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Latest post on 15 December 2011 - 10:26

But if I do end up using formula, then I would have to sterilize? ... I would say yes if you use formula. Breastmilk has properties that are antibacterial and naturally sterilize. Formula can have bacteria in it and is a bit more risky when used so you'd want to sterilize if you used formula. If you would only rarely be needing to sterilize you can just boil the parts instead of buying a machine.

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Latest post on 14 December 2011 - 22:18

Hi haven't found anything here that I would really trust. We bought ours from Carseat.se. They have extended rear facing seats and with the risk of road accidents here (one of the highest in the world - as I'm sure we all can tell) I plan to keep my daughter rear facing until at least 4. It is just so, so much safer. If you go to Carseat.se they have loads of information on how to choose a seat and what to look for. To be honest I would do that or go with the option of having your SIL bring one over. I just don't see anything here that is all that great. Hope that helps. (ps. we're due in March also. :))

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Latest post on 12 December 2011 - 21:28

Thanx a lot for ur help sweet lily , great to see so many helpful ppl, will try the consultants as was js about ready to give up on breastfeeding due to the issues am facing. Oh mama. You'll get there. Don't give up. Breastfeeding can be so stinking difficult sometimes. Keep troubleshooting and seek out that support. It is so important to have a huge support network when your are nursing. Do you go to the Le Leche League meetings? There is one this Saturday (the 17th) at the Organics Cafe in the Dubai Mall. I think at 10.30. It might be great for you to go (husbands are invited too:)) and just hang out with other nursing mamas. It really is a morale booster and can really help to have that support when going through tough times like you are now. Here's their Facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/groups/lll.uae/ Hope that helps. xx

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Latest post on 12 December 2011 - 21:05

Ugh. Blebs are awful. I feel for you, mama. BFC gave some great links. I hope it clears up soon! xx

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Latest post on 12 December 2011 - 21:03

I have a very overactive let down and laid back nursing was great for helping my daughter to cope with it. She would take in so much air and gag and choke when she would try to keep up with it until she was about 3 months or so. Laid back nursing just let gravity help ease the let down and put my daughter above the breast so that it was easier for her to control it. Maybe it will help you also? http://www.biologicalnurturing.com/video/bn3clip.html

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Latest post on 12 December 2011 - 20:58

Hugs to you, Enigma1979. You need support, mama! You'll need it for both the GERD and the supply issues. It isn't too late to establish a great nursing relationship and help him through his uneasiness so go ahead and contact a IBCLC asap. They are so, so helpful. I've attached a list of support options. I would also start the hunt for a GP or paed that I like and trust. Maybe someone can give you some options on who they use. I'm in Al Ain so can't be of too much help if you're in AD or Dubai. Hope this helps. x DUBAI Dru Campbell, midwife and IBCLC Joanne Francis, midwife and IBCLC (also home visits) Baby Clinic and Midwifery Clinic, Health Bay Polyclinic Tel: 04 348 7140 Paula Miller, IBCLC (clinic appts and home visits) Tel: 050 6501189 Dr Delphine Dupuis, family doctor (special interest pediatrics, lactation and women’s health) and IBCLC Sun and Wed am MediCentres, Motor City Tel: 04 360 8866 Other days Symbiosis Healthcare, Healthcare City Tel 04 3624955. SHARJAH Maternal and Child Health Center (*free*) Tel: 06-5245477 (call and ask for an appt in the lactation clinic) ABU DHABI Caroline Roberts, midwife and IBCLC Swedish Medical Centre Tel: 02 681 1122 Mobile: 055 686 0210 2. Telephone helplines (free) Breastfeeding Friends (7 days/week, 10am-10pm) English Support Line: 050 – 8684417 Arabic Support Line: 050 – 5679525 Urdu Support Line: 050 – 9819270 Association of Breastfeeding Mothers Counsellor (7 days/week, 5:30pm-9pm) English Support Line 050-4705577 Home visits in Fujairah only.

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Latest post on 12 December 2011 - 20:52

My pleasure. The more information us mamas spread about positive, normal birth and the more we inform each other about our birth options the more we can change the damaging birth culture that surrounds us now. :)

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Latest post on 12 December 2011 - 12:50

Thanks Ladies!! Need to check with my DR for the best possible outcome. I guess a lot would depend on our body structure as well. Nonetheless, thanks for sharing all your insights. ANC - Dr Janaki in Welcare is pretty well known. Hope you have a better experience this time round. Good luck and keep us updated :) Hi Helping Hand. I'm a VBAC mama also, as well as a medical professional and doula. I'll go ahead and toss out some information that I found useful to prepare for my VBAC. http://www.ican-online.org/vbac/home http://www.vbac.com/ http://www.vbac.com/making-informed-decisions-about-vbac-or-repeat-cesareans/ http://caesarean.org.uk/presentations/NaturalBirthAfterCaesarean.html http://www.vbac.com/increasing-your-odds-for-a-vbac-before-and-during-labor/ http://www.theunnecesarean.com/ The more sections you have the more risk you face in childbirth. It is very much recommended through lots and lots of research that a VBAC is a safe option for mothers. It is just as safe to have a VBAC after one section as it is to give birth for the first time. Research very clearly shows that the vast majority of mothers who labour after a section go on to have a safe and normal birth. From http://www.childbirthconnection.org/article.asp?ck=10210 (a fantastic website) "If you do not have a clear and compelling need for a cesarean in the present pregnancy, having a VBAC rather than a repeat c-section is likely to be: safer for you in this pregnancy, far safer for you and your babies in any future pregnancies." If I understand your post right (an induction that led to a section) it sounds like your body was doing exactly what it should have been doing for your first birth. It is most often the interventions from the medical team that causes delays in labour, 'failure to progress', fetal distress and need for section. The more undisturbed a birth is, the more a mother can let her body do what it is designed to do, the more wonderful, successful and enjoyable (yes, enjoyable :)) a birth will be. Bodies aren't made to be induced and they often fight it which leads to distress in both mother and baby. When you are induced all your natural, wonderful birthy hormones are blocked and things just can't work as well as they are meant to. I was also an induced mama for my first pregnancy that lead to a whole cascade of interventions and eventually to an 'emergency' section. Not because of my failure in any way (or my baby's failure) but because of the hospital's failure to allow me to birth normally. I walked away from that birth traumatized and with PTSD. At the time I thought that the hospital was working for me and my baby's best interests -- I know that now that isn't always the case. You can only make the best decisions with the information that you have at the time. I've since forgiven myself for my ignorance the first time around but I swore that I would never walk away from another birth feeling powerless and afraid. In your last post you talk about body structure. It is very, very rare that a body will build a baby it can't birth. You are designed to birth and you are designed wonderfully. Trust that. :) "Dystocia refers to a long and difficult labor due to slow cervical dilation, a small pelvis, or a big baby. Many women who are given this reason for previous cesareans, deliver vaginally the next time, and give birth to a bigger baby than the first! ACOG states that the effects [or difficulties'> of labor with a baby more than 8 ¾ lbs have not been substantiated. There is not evidence that a big baby necessitates a cesarean. The pelvis and the baby's head are not rigid structures and both mold and change shape to allow for birth. During labor there are certain positions that a woman can use to help open up the pelvis, allowing a larger baby to move through. For example, squatting opens the outlet of the pelvis by 10%." www.americanpregnancy.org Find a birthing team that you like and trust. That can be a doctor (I have heard good things about Dr. Janaki from other VBAC mamas), a midwife, a partner, a friend and a doula. Research shows that having a doula with you during your birth will provide for better birth outcomes including shorter labour, less intervention and happier babies and parents (we have two for our upcoming birth. Lol). Make sure that you educate yourself and come to terms with your previous birth experience and do your research to come into this experience feeling confident and whole. When are you due? It's short notice but there is a fantastic workshop tomorrow night (Tuesday) called Be Empowered. http://be-empowered.weebly.com/ It is a place where birth professionals get together and chat about your options. It would be a great place to get more info on VBAC options in Dubai. Also, I would say head to a great birthing prep class like Hypnobirthing or Birthing from Within or Fear to Freedom. Something like this will give you (and any mother whether a first time or tenth time mama) information and confidence for your upcoming birth. Your chances of having a successful VBAC will require a calm and trusting environment so that your body will be able to do what it is designed to do. Here is a great blog about 'being a good candidate' for VBAC. http://www.birthactivist.com/2010/07/new-vbac-guideline/ You can have a wonderful VBAC whether or not you had a good labour (or any labour) in your first birth experience. I hope that helps. Feel free to ask away if you want some more information. There are some great books out there also like 'The Silent Knife' and 'The VBAC Companion.' Also, the More Business of Being Born (http://www.thebusinessofbeingborn.com/) covers VBACs. I hope that no matter which way you decide to birth that you walk away from the experience feeling empowered and wonderful. x <em>edited by SweetLily on 12/12/2011</em>

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Latest post on 09 December 2011 - 19:10

Blush and Bloom (started by a mama here in the UAE) have a fantastic line of maternity clothes. I love it. http://www.blushandbloom.com/shop/maternity-clothes-maternity-wear/maternity-dresses-pregnancy-dresses/

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Latest post on 09 December 2011 - 19:08

If your baby is full term and healthy and you are only using breastmilk there is no need to sterilize after each use. Breastmilk contains properties that prevent bacteria from growing. You can boil or sterilize before the first use if you want but after that it's not necessary. Just give it a good wash in hot, soapy water and let dry. http://www.ivillage.com/expressing-breast-milk-sterilization-necessary-breast-pump-parts/6-n-137215

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Latest post on 09 December 2011 - 19:00

Babies when born here are given vitamin K and BCG. You can request not to have the BCG though. You can request not to have the Vit K also (I think Mince said that already) or you can choose to have the vitamin k given orally. If you want to have it orally I would check in advance that the hospital will have it in stock and request that it will be available. There is some good advice on here. Remember, you have full choice over what, if anything, you want to have done to your child at birth. :)

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Latest post on 06 December 2011 - 12:45

I would introduce some acidophilus powders or tablets to her diet. Have her eats lots of live culture yogurts and if it is a bit of thrush you can put a bit of the yogurt (plain, no sugar) right on her vagina. It's a great natural treatment for thrush. You could also use a wash with grapefruitseed oil. That's also a great treatment.

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Latest post on 06 December 2011 - 12:41

I know you have a lot of advice on here. Just thought I'd toss a couple of things out there. Green-ish has some fantastic tips. I would start by changing nappies. I would either use a cloth or more natural disposable like Moltex or something similar. We use cloth during the day but Moltex at night and get them at LuLu's. Organics has them also. Secondly, if you think that it is not a thrush rash I would use breastmilk. It is FANTASTIC for clearing up non-thrush nappy rash. I have never seen anything work as well. If you are not nursing is there someone that you know who is? Maybe you can get expressed milk from a friend? I would be willing to drop over a bag to you if it meant that it would help you out. I would look at baby's diet and also yours (if you are breastfeeding). Has anything changed in the last couple of months? As much nappy free as possible. Maybe try a bit of Elimination Communication - EC- (www.bornready.co.uk or www.diaperfreebaby.com) for a little while and keep her out of nappies totally for a bit (or as much as possible). We've done EC with our daughter since birth and it is great for keeping her bum rash free. Totally agree with the no baths or no wipes with chemicals comments. I would use just a bit of cotton wool and some room temp water, chamomile and a drop of grapefruitseed oil. Grapefruitseed oil is fantastic if it is a thrush infection and will clear it up fairly quickly. Hope that helps. I feel for you and your little bubs. I hope it gets cleared up soon. xx

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Latest post on 29 November 2011 - 15:27

Wonderful! I'm a VBAC mama and know there are others on the board as well. It's fantastic to see a positive, wonderful VBAC story on here. Thanks so much for sharing and congratulations!!

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Latest post on 29 November 2011 - 15:25

Here is a list of International Board Certified Lactation Consultants in the UAE. Hope it helps. DUBAI Dru Campbell, midwife and IBCLC Joanne Francis, midwife and IBCLC (also home visits) Baby Clinic and Midwifery Clinic, Health Bay Polyclinic Tel: 04 348 7140 Paula Miller, IBCLC (clinic appts and home visits) Tel: 050 6501189 Dr Delphine Dupuis, family doctor (special interest pediatrics, lactation and women’s health) and IBCLC Sun and Wed am MediCentres, Motor City Tel: 04 360 8866 Other days Symbiosis Healthcare, Healthcare City Tel 04 3624955. SHARJAH Maternal and Child Health Center (*free*) Tel: 06-5245477 (call and ask for an appt in the lactation clinic) ABU DHABI Caroline Roberts, midwife and IBCLC Swedish Medical Centre Tel: 02 681 1122 Mobile: 055 686 0210

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Latest post on 21 November 2011 - 16:01

Thank you so much for the info! I would love to give birth naturally, because recovery process after c-section is quite painful. I definitely need to make sure there is a good atmosphere and less stress in the hospital. Some hospitals make it even more stressful than you need to be. Hopefully it turns out to be OK. Hypnobirthing sounds very interesting. Stovetop sounds like she's had an encouraging time with Dr. Janaki regarding VBAC so that's great. Pixie2110, Go in knowing what you want and trust your instincts. I hope you have the wonderful and empowering birth that woman deserves. :)

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Latest post on 20 November 2011 - 18:47

Sounds like you've asked your doctor a lot of great questions. :) Regarding the Vit D I would make sure that they have that in stock before you deliver. I would double check with your doctor then when you arrive at the hospital. I would also write all of your birth preferences down covering all stages of labour and then take them to your doctor before you go into labour. Have him/her look them over and sign them and then add them into your notes. Then make copies of those signed ones and take them with you on the day. Just a way to cover all your bases. But with the oral Vit k they don't always have that on hand so just double check that they will have it for you when you will want it.

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Latest post on 19 November 2011 - 14:24

I was just thinking Pixie2011, Have you ever heard of Spincter Law? It's a term coined by Ina May Gaskin. Here's an overview from this link: http://prenatalyogacenter.com/blog/the-sphincter-law-and-childbirth/ "Ina May Gaskin describes the Sphincter Law in the following way: o Sphincter muscles of both anus and vagina do not respond on command. o Sphincter muscles open more easily in a comfortable intimate atmosphere where a woman feels safe. o The muscles are more likely to open if the woman feels positive about herself; where she feels inspired and enjoys the birth process. o Sphincter muscles may suddenly close even if they have already dilated, if the woman feels threatened in any way" If you scroll down the page you will find a link to a video where Ina May talks about Sphincter Law. I found it really helpful. I think it's a great way to view the birthing process for mamas like us who were told in the past that we were unable to birth correctly. I was also told I was failure to progress and it took me a while after the birth (after talking to birth trauma experts, doulas, other mamas) to realise that it wasn't my failures at all but rather the failures of the hospital and medical system. I have also found Hypnobirthing to be really helpful also. There are a couple of great places you can go in Dubai for Hypnobirthing courses. I would say to check it out if it sounds like something that would really work for you. :)

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Latest post on 14 November 2011 - 23:25

Oh, thanks for the info. Very interesting. Well, originally I planned natural birth with my first one, but I failed to dialate. I was only 4 centimeters (even after they tried to induce labor) and then my baby's heartrate would drop to dangerous levels everytime I had a contraction (it was in the US). I wanted to try VBAC with second one and I had problems with labor. I agree that natural birth is better and recovery time is much faster than the c-section. Maybe I will also consult with Dr. Janaki to see what she says about it after she looks into my case. My youngest daughter is 6, so I had plenty of time to heal. edited by Pixie2011 on 14/11/2011 It is totally possible. I'm not sure about Dr. Janaki, I'm in Al Ain, but what hospital is she with? Sometimes doctors don't always give the best advice... they are often more comfortable with interventive births. If you do a bit of research yourself before going in you might have better luck. Like I said, the OBGYN that I visited said that I was 'high risk' as a VBAC mom, but that is not the case at all. Another section would have been far more high risk and the director of nursing at the hospital even said that this OBGYN wasn't correct or following what the evidence said. VBAC after 2 sections is just as safe as having another section. If you want to find more info on that look here: http://blog.ican-online.org/tag/vba2c/ Hope that helps. xx

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Latest post on 14 November 2011 - 21:32

I am 5 months and I have had 2 c-sections with my daughters. This is my third child and I will definitely need c-section this time as well, since it would be risky to do it naturally. Totally understand. I think a mama should birth whichever way she is most comfortable and confident. But all the research shows it is safe to have a vaginal birth after sections, even if you've had two. And totally possible to do it here in the UAE. Don't want to overstep my bounds because I know this isn't what you were posting about in the first place but if you're interested at all here are a few links about VBA2C. If you're not interested please just ignore. :) I'm a VBAC mama myself. http://www.homebirth.org.uk/vba2c.htm http://www.plus-size-pregnancy.org/CSANDVBAC/vbac_after_2_cs.htm http://www.plus-size-pregnancy.org/CSANDVBAC/VBA2Cstories.htm And a birth story: http://www.homebirth.org.uk/bernadette.htm http://www.caesarean.org.uk/articles/ElectiveSection.html

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Latest post on 14 November 2011 - 17:47

I don't have personal experience with OHSS but just wanted to say congratulations on your pregnancy! How well do you know your doctor? Do you trust the doctor? Do you feel like your doctor generally gives you good advice? If so then trust when he/she is saying now. If not maybe go and seek out another opinion. Are you involved with any online groups for people who have used fertility medication? Maybe you can find someone that has been where you are now? Hope that helps a bit. I know it's not much but didn't want to read and run and wanted to say congrats to you on your pregnancy! :)

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Latest post on 14 November 2011 - 17:18

Thank you so much for the reassurance. I definitely feel better. I also have gestational diabetes and need c-section, so this is why. I think I will be OK. I looked at the hospital website and it seems great, just like the ones in the US I have been to. Sorry to jump off topic. How far along are you? You have GD and were told you needed a section?

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Latest post on 11 November 2011 - 10:49

I fly a lot and took a month long trip from the UK to the States from my 33rd through to the start of my 38th week. No problems at all. Spoke with my midwife about it but as long as you have a single, non-complicated pregnancy you should have no problems at all. Like someone below said, wear the ever-so-sexy compression socks and get up and move around a bit. I found it easy to travel so pregnant. It is easy to get rides on those little carts and jump the cue for security. :) Ask for a bulkhead row but I just made sure I sat on an aisle seat and got up quite a bit... which isn't hard with as much as you go to the restroom at that stage anyway. I let my midwife know, took my maternity notes and looked at the hospitals and doctors in the area where I was visiting so I knew where I would want to go should I need to call someone. I also had my midwife's number on hand and so I could easily call her if I had any questions. Also, check with the airline. They will all have different rules for who can fly and when. Although, I had a doctor friend write up a note and the airline never even checked it and I was BIG at that stage. And, as someone said, check your insurance also. Like Kiwispers said, make sure you have a relaxing time on the holiday. Try to do more time in the pool rather than time walking through town squares. But I loved having that last lone holiday with my husband before baby arrived. Hope that helps. <em>edited by SweetLily on 11/11/2011</em>

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Latest post on 07 November 2011 - 20:40

SueB, There is a doula in Dubai that can help. http://www.my-doula.com/about-me/ She is a fantastic and wonderful German speaking doula. <em>edited by SweetLily on 07/11/2011</em>

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Latest post on 07 November 2011 - 20:35

If I may, my advise is give breastfeeding a shot. Nothing can be more beneficial for your baby than taking milk directly from you. My DS was born a little early and was in NICU for 3 days. He was given bottle and could not suck. At 8 weeks now, he's not ready to take the breast and I am not ready to give up. There's not a day that passes by when I don't try feeding for him and keep wishing that someday he might take the breast. Till then its hours with the pump for me :( quote'> Nams new, what you are doing is very selfless and takes so much work and dedication. Your baby is very lucky to have a mama like you. It is possible to get the baby on the breast even at 8 weeks. I am sure you have but have you talked to any of the local supporters or LCs that are on the list on here? Keep it up. It is totally possible for him to take the breast. Have you tried an SNS or at the breast system? <em>edited by SweetLily on 07/11/2011</em>

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Latest post on 06 November 2011 - 23:02

Has anyone delivered and received antenatal care at Corniche hospital with ADNIC insurance? What was the procedure? How much did you have to pay out of pocket and how long did it take to get the money back from ADNIC? Any advice would be very much appreciated. Thanks!

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Latest post on 06 November 2011 - 22:59

Hey there, KTS. Ok. There is no reason why you and your little baby won't have a wonderful nursing experience. I would say that all the worries that you're talking about can be overcome. As far as nursing in public, it is possible that once you start nursing you will feel a lot more comfortable with nursing in public. It is very much accepted here and as a breastfeeding supporter I have talked to lots of moms and none have ever had a problem nursing in public. That said, some women are just not comfortable. You can use a cover very easily. There are lots of very cute nursing covers out there. When you're at home you can ask people to leave the room if you want or can cover up with a blanket. There are really a lot of options with covering so it is totally possible to nurse in front of other people and they wouldn't even notice you were doing it. There are so many other ways for your husband to bond with the baby. He can bath the baby or wear the baby in the sling. He can hold the baby as you nurse her or can very much cater to you as you nurse by getting you water, snacks, etc. He can read to the baby as she nurses. Very clear research has shown that fathers or exclusively breast fed babies can bond just as much as bottle fed babies. It is possible to exclusively pump your milk, even from day one. But this is a lot of work and you are right about it being very possible that the baby then only wanting the bottle once he or she is used to it. Exclusive pumping takes a lot of dedication. It is twice as much work and requires twice as much time. Rather than just relaxing and feeding the baby you must prepare your pump, take the time to pump, clean the pump, clean the bottles, prepare the bottles and then feed baby. It is also not as effective at keeping your supply up since baby is much better at getting the milk out than the pump will be. Simply put, if you nurse from the breast and on demand from the get go your chances of having a sucessful nursing relationship is far, far higher. A breastfed baby needs nothing but breastmilk for at least 6 months. No water, no juice, no cereal, nothing. You do not need to give the baby water. The people who said that to you are misinformed. My advice to you is to visit your local Le Leche League leader before the birth. They will meet with you for free and have fantastic information and will be able to give wonderful support after the birth also. http://www.llli.org/uae.html There is another wonderful group called Breastfeeding Q&A UAE. They have trained women who are able to talk through all of your concerns: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Breastfeeding-QA-UAE/150974098253197 Unfortunately breastfeeding isn't natural in our Western culture anymore. It is something that must be learned. The best thing you can do to ensure a great nursing relationship is to get great support BEFORE the birth. Once the baby arrives you will already have people in place that you can call when you need any advice, which most mothers do. I hope that helps. I feel you on being stressed about nursing. There is a lot of information and a lot of horror stories out there but it is totally possible to have a wonderful and fantastic experience with the right support in place. Hugs to you (and congrats on the upcoming baby!!).

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Latest post on 06 November 2011 - 09:19

I know this sounds very silly, but I wondered if anyone could give me an idea of the way it will work - do you have your own room throughout? Is there ensuite? Can my husband stay with me - or will he need to head home every night? will there be a team of midwifes, with my doctor arriving at the last minute to deliver (I plan for natural birth, fingers crossed!) Do you think they'll be happy with my birth plan to have epidural on arrival? (I know this isn't always granted in the UK) and whether I may be allowed to lie in the bath in the bathroom (if ensuites exist) for a while during labour - something I have read is really beneficial? Will baby stay with me in room after birth? (assuming he/she is doing well). You won't be allowed to use the bath and have an epidural. Once you have an epidural you will need to be placed on a CTG and constantly monitored meaning that you'll have to be on your back on the bed. If you waited for the epidural (or didn't get one) you would be able to move around, use the bath, etc. Have you thought about using a doula? Their advice and experience are fantastic for any mum but especially for ones who are far from home. There are loads in Dubai if you google it.

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Latest post on 06 November 2011 - 09:15

I just have to say that I love this thread. It is so refreshing to read the majority of comments foucsed on EBF, 'extended' nursing to two and waiting until at least 6 months for solids. I have to totally agree with the doctor comments. I am a lactation educator and have found nothing but dissapointment and frustration when I talk to doctors or 'LCs' or hear the stories from women that I support. I agree that Breastfeeding Q&A offers fantastic and much needed support in the UAE! They have a document on their page that has a list of breastfeeding supporters, IBLCs and resources here that is great also. :)

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Latest post on 04 November 2011 - 10:32

Just like everyone else said, totally normal. Breastmilk has everything she needs in it and her body is able to use it all up so sometimes there isn't any waste left, if that makes sense. Like others said, EBF babies can go a few days without a poo. :)

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Latest post on 31 October 2011 - 21:06

I feel like I post this link all the time. I swear that I don't work for them. Lol. We got our seat through Carseat.se. It's a fantastic site that carries extended rear facing seats. Like Kiwispers said, rearfacing is far, far safer than forward facing and that link she gave gives some fantastic information. Carseat.se delivered our seat within a week and we love it. It is one of the very few seats that we can keep her rearfacing up to 25 kg and it is light weight and thin so we can very easily take it and use it on the plane when we travel. (Some airlines require you to have your own car seat when you have a child under 2 in their own seat.) Hope that helps.

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Latest post on 29 October 2011 - 10:57

If she doesn't seem to tolerate the cows milk at all, goats milk is a great alternative. That's what my daughter drinks. She loves it and it is much easier for her little tummy to break down than cows milk. Just an FYI. :) I have read that camel's milk is the same, also. If you want to try that too. <em>edited by SweetLily on 29/10/2011</em>

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Latest post on 29 October 2011 - 10:54

There are very few car seats that go up to 25kg. I think only 2 in the world. But Britax do one. We have the Britax Hi-way 2 and bought it though Carseat.se. They are in Sweden and had the seat to us within a week. The guy who owns the shop is really helpful also. So, if you have any questions about anything just give him a call. We chose the Britax Hi-way 2 because it is small and light enough to fit on the plane also (in a seat or to check in) and it can be rearfacing up to 25kg. http://www.carseat.se/store.html We haven't found anything rear facing much past a year here. So I think this site is the way to go. Hope that helps.

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Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 16:12

I am friends with the lead midwife, who has recently relocated overseas. It is my understanding that the policies and rules are in place to support natural, intervention free births (including waterbirths) but it hasn't really been the practice so far. From the 11 or 12 births that have been there, I'm not sure if there has been a waterbirth yet, and many of the births have been interventive with 3 or 4 ending in a section. That said, I am due in March and am booked into there. I wouldn't be doing it, though, without a doula because I am a VBAC mama and am determined to have a natural water birth. I think it's the same as anywhere else at this point but the way that I saw it is that if I make sure that I do all that I can on my end (make sure that I like the OBGYN I choose, hire a doula, create my birth preferences and get them to read them), at least there is the possibility of having a waterbirth there. I should have added that they are hopeful. Some of the midwives are great and they've had some great births there and they are working on training all of the midwives to the same standard of care ie: skin to skin, low lighting, delayed cord clamping. I think it will take time but I think that they will get there eventually. The policies are there.

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Latest post on 26 October 2011 - 15:23

SweetLily replied : Just to let you know, Doulas are now no longer allowed to be in the labour room at City Hospital so if you want a doula you will need to go to another hospital.... as far as I know there are no issues with having doulas anywhere else and many OB's see the benefits of having one, especially during labour. I was told that a doula did a vaginal examination on a lady in labour . This is so scary ! Does anybody has more information ?! I am 28 weeKs pregnant with my follow up done at City Hospital and so disapointed if I have to deliver there without a doula ... I heard this too. So dissapointing. I'm not sure who she was but if you get a certified doula (with DONA or Nurturing Birth for example) we follow pretty strict codes of conduct that very clearly state the doula gives no medical assistance. If you do want a doula make sure to check her background and go for a certified doula or doula who is working on her certification with one of these groups. As far as I know the ban is for good for right now. It seems that if you do want to a doula with you at the birth you might have to switch hospitals, unfortunately. Maybe someone else has some ideas? Do you have a doula already? I would talk to your local Dubai doulas to see what their ideas might be for you. They have a much better idea on what the exact situation is that I do over here in Al Ain and would be more up to speed. x

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Latest post on 24 October 2011 - 17:00

Just to let you know, Doulas are now no longer allowed to be in the labour room at City Hospital so if you want a doula you will need to go to another hospital.... as far as I know there are no issues with having doulas anywhere else and many OB's see the benefits of having one, especially during labour. I just heard that a couple of days ago, NZ2AD. That is so, so dissapointing.

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Latest post on 24 October 2011 - 16:53

I am friends with the lead midwife, who has recently relocated overseas. It is my understanding that the policies and rules are in place to support natural, intervention free births (including waterbirths) but it hasn't really been the practice so far. From the 11 or 12 births that have been there, I'm not sure if there has been a waterbirth yet, and many of the births have been interventive with 3 or 4 ending in a section. That said, I am due in March and am booked into there. I wouldn't be doing it, though, without a doula because I am a VBAC mama and am determined to have a natural water birth. I think it's the same as anywhere else at this point but the way that I saw it is that if I make sure that I do all that I can on my end (make sure that I like the OBGYN I choose, hire a doula, create my birth preferences and get them to read them), at least there is the possibility of having a waterbirth there.

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Latest post on 23 October 2011 - 20:07

Totally agree, Kiwispiers. It's more important to watch the curve than anything else. I didn't realise that you posted the same link. I am an epidemiologist and work in international public health and health research and know that there has been a lot of discussion of removing the charts all together. They don't often tell us too much. So, no matter where your baby is on the chart, if you feel that he or she is healthy, hitting milestones and is contented and happy then everything is most likely perfectly ok.

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Latest post on 23 October 2011 - 20:02

I am, but I recommended them and used them before I became trained. They really are a wonderful addition to your birthing team. :)

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Latest post on 23 October 2011 - 16:28

You can contact local doulas (lots in Dubai, AD and Al Ain) and they can provide invaluable support for whatever type of birth that you want. They are also really familiar with all of the hospitals and doctors. I am due to give birth in March, I am a VBAC mama and want a natural birth so have a doula all lined up. Research has shown that mothers who use doulas have decreased caesearean rates, shorter labour and are overall happier with their births. :)

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Latest post on 23 October 2011 - 16:12

Nope. Not overweight. Just heavier than 97% of people from her age group. I don't think doctors really worry until they are way, way off the chart. :) Is she breastfed? The chart is only appropriate for breastfed babies. If she is, it sounds like you got yourself a booby monster there. Lol.

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Latest post on 23 October 2011 - 16:07

Lots and lots of successful VBAC stories out there and lots from the UAE (although it's a bit harder here because it is a very medical system). I am a VBAC mama. I'm pregnant with my second baby due in March. My daughter is 13 months and I got pregnant at 8 months. My midwife (from the UK) didn't say anything about waiting a year. There are some great books out there like 'the Silent Knife' and the 'VBAC Companion'. Best way to ensure your chances of a successful VBAC here, and anywhere really, is to hire a doula. <em>edited by SweetLily on 05/02/2014</em>

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Latest post on 23 October 2011 - 15:58

The Al Ain nursing mamas group is great. They are on Facebook. It's run by two doulas and breastfeeding supporters.

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Latest post on 23 October 2011 - 15:56

Is she formula or breastfed? A lot of doctors use a formula fed growth chart for all babies. Breastfed babies tend to gain weight and height a bit differently and can often seem to be 'underweight'. Here is the WHO chart for breastfed babies: http://www.who.int/childgrowth/standards/en/ That said, no matter how she's fed, there is a wide range of 'normal' for any baby. I say go with your mama instincts. If you feel that she is fine and healthy then she most likley is. If you feel that the doctor isn't really making you all that happy with his charts and guidelines then I would hunt around for one that you are more comfortable with.

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Latest post on 23 October 2011 - 15:51

I forgot to add, like someone else said below, these roads are so dangerous over here it is nice to know that my daughter is as safe as possible sitting rearfacing. Car accidents are the second leading cause of death over here. :(

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Latest post on 23 October 2011 - 15:49

We have a Britax Highway 2. We bought it from Carseat.se. My daughter is 13 months and we do extended rear facing (research shows that when in a crash, rearfacing children under the age of 4 are five times more likely to be safe than in forward facing seats). Carseat ships to the UAE and we got ours within just a couple of days. Our seat is good to go rearfacing for up to 25 kg (somewhere around 5 years). It has loads of leg room and head room. Hope that helps.

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Latest post on 18 October 2011 - 16:49

Just want to throw this out there. Stem cell collection requires immediate cord clamping, something that takes away 1/3 of your baby's own blood supply. There is a lot of research out there that says delayed cord clamping is far better for your baby than routine stem cell collection. Here are a few links to some articles: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-15187776 http://www.bellybelly.com.au/birth/cord-clamping-delaying-cord-clamping http://www.beyondconformity.co.nz/_bpost_1598/The_ethics_of_Cord_clamping_and_stem_cell_collection http://academicobgyn.com/2009/12/03/delayed-cord-clamping-should-be-standard-practice-in-obstetrics/ http://apps.who.int/rhl/pregnancy_childbirth/childbirth/3rd_stage/cd004074_abalose_com/en/index.html

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Latest post on 18 October 2011 - 16:34

Hi Elnino, You are right at the massive growth sput age. Between 4 and 6 weeks of age the babies will be on you 24 hours a day. THIS WILL PASS. It will pass. It will most likely happen again at 4 months and again at 6 but I promise you it will pass. It is called cluster feeding and it is very normal. That said, it can be very frustrating and it can wear any mama out. Do you sleep in the same room or are you comfortable bringing baby into your bed? This often can give mamas a bit of a break at night rather than running from room to room. Have you tried wearing your baby in a sling? Something like a Moby wrap? This allows baby to be close to you and you are able to have both hands free to do what you need to do. Babies who are worn for a couple of hours a day also tend to be calmer and sleep better at night. It is also totally possible to nurse in a wrap also. The best sling to get for this age is a stretchy wrap, one of the most popular brands is Moby wrap. I have found that it is far easier to nurse in public than it is to mess around with bottles. Adding pumping into your schedule can cause your milk supply to increase also and make you more likely to get blocked ducts and infection. Introducing a bottle this early on can also cause nipple confusion and turn the baby off of the breast as well. I think if it is going well without giving expressed milk then wait to introduce bottles for a few weeks. As far as your sore nipples goes, it is normal for there to be some pain in the beginning but anything after a few weeks should be checked out to make sure that the latch is ok. I would recommend going to a Le Leche League meeting or speak with a local breastfeeding supporter or lactation consultant. Where are you located? I can give you some contacts if you'd like. As far as the gas goes, if baby doesn't have a proper latch then he can take in extra air that might make his tummy upset. Upset tummy can also be caused by tongue tie and oversupply. I would first get the latch checked out before eliminating anything from your diet as it might not be needed. To help when baby seems stressed and in pain you can do tummy massage. Counterclockwise circles right at the top of the nappy. Google infant tummy massage for some videos. I hope this all helps. I am a trained breastfeeding supporter so if you have any questions at all feel free to ask. Hugs to you. Just remember it will pass.

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Latest post on 18 October 2011 - 16:12

There is a Facebook group for spouses of teachers who have moved over. I don't think it would matter if you are a teacher spouse or not to join the group. There are lots of moms on there. Look up Abu Dhabi/ Al Ain LT Moms. http://www.facebook.com/#!/groups/260209087323815/ Lots of moms on there with kids of all different ages.

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