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Latest post on 07 November 2013 - 18:14
I'd be interested in any other trainers anyone knows of. Having had a back injury for coming up to four years now and gone through five personal trainers of which one was too worried and didn't push me enough, one was frankly dangerous and injured me even more, two were good (one in UK and one who doesn't do PT in Dubai anymore) and one who was amazing (in UK). I can say none of the trainers mentioned so far have anything in the slightest I have learned to look out for. They may be good but the information they are advertising doesn't have the key things I look for in a PT with my back injury. Symmetry has little actual information about their trainers and looks to use some kind of crossfit style training which will mess up anyone with a back injury in seconds. The trainer that messed my back up the last time (a healthyish back at the time I might add) used these sorts of 'tough' training styles. The website is shocking with zero information but lots of words and big promises. They may be brilliant but I hate the look of them and wonder why they cannot publish actual qualifications and experience, testimonials are bull. Sarah at Healthy 4 U looks very nice, but REPS L3 is the standard minimum level to be a personal trainer (L2 is a group instructor). This said one of the good trainers I have had was only REPS L3. However certification in circuit training is going to be of no help whatsoever and is completely in the wrong direction for rehab training. A degree Sports Studies has little information on rehabilitation. She may have an interest in rehab but only meeting with her will tell. I cannot recommend a personal trainer but I can suggest what to look for in one. For back injuries one of the key things to look for is a personal trainer who has a pilates qualification to ensure that they are watching your every move to ensure your core is engaged on every single exercise. What is even better is if you can find a personal trainer who has a L4 rehab qualification. Yoga can also be helpful as there are a number of stretches that can help with back injuries, however likewise there are also a number of stretches that can make things worse so they do need to be very aware of what they are doing. Don't look for a personal trainer that makes big claims about fast weight loss etc. as with an injury nothing is fast, the training needs to be slow and steady. A trainer that shouts encouragement at you across the gym is not what you need. Of course the OP may want to try these trainers and see what they are like. In doing so my suggestions would be: On the initial session make some obvious mistakes, bend forward in a lunge or arch your back in a squat (if it will not injure you immediately as it is seriously dangerous) - if they do not correct this and I mean they should STOP YOU IMMEDIATELY until this is corrected then they are not the right personal trainer for you. Ask about doing things like sit-ups and burpees and starting a running program if they propose this is a good idea, they are not the trainer for you. If they propose any kind of dynamic exercise first up then get out of there very fast. Even running is not good with a back injury, although can be done with care later - but not circuits with fast direction changes. With a back injury here are some exercises to avoid without question: weighted olympic squats burpees sit-ups It is key to avoid forward flexion, especially when combined with rotation. Back bending can cause issues as well, especially dynamic back bending (this is what causes me to go into spasm), however some backbending is sometimes recommended i.e. some pilates/mackenzie exercises. Personally gentle backbending is good for me, but dynamic backbending i.e. jumping to catch a rugby ball, serving in tennis, coming up badly when very tired from a burpee or taking off badly in a ski jump (this is basically the list of the things that have put me into spasm) can be very very bad. Exercises to avoid in the initial part of training that can be good later on: deadlifts (when slow and controlled) bent over rows (when good form can be held in a stable position) push-ups (do box push-ups until core is strong enough to hold posture for a full push-up) Exercises that can be relatively safe - depending on your current level of injury it is different for everyone, ensure your spine is in a neutral position for all exercises, if it is not or you cannot hold it in neutral then discontinue the exercise: plank (be careful lowering from plank, start with half plank if necessary) most mat pilates exercises (avoid twisting exercises) bird-dog (start with just one arm or leg, not both) dumbbell bench chest press (best to put feet on bench with knees bent to protect lumbar) dumbbell bench incline row cable row lunge smith wide row tricep dip barbell curl alternate dumbbell curls box push-up / box tricep push-up Dependent on what your doctor says about back bending: prone cobra cat-camel (beware not to go too far) I've progressed onto TRX exercises now, however these add more instability therefore are not ideal in the early stages of training. I am also able to manage some overhead weight for overhead dumbbell lunges and overhead dumbbell press but this should only be after a long period of ensuring you're back is strong and the muscle memory is there to keep your core engaged whilst doing such things as releasing your core and posture for only a moment in such exercises could put you right back to square one. Good luck finding a trainer, I am definitely interested if there are any good rehab trainers for back injuries out there, however at this stage I have simply decided to qualify as a trainer myself with practical training from my trainer in the UK to ensure my form is correct I can use the PT training course to help me figure out my own program. Unfortunately I now need to train my husband to spot when my form goes bad when I get tired.
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Latest post on 07 November 2013 - 13:16
I wish I could and if anyone can I would be most interested. The trainer I had here who was highly recommended managed to cause another disc tear within three weeks by having me do ridiculous exercises like Olympic weighted squats, burpees, full range sit-ups, push-ups (when my back was not strong enough to hold a good plank position) and deadlifts (which could be good, once strength elsewhere is gained). I had not had a severe back episode for two years when I started training with this guy in preparation for a ski trip (now that my back seemed to have finally recovered). Three weeks later I was left unable to stand, my back in severe spasm to the point that ladies at Spinneys were stopping to ask me if I needed an ambulance (5 days post injury). Needless to say the ski trip was cancelled, deposits lost and me mightily peeved. Plus a second episode whilst swimming two months later just left me even more depressed over the whole thing. On the other hand I have an amazing trainer in the UK who I see every summer for 12 weeks and come back feeling for and healthy with no back pain whatsoever. She has fortunately given me some exercises to continue on my own but I really wish I could find someone half as good out here.
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Latest post on 07 November 2013 - 10:00
I have to ask, what's so unbelievable about it? Credit card fraud is a major issue for retailers, which is why some of them have restrictive online shopping policies, which are often geared towards preventing purchases from overseas. American retailers are particularly notable for this. Well House of Fraser ship internationally. Also John Lewis, Selfridges, Harrods and Marks are all capable of using other methods to prevent fraud. What is worse is that they took the money from my card three times but then refused my order, the funds are still pending! Even using a paypal account shipping to the UK address registered on the paypal account they refused the order. In all instances the order was being shipped to the registered cardholders address. At no point did their system state it was due to my IP address which resulted in multiple international calls to my credit card company who were dumbfounded by such a ridiculous website policy.
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Latest post on 06 November 2013 - 23:33
Soo... apparently anyone living outside the UK is a criminal according to House of Fraser. You need to get a potentially illegal VPN with a UK IP address to order from their stupid online store. Unbelievable. Rant over.
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Latest post on 06 November 2013 - 16:18
I always went for the Panasonic FT Series (currently FT5). But the Olympus has great reviews at the moment and the Nikon is looking quite good as well. Any of those three would probably be a good buy if you wanted a shortlist. Panasonic FT5 http://www.panasonic.com/uk/consumer/cameras-camcorders/lumix-digital-cameras---point-and-shoot/tough-compact-cameras/dmc-ft5eb.html Olympus TG-2 http://www.olympus.co.uk/site/en/c/cameras/digital_cameras/tough/tg_2/index.html Nikon AW110 http://www.panasonic.com/uk/consumer/cameras-camcorders/lumix-digital-cameras---point-and-shoot/tough-compact-cameras/dmc-ft5eb.html I am still trying to decide which to replace my old Panasonic FT1 with.
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Latest post on 06 November 2013 - 15:45
why does everyone assume it's intentional ? I heard a possible theory that the workers are emptying the rat poison boxes when they refill them...it could be them !! Then these workers and their employers need to be prosecuted for public endangerment. You cannot just go around dumping poison in public areas.
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Latest post on 06 November 2013 - 14:25
These people are obviously very very stupid. Apart from the obvious cruelty to animals which the sickos seem to enjoy what about risk to children? How many people have a toddler they take to the park and no matter how much time they spend watching them still seem to be stopping them picking things up and trying to put them in their mouth? So I'm guessing these animal poisoners are ready for a murder trial should a toddler be unfortunate enough to pick up whatever they are spreading around in their effort to torture and kill animals. The municipality needs to investigate this immediately, and find and prosecute these people at the very least for endangering the public (should spreading this poison be not intentional) otherwise if these poisonings are intentional then attempted manslaughter (should they be in an area where a child could easily pick them up and especially if it turns out to be strychnine).
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Latest post on 01 November 2013 - 15:44
Thanks very much will check that one out!
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Latest post on 01 November 2013 - 15:07
I don't know - what are you knitting ? :D Lol, I'm going to put it in a whisk on the end of a steel cable and set it alight using a battery then spin it in circles and take a picture! Like this: http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-K4GO01Ji9z8/UVvunFVXuyI/AAAAAAAADxQ/EEztBjq7IX8/s1600/DSC_1044.JPG
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Latest post on 01 November 2013 - 14:36
I'm looking for steel wool grade 0 to 0000. Ace only has steel wool for rust removal which is presumably grade 4/5. Can anyone suggest any other stores that may stock steel wool (hardware/decorating stores) TIA <em>edited by RuthM on 01/11/2013</em>
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Latest post on 31 October 2013 - 22:11
No one knows?
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Latest post on 31 October 2013 - 13:30
Our new cooker doesn't have the same space at the back as the old one. The space is lower down therefore in order to have the cooker flush to the wall the gas outlet needs to be moved lower to where the inlet on the cooker is. Can anyone please advise a company with qualified gas engineers for this kind of thing? TIA
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Latest post on 30 October 2013 - 17:52
I would be careful seeing surgeons about it - surgery seems to be, on the most part, their only option. I have had a horrible back problem for more than 20 years and have seen various doctors with varying degrees of success. I now see Dr hakim at Noor Hospital in Al Ain. He has suggested no surgery until the pain is completely unbearable, daily exercise, and a good pain relief regime. I take lyrica and arcoxia daily for pain relief. The Lyrica has given me a totally new lease on life - it renders me nearly pain free. Before I started on this drug, I could often not stand up straight because of the muscles seizing around the damaged discs and also Severe nerve pain down my left leg. This never happens now. I am running around like a young thing now! I suggest you try every alternative before you agree to surgery. Agreed, avoid surgery at all costs. Back issues take time and patience but conservative care is a much better option in the long run. Rheumatologists are not surgeons therefore a better place to start (as long as they are not getting kick backs from their surgical pals). Just bear in mind many doctors in Dubai will push for surgery whether or not it is the only option.
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Latest post on 30 October 2013 - 17:33
We've just got the Touareg (big brother to the Tiguan) it's a really nice car. we test drove the Ford amongst many other cars and were left unimpressed.
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Latest post on 30 October 2013 - 13:50
How long has it been like this? As spinal discs have little blood supply they can take a very long time to heal. I was advised by a rheumatologist six months is optimum. This does not meant he pain will be acute for six months but it does mean you will need to take care not to irritate the area for six months 6-8 weeks should be long enough to recover from the acute phase. If you see a surgeon in Dubai I can almost guarantee they will want to do spinal surgery. With perhaps the exception of gynaecologists almost all consultants in Dubai seem to be pushing non stop for work. Even in the UK there is a saying only see a surgeon if you want surgery. My advice would be to see a rheumatologist and go from there, they may refer you to a neurosurgeon or refer you for physical therapy. Any exercises a physio or osteo give you are likely to make it worse before it gets better, but if this is the treatment recommended persevere it will pay off in the end. Even if you choose surgery you should still follow up with physio afterwards to rehabilitate the muscles in the region. Personally I would not have spinal surgery in Dubai, if I were to choose it would be Germany first then UK second. As I am British most likely I would go to the UK but I know a few people (skiers) with back injuries and they all go to Germany.
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Latest post on 28 October 2013 - 17:06
The Departed, The Usual Suspects, Talented Mr Ripley, Memento, Seven, American Gangster, Road to Perdition (watched that again yesterday amazing movie), Shutter Island, Talented Mr Ripley
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Latest post on 28 October 2013 - 10:14
I'd go back home. Working with people whose native language is not English and using text speak could cause massive complications.
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Latest post on 27 October 2013 - 21:18
Thanks for both your suggestions, I will try them all out over the next few weeks.
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Latest post on 27 October 2013 - 19:55
we have everything delivered to husband's work address, including our Royal Mail redirected mail from home and so far don't know if anything's gone missing !! The teen ordered something from EBay which turned out to be "signed for" and was delivered during Eid so there was no-one at work to sign. According to the tracking it had got returned so we decided it must be lost but it turned up on husband's desk on Saturday !! lol DH works from home :-(
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Latest post on 27 October 2013 - 19:54
I have it on Blu Ray. Let me know if you still need and will post details here.
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Latest post on 27 October 2013 - 19:52
Has anyone tried making non pork **** in blankets (sorry for contradiction)? Which are the best breakfast strips and sausages to use?
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Latest post on 27 October 2013 - 19:43
I have had the same p.o.box in Jumeirah for 25 years and as far as I know everything that I was expecting has arrived, BUT, everyone else's mail comes into my box too! Did you get a card for a package to collect on Thursday?! lol.
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Latest post on 27 October 2013 - 19:41
Doesn't surprise me in the least. Whether or not animal fights are illegal in Qatar it seems irrelevant in this region in any case. On one of our first visits to the vet here someone with a falcon in national dress (maybe you can guess which vet) admired our dogs. He then said our one dog was just like his cousins dog who lived out of the city and he was a very good fighter. He then proceeded to ask us if our dog was a good fighter? I was like, he's a Labrador they're specifically bred to have soft mouths. The other Labrador is a gun dog, she can retrieve an egg without breaking it so forget about asking her to bite anything. He continued asking whereabouts we lived etc. I had to start making places up as I immediately thought he was going to try and steal our dog and once he realised he just wants belly rubs use him for blood bait. Soon another dog came in and they all set off barking for about 10 seconds and he clapped and said 'oh good good' and something about our dogs being able to fight. Whilst I understand there are underground dog fights still in the UK, there is no WAY someone would openly admit to going to dog fights and fighting dogs to a stranger at the vet. This clearly demonstrates to me that animal cruelty is socially accepted in this region. Oh if only the penalties here were less severe for human violence. This exhibition has been around since 2009 it kicked off some protest in Italy as well I think, he's probably running out of places where he can show it without complaint. <em>edited by RuthM on 27/10/2013</em>
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Latest post on 27 October 2013 - 18:31
some agency maids will walk your dog otherwise maybe try homely pets.
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Latest post on 27 October 2013 - 18:27
Solution is simple. Close all the metro stations and reopen them as museums, it's obvious they don't want them used as an actual public transport system.
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Latest post on 27 October 2013 - 00:46
Would also love to know where in RAK thx. :D
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Latest post on 22 October 2013 - 23:44
Surely you'd just need a vaccination card stamped and signed by your doctor or a letter from your doctor to say you've had the vaccination. You can bring in prescription medication with such a letter and the vets don't need my dogs medical record just their vaccination certificates. DH has had two x-rays since being here and I am potentially having to have a second now too. His company are looking to change their freezone later this year so that will be three. Three chest xrays in four years is not good. Choice between my doctor sending medical records to the UAE with advice that I've had the TB vaccination or potentially getting lung cancer, I know which one I'd choose.
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Latest post on 22 October 2013 - 00:02
Are they feathered? Some fledglings may fall to the ground on their first flight and the parents will continue to feed them on the ground until they fly. If they are feathered you should put them back, you can put them in a nearby hedge if the ground is not safe. (another way to check their development stage is to see if they can grip strongly with their feet.) If they are not feathered and you found them with the nest you should put the nest outside and try to hang it somewhere, the parents may come back. If there is no nest you can create a makeshift nest yourself and hang it outside in the hopes the parents come back. Otherwise I suggest contacting a vet, Nad Al Sheba deal a lot with falcons and may have some experience with wild birds. In the meantime it is imperative they are kept warm (this is very very important) and do not give them water, it can get into their lungs and kill them. Most birds eat live food such as insects and can be fed canned dog food or biscuits soaked in water (but not dripping) to soften them. But some (I think the Laughing Dove in this region) eat seeds, the parent birds mash the seeds up to make some kind of formula and feed it to them.
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Latest post on 21 October 2013 - 09:11
I had my nose done few months ago and here is a list of Q's I had for my surgeon: What type of anaesthesia do you use and why? Good luck! The surgeon won't be able to answer this. Only the anaesthetist can answer this and it will be a case by case basis. Surgeons should not be doing anaesthetics, if they are then avoid. I had an excellent rhinoplasty by Barry M Jones in London. This was following a 5 iron (golf club), to the face and I basically had no nose, just a big hole where there once was a nose. I couldn't recommend anyone else, he was amazing, bearing in mind he didn't have much to work with. The entire bridge was shattered. When I tell people, they cannot believe I was once noseless. <em>edited by RuthM on 21/10/2013</em>
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Latest post on 16 October 2013 - 22:09
Thanks I will give him a call. I don't think we can have artificial grass unfortunately, I don't think the landlord would be too pleased and also we have dogs which I don't think artificial grass is suitable for. The grass was looking great when we had the previous gardener, it's just this lot they replaced him with that seem to be idiots.
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Latest post on 16 October 2013 - 19:34
Ours is like 3k a month. 6k in summer. 4 bed villa, one bedroom downstairs used as a study. I'm sure there is a problem but DH says not. Aircon is kept on 28 in all rooms except when we are using rooms when we put it on 25. At night we have the bedroom on 22. We have a Siemens washer/dryer and do maybe 3 loads a week. If you want to look into machines then check the Which guide (or similar) for those that are A+++ rated for energy and have a low water cycle. It will be very difficult to do a survey based on peoples DEWA bills, being that properties and family sizes are all different and washing is but a small amount of total consumption.
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Latest post on 16 October 2013 - 17:50
I think there is one on the Ranches but it won't be a proper bonfire night. I'm not entirely sure how well burning a 'Guy', the bonfire chant and a bunch of people dressed in period costumes carrying burning torches will go down in Dubai!
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Latest post on 08 October 2013 - 14:21
We got ours through Hertz. National also do leasing as do most of the rental companies. We dealt with someone called Jean-Paul. If you lease a car in their fleet you will get a better deal. But we wanted something else. We got prices for six different cars we were considering and although they cost the same to buy the lease prices were different (I assume due to the prices Al-Futtaim can negotiate on the purchase of the car and the potential resale value). We wanted a vehicle for three years but we did a spreadsheet and worked out if we keep a vehicle for 35 months or less then the monthly cost for the four year deal + exit penalty was less than for the three year deal + exit penalty. If we keep it for 36 months the total cost was negligible. As we weren't sure how long we were keeping the car we decided to go with a four year deal. We negotiated slightly on the price and picked the car, colour and finish we wanted and within a few weeks we got a new car. We now have a high spec 4x4. It is costing us less than the monthly rate we previously paid on an executive saloon. The lease prices are a lot lower than the monthly rates.
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Latest post on 08 October 2013 - 10:15
I think its a sales gimmick of etisalat to get customers to buy dataplans. I have always had prepaid,no contract or dataplan ever and also get those text messages that I used up all my data and exceeded my limit. I just delete it. It is not a sales gimmick or anything such. iPhones use data for many standard apps, this data is 'pushed' to your phone: Calendar (syncs all your calendars across all your devices) Addressbook (syncs your address book) Photos (your photos in the cloud) Weather (current weather) Stocks (current share prices) Books/iTunes (all your books/music stored in the cloud sync across all your devices) Mail (your email) Messages (send messages as data when messaging another iPhone) Other optional apps such as FaceBook, WhatsApp etc. The data on your phone is automatically switched to on as most people buying an iPhone use all these features. As previously described you can switch this off, effective turning your iPhone into an iPod Touch with the ability to make phonecalls. The data plan from Etisalat or Du is just like a call plan. i.e. your package pays for 100mins of calls a month. If you make more than 100mins your phone doesn't stop working you just get billed for the extra minutes you use. So if you cancelled your call plan you would still be charged for calls you make. Hence if you cancel your data plan and therefore have a 0MB plan you will be billed for any data you use. Your phone (presumably) still has cellular data switched on so you will be charged for the data you use as your phone automatically updates all the standard apps and any other additional apps you may have installed. Personally I do not know why anyone would want an iPhone if they don't use these features, it seems like a very costly accessory. But the cellular data can be switched off if that is your preference. And for once Du and Etisalat are not to blame.
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Latest post on 05 October 2013 - 18:04
Any of these places do goose?
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Latest post on 05 October 2013 - 17:49
Air con can cause sinusitis which will make you feel as if you have a cold and can give you toothache in your upper jaw. It can also cause bronchial issues. Try nasal wash, nasal douching, neti pot etc. daily Otherwise a steroid anti-inflammatory spray like nasonex may be able to control things. It will not give instant relief and needs to be taken in a measured dose daily over a period of time to have an effect. It is not a decongestant spray taking more will not help and taking it to relieve symptoms will not help. Seeing a good ENT may be wise. But don't let them do surgery, many doctors here are desperate to perform surgery on every patient that walks through their door. Do not take decongestants, they have a rebound reaction which means if you keep on taking them then when you stop you'll get really ill. Then you then start taking them again and effectively become addicted. As for stomach bug, no clue, new environment?
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Latest post on 05 October 2013 - 10:06
Don't pay him with a cheque upfront. Draw up an agreement agreeing to pay him rent monthly until these issues are resolved. Even consider demanding a reduced rate as it is an unfinished villa. Otherwise run very fast, but under no circumstance part with a six month or even worse annual cheque.
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 13:27
*Battlestar Galactica (ended) *Boston Legal (ended) *Breaking Bad (ended) *Dexter (ended) Dracula (new) Elementary *Game of Thrones Grimm Haven *Homeland Hostages (new) Hunted (new) Intelligence (new) Ironside (new) Justified Lost Girl Lucky 7 (new) Mind Games (new) Person of Interest Rake (new) Resurrection (new) Six Feet Under (ended) Sleepy Hollow (new) Sons of Anarchy Teen Wolf The Blacklist (new) The Crazy Ones (new) The Mentalist The Michael J Fox Show (new) The Originals The Shield (ended) The Tomorrow People (new) The Vampire Diaries *The Wire (ended) Witches of East End (new) *my favourites
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 12:34
I second Prime Gourmet.
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 12:15
Someone once told me about a beach at RAK but I've yet to find it, it is a dream of many dog owners I suspect! Perhaps try posting in the normal forum as not everyone checks the Pets & Animals forums.
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 10:47
I have friends in the UK who have eight children and are on low income benefits, the oldest and second oldest sons are taken out with dad on a Saturday whilst the rest of the kids stay at home, this is not a major issue as he is at home much of the week. But the family is split over so many activities due to the age gap and the need for a bus to get them anywhere. I would want my family to do more things together, with my husband working such long hours family time will be limited to say the least. [b'>As for education most of them are behind on school as who has time to help eight children with homework?[/b'> I'm from a big family too and we all grew up happy and healthy. We did loads of things together as a family and separate too. You call it "split over so many activities due to the age gap" but we called it "hockey or cinema or knitting" or whatever the activity was. The age gaps were never an issue, they simply were "my baby sister" etc. My oldest brother was married when I was born and he has always been my brother. The relationship I have with him is different from the relationship I have with my twin brother but it's not something we compare and label. It's a relationship and it's beautiful. As for homework, the older kids help the younger kids. There is no better way to learn than by teaching others. I am sure I tried the patience of my older brothers and sisters but they learnt a lot from me too. Definitely money was tight but we all got a good education because it wasn't about the cost of the school, it was always about how hard we studied and the effort we put in. We are family and it shows in the bond we all have with other. I didn't say you wouldn't grow up happy and healthy. In fact I said I would want my family to be able to do things together as my husband has little if any free time outside of work and studies. I want my children to have a father and I don't want to have to pick and choose which children get time to spend with their father as his time is so limited. As for education the world has become a vastly more competitive place these days. I frequently see on these forums that parents don't have time to help their children with the amount of work they bring home. Furthermore older children will have homework of their own, probably even more which will give them little time to help siblings. It is unlikely a child doing a-level maths is going to get any benefit from helping a sibling learning fractions. In an ideal world a large family would be amazing and I would love a large family. In reality not many people nowadays can afford the time or money for such a luxury.
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 09:34
She should move here, she'd be in her element. Unlikely, there are no first rate prep schools in Dubai. I can see her point to a certain degree although suspect as usual the Daily Mail has exaggerated it. I would love to have four kids, but we only intend to have two, because I can offer private schooling, college/university and a good financial start in life for two kids but if we have four I cannot. I can also ensure they get a varied education not only in the classroom but outside with opportunities to try different sports and hobbies, I hope we can take them to places I saw as a child and some I did not Africa, India, Antarctica, South America and Galapagos. Not just financial cost but personal time as well. My husband works 60-100 hours a week and is studying for a Masters degree. He plans on doing a PhD afterwards. I have friends in the UK who have eight children and are on low income benefits, the oldest and second oldest sons are taken out with dad on a Saturday whilst the rest of the kids stay at home, this is not a major issue as he is at home much of the week. But the family is split over so many activities due to the age gap and the need for a bus to get them anywhere. I would want my family to do more things together, with my husband working such long hours family time will be limited to say the least. As for education most of them are behind on school as who has time to help eight children with homework? Finally I hope if one or all of them have a particular passion that they want to follow, music or sports we will be able to afford to support it. Growing up living opposite an Olympic swimmer has shown me just how expensive a gifted child can be. Her parents had to move country (UK support for swimming is non existent) and downsize just to support her. Of course this means her siblings may feel as if they come second. If we end up with three children I doubt I will be devastated as this woman has been portrayed to be (although pregnancy hormones can make you feel more strongly about things), in fact I'd be delighted (bear in mind four is what I would truly want if money and time was no object) and hopefully we would find a way to still ensure all three can have the best possible opportunities in life, but I would be concerned that all three would not have the support two would have had. Perhaps many people don't want to admit it but I cannot see any other reason why anyone would have a small family other than the fact they can offer better opportunities to a smaller family than a larger one. Most traditional British families these days stick to two or even one child. In fact statistics in the UK show families with three or more children are more likely to be in poverty than those with one or two children (35% of children in families with three of more children are in poverty, compared to around a quarter of children in smaller families). Having three or more children is unusual these days in the UK. 2012 statistics show 47% have one child, 39% have two and only 14% have three or more. Larger families are more commonly found in ethnic communities. Local authorities with the three highest percentages of families with three or more dependent children (Tower Hamlets, Newham and Birmingham) are also local authorities with high percentages of people of Pakistani or Bangladeshi ethnicity. For example in Tower Hamlets, 28% of families with dependent children had three or more, and here a third of people had Pakistani or Bangladeshi ethnicity – the highest percentage of all local authorities in England and Wales. For comparison, across England and Wales, 3% of people had Bangladeshi or Pakistani ethnicity. There is nothing wrong with this, it is their culture but it clearly shows traditional British more often choose to have smaller families. I am not defending all of the things this woman has said (although that could be put down to the Daily Mail's very special editorship and her hormones) but I can see the basic point.
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Latest post on 01 October 2013 - 16:17
Any trainer who uses caesar milan's methods are outdated trainers. Positive reinforcement trainers do not follow such methods. Positive reinforcement is a Scientific backed training methodology which does not harm nor hurt the dog in any way and increases the bond with the handler and his dog. This training method is so successful that they are using it on various other animals. Trainers who are excellent are Michelle @ Paws pet planet, Laura @ Positive paws and Jo who can be contacted via positive paws. All 3 of them always believe that handlers need the most training as dogs are easy but we always lose out on patience, persistance and consistency. There are trainers and there are behaviourists. Two very different things...so not one outdated by the other. People should research both and go with the method that feels right (and gets results) for them. Rubbish. I so love the way people following Cesar Millan and certain trainers in Dubai go on about this they're not trainer they're a behaviourist nonsense. Dr. Ian Dunbar has a veterinary degree and a Special Honors degree in Physiology & Biochemistry from the Royal Veterinary College (London University) plus a doctorate in animal behavior from the Psychology Department at UC Berkeley, where he researched the development of social hierarchies and aggression in domestic dogs. I don't know about anyone else but I call that a behavourist, and a well qualified one at that. He calls Cesar Millans methods outdated and ineffective. As do so many other professional animal 'behaviorists', people with actual qualifications from actual universities. Erm and what qualifications does Cesar Millan have? Chilling out on a farm in Mexico? Bulling a dog. Just because he calls himself an animal behaviorist and psychologist does not make it so. If you needed surgery say your tonsils removed and some random guy says 'I'm a self taught doctor' would you then say hey of course come cut me open and remove my tonsils? Would you want a 'self taught' engineer designing the Burj Khalifa? Would you want a self taught Maths teacher teaching your children maths? I guess if they are on TV then it must make it right? Cesar Millan is nothing more than a good PR stunt that uses invasive fear based techniques to subdue dogs until they do what he wants. Yes these techniques work and faster than proper training which requires patience and small steps. Cesar's way does very little for a fearful dog except make it more fearful. If you were scared of something and I shoved it in your face then poked you in the neck and hissed at you every time you screamed at it, you might stop screaming (so you don't get poked in the neck) but you're not going to be any less scared. As for pack leader, well dogs have been domesticated for tens of thousands of years and it is a well published fact that whilst we traditionally thought their social mechanics were similar to that of a wolf pack they are actually anything but. There are trainers in Dubai with real qualifications (degrees) in canine behaviour, I have yet to come across one who proposes adverse training methods. As for those that use Cesar's way, avoid. Positive reinforcement is the best way to train a dog, and also makes use of animal 'behaviour'. Don't be conned when a trainer starts saying 'I'm better than those other trainers because I'm a 'behaviourist'.
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Latest post on 01 October 2013 - 14:10
There are a number of places in Dubai that offer training. I would recommend a combination of classes or puppy play groups (for socialisation) and lessons. Bear in mind a puppy's most crucial time for sucessful socialisation is the first 16 weeks. This can be a major problem in Dubai as you cannot import a dog younger than 16 weeks. If the puppy has been acquired from a pet store then it will have had little or no socialisation and the chances of it's mother teaching it before weaning are also slim as most pet stores import their stock from eastern European puppy mills not from healthy home bred environments. I do not recommend aversive based training (generally advocated by the TV guy Cesar Millan. These methods have been shown time and time again by educated studies, veterinarians and specialised dog behaviorists who are not just a dodgy guy on TV that beats up dogs (and gets bitten by some) to be outdated and not ideal for the long term welfare of the dog. Why these methods don't work, well it's logical for example: A dog is scared of other dogs, everytime they see another dog they bark and growl (defensive), when another dog comes close they growl and eyeball the other dog, snap if they come too close. Cesar's way would be to 'check' the dog, that is tug on the leash discipline the dog when they are growling. But what does this achieve? Well imagine if you are scared of spiders and someone puts one in your face and you are screaming your head off, so they then slap you round the face and tell you to shut up. Eventually you might shut up (or you may punch them) but are you any less scared? Suppressing a symptom does not cure the behavior. By all means if you want a suppressed intimidated dog go down this path perhaps we could also start training children this way? Oh we stopped beating children a while ago. Many studies have shown dogs are not just domesticated wolves and they have evolved, over thousands of years (somewhere between 12,000-33,000) to understand human communication far better than any other animal. So don't believe everything you read about 'pack leader'. This said there are a few things that could be taught to a dog to try and keep a dog stable and happy. i.e. you go through doors first, when arriving home the dog should sit until you have come inside and give them a command to run around/get excited etc. you should not pet a dog on command when you stop petting if they nudge you ignore it, once they give up and leave then you can call them back and pet them, you are petting them on your terms. But the best way to train a dog is through positive reinforcement. It does not get the quick results that aversive methods appear to get and is certainly more complex but it does create a far better dog in the end. If you do not intend on working a dog then treat reward clicker training is very effective. Here are some places you can try: http://www.positivepaws.ae http://www.pawspetplanet.com/training-classes http://www.dubaidogtrainer.com/ I have had three field trial winning spaniels none of which have required negative training, just a lot of hard work. edited by RuthM on 01/10/2013 <em>edited by RuthM on 01/10/2013</em>
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Latest post on 01 October 2013 - 06:44
[b'>Terminal Method:[/b'> Go to Applications &gt; Utilities &gt; Terminal Type /usr/bin/drutil eject [b'>Reboot method (same as below):[/b'> Shut down the mac Restart whilst holding trackpad button Turn laptop on it's side and shake gently CD should fall out <em>edited by RuthM on 01/10/2013</em>
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Latest post on 19 September 2013 - 11:05
It is actually called Julian, he is based in The Village Mall, opposite Magrudy's Centre. http://julianhairdressingdubai.com/ I think Julian is from Bradford, Yorkshire. Thanks. Do they do colour though? Their website doesn't seem to indicate they do colour?
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Latest post on 19 September 2013 - 10:15
I have yet to find a hair stylist I will let touch my hair in Dubai but DH (who needs his hair done more often) just goes from one disaster to the next. The amazing thing is that the same stylist can create an entirely different disaster each time he goes. He used to go to Gentleman's Tonic in London and HK. So imagine his delight when one opened in Dubai. After several months of going there he has discovered this is not Gentleman's Tonic but yet another place in Dubai that has opened, slapped on a reputable brand name then employed a few untrained serfs that are incapable of delivering anything near what you are used to. My first complaint were the awful haircuts, he once came out with a very short back and sides and some kind of girly puffy long gelled hair thing on top, it was beyond a joke. It is a shame as he has come out with one or two good haircuts but they are completely unable to maintain any kind of consistency - I mean honestly how hard can it be?! My second complaint was the 'treatment' they charged him something astronomical like 500 AED for. A treatment he said he didn't want. The funny thing was after this they offered him a free hair cut and when he went back they did the treatment again because it was 'on his record' and tried to charge him for it again! Now if they keep records you would imagine they would be able to maintain some sort of consistency with his hair colour. His hair is salt and pepper but the last five years it is more salt with a few flecks of pepper. In London they do a great wash in colour that makes it look more pepper with flecks of salt (i.e. keeping some of the grey). This place just does a 'block' of colour. Sometimes it's black, sometimes it's dark brown and this time round it was a very sexy blue/black wig colour. So that's it, I will shave his head. Unless anyone can suggest anywhere in Dubai that employs people who actually have a remote clue as to what they are doing? Whilst we are on the subject anywhere that does a proper wet shave (like in Turkey) without slicing and dicing and with actually removing the facial hair? His wet shaves seem to consist of a whole ton of cuts and barely any less facial hair than when he went in.
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Latest post on 15 September 2013 - 17:28
We have a front loading Siemens washer/dryer which is fine. However will soon be getting separate Miele washing and drying machines. I would vote Miele all the way, it's expensive but very worthwhile.
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Latest post on 13 September 2013 - 05:33
Well my dad loved David Bowie (who was from my home town), Pink Floyd and Led Zeppelin. I love lots of music from Johnny Cash to Nirvana to Florence to Madness to Daft Punk to Metallica to Sinatra. But my favourite band who I have been a massive fan of since 1991 is a one man band, Nine Inch Nails, fronted by Trent Reznor. Reznor was heavily influenced by David Bowie, has played live with David Bowie and covered David Bowie songs. He also recently did a cover of Immigrant Song (for Girl With The Dragon Tattoo soundtrack) and finally has done a live cover of Pink Floyd's Comfortably Numb with David Bowie! I am of course a huge fan of David Bowie. So I vote yes influence is definitely there! I shall ensure any child of mine is exposed to NIN from a young age. They have a lovely instrumental album to start them on and of course the oscar winning Social Network soundtrack. As for songs that remind me of home. To be honest not really, my parents didn't listen to much music when I was older. My dad would listen to some but shut himself away in his study and I wasn't permitted in there. I can only imagine they listened to some great progressive rock stuff when I was too young to remember which just shaped my mind to go for synth stuff which I always tend to gravitate towards (and yes I am crazy to see Depeche Mode at F1 soon!). <em>edited by RuthM on 13/09/2013</em>
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Latest post on 11 September 2013 - 19:29
I didn't think much of Nobu, expensive and frankly not all that good. We are planning on trying Zuma next time.