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Latest post on 05 July 2011 - 01:44
or if you know a solicitor they can do it. if you are able to make it to Mirdif/Garhoud, I can certify a copy for you (free :) ) post your email and I will contact you (but logging off now so it had better be tomorrow - or someone who knows my email address could send it to me off line. one of these days I will get myself an email I don't mind posting!
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 00:59
No they don't. I know there are plenty of things to do in and around Brum without looking at your links; but you are simply wrong in terms of 'any city town or village', even if you are only talking about England. And for your information Scotland is part of the UK. So is Northern Ireland (hmm, wondering how many ballet and cricket classes there are in Annalong, County Down; was still a fabulous place to spend time in as a child) Frenchy et al, there are plenty of things to do for kids (and mums) in the UK; but what they are will vary according to where you actually end up; it is a big country.
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 00:42
Tallyho, I'm not being funny, I'm just trying to point out you are overgeneralising on the basis of one location. I'm not talking about decades ago, when I talk about the village I grew up in, I'm talking about now - parents still live there, I still have a reasonable idea of what goes on. It's a nice village, in a lovely location, and there are plenty of things to do, but guddling in the stream sort of things perhaps taking the place of ballet and archery. If someone asks what is there to do in terms of anything (for kids, outdoors, cultural, whatever) in the UK, I would struggle with the question; have lived in some very different parts of the UK which had very different things to offer. And frenchy, I've lived in the Birmingham area; there are some gorgeous parts around there and I am sure you will have a ball (and lots to do with the kids - sorry was child free in those days so no particular words of wisdom) DubaiCat, I grew up in Perthshire but near the Fife border; my mother occasionally worked in Glenrothes; it is pretty much my idea of where I wouldn't like to live, sorry to anyone from those parts :)
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 23:15
Oh come on Sandfly It really doesn’t matter where you are in the UK there are tons of things for Adults and Children of all ages. Have a look at the links I put on for Frenchy. I live in a small village and there are loads of activities for children all year round. Cubs, Guides, beavers Brownies, ballet, tennis, netball, cricket, football, horse riding, dance, archery and clay pigeon shooting are all within walking distance from my house. For other things like swimming, bowling etc it’s a short drive away. All the stately homes have mazes and kiddy things going on all year. There are farms specially designed for children and strawberry picking I could go on all day LOL There are tons of things to do anywhere in the UK. They aren't necessarily the same things, and the prices aren't necessarily the same. Local councils put on a lot, but suspect this area may suffer with the 'austerity measures' (and local councils already vary; see eg difference between free swimming for kids or not, etc Or do you think the available options for a parent are the same whether you are in, eg, Cambridge or Glenrothes? Not all villages are alike, either - in the village where I grew up you could currently do a number of those activities but by no means all; and the cubs, beavers, brownies etc are always struggling for volunteers (just like Dubai there) But yes, you will find plenty of things to do - the actual mix, however, and the standard of teaching where relevant, will vary a lot. <em>edited by sandfly on 01/07/2011</em>
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 12:55
can't speak for now, but 3.5 years ago it was either free or nominal charge to go to the weigh in; surely 350 is for a personal consultation?
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 12:29
err, tally ho, glad you are so positive but it is a bit of an over-generalisation to say all of those things are available, affordable, etc 'in the UK' - it is going to depend on where in the UK. Frenchy where are you heading?
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Latest post on 30 June 2011 - 21:42
Congratulations Farasha, how lovely! Hope you're all together soon - DD was in NICU for 36 hours after birth, but all absolutely fine, no issues with feeding or anything; hope it goes as well for you.
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Latest post on 30 June 2011 - 21:37
I'm pretty sure my previous house (4 bed, semi independent, external maid's, 2 floors, off flight path, own (but not that big) garden (and shaded parking)) is still vacant - nice landlord - Mr Adnan, 0504594344. It was 140K but suspect he would go down..... If anyone does end up there, I still have the blinds (maid felt we had to bring. Not sure quite what I am supposed to do with them and would like to get rid.....!) and you can have them. Current compound usually has one or two free (and one family has just left so pretty sure theirs has not gone yet) and is lovely - 4 bedrooms (one is huuuge, with fabulous bathroom), maid's is both internal and external, small private garden and big communal grassy area with play equipment, pool behind safety gate, small gym. Nice neighbours; various kids who all play out together during the cooler months. Lots of storage(!), kitchen is good. Headline price 180 but you can discuss; have a look (villas number 24 on street 66B, up across from little Spinneys), there is a number outside for the watchman so you can have a look before talking to the landlord.
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Latest post on 28 June 2011 - 22:17
if you're asking, rather than looking, you need to ask about LATCH as well, it is another name for the same thing (Lower Anchors and Tethers for CHildren), possibly more American but seems to be a fairly widespread term.
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Latest post on 28 June 2011 - 21:45
Thanks all. Purple I'll go up there tonight. Suzn/mpp_jl- I know about the Fotofun in MCC opp Carrefour but last time I was in doing 8x10 copies, I overheard them tell a customer that they introduced a min 8 pics for AED 40 for pport. when? because I got 4 from there only a couple of weeks ago.
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Latest post on 28 June 2011 - 21:38
however, the free use of the play area for fitness first members is only at specific times. Can't tell you what times as they were wholly useless for me so didn't bother retaining the info but have the vague feeling it was weekday mornings.
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 23:19
oh, ok Mrs M, it was just the reference to 'salary and benefits' seemed to go beyond that. Though I imagine for the big groups of employees (pilots, cabin crew etc) even those don't end up being that secret in reality.
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 23:12
If you don't like people discussing Emirates discounts and benefits don't look at this site! http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=2385542563#!/group.php?gid=2385542563&v=info It's not confidential info so why not discuss it, it's not some top secret elite club! So many on here are or ex EK so it's natural it will pop up here and there! If to want your salary/benefits to be kept private you need to work for a company a little less high profile. Well, some of it probably is confidential - most employers do require a degree of confidentiality, though I don't suppose that applies to the pilots club privileges (envious), whether or not people choose to comply with their contractual obligations. And that facebook site is just a reminder of how I *don't* want my kids to grow up!
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 23:09
thanks wuffles, thought I should search and was too lazy!
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 22:58
How delightful of you to comment. The original post was about DEWA bills and the jump in price from month to month. In regards to Air conditioning - it's not about how much we have it ON, but how it costs us more even if we use it less due to the way it works in relation to outside temperature. Therefore blocking heat is the best way to reduce heat and save money. I think you were still rather stating the obvious...... Are you connected with Lamings window film? it is odd to send people to a website relating to a particular (brand of a) product without even mentioning the product in the post - you are recommending window film, then? presumably shutting curtains/blinds would be a cheaper option particularly for those who are renting??
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 22:12
got bored of just doing level 1, tried level 2 today. I'm going to need to find a new shredding set up, having been doing on a rug rather than leaping about on such solid floors - but level 2 is far too active, the rug was skating about with me on it! definitely need some lighter weights for the v raises...... Frizzy, I think the idea of the 30 days is it is a bit of a kick start - do the 30 days to get you going - and that isn't really long enough for the repetitive nature to be a problem - but if you don't want to use it that way, it seems to me to be a good 20 minute work out; I haven't done every day, and still doing the odd session at the gym instead.
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 21:53
maybe your DH is actually nervous himself and doesn't want to admit it - perhaps this is his way of disguising his nerves?
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 21:47
it is at times like this that I wonder if I live in a different city from a lot of people on here - I can't think that I've ever been asked how much I earn or whether I get a car allowance or whatever. And I've been here for 9 years. Who is it that asks these questions??
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 20:31
my lovely BMW X3 came with isofix - it is so much easier (though if you are strapping in each time, as opposed to mostly leaving in the car, is it an infant seat? some of them at least come with bases you can strap in, then you just click the seat onto the base each time)
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 20:31
Thanks ladies! As both kids are having an operation on the same day, do you think they will put them in the same room? One is a girl (5) and one is a boy (3) probably not, ask at admissions to give you rooms next to each other 2 patients in one room wouldn't be safe... imagine if their meds got mixed up etc!! They are practically the same age/body weight......having the same minor surgery.......so hardly a worry I'd have thought? however do they manage on wards, if being in the same room is risky??
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Latest post on 24 June 2011 - 21:35
Interesting, thanks. Why particularly after exercise though?
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Latest post on 24 June 2011 - 21:09
Drinking cold water after exercise helps you lose weight do you have any evidence for that?
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Latest post on 23 June 2011 - 23:21
mixed reviews maybe, but absolutely no proof that it works - there have not been any studies showing a reduction in wax; all the gunk they show you at the end of the process as having been extracted from your ear also appears in a candle burning on its own nowhere near any ears. Did have it done once when I was younger and more gullible, and it was all very nice, soft lighting etc, came out feeling relaxed and impressed by the apparent wax removing powers - didn't actually change the condition of my ears though, or do any of the other things it is supposed to do.
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Latest post on 21 June 2011 - 17:18
TwoKids, I have always made it clear to my maid that I am not going to pay her extra for not taking her holiday. She gets an annual 'bonus' of one month's extra salary anyway - if she goes, I will pay for her flight; if she doesn't, I won't. If I asked her not to take holiday, it would be a different story. But obviously you do need to pay her normal salary, whether she is on holiday or not.
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Latest post on 21 June 2011 - 15:47
By the time you're on that generation, you really don't have much connection with the UK, presumably haven't paid taxes there through that period, etc; they would be a potential burden to the country with no obvious benefit. You could ask, would the UAE really deny a passport to the child of a fourth generation UAE resident....? (doing well thanks!)
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Latest post on 21 June 2011 - 15:42
Who is 'they'? There are stateless persons in the world. The child would not be entitled to any citizenship - nobody *has* to grant citizenship to someone not entitled to it. Nobody (except the parents, I suppose) would be 'making' the child stateless, the child just would be stateless.
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Latest post on 21 June 2011 - 15:36
If it's her choice not to go, you don't 'need' to pay her anything. But it's obviously nice to pay something; you have saved money (on the air fare at least) because of that choice, as well as benefitting from having her there to keep an eye on things (houses here don't seem to like being shut up!)
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Latest post on 21 June 2011 - 15:33
BM - why would they 'have' to, any more than the UAE 'has' to give passports to people born here? The child would potentially be stateless, unless there is a right to another passport for whatever reason (eg through the other parent)
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Latest post on 20 June 2011 - 23:45
lemondrops always talks sense :)
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Latest post on 20 June 2011 - 23:04
Sandfly replied : And the 'rule' was given to a specific mother in respect of a specific baby; it was almost certainly not intended to be distributed as gospel to a wide group of mothers with babies with differing needs. And what about this one Sandfly ? Spamm wrote : This midwife has very strange theory... http://gulfnews.com/life-style/parenting/parenting-solutions-feeding-thumb-sucking-1.811746 I would also be interested to know from where she took the rule ''one hour of sleep per week of age'' This rule wasnt given to a specific mother of a specific baby ! Sandfly replied : and there are very few 4kg babies who need to feed more often than every couple of hours False ! Did you hear about macrosomia ? edited by salome on 20/06/2011 Yes. How many macrosomic babies need to feed more often than every couple of hours? Yes she should probably have given a cut off for her 'one hour of sleep per week' business, it obviously doesn't apply to 16 week olds (or 5 year olds..... or 40 year olds come to that). And perhaps she should also have said 'if your child isn't premature, underweight, FTT, etc' but you have to assume a certain level of common sense, no? But with regard to her actual advice in that article, it is not so far off, say, Gina Ford. Now Gina isn't for me, but has helped lots of parents - as has Cecile, though obviously not on the same level of magnitude. It is horses for courses, and whatever the various proponents of various theories say, there is actually very little reliable evidence on exactly what is 'best' for a normal, healthy, child in this kind of context, as it is just about impossible to exclude other factors (or to know what to measure, come to that).
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Latest post on 20 June 2011 - 22:12
well fine, for you, and no doubt for your children (me too, I can't help it, mine are still going to learn to speak my form of English at home whether they like it or not) but why would anyone think they could impose that on people from other parts of the English speaking world? I love the 'five and twenty past'.... :)
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Latest post on 20 June 2011 - 21:33
[The gift of the gab - noun, not verb. Gift may have been used as a verb in C16th England, and subsequently taken across the Pond, but it is not a verb in common English usage. And there is no such word in the Chambers C21st dictionary as persnickitorial. And what in heaven's name are "language Scrooges"? And who is Bill Brohaugh, cough, cough? Not a verb in common English usage? Or not a verb in common UK/US English usage? Prepone is a verb. It isn't a verb in either UK or US English, but it is a verb in common English usage. And most of what we now think of as odd, 'foreign', usages of English came from some or all of the UK at the time we were exporting our language world wide - we can't now really be linguistic imperialists and suggest that only current UK usage is actually correct.....
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Latest post on 20 June 2011 - 20:10
Random phone call today: Caller 'hello is that Ms Sandfly' Me 'yes' C - 'I'm calling from the InterContinental; our management have suggested you join our VIP program [Ie, we hvae found your number somewhere'> can we discuss this now or are you busy' Me - 'umm, yes, quite busy,....' C - right I shall call you at 3pm tomorrow Me - hang on, if this is something I have to pay for, there is no point as I don't buy things over the phone C - why, do you have trust issues? Me [thinking ????'> No, but I don't buy things over the phone, particularly from cold calls. If you would like to email me, send me your information, I will have a look' C [in irritated tone'> Right well we don't do this by email so if you won't do it this way I can't help it, goodbye'. Riiiight, done wonders for my impression of the professionalism of the Intercon, that has.......
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Latest post on 20 June 2011 - 19:56
AnonDubai, it depends which version of English you are speaking.
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Latest post on 20 June 2011 - 19:54
Izzy, I would actually agree with you if we were in the UK. However we aren't, and 'gift' as a verb appears to be legitimate usage in, among others, Indian English - just as some American usages are 'wrong' in the UK, but perfectly correct across the Atlantic. Here, as irritating as it can be (my personal peeve is 'avail'. It is 'supposed to be' (ie British English!) reflexive - you 'avail yourself of' something, NOT 'avail of' something) to hear something 'wrong' to your ears, you can't impose one version of English and say it's the only right one. Edited because I lost my train of thought and ended up not making sense. Which is usually what happens when I start thinking about 'avail of'. <em>edited by sandfly on 20/06/2011</em>
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Latest post on 19 June 2011 - 23:48
How are things between you otherwise? was he supportive during the pregnancy? is he generally loving?
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Latest post on 19 June 2011 - 23:36
Sandfly wrote : I found Cecile very supportive with regard to breast feeding. I am happy for you Sandfly but as Kiwispiers said: Your midwife is giving advice that goes against current medical recommendations, whether it is successful or not. And this information( the rule with a 4kgs baby overnight ...) is unacceptable and unsafe for some babies . where did I say she was my midwife? she wasn't. She was however very supportive with regard to breastfeeding. The amount of completely conflicting advice out there on the subject is incredible; and whichever recommendations you accept (IBCLC or whatever its name is? AAP? NHS? WHO?) , there are medical professionals out there saying otherwise - paediatricians, GPs, midwives, health visitors (in the UK) etc etc etc. Ultimately with breastfeeding, I think anything that helps is to be encouraged - and Cecile has helped a lot of people And the 'rule' was given to a specific mother in respect of a specific baby; it was almost certainly not intended to be distributed as gospel to a wide group of mothers with babies with differing needs. Incidentally I suspect that comments like 'leaving babies fasting for a couple of hours could lead to hypoglycaemia and cause brain damage' are more likely to cause stress and anxiety where it isn't required, which will not IMHO encourage breastfeeding.... far easier to be sure your baby is getting milk if you can see it - and there are very few 4kg babies who need to feed more often than every couple of hours. I don't think going around saying that (scaremongering) is particularly following 'current medical recommendations' either - as far as I am aware the one thing they do all agree on is that breastfeeding is the best alternative.....
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Latest post on 18 June 2011 - 22:58
spamm I don't know if it's meant or if it is just because of the smug tone of the article you copied, but that struck me as quite a nasty post. I found Cecile very supportive with regard to breast feeding. Her way of dealing with sleep issues wasn't right for me, so I didn't use it (though I got to the stage with my second where if she hadn't suddenly decided she could actually sleep for more than 30 minutes at a time, I would have tried anything) but it's hardly unique to Cecile; there are plenty of (medical) proponents of the method and plenty of mothers who have found it worked well for them. There are lots of aspects of parenthood where people tend to polarise - are you a Gina Ford mum or an AP parent, is formula the work of the devil or a jolly good idea, etc. I read, and think, and experiment; sometimes I don't end up doing what I thought I would, sometimes I find something that makes sense to me but is really, really, really, difficult to do in practice, sometimes I read something that reflects the way I naturally do things - but I don't pretend for one minute that I have 'the answer'. I couldn't be a Gina mum, it isn't right for me, but I have friends who are/were, and it is right for them and their family. It just seems to me that life would be so much easier if parents didn't seem to feel the need to take a pop at each other so often......
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Latest post on 16 June 2011 - 17:16
I've used them for ages now, and always had excellent service. And even when I have forgotten to order things they have generally had them Could be the wrong address (could be also that they use different drivers in different areas and you and CdnExpat are in an unlucky area??)
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Latest post on 14 June 2011 - 22:30
That’s very strange that UK universities would favour a foreign exam rather than their own exam. Ive heard of so many IB students failing to get Uni places to the extent that IB students are telling children in lower years to take A levels instead. Well, there seem to be different views within the UK...... don't know what I'd choose - but this is for the end result not for the MYP etc, don't know if universities would really care about that part. http://www.telegraph.co.uk/education/educationadvice/8271364/Headmasters-voice-A-levels-versus-International-Baccalaureate.html (bottom of page) http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=1630354 http://www.telegraph.co.uk/education/expateducation/8076313/The-International-Baccalaureate-versus-A-levels-which-one-will-help-your-child-shine.html
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Latest post on 14 June 2011 - 21:21
Jowel, skype is still ok on my computer - what's happened to yours?
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Latest post on 13 June 2011 - 22:43
my ex is currently in the US and was at the Apple store a few days ago, he went to a couple of 'courses' (I think they're an hour each or something) they have on how to use your iPhone, iPad etc. I had originally asked him to get me an iPad while he was over there but changed my mind because of the 'lock' bit. Apparently one of the employees said it was true, the ones they sell are locked, but they could get me the one I needed with a few days' notice (not sure how this is possible, perhaps you have to prove you live abroad or something) - so could be worth enquiring.
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Latest post on 11 June 2011 - 21:49
or you can pay on line, saves any of the traipsing about. ohh...don't trust online payments here....maybe it's just me. well, have been paying DEWA and Etisalat on line for over three years now and not had any problems :)
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Latest post on 11 June 2011 - 21:30
or you can pay on line, saves any of the traipsing about.
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Latest post on 10 June 2011 - 20:18
Just a separate comment. Kids only get to stay home for 18 years before they leave for the outside world. Why not keep them home for the entire 18 years if you could? After that it would be luxury to have them home. Have you had teenagers yet? Not yet. But sending them away does not sound like a real solution to teen problems. Boarding school for 6th form was very good for me and two of my three siblings (other one chose to stay where he was) - improved my relationship with my parents enormously. And because of the nice long holidays, I'm not even sure I ended up spending less total time with them.
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Latest post on 03 June 2011 - 20:15
Problem being, my little girl isn't too keen on television! I mean, that's GREAT! But not on a long trip, it's not!! She'll watch for about 10 mins but then gets bored. Although, i think she may well enjoy walking up and down the aisles and checking people out!! Oh, and we're flying BA. Yes, I was thinking of crayons and a note pad. Is she too young for a magnadoodle/etch-a-sketh? Don't want to try her out on it as would rather make it a surprise toy for the plane. But where can I get one??? my DD at that age just wanted to walk up and down, up and down (and wasn't keen on TV either) - flights were very exhausting. etch a sketches are bigger than you think... and she probably won't want to draw for that much of the time, you may be better with a smallish notepad and some cool crayons/pencils/whatever - also found that lots of stickers were good (so the seat gets covered in them, you can probably unstick most of them before getting off and if you can't, they aren't too difficult for the cleaners to do) How about a bag of new toys - small cars? small people? the sort of thing she would like anyway, but new to her, and bring one out every hour/couple of hours, just for the variety..?
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Latest post on 03 June 2011 - 19:56
Depends on airline, EK are great as they have the ICE system and quite a good childrens pack full of colouring stuff. Add to that a soft toy, drawing book, reading books? the ICE system is fab (video on demand, loads of channels including kids stuff, and usually something toddler friendly), but they still don't have it on all planes therefore not on all routes - possibly worth checking in advance