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Latest post on 23 April 2013 - 06:18
I feel for you, I really do. Tattie Bogle, you could start with rescue remedy now? Kitty, a Dr here will prescribe you meds to get home, don't worry about that bit, and I do hope a kind soul will be around to lend you a hand. I'm the opposite...I have to get right inside my head and cant cope with anything else except the need to breath and get myself on the plane :( Just had a message from hubby... he has boarded his final flight on the last leg of his long journey home, and that storm has just broken here.
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Latest post on 22 April 2013 - 18:54
Buttercup, I like Lively Trish's take on this, and just to add another dimension... If the young madam breezed in and out to collect her things today, while her daddy was away, and with a friend....then I have to say that you should consider that she has engineered the whole thing. She sounds immature, and (just maybe) rather than 100% spiteful, the only way she could think of to move out and on was to create a situation where she could, and without objection from her Dad. You not being there created a vacuum. and were a handy scapegoat. She has played her dad, and wont grow a conscience about her effect on YOU til much much later, if at all. Might be worth thinking about? As to your hubby...well maybe he doesn't know how to handle raw emotion, maybe he cant be bothered? Maybe a whole realm of things and am sure you will get to the bottom of it. From what you say, he sounds like an insensitive p&^%$^k, but.
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Latest post on 02 April 2013 - 18:00
Oh, TB, I'll try, but I imagine i'll be internet free for the next week or so at least. I'll come back and give a progress report then tho. Given we're getting picked up at 11 tonight, what do you reckon my chances are of getting small she devil to go to sleep right now are? It's ok to tell outrageous lies under these circumstances :D
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Latest post on 02 April 2013 - 16:19
Thanks ladies...taking off tonight. Things have gone right down to the wire (typical) but we're good to go and really looking forward to this adventure :)
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Latest post on 02 April 2013 - 16:16
Lol! I hear you, hubby has driven me mad these last couple of days with lots of security related (and slightly odd ball) requests. Carrefour, by the luggage, they usually have a stand with travelers accessories...includes international adaptors, flight sox and all manner of *secure* wallets. Round the neck, waist and underarm just for starters. Good luck.
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Latest post on 29 March 2013 - 19:26
What an adventure Aroha, and a fab educational experience for your dd! Hope it all goes well! Update us along the way!!! Good luck!! Thank you...getting close to take off day and getting a squincy bit nervous :)
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Latest post on 29 March 2013 - 16:43
Seeb or Ruwi, no idea where exactly but they are our major souk areas. Best to join Muscat-where can I find on FB, some one will be able to give you detailed directions, am sure
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Latest post on 25 March 2013 - 10:09
No, the storage guy wont check it for you...oh blow :( I do hope you get the chance to go through it and bring home your treasures. We make the decision to store things somewhere believing we're doing the right thing to keep them safe, when it turns out we should have risked it in the first place and kept them with us. That was my mistake. TDB, when I was pregnant I did up my husbands Nanas glass fronted cupboard from when she first got married, (was in the knob shop ordering just the right handles etc in early labour and frightened the goodness me out of the sales guy :) ) and thats where I keep my glassware as well. (I collect that too!) nanas cupboard is in my shipment, and my nightmare is damage to that piece, it just means so much.
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Latest post on 25 March 2013 - 09:49
Oh, have hope Gorrobattie. My storage unit in Taranaki has been destroyed TWICE by tornados (what are the odds for heavens sake?!) and my stuff is ok....well it was when they went to pack it up to ship...I have nerves about the trip here, but, my stuff is on its way. Ok, so am more than just a teensy bit excited about it. And my crystal is coming too. Is there anyone you can send round to your storage to have a little look to put your mind at rest?
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Latest post on 25 March 2013 - 09:34
Ha, I am a china/crockery/pottery addict as well! 12 places is optimal. And have an everyday hard wearing crockery set, as well as a 'fine dining' set. 8's is ok for the everyday set. Avoid porcelain like the plague! And make sure you use your fine stuff, just because. it's too nice to hide in a cupboard waiting for special occassions. Am a teensy bit excited, I have over 300 pieces arriving from my storage in April that I havent laid eyes on in nearly 7 years! Havent the foggiest where am going to put it all, but hey ho :)
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Latest post on 25 March 2013 - 09:22
I think that as they get to be about 7 or so they start trying all sorts of new things and finding what they really like. I always differentiate between what we as parents are actively sourcing for her to do,(depending of course on what she likes and wants to do) and then after school activities as what she can *play* with. So far we've had a term each of football, netball, badminton and bootcamp this year, and she loved it all. At 5 they're still quite little and I think it's more about play and being social. So if your daughter likes to dress up frilly and go to ballet, then thats great AND it's a good activity froma parents POV in what it can provide for her socially and physically. For the football the only kit we had to buy was shin pads, otherwise all the activities were done in her normal PE kit, btw, so financially there was no outlay at all.
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Latest post on 24 March 2013 - 21:20
Thanks SM. we will stay safe. I'm more worried about my hubby on the roads in India this trip to be frank...now they are nothing to be messed with.
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Latest post on 24 March 2013 - 19:45
With a 5 year old, i wouldnt be too bothered about a skill for life....but what the activity can give the child in core strengths and values. Ballet is great btw, for sure they get to prance about in frilly costumes, but they're learning discipline, team work, to stand up straight! (thats very important) and the fundamentals. Go with it. Swimming is a definite at 5. Football, another great team sport and she can grow with it. And all the skill stuff is age orientated, great for co ordination, and its a lot of fun...that, what ever you choose, is the most imprtant bit. Instruments, (music) I would leave til 7 years old, and see where their inclination leads them a bit. Everyone in the whle wide world recommended piano for my daughters first instrument, for a whole raft of very reasonable and proffessionally inclined reasons. For 2 years she wanted to learn guitar, and I figure that kind of persistence should be rewarded despite all the best advice, so she has had a year of guitar lessons, is very profficient, loves it, practises without being asked and is developing into a very accomplshed (beginner) muso. Ha little bit of parental bragging there. What has astounded us, is she has been transferring her skills from guitar to keyboard for the last 6 months without any prompting or guidance, just from learning the music with her guitar lessons.
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Latest post on 24 March 2013 - 19:30
Am actually quite amazed that several people have put up with this and would again ( ?) to visit India...................and with a female child in tow? edited by spongemonkey on 24/03/2013 The point that I am trying to make is that with experience, a little research etc you know where to avoid, where is good and safe to go, and yes...i quite happily visit different bits of India with a female child in tow, safely, without incident, with and without hubby. Some places, I have covered up, done all the right things and was still a walking target, and yep, it was hideous. Just as parts of Egypt were (probably still are) hideous. And potentially dangerous. Needless to say, small child of mine isnt travelling around THOSE places, but she has gone to egypt with us, and India, more than once, and many other countries besides. For some, a resort holiday is bliss, for us, it just wont do. Just perhaps its a good thing that our girl will benefit from our experience and learn so much more about the world than the 4 safe walls of her compound? AND still remain safe? The OP has done her research, decided it isnt a destination for her family and has planned what is hopefully perfect holiday for them, good for her.
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Latest post on 24 March 2013 - 17:45
Enjoy your holiday. Personally not a place I would visit either at the moment. Having grown up in a big city, where crime is rampant, I have comfort knowing that the justice system works in the vast majority of cases. I don't have the same faith in India given recent reports and even reading comments below. Groping women being accepted by some that just blows my mind and where I come from that would be assault -so yes perhaps the rates may be higher but that might because most "groping" would be immediately reported and chargeable. I dont see where anyone has said that groping is acceptable, anywhere...not just India. I hesitated to use the word sexual assault in my first post, even though I agree, it IS assault and in SOME places it's a wicked risk, given it's so predominant. Having been assaulted in India, and Egypt for that matter in much the same way, places and circumstances, the best thing is to be aware of risks, choose your destination wisely and with care and research, and take all precautions you can. In my experience, the quick snatch grab and , *shudder* grope in India is unreportable primarily because they are crimes of opportunity, done on the run in crowded places and once youre over the shock of a hand up your foo foo, the perpetrator is 50 meters away laughing at you because he is uncatchable, unrecognisable and has melted into the crowd within seconds. Frustrating to say the very least, and infuriating for a husband bent on protecting you. Parts of India are very safe, others not so. There is a phrase in India...Eve teasing. Just a little insight into the mind and culture of some parts of a vast country where, a little like bashing an iguana to death, the *teasing* of women is acceptable, and almost a right of passage, in SOME places. I cannot reitirate enough how vast the country is and how very very different each part is. Of course the OP has the right to ask, it's HER family holiday, and well done her for researching where she will be taking her girls. India, even the known softer spots are not for everyone...it is an unrelenting country.
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Latest post on 24 March 2013 - 17:26
That would have been me I think, Mrs G (and I remember the help you and yours gave us with trucks one time...that was you, yes?) No longer in dxb, but you can contact Al Ihsan in Ajman yourself and sort something out, I am sure they would be only too delighted with your contribution. (Pay to have an arabic speaker phone for you though) Website from memory is www.alihsan.ae Otherwise, theres a really nice lady who supports a women and children charity in Shajah who more often than not can arrange to collect things on EW, but for the life of me, I cant remember her user name, sorry. Will post back if it all of a sudden pops into me head! hth
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Latest post on 23 March 2013 - 10:14
Yes, train stations/platforms, and unclassed trains themselves would be places to avoid. There are first class carriages, tourist carriages though, and travelling by train can be a great experience. I'd avoid the buses though. You can hire car and driver to take you anywhere very reasonably, and tuk tuks are a great way to get around for shorter distances. But not after nightfall in SOME places when the drivers indulge themselves in whatever their poison of choice is...but again, that would be in places where going out after nightfall is not recommended anyway. Marketplaces after nightfall just about anywhere (in my experience) would be a no-no. At the risk of making a gross generalization...Way Down South in India (Goa/Kerala etc) are great, generally safe places to visit.
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Latest post on 23 March 2013 - 10:06
I think you will find Londonlady, that rescue places here use dubizzle and the likes to post rescue dogs and cats in need of homes....what the below posters are finding frustrating is the sheer amount of unscrupulous people attempting to sell animals through the same forum. Puppyfarm animals/backyard 'breeders'and the like. Theyre looking for the right rescue animal to adopt and dubizzle is just one option for doing so. I think you might have misinterpreted RuthMs post as well.
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Latest post on 23 March 2013 - 10:01
so lovely, thank you for posting.
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Latest post on 22 March 2013 - 21:57
I cant go to petshops here, i just can't...its so heartbreaking. I get and believe wholeheartedly that by not purchasing these hapless animals that I create that one less space for another animal to bought in to be kept/sold/die. Everytime I'm at the vets theres a waiting room full of people with animals they have bought from petshops, sickly, dying...there is no good in this equation for either party. I want to rant about doing your homework before gettng a pet at all, and yet these people mean so well, as there they are, forking out thousands for their puppy farmed pups, that they love so well, that they couldnt leave caged in that god forgotten shop. :(
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Latest post on 22 March 2013 - 20:48
In a weeks time I shall be pottering around in India, for the most part travelling alone with my daughter. Yes, India is an *experience*, but common sense is your best travel companion in any country. The Lonely Planet guides have always been our go to gurus for off piste travelling. Of course some places are safer than others, some have known trouble spots, and a lot of places have no going out after nightfall warnings. We have never 5 starred our way through India, and while our requirements with a child are slightly different than our survive on $1 a day backpacking lives, we still manage very well. That includes public transport, off the beaten track experiences and many experiences of a life time :) I would urge caution if you were western females travelling alone, or in pairs in SOME places, and in some places even the glowering presense of a stroppy husband bent on defending his wife from presumptuous groping is not going to act as any deterrant. India however, is a GIANT country, each region so destinct from the other, that labeling the entire country as safe or unsafe is impossible. Sri Lanka is another lovely option, but not without it's own hazards. It's roads equal Indias roads for a start!
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Latest post on 22 March 2013 - 11:38
Fandrew, you could get in touch with Al Ihsan in Ajman, they're a charity that specifically helps women with no husbands, and orphans. www.alihsan.ae hth
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Latest post on 18 March 2013 - 08:16
We've been staying for the last 11 years (eek!) at a family run garden place. Right on the beach, quiet and so so beautiful. The garden is lovely and over all that time they've grown but without losing what makes them so special. They have an open air resturant and there are plenty of facilities and other resturants etc to chose from within walking distance. The jitneys go from the road at the end of their driveway to take you en mass around the island, and they will hire you scooters to get around that way. Back in the day, they were huts, and some of the origonal tile huts on stilts are still there, but now they all have a/c etc and theres family ones with lounge, basic kitchens, TVs!!! seperate bedrooms etc. It's run by the family, so service won't be prompt, is fairly eclectic and they're the nicest people. For me, it's the best beach...I don't really like chaweng, so staying at Maenam is perfect, and quiet. We've never booked, so not sure if thats an option but as they have proper villas on another beach down the road, I would say its possible. I'm blethering on here as I am so reluctant to post publicly the name of this place, i would hate to see it ruined by an influx! If this is the type of thing that interests you or sounds like what your interested in, let me know and I'll give you the name :)
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Latest post on 06 March 2013 - 16:37
Heading in the direction to feed/change etc differs from strolling around,looking at the latest arrivals while baby is crying...come on ladies! :) Also not saying ALL moms are doing this,but why do I see them all too often?I myself have a small one... so not in bracket of 'grandmother having a fit about young moms!' What you *could* be seeing is the experienced Mum knowing, the child is fed, clean and ready to sleep, walking it out til the child does so. It's a normal practise where we come from. Small babies CRY, they are not neccesarily hungry, tired, or in need of a change, or really even in need of too much comfort. Pick them up each time they murmer and be prepared to create a huge rod for your own back! Tiny tiny week to month old littles need you and your skin and your smell and to be wrapped up safe and secure (for the most part) but a 6 month to 8 month old babe knows already that if it squarks it will be either be left so it better get on with sleeping or it will be picked up up and fussed over so why should it sleep? You train it and set the tone for your kiddo and if a mum is getting on with her day out and about, then it is her routine and her training schedule and not for someone else to comment on or shred.
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Latest post on 06 March 2013 - 16:25
I'm sorry I somewhat derailed your thread Poppy82, hope you find the info and company for your LO.
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Latest post on 05 March 2013 - 10:33
This is why I had concerns about my mother and why she shouldn't be left unsupervised.... So he hasn't been bitten by a mouse, he has dengue fever!!! She meant mosquitoe not mouse!!!! oh dear oh dear.
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Latest post on 05 March 2013 - 09:08
Or it's an excellent chance for the hospital to make some money off insurance?
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Latest post on 05 March 2013 - 08:50
And I'm glad Dubai Mum, that you can be so flippant about what can be a very sensitive issue for some people...you have no idea as to why alot of people have only one child and for a lot of us, it's not through choice. Your 'suggestion' is at best insensitive. But do carry on and have yourself your laugh while Poppy82 does her best to face one of the major hurdles of raising an only.
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Latest post on 05 March 2013 - 08:29
How about a sibling for him? And the parent of every only child in the world just LOVES that particular suggestion. Poppy82, the only things I can think of that might be a starting point to meet other Mums n tots take place in the mornings, and I take it your toddler is at Nursery then? Theres the playgroup at Jebel Ali church...friends of mine made long lasting friendship for themselves and their kids through that. Not sure if EW still has Mums and Tots mornings at different play areas around Dubai, but something like that would be helpful too.
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Latest post on 03 March 2013 - 20:21
That school bell rings in Muscat on the last day of school and it seems that everyone, lock stock and barrel leaves the country. The hotels do cheap dinners, a beer and laundry drop services for the 'bachelors' even. In Dubai, we always stayed apart from a short break somewhere as a family, and we always managed just fine. There were people to play with...always people stayed, lots to do, and outside stuff was possible at the beach early morning and evening. Yep, Dubai gets way quiet in the summer, and it is lovely.....ghost town status has to go to Oman. We were so desperate last year we'd go to trips to Al Fair for fun! lil miss and I skated around the ice skating rink (whole place to ourselves) to the Quran being recited during Ramadan. Was actually lovely, just kind of surreal. You kind of know in Dubai that there is an exodus of families of sorts, but to experience it so thoroughly...wow. It was something else. Needless to say, I've been planning madly for this year! We won't leave for the summer, but we'll be better prepared to be so isolated.
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Latest post on 03 March 2013 - 17:51
It will help then, so long as she's not one of the people who can't use silicon (get some medical/pharmacist advice! lol) But i was really amazed and thrilled with how quickly the scar softened and faded. Mine was bad enough that it was pulling in so tight it was restricting movement in the joint, and that was reversed in days. Miracle stuff.
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Latest post on 03 March 2013 - 17:43
See what SueB says...I'm sure she will have good advise. I'm with Sam7. We have to be a bit pragmatic and practical, horrible as it sounds maybe, but it's true...there are just not enough (good/loving/forever) homes to go around for the amount of cats that need them.
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Latest post on 03 March 2013 - 17:37
Its far more effective than bio oil, but silicon can have adverse reactions for some people. You can use it on older scars as well...I had a particuarly ugly ropey looking surgical scar, and the cica care worked really well, even though I didnt follow all the way through with the treatment. It's not something that you can put on for 24/7 right from the get go though...from memory you start off at 2 hours a day and build up at 2 hour increments until you have it on more or less all the time. You wash the strip in between use, and you get about 3 weeks from each patch. They don't stick on well, so I taped it in place, and started off using them in the evenings, working up to leaving them on at night while I slept. But that was because it was a very visible scar and putting a dressing of any kind on it just drew a lot of unwelcome attention. But that was just me, I was a bit sensitive about that particular wound. hth
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Latest post on 26 February 2013 - 07:24
We don't seem to get much traffic on EW in Oman. There are a couple of Muscat FB pages that might give you more coverage in the time frame you have. Muscat- where can I find and then Muscat Mums, its the kind of job that may suit a Mum.You could try contacting the WGO...Womens Guild Oman,they could post for you on their website. hth
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Latest post on 23 February 2013 - 18:19
I have a feeling she has been busy with her boy? Just hoping all is well too.
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Latest post on 23 February 2013 - 18:04
Lately when I've gone to Dubai have been staying in hotel apartments along SZR...Pride Hotel Apartments rings a bell (sorry I cant be more specific, hubby does all my bookings for me and I have no idea how he finds these places!) for a lot less than Ibis etc. Astounding really, as the Holiday Inns etal have you in a very basic room only and these places have kitchens, far too many bathrooms, laundrys, lounges....far more than you need, right by metro stations, taxis on tap and right next door to the more 'budget' hotels.
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Latest post on 31 January 2013 - 07:34
Deciding how much pocket money and what for took me ages. There was the whole question of money for nothing, and then the expectation that simple household chores should be rewarded in some way. In the end we went with a set amount, the equivalent of 30dhs (for our just turned 8 year old) a week. Instead of it being payment for a tidy room, picking up after itself etc, all things we believe she should be doing regardless, it's based on behaviour. If it's vile it can lose 10dhs a go, 3 strikes and theres no pocket money that week. If the behaviour is exceptional in some way, we may reward her as well, but that is purely at our descretion. It's working well, for all the things that get demanded in supermarkets, now she has to conscider whether she really really wants/needs it as it comes out of her pocket. And it really is remarkable just how stingey a child can be :) She has a goal of an ipad, and currently has close to 1000dh saved, we're pretty impressed.
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Latest post on 20 January 2013 - 21:46
I wonder why her husband feels he might need to do this invasion of her privacy. Possibly she should ask him outright if he is doing this and make sure what she does on her computer is above board :(. Oh don't ask sueb, it's a horrible story :( and yup, I do get both sides of it.
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Latest post on 20 January 2013 - 20:29
Thanks simples, I have gone through that scenario with her already, but...it doesnt appear to be that, though I'm not sure what is getting lost in translation. Thanks Buckeye...will go to google now. x
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Latest post on 20 January 2013 - 20:15
oh dear, thats not good :( thanks for your help girls.
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Latest post on 20 January 2013 - 20:08
Not sure at all, in fact didnt know that was possible. Is it an actual device that could be found, or a software thing? Is there a way of telling ifsuch a thing has been done?
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Latest post on 20 January 2013 - 20:05
PS: sorry, also meant to add, that quite often hiring a driver would work out to be far more reasonable $$ wise than a taxi guy. hth
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Latest post on 20 January 2013 - 20:04
Starcare is reasonably close to the Wave, but you would need to drive (about 5 mins) for your Dr's etc. The Wave has a little supermarket, coffee shop, book shop, pizza express etc that you *could* walk to depending on where you were in the complex, but again...when it's hot, it's stinking hot and it won't be comfortable. Theres also a nice playground and beach, so you would have all those good things on your doorstep as well. For bigger supermarkets, again, you would need to drive, but you have a couple of choices really close to the Wave.
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Latest post on 17 January 2013 - 07:32
Al Hail is nice too, but again...further away still from TLC than the Wave. No, Flight and TLC don't have school transport. Some of the local schools have buses. There are a couple of private operators at Flight, but most people who don't drive/are working deliver their kids with a driver. I don't drive and have a taxi guy that I use, but that is a very expensive option.
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Latest post on 15 January 2013 - 10:40
PS: sorry, just saw you had asked about walking distance. If located in Azaiba, you *could* walk it in the cooler months, if you were around the school. But bear in mind that when it gets warm, and then HOT, even crossing the road can become fairly unbearable. Muscat really is a town that needs a car....it's long and thin and spread pretty much right down the coast.
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Latest post on 15 January 2013 - 10:02
Azaiba as a location is pretty handy to both Flight School, and TLC and the Wave. TLC is located in Azaiba, so you wouldnt have to do the Wave drive''(it's only about 10km, but it feels like forever if you have to do it 4 times a day, every day!)
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Latest post on 10 January 2013 - 09:17
Hey desertrose, hope the wedding went well and the munchkin looked devine? Just to let you know we're home, so feel free to come round and meet the babies anytime that suits you. xx
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Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 08:25
Oh, thats is so not good to hear DR. Will she be moving far from you? Big hugs, the wedding will be fine and beautiful. Rescue Remedy maybe? I'm flying in a day and already swallowing gallons of the stuff! It does help.
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 06:27
:D I think in 6 weeks or so they'll be about 4 months, so if it does work out that it's ok with the carer then they'll only be a month or so off being old enough to have their wee op. If they're still with me I'd be taking them in as a job lot...the vets lurve me;) All the best for the wedding, and a happy christmas desertrose. We'll see you in the new year. x
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Latest post on 15 December 2012 - 08:20
Sounds perfectly do able to me DR. Get them young enough then what ever their life is like is normal to them :) They'll just have 2 places to be terratorial about. Feel free to come meet them anytime, but I understand you have a busy, exciting couple of weeks ahead of you. x