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Latest post on 23 June 2011 - 12:48
I also agree with the stairgate and it stays until he learns better. Have you tried a Gro-clock? I know it won't work for all children, but you never know... Also, I agree with the time outs. I don't like random smacking or standing in corners to be honest (and no, I'm not a molly-coddling PC Mum as anyone who has read my posts knows). Have you tried rapid return for when he gets up in the night if you don't want to go with the stair gate? Don'y give him anything to eat or drink, just quietly return him to bed and walk away, the less stimulus the better. I would just say total consistency and firmness is a must. He must be absolutely clear what is acceptable and what is not. And at two he is old enough to understand. If your home phone isn't cordless so it can be removed, keep it on a high shelf at night. As for your own phone (I assume you mean mobile?) then don't leave it where he can get it - easy! Get one of those cheap litle plastic hooks and stick it by the door, out of his reach, and hang the key on it (does it absolutely have to be in the lock, if so, why?) but near enough to be grabbed in an emergency. Does he try and open the balcony door during the day? If he does then start working on him that he mustn't so that it is automatic that he doesn't touch when he is alone. Be strong and good luck, remember, he is ONLY two! Your house means your rules!!
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Latest post on 18 June 2011 - 22:54
Potter is for lazy people with lazy minds. Eh?!! What on earth are you talking about?! Pottering is fab, I potter all the time. I potter about tidying up, rearranging things, picking the odd weed from the plant pots, watering them, anything but lazy in fact!
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Latest post on 18 June 2011 - 22:10
THANK YOU!! You're welcome! :)
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Latest post on 18 June 2011 - 21:55
What is a grow clock? Can it stop my ds getting up at 5:00 am? http://www.gro.co.uk/Gro-clock.html Absolutely fabulous!!
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Latest post on 18 June 2011 - 17:20
well said tally-ho! Just wish so many ppl wouldn't 'dis' the english weather all the time!!! Bah, can't call yourself proper British if you don't whinge about the weather, it's a proud national pastime! When it snows it's too cold and we can't wait for summer, when it rains it's too wet and we can't wait until it stops and when it's sunny it's too hot and we can't wait for some rain... the weather in Britain can't win, haha! :D
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Latest post on 17 June 2011 - 16:51
Just out of curiosity, did they sit there quietly for the entire time...?
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Latest post on 17 June 2011 - 16:27
Well that takes using the TV as a babysitter to an entirely new level!! :\: Not on at all!
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Latest post on 17 June 2011 - 13:15
Mothercare do and also Boots and Tesco Extra's (not sure about smaller ones). HTH, I have one for my LO, it's FAB!!
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Latest post on 16 June 2011 - 21:26
Thanks for the suggestions - are these docs easy to get appointments with? I used to be able to get one next day at the latest, sometimes on the day if required. Just explain why you need to see her and ask to speak to her too, she is quite happy to have a quick natter on the phone and then get you in as required. Hope you get sorted, and I agree, having a baby is not really the answer!!! :\:
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Latest post on 16 June 2011 - 21:24
My LO is not quite three, she has a Gro-clock so she knows when she can leave her room - until the sun comes up on the clock she stays in her room and plays irrespective of how light it is outside. After that time, if I'm still sleeping, she has been known to go downstairs and play on her own down there if she gets bored of the stuff in her room... But she is two going on forty-two, haha!
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Latest post on 16 June 2011 - 21:20
Have you tried Dr Farnaz at GMC? I had her when I was pregnant and although it's a different problem (!) obviously, she is very nice and approachable and helpful.
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Latest post on 16 June 2011 - 14:03
At our wedding we provided champagne and wine for the meal and then put money behind the bar and said when that ran out then people would have to buy their own. Luckily it didn't run out, but if it had of done, I would have been very upset that people thought we were "cheap, tacky, rude or crass" because we didn't pay for every single drink. Our friends came to celebrate our marriage, not for a free booze-up... If I go to a wedding it's because I want to celebrate with the happy couple and couldn't care less if it's a cash bar or free, I would rather go and pay for my own drinks if it means I can share their day with them. I personally think, especially in this day and age, that if free booze is that important that you feel it's rude of the couple not to pay for it, then you've really missed the point of the occasion! Just my humble opinion though.
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Latest post on 16 June 2011 - 13:48
Definitely speak to the driver yourself, good chance he is going to the wrong place, even if he has the 'right' address. Have had the same situation many times with taxis, they ring and say they are outside so you go outside and they are not there and then they insist they are at the right place and you are not, haha (even when it's your own home they will argue you are not at the right address!). Keep talking to him until you are literally face to face...
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Latest post on 13 June 2011 - 18:11
You could try speaking to Dubai Kennels and Cattery, they are very helpful and am sure would help you with what you need for wherever you are going.
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Latest post on 12 June 2011 - 17:26
Everyone has given some brilliant ideas, I would just say to please not take stickers on and plaster them everywhere and then leave them for the poor cleaners to get off! :( They are rushed enough trying to turn the plane round clean without wasting their limited time peeling off loads of your stickers that you can't be bothered to remove! I would rather have them spend time cleaning the tray tables and toilets...
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Latest post on 12 June 2011 - 15:05
If DH had gone to that much trouble I would have picked something I could eat, even I didn't really fancy it, put a huge smile on my face and thanked him very much - after all it was his anniversary as well and he was obviously willing to pay that amount... just my opinion though!
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Latest post on 12 June 2011 - 14:59
Congratulations on your new house! If you are not sure what sort of dog you would like, how about considering fostering for one of the charities? That way if you find the dog isn't right for you, you can try another and in the meantime you will have given a dog a break from the kennels in a loving home and helped the charity, especially over the summer when they are desperate and who knows, that dog you foster may just squirm into your heart and stay forever!
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Latest post on 10 June 2011 - 23:08
Strange. It's almost as if some posters' teenagers aren't actually sentient beings, but just inanimate objects to be manoeuvred at their parents' will, seen and not heard, as in the Victorian days. Stepford Children. edited by simpleasabc on 10/06/2011 There is a lot to be said for 'Victorian' type parenting. I was brought up very strictly, literally 'seen & not heard' unless I was told I could be & did exactly what my parents asked me to, without question. I was only smacked (on the bottom) twice in my whole life. I remember both times and deserved it too. I was not a Stepford Child, I was and still am a very independant person, my parents encouraged me to be that way, however they also taught me to be respectful of them & to value money (I earnt every penny I was given). I am bringing my daughter up the same way, and I am not ashamed to say so. She already respects me and knows I mean business, what I say goes, and I don't need to smack her into submission, it is just clear and consistent boundaries. We also have loads of fun being silly together - when it is appropriate! On the other hand, my sister's kids are given lots of freedom to be 'children' and are allowed their own opinions & choices on everything & have lot's of gadgets like so many kids these days and they treat my sister like dirt... So, sorry, but I think it's about time for some old fashioned parenting to have a revival instead of all this PC rubbish.
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Latest post on 10 June 2011 - 20:35
Just a separate comment. Kids only get to stay home for 18 years before they leave for the outside world. Why not keep them home for the entire 18 years if you could? After that it would be luxury to have them home. Have you had teenagers yet? Not yet. But sending them away does not sound like a real solution to teen problems. Depends what the problems are though really, but i do think you have to have the right sort of child to go to baording school and of course work very hard to find the right BS for that child. Definitely agree Boomerang. I was actually against boarding schools in general up until a few years ago due to my poor DH, who went to a hideous one and definitely has issues because of it. However, I have another friend who I met later and who went and loved it, really 'made' her. So yes, you have to find the right school for the right child, and in this boy's case, as it would seem he is fine with everyone else apart from poor Cushion, then I think that a good BS will be very good for him and may make him appreciate his poor old Mum a bit more when he realises how many rules the rest of the world abide by. Kids need firm boundaries and a good BS will give him just that.
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Latest post on 10 June 2011 - 20:21
Just a separate comment. Kids only get to stay home for 18 years before they leave for the outside world. Why not keep them home for the entire 18 years if you could? After that it would be luxury to have them home. Oh floppy, bless you....! Mine is 2yo, am looking forward to her flying the nest already...!! ;)
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Latest post on 10 June 2011 - 19:17
It's probably an unpopular thing to say, I'm a very old-fashioned parent, but if I were in your shoes I would send him to boarding school without a moments hesitation. He is being a typical teenager to a point, however, you have very kindly given him a year to buck up his ideas and it would seem that he has wasted that opportunity and your patience. Moody & solitary I can accept, that's totally normal, but rudeness, destructiveness and demanding money is absolutely not acceptable and he needs to go somewhere that will have firm boundries that will not shift, even in the face of an emotional teenager throwing a hissy fit. It won't harm him and in the long run I think it would be good for him, sometimes a parent has to make the decision to be cruel to be kind. Best of luck in your decision, it's not easy being a parent!
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Latest post on 09 June 2011 - 22:27
Seriously, anybody know kcm...?
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Latest post on 09 June 2011 - 19:27
I know it has lyrics, but I once went to a wedding and they had a young lady singing the most fabulous version of Ave Maria I have ever heard, really beautiful. Just as an aside, if you have your music on CD, make sure the person queuing up the music for your grand entrance has a clue. When we got married, I wanted the traditional wedding march, so handed in a CD with it on, even marked the track number and ended up wandering down the aisle to some unknown rubbish classical drivel no-one had every heard of. Awful!
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Latest post on 09 June 2011 - 12:42
Excellent article, well done for posting it - so many people are unaware how quiet drowning is.
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Latest post on 09 June 2011 - 11:56
Hi LD, I've only just read this thread and although I don't have anything useful to add I just wanted to send you a great big hug, some strength and a smile. Be kind to yourself, you are an amazing Mum and your little girl is very lucky to have such a caring Mum who is trying every way possible to help her. Good luck with your move and I hope you are soon looking back at this problem with a "My goodness, I'm glad that's all in the past!" and coming back on here from Singapore, sometime in the future, giving hope to another Mum in the same position. More hugs.
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Latest post on 09 June 2011 - 11:47
National treasure that guy! Would love to have a good old natter with him and really let him rip, bet he's hilarious in private.
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Latest post on 08 June 2011 - 22:55
I was on Depo for years and loved it, didn't do me any harm, got pregnant on our 1st attempt! I also hate injections, but with that I just leant on the bed, dropped my pants and before the nurse and I had commented on the weather (isn't it hot again, haha!) it was all over...! Came off it no problems, if I remember correctly it was a couple of months before I started my periods again, but they weren't any worse than they had been previous to starting the Depo. Got the gripes warning first as usual, certainly no immediate and clothes destroying flood gates opening... ;)
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Latest post on 07 June 2011 - 19:49
Ask for a diuretic, the pharmacy can show you what they have. There is also one called Waterban I think. However, don't forget you need to keep your salt intake up if you lose a lot of water otherwise you could start suffering from bad cramp. Don't use them all the time though as they aren't good for you in the long term.
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Latest post on 07 June 2011 - 18:10
I queried the resident thing with the helpline and they state that it is for non-residents also and that end of year profits are for all bond holders. Hope that clarifies for you. Sounds like I got fibbed to :( Or I did, lol... let's face it - in Dubai, who knows, different person, different day, different answer...! ;)
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Latest post on 07 June 2011 - 14:20
Any news on kcm? Hope all is well.
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Latest post on 07 June 2011 - 14:19
I queried the resident thing with the helpline and they state that it is for non-residents also and that end of year profits are for all bond holders. Hope that clarifies for you.
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Latest post on 06 June 2011 - 22:27
kcm, I am not by nature overly dramatic, but if you are still reading this, please take the advice of many of the ladies on here and go to the A&E dept of [i'>any[/i'> hospital that will take your insurance. The basic appendix operation is a relatively simple procedure that could be done by most qualified, decent general surgeons. However, if you have acute appedicitis, you need to be operated on very soon, irrespective of time of day. I am horrified that your "European/German Dr who is a specialist in this field" would send you home with an acute situation. Very irresponsible and I would change him immediately. If you just knock an acute appedix, say something as simple as into the door handle as you pass, it could burst and literally you could die from it. Please re-read tally-ho's post and understand how dangerous your problem is. We are only nagging you because we care.
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Latest post on 06 June 2011 - 12:24
I was advised by the NB office that I had to be a [b'>resident to claim interest or a prize [/b'>however I could still own the bond. As there was no benefit in leaving them I redeemed and did so by taking my passport to one of the redemption centres. Not all locations that sell them redeem them so you will need to check. Ooh, when was that, is it a new rule? I am now back in the UK and still have my bonds. I even won AED 100 a while back and they emailed an ebond to me. They know I am in the UK as they sent something to me ages ago too... I am sure I have seen notification on the site a while ago of someone winning from somewhere out of the UAE. what's the point in having them if I can't win anything anymore? grrrrr!
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Latest post on 02 June 2011 - 17:31
I will survive by Gloria Gaynor. Not sure why. I'm not heartbroken but if that song comes on I belt it out. Oh me too (and neither am I)! Great tune to howl along to (can't say sing, wouldn't be the truth since I couldn't carry a tune in a bucket!). Also, "It's raining Men (Hallelujah!)", "Boys of summer" and anything by Bryan Adams, Guns N Roses or Def Leppard...
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Latest post on 02 June 2011 - 12:13
Oh my, close your eyes and your right there in sooooo many shops... loved it, thank you for posting!
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Latest post on 02 June 2011 - 12:11
Oh JS, bless you, please tell me you didn't honestly think this article was real did you? Did you look at the rest of the page, the other stories (like: Mass Of Unfreshened Air Moving In From Arctic Circle)? And did you honestly think William would hold a press conference like that and say "Well, see you later" at the end of it before wandering off? Love it!
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Latest post on 29 May 2011 - 12:59
In some shops in the UK, if you try to return an item that is now in the sale you only get the current sale price back, not the full amount. I guess this stops people trying that trick...
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Latest post on 29 May 2011 - 00:01
I would be very proud if I were you. It won't be easy no matter where he is sent and he could possibly be sent to a front line, no matter what his position. However, if he feels he wants to do it then I would let him. I would probably worry constantly whilst he is gone, but still, so proud.
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Latest post on 28 May 2011 - 21:09
Not sure what you mean by 'clear lenses', but we got some good quality sunglasses for our LO at Just Kidding, although it was a little while ago and they weren't cheap, but it may be worth checking... Also, try Debenhams, that's the kind of thing they might have and they should have the UV sticker on them to prove the quality.
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Latest post on 28 May 2011 - 14:19
My 5 year old niece ([i'>extreme[/i'> drama queen) had her adenoids out and grommets in last year. I ordered some books from Amazon for her to have a look at and for my sister to read to her, which my sister said were really good and helpful. My sister also let her choose some new PJ's, dressing gown, slippers and cuddly toy to go with her on her 'adventure'. She started talking about it as soon as she knew and answered all her questions, and kept explaining how much better she would feel afterwards. So by the time the actual hospital visit came she was much calmer as she understood what was going to happen. There were a few tears, but nothing like what was expected. Two of the books I got were (the other was specifically about grommets, so no good to you): Going to the Hospital (Usborne First Experiences) My First Visit to Hospital (First Times) Good luck to you, it's so difficult with little ones trying to explain.
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Latest post on 28 May 2011 - 14:07
Aren't second jobs in Dubai illegal...? In other countries I would say, yes, get another job to help, but in Dubai, she would just be swapping one problem for another...! :\: No - the laws just been changed. Oh, that's really good news, sorry I hadn't heard that! Then I absolutely support your second job theory 100%. I had two (in the UK) when the mortgage needed paying and yes, it's bl00dy hard work, but that, as they say, never hurt anyone. Better exhausted and run into the ground but proud and debt free, I can vouch for that.
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Latest post on 28 May 2011 - 13:57
Aren't second jobs in Dubai illegal...? In other countries I would say, yes, get another job to help, but in Dubai, she would just be swapping one problem for another...! :\:
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Latest post on 28 May 2011 - 13:55
Does she still have a bank account / strong links to the UK, enough to get a loan? Or friends / family that she can arrange one through or borrow from? Then she can pay off her debts and leave Dubai with a clean sheet. Although lots of people do go home, abandoning cars and debts, they can never be free of that debt. What happens if in a few years she goes on holiday and the plane gets diverted to Dubai... doesn't bear thinking about. However, I'm also not sure about her going and confessing to the bank either, in the UK I would say definitely go as they will help you work out a plan. In Dubai, they may or may not, depends on the bank, who she talks to and what kind of day they are having... they could just panic, assume she is going to do a bunk and attempt to cash her security cheque, in which case off to jail she goes... Such a difficult situation poor thing. Really hope she can get her situation sorted. It's good of you to try and help.
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Latest post on 24 May 2011 - 18:35
Hiya, sorry I can't help directly as I don't have any experience or advice to offer, however, I remember some of the other girls talking about it over on the pregnancy section. Just search on 'clomid' and you'll come across a few success stories, here's one with some positive news to get you started: http://www.expatwoman.com/forum/messages.aspx?TopicID=147893 Good luck, I am sure the lovely ladies on here will be able to give you some reassurance.
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Latest post on 24 May 2011 - 17:03
I was never ever ever going to have children, then we decided to have one and were blessed with a beautiful daughter in my late thirties. We always agreed that if we were going to have one we would have two, quite close together. We moved country when DD was tiny and then unfortunately had to move again quite soon after, we are hoping to again to a more permanent place and have been waiting until we were moved and settled before we tried again. We were hoping to be moved within 6 months - it's been almost two years now and as time has moved on and our financial situation has gone from bad to worse we have kept putting it off... Although I know women can have babies well into their forties, I have a few health problems that could cause a pregnancy problem, also I don't have the energy I used to, and I am sooo out of changing nappies and going through sleepless nights that I don't think I could do it again. Oh... and if I do have another, I really want another little girl, I would be devastated if it was either a boy or twins (which run in DH's family!)... I want my DD to have a sister as I did and who I love very much but on the other hand they won't necessarily have the great relationship we have... Ho hum, what to do...?
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Latest post on 19 May 2011 - 15:47
Put a pan of boiling water under it, if you can see the steam being sucked up, it's working. Or take the filter off and see if it's dirty, if it is it's probably working, if it's clean, it's not! :)
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Latest post on 19 May 2011 - 15:06
Aagh, what a nightmare! How could they not know it was a bank holiday, didn't they think it was odd there were no other patients booked in?!! Honestly, some people are soooo dim!
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Latest post on 17 May 2011 - 21:42
Oh thank goodness, I hope she now gets good counselling and can enjoy what is left of her childhood.
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Latest post on 16 May 2011 - 22:37
We have a gold maintenance package on our villa for our benefit as much as the tenants. So many things can go wrong, not just A/C... pipes bursting, taps breaking, water pump breaking, water heater breaking... all things that might need an immediate call out and if you don't have a contract with someone you may struggle to get someone out in an emergency, especially a Friday or public holiday and so your villa may get badly damaged. Also, if the tenants decide to get something mended as there is nobody to call out, they may pay someone to do a bodge job which you will have to sort out at a later date which might cost a lot more...
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Latest post on 11 May 2011 - 23:51
Well tonight I've put Jessie on the radar of Homely Petz, DARC, on my FB an Twitter, so i'm doing the best I can for her. Yay, well done! Finger's crossed. :)