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Latest post on 15 December 2011 - 10:15

do you want to babysit while I go :D Hahahaha nice try! Lol I am definitely going to COLDPLAY, me and 12 more friends yaaaaaaaaay!!! Will be the best concert ever I reckon!

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Latest post on 18 September 2011 - 21:59

It WILL turn around for you TA just have faith that it will... A few years ago I went through the most awful breakup of my life and just a few months later met my OH! =) Just go out with the girlfriends, remember all the annoying reasons you broke up and don't dwell on all the nice memories - put them out of your mind for now. It will get better =) Thanks Hun, to be honest I don't feel empty and lonely, just sad bec I miss him. Im not worried finding a man too, I know someone will come along, "the more you don't care, the quicker it will come" ;) it's just funny how brave I was when I posted this and now I'm feeling sad LOL :-p I found Rori Raye's website very useful, she always want women to be strong and care about ourselves, and women don't wait! We live! ;)

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Latest post on 18 September 2011 - 21:42

LOL just couldn't help but laugh at myself! I broke up with my boyfriend and now I'm so sad! Sighhh I know what I did is right, just missing him so much! I love and miss him so much but I need to do this for him! For him to wake up and grow up, even it means life without him! He is a great guy, just not ready! Grrr! Why is life so tough! edited by TanAmbassador on 18/09/2011

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Latest post on 15 September 2011 - 13:45

Sadly, some men just don't do committment no matter how long they have to decide. Some just want the fun side and none of the responsibilities of a growing relationship and will run if they feel that the woman is getting too "serious" My DH and I were engaged within 8 weeks of our first meeting, we knew from the first that we were for each other. We have been married almost 35 years and still very happy. If I were the OP I would just get on with my life and not waste time on a man who is pussyfooting about. I think that people should have a good idea of whether someone is right or wrong for them after 8 months. Men do mature later than woman but at 36 he should be far more sure of what he wants from life. Just enjoy yourself and see what happens but don't mope about waiting for someone who may or may not decide that you are the one. You are worth more than that. :) x I agree! I followed OH to Dubai after knowing each other for one year. =D There will be someone out there who will just KNOW how he feels for you and have no doubts whatsoever. Better off finding him than waiting around tied down to someone else. IMO. Thanks that's why I broke up with him, if he will change for better then good for him, but as of now, I would like to take care of myself, I did so much already in my past. edited by TanAmbassador on 15/09/2011

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Latest post on 15 September 2011 - 12:24

Hi Tan- sorry you are having problems- maybe just give him some space and see what happens? get on with your life- see your friends, do things for you- keep yourself busy- if he comes round, he comes round- if he doesn't it's time to move on- we all deserve to be happy- no point wasting your time, energy, love if he doesn't want it in the end... if he's the one for you it will all work out- if not- next!! You won't meet the man of your dreams if you're wasting time on someone who doesn't deserve you :) HTH Agree. I like this so much!

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Latest post on 15 September 2011 - 11:40

:( It has only been 8 months :( If you love him and he loves you can you not give it a little longer? This is my point too, I love him much, but he never said he love me, he just 'like' me, bec LOVE is a big word for him, sure it's culture and nationality differences maybe and I accepted that and yes 8 mons is too early and he is entitled to feel that way, but it will be very slow for him to commit to me bec he have some issues about his life he needs to attend to. Ladies, I wish my decision to break up with him is wrong but I can see it clearly that I need to do this for myself and for his own enlightenment. Really, I wish I am wrong. edited by TanAmbassador on 15/09/2011

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Latest post on 15 September 2011 - 11:36

Tan, it is 8 months. Take it easy, you are young and this dude is just being a man, that is all. but what am I supposed to do Hun? Be with him while he doesn't know what he wants in his life? Believe me I don't want to end it and I want to be there and support him, he is great, but what about myself? One day he will wake up and realize what he wants and he actually don't need me? Okay I sound self protective, but we should all be like that right? also, he will never learn to love and accept me unless he is happy and sure of himself?

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Latest post on 15 September 2011 - 10:36

How old are you TA? Unless you are on the older side what is the harm of having some fun and going with the flow? I'm 28 and he is 36. Knadia, I am definitely moving on. It's not easy and it's not a nice feeling but this is life and I need to face it.

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Latest post on 15 September 2011 - 10:29

Is he very devout as well TanAmbassador? edited by janesul on 15/09/2011 He became devout when we started the relationship and I didn't forced him. He did it bec he know my faith is very important to me and he wants me to be happy. You see, I have the greatest man on earth. He is just not ready bec he doesn't know where be belongs. Thanks ladies, always love chatting with you. edited by TanAmbassador on 15/09/2011

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Latest post on 15 September 2011 - 10:21

I was in a similar position but we stayed together after he got 'cold feet' early in the relationship. That lasted 7.5 years but he never committed to me. It sounds like you know what you are doing.... I love him much but I love myself more than anything in this world. I have self respect and I know I deserve a man who is ready and will accept me with no buts. If God's plan for me is to be with him someday, HE will make a way. I also want to believe that God wants him to learn from this, to enlightened and make things clear to him. And I am learning from here too, to think about myself first and to test my faith to God.

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Latest post on 15 September 2011 - 10:09

how old is this guy? 36. And yes we have different nationality which is also contributing to some disagreements we have.

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Latest post on 15 September 2011 - 10:07

Janesul, thanks for your thoughts, but for me this is not about the moving in together anymore. This is about him being confused with his life in general- he don't know where he want to be in his life. Unless he is confuse and don't know what to do, he is incapable of accepting me in his life. He should sort of his problem and when he is ready, everything will be easy. That's what I think. And yes you are right, I made it too soon. And I honestly understood when he said it's too early. I respectfully disagree based on the information so far. I agree with Janesul. Relationships are about supporting each other through good and bad times. Having said all that.... Some men will move mountains to be with the one that they love and vice versa. Believe me when I say I want to help him with his struggles as I love him much, and I will give everything for the man I love. But I've been there and done that with my previous ex and end up with zero! This time I want to think about myself and future. And for the record, he is the most respectful and honest man I've ever met. He is a great man, shame he is not ready.

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