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Latest post on 25 August 2015 - 09:46
LOLSIES - Couch Potato, i am LOVING your maid song - very Roald Dahl'ish - will share with friends!
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Latest post on 12 July 2015 - 10:13
The main issue is that your husband is requiring rituals but has not instilled believe in, love for and knowledge about Allah in a kind and gentle manner. You can reward kids with stickers and stars but they need to be taught the reason why and for who we do acts of worship like fasting. A huge foundation is missing in your family mainly because the one who is responsible for it has not practiced himself for a long time from what I gather from your previous posts and threads. So now he is trying to make up for it but by just harshly implementing rituals he is not going to instill Islam in his daughter's heart. Yes she should be able to fast at least half a day at her age, but then she really needs to wake up and have her suhoor. Even an adult that missed suhoor with struggle fasting that day plus it is a Sunnah (our prophet pubh did it) so it's important that she eats. Even school going children from a young age are prepared for when they are required to fast, slowly building it up. But in this case your daughter has not had the chance and in stead of being encouraging, her dad is watching her like a hawk which really doesn't help. You need to remind him again and again and again untill he gets it that he needs to be GENTLE when dealing with matters of religion. I would also suggest that once school is back on that you consider taking your daughter to Islamic classes for girls. Since you said your husband hasn't got a clue as to how to teach his child Islam properly, there are some amazing teachers out there who can and it will be a good opportunity for her to meet other girls. Try Al Huda Sisters, they are amazing, or JILC. Both in Jumeirah area. [b'>"The main issue is that your husband is requiring rituals but has not instilled believe in, love for and knowledge about Allah in a kind and gentle manner. You can reward kids with stickers and stars but they need to be taught the reason why and for who we do acts of worship like fasting. A huge foundation is missing in your family mainly because the one who is responsible for it has not practiced himself for a long time from what I gather from your previous posts and threads[/b'>" Yes, absolutely, I do agree with the above. As well as getting rewarded, the children need to understand why they are doing what they are doing and foster a love for their religion. Cherpie,I wish you the best. i didn't realise you weren't practicing either so your daughter doesn't have a Muslim role model in either of you. That does make things more difficult however please don't ever give up hope. In my opinion, its better for kids to be raised in two separate homes rather than one broken home - I speak from experience. I know you feel your options are limited. Don't waste your time being ashamed - your kids wont thank you for it and we all have issues of varying degrees in our lives Please connect with someone who can help TODAY.
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Latest post on 09 July 2015 - 10:54
This is really [b'>bad[/b'> and exactly the opposite of what a good Muslim parent must do - really I am very upset! I remember my dad used to encourage us by sticking up a Rewards Chart with separate columns for Fasting, Good Behaviour, Prayers and Quran and used gold star stickers for everything we were able to complete. There was also an AED 300 jumbo cash prize at Eid for whoever did the best and this created a lot of healthy competition among all 4 siblings. Please try and speak to your husband and recommend a gentler route. I can guarantee that scaring her will simply push her away from her religion and make her rebel when she is older - you will then really have a mess on your hands! My 9 year old son fasts the whole day but he does have Suhoor every morning - usually something full of protein like two scrambled eggs on toasted brown bread and a great big glass of chocolate milk - to keep him going. I also make sure he has his favourite food at Iftar like freshly made pizza or grilled chicken - this encourages him also. At age 11, your daughter should be able to fast (although still not required to) but doesn't have the supportive environment - also being the eldest is difficult as none of the others are fasting so even more encouragement is required, not condemnation! Our prophet Muhammad (peach be upon him) was a very gentle and soft spoken man and this is the example that a good Muslim father should emulate. I pray that your husband realises this before its too late Inshalla. Be the good Muslim mum that you are and continue supporting and teaching your daughter. I will make a dua for you and best of luck for the rest of the month! ;)
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Latest post on 04 May 2015 - 14:55
Not aware of any UAE law about when they can start pre-school/nursery.
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Latest post on 04 May 2015 - 14:54
It would help if you indicate what area or emirate you are in? My son started nursery at 1.5 years old as he was very social plus i didnt want him spending all day with the nanny - its totally down to the child and what you think they might enjoy.
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Latest post on 04 May 2015 - 14:37
Thank you very much for this information!
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Latest post on 08 October 2014 - 14:04
You will need to check your country's guidance. For the UK, they don't mind if the newborn baby has their eyes closed.
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Latest post on 08 October 2014 - 14:02
Hullo ladies, I too am expecting early Jan next year inshalla. Delighted to find this thread..was a long time coming! I am pregnant with No.3 and have 2 boys already :)
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Latest post on 30 July 2014 - 09:27
I doubt that Chubby Cheeks is a British nursery? I live right behind it and have visited it for my DS and found the students and faculty to be mostly Asian. We wanted a bit more diversity for my DS so put him in Moms Nursery instead - while the faculty are again mostly Indian and Philippino - we found the student population to be a good mix of nationalities. Its run by a lovely Emirati lady - don't think it has a British curriculum as such though.
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Latest post on 02 March 2014 - 21:06
I too am very very sorry for what you went through and are still going through! It is such a shame as I had my son in Welcare 2 years ago and my experience was great alhamdulilah. I pray that you get a healthy Bonny baby very soon...wishing you the best. Stay strong!
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Latest post on 23 December 2013 - 09:35
Hi Purple32, do you still have any ovulation sticks left? Would love to some off you if so! My email is [email protected]
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Latest post on 21 October 2013 - 08:31
wow thanks everyone for all the suggestions..I was just looking at the CentreParc website yesterday and it looks fabulous..albeit pricey! Will also check out Normandy and Brittany - thank you all!
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Latest post on 20 October 2013 - 08:14
Ladies, we are planing a family vacation for next year and have been considering camping in either France or the UK - now when i say 'camping' what i actually mean is renting a chalet, etc with amenities such as hot water, kitchen facilities, comfy beds available! What we are looking for is a stress-free holiday where the kids have other children to play with and things to do other than Ipad/Wii or over-priced arcades/play-areas! My boys will be 8 and 2.5 years old next year inshalla. We are favouring holidaying in the UK rather than France as we then get a chance to catch up with family as well- can anyone recommend a place where they have been to? We want it to be close to nature but preferably with facilities like a children's playground or pool nearby.. Appreciate any advice you can give. TIA
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Latest post on 05 August 2013 - 14:47
thanks ladies I have a few options here it seems! Have written to Mansi to start with...thanks so much...love the girls on here - so helpful!
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Latest post on 16 July 2013 - 10:35
Sakhifa, thanks for the suggestion.. I just looked them up. I think it would be more beneficial for her if she actually learned how to read in Arabic..once she has learned the arabic alphabet she can follow along with the digital pen to learn the correct pronounciation, etc... Thanks for your input in any case :)
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Latest post on 16 July 2013 - 10:32
Thank you, ladies...I live in Al Nahda 1 Dubai if that helps... I will google the digital Quran readers this minute!
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Latest post on 15 July 2013 - 10:26
Hi Vonvon, do let us know if Iberry were able to fix it ..the Wifi on my DH's iphone is not working properly and he has had so much frustration with different repair shops , some of whom only made the problem worse! Would love to know if Iberry are any good or not..
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Latest post on 13 July 2013 - 11:45
I use the baby snug from m&p.. You didn't mention how old your baby is but if they are over 10 months and anything like my son they will fling off the tray and try to wiggle out! I use it as a feeding chair as we decided not to get a high chair since we saw he eats well in the snug.. My bubs is 16 months old now and has all his 3 meals in it! Thank goodness for that as the thing costs an arm and a leg!
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Latest post on 16 May 2013 - 16:46
H ladies! I have a friend's birthday coming up and would love to take her to amara! Would anyone be able to spare a voucher off the entertainer body book for me? Am happy to give you any family/fine dining ones in return...pls email me on ayda247 at hotmail dot com..thanks so much:)
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Latest post on 27 January 2013 - 15:42
happy to lend you my DS's if you are stuck for one and dont mind that it gots a bit of wear and tear. Its an ELC one complete with fire helmet. Email on ayda247 at hotmail dot come if you would like to borrow it :)
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Latest post on 09 January 2013 - 14:29
yes, i took my dad there for his birthday..it was nice and the selection of food was good...they had sushi too which I love. the only cons i would say is that the restaurant is located right near the hotel entrance so its quite busy and 'open-plan'.. when we went it was also quite crowded and a bit cramped. the play area for kids is a bit far from the actual brunch...we still enjoyed ourselves though :) i would go again <em>edited by Ayda247 on 09/01/2013</em>
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Latest post on 09 January 2013 - 14:15
oh thanks Plum2! Do you mind if I take a look at them? I live in Al Nahda but i do I have a colleague who lives in AR - would you be able to drop by his villa and give them to him? Would have asked him to pick them up from you but he is a bit of a senior colleague so feel a bit funny about asking him to do this but I know he will be fine to bring something in for me.. If this sounds okay, i can email you his contact number..let me know and thanks again!
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Latest post on 09 January 2013 - 13:28
Thanks ladies - yes, i routinely do print out recipes from the AK website but would love to have everything in one book rather than miles and miles of printed paper if you know what I mean. Thank you for the suggestions though!
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Latest post on 09 January 2013 - 12:55
Hi ladies, my baby is 10 months old and I am running out of ideas on what to cook for him! Does anyone have any Annabel Karmel books that they wouldnt mind passing over or selling? If you do please email me on ayda247 at hotmail dot com. Thanks all!
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Latest post on 09 January 2013 - 12:24
I am interested! Email me on ayda247 at hotmail dot com and let me know your price please.
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Latest post on 07 January 2013 - 15:42
hi ladies, I know this is not the classifieds but I have a 2 year old Ikea futon that I need to get rid of pronto so i just wanted to check if anyone is interested. Its the one with the wooden base that folds into three sections and converts into a low sofa -very handy for overnight visitors! You can check it out on dubizzle : http://tnydu.biz/DXjEmS Ikea in the UAE do not do them anymore for some reason..If you are interested its yours for AED 400 ONO - please email me on ayda247 at hotmail dot come by tomorrow latest! Thanks all
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Latest post on 02 January 2013 - 10:01
i can recommend Dr.Naglaa at welcare. She is american-egyptian I believe..chirpy lady with a great personality and quick to respond on email or text for emergency questions! I also cant say enough good things about the Head Midwife there Amanda Retief, delightful south african lady, very experienced, and no-nonsense - loved her. good luck with your pregancy, take it all in and enjoy it :) <em>edited by Ayda247 on 02/01/2013</em>
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Latest post on 19 October 2012 - 11:34
DH and I rushed home from Fest City like two mad ppl only to find the ****** wrong episode airing - SCREAM!
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Latest post on 10 September 2012 - 19:55
Thank you all ladies for your comments - I can always count on you! Mrsbrown NZ, how kind of you to offer me your voucher - I will take you up on it! Please can you email me your contact number on ayda247 at hotmail.com? Have just read up a bit on the Rib Room and yes it does seem a bit more romantic than The Meat Co so perhaps a better idea! I will ring them tomorrow morning and make a booking ..hopefully its not too late and how lovely to have an Entertainer voucher to lighten my bill - thanks so much!!
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Latest post on 09 September 2012 - 12:44
Plumie, the Pure Fitness course looks really good but what a shame that its only in the mornings - what about us working mums, hey? What with the pathetic maternity leave allowance in this country, we only get round to thinking about exercise by the time we get back to work! Also, wish we had more exercise options/mummy boot caps, etc on the mirdif /gusais side where i live...everything seems to be new dubai side :( the good news is i have lost half a kilo in 2 days! i know thats nothing but believe me i wouldnt go a single gram under 78 kilos before... So...yesterdays brekkie: hot lemon water, pear, nectarine lunch: waitrose deli butternut squash and green bean plus a TINY bit of lasagne dinner: packet asparagus soup
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Latest post on 07 September 2012 - 14:14
thats it,ladies- i've woken up this friday with a new resolve - i need to shift this weight! its getting more and more diff to look at myself in the mirror lately and i hate the way my stomach rolls bulge thru my tops- my closet is full of clothes i cant wear! i am a good looking woman and need to get my body back in shape! So i woke up today and started my day with a cup of hot water and lemon ( to speed up metabolism) and two nectarines - that was brekkie! Lunch was grilled fish, half a bowl of brown rice and steamed veg (with a lick of garlic butter)...i will need to get back to to the treadmill atleast 3 times a week coz i am tired to feeling tired all the time! Sorry IHOP MOE i have been dying to try you but will have to wait for now :( edited by Ayda247 on 07/09/2012 <em>edited by Ayda247 on 07/09/2012</em>
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Latest post on 07 September 2012 - 14:04
I just add Puck half cream sometimes for a bit of naughty luxury :)
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Latest post on 05 September 2012 - 17:44
Lentil soup couldnt be easier to make - or healthier! Saute some sliced onions until golden, add chopped carrots and one cup of lentils plus salt and pepper (you can also add coriander if you like). Add hot water or stock (I pop in a maggi or oxo cube at times) and allow to cook. I use the orange lentils and they cook quite quickly..once done just blitz , add a dash of cream (optional and serve piping hot - yummy! its so simple to cook yet amazingly yummy and nutritious this was a staple in my house during ramadan :)
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Latest post on 30 August 2012 - 15:03
Hi Hilsbils, I have had 2 pregnancies and gained 20 kilos both times. I started picking up weight gradually through my trimesters. I worked right up to my last week but otherwise did no exercise as I had some light bleeding this time which made me nervous and shy away from anything 'overly' active..the most exercise i got was walking up and down the malls (which i did a lot of) and coming to work. I didnt eat more than usual really..i actually got admitted into hospital three times for food poisoning as my tummy went really sensitive this time and I couldnt eat anything except really really fresh food so i had to be ever so careful and so didnt really enjoy eating out. My weak point i have to say is my sweet tooth..i find it very hard to go to bed without atleast eating one chocolate digestive..although I am trying to do this less now. Pauls is my idea of HEAVEN :)
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Latest post on 25 August 2012 - 20:14
Many buildings in al nahda have chiller included - ours did for the past 2 years but they have taken that off when we renewed this year - SNIFF! Having said that, they did reduce our rent by AED 6K last year and 2K when we renewed this year. The terraces in my building are a normal size..big enough to comfortably hang out your washing and for our cat to sun in... check out dubizzle for the latest offers..also if you just drive around alnahda you will see loads of To Let signs and you can jot down the numbers. good luck! <em>edited by Ayda247 on 25/08/2012</em>
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Latest post on 23 August 2012 - 12:30
yes, available everywhere..just check in the baking section..
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Latest post on 23 August 2012 - 12:22
I dont live in ghoroob but DH and I did go recently to view an apt...nice enough but not as spacious as what we have now in al nahda..also their in-built wardrobes are quite slim and dont have enough storage really so this kinda put me off...we have lovely 6-door wardrobes in our bedroom at the mo. The pros i suppose are the 'community living' and being right behind mirdif CC...also is nice to just be ablw to go downstairs and have a walk and see a few patches of green..sigh.
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Latest post on 23 August 2012 - 12:16
Be strong..you will get through this with Allah's help. My advice if you want a speedy divorce is just ask for a 'khulaa' which means you will not receive any alimony but you will still get child support -also your husband can ask for 50% of his mahr/dowry back. I hope you are employed or that your parents can support you.
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Latest post on 23 August 2012 - 12:10
I live in al nahda 1 and we have double play elife..i think it depends on whether your building has been fitted out with fiber optics by Etisalat..
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Latest post on 22 August 2012 - 13:59
Thanks ladies.. The one from Lakeland looks like it could hold my bigger bags - yay! Hope they still have it..wish me luck! :)
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Latest post on 22 August 2012 - 08:22
you can get silicone ice cube trays from Ikea if that helps..
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Latest post on 21 August 2012 - 15:25
You can save a bomb by just taking your kids to the govt clinics who offer all the vaccinations for free! Just get them a Govt health card by registering them (go to the www.dha.gov.ae for guidance or call 800 342)..they will then assign you a clinic to visit according to which area you live in..you can then make an appt and take your kid there. I took my son for his 4 month vaccinations at mamzar clinic..perfectly lovely..modern and clean...nice nurse..no rush at all..and best of al - FREE! Thank goodness - at least SOMETHING is free in this country :) Just to add, you need to have a residence visa to get a govt health card <em>edited by Ayda247 on 21/08/2012</em>
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Latest post on 12 July 2012 - 08:10
Go Girl, you sound like a very responsible and compassionate person and cutting ties with your mum might bring regrets that will haunt you later. Take the opportunity to be honest with her about how she has made you feel - but do it for YOU - not because you expect your mum to suddenly fall down on her knees in apology - I suspect she may not! Still you would have atleast aired your feelings and got them off your chest. If you dont feel your visit will be valued then plan something else for yourself but keep communication ties open. Maybe try writing her a letter about how you feel..? Are you an only child? If not, do your siblings get the same treatment? At the end of the day, if your relationship with someone produces nothing but toxicity then you should not feel 'terrible' about keeping your communication with them to an absolute minimum. Mums are supposed to be our bestfriends and allies but sadly not all of them are - learn from your mum's mistakes and use them as lessons in your own life. Chin, up, my dear! <em>edited by Ayda247 on 12/07/2012</em>
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Latest post on 09 May 2012 - 17:41
had a beautiful epidural at welcare in march when i delivered my 2nd son via VBAC...the one i had with my firstborn first at Latifa Hospital was unsuccessful and resulted in zero pain relief followed by emergency section. my 2nd one worked a treat though.. i dilated to 10cms while watching a movie and chatting to my welsh midwife - God bless modern science ;)
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Latest post on 09 May 2012 - 17:36
hi ladies, i have five 2010 editions of the O magazine that i am looking to give away. I am a monthly subscriber and dont have enough space to keep each and ever single issue although i am mad for oprah and just adore her magazine..its quite pricey too here at around aed 49 per issue so i would hate to just throw them out! they are in perfect condition and chock a block with inspiring personal stories, housekeeping/organising tips, fashion, recipes, etc - its my monthly treat just for me and i would love to share them with a fellow fan :) anyone interested email me on ayda two four seven at hotmail dot com. cheers
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Latest post on 30 April 2012 - 12:42
dubaicat, are you sure you need to send one of the parent's passports with the babys application? we sent off my baby's app on 1st april and i dont remember reading anything like that in the guidance notes - or did you mean parent's birth certificate? my DH is british but i am not so we sent our original marriage cert, his original birth cert and copies of our passport plus of course baby's original birth cert and the completed credit card form. they debited our credit card 5 days later but still no word on the passport - 4 weeks now!
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Latest post on 21 March 2012 - 18:29
thank you all so much..i will take on all your advice inshalla. The gas control has gotten better in the past 3 days.... have my 2 week check up on the 27th so willwait to see what that brings! You are all right - i should be proud of my VBAC - didnt think i could do it in a million years - i will hang on to that and hopefully these stiches will feel better soon! Very nervous about $ex ..whenever that will be..but thats a topic for a whole other thread - haha!
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Latest post on 19 March 2012 - 16:02
i'll try to be more patient..am just freaking out that i will always feel this way and end up being incontinent!
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Latest post on 19 March 2012 - 15:52
Delivered via VBAC a week ago and have 3rd degree perineal tears :( they are so painful and am feeling miserable! wondering whether i should have just gone with a c-section! i feel okay otherwise just hoping these will heal soon but have heard some nightmare stories about permanent fecal/passing gas incontinence - am in tears right now! has anyone ne else had experience with this? i find i cant control when i pass gas and its so embarrassing! how long is this going to last? i am back to work in 2.5 months :( i am enjoying my lovely new baby but the pain is really getting me down.
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Latest post on 14 March 2012 - 18:46
Tanya, you're right, my lil prince arived at 6.21pm on 11th march and guess what,ladies? i had a VBAC! cant believe it myself..epidural worked beautifully this time round so i dilated to 10cms while watching a movie! the team of doctors and midwives at welcare were beyond amazing mashalla..after an hr and a half of hard core pushing DS2 arrived...have a perineal tear so stitches are quite sore but all in all a positive experience and of course over the moon with baby finally here...:) good luck to all the rest of u..ur in my prayers!