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Latest post on 12 June 2013 - 15:43
Just checked and the photo isn't too big :( I think it is my flipping laptop! (or me!!) Thanks BBmover, I think I am going to need it lol
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Latest post on 12 June 2013 - 15:37
Yes it does, but didn't think the photo was that big!! Better go check! I am useless at this stuff! Thank you BBmover :)
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Latest post on 12 June 2013 - 15:27
Have been trying to upload a photo for an ad but nothing is happening at all! I am on my MacBook Pro, could this be the problem? TIA
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Latest post on 12 June 2013 - 13:38
Bump
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Latest post on 12 June 2013 - 13:05
BCup let us know if there are any goodies that the EW will snap up. Top of my list: * breadmaker * air fryer * coffee machine :) you need more gadgets? really? You can never have enough gadgets, that is why I am taking mine with me, including my air fryer! Can't bare to part with them, even down to my zester lol
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Latest post on 12 June 2013 - 11:51
Gentle bump :)
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Latest post on 12 June 2013 - 11:50
Hi Buttercup You can also use this site to sell all of your goodies. This is one of the first sites that expats visit when they move here. Just click on the classifieds tab in the top right hand corner and start selling. Good luck!! EW Admin Thank you Admin. Going to get everything sorted then just upload it all at once!!
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Latest post on 12 June 2013 - 11:47
Don't mean to pry but does your impending move mean this story has a happy ending ?? :) Pikachu, I don't find that prying, you ladies were there for me when I needed someone x Answer to your question, yes it does :)
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Latest post on 12 June 2013 - 10:12
Hi Buttercup Been thinking about you and hope this move will be a nice fresh start - good luck wtih your new life in Thailand :) OK so Dubizzle - here's what to do: * Post all your non essential items now - coffee table, rugs, pictures, lamps, vases, bookcases, dining table and chairs etc * I am sure you have nice stuff so you can charge decent prices. The items going for 100dhs or less are the things that were already bought second hand from cr@ppy stores! There are loads of expats arriving all the time who shop on Dubizzle and are willing to spend good money. I've bought loads of nice things on there from the One and paid good money so don't go rock bottom * Nearer the move date, start selling white goods and things like crockery, sofa, TV, DVD player. Yes the house will be sparse but all you really need in the end is your bed. If the cooker goes, well you will have to eat takeaway! Now is a good time to have an open house sale * Last week - sell the bed. It is a good idea to have this advertised from weeks in advance, and arrange pick up on your last day. * If you really can't sell stuff then use Take My Junk - they are excellent and can show up at short notice. They take anything and everything. You will be surprised that you can make a decent amount of money, don't think no one wants your old dustbin or breadmaker or iron or whatever - 100aed here and there soon adds up. Yes it will take patience and time to weed out timewasters but then you will prob find a young couple rocks up and buys loads! Always show other things you have for sale when someone comes over. Good luck!!! Hi TDB, Thank you so much. Things are looking up and the both of us are looking forward to this new start. Everything noted! I was just going to give away small stuff thinking no one would want it, but you are right, every little helps. Going to get it all done (she says lol ) over the next couple of days. You do not realise just how much stuff you have until something like this happens lol
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Latest post on 12 June 2013 - 09:49
Loube, thank you so much. I had a gut feeling we should start right now. Some stuff we have only had around 8-10 months and know we are going to get very little for them because there is so much out there! I do have a suite that I will be giving to take my junk so will use that if we get rid of the one we are using. Off to get the camera out :) Thanks again :)
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Latest post on 12 June 2013 - 09:10
Hi Bellauk I have been told on here that you collect clothes for a charity. I have a few black bags full of women's and men's clothes that I would like to donate. As I don't drive, could you possibly pick them up from me? Thanks
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Latest post on 11 June 2013 - 13:42
I asked immigration if non residents can have an E-gate, the answer was a straight forward no. My friend got one two weeks ago, he isn't a resident and never has been. He was told over the phone no, I suggested to just go to DNATA anyway. He did and they gave him one without any bother at all.
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Latest post on 04 June 2013 - 21:16
Oh dear! Is there anywhere else you can sell? I have a villa full of stuff I will need to get rid of over the next 5/6 weeks or so + two cars!! Would be grateful for any advice. Sorry to hijack, never done this here before! Buttercup, what cars are you selling? If they are Nissan Armada's or Ford Expeditions, I am interested! Park and Shop adverts always do well for car sales. Afraid not, we are selling a Dodge Durango and an old merc convertible!
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Latest post on 04 June 2013 - 20:10
Oh dear! Is there anywhere else you can sell? I have a villa full of stuff I will need to get rid of over the next 5/6 weeks or so + two cars!! Would be grateful for any advice. Sorry to hijack, never done this here before!
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Latest post on 03 June 2013 - 20:28
Need to get a big joint of beef for the meat eaters but don't think I could get enough from them, need around 20 individual portions of halloumi wrapped in red pepper so think I might need quite a bit!! So looking forward to having everyone around, I just hope everything goes to plan! Thank you so much for your help again ladies :)
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Latest post on 03 June 2013 - 19:47
That's great, will pop in tomorrow and get some :)
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Latest post on 03 June 2013 - 19:26
Thanks guys :) Lakeland I can try. I actually don't live near any kind of shop lol It takes at least 20 mins to get anywhere and I don't drive!. Please remind me, is there a Lakeland in MOE? I was in one recently but can't remember where it was!! Forgive me old age has certainly settled in!!
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Latest post on 03 June 2013 - 18:54
Having friends around for a bbq and need to be able to tie up some food before cooking over the coals for my veggie friends. TIA :)
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Latest post on 03 June 2013 - 17:52
I have some you can have, leaving Dubai soon so you are welcome to them :)
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Latest post on 03 June 2013 - 14:21
You can do it yourself, it just involves a bit of running around and paperwork. DKC's fee for doing our dog was 3500aed on top of all the other costs so we will save quite a bit by doing it alone. Maybe ask Feline Friends if anybody there can advise you as I'm sure they know people who've export cats. I'm doing that with one of the dog charities and giving them a donation for their support. I'm going to Thailand with my dog and I had an agent recommended to me at that end. I meet up with them recently in Bangkok and one of the bosses spent over and hour with us answering all our questions and providing lots of reassurance. I now feel very comfortable that they'll be meeting our dog at that end. They are Dynamic Cargo: http://www.dynamicaircargo.com/ Good luck, I know what you're going through! That is what I think I will end up doing. We won't have that kind of money to spend as we have 4 cats and will have their flights etc...to pay for! I don't mind the running around, I just have no idea where to start. Thanks for the tip of Feline friends, I need to get in touch with them anyway as I have a load of books they can have. Would have no problem giving a donation either. We got two of our cats from them. We were thinking of flying with the cats, think it would be less hassle that way. I know there is a form that has to be submitted for the import of the cats. Will have a look at the link, thanks for your help :) How are you doing it? Where are you starting? Might have a word with our vet to see if they can steer me in the right direction.
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Latest post on 03 June 2013 - 09:54
not sure about the exact name, but it has to do with animals (not much help, eh?) sorry! It isn't important, I was just curious lol
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Latest post on 03 June 2013 - 09:42
Hi, Buttercup Plum = collects for Rashid Paediatric Therapy Centre Indimus = collects for Sharjah charity KKS = collects clothes for workers. HTH :) Hi Sunlight, other than KKS what do the others collect? Is it just clothes or is it anything?
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Latest post on 03 June 2013 - 08:48
household, i agree, contact take my junk - they are fab. old clothes, contact bellauk on this forum - she's just collected 3 bags full of baby clothes from me for her charity. HTH Will look into that as well. It is going to be a couple of weeks as haven't even started yet. Out of interest, what Charity does she support?
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Latest post on 03 June 2013 - 08:46
You can contact http://www.takemyjunkuae.com/What_we_take.html. they will take anything and are pretty helpful That's great, just what I wanted. Thanks :)
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Latest post on 03 June 2013 - 07:29
Thanks ladies. I have already contacted Pet express but have a feeling it is going to be too expensive so will need to sort it all out myself. I will wait and see though. Nomad - I'm doing good thanks. We are really trying to make things work and I believe we will so things are looking up :)
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Latest post on 29 May 2013 - 20:07
I kinda get what you are saying but, what if a woman was left on her own, maybe her husband died. No family, nothing, is she supposed to just lie down and die herself instead of trying to get a job somewhere to put food in her mouth and maybe her children's? Are these men prepared to look after all these women so they can stay at home? It is very sad in this day and age that a man (or woman) feel they are threatened just by the mere presence of the opposite gender for no reason or than they are Female/male. They have had to have had some very strong influence somewhere in their lives to feel like that surely?
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Latest post on 29 May 2013 - 19:47
But every religion that I know of and any kind of normal human being would not accept this. No one's God preaches abuse or violence against anyone or anything! How can all these men hate the female gender? Don't they have mothers, sister, aunties, grandmothers, daughters! Do they hate them all! It is totally beyond my comprehension!
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Latest post on 29 May 2013 - 19:31
http://gulfnews.com/news/gulf/saudi-arabia/working-women-should-be-molested-saudi-writer-1.1189861 Strange way of thinking..... Not just strange, but scary that 97,000 people have openly agreed with him. How can anyone condone abuse of any kind against an fellow human being regardless of their gender.
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Latest post on 29 May 2013 - 19:16
Many times your Egate card doesn't work it is because dry fingerprints do not work on the scanner machine thingys. Tip - just before doing your finger/thumb print, wipe your brow with the required finger and then press. The oil on the tip of your finger creates a better print. ;) PS. Then get the wet wipes out. :D Will try that next time. Thanks for the tip :D
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Latest post on 29 May 2013 - 18:50
OP, if you are from one of the 33 countries who get visa-on-arrival in Dubai (no paper visa) then you can also have an Egate card even though your residence visa is cancelled. If you take your old Egate card to DNATA they will update your record from resident-tourist and your Egate will still work. Unfortunately if you are not from the 33 countries then this is not possible. The company I work for cancelled their licence so therefore my visa, got a new licence and I am waiting for my new visa to be processed. In that time my e-gate expired. I was/am on a visit visa, I just went to the DNATA office and they just changed the details and renewed my e-gate. Every time I have been through there has always been someone on the desk, good job to, as I think in the 4/5 years I have had an e-gate card it has only actually worked twice! I don't even bother trying anymore. As for people trying to get through without a card, earlier this year I was in a long queue at the e-gate counter and most of the people in front of me didn't have a card, but they stood there and argued with the poor guy behind the counter to let them through!
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Latest post on 26 May 2013 - 16:10
What about flying lessons? Parachuting? Race track day? Sailing lessons? Deep sea diving lessons? Something that would get the adrenaline going and he would remember forever! http://www.dreamdays.ae/
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Latest post on 15 May 2013 - 22:08
Nippy it is wonderful that EW was there for you when you needed help.It is a wonderful forum,I wish I had joined years earlier but sat on the sidelines before plucking up the courage..... I think your plight touched each and every one of us,I was in tears reading what you were going through,short of actually being able to be there in person our messages and thoughts are the next best thing. You have done an amazing job just getting to where you are right now.Keep up the good work rebuilding your life. Nippy, I read what you were going through when it happened, didn't comment, didn't know what to say but my thoughts have always been with you. You are so strong, no matter what, I do believe you will come out on top. Madaboutpink I can not even begin to imagine what you are going through right now.After 25 years ,most of your adult life,you are expected just accept and reboot. As Gorobattie said he DID NOT destroy a Family he has destroyed his relationship with the family......don't give him power he is not entitled to. Please know I am thinking and praying for you and your family. Madaboutpink, different situation but my ex-sister-in-law, was married for over 30 years, her husband walked in from work one evening and said, I'm leaveing, I've met someone else, I don't love you, I haven't for years, bye! He didn't even bother with the children. Tell you what though, 3 years down the line, she met my brother-in-law and they have now been together for 15 years. She has said to me, she thought she was happy before, how wrong she was, she was just used to her life, plodding along, she has now found happiness. It is so very very hard, but you are strong and you WILL come out on top. To Buttercup hope you are doing OK and are sorting things out. I'm doing ok. Things are getting better. We are seeing a counsellor and we both are trying. If it works all well and good, if it doesn't, then it's just not meant to be and I now after all the heartache accept that. Getting the support from you ladies and reading other women's plights, makes you feel stronger and not so alone. Also people that I knew recognised me by my situation, mentioned it and I have now found friends I didn't know I had. You know who you are, thank you xx Big hugs to you all edited by Nomad on 15/05/2013
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Latest post on 14 May 2013 - 09:36
Thank you for the *hugs* Nippy35. You are an amazing woman. I hope the happiness you deserve is just around the corner for you and your children xxx
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Latest post on 08 May 2013 - 20:53
Really enjoyed the ice-cream girls. One that I have started watching with David Tennant that is very good is The Politicians Husband. Watched the first two episodes, it is being shown on a Thursday don't know what time. Certainly worth watching :)
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Latest post on 08 May 2013 - 20:32
Opposite Sharaf DG,at Blomingdales' end. Hope I'm not wrong, been only once by metro at DM. You are right about Bloomingdales, I used it for the first time myself today! What an improvement! No standing out in the hot sun for buses! Loved it. Didn't take long to get to the fountains at all, I was headed that way today :)
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Latest post on 08 May 2013 - 20:28
I got one last year from Diera, a couple of streets behind the gold souk where they sell the material and nick knacks. There were two sizes as in eg uk 8 - 16 and 16 - 24 something like that. Can't remember exactly how much I paid but I think it was around 300!! Might be wrong though. Should be easy enough to find :)
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Latest post on 04 May 2013 - 13:22
Got it bblue, thanks x Call or text anytime x Thank you, I really do appreciate it x
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Latest post on 04 May 2013 - 12:55
Got it bblue, thanks x
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Latest post on 04 May 2013 - 12:43
bblue, thank you so much for your help. I have no idea what I will need to be honest, this is all new to me.
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Latest post on 04 May 2013 - 12:20
Thank you bblue, I will have a look now.
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Latest post on 02 May 2013 - 23:21
Just remember you deserve the best and you deserve to be happy. If he is not willing to be there for you, he's not worth it. Better have 6 cats and eat chocolate every day! Would love the six cats, but the chocolate!!!!err no thanks!!! Lol
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Latest post on 02 May 2013 - 22:13
We had a problem with an external hardrive crashing a couple of years ago , it was only photos on it but they were important to me. We were sent to this guy, can't give you precise directions. It was opposite Burjaman mall and computer mall, very small place but he asked what we wanted retrieved, told him and he did it!!! Sorry I can't be more precise but we went from pillar to post that day!
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Latest post on 25 April 2013 - 22:30
Thankyou to everyone who has given their advice.... unfortunately, the insurance policy is worldwide but the insurance companies are finding loopholes... i.e. if he was to leave then he would no longer be a UAE resident, therefore no longer entitled to cover but the main priority is to get him back to the UK so they can do some more tests :-) We will however definately contact them and ask who would they use if they were to cover!!! I will also look at the Air Ambulance also. Many thanks I have been led to believe that to lose your residency you need to be out of the country for Xamount of days, which translates to as I have just been told 6 months! Would check on that to be sure, don't let the insurance scam you, if they think they can, they will. My thoughts and prayers are with you, good luck
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Latest post on 25 April 2013 - 21:35
Yep that's it, no more taxi service. People in their late 20s and early 30s are old enough and earn enough to sort their own transport out. Sick of being taken for granted. Thanks ladies, if someone makes you question yourself like this and is so ungrateful then they truly are toxic and I don't want someone like that in my life... No you don't! You owe them nothing and what you have to ask your self is, if they were not in my life, would I miss them? If the answer is no, then get rid of. Look on it as clearing out your wardrobe, nope this is no good anymore, in thee bin it goes, space for something good and worthwhile.
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Latest post on 25 April 2013 - 17:17
I might be wrong, but I cannot see us getting through this. I cannot forgive him for listening to his Daughter, I cannot forgive him for thinking her complaining about me getting upset is acceptable and he won't forgive me for his daughter leaving. I know it is all still fresh and only been a few days, but I can't see it ever leaving me. We are going to a marriage counsellor so will just have to see what comes of that. I do know all finances and we have a property in the UK as well, so if we can't work this out then I will probably go and live there. I am lucky, I have a good family at home and no small children to look after, so it is just me. I really admire you mrsb, after what you went through and in the end came out smiling, it takes a special kind of person to do that.
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Latest post on 25 April 2013 - 08:42
Mrsb, how awful for you and your children! You deserve the happiness you have now x I am going to see how it goes, but at the same time have a plan in place. Things happen sometimes for a reason that we are not yet aware of. Maybe this is one of those things. It might be to sort ourselves out for a life together, it might be apart, but whatever the outcome, I do know everything will be ok. Talking to all you ladies, has cleared my mind of the confusion and because of it I am feeling a lot more positive today, thank you all :)
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Latest post on 24 April 2013 - 23:35
Hi, I know this has been answered before, but I thought I would try again! I have been here since September and I enjoy Dubai. I moved with my husband and we are both 31 and working here and are British. I have really struggled to make friends since I have been here though. I don't have children, so automatically that avenue is ruled out. I also work so I can't attend any coffee morning. I have made one or two friends at work, and I have been for a drink a few times. But I haven't made any others! I would love to have a few really good friends to go for coffee with on a Friday morning or lunch etc etc. I have taken up horse riding since here, but it is just me and 2 Arabic men in my lesson (!) I have been to the autodrome with my bike on Wednesdays, but I just ride and don't talk to people as people already go in groups. I am hoping to get good enough to go for the group rides, but I'm not there yet. I am a member of a gym but haven't randomly started a conversation......I'm not sure what else to do! I thought I could maybe try some of the gym classes. Does anyone have any suggestions of how I might get through this stage as I feel quite lonely.........Thanks! I have found this site great. Have met some lovely people. http://www.meetup.com/find/ Chin up, you will find friends :) have a good look and join the groups you are interested in, I'm sure in no time you will be thinking, I could do with a quiet week/end :)
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Latest post on 24 April 2013 - 23:15
How have you been, Buttercup? xx Not too good :( seen a doctor today, been put on blood pressure tablets, my stress levels are sky high, anti depressants and Valium + trying to refer me to a counsellor. My Doc told me to walk away from anyone who tries to upset me. Because I had to pay and claim back from insurance seeing this doctor (I took to her straight away, she really is lovely) my husband was not happy. I sent him a very calm and rational email this morning pointing out how wrong he/they were. Just asked him to step back and read, take in and think about it. He didn't get back. When I told him about the tabs the doctor has prescribed, he said thank god you just might calm down now! I then told him she said I should have the support of those close to me, I got such a nasty email back. Told him not to bother answering if he can't give me support so he hasn't. He is due home tomorrow night, that's ok. It Friday I'm dreading. His daughter used our shop and ship without us knowing so I had to pay for a package yesterday for her which really pee'd me off. So I have been told, Friday (his only day off) will be for his daughter.if I don't like it then let's make the split as easy as possible. One thing though on his defence he has agreed to see a marriage counsellor. I feel so guilty, so many people are in a lot worse situation than me and yet it's me that is falling apart, that poor family that need a nurse to get that guy who is in a coma back home safely. I cannot imagine being in that situation, my heart goes out to them and i really hope they have found someone to help. Sorry for the essay and the waffling, other than my doctor,i havent spoken to anyone since Sunday night when i arrived back, ( probably a good thing lol) had anyone who cared since EW Monday. allovertheworld, thank you so much for thinking of me, I can't explain to you how much it has meant xx
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Latest post on 22 April 2013 - 22:55
I have been through something almost similar. Last year my father was killed in an accident. And my mother in law sent me an email saying the most hurtful things about my mum (long story... medalling MIL and talks about everyone, especially my family and i had had enough after my father died and asked her to stop it)... it was the worst feeling ever just having buried my dad and hearing these things... I ended up getting the worst anxiety from holding in my feelings about her and not being able to talk to my husband who is a mummys boy about how it was affecting me.... so much anxiety turned into depression!!! I also am alone here and my family is all the way in NZ. I saw a physcologist and it was the best ever!!! i got to say all i needed and got to understand why i was feeling these feelings and to learn not to let someone else control my feelings. my husband saw how depressed i was getting (he thought is was from my fathers death) and i told him everything and what it was doing to me and he understands me and is there for me 100%... I don't know what i would do if he wasn't there for me!!! just try to be positive and not think too much about your step daughter... but i totally know how you are feeling and its not nice. dxbqueenb I so feel for you and am glad you were able to work everything out and your DH was there for you. . I know I'm depressed because of stuff that has been going on and no one to turn to. I can't stop thinking about my step daughter because I am trying to make sense of what is going on, she is areally nice woman. I am going through everything just in case I pushed her away/excluded her etc...but haven't so far come up with anything. I have been hoping my husband would have been in touch at least to find out how I'm feeling because of my sister, but haven't heard a thing. I just don't know what to do.
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Latest post on 22 April 2013 - 20:27
Buttercup...............it does sound as though your DH is fairly useless in the "dealing with feeling" department............which is another reason why he is almost certainly terrified of young Madam. TBH, I have a degree of sympathy, the teenage girl/woman is most definitely the most deadly of the species (I have a birth daughter, a step daughter and two foster daughters..............I love all of them dearly......NOW but they were all in their different ways H@ll on wheels, and ironically my own child was the worst!!)...........and a divorced father is just a sitting target. Particularly if he is not the most emotionally adept of men. I don't really know what else to tell you, apart from be glad she is gone for now................though I'd be very surprised if that happy situation lasts for long. In the small weather window you will have before she flounces back in, you need to be good to yourself..........accept that for your DH the touch on the shoulder was the best he could do............. allow yourself time and space to mourn your sister, grief is a very isolating emotion but please try to take comfort in the fact that there are people......even just in cyberspace, who can understand and share your pain. Sending you a very big hug x Thought she had gone, just went up to her room, she has left loads of stuff. Got a feeling she will be picking that lot up at the weekend when her dad is at home. We will see though. Livelytrish and everyone else thank you from the bottom of my heart. Just being able to talk and try and make sense of why it happened with you all has helped more than you will ever know xx