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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 12:29
Have you tried ordering from the Book Depository? They offer free shipping and are really quick Thank you so much, i got what i needed from them and have ordered :0) Great!
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 12:29
Have you tried ordering from the Book Depository? They offer free shipping and are really quick Thank you so much, i got what i needed from them and have ordered :0) Great!
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 11:12
Have you tried ordering from the Book Depository? They offer free shipping and are really quick
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 10:18
hey wuffles. How you feeling today? It's all about vunerability and your perceived position. He was utterly confident you wouldnt do anything about it, and relished his 'power' over you. He strikes me as someone who has got away with this before and was confident he would this time too. I think the first time something like this happens to us we go into a kind of shock...you just can't believe that this is actually happening. So, stunned, you make every excuse for the behaviour, take the shame and the guilt onto yourself. Men who behave this way actually rely on that reaction to get away with it. You did the right thing honey, though I'm a bit iffy on this letter of apology, keep the job but away from customers bizzo. I know it makes you feel better that he hasnt lost his job, but from your description he strikes me as a type that will find ways no matter what, so is still a risk at large. Big hugs, and hope today is a good one. A bit better thanks-more angry than anything now though I did double check my door was locked-which I never do. You are right-he was overly confident so perhaps he had done something similar before. He kept assuring the security guys he couldn't have said anything as he spoke no English-but he had no trouble asking me for my mobile etc....Just back from hospital for something unrelated and noticed our poor security guard was struggling to write up an incident report-obviously a big challenge for him as his English is problematic-feel sorry others like him have been put out too.
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 10:10
Cafe au lait, what time was it that you took the cruise? Am looking for stuff to take Aged P to when it's not too hot. [b'>She hates it here, it's too foreign and there's desert.[/b'> LOL....just spat my tea at the screen. Sorry abc. Probably not funny to be living with that mindset, but a bl**dy funny read from where I'm sitting. :D Reminds me of a trip we took to Petra in Jordan-the bus broke down in the middle of nowhere and one disgruntled American tourist kept loudly complaining there was too much sand in the desert.........could cheerfully have throttled him-what was he expecting?!
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 01:03
Sorry-can't help as I don't live in that area-but just thought I'd let you know it is 1 am here so you may not get many answers till morning! Good luck with the move
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 23:58
Is there any no smoking policy in apartments you can use to support your case?-there is inours so maybe check your lease-I feel for you-nothing worse-especially when you are pregnant and no doubt a tad nauseous
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 23:56
wuffles, I have never met you, but I've read your posts for some time and found what you've said to be thoughtful and helpful, so I was shocked to find that you were the OP on this thread. Do not feel bad about this. You did absolutely the right thing. Through no fault of yours, or any other woman's, this guy is not a suitable man to be going into women's homes to do maintenance stuff. He comes with a serious health warning and you had to do what you did. If you had said nothing, you would have put a lot of other women at risk. Imagine if someone had done that to you in Australia! Would you have been worried about the consequences for him there? No! I'm guessing that you would have been completely indignent and outraged at his audacity! Just because this guy may seem to be disadvantaged by his circumstances, that is NOT a justification for his behaviour. Thanks I am feeling more indignant now I must admit. What got me was as soon as I felt uncomfortable I rang BH and he still didn't stop when it was obvious I had reported him-then the security guard came and while he went to talk to his co-worker on the roof he continued to misbehave (he must have been momumentally thick skinned or sure of his word being believed against a woman's)-wasn't impressed with the guard either for leaving me there clearly distressed to go talk to the other guy who hadn't done anything......but that is another story....apparently the security guard needed permission to enter my apartment from the landlord-helpful-not
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 20:36
Wuffles, don't feel bad, you did the right thing and have hopefully prevented this guy doing something worse at a later date. People like this are good at looking pitiful when found out but they are not sorry for what they did only for having been found out. It's better there's a note made in his file and he's put in a job out of the way of customers. Let's hope the warning will scare him enough to not try this on with any other women outside of his work. He wasn't loking too pitiful-told his supervisot his ladder brushed my skirt and he had said sorry-nothing else happened.....which in itself was implausible given where the ladder was
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 20:33
Baklava should be made with almonds. I know the one in C4 is made with peanuts. Not sure about the one in WAfi Gourmet. When you've had the real good stuff (brought in by family) the peanut one is just not as nice. I've heard that Hallab is good for sweets and cakes. I think they vary from Carrefour to Carrefour-personally I like it made with walnuts
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 19:49
Don't laugh but the best we ever had was from Carrefour near the Shindigah tunnel in Bur Dubai!
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 19:34
missyuae, I am Muslim, wear a headscarf and abaya, don't wear makeup unless I'm out with my husband, I keep my eyes down when I'm out - meaning I do everything I can think of to NOT attract attention to myself - and I still have been "propositioned" many times. It was WAY worse when I lived on Deira side. I had an old coot following me around in the grocery store, then he followed me all the way back to my apartment building (thank God the building's front door locked or he would have been in after me in the lobby). Had a man follow me in his car when I was on foot - I was walking in broad daylight in a busy area and had no clue he was doing what he was doing. He got my attention and informed me that he had been "following me for some time" because he was "attracted" to me. Had another man following me in a car near the Hyatt on Deira side while I was walking. Had 2 men (at different times) follow me on foot. If I crossed to the other side of the road they would do the same - it was very disconcerting. I was "new" at the time and didn't have enough street smarts I guess to just get in their faces and tell them to back off or threaten them with the police. Had a Saudi "gentleman" (or at least he had Saudi plates on his car) follow me in his car as I was walking out of the Mercato parking lot. I informed him I do not speak to strange men - he still didn't back off. So I started screaming at him that I would call my husband if he didn't back off. I would say that perhaps Arab women who cover (maybe, I'm not trying to be racist here!) are afforded more respect by the perverts of the world. But a white woman in hijab from my experience is fair game to them too. edited by Laura74 on 26/06/2011 actually it has been proven a million times that makeup and clothing has nothing to do with being harassed or eventually raped. if those happen, it should not be accounted as the woman's fault in any case. why would it be our fault? none of us asks for being harassed or raped. It is the man's fault, who cannot behave, and who assumes that misconceptions about clothing will serve him as excuses for unacceptable actions. excuses work both way, if you almost naked that is "too arousing" if you are completely covered that is also "too arousing". lets stop it and face the fact that there is no connection. Not sure what to think-I was well covered-with a long skirt on-and as I said am over 50-doubt this guy was even 20-so don't imagine I would be very enticing!
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 19:19
You did the right thing Wuffles! I know what you mean about feeling guilty though, as you feel that as these workers are from poorer backgrounds, they will lose their jobs and not be able to provide for their families, etc. Something happened to me when on holiday in India and I had to make a complaint to management about it and they told me the guy would probably be fired - I honestly feel guilty about it to this day. But you have to take into account, that in your case, this guy could have a history of doing these things and may have even taken things further with another who was too sacred to say anything. You had to say something really, so don't feel bad.... I felt I had to as there are lots of single nurses and such in our buildings too-not sure how they would have fared as he was getting increasingly pushy-I don't think he had been with the company long-he was doing other inapprorite things like wandering around the apartment looking at everything-the workers we ususally have are in and out quickly and hardly even give you eye contact
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 19:06
Thanks-so it looks like unless there is plenty of time between flights the direct is better then as we will have one case. Surprised the costs are equal though
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 17:17
Head Honcho just came annd asked if I wanted him reported to the police and jailed or transportrd to a way less desirable job and banned from working in the apartments and having contact with the residents-chose the latter on the proviso he is read the riot act-he also has to make a formal apology -no idea how that will work-phew-need a cuppa now He needs to make that apology to your DH or ot no one, You don't want to see him again. I said a wriiten one would suffice-not sure he will manage that but no doubt he will be made to dictate something
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 17:13
Head Honcho just came annd asked if I wanted him reported to the police and jailed or transportrd to a way less desirable job and banned from working in the apartments and having contact with the residents-chose the latter on the proviso he is read the riot act-he also has to make a formal apology -no idea how that will work-phew-need a cuppa now
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 16:58
File a complaint with the company if you won't go to the police. The company will do whatever I ask-no complaints there <em>edited by wuffles on 26/06/2011</em>
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 16:56
But Lakeland is yay! And so far I have only looked...... Wow, you deserve a gold star for restraint, Wuffles :) I only let myself go near Lakeland once a quarter - the minute I go in there, there's money in their tills :) I was saving for a trip overseas-next time there will be no stopping me.......and I just got an email that the Pottery Barn sale is on-can't get there till Thursday so save some for me!
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 16:54
Wuffles, good on you for not feeling "helpless" and please don't feel bad for getting help from the security. This kind of pervert does not deserve any consideration or sympathy. As other posters had pointed out, he really got off lightly, police involvement is what he deserves. In this kind of situation, we all react different, so you did the right thing. I remember at a concert in Abu Dhabi and a guy standing near me was trying to masturbate against the women around him. I was so shocked and scared and kicked myself later for not reporting him to the security guards. Eventhough I warned the women around me, but I should have gotten the police! Felt so stupid! I think you feel like it can't really be happening so you don't react like you would back 'home'-not that I can envisage it happening back home anyway
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 16:49
Can anyone tell me how quick and easy-or otherwise-connections are at Houston airport? Looks like the direct Dubai Atalnta airfare is pretty much the same as the Dubai-Houston-Atlanta Emirates one and as we wouldn't mind the airmiles are considering the latter longer flight. Any thoughts?
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 16:31
There have always been at least 2 or 3 at any given time How can you tell Wuffles? ooh pls do share!!! Trying to recall-let me thinkont-so many name changes too but I think some of the men kept the same names
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 16:26
Something similar happened to me many years ago in this country and I still regret that I did nothing. I think you were definitely right.... Thanks:)
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 16:17
There have always been at least 2 or 3 at any given time
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 16:12
Just exhausted-have had the security guards, head or security, his company manager and about to get the residences manager in for a chat.....it is true if he tried it with me anyone would be fair game but I have never been the cause of anyone losing their job before so a part of me feels bad-the other part is wild as heck that he would even try it!
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 10:05
yes it does work for the back also That would be good-sick of worrying about what I can't wear!
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 10:03
Dr. Sadegh Mirzadeh, DDS (Swedish trained) at Dr Micheal's Umm Suqeim Branch Incedibly gentle manner-had a root canal done and didn't feel a thing-honestly-very easy to communicate with too http://www.drmichaels.com/our-team/dentists.html <em>edited by wuffles on 26/06/2011</em>
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 09:56
Just curious-my facial skin is fine but my back is not-would this sort of treatment work there?
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 09:49
I wonder whether it was all about romance-or citizenship and inheritance for her or the child-old cynic that I am!
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 09:44
I asked the RTA guys at the bus station-all routes are currently being updated-once this is done new maps will be produced-I did ask when but he didn't think it was any time soon..............possibly after Ramadan. Once it happens a nice glossy map will be produced which will no doubt go quickly out of date
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 09:42
Gosh-that would trigger a bomb scare these days! We did fly Christmas Day once to save money-cheap student flight-the crew and the meals were lovely
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 09:38
But Lakeland is yay! And so far I have only looked...... Oh my! Maybe I'm wrong about M&S then - YAY to Lakeland! No -pretty sure M & S isn't up and running there yet
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Latest post on 26 June 2011 - 09:31
But Lakeland is yay! And so far I have only looked......
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Latest post on 25 June 2011 - 11:37
Hi All, my self and my husband recently had a wills drawn up by British guy in a local law firm. The law apparently changed last year and your UAE will now has to be in dual English & Arabic, attested by a local notary and stamped by the ministry of foreighn affairs and the justice ministry. Without this non of your assets here are protected and if something happens to both husband & wife children under 18 are not protected and could be stuck in a local orphanage here for as long as it takes to sort out custody battles. (edited by mods) Give it a rest-if you want to advertise pay to go on the classifieds....
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Latest post on 25 June 2011 - 11:19
We have a 7kg Whirlpool-just love it because using the shirt function the shirts come out practically wrinkle free-a big bonus when ironing isn't your favourite way to pass an afternoon!
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Latest post on 25 June 2011 - 00:45
Welcome to the forum Piano-We must be far below average then...............with the exchange rates being as they are we would actually probably save more back home sadly. Good luck with your negotiations-you will no doubt get more replies tomorrow-it is past midnight here now. Packages vary tremendously depending on your field of work and of course the benefits you are offered
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Latest post on 24 June 2011 - 23:57
Is that on Delta that there are often spare seats? I like the window and BH the aisle so it causes ructions deciding who will get their chosen seat when the seats are 3 across..................
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Latest post on 24 June 2011 - 22:13
I put a heap of things neatly in boxes in the room that houses the rubbish shute in our building-was quite amusing so see people going in with their rubbish bags and siddling out with bootie form the boxes. I imagine the security guards happily took what was left-it was all gone by morning! Good luck with the decluttering
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Latest post on 24 June 2011 - 21:50
I saw an Emirati programme on them and they said the traditional niqabs (face masks) were made of Indigo cloth-whatever that may be. <em>edited by wuffles on 24/06/2011</em>
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Latest post on 24 June 2011 - 20:34
Thanks for that Annick and julzandrews-never thought of the army guys but it makes sense-being an Aussie it just never crossed my mind. Think BH was worried about the leg room but a direct flight seems appealing
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Latest post on 24 June 2011 - 15:41
DD played 6 intruments (at a very high level) through school-in orchestras and bands-did public speaking, competition dancing,overseas exchanges, travelled around the world several times with choir etc-went on to uni juggling 2 part time jobs jobs and 2 professional internships with studying-took up cheer leading this year because she had always wanted to do it.....since she was tiny if she had 2 minutes to fill she would make timetables and lists and cross off things-highly sociable and always scores in the top 95%-can't bear not to be busy-delightful DS (who has the same brains should he wish to use them) is the polar oposite-both are lovely happy individuals-brought up identially-just different
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Latest post on 24 June 2011 - 15:31
Some days it seems they are already attempting to drive that fast-one particularly memorable ride we made it there by bus in under one hour-scary stuff!
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Latest post on 24 June 2011 - 13:46
I'd try the textile market Bur Dubai side of the creek-find it cheaper than Karama-pashinas and t-shirts (alll sizes) 9 dhs each-less if you buy more-lovely embroidered goods too plus the usual camels and beaded slippers etc-bargain like crazy-they expect it and it is fun
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Latest post on 18 June 2011 - 22:53
I am a very happy potterer'-and not lazy-sometimes I empty cupboards out just to see what is in there and happily rearrange them-ot'her times I will be sorting magazines and get diverted by the recipes inside and end up baking all afternoon-I love being home and having all the time in the world to potter around
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Latest post on 18 June 2011 - 22:48
Sorry to hear Bob has boomeranged-hope he finds a new home with a garden very soon-he is a very handsome moggie
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Latest post on 17 June 2011 - 10:38
Not sure if it is still the case, but in times past, in certain cultures it was a sign of prosperity to be a bit chubby...... My grandfather always says to me "life is treating you well" which translates as you have put on weight..... It can also been seen as him making a compliment to your husband that he is a good provider......
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Latest post on 16 June 2011 - 00:27
Live along the beach in Jumeirah 3 in a compound with 6 other villas with a mixture of expats and Emiratis. There is nothing like waking up to the sound of the two mosques on either side of us as the sun start to illuminate the ocean waves. I love sitting outside with coffee and watching all the kites from the kite surfing dance together int he wind. It is very quiet, peaceful and from every window all you can see is water. There are a few good small shops along the beach road where we are, reem al bawadi which is a favorite restaurant is just across the road, the cake box is a constant favorite and there are pharmacies and small groceries nearby for picking up milk, eggs etc. We like being close to mina a salam and al qsar and of course spend a lot of time by the water each day. The cons definitely are that along with peace and solitude comes the need to drive everywhere and the loss of being able to walk anywhere which I miss. But all in all, its a pleasant place to be. Though truth be told, if I could choose, the new yorker in me would opt for the house in the consulate area of bur dubai described by an earlier poster. I would like to feel like I lived in another country! Instead I live down the road from Subway :-) hello new yorker....i love your city...can i ask...is there alot of places around jumeriah....schools are close...but what about other needed things? and is it too close to crowded areas like the hotels etc..that are also in jumeriah? thanks Give me the hot bread ovens on the street over Subway any day-though I am sure the beach is nice too-love our mosques too as they echo across the Creek
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Latest post on 16 June 2011 - 00:07
It is wonderful but I am driving the poor security guard in the consulate opposite nuts as we aren't allowed to take photos around the consulate and he is highly suspicious of me hanging out the window-if only he bothered to look up he would see what he is missing!
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Latest post on 15 June 2011 - 23:48
So pleased he has found a lovely new home-but sad for you none the less
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Latest post on 15 June 2011 - 22:48
You have to pay a minimum of 10dhs-even if the meter says 5 I know dear, was just highlighting the distance factor :) Unfortunately I did not report him, I was about to burst in to tears...LOL! edited by forever 21 on 15/06/2011 I assume if they get 10dhs they don't get to keep it as it is a minimum fare so I tip on top of that-does anyone know who gets the extra 3dhs if it is say 7 dhs-the driver or the cab company?
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Latest post on 15 June 2011 - 21:55
Thanks for the info ladies, I really enjoyed my train ride alone with my book BUT this one taxi driver nearly ruined my day. I was leaving from Dubai Mall to MOE when I remembered I ended up buying the red once off card since DH promised to fetch, anyway, the taxi driver refused to take me to the Dubai Mall metro-saying he has been in the queue for a whole hour so he was not about to take such short trip!! Worst things was even when I threatened to call the RTA number on the taxi and complain-he was not bothered. I was rescued by a security guard from the mall who chased him away from the queue and I hopped on the next taxi in line! The meter was not even 10AED when I got off the taxi but I gave him enough for a tip as well! You have to pay a minimum of 10dhs-even if the meter says 5-hope you reported the taxi driver who refused to take you-they can't refuse a fare-the guys contolling the raxi queues do a magnificent job at Dubai Mall don't they <em>edited by wuffles on 15/06/2011</em>