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Latest post on 22 April 2013 - 19:11
My first thought was..............well the apple doesn't fall far from the tree..............and the OP might be better off without the pair of them. But on reflection, whilst that may be the case, it's probably most likely that DH was resentful that she had left him alone with the ****** Troll from H@ll. He may very well be terrified of young madam's tantrums and probably had a bellyful whilst the only real adult in the house was away, and needs someone to blame for his own feelings. And much easier (and guilt free) to make the OP out to be Wicked Stepmother than to admit he doesn't want the poisonous brat around. She's twenty, she's not a child, immature and spoiled but not helpless. Let her go. And then decide if you want to keep the other "child". She is very sweet actually or seemed it, that is why I was so shocked at what I came back to. My husband adores her and I am pretty sure they loved me not being around. As you said though I do feel like I have been made out to be the wicked stepmother but I just can't understand why!! I know she wasn't happy with me because I wouldn't let her use one of the cars although it would have been illegal, although we paid for all her taxi fares to and from work until we got her on her dads visa, got her medical insurance and her uae licence. I have done everything I could think of to make her feel welcome. I really do not know why this has happened. It has made me feel so alone and my heart is breaking. I have had nothing back from my husband since I told him I am entitled to feel sorry for myself. His daughter has been back with someone to collect her stuff, she breezed in here and said hello as if nothing had happened. I didn't think I could feel any worse than I have the past month. I have been proved wrong. You actually have answered your own question there. She loved having Daddy to herself.............and would quite like to keep it that way. I wonder what her relationship with her birth mother is like.................. Her mother (I have met a few times) has just split up with her 2nd husband. I asked her how she was, she said she was ok but glad she was here so she didn't have to listen to her. I have told her a few times she should be in contact more with her mother. My husband just can't deal with me being upset. When I got the phone call about my sister, I burst into tears, all he did do or has ever done is put his hand on my shoulder for a couple of mins. We have had words about this because I need to be held, he doesn't have to say anything just hold me and be there but he never has been. Another thing she didn't like was, last week she went off to work at around 6.30 am, she is always back for around 10/11am. The deal was, she doesn't have to tell me or her father where she is, only she is going to be late so we don't worry. She didn't. my sister had died that day and I had been trying to find flights. It wasn't until around 2pm I realised she wasn't back. I phoned her in a panic thinking something had happened, she was around a friends baking cakes and yes she knew what had happened, my husband had told her. It isn't until now, reading your replies and me answering just what she has been like. I have told everyone how lovely she is.
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Latest post on 22 April 2013 - 18:24
My first thought was..............well the apple doesn't fall far from the tree..............and the OP might be better off without the pair of them. But on reflection, whilst that may be the case, it's probably most likely that DH was resentful that she had left him alone with the ****** Troll from H@ll. He may very well be terrified of young madam's tantrums and probably had a bellyful whilst the only real adult in the house was away, and needs someone to blame for his own feelings. And much easier (and guilt free) to make the OP out to be Wicked Stepmother than to admit he doesn't want the poisonous brat around. She's twenty, she's not a child, immature and spoiled but not helpless. Let her go. And then decide if you want to keep the other "child". She is very sweet actually or seemed it, that is why I was so shocked at what I came back to. My husband adores her and I am pretty sure they loved me not being around. As you said though I do feel like I have been made out to be the wicked stepmother but I just can't understand why!! I know she wasn't happy with me because I wouldn't let her use one of the cars although it would have been illegal, although we paid for all her taxi fares to and from work until we got her on her dads visa, got her medical insurance and her uae licence. I have done everything I could think of to make her feel welcome. I really do not know why this has happened. It has made me feel so alone and my heart is breaking. I have had nothing back from my husband since I told him I am entitled to feel sorry for myself. His daughter has been back with someone to collect her stuff, she breezed in here and said hello as if nothing had happened. I didn't think I could feel any worse than I have the past month. I have been proved wrong.
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Latest post on 22 April 2013 - 16:56
She is 20. He knows how upset I am, he was there last night beside me while I cried myself to sleep. He is away at work now. I emailed him to explain how upset I was, calmly, that I couldn't believe I wasn't supposed to cry about my sister. All I got back was, that I was feeling sorry for myself and feel like I am entitled to. I have no one here, I have been in touch with a counseling service, just waiting for them to get back to me. I cannot believe how hurt I feel. I am sorry to say this Buttercup, but a loving husband will never say such a thing. I might be wrong, but it looks like there are other issues in the marriage. And the daughter it seems has inherited characteristics from her father. We have had problems now and again, it certainly wasn't perfect, I just didn't expect either of them to be so thoughtless.
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Latest post on 22 April 2013 - 16:43
Buttercup I am so sorry for your loss. You are not overreacting at all. You don't say how old the daughter is but she sounds selfish, immature and insensitive. You are not her maid or housekeeper and if she is old enough to work, she is old enough to contribute and help out around the house. She sounds like a spoilt teenager. And then to complain about you behind your back while you are abroad at a funeral just adds insult to injury, no wonder you are angry with your husband. As Sarahlou says blood is thicker than water. I have had similar issues with my DH and his sister who sounds very much like your stepdaughter. She often used to stay, never helped out, had hot dinners waiting for her, treated our house like a hotel and when I complained to DH he thought I was overreacting! Even when I had a 4 day old newborn, she still didn't lift a finger! I would give things a while to cool down a bit then talk to DH about how upset you are. At least she is leaving now and this will help your marriage. You need some distance from this unhealthy situation as it is only going to breed resentment. Do you have any other family / friends to lean on while you are grieving? So sorry you're going through this x She is 20. He knows how upset I am, he was there last night beside me while I cried myself to sleep. He is away at work now. I emailed him to explain how upset I was, calmly, that I couldn't believe I wasn't supposed to cry about my sister. All I got back was, that I was feeling sorry for myself and feel like I am entitled to. I have no one here, I have been in touch with a counseling service, just waiting for them to get back to me. I cannot believe how hurt I feel.
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Latest post on 02 April 2013 - 16:43
I called them. I got charged 150 by Aramex, SkyExpress told me it would be 25!!! the exact same addresses as yesterday. That is one big difference!!! I haven't heard anything but they should have picked it up by now and on its way to me. Thank you ladies :)
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Latest post on 02 April 2013 - 09:33
I second SkyExpress - used them last week to pick up my medication which I had left at my sons villa in Abu Dhabi and deliver to me in Dubai - excellent service 40Dhs. I might try these then. I used Aramex yesterday and it cost aed 150. Thought that was a bit steep!
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Latest post on 01 April 2013 - 09:25
Never even thought of Aramex as a local delivery! They will be delivered to me so paying cash isn't a problem, I will call them now, Thanks :)
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Latest post on 01 April 2013 - 09:19
of a reliable company that picks up and delivers documents in Dubai? Just called Getme as used them last year but they seem to be no more. TIA
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Latest post on 26 March 2013 - 19:04
You do need to know what Kindle it is before you sell it as they vary a lot. I have two kindles. One of the one's without a keyboard, my DH has one with and I have the Kindle fire HD and the prices are very different. I thought it said on the box what it was, might be wrong though!
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Latest post on 21 March 2013 - 17:20
It was on a little while ago, but the Bridge was excellent!!! Loved Dexter, Ripper street was good, the UK Sherlock (Haven't seen the US) version
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Latest post on 21 March 2013 - 16:43
Since moving here nearly 6 years ago, I never bothered with heels! Loved my flats. Last year in a shop a pair of heels caught my eye and it was love at first sight. Bought them, decided to wear them on a night out. Luckily enough I hadn't had much to drink. On leaving the establishment, chatting away as you do, I slipped and ended up on my back in the foyer of the hotel!! How embarrassing!!! (so glad I had trousers on as well) If I was in my flats, that would never have happened!! Have worn them since but tread very carefully :D Don't know how these women do it!
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Latest post on 15 March 2013 - 23:37
My mum started to lose her mind when I was about 15, it took a few years but by the time I reached 17 she had been diagnosed with early onset Alzheimers. By the time I was age 21 she was in a full time residential care home, and now, 13 years after diagnosis she is completely unresponsive, can't walk or speak, hasn't recognized me for years, and her organs are slowly shutting down. So effectively I lost my mum in my teens, as she moved from being an intelligent quick witted capable woman to in a matter of months a shell of herself who would get lost in town and wander the streets for hours, forget to eat, and lose her driving skills. So for me I felt like I lost my mum then. It has been a long drawn out bereavement, which is especially hard at times like Christmas, when I got married and when my baby was born. I miss her every single day and cringe when a friend tells me they have rowed with their mum. I went off the rails for a while as I couldn't deal with the situation. For any young person going through that kind of bereavement, I can only say that no one will replace that person, but they may need someone to talk to, so if you can provide a listening ear and let them open up, that will make them feel less alone. I felt like no one understood and I had no one to talk to so that's why I went through a crazy patch. Simpleasabc I am sorry for your loss x TDH I so understand everything you are saying, I am going through this at the moment with my sister. Rushed back to the Uk last weekend because i got the dreaded phone call. I do have to say though, my sister is getting very close to leaving this world, lying in her hospital bed, i went in and spoke to her and she recognised me, she put her hand out for me to hold. Everyone was shocked! It is heartbreaking and I am sure more so when it is a parent, but I am now sure your mother will/does know who you are, she just may not be able to show it. It has been proven that the last memories to go are the earliest. My sister hasn't known me for years, but when I went in and we looked into each others eyes, we were sisters again Please don't give up hope! To the OP, I lost my father when I was 15. I was heartbroken and it did take me years to get over it. I'm not even sure if I ever have. I didn't go off the rails, i just tried to carry on and not worry my mother too much. Even to this day and he died 37 years ago, I cannot visit his grave, I just can not do it! I think it all depends on the child/teen. Just be there for them, hug them and don't not talk about the parent that has died. I found that so very hard. Everyone thought it best not to talk about him when I was around. I withdrew into myself because of it. I am not saying force the issue, but if something happens you should be able to say, your mum/dad would have loved this, been so proud etc....that does mean a lot and to know someone else is thinking of them.
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Latest post on 15 March 2013 - 23:11
I am just guessing here, but wouldn't it be better if you were in Dubai and sorting it from this end? At least you can go to their offices etc...and not just be on the end of a phone and be brushed off. If you have friends here and can stay with them, then the flight only costs around aed 700 return. You can then try and get them on the same flight as yourself. I have found over the years that being face to face makes things happen far quicker than a phone call.
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Latest post on 09 March 2013 - 11:57
Thank you. Unfortunately I am still here. I have not been able to get my passport back. The British Embassy said they can issue the letter, but she has never known anyone to be allowed to leave the country without their passport, they need to do a check first which will take over 24 hours, by that time I should be able to get my passport back. DMCC are trying to sort something as it is there I handed it in but to honest I doubt very much if anything will happen until tomorrow.
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Latest post on 09 March 2013 - 02:40
Thank you Pikachu, I am British and my DH has been searching for an emergency number without success. I have called JLT and the guy can't do anything until the morning. Got the number on you link, was put through to London, they can't do anything tonight, I have been told that I may possibly get a call around 8.30 tomorrow, it all depends on people here. But he has advised that I wait until Sunday to get my passport back from JLT because if I get an emergency ticket then my passport will be cancelled so while I am in the UK I will have to apply for a new passport to be able to come back! So I am held here away from my family away from my sister because I was told I need a status upgrade! The awful thing is, I have been told it is going to cost around £500, I can do that but a lot of people can't! It is time to go home I think :(
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Latest post on 09 March 2013 - 01:35
My passport is with JLT freezone to upgrade status, I have had a phone call tonight to say my sister is dying and she only has hours/couple of days if that! I have to go home, I don't have a number to call to get my passport back. PLEASE HELP
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Latest post on 04 March 2013 - 16:44
Hi Kaydee, we bought one last year from Global Village so I would assume they would have them this year as well. Haven't been so can't be sure. HTH
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Latest post on 26 February 2013 - 17:14
I would then get re-checked to be sure. If what you say is right (I have no idea about stuff like that) then could it be possible the person you know was adopted and wasn't told? That used to happen years ago. Or a mistake has been made with the persons mothers blood type?
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Latest post on 26 February 2013 - 16:57
Nothing is 100%, mistakes are made no matter what. If you are worried about something I would go back and get tested again just to be sure.
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Latest post on 26 February 2013 - 16:51
Probably not, as we have been conditioned to think horse meat is wrong. But if you think about it, is it really that different? I don't think so, meat is meat to me, as long as it is fit for human consumption then why not! I have eaten snake, camel, ostrich, wild boar, crocodile, kangaroo and your usual chicken, beef etc.... oh and maybe dog lol
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Latest post on 26 February 2013 - 16:46
Ok then, here is a question, if horse meat was on the menu would anyone eat it? I do think it is awful what has been going on though. I did go to a restaurant once and a few days later they were shut down for selling dog meat!! I have to say, if it was dog meat in my curry, it was very tasty lol
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Latest post on 26 February 2013 - 16:40
It depends on the service eg. media, get media city freezone license, finance, get DIFC freezone license, creative, get fujairah creative city license etc Of course there are a lot of regulations. A *lot* of people bend or ignore them, which is fine...until you get caught! Keybusiness might be an option. They can give you freelance service licenses. I certainly would not under any circumstances use Key business. We have now left them. I asked them to cancel our licence as we had had enough, that was last August, the licence expired September, it still is not done. They still owe us 50,000 deposit we made back in 2008, they said they cannot hand it over until the licence is cancelled!! We have had nothing but problems with them from day one. Thirty days we were told for my DH's visa 4 months it took. We had to do my visa ourselves and they charged us because they said they had done paperwork!!! Wouldn't touch them with a barge pole!! We have now used JLT/DMCC, I have found them to be very efficient indeed and up to now, had no problems whatsoever. You get told all the costs and when payment would be due. Go talk to them, I found them very helpful.
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Latest post on 26 February 2013 - 13:51
My lovely Dyson, has lost its sucktion.....to much use probably. does anyone know of a hoover maintenance man? Don't know if this is any good to you or not but might be worth a look http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l1SvGJAjukY
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Latest post on 26 February 2013 - 13:46
Stay strong Buttercup. xx Thank you derien and everyone in fact, for your comments, advice and support. Buttercup xxx
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Latest post on 26 February 2013 - 13:00
Hi mumofmoo, I am feeling a bit better now :) Thank you so much for thinking of me xx
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Latest post on 26 February 2013 - 10:35
I am horrified that you will knowingly allow a molester to go free to attack another person, because you have no faith in the country that you reside in. You choose to live here, I assume for monetary reasons, and yet you doubt the system. I have made a few cases against individuals (including an incident where I was held with a gun to my head by a drug crazed highly influential individual) and have never had my passport taken from me. If we are to feel compassion for you, then I do hope that you are extending the same to his next victim. I was told my passport would be taken from me and possibly arrested. A poster has even said the same. I have never doubted the system because I have never had to deal with it. This is the first time and as I said, maybe I was just unlucky, you obviously weren't and I am glad, that must have been such an awful experience. I am prepared to talk to the head of security in DMCC and even confront the guard if need be. My passport is my most valued possession and no-one should be allowed to take it from me unless I have done something illegal. It had nothing to do with the way I was dressed, baggy jeans and t-shirt, shoulders, knee's covered, nothing clingy. Lets get something straight though, I was NOT attacked!
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Latest post on 26 February 2013 - 10:16
Buttercup, thats a horrrible experience you've been through and I hope you can put it behind you soon. You said in one of your earlier posts you feel very badly let down by the system but the reality is that you didnt give the system a chance to work, and you probably never were going to give it a chance to work. You made a few phone calls that were frustrating and all the more-so after such a horrible goings on, you had emergency personel call you back to check if you needed an ambulance just in case, and you had a policeman come to the house to see what was what - and you sent him away. You sent him away and didnt give him a chance to try and do anything next. Your company lawyer gave your husabnd dodgy information when he/she should have been saying lets get this dealt with now, lets go to the police station. Failing that your husband should have said - lets get this dealt with now, lets go to the police station. No-one did. It wasnt the system who let you down. Please remember this when retelling your story because your version of being let down by the system could easily be what puts another victim off reporting an assault. edited by DesertRose1958 on 26/02/2013 Hi DesertRose1958 I do have to disagree with you. I think 2 hours trying to get someone to listen to what you need is plenty of time. Maybe I was just unlucky, lets face it, no system anywhere in the world is perfect for everyone. I was ready to file a report and do whatever was needed to make sure that guard never did it again, so you really can't say that that I wasn't going to give it a chance. As for sending the policeman away, yes I did do that and no, I didn't give him a chance. I cannot and will not risk my passport being taken away from me, it is one of the things that keeps me so far away from home, is knowing if ever I needed to get back home in a hurry then I can. My husband was in a different country, he flew back as soon as he could but didn't get here until late at night. I haven't meant to offend anyone by anything I have said, so if I have, then I am sorry. All I have done is give my experience. As I said earlier, maybe I was the unlucky one and I certainly wouldn't want to put anyone off reporting anything to the police. This is not at all to defend or decry the system or your actions Buttercup but just as a way of comparison, in my own western modern country I had a similar experience and was unable to get help of any kind because I was not reporting the incident in the moment. I was told repeatedly that on hearsay they could not drag someone in to the police station or make an official report or fire him or reprimand him. Unfortunately, there are few countries/cities/fair systems of government in the world which would allow the police or any government body to act upon the hearsay testimony of a single person without 3rd party witness after the fact of incident. This does not in anyway take away from what happened to you, the credibility of what you are saying or the wrong doings of this person but the fact is I would be more concerned about living in a country that would arrest a man sight unseen from the complaint of a person at home, on the phone, citing an incident that happened hours before in a totally different location than the reporting. Again, NOT against, just unfortunate. As for the miscommunication re: your report (do you need ambulance?) that is truly terrifying God help any of us if we need an ambulance! Fandrew, I totally agree with you. It would have been my word against his and as I have said there was just the two of us. Just because I am a Westerner does not make me automatically right. When I really thought about it, the thing that seems very odd to me is he is a security guard, why would he want to take me up onto the first floor to see an office that didn't exist? Surely he would have known that it had been shut down, it would be his job to!
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Latest post on 26 February 2013 - 09:37
Buttercup, thats a horrrible experience you've been through and I hope you can put it behind you soon. You said in one of your earlier posts you feel very badly let down by the system but the reality is that you didnt give the system a chance to work, and you probably never were going to give it a chance to work. You made a few phone calls that were frustrating and all the more-so after such a horrible goings on, you had emergency personel call you back to check if you needed an ambulance just in case, and you had a policeman come to the house to see what was what - and you sent him away. You sent him away and didnt give him a chance to try and do anything next. Your company lawyer gave your husabnd dodgy information when he/she should have been saying lets get this dealt with now, lets go to the police station. Failing that your husband should have said - lets get this dealt with now, lets go to the police station. No-one did. It wasnt the system who let you down. Please remember this when retelling your story because your version of being let down by the system could easily be what puts another victim off reporting an assault. edited by DesertRose1958 on 26/02/2013 Hi DesertRose1958 I do have to disagree with you. I think 2 hours trying to get someone to listen to what you need is plenty of time. Maybe I was just unlucky, lets face it, no system anywhere in the world is perfect for everyone. I was ready to file a report and do whatever was needed to make sure that guard never did it again, so you really can't say that that I wasn't going to give it a chance. As for sending the policeman away, yes I did do that and no, I didn't give him a chance. I cannot and will not risk my passport being taken away from me, it is one of the things that keeps me so far away from home, is knowing if ever I needed to get back home in a hurry then I can. My husband was in a different country, he flew back as soon as he could but didn't get here until late at night. I haven't meant to offend anyone by anything I have said, so if I have, then I am sorry. All I have done is give my experience. As I said earlier, maybe I was the unlucky one and I certainly wouldn't want to put anyone off reporting anything to the police.
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Latest post on 25 February 2013 - 20:59
I have taken on board everything that has been said. I won't file a report with the police, I cannot risk my passport being taken from me! I will be over the next week looking into self defense classes and from what i have read they get you pretty fit as well, so added bonus :) I will also talk to DH about contacting the head of security at DMCC, it sounds like it just might be a doable thing. I really do want to say a huge Thank you to everyone for your support and advice. It is heartwarming to know that even though we do not know each other, you have all been there for me, Thank you all from the bottom of my heart xx
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Latest post on 25 February 2013 - 10:59
Thank you all for your kind words and support. It is so sad to read so many of you have gone through the same and worse, but it is good to hear that you have all moved on. I have been asked for the building. I can assure you there would be no reason for anyone to visit that building as it was a complete mistake that I was sent there. I don't know if I am allowed to write this, so admin if I am not, please just delete this post and not the thread. Jewelry and Gemplex building 3 DMCC
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Latest post on 25 February 2013 - 09:42
I just thought I would let you ladies know what happened. I found the numbers of a couple of police stations and rang them a number of times without any success as no-one was answering. A friend told me to ring 999 and explain what has happened and to ask if a police officer could come out to me as I was very upset. I did exactly that, I was told someone would be out. Around 10 mins later I get a call asking if I had called an ambulance, I was as you can imagine confused about that, I said no, it is the police I wanted, she said she would contact them for me. Five mins later another call asking again if I wanted an ambulance and did I have bad stomach pains! I said no ambulance. I was then put through to the call center, I explained that it was police I needed. The guy just kept repeating and repeating the word report!! I had had enough, this had taken nearly two hours and no-one I spoke to listened to me. Finally was put though to a policeman. I tried to explain to him but all I got was, you had an accident? No I said then why you call! I told him to forget it and hung up and sobbed my heart out. In the meantime, DH had got in touch with his company lawyer. The lawyer advised me not to do anything because, 1. I could be arrested 2. My passport would be taken off me and this could go on for months. 3. Once I made that report then I would be in the system for good. I have grown up children at home and I am here knowing that if anything ever happened I could get the next flight out of here. I was too upset to go out, there was no way I was going to risk being arrested or made to stay here for however long. So nothing has been done, I feel totally let down by the system. I cannot understand why it was do difficult to try and talk to someone, why it took so long and why no-one actually cared. A policeman did eventually turn up, a friend had come to be with me. She went out to speak to the policeman and apologised for me ringing 999 and he went on his way. I just could not deal with anything more happening. DH has agreed with the posters that I should take self defence classes and I will. Many of you will think I was wrong and that I should have carried on no matter what, but, I just couldn't face it. Those of you who want to slate me, please carry on, you are not going to make me feel any worse than I am already feeling
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Latest post on 24 February 2013 - 16:06
I'm sorry about what happened to you and like everyone else said, you must call the police. But I'm trying to imagine how the security got too close to you and how did he have the chance to touch you many times!!! Where did this happen and how? Why did you stay and let him touch you? Did he grab you? Did he follow you? I don't mean to be unsympathetic here but I cant understand how it happened and why didn't you say something to him or why didn't you run away? I had been sent to a building that I shouldn't have been. I spoke to him when I got there asking about this so called office. I went to the first floor, everything was closed down. I went back down to ask about it, he said he would come with me, he took a document off me to look at the address, we went up to that floor. The first time I thought it was just a mistake, it happens I know that. We were the only one's there and from getting the lift down first time, i know how long it took to get there, I didn't know where the stairs were. He did it again, I started to feel very vunerable and he insisted we knock on a door, that no-one was behind. He kept getting close to me, pretending to read the document, I moved away, had no idea where to go. He was always between me and the door anyway. I was always brought up with, if you find yourself in a situation like that, stay calm and try to act as normal as possible so as not to antagonise the person. I really didn't know what else to do. Believe me, I didn't do much because i was scared and if I could turn the clock back I would. He didn't grab me and I pushed him arm away a couple of times.
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Latest post on 24 February 2013 - 15:45
I have just had a call back and have been told to go to the police station. Thank you all for your 'hugs' and advice, much appreciated.
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Latest post on 24 February 2013 - 15:30
Yes, they will call you back. My experience has been that they do call back quite quickly. Have just left a message saying I need some advice. Hopefully they will call back soon.
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Latest post on 24 February 2013 - 15:23
Just tried to get through to the Al Ameen number but it is only giving me the option to leave a message, is that right? One thing that I have just realised, when I went down to tell him the office was shutdown, he said he would come up with me. He is security, he should have known it wasn't there anymore surely?
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Latest post on 24 February 2013 - 15:07
I have found the number for Al Ameen, will call them now.
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Latest post on 24 February 2013 - 15:04
I think you should call Al Ameen immediately and see what they advise. Either way, I would definitely call his employer and report him NOW. What is Al Ameen? We were the only two people on that floor and I really felt scared.
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Latest post on 10 February 2013 - 19:23
My belief was that you are obligated to show people around but only when it is convenient to you. They cannot just turn up on your doorstep and expect to be shown around.
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Latest post on 10 February 2013 - 18:42
I would def go the second hand one, you are going to feel just as good in it as you did in the new one, only you won't be feeling guilty for spending so much!!
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Latest post on 10 February 2013 - 18:37
Hi, I lived in JVT for two years, the gardens are great, the villa's a nice size, but Nakheel do seem to have cut a lot of corners. If you have a decent LL that will get stuff sorted then go for it, if you don't mind not being near shops etc...within walking distance. We left 1, we wanted a bigger villa 2. Sick of the building site. They seem to be getting on with it now though. There is a facebook page that you should join, it really is informative and most people are really friendly, they even have get togethers, which I think is great. HTH
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Latest post on 03 February 2013 - 14:15
Thank you Flowerhead :) My friend and his daughter are from the UK so she has a uk drivers licence. Will let them know about the docs needed. Thanks again :)
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Latest post on 31 January 2013 - 16:59
I just had a look on their site and I just can't get my head around why they would need my address, p.o box, my mobile and landline number plus my vet, just for a quote!!!!! Don't think I will bother!
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Latest post on 30 January 2013 - 12:53
I always have Louise, have had my hair dyed, highlights and cut and always been nothing but very happy, which is unusual for me!
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Latest post on 30 January 2013 - 11:50
Today is my third fast day and I am loving it. I weighed myself after my second and I had lost 4lbs :D What I am finding good for me, like this morning, I had breakfast, two boiled eggs and two toast, I will not eat now until tomorrow morning so I will have fasted for 24 hours. I found that better than eating during the day. I am starting from next week going to do when possible, three fast days until I start to lose a bit more weight then will go back down to the two. In his book there are daily menus, that looks really easy to follow and some of them sound lovely.
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Latest post on 23 January 2013 - 00:31
I think you have been here long enough to know everything is like that here!! The rents are extortionate, the food is expensive the clothes are a ridiculous amount of money, the cheap shops here as in Max that I have shopped in are more expensive that Debenhams at home!!!!!! What gets me though, they keep saying TAX FREE, yet when I shop somewhere like Debenhams they have the UK price on that includes tax and it is more expensive, up to double the price I have seen!!! You don't pay council tax but you pay housing charges!
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Latest post on 22 January 2013 - 23:29
I did my first fast day yesterday and was really surprised at how easy it was! I didn't have breakfast, i decided to wait until i was actually hungry before i ate. At 11.30 I had a boiled egg and toast, 5pm I had a meal i had in the freezer that I love, lamb and barley soup, more like a stew, but I really do enjoy it so I though it would be perfect for my 'last meal'!! Next meal 16 hours later was again egg and toast. Have felt really good today, as in no bloating! Finally talked DH into watching Horizon! He is all for it! First time since we put loads of weight on he has been enthusiastic about a weightloss/heath regime! :D
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Latest post on 22 January 2013 - 22:54
Crazy drivers & bored expat wives! Love it lol My DH has had to do that as well. don't know about the bored expat wives but the crazy drivers is a yes!!! Will he have an apartment or in a hotel?
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Latest post on 22 January 2013 - 22:39
Murderers, rapists, drug smugglers, and dealers.. Can't feel sorry for them, they deserve death penalty. Unless person is proven to be mentally ill, or how they call it when someone can't be help accountable sure to mental state?? There's a legal name for it I think. Anyhow, death penalty, or any heavy punishment should DETER people from committing crimes. If you know the laws and are still stupid enough to do it anyway, tough luck. Marroosh, I despise these people as much as anyone else, but don't you feel that sometimes these people have a death wish so they do these awful crimes knowing what the outcome will be? don't you think that the families that they have affected greatly should be able to inflict/decide some of that persons punishment? (not death) I have battled I must say with my belief sometimes, because at least if they are dead there is no way on this Gods earth they can make someone suffer again, but I have to sway more against the death penalty then for it. To many innocent people have been executed I am just not wiling to be ok about a possible mistake like that!
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Latest post on 22 January 2013 - 22:14
I agree with death penalty, and even though i appreciate your point of view, in this case is it not redundant in the sense that this is not her country and she made the informed decision to go there? As I said before I totally understand your reasoning, but unless you know 100% why she did it then how can you judge? I have said myself that you knew the laws so stupid you! Not disagreeing with that, I am disagreeing with the death penalty no matter where it is!
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Latest post on 22 January 2013 - 22:07
In the case of murderers, they thought their victims were disposable... There are many kinds of murders/killings and you don't know the reasons! There are always reasons. If anyone did anything against anyone I love, would I want them dead? No! I would want them to suffer for what they did and I mean suffer. I don't mean living in a British prison, with 3 meals a day etc.......that is so wrong, criminals seem to have more rights than those who don't commit any crime, it is just so sad and wrong.