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Latest post on 11 August 2011 - 10:45
well he did ok in the sleeping bag...it was quite hilarious to watch him on the video monitor...all over the place, arms flying, legs up in the air, hands in his face! Did the dreamfeed too which he took (180ml) but was still doing his little wakings every few hours :( He's not waking for food just waking and falls asleep after a few pats and the dummy, except for the 4am mark where it takes alot longer for whatever reason...will try giving him a bit more at the dream feed tonight to see if that makes a difference...ahhh for a good nights sleep! Would appreciate any other tips! He's definitely comfy, temp is fine etc so I have no idea why he wakes so much!
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Latest post on 10 August 2011 - 10:56
that's crazy and way too young...I don't think I could do that now and DS is 13 weeks old LOL!
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Latest post on 10 August 2011 - 10:53
thanks ladies...well the sleeping bag is in the wash now so we'll give it a try tonight. He takes a while to settle so could be difficult without being swaddled but we'll give it a go. He doesn't mind being swaddled it's just how he manages to wriggle free no matter how tight we wrap him (in the miracle swaddles too mind you!) so not sure this is waking him up. Who knows!! At this point I'm willing to try anything so wish us luck. Will try the dreamfeed too again tonight and see what happens...
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Latest post on 10 August 2011 - 08:48
shelly...yes we do know who that is, but my understanding is 20 mins of being with baby, only leaving them for 5 mins and then going back in for another 20 mins, not the opposite way which seems awful, especially for a 6 week old!!
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Latest post on 10 August 2011 - 08:37
Hi ladies, DS is now 13 weeks old and is a big boy - 65cm and 6.8kg. We've swaddled him from birth but I'm wondering when one should stop...he is now in his big cot, and is still waking alot during the night and I'm wondering if not swaddling him would make a difference...ie, is he fighting not being able to move around as much in the night? He is going down quite well around 7.30 but wakes almost every 2 hours at times. Usually goes back to sleep fairly quickly with his dummy but can fight himself out of the swaddle blanket very easily so often needs to be re wrapped. Look forward to your thoughts...Also he doesn't dream feed, usually feeds once between 1-3am, but wondering if he's waking earlier now whether I should try it again (have tried before unsuccessfully)... TIA! x
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Latest post on 05 August 2011 - 14:28
I also found that pumping and doing some bottles of expressed milk helped my flow...I would feed one side and pump the other, then use what i had to top him up before sleep after his final feed. After a few days he seemed to feed better and it almost sounded like he was swallowing more when he was drinking, strange as this sounds! Re: sleep, we're in a process where we are trying to get him to learn to fall asleep from awake in his cot rather than in our arms....slowly getting there. Also moving him from his moses basket to cot has made a huge difference - I think he's alot more comfortable with lots of room to move and a firmer mattress. Using the top up bottle after his last feed also ensures he's tanked up and he goes down to sleep alot easier too.
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Latest post on 05 August 2011 - 09:52
they wouldn't do it :( just gave me a head neck and shoulder massage which was fairly average to be totally honest! I did have some great pregnancy massages, right up to 36 weeks at Sensasia Spa at Emirates Golf Club though - would highly recommend them!
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Latest post on 05 August 2011 - 09:49
hi moonbeam, this happened to me too around the same time...we weren't sure if it was reflux or milk flowing to slow or too fast...we were also having sleep issues though which was actually the problem as he was getting overtired and not feeding properly and it was like a domino effect. We're working on sleep now which is improving, esp naps during the day and he's starting to feed better too. In the interim I did express and feed a few bottles as this was less tiring for him so it helped him to get through - also he has no issues taking the bottle or with nipple confusion so this helped for us. Could also be developmental if she is more alert and looking around? Or perhaps she has gas...i found often my DS would do this and then I'd take him off and burp him and he'd be much better.... hope you work this out soon! x
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Latest post on 30 July 2011 - 14:54
Hey M...we're seeing her on Tuesday so I will let you know how it goes. I'm not entirely convinced DS has reflux...he's definitely a bit of a chucker but methinks his issue is more gas related...and since he's been on the reflux meds he's been gassier than ever so really don't know...am going to call the paed tomorrow for a chat. His napping has improved over the weekend, just did a 1.5 hour nap, although last night was a disaster he as up most of the night but was extremely gassy too :( Don't you just wish they could tell you what the problem is! Perhaps something just like Infacol will be enough to help him, I just feel awful about giving him all these meds especially when I'm not convinced that reflux is the problem. Will report back when we've met with Cecile.
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Latest post on 27 July 2011 - 09:55
we do try and put him down as soon as he seems tired and he does go to sleep eventually but seems to have this ticker that wakes him after 30 mins, or even earlier sometimes! I do darken the room, have white noise going and use a dummy too. I too am anti CIO esp at this age so we will see what Cecile comes up with...hopefully something!! Thank god last night my hubby took over for the first half of the night and I got a bit of sleep in another room. Don't think there is any day night mix up - he doesn't sleep enough in the day for that...and I do always keep him in bright light during the day except when trying for a nap. Luckily my mother in law is here at the moment otherwise I'd be going mad - she is currently trying to put him down...we will see! thanks for the support...!x
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Latest post on 27 July 2011 - 09:06
hey kiwi...no we still swaddle for naps and for night sleep. The little rascal just did a 30 min nap and is wide awake and chatting away as if to say that's enough for me! And 20 min of this 30 min had me patting and shushing so to me it didn't feel like 30 mins at all! I do think these short naps are starting to impact his night sleep - as its getting worse. Last night wasn't too bad, he did a few stretches of sleep although at one point was up for almost 2 hours! He's almost 12 weeks now so it should be improving rather than getting worse. I'm hoping Cecile will be able to help with the nap side of things, the only place he seems to nap for a long time during the day is if I go for a drive and he falls asleep in his car seat, but I'm a bit worried to do this every day! If we can get him napping more during the day he might sleep better at night. As for the reflux, I am going to keep an eye on him with the meds as not too happy him being on so much and we'll see how we go...
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Latest post on 27 July 2011 - 09:00
Congrats....!!! So happy for you!
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Latest post on 26 July 2011 - 20:09
I don't have much to add either except to say I know how you feel! My once fab sleeper is now 11 weeks old and his sleeping has totally deteriorated - first with naps getting shorter and now into his night sleep too. Last night he was practically up all night :( He has also been diagnosed with reflux and although doesn't cry much is obviously uncomfortable at times, gassy, very hard to settle and quite gurgy. We've just started him on meds yesterday which is stressful in itself, I feel awful giving him so many (doc has prescribed Motilium, Nexium and Gaviscon). Our doc said we should see a change in 2-4 days...not 3 weeks ahhh! I already feel like Motilium may not be helping, after giving it with the night feed last night he was up every half hour with gas and I'm wondering if a drug that speeds things through their systems is the right thing for him... Thankfully my mother in law is here at the moment, if she weren't I would just sit and cry I think...sleep deprivation is a killer. Have called up Cecile to see if she can help with the sleep as not sure if this is related to reflux or just sleep issues...really hoping she can help. I hope things improve for you too...x
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Latest post on 15 July 2011 - 09:46
well no...he slept for 30 mins, was up so I picked him and put him back to sleep, then slept another half an hour then was up... I was out most of the day yesterday so he napped in the car seat (why is that so easy huh!!) quite a bit at least and slept relatively well last night. Today is a new day and DH is trying to put him down now for a nap...so we'll see... Hope this doesn't last too long as I do feel like I'm spending all day trying to get him to sleep!
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Latest post on 14 July 2011 - 08:06
thanks ladies...well he's gone down for his morning nap and I'm praying for one that's a bit longer...wish us luck. I've read about the idea of going in before they wake but am too scared to do it LOL...watching the video monitor like a hawk in 10 mins and hoping he'll sleep through...
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Latest post on 13 July 2011 - 16:54
bump...anyone :( ? Day 2 of the same and this mummy is going spare...he's also been alot gassier and fartier the past few days so wonder if it's related?
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Latest post on 03 July 2011 - 14:41
thats great Nutty. So when you put her down after nappy change did you do the swaddle pat/shush or just put her down? We've got a record today...he's STILL asleep, 3 hours and 40 mins later...man is he gonna be starving when he wakes up LOL. Well he did take a good 30 mins at the breast before nodding off at least...!
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Latest post on 03 July 2011 - 14:32
I'll bet Nutty!! :)
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Latest post on 03 July 2011 - 14:16
well he finally went down for his nap at 11am (almost straight after his feed) and now three hours later he's still asleep bless him...no way am I waking him up...am sure his tummy will shortly anyway! It is quite hard to tell his sleep cues...sometimes obvious with a yawn and rub of the eyes, other times not. Sometimes he seems so sleepy straight after a feed like this time and that's when EASY doesn't work and it becomes AESY! Oh well, whatever gets him to sleep right!
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Latest post on 03 July 2011 - 13:53
thanks Hello Kitty :) Yes I do think I'm lucky and should just go with the flow...it's easy to question yourself though when you read books or pay too much attention to what you think you "should" be doing. :) The Baby Whisperer says you shouldnt let them nap for more than 1 and a half to 2 hours during the day...well I finally got him down for a nap at 11 this morning and he's still asleep now...no way am I waking him up!
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Latest post on 03 July 2011 - 11:42
yes I've been trying to follow that too although sometimes it changes to AESY! I just got him down for a nap 40 mins ago so fingers crossed. This time I swaddled and did the shush pat and put him down before he was completely asleep although pretty close to it (after about 10 mins of holding him). I stayed in for another 10 mins patting on back with him on his side and waiting for the dummy to fall out. Seems to have worked this time! He's so alert that if I put him down when he's too awake he just becomes more awake. The funny thing is he doesn't cry but just starts to smile and talk to me which is cute, but if I leave him he just gets more alert and doesn't go to sleep - I did try this morning to leave him and he happily chatted away for about 40 mins until next feed was due!
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Latest post on 03 July 2011 - 11:38
thanks nutty and julz. The past 2 nights I haven't done it and he went down to sleep about 8pm. One night woke at 2am, feed and change back to sleep by 3am, slept until 7am. Last night he woke himself up with a big poo LOL at 1am, fed and change and then slept until 5am, then back to bed until 7.30am. Still so unsure if I should perservere with trying to dreamfeed or not as he does quite well in that first stretch on his own....hmmm!!
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 17:12
thanks TwoKids...I will try putting him to sleep when he's awake tomorrow rather than let him fall asleep in my arms first (if I'm not too sleep deprived myself to handle it LOL)...will see what happens, but have a feeling he'll just stay awake. He's very alert for an 8 week old, looks around alot, I think a mobile would only stimulate him more. I have one of those sleep sheeps that I always put on when he's going to sleep... Has anyone read the "no cry nap solution" by elizabeth pantley - is it worth trying to find?
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 16:29
yes was so tempted to get the camera but it was too dark LOL! He put him down and he's still asleep but am sure will be up soon as he's due a feed!
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 16:16
:) DH been in there for past 20 mins trying to put him to sleep and i just went to check and found him passed out sitting up in bed holding DS who is also fast asleep...so much for putting him in the cot to sleep...men!
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 18:29
was it heidiandluca.com luv? she does cards as well as pic frames, pillow cases etc? xo
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 18:20
thanks kiwi....maybe I should wait until then to introduce it. Yawn....he's resisting his naps today, gosh I hope he still sleeps ok tonight...got DH in there shshing at the moment!
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 16:41
and he is demand fed, but quite structured and doing every 3 hours, sometimes more during the day naturally anyway...
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 16:39
thanks for the replies ladies...still not sure whether I should perservere or not. Last night I did try with the bottle but as I said he was so deeply asleep that even when he did get it in his mouth he did not take a suck and at that point I didn't want to wake him up as he's not always that easy to get back to sleep these days! Maybe as kiwis has said he's too deeply asleep at that time of night to take the DF...At this point his last feed is between 7 and 8pm then he's up in about 5-6 hours from there then again in a few hours before his actual morning wake up...maybe I should just leave him be for a few more weeks and see what he does naturally. Earlier on when he was littler he actually did a few nights of 7-8 hour stretches but maybe that was just pot luck!!
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 10:32
well it depends on what sort of holiday you like, but DH and I had an incredible time a few years back now in Croatia/Italy. We started at Dubrovnik and hired a car and went up the coast (staying in small hotels and apartments), travelled to a few islands by ferry (Brac and Hvar), continued up to Split, through the amazing Plitvice National Park to Zagreb then caught a train to Venice...down to Florence and Tuscany then drove down via Umbria to Rome. Amazing!! Both Croatia and Italy are just stunning, you can also do the croatian coast and islands on a yacht if you're so inclined...beautiful towns and great beaches...it is amazingly beautiful and lots of great restaurants and bars if you have no kids. We also recently had a gorgeous time in Sardinia and Sicily is fab too (esp Taormina and Siracusa). I also second Istanbul as ana amazing place to visit as well :) One other place is Jordan - a different kind of holiday but Petra and the Dead Sea are very special too.
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 10:25
Also...what age did you start dreamfeeding, if not from birth?
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 17:12
kiwi, that had me laughing out loud!! I'm guilty of the sleep sheep maneuver! Right now I'm just amazed to have had a 1 and a half hour refreshing nap waking up to find that DS is still sleeping! :)
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Latest post on 24 June 2011 - 13:07
too true, will just leave him be!!
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Latest post on 24 June 2011 - 12:56
LOL...well I am a bit obsessed with writing down exactly how many feeds/nappy changes etc he has a day already!! Now then, we went out to the mall this morning and he is still asleep in the maxi cosi (been in for about 2 hours now)...I know we should never wake a sleeping baby but it's not good for them to be in the car seat for too long right? Or should I just count my blessings and let him sleep...? ah so many questions!
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Latest post on 24 June 2011 - 12:12
thanks ladies, will stop obsessing over the night time burps then :)
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Latest post on 24 June 2011 - 08:26
thanks everyone and great to hear all your thoughts. So last night DH couldn't get him back to sleep, he was wide awake and cooing away :) So I figured well at least he got a small catnap in, BF'd him at 8 and had him down to sleep by 9. I was then so knackered I forgot the dream feed at 11 but he slept through until 3am (which is very similar to what he does with the dreamfeed anyway so wondering if he really needs it?), he fed again and was down by 4am. I couldnt get him to burp though, sometimes he's so sleepy he just won't but then at 5am he was asleep but making straining noises so I picked him up to see if he'd burp, but no, back to deep sleep within 20 min and then slept through until 7am. THEN he did a massive burp! So fed again and some awake time with Daddy and now has gone down for a nap...result I think! We'll see how the day goes, will go by his cues but at the same time have a loose routine. Another q - what do you do when you can't get your little one to burp? This has happened a few times he's so sleepy so I put him down but then not long later he's making straining noises which sometimes wake him up (definitely wake me up LOL). Should I perservere burping him for longer and risk waking him up?
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Latest post on 23 June 2011 - 19:53
yes you're right HelloAgain Kitty, it does depend on what suits every individual. I guess I just was not wanting him to only go to sleep at night off the boob but I guess that's silly since he goes down during the day without it (albeit it takes a while, I can't plop him down awake or even semi awake...he won't cry but won't sleep either just chatting away). Am sure will be feeding soon, it's been almost 3 hours now since last feed so doubt he's going to go to sleep again. Can hear DH shshing away through the monitor but don't think it's working LOL...still you never know!
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Latest post on 23 June 2011 - 19:40
well that didn't work, DH made a bang in the kitchen and he is now wide awake and hiccuping to boot! :( Trying to scoff some dinner now with DH tries to put him back to sleep but methinks he'll be having his second feed soon as per usual!
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Latest post on 23 June 2011 - 19:19
mishmash and shelly, at around the 6 week stage were you doing a feed just before 7pm bedtime? Tonight his last feed started at 5.15 and went for about 35 mins (BF) and then he was up a bit and had a bath/massage, then quiet time and he was down by 7. Previously he's always had another feed just before bed...?
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Latest post on 23 June 2011 - 19:14
thanks for all the replies. I'm not that worried, I just want to make sure we're set up so I'm not setting up any bad habits and making sure he gets enough sleep. I'm happy to be led by his cues rather than put him in a rigid schedule but I think babies do need a bit of help...before I made a real effort to get him down for naps during the day he was quite happy to just catnap on whoever was holding him with no real pattern. Amazingly this didn't make him grizzly at night and he still slept very well (as I said from early on doing 4-6 and sometimes 7 hour stretches) but I do think he needed more sleep in the day. I have heard you should never wake a sleeping baby but my thinking about waking him around 7 rather than 8.30 is that we can fit in more feeds in the day and get him to bed earlier, but maybe that doesn't matter? Tonight we just bathed him and he's just gone down (right on about 7) so we'll see what happens next. I normally would do another feed before bed so I'll probably pump to make sure the b00bs don't get too full in case he sleeps through and use that for the dreamfeed, which I may do a bit earlier (9.30/10). If he wakes naturally I'll just BF him. We'll see how we go! If all if this doesn't work and he starts waking more in the night we might go back to what we were doing before....it's a learning curve for all of us! Will try and get my hands on that book too.
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Latest post on 22 June 2011 - 21:42
There's also a lovely small school in Umm Suqueim that specialises in Autism and Aspergers called SCEA - Safe Center for Exception Abilities....the contact of the lady who runs it is Mahouba ([email protected]). She had a child herself with aspergers and decided to set up her own school eventually. Hope this helps!
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Latest post on 20 June 2011 - 07:46
hey DC, thanks for your feedback. Well at the moment I think we're going through the dreaded 6 week growth spurt...last night was up numerous times (he previously had been doing a 6-8 hour stretch, going back to sleep super easy) and at one point it took me 2 hours to get him back to sleep and I had to resort to the dummy. :( Hoping this will pass in a few days and then we'll see how we go and maybe I can try the dreamfeed again but with an expressed bottle....will see how we go! Right, off for a kip while he's down, it may not last long! x
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Latest post on 19 June 2011 - 12:47
thanks ladies. Will just see how we go, I was just worried that going to bed around 9 was too late, but if it suits him? Maybe I'll try one night seeing if he'll go down around 7 (he tends to be wide awake then) and see what happens...
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Latest post on 19 June 2011 - 10:05
I'm sure if you contact them they can give you some advice. There are also plenty other smaller centres that could do with the help, probably needing it more. You could contact Volunteer in Dubai www.volunteerindubai.com and they could help point you in the right direction. I used to do some volunteer work with various special needs centres, here are a few smaller ones you could also contact: SCEA (Safe Centre for Exceptional abilities) SNF Karama Senses Residential Care Home Rashid Pediatric Hope that helps
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Latest post on 19 June 2011 - 10:00
what's in it, never heard of it? Can you link to a pic?
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Latest post on 19 June 2011 - 09:57
thanks for the feedback ladies I appreciate it! Shell, to answer your q's first, yes he does go to bed after that last feed and he also naps through the day although in the evening is more interested in drinking loads (tanking up!) than sleeping, but then he goes right to bed after the last feed and sleeps at least 6 hours, if not more. So I suspect maybe i don't need to do it, especially as he's so big and developing so fast? I also think dreamfeeding with a bottle must be easier than with a b00b as you can shove it in easier, I tried and tried but his lips remained firmly closed! Can chat more when we meet, definitely interested in your routine set up. kiwis - that sounds like an interesting read, I'll look out for it. I do try and go to bed as soon as he does so I get a good rest as well, maybe that's the key! Will keep experimenting...and look forward to hearing other experiences too re: dreamfeeding.
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Latest post on 16 June 2011 - 18:43
hi moonbeam - I too have a very sucky baby and resisted the dummy for a while but found I was breastfeeding almost every hour! My baby was also big at birth (4 kilos) and I knew he was getting bigger so I eventually introduced the dummy around 4 weeks and he loved it. Only takes it between feeds for comfort and lets it go when he falls asleep. I also don't give it to him at night so he still falls asleep well without it. He now feeds every 2 and half to 3 hours and is still putting on weight, and is sleeping better during the day too - I was often mistaking his cues as hunger rather than just being tired. He also won't take it if he is hungry. I also had to introduce a bottle with expressed milk over a few days as I needed to let one of my boobs have a rest (was cracked and sore) and he took to it just fine and it didn't confuse him at all. I actually tried 2 different bottles on him (Tommee Tippee and Dr Weil Baby) and he liked the both....I think he was happy to suck anything if milk was coming out! Now I'm healed he's back to just exclusive breastfeeding :) My lactation consultant did say that if you want to use a bottle to introduce sooner rather than later - as lemondrops said, the later it is the more likely they are to refuse! Good luck!
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Latest post on 16 June 2011 - 13:46
My boy also has a really strong suck reflex and I resisted the pacifier for so long thinking it would confuse him etc. But I was feeding him all day as I thought he was hungry all the time when in fact alot of the time he was tired. He took the dummy straight away and it just soothes him especially between feeds. I don't give it to him at night as for some reason he is brilliant at going to sleep in the evening so we don't need it then. My LC said that all the talk of nipple confusion is not always correct, it totally depends on the baby. I knew he was putting on weight as he was getting heavier and weighing him confirmed that although he was massive to begin with. So somehow despite his poor latch he was getting enough (prob cos I was feeding sooo often but also as I would still persist as I couldn't bear to take him off and then hear him cry in hunger). Also he has a slightly short tongue which doesn't help but the LC said it will only improve as it grows. I still get slightly flattened looking nips after feeding but it is definitely less painful now. the LC also said that sometimes that will still happen and as long as you're not in pain it might just have to stay that way. You have to find what works for you. If topping up with some EBM after a feed helps her go to sleep than go for it, if you're still giving the breast and pumping it shouldn't affect your supply. The one thing the LC taught me was not to feel bad about expressing at times and using the bottle to help recuperate and heal. She also had me using Fucidin cream to help my nipples heal quicker which definitely helped. I really hope it starts getting easier for you soon! kiwi - I can so sympathise with that, I too would just let the tears roll silently :( BF-ing is definitely hard going and I wish I'd been more aware of that going into it....but with lots of perserverance and support we'll all get there!!
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Latest post on 16 June 2011 - 13:01
we're getting there thanks kiwi - it's been much better this week! For me when I was down it was more a case of feeling useless and a failure. It really helped having my hubby support me telling me I was doing a great job and reminding me of his weight gain etc. But I know what you mean re: hating it, and having people say "do you think he's hungry again" would just do my head in!
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Latest post on 16 June 2011 - 12:56
thanks for those suggestions! Boardwalk sounds lovely, but with a 5 week old, I feel better being a bit closer to home! Montgomerie is a great idea...do you think you would have to book for a Fri morning? x