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Latest post on 11 February 2011 - 20:10
now that all this is over, think it's okay to go to Sharm? I need a holiday.
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Latest post on 11 February 2011 - 19:37
alright ladies, thank you for re-assuring my current feelings. it's true, we've been through some mighty changes lately and i am learning to be a mommy now. DH just feels like everything should be dealt with like 'band aids' just rip it off and go with the flow, but to be fair I've been unsure of how I wanted to handle this whole move from the start. Now that I know that I want to take it much much slower than he does, we should be able to come up with a fair decision. I feel like my hesitations have been all over the place with this decision and it's best for me to pick a choice and stick with it...there really isn't much of a conversation if I'm not sure of what to say.
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Latest post on 11 February 2011 - 19:28
Gosh, Sharm this time of year is wonderful. I used to go every march, this will be the first time in 6 years that I won't be there. I hope they figure this out soon. I miss you Sharm.
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Latest post on 11 February 2011 - 00:36
I think your right Livelytrish!
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Latest post on 10 February 2011 - 23:33
Dear GoldinGlitterPunk...........I have read quite a few of your posts.........I believe I am right in thinking that you and your siblings very recently lost both your parents? Quite apart from the stress of suddenly becoming overnight, the responsible adult for several other young, wounded and vulnerable people, you share their same catastrophic grief. On top of which you are a relatively young mother of a child who has some developmental delay? And, you are considering moving to one of the world's most unforgiving cities..........you may feel you have made many friends, and perhaps a few of the people you have swapped posts with wil actually materialise in real time, but please remember EW is just cyberspace. Please, please do not for a moment think that Dubai will be an easier or better place than where you are......and please, give yourself and your siblings a chance to grieve, and to readjust to a new reality, in the place where you are all at least reasonably settled and familiar. Take the time being offered, stay in London.......and just let the dust settle on your lives. There will be time enough for adventures later. :) yeah, I feel like thats a big reason I just don't want to move right away. DH thinks that it might be better. I'm trying to decide if I have enough points to bring to the table or if I'm being childish and throwing a tantrum for no reason.
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Latest post on 10 February 2011 - 23:30
Here is what scares me the most, these thoughts induce crazy panic: Not finding adequate speech and language therapy assistance for my son when we finally settle down (doesn't affect when we move) DS going to nursery and under their care he eats something he is allergic to--and the epi pen i've showed them all how to use isn't used consistency of schools and their staff--will he just be ignored and left to 'get on with it' DS and sister going into the schooling systems and come out worse off then when they went in My sisters visa situation, her managing to get trafficked/kidnapped or worse fall in love with an idiot while she considers herself 'vulnerable' and absolves herself from most responsibility and common sense My husband is the most irresponsible man I know when it comes to credit cards/bank payments--- jail--- I don't want to go! We don't overspend, but *he* does get careless, so every month when I do have a moment spare I go through all the finances again. (it's usually his job)...sometimes though, there just aren't enough hours in the day.
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Latest post on 10 February 2011 - 20:53
can I just keep complaining about my Mil on this thread? My MIL pretends to live without heating just so her relatives will purposely call my husband and ask him to pay more attention to his aging mother. She's only *JUST* turned 50.
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Latest post on 10 February 2011 - 20:18
Thanks Dubaistar and Hello Kitty, I'm not allowing DH to look at other job opps for a while so if he stays at his current place he hast to either move in the next two weeks or wait till next April (tax purposes). It's true that after a while, when my sisters are old and mature enough to stand on their own (at least during school terms) I might rest a little easier, and my siblings may be causing me a little added stress on their own. But to be honest, I'm just scared, out of my mind scared. There are panic attacks and anxiety induced spreadsheet speculating parties that I make my husband attend at 2am. I'm turning into a mighty nervous wreck. Husband thinks that if we move right now it'll be best because I'll stop over-thinking it and just do it. I feel like maybe I need to step back relax and move at a slower pace. Do you think I should just suck it up and move? Or is it better to take my time? At this point DH is fed up with my inability to make a decision.
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Latest post on 10 February 2011 - 18:25
Are you sending your DH this link? My ex inlaws did similair things and good reasons I had to make them EX. Ex inlaws gave us zero time on our own once we got married and 15 days later when we decided to take a one night stay in Fujairah, SIL called in tears saying he must come back, as they needed his help with finding their uncle a job (the uncle had lost his job a few months and they were all working on trying to find him a job for months). She cried saying things like here we are trying to help our uncle and there you are busy romancing your wife! She even issued an ultimatum that he return immediately. Later she called to say she missed him (the bi*ch was then about 33 years old and married). Ex-BH (loved the ****** Husband short form I read here yesterday) didn't go back (perhaps one of the only times he defied them!) but also defended her calls and refused to put the phone on silent even though they then kept calling for similair nonsensical reasons. If its any assuarance to you, its taken time but I have seen Karma catch up on all of them. my mil called us once after our honeymoon and cried and cried until we realized she just wanted my DH to leave our newly wedded bed to go replace one light bulb. Thankfully, we both decided to go together to see what the problem was. Ever since then, we don't ever take them seriously when they say it's an emergency.
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Latest post on 10 February 2011 - 16:40
As newlyweds we didn't have time to go house hunting so we decided to just rent our first home sight unseen through the internet. I needed an address for visa purposes and DH was working and traveling the year before our wedding. We decided to be trendy and hip and just use the internet. When we moved into the he**hole we realized there wasn't an actual water source connected to the upstairs bathroom. The bathroom had been made before they actually put the piping through (it used to be a matchstick factory before hand). Anyway, the first night we moved in, I went to check out the bathroom-- the bath tub and sink were full of clean hot water--to the brim. Anyway, I figured my brand spanking new husband was trying to be sweet by drawing me a bath so I got in and really had a very relaxing soak--completely forgetting that he hadn't even entered the flat yet because he was dealing with the management office. Anyway, he eventually came home and walked up to the room and almost slipped down the stairs because there was water on the landing...which was even stranger because I was sitting in the bathtub and hadn't left. Everyday for the next six months when we arrived home from work (we would meet each other before coming home because neither of us cooked, so we'd have dinner before coming home) there would be was fresh hot water in both the sink AND the bath tub and again droplets of water leading from the bathtub to the landing. Every single time my husband or I tried to use the sink/bath tub faucets nothing ever came out. Management thought we were filling it up with a kettle and annoying them with a stupid prank to get out of our lease early. They sent numerous repair people/plumbers. We called everyone too. There was absolutely no water source to that bathroom. They CCTV'd the hallway and no one except the two of us were ever seen leaving and entering the appt. DH always left before me and came home with me or after me...did I mention, we were too lazy to make a spare set of keys, so I was the only other person who had a set.
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Latest post on 10 February 2011 - 15:40
My Father in law tried this on us. (He too is Jordanian) although, I don't think his nationality/ethnicity have anything to do with the bad manners. His parents called us 17 times on our wedding night. (I thank God for this everyday!) Thats when my DH realized they were a bit off and he decided to set boundaries. The absolute jubilation I felt when I realized I was never going to be the wife who had to fight about the crazies that were my inlaws. My cousin in law however did have to fend off my fil. When we wouldn't answer his late night phone calls, FIL called her husband to complain/talk/even sing/recite poetry. So one day while she was putting her babes to bed, he called and woke up the whole household and she picked up one of the phones and went ballistic. I love hearing the story.
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Latest post on 04 February 2011 - 20:37
You must say something and not hesitate in doing so. If it was all above board the worst you'll feel is silly, and thats Ok. edited by DesertRose1958 on 04/02/2011 I agree.
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Latest post on 04 February 2011 - 20:15
leave an anonymous note?
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Latest post on 04 February 2011 - 17:44
yay!
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Latest post on 04 February 2011 - 05:30
We had a maid when I was growing up. My dad had an affair with her when my mum was dying of cancer in hospital. She used to try and tempt him by pretending her shower did not work and needed to use the one upstairs then she would wrap herself in the tiniest towel and run back to her bedroom giggling saying she forgot her clothes. Funnily her shower only seemed to stop working only when Dad was home. ugh. i would have poured nair in her shampoo. vile woman.
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Latest post on 04 February 2011 - 05:26
heh. you wana hear a maid marrying the master story? Dh is the product of such a marriage. His mother was the Burmese maid and father the Jordanian employer. It was very scandalous in that day, they had to move to London to get away from his first wife and the rest of the relatives. My mother in law is pure evil, corrupt and absolutely diabolical.
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Latest post on 02 February 2011 - 08:06
I don't know, but my younger sister will be coming here to study in the fall. (Uni).
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Latest post on 02 February 2011 - 01:41
whats the best nursery in the new dubai or downtown area?
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Latest post on 02 February 2011 - 01:25
me : I'll have the chicken please. waiter: how would you like your chicken done? Me: laughing... Cooked please. Guess what... It was raw in the middle.... Me: Could I have the chicken with pineapple Waiter: No we don't have chicken with pineapple Me: But it's on the menu Waiter: No maaaam we don't have Me: But it said on the menu that you have pineapple chicken Waiter: Oh pineapple chicken! Yes, we have that muahahaha
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Latest post on 02 February 2011 - 01:22
Eh, some people are callous and perhaps you and your son are quite popular? Maybe the other mothers are social climbers and took advantage of your friendship and now that you are moving feel like their sons need to fill the vacancy they feel he's leaving? (I know how horrible it sounds, but I've met people with less scruples). Anyway, there is a good book about children and making friends called 'The Unwritten Rules of Friendship'.
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 23:40
thank god you guys are safe!
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 23:38
And if you live in Columbia Maryland, you don't need to pay for schooling because howard county schools are pretty awesome. We don't have a choice here, the only children that get public PreK in our town are the children of military families or low income children. The rest of us have to put our children in private PreK. dope, forgot about that. but then, i've never raised children in America, only in the UK. blah.
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 23:07
And if you live in Columbia Maryland, you don't need to pay for schooling because howard county schools are pretty awesome.
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 23:07
yay! i need lots of skin so soft <em>edited by GoldinGlitterPunk on 01/02/2011</em>
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 21:46
well, i know your leaving the third week of feb, right?
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 21:32
haha mailed you first SamD!
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 21:13
arohadxb, Why?! Cheer up!
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 21:05
the nicest properties with decent fittings for a 'cheaper' price tend to be off island unfortunately, Al Bandar at Raha Beach, 2 beds about 140-150k and prices still coming down and then Al Reef 2 bed villas for about 100-110k now. Reem Island is imminently due for completion that should offer slightly better quality altho what I saw of sun and sky tower it was no better than my 5 yr old low rise building in town. Please bear in mind abu dhabi is about 3-4 yrs behind Dubai at least. Theres loads to do you just have to vary it a bit more and we desp lack that Marina or cluster style of nightlife but then taxis are dirt cheap between venues. As much as I want a nice new modern place, and mines not that bad, im also thinking how cheap other things are on the island as its all subsidised. our Dewa bills are about 90dhs a month at the mo, estimates at bandar ive been told are about 2000k a month due to the district cooling there. I'll get my sea view at the corniche thanks! again if you email me budgets I'll happily give you indications of what yuo will get and where. or post on here. Older style on island are anywhere between 80-90k upwards, new ones but tend to be smaller are about 120-130k + now. Sea views & facilities anywhere 180k upwards. and villas quite a bit more on island, cheapest ive seen are 250k. the property section on here is powered by propertyfinder. check that out. Hi GG, I emailed you!
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 21:02
Some people were really jealous - thought we were running off for a holiday in the sun and tax free dollars and were going to return with his n hers Ferraris. Sad, but true BMAP, this may be what they are thinking - You lucky sod, why doesn't this happen to me blah blah blah. Which we knew was absurd, truth was we were struggling with an enormous mortgage and had two kids under 18 months old. It was the best option to keep their mum (moi) at home with them, which is what we had always wanted to do with our kids. It hurt at the time, and as you can see, still hurts. Your true friends will put a brave face on it, wish you well and cry in private. Which is what the friends you will make here will do when you tell them you are going back home when your stint is over. it's a big reason I'm not telling anyone. All my friends (I don't really think they are my friends) compare every inch of my life with theirs. They suck if they were being fake towards you this entire time.
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 20:55
how long have you had her? how is she with children? how much is she looking for? I'm not in Dubai till mid to late feb. I think we have each others email addresses already, right?
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 20:47
whats a 'hooooooower' ? personally, i don't think dyeing your eyebrows is a good idea unless your hair is dark. i think people with light hair and dark eyebrows look really really really wacky. eyebrows should be the color between your darkest hair color and your *natural* highlights.
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 18:43
praying for kitty xx
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 18:01
I hope she's reading this!
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 17:40
We haven't told anyone yet. I don't think I'm going to tell anyone till the week I'm leaving. I don't do goodbyes well, and with moves and giant upheavals the least amount of time given to the public the less disruption my family faces. I only tell people who really need to know. but then we don't have many good friends right now, and my son is only 2. I may make a similar decision to yours when my son is older. I'm sorry your friends have been callous, hopefully they'll clean up their act soon.
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 04:17
i'm super hefty and i just got this harem pants jump suit. (I sound like a walking disaster--I know) but man, it's one awesome outfit!
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 04:14
In London we have a Japan Center that sometimes sells Hello Kitty Molds and sometimes cakes shaped as different cartoon characters. Does Dubai not have something similar?
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 04:12
The funny thing is the principle behind the fairy godmother has been proven so well by this thread. It's about helping someone who asks for help instead of judging them! it's not a bad principle to live by Amen Sistaaaah! I'm going to need a lot of fairy godmothers for my brood of children.
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 03:53
i paid an infant fare from dxb to karachi in october and when i came back i paid a childs fare in december (daughter turned 2 on dec 17 and travel date was 24) had to go to emirates office in karachi to pay the fare difference and issue a new ticket for her. Khatoon, You have a daughter? Thats soo cute!
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 03:52
Does anyone know what happens if your child turns 2 after departure but before your travel? (eg. flying at 23 months and return when LO is 25 months old) Did you pay for an infant price on the way out and a 1-way ticket child price upon your return?? Anyone in the travel industry that can enlighten me on this please? I think you can get away with it--just make sure to mention it when buying the ticket. We went to Hawaii this summer and bought an infant seat (he had just turned 24 months) and no one said anything. Although, I really wish I had bought him a seat of his own, and ever since that flight he has and always will have his own seat.
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 03:49
I was really hoping to get away from the constant bb buzzing. :(
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 01:41
And thank you lovely ladies for your sincere and kind words. Even if it is a forum, with a cart full of anonymous strangers, the solemn words bring a deep comfort that I have desperately needed.
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 01:39
Reading through all the responses to my original post makes me feel so much more 'normal' and a bit less alone. I'm truly,truly sorry for all the terrible losses that you have all experienced but I feel strangely reassured that I don't have to be 'better' yet and things will take time to heal. I've been thinking about my friends and perhaps I'm guilty of not opening up enough. I'm always the strong one in the family and I'm sure people think I can cope with anything. I guess what I can't forgive is that while Mom was sick nobody even sent a single text to ask how she/I was - for 4 months when they knew she was ill. (Not to mention all the months since) I know people find it hard to talk about these things but a quick message is surely manageable if they can't handle face to face? I've come to realise (painfully) that these people were never really my friends and it's time to find new ones. 2010 was a year of very hard lessons for me. GGP - perhaps we should meet?! Thank you all for sharing your experiences and advice - I hope it wasn't too painful you. I actually found writing mine down surprisingly therapeutic. Much love to you all xxxx VJDubai, I would love to meet! I'm actually looking forward to the move.
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 01:16
Haven't read all the replies, so excuse me if I've missed something or am repeating. Am speaking from an HR person's perspective... Like any profession, there are good players and bad players. She may have just struck an incompetent HR person. If she really wants the UAE job, I would be advising her to speak to the person who is responsible for managing her over there - presumably the one who had the interview with her and decided that she was "the one" they had to have. Screw the HR guy, who is just a messenger and may have his wires crossed or may not. Sometimes the communication between management and HR is very poor. But the one who is going to make any decisions or fight for her regarding her level of remuneration is the manager and up his/her line of command. Having said that, I too would be wary of taking that step to join the company. If it was a local job, fair enough, it's easy to say after a couple of weeks "this is not working out" but with UAE, it's a totally different story. she did email her boss+hr guy laying out the outrageous behavior and then the hr guy replied to the email right away, and sent a text message confirming a telephone meeting tomorrow morning to discuss. So I think we're all waiting to see what happens tomorrow. I'm just seriously curious about the work practices in Dubai now that I find myself packing up my life to move there. Until now, I didn't think lack of professionalism could be hazardous to your mental health...and now I'm learning that the crackberry addiction will never end. I'm a little concerned about working outside of work hours. <em>edited by GoldinGlitterPunk on 01/02/2011</em>
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 01:04
would it be naughty to admit we keep ours on vibrate?
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 00:18
and I thought the days of us sleeping with blackberries under our pillows were over...oh wait, I quit working so at least mine are.
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Latest post on 31 January 2011 - 23:19
Also (this is my own question) for my friend and all of you. WHY WHY WHY are they still responding to emails if the work day is over? Is Dubai a place where working hours aren't always respected (will my DH be a slave to his blackberry?)
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Latest post on 31 January 2011 - 23:06
HR always messes up everything. Show me a company without HR, I wanna join them. She should call her future boss here and ask him about what is going on. Depending on the reaction she gets she should make a decision: If he steps in and sorts it out fine, if not or hesitant, go for London. Good luck. Okay, so she's sat here (looking over my shoulder!) and she followed earlier advice and emailed future boss ccing HR guy. She explained the salary differences+time limits+no further communication and received a prompt email and text message back saying that they were unable to get approval for the slightly higher salary but that since she is entitled to 50 days of holiday, she can cash in 10 and achieve the higher salary (or however many she wants). HR guy has also asked to speak tomorrow at 8am. I feel like it might take too much time for her to get all required documents in a timely manner. How possible is it for the company to rescind her offer just because? (or am I just being overly paranoid--it's just if I was being treated this way, it's how I would feel).
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Latest post on 31 January 2011 - 21:25
While I don't know, it may be why she's upset. She's being treated unfairly and unprofessionally - both big red flags. Sorry, in that she was either treated better or perhaps similarly and was unhappy as a result of the latter. edited by marycatherine on 31/01/2011 Yes, I agree. I feel like they might be taking advantage of her gentle personality--which is really disgusting to me.
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Latest post on 31 January 2011 - 21:18
Tell her to take the London job. I think she should take the London job too, but she says this job is her dream job and the people she would be working with are people she's academically admired for years. Let her read these responses.........and then make up her own mind, you've done what you can. Just one thing, has she ever been to the UAE, for longer than an interview or a holiday? I know she worked in Dubai from 2002-2005. (no idea what she was doing though).
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Latest post on 31 January 2011 - 21:08
Tell her to take the London job. I think she should take the London job too, but she says this job is her dream job and the people she would be working with are people she's academically admired for years.