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Latest post on 07 November 2013 - 11:52
did an update. Please share the link. http://tnydu.biz/D5f0i7
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Latest post on 06 November 2013 - 18:39
Truly, I cannot understand the mean spiritedness and narrow mindedness of some of our fellow posters. Do you have no compassion? And, might I add, "What a terrific memory!!!" What is your secret? You should bottle it and sell it!!!!! TDB, ignore those less fortunately who can't see past the forest for want of all the trees blocking their view and enjoy your special celebration! Allah has seen fit to bless you with a wonderful family - be happy. Sidling up to Mrs.B. As being on the nasty end a few times in the far distance...i will stand beside her and her opinion as they are also mine. As for the 'terrific memory' the search button holds many secrets to dredge up :)
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Latest post on 06 November 2013 - 17:09
I am so glad William is going strong!!!! I imagine he would have a bit of a problem being an indoor boy. What about using a body harness and taking him out. Not sure how safe it is though where you are? Thanks so much for letting me Know. As I put ads up for the current 4 I always come across williams photos...lovely fella, do think of him often :)...thanks Kathy for posting :)
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Latest post on 30 October 2013 - 11:22
you could call all the vets again to double check the chip number. It is possible that someone transposed the number. You can also email all the vets. Most of them do get back to you. I know K9 have already done this but it does not hurt to try again. Can you check Dubizzle? put a picture up here (a link) hopefully you will have success to put your mind at rest. The pup might have wandered off...very strong of you willing to give him back and if nothing comes of it, you will rest easy you have done all you can :)....good luck either way :)
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Latest post on 30 October 2013 - 11:13
I might take them to another vet. I find the Mun are great for shots because the price is cheap but I would take them to another vet for anything else. Unless things have changed and they have a fab vet now? what colour is the blood btw, deep red or bright red.
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Latest post on 12 October 2013 - 08:52
You could always ask for her to leave her phone in her room when she is working, and turned off so she cannot hear it. if she constantly goes to her room to check it have her leave it with you then. At her afternoon break she can call her family and at night. simple.
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Latest post on 30 September 2013 - 22:21
My maid went for her day off last week with various items in her bag! Toiletries, food, clothes, etc from the house which I did not give her. Only a few things but I'm guessing she does it every week as I had noticed a few items disappearing (like thinking I had an extra bottle of shampoo but it not being there when I went for it). She doesn't know that I know, I'm carrying on as normal, I am very happy with her work but unsure how to handle this. This is my 3rd maid and my 3rd maid who I have caught stealing. Is it such a big deal? Is it like us acquiring pens and paper from the office? Should I just comment that I have noticed things going and see if that does the trick? Advice would be welcomed! She is stealing, lifting, smuggling things out of the house...your things, things that you did not give her..clothes......erm...of course it is a big deal!!!! if your children did this while staying at a friends house, would you think it was stealing or would they just be borrowing??? seriously, the woman is stealing and she knows you will do nothing.
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Latest post on 30 September 2013 - 22:11
Thank You all ladies at least I can advice her something better.... with all the opinions I feel its not a BIG Deal if her husband is asking her to wait for 5 years. She wants the kids probably because she is from a society where couples go for the kids immediately after marriage be the age late teens or early 20's (Sadly its true). And she is always questioned by her family members and friends why they dont have kids until now. Other than this conflict they are a happy couple MA. So she should wait a little more to keep the relationship healthy. Rose if you were to advise her on anything, i would suggest you advise her to find a good marriage counsellor who is unbiased and could help them talk and understand each other. I am wondering if she has asked you to put this info on expatwoman and ask for opinions here and get back to her with advice? Getting in the middle is not a good place to be in someone else's marriage, I could suggest you listen to uour friend for support and not advise Leave that to the professionals.
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Latest post on 28 September 2013 - 18:09
106 views eh :0...not one interested? thats a lot of looks.
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Latest post on 28 September 2013 - 18:06
no brick bats whatever they are. not our problem if your cat falls off the balcony. his intelligence will not help him if he loses his balance. just please don't come on here if your cat does fall off. ok, finished with that little rant. To jcdubai :)..yes, please enclose your balcony to keep your cat safe. if you do a search on here you will people with balconies and what they have found works. a great bed at a window works well. fixing your cat at 1kg. approx 5 months before they go into their first heat if possible. males cheaper than females and yes, call around to vets and find out the prices. do not let your 10 week old on the balcony!!!!! at least until yyou know it is secure.
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Latest post on 22 September 2013 - 09:12
was this cat ever found?
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Latest post on 22 September 2013 - 09:08
just make sure when you are ready to leave Dubai you get her used to a cat box and being in the house more as it will be difficult to toss her in a box and move if she is not used to it :) Actually, leaving a good travel box outside might be a good idea for her to sleep in :)
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Latest post on 22 September 2013 - 09:04
no more fast food huge plates please!!! If I see another bleeding Tim Hortons replacing coffee Bean and tea leaf I will scream!!!! Tim's coffee is awful....I am canadian and I do not like Tim's..donuts are good.
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Latest post on 17 September 2013 - 11:23
put a wet hand towel in a plastic bag . Buy deodorant wipes and put a few with the towel. Take along a small container of baby powder. Go to bathroom stall, remove clothes, wipe down,clean up, powder, get dressed. that should take 10 min tops..but... go to work in your workout clothes and change in the bathroom :)
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Latest post on 12 September 2013 - 17:27
No Irooni, not for a few years but I do like to be prepared lol.....did furniture shopping whilst in Canada and darn, the really good stuff i.e., wrapped in a feather duvet...is very expensive and we already have that but in sectional. So sense giving it away here if it can be redesigned into 2 pieces ;0
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Latest post on 12 September 2013 - 17:12
I have IBS so constipation is familiar :)....I use psyllium every day. you can put it in your yogurt, cereal or shakes. start with a tsp and work your way up to a tbls....works naturally with no chemicals......it does work. Magnesium has been suggest and I also use it....I do have to use only 1/2 a tablet as it can sometimes work too well and in the bathroom more than I would like, but it does work. Once you get the constipation under control the hemorroids should shrink a bit and stop bleeding and the itch should also stop. You can also have them removed. A very simple operation...but no sense getting it done until the cause of it all is under control :)
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Latest post on 31 August 2013 - 22:33
anything containing codeine is usually a prescription so bring the prescription with you. If you have a fever along with that cough you should not fly. A 3 week violent cough points to a few things and blood streeked phlegm is something you should have checked before you fly.
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Latest post on 25 August 2013 - 22:07
can anyone recommend a good mover in a white truck who will take a load from Dubai to abu Dhabi for a good price??? safe and reliable forgot to mention :) thanks.
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Latest post on 20 August 2013 - 07:41
Vancouver rains from mid Nov to mid april..... a much larger chinese pop in Van if you are looking for mandarine. Where is your husband going to be working (or you) that you have Toronto or Van as a choice? are you wanting to become citizens or is one of you already Canadian.? There are other lovely places to live other than toronto or Vancouver..bless there is even country past Ontario ie, Quebec, New Brunswick, Nova Scotia, Prince Edward Island, Newfoundland etc lol....the Maritimes... :)
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Latest post on 15 August 2013 - 00:31
For future information. People CANNOT just drop of stray cats at any open day!!! You have to be registered with the organization, the animals have to have their 1st shots, health checked and if old enough spay/neutered. All the organizations can help you help. They will direct you to the vets they use to help with the discount. If you are 100% sure the cat you are feeding is a stray, ie, have taken it for a chip check, advertised on dubizzle, facebook, lost and found etc to see if anyone has lost it.......THEN you can start the procedure to have the cat adopted!!! that means advertising, sending FB messages and emails t all friends with pictures, registering with rescue organizations. The organization will help you help, that is what they are there for, to help, not take over the animal without any help. If you have a mother with kittens and she is in your yard, she will feed the babies, you can give her water and one meal a day so she continues to bin dive if that is what you want. Or,you can takethe time to socialize the kittens so they are adoptable. Young kittens go fast once they are ready, about 10 weeks....get the female spayed before kittens then you dont have the problem. To say never ever feed stray cats is because you do not have the information on how to do it properly. If you have a cat come into your yard on a regular basis, take an hour or so to take it in for a chip check to make sure it is not lost. There is help our there. Use it but remember, we help you help, we do not take the problem off your hands UNLESS there is room at the inn. A you certainly do not take them to an open day unless you are invited and have made an effort to rehome them yourself....... Feed the cats outside your villa. By a bin if you can, that way they associate the bin with the food and not your house, also not the same time of day nor everyday if youwant them to continue to dive..but always leave water. Remember though, kittens once weaned, cannot dumpster dive. <em>edited by SueB on 15/08/2013</em>
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Latest post on 06 August 2013 - 16:19
Shaks, take some dirt from the plant pot and put it on top of her litter box, see if that works. Also, is it possible to see if her poop is hard and lumpy? if so, Laura could have something there with the constipation....maybe a bit of olive oil in her food? Searching for poop? look in the bottom and back of closets, in dirty laundry on the floor and behind couches lol <em>edited by SueB on 06/08/2013</em>
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Latest post on 06 August 2013 - 16:12
well I would not have her go with him to get groceries. You go and then go for coffee or lunch...time together. Besides, give him a list, he can learn where things are on his own. I suppose you could watch them interact but honestly it could drive you nuts. If her visa is up for renewal then help her find another position and you look for someone else you are more comfortable with. Really, I doubt it is all hormones, there could or could not be something brewing, just be aware. Get more involved with your husband...go for walks at the mall since it is hot...go to a movie. this is the time of your pregnancy where you usually feel great so use this time well :). As for the spa...he can drive and you take a cab home. I always think that when we snipe or try to catch someone doing something be prepared for the consequences. He could just be trying harder to be nicer....
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Latest post on 05 August 2013 - 21:58
laura, would you mind sending Fran my email? thanks :)
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Latest post on 05 August 2013 - 20:44
and it could just be she is not comfortable and never knew it, because the problem never arose. There certainly does not have to be something wrong with the marriage for her to feel this way. I probably would as well if my husband was having long conversations on FB with someone from work and then when he goes away goes out for lunch/dinner. Everyone is not all wonderful with having a partner good friends with the opposite *** so it does not mean there is something wrong :). I do feel though that the OP needs to pull back on the accusations and wait until the poor man comes home before she tries to tell him how she feels!!! sending a letter on FB really is not the way to do it, no wonder he was defensive...
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Latest post on 04 August 2013 - 02:09
at the end of the day, it does not really matter what we think nor our opinions. We also should not castigate those that disagree with our personal opinions because, it is not about us! The OP is very uncomfortable about the situation. There is a reason she is uncomfortable, be it a self esteem issue at the moment, feelings of being threatened, not being part of her husbands life at work, and being in contact with a FB female. I think if this is how she feels or whatever she feels it is valid. She most likely needs to let her husband know about her feelings. If she keeps it about how she feels and does not make him defensive then, she might be able to have him listen :)....from what I read, she is hurt, threatened etc, so tell him your feelings and keep it about your feelings not about the fact you are afraid they might have an affair, because that is what i am getting out of your post. Correct me if I am reading this wrong.
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Latest post on 03 August 2013 - 19:05
Hi Fran, if you want to drop me aline with the details of the kittens and where you live etc I can see what I can do. In Canada at the moment so can[t physically help. Yes, Laura, good idea with the mousse. it will certainly help with the nutrition. If fran can bring the babies inside, get them vet checked, ears checked, dewormed and care instructions that would be perfect :) And pictures Fran ;)
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Latest post on 03 August 2013 - 16:28
Clay beads are small and can be moved easily with her paws. Change to big decorative stones as she will not be able to dig with those, or, put tin foil over the dirt,that has always worked for me :). now you have to address the problem of why she has changed her poop location. Have you changed her litter. Do you use crystal litter? is her poop removed everyday and kept clean. Is she an indoor/outdoor girl and digs in the garden? I would not say there is anything medical wrong as she has just changed her poop location to dirt and not going on the floor :) so I would start with the litter question. You might try scooping a bit of the dirt and putting it in her litter box and see what happens. If that works you might consider getting a more natural litter like sawdust which is very soft (I personally quite like it) anyway, try the big rocks or tinfoil but do put a scoop of the dirt in her litter and see what happens.
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Latest post on 01 August 2013 - 19:12
for your info, Al Bada'a villas do have a facebook page (EK in Al bada'a). Not very active but there are some cat people on there that also might help. If you want to rehome these babies make sure you do alot of handling of them. The vet is right, they have to be 1kg before shots. They can be dewormed though. Is there a way you could take them into the house? you might try Energetic Panacea as well to board them. Put the notice on The Bin Kitty Collective on FB. Laura is a good person to have stepping in :) <em>edited by SueB on 01/08/2013</em>
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Latest post on 29 July 2013 - 06:29
your breast milk will only be as nutritious as the foods you eat. If you want to continue to breastfeed then you also must make sure your own diet is 100% nutritionally sound for your child. If your child is getting all his nutrients from the whole clean foods he eats then breast milk in later years becomes more an emotional latch for both mother and child :) It has also been proven that humans do not need milk after breast feeding :)....so, who are we really to believe?
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Latest post on 28 July 2013 - 02:53
maybe looking at it from the companion animals point of view? If you were going for 2 months I would say make the arrangments and go for it. 2 weeks? nope, not unless you were travelling by train boat or car. Travelling is very stressful on animals and 2 weeks...gosh, find a friend to love him for 2 weeks or a great kennel. Yes, it is great that there is forest and trees and he would love it, but the stress of him is not worth it. So, I would vote no, leave the dog here and enjoy your time.
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Latest post on 24 July 2013 - 16:43
Hi Stardust, any luck?
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Latest post on 23 July 2013 - 00:44
I contacted a friend last night to contact the people who my husband said had the dog. Apparently the woman released the dog as she said she had not seen it since yesterday!!!!!!!!!!!!!! spoke with my husband this morning and he was going to find out what happened. My friend also thinks the dog could belong to someone named Gillian? on the street behind you? She said she has seen the dog loose before. She has called them but has been no answer ....she is keeping her eyes open :(..will update or drop over to our house and talk to Dunc :) poor dog, hope he is ok.
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Latest post on 21 July 2013 - 23:02
most likely not if it is a street cat.
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Latest post on 21 July 2013 - 21:33
I think you could Shelly :).....as of yesterday he was an orphan. I will ask my husband to call the neighbour and find out what is happend to the old fella :) thanks :)
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Latest post on 21 July 2013 - 21:31
if the gardener us sponsored by a gardening company then yes you can. My gardener started his own company and now employes 4 gardeners who he sponsors. Costs quite a bit of money for him to do this but has paid off for him. So, if you are not sure, ask
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Latest post on 12 July 2013 - 01:46
This will probably restart the discussion we had a month ago, when a maid did the same. Just give it to the poor guy. Be the better person, it is Ramadan. Shaking my head in confusion. He walks in the house without knocking or ringing the bell. He asks for an extra months salary because it is Ramaden and she should be the better person and give it too him? seriously? I give to the charities I choose, if they call me or come to the door, chances are they get nothing. She should not feel guilted into giving, as then it is not true giving but given grudgingly....if she chooses to give then fine but I would sure tell him that he must ring the bell and not enter without permission!!!!!
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Latest post on 03 July 2013 - 03:57
after babies breakfast, diaper changing, powdered and happy. Best time for your shower. Baby in the bathroom with you with bath toys on the floor. Sometimes mine would want to set in so he sat at the end of the tub while I showered. We managed. Out of shower, took 4 min to put on makeup (was younger then lol) clean clothes, hair up in a gibson or high pony, clean clothes. All this took about 1/2 hr and the baby was fine :)..often he would fall asleep on a pillow I brought in.... It is really about organization, knowing the best time to take time but know your baby will most likely be in the bathroom and that usually works out quite well :0
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Latest post on 02 July 2013 - 01:44
then if they are going that far. I would suggest it is in the families interest to have the maid actually living in the bedroom upstairs with the family so they can make sure she does not sneak out in the middle of the night. That aside, the question was is it law. I dont think it is law but encouraged so they don't go off and have s*x with the driver or gardener etc. seriously.
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Latest post on 02 July 2013 - 01:40
by the time the parent resorts to hitting a child, they themselves have lost control. It is the parent at this point that should be stepping back and leaving the room. Many children have been beaten for the simple reason the parent did not step back. Hitting a child should never be necessary. They are much smaller than you are and I would bet you tell your kids not to pick on the smaller kids...ergo
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Latest post on 01 July 2013 - 21:35
I have just been reading through other threads with live out maids and I dont think you do need permission, I have a feeling this is a 'soft' law, or not one actually not on the books. Again, don't quote me lol.... I find a lot of stuff is 'hearsay' from one to another but with nothing to substantiate it. Lived here for 10 year and I have yet to have someone back up with a link to the actual law. So, does it exist?????? other than the newspaper writing and quoting the police or government (then you find out it is a 'soft' law, or a law in progress or one finally passed) we have no idea of knowing unless we can actually see it ourselves and that will not happen :)
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Latest post on 01 July 2013 - 20:52
I could very well be wrong but if I remember correctly you have to get permission for a maid to live out and her salary must include her live out rent but not food as she will eat at work. As I said, I could be wrong :)
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Latest post on 01 July 2013 - 19:38
there is a actually no law that says a maid cannot have a sleep over at a friends. If there is one, it is certainly hidden very very deep and if there was one, I am pretty sure that the government would make sure the sponsors know about it. It is illegal to have s*x outside marriage, that we know. So, if you are pretty sure your maid is staying over night with the boyfriend I am sure i would not be comfortable with that but....if she got pregnant or found out, you would not be fined but responsible for sending her home or any medical issues that arise from her actions before she is able to leave, after a possible prision sentence if it is found out she is pregnant by the authorities. As far as i can find (and I have sure looked for a very long time) the sponsor is heavily fined if her maid works for someone else, that is illegal. That is a law that appears on the books. I have not been able to find out any laws relating to the maid staying out. If there is one...please post it here because it has been a bone of contention on expatwoman for a long time. Since it is legal to sponsor a maid but have her live out (that is legal) and she is responsible for her own actions but it is still illegal for her to work outside her sponsorship, what is the difference on your maid having a sleep over with friends???
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Latest post on 28 June 2013 - 02:23
any luck yet Yellowtail?
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Latest post on 28 June 2013 - 02:20
just a thought. When she comes back and if she comes back to you ask for her passport. You will know if it is new or not. Then let her go, honestly,it is not a good situation as she has just started with you..
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Latest post on 27 June 2013 - 22:37
sounds like lots of emails back and forth and no satisfaction. Have you actually walked into the school to meet wth admin to get something done?
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Latest post on 27 June 2013 - 05:13
I was actually a Dr. Spock mum :)...for a time, in the beginning. Then I discovered Dr. Barbara Coleroso http://www.kidsareworthit.com/ I sat and watched her show on PBS (Canadian and American know what that is :) and said to myself, 'my God, that makes total sense lol".....anyway, there was no sleep schedules (baby sleeps, you sleep, baby wakes, you wake..simple) no big conversations (you don't want to wear a warm coat and it is 40 below out there...ok.....then of course within 2 minutes the kid was back looking for warm clothes) or, you don't want to go to bed, alright then, which pajamas would you like to wear? pink or purple and which book would you like, winnie or egor?) anyway, my point is, common sense and a bit of direction to the child. Put the boundries,no lengthly conversations until they can actually comprehend what you are saying!!! and know there are consequenses. One day, my son bite me. Ok, I said, no. over the next week he bit a few times until I...wait for it...bite him back!!!! I did not hurt him but he was shocked that I did to him what he did to me. We both sat there for a minute and looked at each other....he said 'hurt' I said yes and he never bite me again, ever. common Sense in raising your children. Most time you can reason with age appropriate sentences but sometimes, you have to do dinner, laundry, company coming and a big fat NO will suffice. Your children with thrive on love, caring and understanding, giving them time to be heard, lots of hugs, wiping noses and tears and hoping it all works. And it does. :) Do not remove your affection or love from a child even for a second, that is not a way to teach a thing, it teaches abandonment and you do not want that. Throw away the books, love your child and make sure your expectations are in line with what he/she is capable of doing.
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Latest post on 26 June 2013 - 00:44
why do you make him say sorry and kissie? does he understand why and is he sorry or is he just saying he is sorry because you are telling him? How much does an 18month old understand? certainly not a whole string of words that will make him feel bad and...he most likely does not fully understand why you are withdrawing your affection. You could just use the word firmly 'NO' and the 3ed time he goes to the time out area. No conversation just no. I do not see how this will distroy a childs confidence but it will certainly tell him that what he did is not on. anyway, just my thoughts that sometime we give our kids alot more credit than they are capable of understanding, and not every child responds to this kind of parenting. this is a very interesting read and might help? http://www.ahaparenting.com/parenting-tools/attachment-parenting/Pros-and-cons <em>edited by SueB on 26/06/2013</em>
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Latest post on 24 June 2013 - 14:44
The average for the beginning of Adolescence and puberty is 10 to 11. I started my period at 11 and got my first training bra at 11 (didnt need it) my mom took me shopping to the bra store, (I must have asked her for one) and we picked out a white training bra and panties. I was so excited when I got home I put it on and modeled it for my dad. My dad was so embarrassed lol, I was not though.... When I got my period I had no idea what it was, honestly, no one talked about it, when my mom told me I thought it was cool!!! my mom and sister rallied around, got supplies, showed me how to use them (belts and pads in those old days lol) what to buy at the store (mom went with me the first time) and it was no big deal, a bit of a celebration and excitment but nothing to be ashamed of..... btw, I borrowed my dad's razor at 12 and shaved my own legs. No one admitted knowing but I am sure my dad was ticked at me using his razor lol.... Anyway, my point is, not every girl is the same. Adolecence can be early or late. Girls should not feel ashamed of their bodies but celebrate it....they are going to change whether we like it or not and if it makes one shy girl feel better wearing something that resembles a bra I am sure she is not going to dive into debauchery and turn into a s.x crazed teen. Just my thought having been there.
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Latest post on 24 June 2013 - 14:35
the Dr. at gulf is a woman so hopefully it will be better :). There is not alot of touching going on at the eye Dr. :)..... I got my first pair of glasses at 3...hard to keep them on at that age but if she is squinting at the t.v. better to get it checked :)
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Latest post on 24 June 2013 - 03:03
Right LT!!!! Boobie Fairy will be throwing a party...bring your bra!!!!! then mummies we have to have the 'becoming a woman' celebration!!! yes you do. You can just whisper about it and hope it is not happening but, You need to celebrate this huge part of your daughters life whether it is with the woman in your family who bring gifts or take her out to dinner or something sort of adult, certainly not Disneyland lol.... anyway, celebrate these passages of your daughter and embrace them :) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Menarche