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Latest post on 12 November 2015 - 08:35
No CP, just coming over for a night to do some Christmas shopping (ugh) and thought I might squeeze a chiro in as well :)
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Latest post on 10 November 2015 - 13:04
Thanks Little one, sorry I should have thought of google! Will let you know if I find him.
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Latest post on 03 February 2015 - 22:21
I hear you Blondie, don't worry. x
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Latest post on 03 February 2015 - 22:11
Regardless of it's authenticity...they have committed such an act of atrocity on SOMEONE that I, well words are failing me. I just wanted to know the OP had somewhere to go for some support and comfort before they pull the thread, that's all.
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Latest post on 03 February 2015 - 21:47
MKZ, are you Jordanian? You poor thing. Do you have community here you can reach out to for comfort?
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Latest post on 31 January 2015 - 16:05
For you to sponsor your daughter here, you are going to need her Fathers permission. He will have to sign legal documents authorizing you to bring her here and to have full custody. You clearly know that this is not going to be a straight forward exercise, and you fear he will block your attempts to leave with her. You need a good lawyer. And you will need it to be sorted before accepting your new position. There is not much anyone can do here in Dubai for you, except maybe offer the recommendation of a lawyer in the Uk that is proven in this field.
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Latest post on 28 January 2015 - 08:56
If you are desert camping, I wouldn't worry too much about snakes...we very rarely seem them. Scorpions, lizards, spiders and beetles however...loads. For the most part you would have to actively seek them out though, they're about as interested in an encounter with you as you are with them. You just need to bare in mind that at this time of year it's cold at night and they will be seeking warmth. Just take sensible precautions: wear shoes and shake them out before putting them on. Keep your tent zipped and not just when you are in it. Use your (suitably clad) feet to over turn things like rocks and sticks before picking them up. Don't go poking your hands through those clumps of desert growth on the dunes. And take LOADS of winter woolies...it's really cold out there at night :)
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Latest post on 04 January 2015 - 21:10
Looking for 1 ticket please...standing Gold I think is the type? Will consider pretty much any type though if by some chance someone cannot use the tickets they have! thanks
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Latest post on 22 November 2014 - 22:02
What does your husband do? Does he work? have his own business? Just reading between the lines here, so forgive me if I am wrong, but it sounds as if your life here relies on you, and you are not getting the support from your husband. Doing it alone even if it just feels that way is going to grind anyone down. Generally I would say that we start a business from scratch because it is something we LOVE and are passionate about, and while sometimes (often long periods of time) the reality of it is just sheer bl00dy hard work, exhausting mentally and physically and it's hard to see the why of what we created in the first place it's still our baby and we put more of ourselves into it than is often healthy or wise. If you feel like running away then something in the balance of things is not sitting right. If it's the other way and the business was created through necessity rather than passion, then your feelings are utterly understandable. If it was me, I'd be having a wee chat with my husband as a starting point. It sounds like you have other dependents on your visa situation? (Again, reading between the lines) but if that's so, you have a lot of pressure on you from that quarter alone. Oh, and take a break. As a Manager of people your first priority is to have an exit strategy. Some one among the people who work for you must be capable of training, up-skilling and in effect taking YOUR role so that you can free yourself to grow the business without the clutter of the day to day paper work etc. Delegate. Train. Put yourself out of your position and take real pleasure in helping someone achieve that position and be really good at it.
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Latest post on 22 November 2014 - 21:28
Thanks, I'll try that and get back to you in the morning :)
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Latest post on 22 November 2014 - 20:29
So for about the last week I have been faffing about with the ipod and music. For a start, I couldn't get the music downloads to work, then I could, but after the first successful transfer of my purchases to the ipod I could no longer transfer anything. THEN, whilst trying to yet again transfer the music to the device, my ipod was wiped completely clean. The only music I managed to save in my Library were 500 odd Christmas carols of all things. Now iTunes doesn't even exist on my pc, I can't download it, neither of my ipods are recognized and it's all a bit of a mystery...annoying and upsetting. I've been googling, researching all over the place, had more iTunes/techno savvy people look at the situation and I've got no where at all. Has anyone had the same scenario? And what could/did you do to rectify the situation? Thanks
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Latest post on 01 November 2014 - 20:30
Ah Nomad...it's sad hey. Hopefully we have a future that has more understanding and support for new Mums coming/already here. Ummuhammad: a couple of things I thought about...could the invite to stay in your home have been seen as one they HAD to take up? As it came from the new boss, so they shouldn't offend by saying *no thanks - we'll stay with Aunty* ? An environment (and a stressful one at that, the pressure to perform, conform, impress?) that is different from her own adding pressure to an already volatile situation? A completely inadvertent situation, but a contributing factor? Again, not a criticism at all, just a random thought that popped into my head. Her husband could be happy at work today because she is safe in the bosom of her family and she can relax into it and be taken care of by family?
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Latest post on 01 November 2014 - 19:48
ummuhammad, I'm sorry, I don't mean my comments to come across in any way as a criticism of you. You did your best, with the knowledge you had, and avenues of action you had open to you at the time. I DO hope that the family she has moved onto manage to get her the help she needs. You opened your home, and it didn't go well but you did do what you could in very difficult circumstances. You sound like a very nice woman.
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Latest post on 01 November 2014 - 19:29
Why, thank you Redrec. Izzy, what you are saying is that mental ill health is ok so long as the behavior fits certain patterns, and that it is acceptable to you (being society at large). As a guest in some ones house, we should *control* our ill health, mental or otherwise. To do otherwise is to be labeled a ******. Lazy, crazy or otherwise. This particular womans behavior is unacceptable to you and therefore she should control it. Saying that to someone in the throes of any mental/emotional instability is akin to asking a fish to breath air, just because it finds itself on land. Her behavior, according to you, gives women REALLY suffering from PND or the likes (ranging from a few tears, emotional upheaval to full blown psychosis, I suppose) a bad wrap. Because her behaviour doesn't fit a mold you have decided is suitable for PND. Being quietly sad and out of the way, I imagine is preferable? Then she is a ******. Lazy crazy or otherwise. She needs HELP. She sleeps...escapism. (and mental recovery) She spends money she doesn't have on out of the way beauty treatments and mad socialisation...escapism and a desperate attempt to feel better about herself. The kids are filthy and ignored...lack of connection/empathy just as small examples of what could be going on There is SO much about this (condition) that is unknown or ignored, and when we (as women in general) label our sisters and brethren as biatches, lazy, crazy, or expect mental ill health to fit into nice tidy boxes just to suit ourselves and our black and white view of the world, we do the whole world a grave disservice.
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Latest post on 29 October 2014 - 22:28
I didn't realise that the symptoms of PND were being a b1tch, shopping and enteratinaing guests.... She sounds like a spoilt bugg3r edited by IzzyOnTheSeat on 29/10/2014 That's why I was asking if she had actually ever been diagnosed properly Izzy, your reluctance to let any one have any weakness what so ever shows you in a bad light. PND is hideous...like wanting to commit suicide, wishing you could or would kill yourself rather than carry on (or commit harm to yourself or others or the small people in your care) It freaking exists~! Being a strong person, having fortitude, will power, grit! Occurs hand in hand with this illness. It is a disease. You can not help it. I can't comment on this poor womans situation. I do feel she should never have been bought to this country at all, and that she needs help. And OP? Bless...you did your best.
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Latest post on 26 June 2014 - 20:50
Looking for insight please on Sensory Processing Disorder....do we have occupational therapists here in Muscat that can help? Thanks
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Latest post on 26 June 2014 - 17:11
Only utterly against my will :D
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Latest post on 26 June 2014 - 17:04
Oh, us too TB...12 noon today and I could cry with relief. Happily chilling with lil miss watching the Lego movie (love it, btw) and planning days n days and DAYS of sleep ins and couch surfing. *Big fat happy sigh*
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Latest post on 19 June 2014 - 10:59
They can and do issue emergency travel documents Izzy when passports are being held, are lost, stolen or otherwise being used against a person. In this case, holding her to ransom, in a manner of speaking. yes but can they do this for a child? I would be furious if they gave my child a new passport so that her father could do a runner with her.... am not sure that they coudl do this unless the mother has a court order saying that she can do this.... am not a international child custody lawyer but i would say that their hands would be tied.. Yep, that's why she needs to see her embassy and get their advice as to what she CAN do.
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Latest post on 19 June 2014 - 10:54
They can and do issue emergency travel documents Izzy when passports are being held, are lost, stolen or otherwise being used against a person. In this case, holding her to ransom, in a manner of speaking.
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Latest post on 19 June 2014 - 10:03
I'm pretty sure you can go to your embassy and they will help you obtain an emergency passport for your child based on your circumstances. Do you have or have access to all the other documents pertaining to the child, it's birth and your parentage? Perhaps the embassy would be a good point of call in the first place as they will be able to advise you of what steps you can take and perhaps recommend a good lawyer. Playing everything close to your chest and softly softly for now sounds like a good plan. If he's cunning enough to be withholding the childs passport already, then he will clearly not make it easy for you to go.
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Latest post on 17 June 2014 - 16:14
what would u do if ur husband is calling his mother overseas every other day?is it normal?i find it really not mature .my friend whose husband is from an eastern country does that .I told her she has to tell his to grow up .I don't have an idea about eastern mentality but it seems so childish.he told her that because his mum is living in a country that is enduring war he has to be sure she is well .what the.....??? The Mother in question lives in a country *enduring war*?? Stuff just the husband calling, I would be calling my MiL repeatedly, and the whole family! to ensure they were safe. Aside from that, if you have a man that thinks well of his family and his mothers wellbeing enough to call regularly, then you can rest assure that you have a Good Man. He will care for you, cherish you, put family (you and your kids!) first and will be an all round lovely man that won't let you down. Childish and not mature, is a wife who is jealous that her husband calls his Mum and worries for her.
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Latest post on 29 May 2014 - 09:39
1: The drive would be easily 45 minutes on a good day 3: Have a look at Madinat Qaboos as an area to live. Very near BSM, lots of expats 5: There are at least 3 (and possibly 4) Brownie troops in Muscat. Google Guiding Oman I think, and that will give you some details for joining 2: There's a new theatre Academy starting courses in September in Azaiba. www.aspirationstheatreacademy.com There's music lesson places as well, but I can't remember the names of them, sorry....but piano lessons will be possible to find. Can't help with the sewing lessons for yourself, but if you are on Facebook, have a look at a group called Muscat Where can I find....you'll generally find the answers to any question you might have there.
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Latest post on 29 May 2014 - 09:26
Each driver works a 12 hour shift, 7 days a week. Each taxi (the car itself) has a day shift driver and a night shift driver. If the day driver doesn't get his car back to base for the night shift he is fined. Each driver has a dollar target they MUST reach or they are penalized. Each call out that is not collected, driver is penalized and not awarded a new job for however long their system is. They must keep that 6dh flagfall on the their meter to avoid that penalty. Most don't start their meter up again for you until you both decide that 6dhs would have been used by now on your journey. The taxi company does this to ensure that taxis actually go to the call outs and not pick up someone on the road leaving the call out customer stranded and late. By all means, please DO call the RTA and complain. Lets get this driver another fine, censure, penalty and possibly cost him his job on top of the already grueling conditions he works under.
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Latest post on 01 April 2014 - 11:29
Thank you so much, arohadxb! I will surely adventure out into that area in Qurum. I went to Sabco center once, so I am somewhat familiar with the area. Can you tell me what is 'haberdashery'? Thanks for the liftoff.. looking forward to my new findings in Muscat!! Haberdashery....all the yarns/threads/buttons/zips/needles/pins/hooks/you name it...all in one shop :) Good luck.
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Latest post on 01 April 2014 - 08:02
There's a Facebook group called Crafty in Oman if you can join that, they should be able to point you in specific directions. The easiest to find haberdashery that I can think of would be a small place in one of the shopping centers over from the Sabco center in Qurum...these directions will be a bit muddly because I can't remember the name of the center itself, sorry :) As you go into the Sabco center area, Sabco will be on your right, on your left is the Alamari center. (theres a reasonable haberdashery on the 2nd level of that center too) keep going straight til you get to the 3rd center on your left. Its a small place on the 2nd level, packed to the rim with all sorts. The gentleman who runs it is very helpful and knowledgeable, you will have to ask for what you want as not everything is on display. There is also a very good fixed price fabric store in that center as well. If you can find your nearest Gharfour/Garfor/Garfoor (all the different spellings of it I can think of to help you on google) it's like a little piece of paradise. I like the one in the Seeb Souk. If you go into the Souk from the last exit off sultan qaboos highway (by the big seeb roundabout) you end up on the oneway system going through the souk on the right road for Gharfoor...it'll be about midway on that road, on your right...easily recognizable with all the cane baskets stacked outside. Happy adventure-ing :) <em>edited by arohadxb on 01/04/2014</em>
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Latest post on 31 March 2014 - 19:04
I'm not sure just who Jo Anne fabrics is, but I can tell you that the selection of fabrics, edcetera, far exceeds whats available in the likes of Dubai. Muscat is a crafters/sewers/knitters heaven in comparison. Have you just arrived in Muscat? What you need is someone to show you the ropes. You will not find everything in one area, one mall, one center. We have a whole area of *town* that is a souk for plants. There are many souk centers, any one of which will have more fabric and haberdashery shops than you could possible want.
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Latest post on 27 March 2014 - 09:29
And EW...please get rid of that forum addict thing you have just added. It's not in the slightest bit amusing. It's probably a hint to get you of this forum as aroha, and reinvent yourself. No matter what, it's going to create an amusing TNT today. ? Given I log in about 4 times a year I can't be faffed with the whole reinventing thing. Quite like the *like* button thing though....happy TNT y'all :) About time something interesting happened!
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Latest post on 27 March 2014 - 09:06
And EW...please get rid of that forum addict thing you have just added. It's not in the slightest bit amusing.
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Latest post on 27 March 2014 - 09:05
We can hike year round given the altitude, which is just great.
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Latest post on 27 March 2014 - 08:54
Bucketing! It's lovely, BUT it's bedlam. I'd be staying out of the mountains that's for sure. Real shame as we were supposed to be off camping and hiking in them too.
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Latest post on 27 March 2014 - 08:39
You might want to re-think that Izzy....the whole place is flooded currently.
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Latest post on 25 March 2014 - 09:13
The price of your visa depends on your country of origin, not whether you have a UAE residency. It varies from nothing to 20 rial per person.
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Latest post on 25 March 2014 - 09:11
Airport taxis are set prices. There is a booth outside the arrival hall, you give them your destination, pay, they give you a receipt, you hop in the taxi. I *think* the Shangri La offers shuttles to and from the airport....bare minimum you would be looking at 15 rial. The airport taxis will be more than that.
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Latest post on 19 March 2014 - 11:30
I like your style ilovewine. And if you love wine you may well love Blenheim. There are some amazing vineyards there. Platters of beautiful food and a glass of grape overlooking the vines, lush. Indeed lush :) Enjoy your holiday to check it out ilovewine! Musing on that forum, NZers can be a bit peculiar about *other* towns, other places, other countries and other people. We're also well known for our tall poppy syndrome. You should hear south islanders talk about Auckland! Given it's date, and given it's kiwis bashing other kiwis and most of them writing had nothing whatsoever (!!!) to do with the situations they found themselves in, I would take it with a pinch of salt. I've spent lovely holiday days there and never felt in the slightest bit uneasy even in places that weren't utterly devine winerys.
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Latest post on 19 March 2014 - 10:40
Hmmm, it would certainly be a very laid back lifestyle, and quite an adjustment for you to make from city living. As Daza said though, Wellington is a hop by plane and only 3 hours on the ferry so you could get your fix of what you did miss about the city that way. Nelson is a short drive. I don't think any city in NZ is as *cosmopolitan* as major cities world wide...it would depend on where you came from I guess. What are the reviews saying exactly? Kiwis tend to be in general friendly, but given a lot of people stay put I'm imagining breaking into a group of friends and making relationships wouldn't be that easy initially. I would go check it out if you can to get a feel for it, but I would certainly only go to live there if there was work lined up.
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Latest post on 19 March 2014 - 10:12
I can't give you any current up to date info about the area, nor have I lived there, but I used to live in Nelson many many years ago and the whole region is just to die for beautiful. National Parks, beaches, wineries, mountains and it's smack in the middle of the whole country. If you've a job to go to I would say go for it.
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Latest post on 02 March 2014 - 18:20
Good for you taking the Arabic lessons. Dress code, we're a little more conservative here if you compare us to say Dubai. That is to say that expatriates tend to cover their shoulders and knees and cleavage out of habit rather than be surprised to find that they should do so. Locals you will meet will tell you it's unneccesary but respect goes both ways I find. You will not be on your own for long while your husband works. The womens associations in Muscat are strong, busy and active wee groups. You will meet one person, and next thing you know, you won't have a minute spare. It's a very welcoming (and small!!) community generally. Sorry EW, but: Muscat is so small, everyone knows everyone etc, that Facebook have several open pages that are for more frequented than this forum. Families in Oman. Muscat-where can I find. Useful resources for answering any queries/worries you may have. Good luck with the move. <em>edited by arohadxb on 02/03/2014</em>
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Latest post on 28 February 2014 - 07:49
You poor thing....don't be frightened! Be excited. I can sincerely say that Muscat and Oman generally would be a wonderful first expat experience. Other expats and Omanis are friendly, welcoming and it's a lovely relaxed way of life. If I knew what sort of culture shock you are expecting I might be able to reassure you on those points? The driving here seems to continually shock most people I know from the Uk :) And you have to go to about 3 different supermarkets to get your whole weekly shop. I'm thinking very hard here, and that's all I can come up with!
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Latest post on 27 February 2014 - 08:21
What helped for us (I could have written the self same original post, so my heart goes out to you and your daughter) was a series of things. Brownies. One on one almost life coaching from a (trained specialist) counselor attached to the school. Sports training....team and individual. We went with netball and swimming, depends which way your daughters interest lies. Change of teacher (naturally as she went up a year...this years teacher is older, has grown up daughters and runs a tight ship. Last years was young, empathetic (too much so) At our school the kids stay in the same class from FS1 through to year 6, arriving midway through yr 2 she couldn't break into very established groups. We don't have the same turn over of people here as it seems we did in Dubai. Omega 3 and Evening primrose supplements for the precocious puberty. Growing pains - yoga, massage, swimming, warm baths. We had health issues as well, discovered she has scoliosis etc, so addressing that means she is no longer in pain. That helped! Our daughter is a bottler as well, so we talked,(and talked and talked) wrote her love notes (the boost that gave to her self esteem was noticeable and remarkable, immediately) We also have concentrated family time, and one on one time with her (both her Dad and I) I think I could write a book :) With our girl this is an ongoing thing, but she has made special friends, inside of her class, and outside of the school entirely. She has gone from a heartbroken shadow of herself, and so clenched with the self control she was exercising JUST to face school everyday to a bubbly wee maniac again.
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Latest post on 27 February 2014 - 07:56
Thanks ladies, you've given me some good leads. Wish me luck!
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Latest post on 25 February 2014 - 08:36
Thanks Lettie. I would prefer not to have to go to Wafi (only in town for a couple of days with a shopping list the size of a house!) but I'll keep that in mind if no one else has seen them more New Dubai end. Thanks again.
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Latest post on 04 December 2013 - 09:14
Actual cast iron ones Gladys? Awesome news! Thought I would be chasing a fairy tale, thanks.
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Latest post on 23 November 2013 - 00:15
It is not allowed to travel on your own with 3 infants. Appletiser is correct that you need one more adult and have a seat for the 18 month old. I am filled with admiration that you would even contemplate travelling with 3 infants! edited by Fiat500 on 22/11/2013 I have no admiration , I am filled with horror that you would attempt to do this and put other passengers through pure misery. Anyway,a a has already been said, 2 extra seats will be required. Remind me to sit next to you on my next flight will you Bubbling Creek? The sheer misery that my perfectly behaved small child puts our fellow passengers through is quite something.
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Latest post on 23 November 2013 - 00:10
Eleanorah...did you find some help? You can go to A&E you know...they will look after you til the specialists get back, or come on duty.
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Latest post on 18 November 2013 - 08:35
Quick update... Child btw, is blossoming here, which makes the increasing likelihood of their return home more distressing. Her Mum and I have had a talk (general conversation quite normal in our relationship) more along the lines of we may never know what has occurred with the childminder (her words) and when she does return to work alternative before and after school care will be found for the girl. There's an acknowledgement there that *something* was awry, whatever that may have been. So, I'll just keep being their friend and being there, and thank you all for all the valuable insight you've given me as to what is *normal* and normally acquired knowledge for this age group.
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Latest post on 18 November 2013 - 08:22
Also...doesn't Marks and Spensers have a formal section? I know friends here who have bought the shirts/ties/cuffs there at the last minute far more reasonably than we could have had them made.
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Latest post on 18 November 2013 - 08:17
Hong Kong gets my vote too....some of those rides (for adults) in Paris are outright dangerously rough. Just watch the heat in HK, we managed to give missy moo heat stroke.
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Latest post on 18 November 2013 - 08:14
Following this thread with interest. Can anyone tell me, just as a side note, is it possible to live in Houston and not drive? Thanks
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Latest post on 18 November 2013 - 08:13
Dinkydie...do the Womens Guild have a FB page? I've found that Facebook is more widely used in Oman for the sharing of knowledge and info. Perhaps do a search there. (Sorry EW!) The only thing I know about WGO is that they have morning teas fairly regularly and you drop your form off to them at those (as one option) Does the website have the info on when the next morning tea is?