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Latest post on 29 July 2014 - 07:24
Whilst rescuing a GSD is absolutely wonderful and very kind of you please be cautious having it as a live out dog. Many owners of live out dogs get along just fine but a minority tend to leave the dog to their own devices for long periods which for a breed like a German Shepherd can be disastrous. German Shepherds are one of the top 3 most intelligent dog breeds. They are very faithful and sensitive dogs and need people contact as well as firm training by a confident calm handler. If left alone for long periods they can become badly socialised, aggressive and develop nuisance barking not to mention the destruction they may reign down on your garden through boredom. Bear in mind this breed is used for complex tasks such as police work, search and rescue, drug/bomb detection as well as agility (which lots of domestic owners do) they learn very quickly and are very eager to learn. Simply put this is not a breed to leave isolated for long periods. Having one as a live out dog can work out but please be prepared to spend more than the usual about of time with it. This means walking, training and socialising at least 3-4 times a day to compensate for the lack of human contact when the family is indoors and the dog outdoors. The family would be best to all get involved with the dog bonding period (although only one person should be training the dog at a time) to ensure the dog does not regard some members as strangers as these dogs are naturally protective/territorial (you want the dog to be faithful to the family not one individual). Good luck finding your kennel carpenter and I hope you enjoy the new member of your family for many years to come.
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Latest post on 29 July 2014 - 00:51
Can you not get a UK spec one which will be right voltage? I just bought my mum a Magimix blender, I have a KitchenAid in Dubai which I love, and hate to say the Magimix is better than my KitchenAid :-(
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Latest post on 29 July 2014 - 00:27
Hi Ladies, My gosh, IVF is making me stress out! We have been meeting with Dr Ahmed and I'm desperate to hear anyone's feedback on him. When we went to the clinic we didn't choose a Dr, they just assigned him to us. We'll start our cycle next month. Thanks! We had Dr Lamia she was lovely. We had another Dr previously whose name I won't mention (not Ahmed) and she was frankly awful. But highly recommend Dr Lamia, sorry never met Dr Ahmed.
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Latest post on 29 July 2014 - 00:26
Our London house is 1930s and I'm pretty sure the doors would be fine. Old UK houses are quite well built. My flat is brand new and would be fine as well I expect. But I always use mine on the new uPVC back door as it is lockable in case anyone tries to open it! Otherwise are others have said, take it to the park with an extender and use a tree or kiddies playground?
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Latest post on 29 July 2014 - 00:22
I'm in Uk at Present and can think instantly of 20 reasons why I love Dubai. Has any one created a more positive list of 20 reasons why the UAE is great? 4. Tolerance for all religions and ways of life I'm not entirely sure about this one, certainly as a comparison to London for example I'd say definitely not. There are some religions/ways of life which you would simply not put on a form in Dubai. Atheism and Agnostic (not available as far as I'm aware) and Jewish. Also you may not wish to disclose to authorities if you are gay.
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Latest post on 24 July 2014 - 01:47
I don't know about Amazon UK but when I use my UK card on Amazon US it gives me an option of paying in GBP which is really helpful advising exactly how much I will be charged. If you try placing an order, just before the final checkout stage it should (if it is the same on UK Amazon) give you the option of which currency to pay.
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Latest post on 23 July 2014 - 19:59
Nissans and Toyotas are known for good reliability. However I have had friends in Dubai who had serious issues dealing with Toyota servicing who basically broke their car then charged them a fortune to fix it. When we were looking to buy we were less than impressed with the Toyota dealership. In the end we decided to lease a car long term so we didn't have to concern ourselves with the car breaking or other maintenance costs. If I were to choose between them I would most likely choose the Toyota. But whether or not you have issues I think unfortunately is the luck of the draw.
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Latest post on 22 July 2014 - 22:52
But Ruth you do agree with me. By justifying that "everyone everywhere does it", you are one of us - the billions of people worldwide who care but care more about ourselves. No matter how we paint the picture to ourselves, how we position it's acceptability to ourselves, the truth is that everywhere, in most cases, there are people suffering and we, as humanity, allow it to happen. But for some unbeknownst reason, people come here and are shocked to see it happening and attempt to separate themselves from it, as though it is 'them' not 'us' when the truth is they know what is going in and support it in some way shape of form by staying here where it [the extent of human hierarchies'> is much more transparent than in other countries. edited by Londiamond on 22/07/2014 Sorry you did say " if you have a resident visa… you are on board with everything here, like it or lump it you sold your values for the job that brought you here." If merely having a Dubai visa means you have sold your values then you actually sold your values the day you were born whether you wanted to or not. In actuality it is possible to say many Dubai residents who do say something about this are more enlightened than others in Europe/Americas/Australasia who blindly buy their clothing made in Bangladesh, their computers made in China, their non fairtrade pineapples from Philippines. Likewise there are people who are horrified to find lamb biryani starts off looking like a cute little fluffy lamb (as someone whose family do a lot of shooting and have spent half my life criticised by anti-hunting meat eaters I always find this amusing). Western civilisation over the last fifty years or so has become more and more manufactured, most people do not consider where their food or their consumable items come from except when the press decides to make a song and dance about something (tea, coffee, Apple products). I know very few people who inspect labels to see where things were manufactured and even in doing so you still have to consider just because an item of clothing was for example made in Italy, the fabric may have still been manufactured under sweatshop conditions in the far east. Now just because you are benefitting from these things does not mean you have sold your values. As a citizen of many countries in the west there are things governments do that you may disagree with, but very few people rescind their citizenship. In 2003 up to a million people protested in London over the Iraq war and most of them probably went straight back to work the next day, paying taxes, purchasing VAT goods and funding the very war they protested about. Just because we benefit from citizenship of a country whose foreign policies we don't necessarily agree with, or products manufactured under poor working conditions does not mean we cannot say something about them (although in certain places you can only whisper). In order to function in a modern world we all have to 'compromise' on our values. This is not selling out, this is compromising and merely living in Dubai does not mean you've sold out your values. So long as you do not forget what you stand for and are still disgusted by the inequality of different ethnic groups then your values are still there.
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Latest post on 22 July 2014 - 14:05
I don't wish to burst anyone's bubble here but like it or not if you are a resident here you benefit from in some way or turn a blind eye to any under the rug goings on because you KNOW you do not have a voice to fight them yet remain here anyway because you need the job yourself. And anyone who says otherwise is lying to themselves. The only people who can rightfully say it is not done wrong, it is bad, are those who say so as they sit in another country and refuse to come. There is the thumb down option so you can further be in denial. But if you have a resident visa… you are on board with everything here, like it or lump it you sold your values for the job that brought you here. edited by Londiamond on 22/07/2014 I think that most of us expats, of all races and religions and all walks of life, have come here for a better standard of living and more money. Everything is relative in terms of what is a better standard of living depending on where the expat comes from... edited by AnonDubai on 22/07/2014 I disagree with both these posts. Firstly even if you have attempted to always purchase fair trade goods for many things it is not possible. Unless you have exited society, live in a cave and do not use any imported goods whatsoever (so no filling your car with petrol, not that you would own a car anyway unless you built it yourself) then you are guilty of 'selling your values' in order to live in modern society. Just because you cannot see the sweatshops and construction workers in Europe, America and Australasia does not mean you are not benefitting from them. Secondly there are a large number of people who are not in Dubai to have a better standard of living and make more money. DH would earn the same salary package in UK as here. Once we've paid the extortionate rent and inflated prices for just about everything in Dubai we would probably break about even with UK tax. However he works internationally all over Europe, Middle East, Africa and Asia and we are in Dubai as it means we can spend more time together and he can arrange a lot of client meetings here as a central hub. It also gives us a nice hub to travel and explore some of Asia. In the UK we already have a similar sized property, private health care and would be putting our kids in private school. Frankly our UK property is better built than our Dubai one, the health care is better (I have just spent a considerable amount of time in leading London hospitals and there is good reason why they are absolutely packed with wealthy Arabs many of which are Emirati) and the well established prep/public schools are definitely superior to the profit driven UAE schools. These are reasons why we will be leaving the UAE prior to our kids reaching age 5, (possibly age 3) and most likely going back to the UK where the quality of living is better.
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Latest post on 22 July 2014 - 13:42
Depends on the brand. Jaeger LeCoultre is more expensive/the same in Dubai. Rolex is generally cheaper. Unfortunately you need to compare the prices of the specific watches you are looking for in order to work it out. I don't know about Omega or Tag. If you go to independent Jewellers in the UK they are more inclined to negotiate on prices. We just got 20% off a Jaeger LeCoultre from an independent jeweller and then were able to claim the VAT back as well resulting in a third off RRP. The same watch in Dubai was marginally more expensive than full RRP however with the current poor dollar/pound exchange rate it may not be quite so expensive. Why don't you phone the Dubai Omega/Tag stores and ask them for a price regarding the specific watch you are looking for? <em>edited by RuthM on 22/07/2014</em>
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Latest post on 20 July 2014 - 03:21
Charging is not a problem you can charge from a laptop or buy a local plug for the wall. But do you mean use in Canada with your UAE sim card or with a Canadian sim card? If you want to use a Canadian sim card there may be some issues. iPhones in the UAE tend to be the same as the UK GSM model. Not sure about the iPhone 4 but with regard to the iPhone 5s that is model A1457. The bands covered are: 1 (2100 MHz) 2 (1900 MHz) 3 (1800 MHz) 5 (850 MHz) [b'>7 (2600 MHz)[/b'> 8 (900 MHz) 20 (800 DD) Some Canadian networks use CDMA others are GSM. For Canada the model is A1533 which supports: 1 (2100 MHz) 2 (1900 MHz) 3 (1800 MHz) [b'>4 (AWS)[/b'> 5 (850 MHz) 8 (900 MHz) 13 (700c MHz) [b'>17 (700b MHz)[/b'> [b'>19 (800 MHz)[/b'> 20 (800 DD) [b'>25 (1900 MHz)[/b'> If you want to use a Canadian sim card then it is probably best to check with the network you intend on using if it is GSM or CDMA and what band they use.
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Latest post on 17 July 2014 - 13:27
I've just booked my dog in K9 Central Dubai. I came across this company about 2 weeks ago. They are newly opened. Ewww they sell puppies... sorry but I hate them already.
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Latest post on 17 July 2014 - 13:25
You could see if there is space at any day care centres? Most do collect and drop off then your dog can stay home with the maid but still get some playtime with other dogs?
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Latest post on 17 July 2014 - 00:41
I put an oil serum on under my moisturiser at night. Love this range... http://www.estellethild.com/category/skin-care/biodefense Alternatively you can mix a regular moisturiser with a few drops of essential oils for dry skin.
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Latest post on 16 July 2014 - 12:18
RuthM if you don't mind me asking, why were you not happy with Conceive? I found they over diagnose. They said I have PCOS as there were some cysts on my ovaries - my UK friend a leading gyno in Europe looked at the ultrasound image and said it is very common and does not mean PCOS unless there are other symptoms. The symptoms are, overweight, excess face/body hair, thinning of hair on head, irregular / light or no periods, oily skin. I am slim build (despite eating terribly at time have never been overweight), have no excess hair I am aware of, my head hair is annoyingly thick, my periods are pretty regular and quite heavy, and my skin is so dry I have to use a serum below my moisturiser. They said DH had low sperm count / high abnormality / low mobility. Another test a week later at Fakih showed his sperm was absolutely fine. The doctor at Conceive was more friendly than Fakih although when we changed to Dr Lamia at Fakih she was really nice. The final thing was that the traffic around Sharjah is a nightmare and frequently travelling there was going to be a pain as well as if there were any complications it could take a long time to get to a hospital.
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Latest post on 15 July 2014 - 20:59
We had egg collection at Fakih. We went to Conceive first but didn't like them for various reasons. The collection was done under GA, I think it only takes about 15mins, am pretty sure they used propofol (you can taste it and it makes me shake afterwards). The only discomfort I had apart from the propofol reaction was some cramps like period pain for which they gave me paracetamol IV. We were probably there for total about 6 hours but this is due to the anaesthetic not the retrieval. I felt fine the next day. In all honesty the injections prior to the egg retrieval, blood tests and ultrasounds were probably more traumatic! Obviously it can differ for different people, one of the other reasons why we didn't choose Conceive was the distance from a hospital in case there were any complications and the Sharjah traffic which is something to bear in mind (perhaps try to arrange your collection at a time the traffic is not bad just in case, although complications are rare).
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Latest post on 14 July 2014 - 12:22
I've ordered from Ralph Lauren with HSBC UAE credit card with UAE billing address and S&S shipping address without any problems. <em>edited by RuthM on 14/07/2014</em>
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Latest post on 13 July 2014 - 07:05
Best place in UK for spinal is National Hospital for Neurology and Neurosurgery, Queen Square, London. They have private consulting rooms as well and a private surgical ward. However I would avoid surgery if possible especially if a child is still growing, but if you're going to have spinal surgery then best it be at a world leading neuro hospital. If you decide to look for a second opinion this is probably the leading place presuming (from your comment about NHS website) you are originally from UK. Edited to add: A number of consultants have worked at both Royal National Orthopaedic Hospital in Stanmore and National Hospital for Neurology and Neurosurgery in Queen Square, some still do work at both now. https://www.uclh.nhs.uk/OurServices/Consultants/Pages/MrAdrianCasey.aspx https://www.uclh.nhs.uk/OurServices/Consultants/Pages/MrJamesAllibone.aspx <em>edited by RuthM on 13/07/2014</em>
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Latest post on 13 July 2014 - 06:21
We got ours from Al Boom, they had prescription lenses too. http://alboomdiving.com/shop/dive-store
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Latest post on 10 July 2014 - 01:57
I would seriously not recommend using this. No self respecting medical professional is going to offer groupon vouchers. This isn't like buying a meal out or a new trampoline for the kids. Orthodontic work should be done by a highly qualified professional, to become an orthodontist takes a minimum of eight years study (4 years dental followed by 3 years ortho). With orthodontic work every case is different. Treatment can take several years. Once fitted braces need adjusting periodically. Not all people will be suitable for fixed appliances, some may need alternative braces. Some people may require extractions prior to treatment, others may need some jaw realignment. Sorry just the idea of groupon vouchers for something like this terrifies me.
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Latest post on 09 July 2014 - 08:06
This has been asked before. Here is the tech info. Simply put though Du and Etisalat phones work fine on UK networks however no FaceTime, but be careful of grey imports. You need a GSM phone which operates on the right band for LTE. Don't buy a CDMA phone. Bands UAE networks use: Du - band 3 (1800 MHz) Etisalat - band 3 and 7 (1800 MHz, 2600 MHz) Bands UK networks use: O2 - band 20 (800 DD) Vodafone - band 20 and 7 (800 DD, 2600MHz) 3 UK - band 20 and 3 (800 DD, 1800 MHz) EE - band 20, 3 and 7 (800 DD, 1800 MHz, 2600MHz) So in summary for a phone to be fully operational across all networks in both UK and UAE you need: Band 3 (1800 MHz) Band 7 (2600 MHz) Band 20 (800DD) iPhone 5s: Model A1457 (sold in Europe and UAE but double check box in case of grey imports) Model A1530 (sold in Hong Kong - beware of CDMA version in China - Hong Kong is cheapest place to buy imo) Cover all these bands. Model A1453 which is the US model does not cover band 7.
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Latest post on 08 July 2014 - 00:54
I feel a difference in between crime that harms others ( murder, theft, domestic violence, rape, etc) and victimless crime. I would not report victimless crime. edited by dentro on 07/07/2014 As said my Marroosh this is not a victimless crime. 1) The puppies being bred are victims. Breeding purebred dogs takes a great deal of knowledge and experience to prevent genetic issues, the gene pool in Dubai is somewhat limited. This can result in all sorts of inherited conditions for the puppies, overbreeding can also result in congenital defects and puppies are often kept in appalling conditions contracting all sorts of parasites. Irresponsible for profit breeders do not check the buyers and these puppies often find themselves homeless then destroyed very early in life. 2) The parents of the puppies are victims. For-profit breeders (many breeder in other countries breed to keep their bloodlines going for work or show or sometimes an owner will have a little from a female to get a second dog, breeding when done responsibly is not a profitable business). For profit breeders overbreed their dams, having litters every time she is in season with little care for her health, often keeping her in appalling conditions, not properly nourished and with little human companionship. 3) The potential buyers are victims. Puppies can arrive with a host of issues including, genetic problems to parasites (when not looked after correctly), congenital defects (from overbred dams), behavioural problems (from lack of appropriate socialisation and badly socialised dams) which can result in inappropriate soiling, excessive barking or even worse aggression. Sick puppies may have to be put down which can be heartbreaking for a family who have bonded with a new member of their family, and then they have to explain to the kids why the puppy is gone. 4) Members of the public are victims. Puppies with behavioural issues may display aggression towards strangers and injure someone, they may bark continuously and disturb neighbours, they may spread parasites to other peoples dogs or to children who can be blinded or even die from parasites like toxocariasis. 5) Rescue volunteers and veterinary surgeons are victims when a sick dog or one with behavioural problems is inevitable dumped only to often have it's life ended prematurely simply due to irresponsible breeding. A decision which is horrible for any animal professional to have to make and one they certainly should not have to make as often as they do. We're not talking stealing a few paperclips from the stationery cupboard here, this is most certainly not a victimless crime.
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Latest post on 03 July 2014 - 15:04
I'd love a copy too! Been trying to set ours for four years. Of course the thermostats don't work in two of the rooms (it gets down the the temperature set then turns off forever) but it would be nice to set the timers in the rooms that do work.
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Latest post on 19 June 2014 - 11:04
. Sometimes they do speed but the minute you ask them to slow down, they do it immediately. In my case , half the time they do not slow down even if I ask nicely. Sometimes they lecture on how they have "control" and sometimes say politely how I can strengthen my faith which will help me in not getting scared as it is all predestined I second this they NEVER slow down when I ask them to. One time I was coming into the ranches and the taxi driver was hitting 100kph between the speedbumps before slamming the brakes on to go over the bump. I was on the verge of vomiting down his neck (in hindsight I wish I had). I asked him several times to slow down which he ignored, DH was with me and asked him to slow down and he also ignored him. I ended up yelling at him that expat children are expensive and if he hits one he can expect to never be able to send any money home for his family again as he will pay for it for the rest of his life! He got very upset but finally slowed down (to about 60kph then crept up to 80kph). At the end of the ride he told DH 'everyone speeds' for some reason he was reluctant to speak to me. Oh if only swearing in Dubai was not so illegal, the words I would have used. Needless to say I have not been near a Dubai taxi for over a year now. Careem or Uber every time, and I always text the details of the driver picking me up to DH. Also on the occasion you do get a bad car from them complaints are dealt with swiftly and with courtesy.
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Latest post on 18 June 2014 - 15:16
I love the recipe on this page: http://ozlemsturkishtable.com/2011/09/beetroot-salad-with-balsamic-vinegar-and-olive-oil-dressing/ I keep the salad and beetroot separate and it lasts a few days. Sometimes I add some feta and walnuts too.
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Latest post on 17 June 2014 - 06:26
Snuffle is correct, however you will need a serious sized tank to accommodate them. Furthermore you will need to do very regular partial water changes. They poop, a lot. Here is a good website for general info http://www.littleresq.net/index.php?page=turtle_101. You need to ensure the basking area has an appropriate lamp for terrapins as well as being easily accessible (UVB). When they get bigger you need to be sure the water is deep enough and that they can easily turn over in the water and back again without getting stuck. Also with an indoor enclosure don't forget to heat the water. They grow, and they do grow bigger than you think. A one year old RES can be 4" but almost certainly at least 2.5", hibernating them in winter (if cool enough) can slow growth. A 5" male doesn't sound that big but then when you add the head, arms and legs to that it is much bigger. Females get up to 12" (plus limbs)! They bite and are not ideal for handling, and will fight if you have the wrong *** mixture or simply if they don't get along. Plus as they grow their poop grows with them. As they reach maturity realistically they cannot be kept in a tank, places suggest this but we bought an 'appropriate' sized tank according to the pet store (i.e. huge) with an even bigger external canister filter and the filter just continually broke down due to all the poop in the tank, the aquarium store was wrong, do not believe a word they say! Furthermore the terrapin point blank refused to bask (although we couldn't find what I think is the right kind of lamp and I think the aquarium shop were talking more rubbish on that). So our terrapin ended up outside in a large plastic container with a shaded end and a basking rock, from there he would happily bask most of the day, then also fed him in a separate container to try and deal with the poop issue. See more info on housing here http://www.tortoisetrust.org/articles/aquatic.html, they recommend minimum 2m x 50cm tank for two adults, and remember bigger is better in this instance. In Dubai an outdoor pond is ideal (http://www.tortoisetrust.org/articles/naturtles.html), they can then bask outside without issue (our landlord was not keen on us building one). An indoor pond may also work as another option (http://www.tortoisetrust.org/articles/smpond.html). Please bear this in mind now as there are so many dumped terrapins in Dubai that have outgrown their tanks and their owners don't know what to do with them. Also they can live for over 30 years which is quite a long time if you are not planning on staying in Dubai permanently. This is how we 'found' the one we had wandering around our garden.
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Latest post on 15 June 2014 - 23:42
I'd just like to add that I agree with others you really should try a specialist doctor and dietician before taking such extreme measures. I say this as I have a friend who had a stomach bypass operation about three years ago. It was major surgery but yes he did dramatically lose weight very quickly (it only took a few months), however it was at a cost. He now has a very restrictive diet as certain foods cannot be eaten or drinks drunk after such surgery, he feels constantly sick, and is absolutely miserable and now to make matters worse he has started piling the pounds back on again. About a third of patients are estimated to regain weight after gastric bypass. He told me he has no idea what the point was, the diet is so restrictive he could have just as well asked the doctor for tablets to make him feel fuller and stuck to the same diet without having major surgery and probably lost just as much weight. He has spoken to others who have had the surgery and so many people put the weight back on. Any such surgery should come with a dietician, and psychological counsellor. I would suggest you see these professionals before having surgery and see what you can do. A lifestyle change is what could make the difference. By this I do not mean going to the gym, not many people actually like going to the gym. If there is not a medical underlying problem then weight gain is simply caused by excess eating. This can be due to a number of reasons but the most common are boredom, depression and anxiety. All of which can be treated with appropriate therapy and all of which can be made worse by major surgery. Little lifestyle changes such as taking up new hobbies which will boost your serotonin, will make you feel happier, prevent boredom and stop you grazing (if you do). Try to get a regular routine of a short walk and swim once a day (if you can). Finally you mention you struggle to walk with your weight at the moment, no ethical doctor would perform surgery on someone your weight if you are having these problems. It would frankly be life threatening to consider putting someone with such difficulties under general anaesthetic. So please consider this if you find a doctor who does agree to do your surgery, they will seriously be putting your life at risk.
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Latest post on 13 June 2014 - 11:53
We used DKC at the Dubai end but from the UK end we arranged everything ourselves. It was pretty straightforward. Originally we were booked with Virgin but then we switched to Emirates as they could fly from Gatwick which was a closer airport for us. Both Virgin and Emirates gave us all the information we needed, BA sadly were unhelpful and very expensive. DKC also ensured all the correct paperwork was in place. They won't let the dog board the plane without the appropriate checks being done. For us it involved: 1) Measure dogs, buy crate 2) Book flight with Virgin Cargo or Emirates Cargo (pets coming into Dubai should be as cargo not accompanied) 3) Rabies vaccination + microchip if not already chipped (We had the vaccinations put into a Pet Passport) 4) Rabies serology test 5) Contact DEFRA (who send a form to local vet for Export Health Certificate) 6) Pre flight fit to fly checkup and tapeworm and DEFRA Export Health Certificate 7) Drop dogs at airport I flew on the same flight as them although they were as cargo. However the airline staff were very helpful contacting cargo to ensure they had boarded etc. okay. Whilst the UK end was easy I definitely would not have done it without an agent at the Dubai end, I can recommend DKC. A quick tip, get your crate ASAP and start your dog sleeping in it now, this way he/she will be used to the crate before flying and it will be less scary for him/her. We gave ours lots of treats in their crates too so they would think the crates were a nice place.
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Latest post on 09 June 2014 - 18:22
I can't understand how people manage to get so much water everywhere. I use the hose thing and manage to make a controlled spray downwards into the toilet, surely if the entire bathroom is soaked you'd get soaked too?! That said you don't always need the hose, if you care to examine the Bristol stool scale (a very handy poop guide - there's even an app!) types 3 generally do not really need washing, type 4 sometimes doesn't but most other types normally do, not all poops are created equal! Anyway a quick question for those of you who have one in the UK. What do you do about the water temperature in winter? I want to get one installed in our UK house but am thinking about the freezing cold water in winter! Do you install it with a mixer tap? What if it comes out too hot?!!! I'm assuming there is a standard way of installing these things in cold countries?
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Latest post on 05 June 2014 - 17:23
Like one of the other posters here the first thought that crossed my mind was a university like Loughborough. I have a friend who was a very keen rugby player, picked as a junior for a very good club team. Sadly he snapped his cruciate ligament at age 20 and was unable to play at a high level any longer. However thanks to his education he was able to complete university qualify as an engineer and also completed a rugby coaching programme at the same time. He now coaches in his free time and plans on taking early retirement to get more involved in the sport when he can afford to. Going to university opened more options for him. Another idea as some have also suggested is that between now and university age playing competitively at local clubs and attending a high quality football based summer camp could also be hugely beneficial for him.
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Latest post on 04 June 2014 - 00:12
£6.31 p/h https://www.gov.uk/national-minimum-wage-rates Here is some other info: https://www.gov.uk/domestic-workers-in-a-private-household-visa/overview http://www.kalayaan.org.uk/
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Latest post on 31 May 2014 - 07:44
Mine about once a week (although I rotate a few pairs). DH about once a month, he only has one pair! We nearly always wear jeans to the malls, it's not exactly warm in there. But cooler clothes at home etc.
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Latest post on 30 May 2014 - 02:18
Just wanted to note if you're looking at a villa don't forget to check the DEWA (water & electricity) cost. For villas especially with gardens the DEWA can really add up. With regard to cars after we paid our rent in two cheques we didn't have enough cash to buy and didn't want any debt in Dubai so we leased. You can negotiate hard with many of the rental agencies for a long term lease. We ended up with a Touareg from Hertz. (we picked a list of cars got long term lease prices for them then decided which one to go with). We could pick colour etc. as if buying, jut no concern with a car loan or selling a car if we have to leave suddenly and insurance/servicing etc. all included. Finally it's also good as visiting tourists without UAE driving licenses can use the car. When working out the lease cost it is worth getting quotes for long term and doing an overall cost spreadsheet. We checked quotes for 36 months and 48 months. Due to the lower monthly cost for 48 months we worked out it is cheaper to lease for 48 months regardless of the term you want the car for (with the exception of if you terminate at 35 or 36 months) then just pay the penalty if you terminate early.
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Latest post on 27 May 2014 - 15:32
And on top of all this I actually saw someone post a photo of their female dog on a facebook group asking for a male dog to mate with her because she wants to make "cute" puppies ... I now DT, it's never ending! It seems to be worse than ever, streams of puppies in pet shops, puppies every where! Responsible pet ownership seems to be very rare these days. I want, in the near future, to get a dog but i want a specefic breed and from a puppy - i will buy from Europe and ship here - just because i dont want a rescue dog, doesn't make me a an irresponsible person... No that doesn't make you irresponsible, actually shows great responsibility in planning, why would you think otherwise? I have no issues with people purchasing puppies from respectable breeders having investigated thoroughly first. Frankly, I reckon people who pay for their dogs are more likely to be dedicated to them and not abandon them when they become less cute (say, after about 2 years!) No i would say people who investigate the reality of pet ownership and go into it with their eyes open. Loads of pets are bought and end up being rehomed, so paying per say does not always equate to responsible ownership. Paying to support puppy mills certainly is as far from responsible as one can get. There are three ways of getting a dog. Firstly a pet shop (or puppy mill), people who buy from pet shops are probably the worst owners. They clearly have not investigated the dogs history, have little interest in animal welfare and just want a dog. Often they see a cute puppy and buy it. Some of these people may turn out to be fantastic owners but sadly many others will see the dog as a commodity and many of these dogs will end up homeless especially if they develop the inevitable health and behavioural issues that often go hand in hand with puppy mills and underage selling of puppies. Dubai is exceptionally bad for this as money seems to buy whatever you want in Dubai and there is lots of money floating around (it just seems to dry up when people leave and suddenly cannot take their pet with them?!). Secondly those who get a dog from a shelter. I really do admire those people. Many of them will do everything they can do help a dog in need, and that is an honourable thing. Sadly there are a few people who get a rescue dog and believe it is 'disposable' they feel they have done their part keeping a dog for a few years and giving it a home and when they want they can just return the dog. Many of these people get a puppy then don't realise rehoming it as a dog with a permanent home is now going to be very hard. Some people take on rescues and really cannot afford to take them home, it's unfair and there is not much of a solution for this, perhaps these people would be better to foster before taking lifelong responsibility for a pet. Thirdly there are those who get their dog from a respectable breeder. These people will have done the research to find a respectable breeder and also to know about the breed they are buying. No decent breeder would sell to a person who was not well aware of what they were looking for in the new member of their family. Most of these buyers will not abandon their pet. This may not be because of the buyers themselves but because of the breeders habit of 'interviewing' prospective owners prior to selling to them. No good breeder wants to see their dogs on the street or in an abusive home. Of course some buyers may somehow blag the 'interview' and there will always be some abandoned dogs here too. I'm the third type of owner. My family have had a total of eight puppies from breeders in my lifetime. We have had three adult dogs as well. Two of the three adults have been problematic, one is antisocial and completely unable to be housebroken (she is a big dog and for us this is a huge hygiene issue), another was so terrified he never accepted any attention or praise. Like Izzy I want a specific breed, we are just starting a family and I want to bring the puppy up myself and know it's history. For several years we have planned on buying a puppy in Europe over the summer, spending the summer months with the pup getting him ready to travel to Dubai (vaccinations etc.) and taking him to puppy classes, then shipping him to Dubai with us at the end of the summer. We've found a breeder but as I am pregnant we are waiting until our child is a little older as taking on a puppy and a newborn at the same time is not fair on either of them (although DH would beg to differ, he is desperate for another dog, I often wonder if he wishes I was having a puppy not a baby!!!). Having never dumped an animal in my life, even keeping our current large dog who absolutely drives me insane urinating and defecating in the house as well as her aggression to other dogs (we are about to embark on behavioural training attempt number three with another trainer), I cannot fathom how someone could abandon a pet. If we lost one of our dogs I would be absolutely racked with worry with regard to what had happened to them. Were they starving on the street? Had they been taken in by a dog fighting ring and used for baiting? Were they tied up in someone's yard in the boiling hot sun? Had they been abused by kids pouring chemicals on them, setting fire to them, throwing rocks at them? I wish the UAE would register dogs like a debt and those expats leaving should be forced to take their animal with them or pay a substantial fine (at least 50,000 AED which could be used for rehoming, foster care, kennelling etc.). Dogs are so loving, innocent and trusting it takes a special kind of cruel individual to abandon one and not care about the animals fate.
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Latest post on 26 May 2014 - 11:04
Whilst I agree many of the gun laws in the US are ridiculous this shooting was in California. California has some of the strictest gun laws in the US. California as a state does not have a provision in it's constitution that guarantees the right to bear arms. Half of the victims in this instance were actually stabbed. The perpetrator was mentally ill. If anything this is a time to look at treating mental illness properly, this is not a great example to reopen the gun debate. Meanwhile in Brussels on the same weekend the same number of victims have also been shot dead, Belgium too has pretty strict gun laws. Frankly in this instance I do not think stricter gun laws in the United States could have made much difference. In the US the real thing that desperately needs to change is attitude towards guns and education with regard to using and most importantly storing guns. A change in gun control would not prevent many school shootings where the guns were left lying around for kids to pick up. Guns should be safely kept locked away, children should be taught gun safety from an early age and should not be given free access to guns. Having been shooting in many countries the US is the only one where I had to don an orange outfit as there are so many people around who don't seem to know much about handling guns. Considering they probably have one of the highest gun ownership rates in the developed world that is most disturbing. Although none of this would have helped in this instance, this could perhaps have only been prevented by better mental health care.
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Latest post on 21 May 2014 - 13:17
We used Fakih IVF. Ours was also a male factor. Depending on the exact issue they may suggest IUI as an option to try which is much less invasive and cheaper. We had one IUI then went straight to ICSI-IVF and we were lucky enough to conceive first time. I know of someone else who conceived first time at Fakih and went on to have perfect healthy twins so conceiving first time can happen. Another friend in the UK also conceived first time with ICSI with a London clinic. ICSI only requires a single healthy sperm to fertilise an egg therefore as you do not have any fertility issues yourself you may have a higher chance of conception. Fakih do also offer a sucess/refund program for three cycles which may be worth looking into if cost is a factor, however you will need to find out if you are eligible. I'm sure you already have but I just looked at the clinical pregnancy success rates for each clinic. In Dubai the big three are Fakih, Conceive (Sharjah) and Bourne (a new clinic). I believe someone did mention another clinic perhaps a municipality clinic on a forum once? I think Conceive is cheaper than Fakih, however I am not sure of their success rates. I personally didn't like Conceive they were very quick to diagnose with everything possible. The person I know with success at Fakih was unsuccessful at Conceive first. However they are highly recommended and the Doctor there trained under the Doctor in the UK who my friend in the UK had success with. Personally I would have preferred to have had treatment in the UK where I am from. However IVF is a stressful process and it would be my recommendation to have it where you are currently residing if at all possible. But this all depends on the individual and if you feel you can cope with the stress of the additional travel then I am sure you can find a good clinic in India (sorry I am unable to recommend any). Whatever your decision best of luck - sending baby dust your way :-)
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Latest post on 21 May 2014 - 12:23
RuthM if you still need a contact in the UK to advise on tax/residence besides the one given already I can recommend this firm that I know personally. http://www.horseylightly.com/ The person there who specializes in tax matters http://www.horseylightly.com/solictors/Timothy-Wallis.html hth edited by Di@DXB on 21/05/2014 Excellent thank-you I will definitely give Timothy Wallis a try and also Angeline as pollydxb1 suggested. As for QueenL property in the UK has little bearing on residency status. In fact under the non-resident landlord scheme it is 'usual place of abode' that dictates whether you are enrolled in the scheme not residency status (a bit of an oxymoron). With regard to your other comments I think you need to consider you are perhaps a little too involved in expatwoman? Your posts on this thread have been contradictory and unclear and have now escalated to personal attacks. Stalking people on forums is a somewhat unusual thing to do, making personal attacks then begins to constitute harassment.
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Latest post on 21 May 2014 - 01:09
I am sure you have already looked at this and it certainly has got a bit more complicated than it used to be with the straightforward 90 day rule : http://www.hmrc.gov.uk/international/residence.htm Why don't you just get someone in the UK to do it? e.g. The Tax Team. Have you or anyone else used them? I am looking for advice prior to finding him resident so we can avoid it not a company to simply do a tax return. As said "Can anyone recommend an expert in Dubai or UK on UK residency so that DH can get some professional advice regarding how much time he can spend here without being subject to UK residency and tax rules etc.?" We think based on information we have he can spend up to 90 days as he will be classed an 'arriver' and has no more than 3 ties to the UK (possibly less). But we would like to employ a professional to give us some concrete advice. So has anyone had sought any advice like this from financial advisors/accountant/lawyer in UK or Dubai that they can recommend please? So - where exactly did I say to you "simply get a tax return" done? HOW RUDE ARE YOU! Or did you not read the answer properly? These companies DO give advice.............. and yes we have used them. I actually found it strange that you asked this as I thought " surely she has property in the UK and knows this already " - after all you bleat on endlessly about your background, your medical family , blah blah blah to the infinite boredom of many on here. edited by QueenL on 20/05/2014 You said 'why don't you just get a company in the UK to do it'. This raised two queries on my part. Firstly 'it' is not a common way to describe 'giving advice', most would say 'why don't you just ask a company in the UK for some advice?'. If it were a tax return however it would be a usual way to phrase things. Secondly the way it was phrased was as a question which implied I had not thought of this whereas my original post was in fact asking this exact question, hence I thought it needed some clarification. Upon examining the website for the company you recommended the company appeared to be more geared towards fixed sum tax returns and ongoing advice throughout the year. Every single service listed on their site starts with 'we will complete your Tax Return and calculate your tax position' with the exception of bespoke which seems to refer to limited companies. Which is why I responded to clarify exactly what we were looking for and also asked 'Have you or anyone else used them?'. A fair question being that you didn't say you had used them so it could just be a company you saw advertised and thought to suggest. As for the medical stuff I have seen many a poster be attacked on here for going to the UK to use the NHS so attempted to circumvent that by saying our reasons for going back and that we are not using the NHS. Finally having property in the UK has very little to do with tax status unless you qualify as UK resident under the only/main home ruling in which case it doesn't even need to be property you own it could be a home you have rented or a relative you stay with long term. So I have absolutely no idea what your point is on that one. The tax rulings changed last year and now there is not only the 90 day rule to consider but also the sufficient ties test and the main home test. I have read all the documentation on HMRC website but am simply seeking a professional advisor who can confirm what I think is correct on an hourly rate. Really a very uncalled for response but not anything less than what I expect to see on these forums. Thank you to those who were actually helpful.
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Latest post on 20 May 2014 - 13:53
I am sure you have already looked at this and it certainly has got a bit more complicated than it used to be with the straightforward 90 day rule : http://www.hmrc.gov.uk/international/residence.htm Why don't you just get someone in the UK to do it? e.g. The Tax Team. Have you or anyone else used them? I am looking for advice prior to finding him resident so we can avoid it not a company to simply do a tax return. As said "Can anyone recommend an expert in Dubai or UK on UK residency so that DH can get some professional advice regarding how much time he can spend here without being subject to UK residency and tax rules etc.?" We think based on information we have he can spend up to 90 days as he will be classed an 'arriver' and has no more than 3 ties to the UK (possibly less). But we would like to employ a professional to give us some concrete advice. So has anyone had sought any advice like this from financial advisors/accountant/lawyer in UK or Dubai that they can recommend please? Hi, we were referred to Angeline at Tax Acclaim via our advisor, and she has been really good, she should be able to help/assist:- ael@taxacclaim.com That's great we will try them thank-you.
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Latest post on 20 May 2014 - 13:37
I am sure you have already looked at this and it certainly has got a bit more complicated than it used to be with the straightforward 90 day rule : http://www.hmrc.gov.uk/international/residence.htm Why don't you just get someone in the UK to do it? e.g. The Tax Team. Have you or anyone else used them? I am looking for advice prior to finding him resident so we can avoid it not a company to simply do a tax return. As said "Can anyone recommend an expert in Dubai or UK on UK residency so that DH can get some professional advice regarding how much time he can spend here without being subject to UK residency and tax rules etc.?" We think based on information we have he can spend up to 90 days as he will be classed an 'arriver' and has no more than 3 ties to the UK (possibly less). But we would like to employ a professional to give us some concrete advice. So has anyone had sought any advice like this from financial advisors/accountant/lawyer in UK or Dubai that they can recommend please?
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Latest post on 20 May 2014 - 12:32
Was booked for 3 pm. Came at 11.. Tool Time do this all the time with us as well. Then they phone and say 'sir we are at your house', 'erm is it 3pm?', 'no sir we are here now'. It's almost as if we are apparently just sitting at home all day every day waiting for them. Normal companies will phone in advance and ask if it is appropriate to come early.
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Latest post on 20 May 2014 - 12:08
or when American is involved and then it's a peace keeping mission and those against are insurrgents!!! Actually that is a 'regime change', if there are insurgents (note spelling) then it is a 'insurgency' which can often escalate to a 'civil war'. A coup involves 'a sudden, violent, and illegal seizure of power from a government.' An insurgent is 'a person fighting against a government or invading force; a rebel or revolutionary.' Following a coup then the remaining government forces may become 'insurgents' should they continue to fight the occupying forces/new authority. But prior to a coup they are government forces being overthrown.
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Latest post on 18 May 2014 - 12:23
I really like Dr Saima Sheikh at Motor City. She's British (I think she said Iranian heritage), UK trained and has worked in the NHS in the UK for a number of years. Very approachable and probably the best GP I have seen in Dubai. I think lolacat recommended her too.
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Latest post on 16 May 2014 - 20:22
I use the BA loyalty scheme. They usually have good availability for free flights and upgrades. You can only upgrade one class which is not as good flying out of UK but flying out of Dubai I can buy a world traveller plus flight plus upgrade to business for around £900, which often isn't that different in cost to an Emirates economy class flight. The airmiles cost for an upgrade is 20,000 and you earn back another 8,500 airmiles by taking the flight (as you paid for World Traveller Plus cabin). I also earn BA miles through their shopping scheme, Selfridges for example awards 8 air miles for every pound spent on their website and if you use click and collect you can still claim the tax back. I don't know about Qatar as I haven't used them, however if you are looking to fly places other than the UK it might be a better idea.
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Latest post on 15 May 2014 - 15:33
In my experience five days is absolutely fine to stay with family. I don't know about your cultural background but I have friends from Asia and Africa who stay with family for months on end and don't worry too much about personal space etc as everyone mucks in. I can say when staying with relatives in the UK is usually (although not always) quite different in my family it's more of a B+B experience although you're expected to always offer to help clear the table or wash-up but the offer is rarely taken. In your case it might not be that different to your usual family as it is your Uncle who is not from within your culture and women tend to rule the house (although becoming less so these days). It's likely the house is run by your Aunt in a way you're familiar with. The only thing I would recommend if you are concerned is just to remember some British people, especially men, can be quite reserved. If your Uncle is this way do not think he doesn't want you there it's just the way it comes across (my American friends really struggled with my dad and thought he hated them and was always being sarcastic but it was just his character). This is referring to old style British people of course, nowadays the UK is such a cultural melting pot it's very hard to categorise a British person.
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Latest post on 13 May 2014 - 19:58
I think there is maybe a mistake on the paperwork. On the TECOM website under latest news it says "With immediate effect , lease contract of a minimum two bedroom is required for new and renewal application for housemaid visa" Unless they presume every man with a wife has a housemaid also? But then the salary requirements are also different, a higher salary is needed for a housemaid. Perhaps if the housemaid thing is a recent change the paperwork has got muddled?
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Latest post on 12 May 2014 - 19:42
This is all as you suspect most likely to be due to buying him from a pet shop. I don't want to lecture but will just note you may also see other problems with health and behaviour so don't be surprised. It isn't that hard to get a dog from a breeder in the UK but is costly and time consuming and you will get grilled by them (a good breeder that is) when taking a pup out the country. Just remember you have sadly contributed to the eastern European unethical breeders who take part in some extreme animal cruelty in order to send these pups all over the place. But it's done now so best to say lesson learnt and look for a solution. Crating may work, but as you say he is happy to sleep where he goes so it may not. Personally I'm not a big fan of crating, simply because my dogs are big their crates are big and with a lot of dogs toilet training with the crate will leave you with no option but to continue with the crate thereafter. So the solution is not easy. It is hugely time consuming but hopefully will pay off. You will have to be with him pretty much all the time. Don't use puppy pads as it encourages going in the apartment then you have to transfer that to outside. At his age taking outside as a minimum every two hours is best. Try to get on a regular routine. When he goes praise him. The rest of the time he will need to be watched. Every time he goes in the apartment it will be undoing a little bit of his training. During the night I would still recommend crating him but also setting your alarm every few hours to take him out. It's not easy, in fact it's a bit of a nightmare but it is the best working solution. You should expect results in a week - two weeks. It shouldn't take long at his age. Once there are no mistakes in the apartment then increase the hours between going out. Good luck and hope you are lucky enough to have a healthy pup. <em>edited by RuthM on 12/05/2014</em>
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Latest post on 12 May 2014 - 00:38
Frankly I find it remarkable they don't do more to give priority to passengers with infants for bassinet seats, and any passenger that can move but refuses to do so should look at the best interests of all the passengers on board. What is the most irritating thing on a plane (except for a blocked toilet)? A screaming baby. In many instances a baby in a bassinet is likely to be more comfortable and to sleep than a baby on someone's lap. So really, booking into a bassinet seat and refusing to move is detrimental not only to the family you are depriving of that seat but potentially for all passengers on the plane yourself included. I will most likely be flying to Dubai with Emirates in September with a month old baby, so it will be interesting to see how we get on with their policy (or lack there of) then.
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Latest post on 12 May 2014 - 00:22
Did you ever find a decent one, Ruth? Not yet. We had stern words with the garden 'engineer' and he sent round a different gardener for a month or so which made a big difference. But now we are back to the rubbish ones again. I am waiting to see if the good gardener has as promised taught them anything or if the garden will return to it's previous poor state. But am in the UK until September now so DH will have to deal with it. <em>edited by RuthM on 12/05/2014</em>
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Latest post on 12 May 2014 - 00:20
I was surprised they released Wolf of Wall Street at all, it seems pointless to release something with that much editing. Watchmen was another movie cut to shreds, nearly every scene of Dr Manhattan at the end of the movie was removed making for a complicated ending. This issue was addressed in the National last year: http://www.thenational.ae/arts-culture/film/should-cut-films-be-pulled-from-uae-cinemas-completely I find Common Sense Media a good site for indication of scenes that may end up being cut. If a scene is mentioned there it will often be cut in the UAE. http://www.commonsensemedia.org/movie-reviews/the-grand-budapest-hotel