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Latest post on 15 January 2015 - 11:22
Artermis, I know. After 3 months pet sitting, [i'>we[/i'> were attached, and didn't dream he'd be staying! Though they took the dog, the cat was a newer addition brought home without a family consensus. Not excusing it but I find it hard to believe they never even ask about the cat. I was sending photos like it was a newborn! But still. Luckily we have the resources and like I said not the best case scenario, but it is the only home he knows and it could have been worse. We love him and next year, whether we are renting or buying here, it is already mandatory that it needs to be a pet friendly building. Our current Dubai place is not, but I am already thinking a year ahead. He's our baby! How nice of the family that was in the villa before you. WTF. Why get an animal?? Ugh, another thread! Glad he has you guys, too :) That's the silver lining, and hope he gets over his trauma. Ours isn't one bit traumatized conversely; it is 'nice' of him to let us stay in 'his' house as we feel lol I am going to try out some different food options based on the recommendations you have given, and thanks because I never would have thought of that. x
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Latest post on 15 January 2015 - 10:49
No she hasn't. Is there anything more for her to say? Poor thing. :(
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Latest post on 15 January 2015 - 10:46
As Redrec said. I would avoid Dubai Mall souk but can't recommend a specific place unless it was a large amount (5kg +). Also, if you have in mind what discount you expect off spot, like 3% going into it and are armed with the LBMA price of the day that helps. You can say you want 1% off spot and then argue for 2% and settle at 3%. 2-3 rounds of bargaining for "best price" usually suffices. Would actually love to know, myself, what the souk is offering these days.
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Latest post on 15 January 2015 - 10:24
[i'>Not a place you want to let cats outside due to cruelty, poison in random places, and a lot of strays.[/i'> OK Beebers, understand. In that case, definitely better he doesn't go outside and from what you've said, he has no desire to do so. Beyond that, maybe check the dry food because I reckon some brands contain ingredients which have a frenetic impact on feline behaviour. As Izzy says, perhaps consider adopting one of the strays to give yours some company? Of course the downside of that scheme is that if they've don't get on, you've doubled the problem and in general I think cats are fairly solitary creatures. Despite all the awful sad stories here, I have never considered getting another cat because ours is so territorial I know the arrival of cat 2 would drive him mad. It's so sad that there are so many places where cats have such a grim existence. Tragic that so much of the world is such a dismal place for humans and animals. Sad stuff. I will definitely check the food. Any particular kind you would recommend that are somewhat easy to source? Agree, agree, agree on the rest. Just driving around our neighborhood there, my heart breaks. The way we "inherited" ours was a scenario that began with pet sitting of sorts, and turned into "we are not taking him across the world with us after all" three months later. (!) By then, he was quite attached to DH. We hate that he has to be without him sometimes, but the little guy seems pretty happy, he rules the roost there, and we know it could be much worse for him. Bringing him to Dubai once a month is not an option. To bring in another cat would be irresponsible, I think, for playmate purposes, as finding a good fit might not work out. I think ours is like yours. Sometimes he sits on the bar and watches the strays on our porch with wide eyes. God knows what is going through his mind, but somehow I doubt he wishes one was inside playing with him. <em>edited by Beebers on 15/01/2015</em>
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Latest post on 15 January 2015 - 09:55
Hi Ladies, Can anyone recommend a good place to sell gold? I don't feel like being ripped off at the moment so somewhere tried and tested is what I am looking for. Many thanks Elisabeth Gold in which form?
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Latest post on 15 January 2015 - 09:50
Does he need a playmate? Other that DH ;) Izzy, yeah I think DH would be relieved lol. I totally thought of that. Once we get him fixed, that is something I would like to explore. I wonder if he would be overjoyed, or if he would feel completely betrayed with a rival for his affection lol
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Latest post on 15 January 2015 - 09:32
Artemis, thanks for your input! He's a Persian mix, we think, looks a little like a Shirazi. Besides getting up to follow DH when he goes anywhere, he is about as tame as a piece of furniture for the most part. He will play with his toys by himself a couple of times a day (he has a ton) and the house is fairly large, a 3000 square foot one-story. He sprints through the house at times, "chasing ghosts." Aside from that DH plays with him (almost) every night, to wear him out so he doesn't wake him up at 3am. I am not often there, this is in our other house out of country. Not a place you want to let cats outside due to cruelty, poison in random places, and a lot of strays. He seems to have no interest in going outside, as he runs and hides when we open the door to come or go. He has always seemed pretty content with his setup, but the increased neediness the last 2 weeks has us scratching our heads. ETA: with the food, he gets a little wet food each morning, and tuna 2x a week. Other than that he has dry food that is set out in the morning that he pecks at throughout the day. I wish we din't have him just with the maid 5 days a month but we don't know what else to do right now. <em>edited by Beebers on 15/01/2015</em>
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Latest post on 15 January 2015 - 09:10
awww - he loves him...... Really he got in the shower with him.... running water and all? I often get out of the shower to find multiple sets of eyes staring at me and one of them knocks on the shower door when i am in it...... if you neuter your cat you are actually helping him - he will be less hormonal, will not be needing something he's not getting, more empotionally stable, and you will reduce his risk of multiple different types of cancers.... get them off ASAP. He's got a few rituals like breakfast at 6am, and sitting on the ledge looking out the window from 8-9am (he likes to watch the vegetable vendors ride by) but other than that, he is attached to DH's hip and always has been. We caught him curled up on DH's shoe brush and polish, how is that comfortable? Anything of his is nap space. But this shower thing was like WTF. They're definitely coming off.
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Latest post on 15 January 2015 - 08:39
As long as he is older than 6 months you are good to go. ;) Thanks :) We *think* he is 7 mos. old, so that's good enough for me. I know as soon as I mention your "looking for a date" comment DH will have him at the vet pronto, instead of thinking he is just being needy lol
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Latest post on 15 January 2015 - 06:57
Hi Beebers, I would fix him ASAP, sounds like he might be looking for a date ! Next step could be spraying to mark his territory. I know a few men who feel sympathy for males who get neutered ! Recently took a stray male cat in and even the vet admired his endowments, he is an enormous fellow.....Seriously they live a healthier and longer life and I am sure your boy will be a lots less needy and god forbid but if he ever got out he would be less inclined to wonder. Well that settles it. I am going to lay down the law. Thanks, Nomad! :) He thought he was too young, but apparently this is not the case. <em>edited by Beebers on 15/01/2015</em>
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Latest post on 14 January 2015 - 19:47
mum2girls, It does sound like something happened when you were away. It's possible they might have become slightly wilder after a couple of weeks without much human affection. Does your maid actually like them or does she see them as a burden? Maybe the best plan is for the adults to show them a lot of love and affection but maybe advise your children to not pick them up until you figure out the reason for their apparently changed behaviour. By the way, what cat food are they eating? [b'>Certain dry foods can make cats very manic, maybe switch them to a wet diet for a while.[/b'>... Really? I wonder if wet food would help ours. I almost started my own thread, sorry to hijack here, but our cat is acting like a needy nut. He's always been quite a character, but lately DH said he is following him around everywhere. Like, he hopped in the shower with DH and scared the daylights out of him. Now he makes sure the bathroom door is locked, so he cries. (the cat, not DH). He sits on the keyboard when DH is trying to respond to emails. Every time my DH turns around, he is there staring him down. Talks ALL day. Meow, meow MEOW meow meowwwwww, mew mew. The only time he seems to rebuff affection is when my DH is actually relaxing and would have the time to pet him and play. Are cats just weirdos that want to interrupt everything you do? The cat is alone 5 days a month and with the maid, but this is not a new setup. I suggested fixing him, but he is a 100% indoor cat and DH is against this for some reason. We like his personality, don't even mind the sneaky-divebombs attacks, but the sudden neediness is weird.
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Latest post on 14 January 2015 - 18:00
I might be way out of left field, but here are my thoughts. Religious inclination used to be high on my list of of deal breakers with potential life partners. But what it interesting, is that my own beliefs have changed dramatically over the years, especially since my late 20's. I also learned through failed relationships is there are a lot more deal breakers that come to the surface once you start playing house. How each of you handle finances and how you will as a couple and how you argue are just two examples. I am not saying you will change your mind about your religious beliefs, but other priorities and vaues may change. My DH and I have very different ideas about the big picture, but share common ground in almost all other areas, especially regarding respect for one another. Since you said you are not fundamentalist (sorry I don't know the term for "strict") I don't see that as insurmountable. If your potential husband is intent on your wellbeing, loves you, cares for you, and respects you, then that is what is most important. If you are deeply in love as you say, it is time to quit avoiding the subject, as all you are doing is having conversations in your head and speculating about events yet to come. I get it, if you are afraid of finding out what you fear, but it's high time. Just curious, have you brought him round your family when you are celebrating a religious holiday as a way to test the waters? <em>edited by Beebers on 14/01/2015</em>
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Latest post on 14 January 2015 - 17:30
"Burnt the bill" Clearly google translate at its finest !! lol Have you answered the burning question?
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Latest post on 14 January 2015 - 16:12
Being totally blunt here - i wouldn't go on a second date with a man, let alone consider marrying him, if he suggested we went dutch. This. Nor could I date a man that was always whatsapping...anyone. Reminds me of my 11 year nephew
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Latest post on 14 January 2015 - 14:53
Normal is just a setting on the dryer. However, this behavior isn't likely to change. Ask yourself if this is how you want to spend the rest of your life. I can't imagine someone who seems to be as mature and responsible as yourself paired up with a 39 yr old man going on 18.
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Latest post on 14 January 2015 - 12:12
I had a 4mm cut I was worried needed stitches, and called around clinics near to me--ranged from 1500-2500 dhs in the Marina/JBR area. Medcare, Emirates hospital, etc. Alas it was National Day, and none of the clinics I called had their "suture person" on staff. Thank goodness med tape worked. The prices seem to vary a lot. I don't understand "burnt" either!
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Latest post on 13 January 2015 - 17:57
Tedious and painful, yes. But I think anyone I have met on this forum would sudsy even medicine if they were inspired to. I've never read however Many Shades Of Grey - not too talented with fiction - but I know if it were a topic that would interest you, you'd learn about it, whether it was in a book or sitting with the people who know it and finding to what to do and how it works. You are full of life, beebers. I'm definitely full of something :) x
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Latest post on 13 January 2015 - 17:28
Not that it is the only accomplishment of yours or the only impressive thing about you, but I am thoroughly envious of anyone that could concentrate on the tedious reading material and memorization necessary for obtaining a law degree. I wish I was built for that. I got an original copy of the Ancient Wisdom for Christmas and I am embarrassed I have only gotten through 10 pages :(
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Latest post on 13 January 2015 - 09:29
Neither of my Sisters are wealthy and both chose to be stay at home Mums. Not every Woman wants to go back to work nor leave their children with a maid. It is a personal choice Hear hear LC Same here. Besides, what about women who do not have children who choose not to work here? I know plenty of women who said it is not worth it, example, the admin type job they had back home paid $4,000 a month whereas the same position (with extended hours) paid 4000 dhs monthly here? Add dry cleaning, transport, and everything else--it just isn't worth it.
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Latest post on 13 January 2015 - 09:04
If you want to save good money whilst in Dubai, watch your outgoings, and have two incomes - and not a non existent TA salary, get a well paid second job. For child care use your maid and use your evenings / weekends wisely for homework and reading support. So many western women come over here and just stop working - you wouldn't do that in your home country, unless very wealthy, so why on earth would you do it here and still expect to save. Fine not to work and and put your priorities elsewhere but don't complain about lack of savings and life getting more expensive. Majority of countries in 'developed' societies rely on two wages coming in for people to attain the material life they want and save for the level of comfort they want in old age. Ladies - step up, re start your career with some proper personal and monetary ambition. That's making a lot of assumptions. Not working doesn't equal a lack of ambition! It can be ridiculously hard to find work here, and just because one is not working doesn't mean one is not looking for work
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Latest post on 12 January 2015 - 19:54
My avatar took forever! I thought maybe it was that my cat appeared to be giving the bird, so I switched to a different shot of him lol
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Latest post on 12 January 2015 - 17:56
Nice :) I organize the ornaments like an OCD'er, making sure I have equal of every color, and mapping equal intervals for hanging. In between baking like 3 dozen fat cakey sugar cookies for the just two of us, while pouring brandy, and then saying...omg we need to order some actual food, neither one of us is fit to cook. lol
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Latest post on 12 January 2015 - 17:31
haha! So exactly what "does" CP "do?" Monitor the Nog? ;)
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Latest post on 12 January 2015 - 17:20
I begged my DH to help with that ("you have ONE job") but it just didn't come to pass, he left out of town the 2nd. It seems like the stupid box for that thing gets smaller every year.
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Latest post on 12 January 2015 - 17:08
Sandy Dawg, you need to take your Christmas Tree down!!! LOL I was going to say the same thing but did not want to sound rude hahaha I took my actual Christmas tree down early, on the 7th :) Have you all done that yet?? Last year it was up until nearly Valentine's Day
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Latest post on 12 January 2015 - 16:14
I paid for my son 1200dhs, he came in on visa visa on 2nd December, I sponsored him, I was told he has grace period of 10 days, I was shocked on 10th when he was exiting, he had overstay of 10days. First day 200dhs the rest 100dhs What AMER services told me on the phone is that the 10 day grace periods are only for those who have Visa On Arrival status, not sponsored visit visas or tourist visas. Honestly, it is hard to keep up with the changes here. That's a pretty stiff fine :(
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Latest post on 12 January 2015 - 13:34
Thanks Beebers. So will they charge on the 40th day or the 41st? I did not ask AMER, oops. I would think the 40th. I have gotten charged on the 39th day. I arrived on a morning, and exited the evening of the 39th...so technically it was my 40th day.
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Latest post on 12 January 2015 - 12:23
I do know for sure the first overstay day fine is 200, then 100 each additional day. Actually, I thought it had been that way for a while, happened to DH and I last year when we overstayed 2 days. Now on the grace period being taken away, I would also like clarification on that, So I'll be calling AMER ETA: Just rang Amer, and they said nothing has changed for passport holders from the 30 odd countries that have VOA status. I asked if this still applied for visa runs to Oman, and she said yes, as before. I asked who the withdrawn 10 day grace period affected, and she said it is for tourist or visit visas that are issued through their immigration office. <em>edited by Beebers on 12/01/2015</em>
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Latest post on 12 January 2015 - 11:08
My husband and I have been to SensAsia both on the Palm and at Emirates Golf Club -- you could have a drink outside afterward probably in either place. Genie -- the reason that some couples go for massage together is that it's the only (legal) way in the UAE for a man to have a female massage therapist and some men (my husband included) aren't comfortable with another man providing the massage, so it's a preferred option for them/him. It's not legal? The masseuse I go to was referred to me by a male friend who sees her...confused
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Latest post on 12 January 2015 - 10:54
Finish Dishwasher cleaner - it's a flattish square bottle that you invert on one of the prongs..We've never used cheap tablets - always Finish although I sometimes buy ownbrand rinse agent, depends what we can get. Personally I've never bothered rinsing plates - might as well not have a dishwasher !! lol Thanks, DT, I'll try that. You know, I always used Finish powerball until one time they were not "Buy 1 get 1"--so I tried the Casino brand, and have to say, I like them better! lol, what can I say, old habits die hard in re: rinsing. DH is worse than I, sometimes I honestly can't tell if he has run the dishwasher or not
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Latest post on 12 January 2015 - 10:38
Actually i would buy an LG as LG products are good and have excellent service system. As for products, you buy dishwasher salt, dishwasher rinse aid and then your washing tablets. I tend to buy Waitrose own brand or finish when on a deal 2 for one which is quite often. I love our LG dishwasher! I think most of my neighbors do, too, because I often hear the jingle it plays when the cycle is finished coming from other units :) Maybe you don't need to rinse dishes, personally I don't mind doing it as it takes mere seconds. I was just taught to do that by my Mom.
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Latest post on 12 January 2015 - 08:37
Do you plan on rinsing your dishes, etc. before placing them in the dishwasher? I would use washing up liquid (and rinse of course) to remove any excess grease or food before placing them in the machine. We use the Geant brand combo tablets, the blue and orange. I can't tell you exactly what the features are because it's in French. :) DT what do you use to clean once a month?
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Latest post on 10 January 2015 - 19:45
Maktoum airport direction? Flames are 100's Metres high! Terrible edited by Cornish Pixie on 10/01/2015 dammit! can'd find a news source..are you just seeing it firsthand? :( edited by Beebers on 10/01/2015
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Latest post on 10 January 2015 - 19:22
mine is wild, and I prefer it that way! total Bohemian here. Problem is, I got a horrible haircut and need to blow it out in order to hide it. I have been watching the youtube videos (no life!) and it looks unimpressive. Maybe I just need a better round brush, like the GHD
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Latest post on 10 January 2015 - 18:53
Can't remember the thread, but supposedly this gadget is the panacea of combination heat styling? Someone had just bought one of these and I wanted to know if it was living up to expectations! ETA: INstyler...sorry <em>edited by Beebers on 10/01/2015</em>
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Latest post on 10 January 2015 - 08:37
........M & S sell food? Learn something new everyday!
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Latest post on 10 January 2015 - 07:59
Beebers and EmmaRitz - I can assure you that many people I know are not on packages. We pay our own schooling , flights and housing which leaves around 25% of our salary to live on. I know several expats similar positions but [b'>yes you're correct you probably wouldn't move in the same social circles because unless it's free trips to beach or visit to food courts then most expats in that situation don't really go out.[/b'> It's def on the increase for companies recruiting and not offering packages. I know several families who in the last year have moved back to home countries but husbands stayed here, simply cos the companies are not paying packages and it's unaffordable to stay out here. Is that how my post came across, like I am being some kind of snob? It simply happens to be that, save one, the friends I have met here have never taken out a loan. Several of them left Dubai promptly when it no longer made financial sense because they no longer got housing, and I agreed with Velma, that seems to be the direction companies are going with packages. Many single friends of mine share flats with 1-4 roommates rather than take out a loan. What I was not aware of is this kind of prevalence: [i'>That's one of the biggest reasons why the first thing many new expats have to do on arrival is go to the bank and get a huge loan[/i'> according to Velma. (I don't know how to do multiple quotes) DH and I would not consider that, we'd go elsewhere, as we have done in the past when living somewhere does not make financial sense. Sometimes, that has meant he was living in one country while I lived in another.
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Latest post on 09 January 2015 - 18:52
Velma, I agree with your posts on this subject regarding the direction Dubai is going with its packages. Maybe I just don't get out much, but in 4 years DH and I have only known 1 individual who took out a loan to survive here. Do we just not get out much? The people we know (including ourselves) wouldn't come out without a package which included housing, or, they are bachelor types that just find roommates and have cash-rent situations (very prevalent)
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Latest post on 08 January 2015 - 19:31
I think the OP is asking the wrong question. It should be how old is too old for a teenager. great point!
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Latest post on 08 January 2015 - 18:38
It is certainly handy if you just want someone to come get your junk--now--today. But I have no experience with the reselling. Cash Converters are also cheapos on their offers?
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Latest post on 08 January 2015 - 17:49
What about cash converters? they seem to have a great reputation I have only used "take my junk" who apparently pays sometimes, however my stuff was truly junk and no monetary offer was made :)
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Latest post on 08 January 2015 - 16:36
Looks like there is a breakout of Measles in the US with ties to Disneyland; they all had that in common. 6 of the 7 cases (children) were not vaccinated, although they state that 2 of the children affected were not old enough for the vaccine. http://edition.cnn.com/2015/01/07/health/disneyland-measles/index.html
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Latest post on 08 January 2015 - 16:33
Not if you are a passport holder from one of (33?) countries that get the additional 10 day grace period.
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Latest post on 07 January 2015 - 19:46
What is EVOO? extra virgin olive oil, affectionately :)
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Latest post on 07 January 2015 - 18:35
When you're on the forum and want to log in you can actually do it without leaving the page you're on. Nice :) YES! :)
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Latest post on 07 January 2015 - 18:30
All great ideas! Not one I thought of lol! You ladies are the best, thanks. I'm inspired to go revive my dead dry meat now ? lol! let us know what you come up with.
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Latest post on 07 January 2015 - 17:40
Shred it and make tacos :D
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Latest post on 07 January 2015 - 17:38
I could not agree more about positive contributions, that is why I posted my previous comment in the spirit of positive advice. I actually have friends on here so not strange that I would drop into the forum over my morning cup of tea, friends are also something that you keep from anywhere in the world too. edited by Di@DXB on 07/01/2015 You drink a lot of tea... lol See, QS? Now we are picking on Di. :)
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Latest post on 07 January 2015 - 17:35
You should of called. Not emailed. I wanted to send the email ASAP, couldn't call at 5am. But I did call today after sending him 2 emails and got a reschedule!!!!! I hope it goes well!!! Wish me luck ladies. That's great news! Knock 'em dead.
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Latest post on 07 January 2015 - 17:33
Several of my Mum and Dads friends including my Mum died in their 40's all from with a variety of cancers. There were 6 of them in total. They all would be in their 70's now. I often wondered why there were so many people diagnosed in the 1980's Possibly for a different thread topic, but over the last few months I have been astounded by how many people at home have been diagnosed with cancer. People from in their 40's upwards. It really makes you wonder what is going on, or what went on. I watched a documentary recently on Chernobyl and think there is much more damage that has been done to many countries than we were ever told or will ever know. This is a great point, and it may be a while before we realize the true fallout of disasters. Think Japan. I also have seen very interesting documentaries about the testing they did for the atomic bomb in the SE United States and how it affected many, including the cast of John Wayne films. There is a lot we will never, never know. Sarahlou, I'm really sorry about the loss of you Mum and your parents' friends at such a young age. that's awful.