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Latest post on 01 March 2017 - 12:01

We hired a housemaid that came with great recommendations from her previous family, she was a qualified school teacher for several decades and she seemed great. She owed some money to the agency that had handled her visa changes and accommodation while she was looking for a new sponsor (previous sponsor relocated), so we paid it for her (4500dhs).on the agreement that she would get a little lower salary. We paid her 2500aed per month, all food and toiletries are paid by us (whatever she wanted), we paid for her work clothes (I took her shopping, normal clothes not uniform), a small allowance for food and to top up her nol card, she got to pick what furniture she wanted for her room (the maids room is a separate building with a big room and private shower/toilet). The agreement was that every 3 month we would have a review and then she would get a bonus with the amount depending on how her work was. Her working hours are from 7-10:30 and then again from 15:30-19, 1 day off as agreed (but most weeks 1.5 day and every 2-3 weeks 2 days off), off on some public holidays and off on most of the Christian holidays. She is to clean in the morning and then to do ironing/tidying in the afternoon while helping me out a bit with the boys while I am cooking When she first started she was amazing, there was no more rush in the morning and I didn't feel like I had to collapse in the evening when the boys went to sleep (little in preschool til 12 and 'big' one in kindergarten til 14:30, I am working from home when they are in school). After 1.5-2 weeks we had the first issue with her letting my oldest climb on the outside of the stairs (about 2.5 meter to the floor), when I saw it I asked her to get him back over the rail immediately (she didn't so I ran up to grab him), I asked her what the f. she was thinking letting him to that and she replied that if she said no he would be angry, I told her I would rather have him angry/upset than have a broken leg/back/neck. We had an agreement that she was allowed to have visitors as long as she let me know in advance and that I wanted to meet them first, she understood me perfectly and agreed we should be careful since we had young children. After 2 weeks with us she had her birthday, I gave her the morning off but asked that she came back to work at 4, at 4:15 all of the sudden a stranger walks in through my house, and she tells me 'oh madam this is my friend she is here for my party'. I called our maid over and told her that we had an agreement with no people in my house unless i knew, and that she was supposed to be working now, and she was all 'oh, sorry sorry mam' and then she went in the kitchen with the friend to gossip (and not work). While having these issues she also became less helpful and less sweet with the older one, she would pay loads of attention to the little one while ignoring the oldest (to the point of only cooking breakfast for the little one), then I caught her yelling/screaming at the oldest (told her off immediately and made her apologize to him), it wasn't even the big one doing anything but the little one kicking him and the oldest then pushing him away to defend himself (they are close in age and are fighting a lot these days). It got a little better and she improved her patience with the oldest but was still not great with him, we thought with some work it would get better, but then one morning i took my youngest to the nursery while leaving the big one in the bed as he was sleeping with a fever, my husband was at home but in the garden taking some phonecalls and she was listening for the oldest. When I came home I found my oldest sobbing loudly at the top of the stairs, face all red and covered in tears and snot. I carried him down and then went to the kitchen were she was doing dishes, I asked her why she didn't go take him and she said that she did but that he didn't want her so she left again, upon asked why she didn't sit down near him, or went to get my husband in the garden or even call me on the phone she had no reply. After that I told her that our working relationship was finished, that she could live with us till she found a new job but that she better find it fast. After a week she told me that she didn't want to find a new job but that she wanted to go back home and her family member had booked her a ticket for march 12 (this happened about 20 days ago), so we sort of felt we had to let her stay with us for that time. Just now we took a new lady on trial, I offered to give the new lady a lift to the metro and asked the old maid to watch the boys for the 10 minutes it took. When i backed out and was closing the gate there came running my little one, I stopped the gate and was watching him from the car to see if she would come for him, when she didn't, I took him with me in the car. She didn't call or text me till we were almost back at the house and what she wrote was 'sorry madam, he wants to go with you, told me don't follow me'. When I came inside the house I asked her how she could let him go out to the street alone, that if i hadn't seen him he could have ended up on the street with the gate closed behind him, then she grabbed him and started yelling at him 'why did you do that, i told you not to, now you make your mummy mad at me' etc etc and then she smacked him on the leg. Would i be unreasonable to send her out tonight? And possibly put a ban on her, normally I dont agree with bans but I am so furious now, she put their safety in jeopardy several times and then she actually used violence against my little 3 year old. Sorry its so long, but wanted to give a proper history and to explain that she was well treated OMG! I would be sending her home asap....and yes put a ban on her. She is lucky you didnt call the police for hitting your child...many others would of. You can not have her in your home, goodness knows what she is up to when you not around or your back is turned. I would of lost it...along time ago.

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