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Sukhi

Sukhi
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Latest post on 03 March 2017 - 10:15
Its pretty common a behaviour amongst many nannies especially when they feel they are royalty with all that experience and that they ''know it all '' , and want to be treated like one ! she would have some adjustment issues ( you wont know how she was treated or what was expected from her in her previous house ) but you have to make it 100 % clear to her that she follows the rules that you set. You need to set the limit line - hitting, yelling , ignoring, safety negligence ... is a no- no absolutely . if she is doing that , she needs to go back right away ! most other things can be worked out ,...,its a big task but if she is adding the convenience of you getting more organised with your things , you will need to work on those things .
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Latest post on 24 June 2016 - 19:55
Hello Again Ladies ! posting this for more advice again ... So , after all that drama , the latest is that my maid finally agreed to stay with us till the end of the contract , that when we told that she will be sent to her home country right away . She tried to bargain with us , for some time in the country to search for a new job , which we refused ... ( obvious reasons ! ..if she doesn't want to work with us , she leaves ..doesn't she ? ) and she didnt want to go back ! .... so she agreed to stay back and work with us till she finishes her contract. it took us by surprise , but as I remember from prev experience that the kids don't take well to changing nannies , and we didn't want the kids to be unsettled at the beginning of the new school year . so we agreed to let her stay back . now , the thing is she will be left in my house for a good two months for summers , when me and my kids will be out for vacation while my husband stays back as he cant have a big leave as this , .. and I am not able to judge if I should let her stay back in my house , or send her off to someone we know , given the uncomfortable situation we have had with her in the past few months...! ... please give your suggestions ! :( ... I do feel so unsettled myself after all this drama and seem to really have lost trust in my own judgements :((
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Latest post on 24 June 2016 - 19:30
hello Paggy , is she going to be staying all by herself or will there be someone e.g. your husband for whom she will have to cook n clean etc ? if so , I don't think you should cut her salary as she is still looking after the house even if the work is much less. guess such things are best discussed at the beginning of the contract !
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Latest post on 25 May 2016 - 21:35
She still has 6 months left on her contract. Of the 6 months that she was with us , we were on short trips to our home country atleast twice , accounting to a total of 1.5 months of no work . we didn't take her with us as these were short trips and she happily agreed to stay back as well. I had spoken to her reference earlier where they said she would always be taken out with them ... I just feel from the whole experience that I didn't judge her well as I was so desperate for some help when I hired her ... but cant understand what else could have kept her back too ... ! Thanks for all the replies....I do plan to speak to her one last time but not hopeful ..!:(
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Latest post on 24 May 2016 - 18:47
she said she would like to look for another job , however I do doubt that she has already found one ...what would otherwise motivate her so much ? also , is it normal practise to take the nannies along with you when on a long holiday ? we were planning to take her along to our home country for the summers .... that was one of the things she had resisted to ... infact she resists coming out with us anytime even if we need the help with the kids and we accommodated that as well .... do they basically get that choice ?
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Latest post on 24 May 2016 - 14:53
Hello Horizon Mum , thanks for the reply... yes all of the points that have been mentioned were taken care of . the thing is when she doesn't agree to open up to what was the issue , we have no clue as to what is the exact reason. we tried from our end to figure out all that we could ... she has the wifi , salary discussed , days off given , health issues tried to explain how it affects her as well as us , tried talking to her across the table , , she has never been questioned about why a particular task hasn't been done , except on rare occasions , where they were definitely needed to be done and weren't done , spoken to her relatives through whose reference she came in ( who also have given up convincing her btw )...nothing has worked. sure , I have some discipline and daily / weekly routine set in the house which she is expected to follow , but isn't that everywhere ? We have always encouraged her to talk to us , told the relatives to let us know in case she has issues , we just got this final blow of her wanting to quit ! Surely we cant force her to stay , but makes me wonder what is it with them that makes them so adamant !
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Latest post on 23 May 2016 - 22:43
Either she finishes her contract with you or you send her home with a one-year ban. She can't just quit like that.... Hey Anon , thanks for your reply ... but is a ban possible ? I heard it cud be lifted off easily these days as well . as much as I don't want to be harsh but her behaviour lately has hit my nerve !
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Latest post on 23 May 2016 - 18:24
Hello Ladies ! Not sure if its appropriate to post it here , but need some advice over what I have been experiencing with the nepali maids I have hired here in Dubai . The latest one , was brought in on her own terms , with the salary she demanded ( which is perhaps even on the higher side than the usual rates of Nepalis ) she has her day off every weekend , after finding out that she has a pre existing medical condition , we got a medical insurance for her .. and we get her checked and medicated regularly. Kids are at school / nursery for more than half the day and she is mainly required to clean and cook , and if need be play with the kids for about an hour a day . i prefer to do everything else for the kids myself as I am home with them after their school. She has been working earlier in Dubai for 4 years with one family . she is good at work and if she decides to , is good with kids too and we felt all was well , until one fine day she lets us know that she wanted to quit . we tried talking to her in every possible way but she seems adamant and does not even tell us the reason . I have had troubles finding a really compatible nanny / maid for our house and have endured quite a bit over this issue. After this latest one came in , we thought we were settled but it kind of plays on my confidence now to know that inspite of all the facilities I can possibly provide her , she still wants to quit ... This has now irked me so much to know that apart from the monetary loss that we will be bearing , the house will be unsettled , kids will keep asking , my work will suffer and after all this , she gets to make her choice and goes scott free for cheating us !! is there anyone who has had similar experiences or can advice me on how to handle this ?
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Latest post on 25 January 2016 - 22:11
thank you Anon !
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Latest post on 24 January 2016 - 20:36
Dear Ladies , I will be requiring to take my maid to a dentist for severe toothache which will perhaps need treatments like abscess removal and root canal. We have an insurance for her , which unfortunately does not cover dentistry! Knowing how sky high the dentist treatments here could be , can anyone with a similar situation suggest whom could I take her to ? I am looking for a reasonable yet good dentist :( ! Thanks in advance ..
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Latest post on 06 November 2015 - 10:59
Thank you ! I had a look at the football centre website ... any idea about how the coaches are ? of course we are not looking at pro level at this stage but surely something well structured with correct techniques .
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Latest post on 16 October 2015 - 12:40
Hello Ladies ! My little girl is turning two this weekend... I know its a bit late to start planning now , so need some quick easy to implement ideas for a small bday celebration. We thought of just hosting a small party with selected friends at home , second option , in a park with whoever visits us , in addition to her usual friends .. I am not able to think of ideas to make it look like a celebration , like some games / activities for the kids between 2-4 years.. Please suggest some ideas .. TIA !
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Latest post on 18 August 2015 - 10:19
Hi, I cant give a qualified opinion, nor review. However, always when I walk by, I find their "health and safety" measures quite scary. The surrounding partition/enclosure wall sits on bars, which are very inviting for injuries (no proper cover, leave alone cushioning). They just cut the "fake grass" that it matches ... but the wooden corners are visible. This indicates to me a general problem with "awareness". No good advertising, at all, esp since it is like this since they opened. Thanks Klatom that's pretty helpful , especially when I had some of my personal observations too regarding cleanliness and staff attitude , when I dropped her off for a couple of hours on a couple of occasions to see if she settles in . she did seem to settle in and I spoke with the parents who came to pick up / drop off , all of whom seemed pretty happy with the nursery , which confused me . was considering it as it is so close by to where I live and flexible with timings ..but I think I am going to rethink !
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Latest post on 14 March 2015 - 07:47
thanks for all those suggestions ! We landed up going to the Traders vic bar and then went out to have a quieter dinner by the canal - was good as finally got to spend some quality time together after long - not since kids were born !!! :)))
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Latest post on 10 March 2015 - 20:54
thank you ladies for the suggestions , will look them up . Trader's vic sounded like a nice place but when I called , the lady said its only at the bar that just SOME dancing may happen ...wonder what''s it like there ?
 
 
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