about now doing, she has her health card, but I am going to look at private health insurance now. Not that money matters but it cost quite a bit to get S correctly diagnosed and if that happened a few times a year the cost of health insurance would be no more expensive (i think), anyway if you find any good med insurance maybe you could share on here. I definitely will - my Dh is on the case at the moment.
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Latest post on 25 January 2011 - 11:43
raffles nurseries are good - I have good experience from them with my DD.
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Latest post on 25 January 2011 - 11:40
Some doctors should have their license taken away from them. That treatment is just awful. My maid barely gets sick but did have a pretty bad experience herself - and I was there to witness it - in a government hospital. We are looking into getting a health insurance for her. Here according to labor law, all companies should provide a health insurance - if I am correct. But labor law does not apply to domestic help. But should somehing happen, then an insurance would be a good idea to have.
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Latest post on 25 January 2011 - 10:18
I am sure any donations are always warmly received. I have never myself gone to an actual labor camp to donate, have done donations through my company to the third party suppliers' labor camps, as well as donating things such as towels, pillows, blankets and dry food items to laborers directly. And in cold drinks have been very well received. the summer heat Your heart is in the right place. Maybe talk to some companies you see working near you - where you see laborers working, maybe they have a site manager etc you could ask. I have just gone and given things and never been turned away so far, and I have never had massive amount that could be divided by everyone - just what I have gotten from home. But there are ome lovely ladies even on this site that have organised nice collections and then taken the bigger amount and distributed it.
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Latest post on 24 January 2011 - 17:41
Just wondering at what age and sizedid you move your child from car seat to a booster seat? We have a Maxi Cosi car seat that is in my car for my rather big 3 year old - she is 102cm tall and 16kg. We want to buy a second one for my husband's car as we are fed up moving the current car seat from one car to another. Would it make sense to get a bosster seat with back and neck rest or another car seat? What have you mummies done? I went to a shop today at Mall of Emirates, the shop assistant said yes to everything so it was not exactly fruitful. Everyone is on the maid thread and no one is looking at the boring query threads. :( <em>edited by mokkapala on 24/01/2011</em>
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 11:28
Yes, I agree with you babyrat. This best mother competition is so rife in Dubai. [color=#000000'>Yes but it's hardly a best mother competition when the maids do the parenting now is it? There is help and there is parenting, don't think anyone is questioning help. I am quite fascinated by the multiple maid syndrome and what the long term afffects on the family will be. I can only think that these expats must be on huge salaries to be able to afford multiple help and wonder if they have planned for their families financial future, ie schooling, Uni, a house, retirement. If they have i wonder what the heck they do and what they do or rather what the DH does. Then i wonder why they are here. Surely we are allowed to wonder?[/color'> edited by Jumeriah Jane on 23/01/2011 Hi. yes you are allowed to wonder. It is just that it is always the same thing when someone posts about maids. Always the - do it yourself - I can do it myself, look at how good I am - theme song going on. And really, is it anyone's business. People have different lifestyles and yes very different income levels - are everyone supposed to live their lives like the next person. And if their husband's earn lots of money, well done! As long as you are happy with your own, that is all that counts. Also how do you guys know if the posters' maids will do all the parenting? It is like suggesting she is a bad mother just like that. So to me this is a constant competition between women - and I feel that lots of women in Dubai have serious issues with their own self esteem as they are so critical of each other. There is no sisterhood, but constant upmanship to make another person feel less good about themselves. I happen to know someone who has two maids, a driver as well. And guess what, the parents are very involved and loving, they have busy lives, he is very well off, children have turned out lovely and respectful of others. Just because you outsource some of the household chores to a househelp, does not you a bad parent make.
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 11:11
Yes, I agree with you babyrat. This best mother competition is so rife in Dubai. Can women no longer feel better about themselves unless they have to critizice and make fun of other people's choices. This post has become as usual - poster asks a valid question and then all the mother of the year candidates join in to explain how it can be done without a maid. Sometimes I am wondering what goes on in people's minds. One time I read a post here where people were criticizing women who liked to look good - someone had actually had a pedicure and hair blow dried to go to an event, wow, what a crime! Must be a bad mother as well for taking care of herself.
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 09:54
I made my own. I just baked 2 round chocolate cakes (the same size), Nutella filling between the 2, covered it with vanilla ready frosting, then covered it with mini M&M's. Happy 1st birthday small candles & a huge no.1 candle. Looked amazing & tasted yummy, & I was sooooo proud as I made his 1st birthday cake :D This sounds delicious and I want to eat this too! I must try! Also i would recommend manuri, she did our DD's first birthday cake and cupcakes and they were beond delicious. We had the worm from Baby Eistein, the colorful one on the top and it looked gorgeous, and the cake was delicious!
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Latest post on 22 January 2011 - 22:22
Maids should be banned for all! I never had a maid or will, I have worked full time and part time, had 2 kids and managed to do all without extra help. I do not understand why people complain all the time, I think they should learn how to manage their time better. Now, I don't work and I could not imagine having someone around the house and myself doing nothing! It feels too colonial...I live in the 21st century! Well that would be great for all the girls from Filippines, Sri Lanka and other countries who would have otherwise no jobs. If you do not want a maid, don't, but what an earth is wrong if someone else does. Let people have 1, 2 or 3 maids if they so wish - that is their life.
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Latest post on 22 January 2011 - 19:00
No need to explain why you need a second maid as it is no one else's business really.
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Latest post on 22 January 2011 - 08:30
It's a playgroup for toddlers at different locations. Check out www.babyarabia.com And they have classes in different locations as well.
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Latest post on 20 January 2011 - 14:58
Funny ones! After my DD was born, I fel that I looked rough - and did not just feel it, I did look rough. Somehow I got lotsof fine lines around my eyes from lack of sleeping, and well, general aging process. One time we were in a cafe having a lovely time together an I said to my husband - I have noticed I have lots of fine lines around my eyes. he said" Yes you do, why is that?"
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Latest post on 18 January 2011 - 22:59
This is the funniest ever!!!! We too suffer from the rolling marbles! But we live in a villa - so no one upstairs - please no rollerskating rats!!!!!!!!!!!
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Latest post on 18 January 2011 - 22:43
A nice brooch. It is personal without being too intimate, the price is flexible based on your budget, it can be worn on a jacket, scarf, handbag or displayed on her dressing table and is age appropriate. [i'>*I love classic brooches*[/i'> This is a nice idea, a nice Swarowski brooch for example. My Dh got one for my mother when he first met her - my mum is now a very youthful 71 - and she loves it - wear it with all sorts of outfits
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Latest post on 18 January 2011 - 21:46
THis is what we plan too. We will pay for their education - but our kids will need to start getting summer jobs and weekend jobs when they get older to get experience and value for money - I had summer jobs since I was 15. And the kinds of jobs you get at that age really make you want to study. I worked in a butcher's making mince meat in a cooler room, in a closed ward for mentally ill patiens where I had the duty to take them for a wash every morning, all sorts of things. A real eye opener. And made me also want to study as I did not want to end up doing those jobs for the rest of my life. But also to appreciate people of all walks of life who do different types of jobs. Not everyone is going to be a CEO or an executive - all jobs at the end of the day are needed. Thank you yall for your feedback, what I meant is do you have any accounts for your kids in Dubai, while you are living here? also for those who said that the kids has to work, I agree with that but what is you and ur DH no longer exist while your little Ones are still young? We just made a will here and were advised not to keep anything in the UAE. PUt most of the money outside of the UAE which w have done. So we do not have any special savings accounts here. I strongly advise you to make a will because it will save a lot of hassle. We have gone through a litany of points with the lawyers, and have really woken up to the reality. Our lawyers even advised not to even own property here. Ensure you have executors of the will appointed, guardians, even temporary giardians and beneficiaries appointed. A will is a must when you live here. For us it cost Dhs 10,000 to have one done in both English and Arabic. So please do not open anything here, do it in your own country or offshore, that way should something bad happen you are not tied to the laws of this country.
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Latest post on 18 January 2011 - 15:40
THis is what we plan too. We will pay for their education - but our kids will need to start getting summer jobs and weekend jobs when they get older to get experience and value for money - I had summer jobs since I was 15. And the kinds of jobs you get at that age really make you want to study. I worked in a butcher's making mince meat in a cooler room, in a closed ward for mentally ill patiens where I had the duty to take them for a wash every morning, all sorts of things. A real eye opener. And made me also want to study as I did not want to end up doing those jobs for the rest of my life. But also to appreciate people of all walks of life who do different types of jobs. Not everyone is going to be a CEO or an executive - all jobs at the end of the day are needed.
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Latest post on 18 January 2011 - 15:16
We have an investment fund that they will get when they come of age and go to university. We put money there every month. Also my parents have started savings plan for our DD and will do the same for our soon to be born second child - where they put money every month - also with view to take them through good university education later on (if they choose to go to university). When I was a child, in my country parents get monthly payment for each child - good Scandinavian social security system! - they did not touch it at all for 18 years and when I turned 18, they handed it over to me. We also have invested money in land and some property, but not here - all in my DH's home country.
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Latest post on 18 January 2011 - 15:10
Welcome to the club! Until recently my DD who just turned 3, was quite a good breakfast eater. But recently it is a struggle that we seem to repeat every morning. I have told her I will not take her to school unless she eats all of her breakfast (she likes it a lot at her nursery school and knows staying home means boredom and no other children to play with) - that song and dance can take about 20 minutes, eventually she realises I am serious and then she eats and brings her bowl to me to show she has finished. She eats natural yoghurt, weetabix or Cheerios, sometimes some toast with cheese and turkey ham on top of it - and I squeeze her some oranges for a juice. She will not drink milk in the morning other than the milk from the cereal bowl. My DD has gone through variety of interesting eating phases such as the pasta only phase and I realise she outgrows them all. So there is hope. She went through a stage at nursery where she refused the nice warm lunch they serve there - just picked on it - these days she finishes her plate there every day, so there is hope! ;)
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Latest post on 18 January 2011 - 14:41
I do not understand why teachers are not paid better. To me it is such an important job - teaching and guiding our children through their formative years -hugely important in my opinion.
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Latest post on 18 January 2011 - 14:37
I think sometimes people want everyone to pay the same going rate for the maids so that there would not be any issues. but I think that in any job,you pay what you think the job is worth to you. Not all marketing managers get the same salary for example, it depends on the company and the person's experience. If you find a good maid with good experience, why not pay a good salary. I think Dhs 2000 is a fine salary. We pay ours Dhs 1800 - started her off at Dhs 1500 and we pay all her food bills too. So to me Dhs 2000 looks pretty good as I am sure would for a lot of maids. When it comes to the boyfriend staying, do not go there. I know you want to be liberal and nice and allow your maid her life - which would be ok in any other country but not here. My maid is allowed to have a friend over for the night - as long as she is a woman and it does not become a habit - so every now and then a friend of hers does stay - but that happens roughly onceevery two months. You open the door to the boyfriend staying at your house, and you open a whole new can of worms. That is my opinion.
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Latest post on 17 January 2011 - 14:44
We paid for her ID card and my husband took her there to handle the entire process. We see all these documentation costs as our responsibility.
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Latest post on 15 January 2011 - 07:52
The whole point of having a maid is that it makes your life easier in the areas where you need her contribution. So you should discuss the working hours with her - I see nothing wrong with the ones you are suggesting. What is the point having her sitting at home with no work and then her off free when you actually need her? But do discuss everything rom the beginning so that you do not have issues later. My maid also seems to have a long day as she starts at 7am and finishes at 6pm but has several hours off during the day. So she does not work even 8 hours a day. In terms of your other questions, you can ask her to perform the duties you need her to be doing. The ones you have mentioned are perfectly fine for a maid to do, and you should think of everything you could utilise her with and structure your plans. We give our maid a flight home once a year and a one month paid leave. However she does not always want to take it and rather wants to save her money in which case we pay her the equivalent of a flight ticket plus 13th month salary. Our maid gets paid 1800 a month but uptil recently we paid her 1500. And on top of this we buy her food as well. Our maid does not have a health insurance -she has the government health card like most laids - not a lot of people have gotten a private insurance for their maids but iI have seen people discuss this also on the forum so maybe more people are looking into it. I have considered it as an extra benefit but we have not yet investigated any companies or costs.
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Latest post on 14 January 2011 - 10:37
OK, my text is usually not as full of typos but my keyboard is having different ideas! Sorry!
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Latest post on 14 January 2011 - 10:35
but dont think it applies to maids as they do not come under the labour law for the part time that will be other professionals isnt it. I agree with you. i am almost convinced this new law does not apply to domestic workers as they do not fall under the normal labour law anyway. I use to let my maid have a part time wrk which meant babysitting for a friend once a week. And in all honesty would not have any problem her having extra work as she does have quite a lot of time when she could earn extra. But I asked her to stop with this fine busines as nice as sheis, I am not prepare to pay hefty fines. So for me until everyting is absolutely clear, in terms of law, no extra work allowed in our house. Should the law make it clar maid also are allowed for part time work, then I will allow it.
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Latest post on 13 January 2011 - 11:30
I agree Cornish Pixie. I recently contacted her, although have not yet decided if we will go with her service but that is purely as we had some medical drama with visitors recently and put other thoughts aside and now we also are wondering about our long term future here - maybe another two years only. But I found her services appealing. She has been doing the consultancy a long time and has excellent relations with schools and she gives a turnkey service. It is not that easy a job, she is an education consultant.
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Latest post on 12 January 2011 - 09:41
I belong in the category who could always stand to lose those 5 extra kilos. I never got to my prepregnancy weight after having DD - gained a whopping 25kg with her - but very close though, ended up being just 3 kg more than before I got pregnant so was pretty happy about that. But boy did my body change!!! I am now couple of weeks shy of giving birth to our second baby. On the issue of thin and gorgeous women - I actually find women in Dubai pretty good looking, they take better care of themselves than back in my home country and are far more feminine and sexy. you see lots of good looking slim ladies. And lots of women are slim by nature and some work at it. But there is nothing wrong with that. I too try to work at it but I am just never going to have the body I used to because 1. while I work at it, I clearly do not work hard it enough and 2. I have many things to occupy me and thus try to find a golden middle way and 3. like sweet things a bit too much. I have friends who are slim and gorgeous and believe me they do eat. But they also do not eat junk but lots of healthy food. And not all gorgeous women are necessarily thin. Here you see women of so many shapes and sizes, and you realise beauty does come in many different packages. After having this baby, I definitely do not want to let go but get back in shape. It makes me happy. At the end of the day, what woman does not want to look good and be appreciated for it.
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Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 20:24
Your rant was well justified. Maids are not nannies.
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Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 11:55
I don't think we can say that as parents we're only qualified to be maids. The children are OURS; there's an inbuilt need to protect them and make sure they have everything they need. For a maid, children might only be another part of the job - wash car, mob floor, scrub toilet, oversee child..... I think that ladies qualified as Nannies have a desire to be with children, look after them and protect them. Being a Nanny is a choice they've made. For many maids, looking after children isn't a choice but a task that is thrust upon them, whatever their opinion of children might be. Saying that, there are many unqualified maids who do a fantastic job of looking after kids. You have written a nice reply on this post - I would agree with your definition. I think there is always a risk leaving your child with anyone. We have a maid that does help with childcare at times. 3 years with us now and wonderful. You can have a qualified person too who has less than good intentions. If I had any doubt about our maid, she would not be with us. But I do not. We are all very fond of her and she has been nothing but good for our family. hand on my heart, I am not worried about leaving my DD wih her if I need to. I am lucky that with my work, I work around DD's nursery times so do not require our maid muh for childcare help.
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Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 11:48
Thank you for the feedback. Just to give you somebackground info - I am from Scandinavia and our schooling system is very different there - formal schooling starts at6/7 years of age before which they go to kindergarden or preschool but those are quite different from the ones here. My priority is not to find the closets school to our home but a good one. Our plan is to stay only maximum another 3 years so when we go back, she will still beatthe age when the school actually starts at our home country. So am currently finding the schooling systems a little bit confusing. I have friends here who will starttheir childrenin schools that requirechildren to be 4 when bySep 15 whe theystart - this is my preference too - and some have their children in schools at 3. I plan to do the applications this January for KG1 in September, most schools I have spoken to said the application time is now. So am currently taking schook toursand registering. Thanks again for your feedback.
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Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 09:26
They will work as "freelancers". Many of them around here too.Not necessarily absconded maids, some are though, some are freelancing on someone's sponsorship.
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Latest post on 11 January 2011 - 09:23
I am looking for a school for my DD for next September.We live in Springs. So would like something close to our home. I am looking into EIS at Meadows, DIA and Regent. I have seen topics on EIS that have not been so nice lately and just wonder if they are any parents who have children there at KG1 or KG2 and if so, what feedback could you give to me. Similar to the other schools, any good or bad feedback? Much appreciated. Also at what age did your children start school. Mine turns 3 soon and I honestly would prefer her to stay in nursery for one extra year as I like the environment there so much - very child friendly and suitable for their age. But then I am told if she only starts at KG2 level, it will be hard to secure a place.
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Latest post on 10 January 2011 - 18:30
I think many people seem to see maid's job not as a job but the whole concept of a maid somewhat uncomfortable and end up compensating for that feeling. Sometimes I think some people see them as people in need of charity. But they are not. They are here to work for making their lives and lives of their families better. Is it the perfect life, having to leave loved ones behind? Surely not. But that is what you do when you have little alternatives in your home country. In the beginning I was a bit uncomfortable of having a maid - but not anymore. I think it is great to have help at home. We pay her well, but do not have zillions of add ons. There is a reason she gets a salary like everyone else. Our maid manages very well with that and has done really well with savings as well, she has set herself goals in life, her daughters are her top priority, she does not intend to be a maid here forever so she does not go spending her money needlessly. She sacrifices many things in order for her dughters to have a better chance in life. And that is how I think it should be.We think she is a great example how to manage yourself. We all need to manage with our salary don't we. So I do not particularly feel pity for the maids here. They are doing all right. I know they are not rolling in it, but are they meant to, as maids? Sorry, they work as maids, it is not a highly paid profession, so you live with what you have. Plenty of people here, professionals who get salaries of 2000-3000 out of which they pay housing, bills, food, transportation, everything. They are the ones struggling and have nothing end of the month. Maids have guaranteed roof over their head, no bills, food paid in most cases. And do I really care what their bills in their home countries are? No, why should I? Should that reflect what I pay her? No? Does your company pay you differently if they know you for example struggle with a mortgage back in your home country, why should they care of this. I look at what they get here for their work, and I think many of their situations is just fine (excluding of course anyone in abusive working relationship) Pay your maid well and she should be happy. Start with giving in to lots of demands (if you happen to have such a maid - by the way not all maids beg for things or put extra expectations, many of them are very nice and appreciate) and it may never end. Then it is nice to give salary increments, it is nice to give bonus, when you have a person working for you who appreciates you.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 January 2011 - 14:40
Jeez Ginnee - I bet they are wishing they had listened to you and given you the opportunity to speak to her - they should have checked her phone and been far more aware of how serious the situation was. It was never ever going to be right - hard hard woman to walk out on a toddler - unforgiveable...... I hope the both of them are found and sent back..... Yes you have to be a hard woman to do that. And if I remember correctly, Ginnee mentioned the sponsor of the cousin did not want to drag her into the mess in case she would be upset and treat their child badly. Well, either way, she has treated their child VERY badly.
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Latest post on 10 January 2011 - 14:37
I'd love that. I like grey weather! Makes me want to have hot chocolate with marshmellows in it!!!!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 January 2011 - 14:27
He was a great doctor - just like Carol Smillie. Both such nice people.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 January 2011 - 14:20
The maid left the 2 year old home alone and run away?!!! Hope they find her!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 10 January 2011 - 13:27
Since when do maids need to be travelling around in taxis? I will get shot for saying that but really. And if it is for the convenience factor then what the heck??? They are maids - yes, housemaids,. And as such, not a profession that reeps major salaries. Live the lifestyle you can afford. That is how it is everywhere. I think when there are no metro/bus available. Or do you mean that if there are no public transport maids should just stay all their days at home because they are only maids and not fit for using taxi? No, let the maids use the taxi if they want but let them not expect their sponsors to pick up the bill - especially when the sponsor is paying them well. Let the maid use her salary or are they not expected to spend any of that on their cost of living. And like I said, plenty use car lifts - what is wrong with those? And yes, a person who is a maid does have to come with solutions - it is not a job that pays sky high salaries. Many maids survive with car lifts - which are very common here. There are alternatives to taxis.
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Latest post on 10 January 2011 - 12:14
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