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Latest post on 18 March 2016 - 12:24
Which hair cream is good? For what? Dry hair, greasy hair, coloured hair, eating?! Cheap, expensive, money no object? If you could give a bit more info maybe somebody could offer their opinion.
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Latest post on 09 March 2016 - 14:45
existing tenants have a bit more room to negotiate than newer tenants... coz at our compound we now pay in 4 cheques They can't negotiate because they signed for one cheque payment. Contract can't be changed :( If both parties agree it can be changed. Our tenants went from paying in one cheque (because it suited them as the company was paying) to paying in four as they lost their job and were footing the bill themselves. We would have been happy for them to pay monthly, and gave them that choice. Not all landlords are mean!
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Latest post on 28 February 2016 - 17:31
Hi ladies, I posted recently about our maid's bad back, asking where to take her for a doctor's consultation. I have not yet taken her as her symptoms initially improved with medication from the pharmacist. However, the poor lady's symptoms have really deteriorated again. She has back pain, side pain, stomach pain and now can't feel her arms. i am very worried about her, obviously, and am trying to cut her duties and give her rest so as not to aggravate things. My main question is, am i obliged to take her to the doctor here? I know that sounds harsh, but she has so much wrong with her that I imagine she will need all sorts of involved tests. If she were staying here that sounds sensible, but as she is leaving our employ to retire in April anyway, it seems a little pointless, and I have to admit I am worried about huge costs. Wouldn't she be better off returning home, getting some rest and having in-depth investigations in her home country? We are being very reasonable with her work load and accept a partial job as we don't want to make things worse. What are our obligations, and what is reasonable given that she is at the end of her contract. She has been with us for nearly 3 years. VictoriaM, I know you are saying you are doing your best for your maid, lightening her load etc, which is nice, but it makes me so very sad that you are even considering the possible high costs for her care. May I ask why you haven't had insurance for her since the beginning, as I assume you have for yourself and loved ones? Put yourself in her place, how would you feel if the person responsible for you was worried about the money aspect when you clearly had some possibly life threatening medical condition? If your husband / mother / child (or even your pet) couldn't feel their arms, would you be on a forum asking what you should do? Where the cheapest possible place to take them might be and wondering if you will maybe have to do something later in the week? No of course you would take them immediately to the emergency room and never mind the cost. Could you not put your pets into kennels or hire a pet sitter and let the poor lady go home if you are not in a position to look after her? In short, to answer your main question, and in my very humble opinion, she has been your employee for three years, so I would say YES, you ARE obliged to take her to the doctor.
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Latest post on 01 February 2016 - 21:44
Quote: "[i'>Sorry I don't want to know about your misfortune, each one have his own misfortune, and we all deal with it.[/i'>" But you can come on here with your misfortune and expect us to sympathise, but when you are told (not by me...) to just deal with it, you throw a "you don't know what it's like" racism card at us. Seems fair... I never once spoke down to you, I did however maybe have the audacity to question a few things which seems to have got your back up. Seeing as you don't want to listen to anyone else's hardships because no-one has it as hard as you, (obviously), I shall just pop off and continue to quietly deal with my own misfortunes. I wish you the best for the future and I hope no-one is ever mean to you again.
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Latest post on 01 February 2016 - 21:02
Gorobattie, you said (and I have copy and pasted as the rest of the section is too long) "[i'>This poor teacher as you describe, was aware of my phone call to the school, stating that my car broke down and couldn't be fixed by myself and got AAA to tow it to the garage, and gave them expected time of my arrival with taxi,[/i'> " If that is the case then the teacher would have known you were the parent, so why are you saying she thought you were the nanny... I think there is more to this story than you may even be acknowledging yourself. Also, for those saying that Gorobattie is not upset at being mistaken for being a nanny but that really she is only indignant that a nanny should be spoken to that way, I do not believe that is the case as she said (and again, I quote) " f[i'>or posters thinking it's not a problem to be mistaken for the help or nanny, it's clearly a statement from someone to tell" you are different and less than others" and want to tell these posters: count your blessings that you haven't reduced to be a second class human...[/i'>." She is actually saying that she thinks a nanny is a second class [b'>human[/b'> and is horrified at the teacher daring to surmise that she might be one!! CM, you might not be aware that English isn't my first language, but you keep playing with words, twisting it to showcase how bad I am, I don't have to prove myself to you, you can understand what you want to understand, English isn't my strong suite, but I try my best. To recognise rasist comment, treatments it's easy for anyone who've been subjected to it to recognise it/ identify it in a heart beat, again I can tell from you and whomever defend racist attitudes from white peoples who never been looked down and concederd second class human, I can tell from your words you never been on the receiving end of these words. Being a maid or nanny is not the problem, the telling off as the maid or nanny have to answer to ANY one lived and born into the white previlig, and you take it for granted you are better than anything else!!! I dare you, I double dare you or anyone who wants to cast the racism on me to tell me that since early life she haven't been looked down becouse of her background, skin colour, or called she is exotic - resembling you to an exotic animal you get on a safari trip ha!- or assumed you are less than other, even going to a club; always asked for ID but the white chick just right front of me no one bats an eyelid and let her go without stopping her to ask for an ID. When someone mistake you for a nanny in Europe is way different than ME, becouse only certain countries are allowed to have untrained labour to work these jobs, becouse not a North American, Australian, Europian country would allow their citizens to be " untrained labour" and occupation these jobs.... When you get into your villa, you'll find the Gardner coming in introducing himself to you and ask you if you would like to hire a Gardner, for me, it did happen that a Gardner come in leaned on the door and tried to struck a conversation with me and asked me about my madam.... Racism is everywhere, been practiced on daily bases among white privileged people and people of colour too. I try my best not to follow this cruel world, and set example to my children, becouse we are all humans, so side with your poor teacher please, say whatever you want to say about me, but again, think about the begging scams that done by people of colour and how you question yourself about how true it is, and that woman who called herself pillows that come over this board and started begging and many posters started giving her money, meds and all what she asked for, becouse she was white and appologitic - if you remember couple of years back on EW, and it went all ok until a poster said its illegal to give meds without prescription to people not intended to... And the scam been exposed and no one heard about her again. Rant over it Oh Gorabattie, your English is just fine, you manage to express yourself perfectly, please do not say I am twisting your words, you were the one who basically said a nanny was a second hand human, not me. That is not a lack of perfect english, that is you trying to take back your real thoughts and throw a racism card again.... And seriously, you know NOTHING about my life and the abuse I have been on the receiving end of. Just because my English is good... well, now who is assuming? Just because I choose not to talk about it, please do not assume I am just some white and therefore privileged woman, How hilarious can you be?!
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Latest post on 01 February 2016 - 19:56
Gorobattie, you said (and I have copy and pasted as the rest of the section is too long) "[i'>This poor teacher as you describe, was aware of my phone call to the school, stating that my car broke down and couldn't be fixed by myself and got AAA to tow it to the garage, and gave them expected time of my arrival with taxi,[/i'> " If that is the case then the teacher would have known you were the parent, so why are you saying she thought you were the nanny... I think there is more to this story than you may even be acknowledging yourself. Also, for those saying that Gorobattie is not upset at being mistaken for being a nanny but that really she is only indignant that a nanny should be spoken to that way, I do not believe that is the case as she said (and again, I quote) " f[i'>or posters thinking it's not a problem to be mistaken for the help or nanny, it's clearly a statement from someone to tell" you are different and less than others" and want to tell these posters: count your blessings that you haven't reduced to be a second class human...[/i'>." She is actually saying that she thinks a nanny is a second class [b'>human[/b'> and is horrified at the teacher daring to surmise that she might be one!!
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Latest post on 01 February 2016 - 19:36
I'm afraid I am also in the "no, no, no" camp. I cringe when I see parents and children dressed identically, for example, in say dresses of the same design and pattern. I don't think it looks cute at all, either the child looks silly because it's in "adult" clothes or the adult looks silly in something "cutesie". Either way it's not a winner for me. But that's just my humble opinion.
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Latest post on 31 January 2016 - 15:51
Not saying what the teacher did was right, but just to get a fuller picture, how late were you and did you ring the school to let them know you were going to be late? And just a personal opinion, but it is irrelevant if you are thought to be the nanny or the parent, it is still your "job" to pick up children at the correct time. I am sure the teacher barely registered what colour you were and is just fed up of "carers" rocking up late with a casual apology. I am sure your lateness and apology were genuine, but I am sure many are repeat offenders. Please remember teachers are human too, they educate our children for usually poor pay and they have grumpy, snappy days too where they have just had to deal with one too many late stays due to late carers. Please don't take it too personally, we have all snapped at someone at some time and felt we were right at the time.
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Latest post on 27 January 2016 - 14:51
You're only going to be diverted to the classifieds :loser: Again... http://www.expatwoman.com/forum/topic240468-part-time-job-cook-party-cooking-other-household-job-forum23.aspx Will probably sound mean, but sadly I'm not sure I would want to employ someone who can't follow instructions. :(
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Latest post on 26 December 2015 - 00:25
Best way is to eat clean, restrict calories to 1,200 - 1,400 per day and work out 4-5 times a week. High intensity interval training is the best as it burns fat for up to 8 hours after the exercise, therefore RPM or HIIT classes are good. Unless your diet is full of veggies and lean meat and less sugar you wont see any change.... detoxes don't work as you will lose the weight and pile it back on again... Good luck! Yes that is the best way! Thanks No, it really isn't. "Clean eating" means you can NEVER have a slice of bread, slice of salami, glass of wine (if that's your thing) or piece of cake... really, is that the way you want to spend the rest of your life? What about your birthday, or Christmas? Sounds depressing to me! :( I prefer to eat a bit of everything, do a moderate (2-3 times a week) amount of exercise and generally enjoy life. My "diet" is not just veggies and lean meat, (fat is ESSENTIAL for good health and delicious too), there are crisps, cake and alcohol in my life and I can really easily lose weight eating all those things, just slightly smaller portions. To say that "Unless your diet is full of veggies and lean meat and less sugar you wont see any change..." is rubbish, utter and total nonsense.
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Latest post on 25 December 2015 - 12:05
Thank you! And to you are yours too! :) xx :gift:
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Latest post on 23 December 2015 - 11:38
Just stop eating !! its that simple. I just lost a stone in two weeks now i'm 8.5 stone, my ideal weight. No. Wrong. Very wrong. Please don't even suggest it! For healthy weight loss, unless extremely overweight, nobody should aim to lose more than 1-2 lbs a week. If you stopped eating and lost so much weight in such a short space of time you have simply lost water weight and muscle which is foolish and unhealthy (unless you were sick, in which case that is obviously different but by the way you have written it would seem you did it voluntarily). Once you start eating properly again it will all go back on and most likely more. Im just giving the OP my experience of the fastest way to lose weight. There is no science to losing weight you just eat less. I do this every year before Christmas, I'm too busy to eat so I pick. My tummy shrinks and then I just continue with smaller portions. Two weeks of eating less won't hurt you in any way,shape or form. In fact the opposite applies, eating a ton of food and drink over christmas is far more damaging. You are totally right that you need to eat less to lose weight but I'm sorry, you were suggesting to someone that she eats so little that she loses a stone in two weeks which is foolish and unnecessary especially when the OP only has 5 kgs to lose. And saying that eating at such a huge deficit for two weeks won't "hurt you in any way, shape or form" is plain wrong. That's the problem with people grasping at quick fixes, people only see the difference on the scale and think they know it all. The damage is on the inside, where you don't see it. OP, please, whatever advice you take, think about it, if it seems too good to be true, it is. Be sensible and lose the weight slowly and you will feel so much better for it. All the best.
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Latest post on 22 December 2015 - 19:27
Just stop eating !! its that simple. I just lost a stone in two weeks now i'm 8.5 stone, my ideal weight. No. Wrong. Very wrong. Please don't even suggest it! For healthy weight loss, unless extremely overweight, nobody should aim to lose more than 1-2 lbs a week. If you stopped eating and lost so much weight in such a short space of time you have simply lost water weight and muscle which is foolish and unhealthy (unless you were sick, in which case that is obviously different but by the way you have written it would seem you did it voluntarily). Once you start eating properly again it will all go back on and most likely more.
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Latest post on 22 December 2015 - 11:43
Just to debunk a few myths... A "detox" diet is unnecessary and just a money making fad. Your lungs, liver, kidneys and bowels detox your body just fine, if there is something in your body that those organs can't remove then you need a hospital, not food. You do NOT need to eat "clean" to lose weight. If you eat less of anything than your body needs you will lose weight. Everything in moderation. People who cut out something tend to lose weight, then feel deprived and then binge on the thing they cut out. You do not need to exercise to lose weight. Again, if you eat less than your body needs you will lose weight. Although of course exercising means burn more calories so will help you lose weight more quickly. Exercising also releases feel good endorphin's and helps to retain lean muscle mass. Muscle does NOT weigh less than fat, a kilo is a kilo. However, a kilo of muscle has a smaller volume than a kilo of fat, so you may weigh the same but would look smaller. Not everyone needs to restrict their calories to 1200-1400. It depends on age, height and weight. Some people can lose weight on 1800 or more a day. All that being said, what I would recommend is to use a good calorie calculator to work out how many calories you need (http://scoobysworkshop.com/calorie-calculator/ is a nice one, but there are loads out there). Join a site such as My Fitness Pal. It's free. Input your info in there and off you go. It's a really good tool to help you count calories. The forums (Community) are a brilliant place to get loads of help, tips, motivation and support. But just remember, you didn't put the weight on over night. Why do you think you can lose it and make it stay off in a very short time? Better to go slowly, adjust to healthier habits and then it will go off without you feeling deprived and will stay off. Good luck.
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Latest post on 27 November 2015 - 20:48
What happens if a Muslim expat wife residing in the UAE decides to separate/run away from her husband and take the kids with her? If the husband calls the cops, what's next? My friend is having issues and asked for my advice. I don't know much as I haven't lived here long enough. If she leaves to a hotel or whatever, until she figures out what to do next, what are the repercussions? Without knowing what the "issues" are, I would be loathe to offer any advice. There are often two sides (or more...) to every story and I think it is terrible to assume the man is at fault and that it's okay for the wife to even think of just upping and disappearing off with the kids until she decides what to do... If a woman came on here to say she was having "issues" with her husband and he had disappeared with the children, everyone would be up in arms telling her she must go to the police and how despicable he was. Even if she is your friend, you are only getting one side of the story, it's so kind of you to seek advice for her, but please be careful, if she follows advice you give her (even if only passing it on from here) and then she turns round as says "LaDiDa00 told me to...", you might find yourself in trouble too...
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Latest post on 13 October 2015 - 16:01
Personally I would allow them to use the bathroom, it must be awful to work such long hours and not have facilities to use. However.... I would check the toilet immediately after they used it and if they have left a mess, or dirtied my towels because they haven't washed their hands properly then I would point it out and make them clean up (obviously not the towel, but I would still point it out). If they have blocked the toilet then they, or their company must unblock it. I did it with my daughter when she was learning how to use the facilities correctly and I don't care if they are grown men, if they want to use my facilities then they have to be a good guest. You can point it out kindly and if they don't like having to clean their own mess, well, they'll soon either learn to do it right the first time or they will go elsewhere. either way your problem is solved.
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Latest post on 07 October 2015 - 11:35
Why do you feel bad for "these women"? If anything you should admire them and feel happy for them. They really aren't any different from any other expat leaving their home country to better their life. What is the difference between me washing my 4x4 or doing my windows and paying another woman to do it? Give them credit for goodness sake, they are not vapid weaklings! Yes, it may be a job that we wouldn't want to do (but who hasn't had one of those and stuck at it because they needed the money?!). But EVERY job has dignity and every job needs doing, be it CEO or road sweeper so there is an opening for cleaners / maids / home helps whatever you choose to call them. These ladies have chosen to work at whatever they can do to make money rather than sitting at home feeling sorry for themselves. Isn't that what we all do? I look at teachers and wonder how the heck they can do that job. I'd rather clean... horses for courses and all that! ;) Some are educated, some are not, some speak excellent English, others none at all. Maybe some could (and maybe deserve) a better job. I have heard of people all over the world with diplomas and degrees doing jobs far beneath them. That maybe unfair, but life isn't fair is it? I do think that they are often treated badly, that is not nice, but you can be treated badly and underpaid in any job or any relationship... These women aren't moaning about that, they are just getting on with it. They don't want your pity. All you can do is treat every person kindly, pay them a fair wage and you've done your bit.
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Latest post on 29 September 2015 - 15:44
Personally, I would just nip round to those neighbours likely to be affected, let them know your plans, tell them the time of the party (and stick to it), explain you will keep the kids contained to your garden as much as possible but that they are likely to wander a little and apologise in advance for any inconvenience. They can then choose to go out if they prefer or at least be prepared...
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Latest post on 28 September 2015 - 22:33
Debenhams do nice flowers, so do Moonpig, (and you can do a card through them too). Although I have to say, many people are now asking for family flowers only and are asking for donations in lieu to be given to a nominated charity. It may be a good idea to ask if this is the case. If you know which funeral home the lady is resting at, they would most likely know. It's kind of you to think of flowers, but the gentleman concerned may prefer the donation...
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Latest post on 27 September 2015 - 13:08
Just in case you weren't aware, make sure you also have your children's original birth certificates and an attested letter from their father giving you permission to travel with them. This is a new rule for travelling into South Africa.
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Latest post on 12 September 2015 - 11:42
The original post is 18 months old and adrianat has not posted since her last post on this thread.
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Latest post on 11 September 2015 - 01:24
I need a travel stroller that would be allowed on board so i have it available as soon as im coming off the plane and during transit hours. I guess yoyo is the only one i can be sure about. Would prefer to buy it second hand as I prob wont use it too often. Thanks Just to warn you, if it's a full flight, you can't be 100% certain that any buggy will be allowed on a flight. It can depend on ground staff and / or cabin crew as to whether your buggy will be allowed on. Obviously if you explain that you will be in transit they will usually try to fit it somewhere, but there may simply just not be enough room to get it on board.
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Latest post on 07 August 2015 - 14:47
Thank you Marroosh. What does the schedule of the children look like. Do they have to start and stop classes at the usual time or can we make our own schedule. I work full time so am concerned . Can or do parents hire teachers to help or would I be able to do it after work in the evenings? I just don't think it's possible to work full time and home school. The ones I met that do it are stay at home mums, that turned full time teachers. It is a lot of planning on top of the tutoring. Saying home school isn't possible while working full time is like saying it is impossible to be a parent if you work. There are just some adjustments that have to be made, that's all. Homeschooling is basically just parenting! It's what people have always done since the beginning of time...you teach your kids, and when they're old enough and gravitate towards a field, you then provide them with help/tutors/out side courses/etc. That's how Einstein figured out e=mc2, his teachers at school didn't teach him that. ;) Smom, please could I ask what hours you work and when do you start school work? I'm genuinely curious because I have a seven year old and she goes to bed at 7.30 pm. So presuming you can be home by, say, 5pm from a full time job and start immediately, how long do you school for? With three children to teach, presumably they are all learning different levels of, for example, maths, so you can't teach them all at the same time. When do you have dinner? Also, what do your three kids do all day at home whilst you are working? Who looks after them? Sorry for so many questions, I am very interested in how it works!
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Latest post on 06 August 2015 - 11:11
Sorry, my mistake ThirdCultureFamily, I thought a 12 year old would be in year 7, first year of high school? Is that not the case in Dubai?
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Latest post on 05 August 2015 - 21:22
Something to think about, if you haven't already - If you work full time, when will your children study? They will be too tired in the evenings, even if you are not. What time will they have to stay up until to fit a full school day. I know my 7 year old couldn't manage to study until 10 or 11pm! Or will you all give up your weekends to study, that's not much fun?! What will the children do during the day whilst you are working? I assume they will not be left all day on their own? A private tutor will be very expensive, if you get a legal one and not just somebody working illegally on the side. Edited to add another thought: The range of work of those three ages is immense, are you going to learn all that in order to teach them it and how will you teach them all at the same time? Teachers train for a long time, often to just teach either high school or primary, you are going to attempt both, that's some big ask!!
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Latest post on 27 July 2015 - 19:42
Hi EW, does any of you rent kiosk in the mall and can advise me how do find your sales people. How do you hire them? On contract or permanent job? Was is the salary for lady in the kiosk in the mall currently? I know it is a lot of questions but it is something new for me and dont want to make mistake :) Thank a lot in advance! I'm sorry I can't answer your questions but without wishing to seem negative or unhelpful, how can you be taking on a kiosk if you haven't already done all your costings? How do you know if it will be financially viable if you haven't already checked out how to get sales people and how much salary you will need to pay? Isn't that something that should have been done before you took a kiosk on? I am sorry if I have misunderstood your post and you are just looking into maybe opening a kiosk and are looking for information, it's just that from the title ("opening first kiosk and need advise") it looks like you are already committed to opening it and are now looking for answers. Good luck, I am sure some of the other ladies may be able to answer your questions.
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Latest post on 22 July 2015 - 11:21
We were at Atlantis watermark on the weekend and my friend notice to little boys struggle to get out, the current on the lazy river pushes you in one direction and they were trying to go against it to get out. We saw them looking distressed so we went over to help them. I asked the two life guards why they were just standing there watching them and did not help them get out. The one said to me I am here to help people drowningand said he cant get in the water to help them get out. He said they told the boys to just go with current and get out somewhere else. I got so angry with them especially they were smiling at me the whole time, like it was funny, these two boys were only 8 and very small. Is there any point in complaining? Well done for helping, I hope karma comes smiling at your door for your good deed. I would be cross with the lifeguards, but I would be utterly furious and raging at the parents. Where were they? Did they thank you for helping their children. Were they even anywhere near? I am not really defending the actions of the lifeguards, although I suppose I am a little, but I've been a few times to Atlantis and I am guessing that if the lifeguard got in every time someone was struggling against the current to get out, then they would be in and out all the time and not really watching for people who were in life-threatening trouble. There are certain places where it really is better to float a little further into those little bays, I've had to do it and I'm a strapping lass to say the least. HOWEVER, that being said, the lifeguard should have helped children. But I would hope they are trained to see the difference between someone not being able to push through the current but who could safely get out a little further down and someone in peril. Mind you it is the boys parents responsibility to have been right next to them to help them get out if that's where they wanted to get out... I'm afraid I would have stayed with the boys until I could give the parents a piece of my mind!!
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Latest post on 17 July 2015 - 10:51
I haven't tried to ring it, but from their website, this is their telephone number: 04-8833383
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Latest post on 16 July 2015 - 16:15
Again with the nasty comments! Wither you agree with OP or not there's really no need to be rude! I honestly don't understand some of you "ladies" are nt we supposed to be helping one another out?! Apart from [i'>maybe[/i'> one comment that [i'>might[/i'> be taken the wrong way, I fail to see that anyone has been rude or nasty? All people have pointed out is that salons are not safe for babies due to the chemicals and also that people go there to relax and shouldn't have to listen to a crying baby. What is nasty about that? :thinking: I was nt talking about your comment or anyone else who simply doesn't agree or has pointed out salon rules, but I count 6 comments that are undoubtedly a slant at OPs character. I really have no opinion on this matter one way or the other, I can see both sides of the argument, I'm just fed up coming on here and seeing women attacking and ridiculing one another, most of us come on here looking for support and advice and it saddens me to see women behave like this with one another, life's hard enough! But it swings both ways... most of the ladies on here are lovely and helpful if a poster genuinely needs support, but some of the ladies on here are fed up of coming on here to see women whinging and wanting sympathy about a situation that they shouldn't have got themselves into in the first place if they had been less selfish and thought about others before themselves. If the original poster had thought about what she was saying before she posted, she would have realised that a) a salon is a dangerous place for her baby's health, and other people are going to point that out and b) she is being totally selfish expecting other ladies to have to listen to her baby crying and other people are going to point that out and C) it is hardly "shocking!!" that a salon enforces it's rules and other people are going to point that out... I think it was the whole, indignant, "Woe is me, wasn't the salon horrible to think about other customers before poor old little me?!!!!!!!" and expecting people to agree that got to most ladies. Personally, I think everyone was quite reserved for once!! ;)
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Latest post on 16 July 2015 - 15:16
Again with the nasty comments! Wither you agree with OP or not there's really no need to be rude! I honestly don't understand some of you "ladies" are nt we supposed to be helping one another out?! Apart from [i'>maybe[/i'> one comment that [i'>might[/i'> be taken the wrong way, I fail to see that anyone has been rude or nasty? All people have pointed out is that salons are not safe for babies due to the chemicals and also that people go there to relax and shouldn't have to listen to a crying baby. What is nasty about that? :thinking:
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Latest post on 14 July 2015 - 23:04
I take one full bottle in a cooler bag with an flexible ice brick to keep it cool and 2 empty bottles. The empty ones get filled one the plane if travelling Emirates or a full service airline. If you a flying a cheap airline they sometimes only have the little powdered milks for coffee so maybe best to fill the second bottle from a coffee shop at the airport. And again when we land I fill the third bottle from a coffee shop before we drive off. [b'>[/b'> Just to say, please don't [i'>rely[/i'> on getting milk on board the flight. Of course, if there is spare you would absolutely be welcome to it. However, if it's a full flight there may just not be enough to spare for a bottle full. I've worked flights where there were so many children and parents demanding bottles of milk, that it simply ran out. Sure, it's rare, but if your child absolutely must have milk, then it's best to make sure you have enough supplies with you before you board the flight rather than risk disappointment.
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Latest post on 09 July 2015 - 11:36
I am probably going to come across as utterly horrible but I have to admit, I would never take a baby to a salon because I could never relax in case she cried. Also, and again, maybe I'm a horrible person, but if I go to a salon, I go to relax, I don't want to hear a baby cry. Mind you I also don't want to hear women cackling at the top of their voices on their mobiles or the staff chattering away to each other in loud voices either....
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Latest post on 06 July 2015 - 19:42
I couldn't be friends with such a reckless person. Judgmental much? If that is judgmental, then good. Fortunately, I am an adult and can choose who my friends are.... I think I would have to do the same as I would realise I didn't have as much in common as I thought I had with someone who wouldn't put the health of their unborn child before their own need to smoke. A friend who smoked got pregnant and she stopped immediately because the love for her unborn child gave her the willpower. It can be done, just depends how much you [i'>really[/i'> want it... Have to add though, that my mum smoked throughout both her pregnancies and my sister and I are both tall and healthy. However, that was the late 60's and early 70's and it was more the norm then. No excuse nowadays in my humble opinion.
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Latest post on 04 July 2015 - 12:04
I think to be fair to Buttercup, I think she has just chosen the wrong word, I think she is look for an animal behaviourist, rather than a specific "cat psychologist". And if her cat is having behaviour problems, especially if they are causing problems for other animals and the humans in the house, then getting advice from an animal behaviourist is a good, and caring idea. No-one would bat an eyelid if she was asking for help with the behaviour of her child or dog, so what's the difference?
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Latest post on 30 June 2015 - 16:46
Looking for a temporary home for my kitten for 5june to 22 August Did you mean 5th July rather than 5th June? Also, are you wanting recommendations for kennels (they are likely to be pretty busy by now, people tend to book months and months in advance for the summer time) or a company that comes to your house once or twice a day to feed and play with your pet? Or are you just wanting someone to foster your kitten for 6 weeks in their own home? Are you offering to do a pet-sitting exchange when the other person goes away? Or are you offering to pay someone or are you wanting someone to do it for free? There are so many cats and kittens needing foster homes, I think you may struggle for someone to take you kitten in for free for 6 weeks. If you give a bit more detail of what exactly you are looking for, someone may come forward with some help for you.
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Latest post on 26 June 2015 - 11:53
If the charge is small why bother passing it on? Mistakes happen, you have more wealth than the maid. I agree. If you or your husband was made to bear the cost of every error at your work you would be outraged. It's a tiny amount to you but likely a huge amount to her. I have to disagree, if my husband missed a flight his work had paid for, he would be expected to make his own arrangements to get on the next available flight. At his own cost. Why should an employer have to pay for carelessness of their staff and a totally avoidable expense? If it had been unavoidable then that is a different matter. Who doesn't check their ticket if they really want to get on a flight? I am hopefully just a cynical old woman but I just hope that this wasn't a deliberate act by the maid to avoid returning. :thinking:
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Latest post on 23 June 2015 - 20:16
next year let's all go to Mauritius (or insert alternative but equally fabulous destination) and stay on one sun lounger for the duration???!! :sun::) Yes. PLEEEEEASE! But could I have my own sun lounger? If there's going to be a few of us, one lounger between us all might be a bit of a squeeze, I'm not as slim as I used to be... ;)
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Latest post on 23 June 2015 - 18:29
I can totally sympathise. I think our record was: 5 weeks, 6 flights 4 countries 23 different beds With a 5 year old... :cry::lol: Edited to add: Forgot to mention we also did over 1000 miles in a hire car...
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Latest post on 14 June 2015 - 15:13
Just to help in getting you more accurate replies, are you looking for a qualified nanny who will only look after the children or a maid who will do cleaning etc and also looking after the children? Are you looking to sponsor a maid yourself or have an agency one come in each day? Will they live in or out? As obviously depending on your requirements they will come from different agencies and will have vastly different pay scales. If you can give a bit more info, I am sure one of the lovely ladies will be able to point you in the right direction.
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Latest post on 11 June 2015 - 11:38
Aw SueB, hugs to you. I feel your pain and totally understand your need to explode. When I lived in Dubai I used to foster and it broke my heart to hear the stories of the newest arrivals. Sadly, animals are mistreated and abandoned the world over not just the UAE, and when you see how human beings are often treated in the UAE, (by all Nationalities, many of whom should have been educated better), then there is no wonder that animals are treated as disposable commodities. Only education will slow (not stop) the tide and that will take years to come into effect, until the educated, compassionate youth become the pet owners. And seeing K9 Friends having schools come in, as they do, is a big step in the right direction, good on them. Until then, thank you and keep up the wonderful job you are doing and take heart that there are still plenty of good people who are willing to step up to the plate to help out in their own small way.
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Latest post on 28 May 2015 - 11:00
Personally I think they are a terrible idea, especially in Dubai! People know what brake lights mean, they are bright red so they can be seen in the peripheral vision, low light and bad light. Something flashing means you don't just see it and instinctively know what it means (like ordinary brake lights), it means you will turn to see what it is. This is a bad thing on a road. Can you imagine Shk Zayed Road with it's many lanes and loads of flashing brake lights. Oh my word!
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Latest post on 09 April 2015 - 11:30
aaliaeliza, it would appear you work for ADCB bank as no-one is that thrilled with their bank that they dig up loads of banking threads, including one that is 2 years old, just to recommend them! You are not doing them any favours, do they even know that you are doing this, or are you their new marketing manager? If so, not cool! If I were suddenly in line for a new bank, I would now NOT be going to ADCB... :(
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Latest post on 17 March 2015 - 10:58
I need a part time cleaner/maid but I dont want to sponsor them and maid agencies are quite expensive, can anyone suggest somewhere. Unfortunately there are no other legal options. You either have to sponsor the maid or get one through an agency.
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Latest post on 16 March 2015 - 12:27
Where is the fibre? You have fibre sachets included. CM, actually the Aloe is taken from the middle of the leaf, which doesn't have a laxative effect at all - but this has been happening in products that aren't official and use the outer part of the leaf (known as aloe latex), which is indeed a laxative which is very commonly used, but can be harmful in high doses. This is no different to people doing the Jason Vale juice detoxes - same process. Yet, I don't see people bashing that! There's no question that of course you're going to lose weight on such a restricted calorie diet, that stands to reason. How does it help people kick start healthy eating? The same way ANY cleanse does, by ridding your body of toxins and the reliance and cravings for certain foods, like sugars, processed carbs, caffeine etc, which is why most people get insane withdrawl headaches and other symptoms in the first few days of anything like this. Once you have rid your body of it, you no longer crave it, so why would you eat it? Simple. Much of it is a psychological reset when it comes to food and many people need that. Don't put people down for trying something that many other swear by and have proven to work for them. It doesn't work for everyone, but still, just because YOU don't get it, don't bash others. Is someone came on here promoting any kind of "cleanse" I would "bash" it, because they are a con and I hate seeing people get ripped off and fail on yet another "weight loss miracle"! When all it takes is to eat less and move more. "Cleanses" are pointless, irrespective of if someone else swears by them. If it's psychological help then I'm all for it, and good for them, but don't promote it as doing anything other than the placebo effect... The body cleanses itself, if it isn't doing then you need a doctor not aloe, from the middle of the stalk or otherwise! And again, where is the scientific study that says Clean9 (or any other cleanse) gets rid of toxins? What toxins that the body doesn't get rid of for itself? Most cravings are psychological more than physical, how else do you explain ex-smokers, drinkers and drug-addicts who still have cravings years after quitting? 9 days, or however long the "cleanse" recommends is not long enough. If you are talking about say sugar as being a toxin (it's not) then if someone just doesn't have it, the body will remove it just as efficiently as aloe. So will have the same effect that you are talking about. If something works for someone, psychological or not, then wonderful, but I seriously object to people pushing such expensive products as being the answer to becoming thin or purging the body of cravings. It is NOT. There is no miracle cure to a healthy body.
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Latest post on 16 March 2015 - 11:19
Sadly ladies, your first misconception is that this is a 'diet' - it's NOT! It's a cleanse and should be viewed as such. It's a way to detox the body, get rid of all the garbage and purge your system of all the bad stuff, at the same time giving it an effective reboot. It teaches people to start from scratch and eat properly. I tried to do this, sadly I learn I'm allergic to ingesting Aloe Vera and it made me pretty sick, so I stopped it. I'm actually pretty gutted about that. And sadly yours, and many other people are under the misconception that this is a "cleanse". Unless you are ill, in which case you should be under the care of a doctor, the body cleanses itself just fine. How does aloe "detox" the body? What "garbage" and "bad stuff" does it magically purge, and how? Apart from making you go to the loo more often - which does not specifically clean out the bad stuff, it just empties you, including essential nutrients and stomach bacteria? Like anything with laxative properties. A link to a [i'>scientific[/i'> study, (not marketing spiel) would be great. How does going to the loo more often teach someone to start from scratch and eat properly? Does it also purge the urge to snack, the urge to sit on the sofa rather than exercise and the urge to put too much food on your plate? If so, woohoo, sign me up for the magic potion please, and I'll have it delivered by unicorn please!! :lol:
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Latest post on 12 March 2015 - 17:31
No way I will get a Virtual Public Network.....it will land me in trouble for sure. If I am catching your drift, you may have a VPN but not a Virtual Public Network? :biggrin: The devil's in the P is it not?!
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Latest post on 09 March 2015 - 15:31
Thank you Sarahlou, yes I've looked into MFP but doesn't have this feature. Unfortunately. Myfitnesspal definitely DOES have this feature - I use it all the time! :) You go to the "food" tab, then "recipes". You add all the ingredients and their weights and you can either put that it is one serving, which will give you the calorie amount for the whole dish or say four servings and it will work how much for that too. But that is on my laptop, not a phone or ipad type device. Am pretty sure though that the app on those things works very similarly though from being on the forums and people talking about it...
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Latest post on 06 March 2015 - 00:31
A non UK resident does not qualify for a provisional licence If you pretend and use a UK address and he has a bump all insurance is null and void Even in an instructor's vehicle ? Yes, because even the instructor's insurance would only cover LEGAL drivers, just the same as any insurance. And someone driving on a UK provisional that doesn't live on the UK is driving illegally. :(
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Latest post on 05 March 2015 - 18:13
I am sure someone will come on with a definite answer for you but I wouldn't have thought your son would be able to take lessons on his provisional licence. The reason being that even if you have a full UK licence you are not allowed to drive on it in the UK if you are not residing in the UK, so I should think a provisional would be the same... sorry! :( So if a British expat with a full UK driving licence went back to the UK, what would they need to do to be eligible to drive? If they were there on holiday they would have to drive on their UAE one.
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Latest post on 05 March 2015 - 17:45
I am sure someone will come on with a definite answer for you but I wouldn't have thought your son would be able to take lessons on his provisional licence. The reason being that even if you have a full UK licence you are not allowed to drive on it in the UK if you are not residing in the UK, so I should think a provisional would be the same... sorry! :(
 
 
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