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Latest post on 13 November 2011 - 19:38

Dear Pixie I am starting to wonder if i'm writing in another language, at no point did i suggest you were racist, as Sue 62 and IAMVP stated I mentioned these sorts of threads could turn that way if there was not enough clarity regarding the orginal question. There is always some bod who makes unrequired comments (as proven). Now your situation is becoming very complex and indeed i feel i was correct in mentioning that such an open question was of little benefit. Had you explained in your original question your concerns and situation you may have far more relevant feedback to your very specific situation. Why do i say that you wonder? Because being a normal expat married to a non native is a very different situation to a non native being married to a native moving back to the home country of one of the native spouses. You are actually asking for a perspective on this situation (above) yes? Not how Mrs Smith gets on with local friend? The two are as far apart as the moon and sun and only those in that situation or those who have been expats in the region for a long enough will understand the complexities of the two very unique situations mentioned above. In order to gain the correct information to your question you actually do need to set a thread up being more specific and receive responses from those who are in the same situation. I hope that makes sense and not deemed anything other than what it is, good advice. Getting on with arab nationals abroad is a whole different kettle of fish to integrating as part of a family member on home turf. But do remember people are people and regardless of nationality there will be good and bad traits regardless. You need to look at the cultural aspects and discuss these with your spouse, they will change as will your DH when he sets foot back into the family fold. How you are perceived and accepted by the new family and other nationals will very much depend on you, your communicataion skills and the support you have from your DH teaching you the new ways. I hope this has clarified my perspective on your question.:) edited by Domestic Goddess-in-training on 13/11/2011 Well, I did not post all details about my life, but I know you did not mean to offend me or anything. I know there are some racists out there who would turn a thread to be something it is not. Well, I guess UAE could be considered my husband's so called "home turf" because he comes from very traditional and tribal family, who are very, very selective who they pick as a wife for their son. He decided to deviate and got me instead. This is pretty much what happens in UAE families, since they are very traditional and consider only selected few. I have discussed some issues with him and he assured me it would be OK. Also, from the perspective of expats it would be different from the perspective of locals or GCC Arabs. Their "sister tribe" is in UAE. Although he is not based there, he does have relatives. His culture is quite close to Emirati. I never lived there, but I will spend sometime there to deliver my baby. I am very used to the traditions of his family, but I have not really had friends from UAE. Would like to have some. edited by Pixie2011 on 13/11/2011 <em>edited by Pixie2011 on 13/11/2011</em>

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