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Latest post on 19 June 2012 - 12:06
Are you here or in the UK? Do you have the kids passports?. If I were you, I would get on the first plane with the kids and take them to your parents, family. Then start proceedings. Not sure that that is good advice - just because he is a bad husband does not necessarily make him a bad Dad. And taking his children away from him might turn him very nasty in the divorce proceedings. Just not worth it in my humble opinion. IM NOT SURE I AGREE WITH YOUR COMMENT, [b'>GOOD DADS DON’T HAVE AFFAIRS AND BREAK UP FAMILIES! [/b'> OP IM REALLY SORRY YOU ARE GOING THROUGH THIS YOU COULD TRY DAVIDSON LEGAL LAWYERS THEYRE VERY PROFESIONAL AND HAVE WON A LOT OF LANDMARK CASES IN THE UAE. Sometimes they do, life isn't always as simple as we may wish it was. :(
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Latest post on 19 June 2012 - 11:39
I never said that he was a bad Dad! He is a lousy husband and has lied, cheated and manipulated for over a year! And he is a Man in an extremely male oriented country. So good father, bad father, who cares? She likely doesn't have anyone else here to support her and she should tread very carefully from here on out. Better off in the UK until things are sorted out than here with the law on HIS side But, it is simply NOT fair to drag the children into something that possibly has nothing to do with them. If he is a good Dad, then how terrible to drag them away from him. You may say, "well, he should have thought about that before he had an affair", but at such a young age children cannot understand about affairs etc and nor should they. They just know that for some reason they can't see their Daddy anymore and they WILL blame themselves. If he is a bad Dad then maybe it would be different but Ranchesranger hasn't said anything about his ability as a parent. I also would not take the children away anyway (unless there was physical violoence involved, but again, no hint of that) as it will not help her case in anyway.
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Latest post on 19 June 2012 - 11:31
Are you here or in the UK? Do you have the kids passports?. If I were you, I would get on the first plane with the kids and take them to your parents, family. Then start proceedings. Not sure that that is good advice - just because he is a bad husband does not necessarily make him a bad Dad. And taking his children away from him might turn him very nasty in the divorce proceedings. Just not worth it in my humble opinion. Ranchesranger, big hugs to you, what a horrid situation for you to be in. Do go and see a good lawyer and get all your info and facts together, but be calm about it, don't make any rash decisions that could backfire on you and the kids later. In the long run it will stand you in good stead. Taking his kids away would not put you in a good light to any judge and may give your husband ammunition against his "obviously unreasonable wife".
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Latest post on 13 June 2012 - 12:14
Nesca, you may want to delete your post unless you want to come back from a lovely three months break to a jailed / deported maid and a fine of (I believe) AED 100 000... why don't you just ask her to do a spring clean of your house? By the time she has done all the windows, behind the furniture and bottomed all your cupboards you'll be back. Your house will be sparkling and you will still have a maid and your money, win-win! :)
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Latest post on 13 June 2012 - 12:01
Surely that's illegal?
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Latest post on 07 June 2012 - 19:56
HUGE pat on the back! Keep it up! :)
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Latest post on 07 June 2012 - 16:53
I didn't really want kids, but said if I had one it had to be a girl, said I was sending it back if it turned out to be a boy! Then I got pregnant and at our first scan we were told 85% certain it's a boy, I was devastated, really upset. Think the doctor thought I was mad!Turned out to be my girl anyway...! ;) She's hilarious, loving, independant but not very girly at all which suits me as I'm not either. The best thing is, her daddy, who isn't overtly affectionate, can be all cuddly and silly with her which I know he would struggle with if we had a boy. All that stiff upper lip stuff! Nobody bats an eyelid at a big burly bloke being all gaga over his little girl..! ;)
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Latest post on 07 June 2012 - 11:57
Have you tried Nathalie Semeteys at Dr Akel's clinic (in Magrudy Centre on Beach Road)? I think she is still there although it's been a while since I saw her but she was very good and I definitely found that she helped me.
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Latest post on 16 May 2012 - 11:20
DC and Nomad, sending you both thoughts and hugs to help you through such a difficult time, xx
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Latest post on 15 May 2012 - 15:26
It wouldn't bother me if they were well behaved but it's a bit of a fine line - you can't really do an obedience / strngth of bladder test on them haha! Also would feel so sorry for anyone with asthma or allergies. Out of curiosity what would happen on a flight where animals were allowed and there was a passenger with severe allergies - who gets bumped? The dog or the human...?
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Latest post on 15 May 2012 - 12:09
Sorry D-J I also agree with most of the others, unless it's for cultural reasons (which I still don't agree with but I accept) babies should NOT have their ears pierced. It doesn't just look bad, it's dangerous. Not only could your baby catch the earring in clothing as they move about ripping their earlobe, they could pull on their earring (remember it's quite itchy and painful for a while and they will try to bat at the pain) and rip their earlobe Worse still they could manage to get that tiny stud in their mouth - can you imagine the damage to their throat / stomach / windpipe / lungs that that little pointy end could do if it got lodged. I know it's very unlikely, but still... That's the first thing I think of when I see a little one with earrings, not "Oh my, how cute!".
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Latest post on 13 May 2012 - 14:43
Wrap a nice piece of salmon in tin foil after drizzling with a bit of lemon juice, pop in the oven for a while, then just at the end open the tin foil and allow to dry out a little - perfect for little ones! I dry it off so it doesn't end up a bit "wet" which my DD doesn't like so much. Also, with white fish, easy fish fingers are a hit as someone else said. Choose a nice firm chunky piece, slice into fingers, coat in milk and breadcrumbs (homemade, or lets face it, you can buy them too if you are strapped for time... ;) ) and fry in a drop of oil for a lovely crunchy, healthy tea...
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Latest post on 11 May 2012 - 15:19
We had two cats, brother and sister then adopted a third, girl, they all got on fine. They took turns in curling up with each other. My sister had four, two of each with no problems either... I say go for it, the more the merrier! ;)
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Latest post on 11 May 2012 - 14:51
Hi Cheeky, My in-laws say: "Any of the Rani Resorts are really stunning. Bazaruto Island is gorgeous. Google either of these, and I’m sure she’ll find something nice. When does she plan to go? Just FYI, Nov, Dec, Jan and Feb are unbelievably hot and can rain a lot!" Hope this helps! Tartiflette Thanks so much for remembering to ask, certainly does help! Planning on November so shall pack Factor 50 and an umbrella :D. Was actually eyeing up Bazaruto, so good to hear it's as nice as it looks, although it's a bit, ahem, pricey, will work on DH... Thanks again, Cheeky (shame I'm not still in Dubai because you and I should go on a night out - Tarti & Cheeky would be bound to have fun, teehee!! :D)
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Latest post on 10 May 2012 - 19:26
Thinking of you and sending you hugs too.
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Latest post on 10 May 2012 - 18:23
if you book through www.sasafari.com you can get advise on the best family friendly resorts, and help with excursions, ideas for keeping kiddies entertained etc. Run by a friend of mine who has kids so she knows what would work and where to avoid ;-) Oooh, thanks for that, shall have a look! :)
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Latest post on 10 May 2012 - 14:51
It was SLR... yawn... said even less then, haha. I think my most posting was about a gorgeous little dog we were trying to help rehome not long before we left - Rambo. Think everyone was sick of "SLR" by the time we got him rehomed! :D
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Latest post on 10 May 2012 - 13:49
Hi ([i'>little wave[/i'>), I've been around since at least 2004, maybe even the end of 2003 but with a different name as I moved countries and didn't post for a while, just read, so when I came to log in to post one day, my user name wouldn't work anymore... was around in the heyday of shhhhhh, you know who! :D Have never been banned and rarely, if ever, post anything either controversial or remotely interesting... just like to mooch around watching out for bun fights!
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Latest post on 10 May 2012 - 13:39
Just bumping for any info... :)
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Latest post on 10 May 2012 - 13:29
Not sure I would worry too soon, if you have only been with the company for 1.5years then the recruitment agency could be working from old info and just hoping to get you hooked, they may not even know if there is a job available anymore. Or it might not be for your job, just one very similar - did they definitely specify your position at your company (by name) as that would be quite unusual as marycatherine said. Failing that, it may be your boss testing you... I wouldn't bite just yet, I would take all the agents details and then have a sit down with your boss to find out the truth. But, having said that, if it is your job they are advertising without telling you, then make sure you give them nothing to fire you for too... Keep your nose clean, work hard and find out what's going on before you do anything rash.
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Latest post on 09 May 2012 - 12:08
Oh Kristina, how utterly horrible for you, sending you hugs to help you through. And as others have said, a tragic accident, nothing more, dogs will be little monkey's, no blame to be placed anywhere.
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Latest post on 08 May 2012 - 20:31
Hi, My in-laws go a lot-- to self-catering beach huts though, but they might know of a good resort. Will check in with them and post back for you. Don't forget anti-malarial medication, especially for your DD! (Malarone Junior is fine for 4-year-olds.) Oh thank you, that would be great! :)
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Latest post on 08 May 2012 - 19:23
Bumping for the evening ladies... anybody?
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Latest post on 08 May 2012 - 12:19
Lovely words andreasmullet, however it just goes to show how everyone is different. I had a miscarriage just before Christmas, at just under 11 weeks after having my beautiful daughter 3 years ago and I DID want to hear that it wasn't my fault and that it was for the best and I did NOT want to hear that we would be wonderful parents one day, I didn't know if I wanted to try again and people telling me it would happen made me very uspet. It also comforted me to hear about others who had it worse, made me remember that there are people who suffered far worse than me, giving birth to a dead, full term baby is far worse (in my opinion of course, which is why I say we all suffer differently). Talking about it was the best thing I could have done and only a couple of people I spoke to had NOT had a miscarriage, although everyone is different, I feel that people DID understand what I had gone through if they had also had a miscarriage and that brought me a lot of comfort too. Dangerous Blonde, hugs to you, I had the miscarriage in a hotel bathroom on my own with my poor DH in the bedroom trying to keep our LO out. I had had a scan the previous day where they were pretty sure there was no heartbeat but wanted me to go to my own hospital back at home the next day as we were visiting relatives and there was nothing to be done either way. It was not pleasant as I had to basically clean up and flush my "baby" down the toilet. But, personally I am a big believer that nature knows what it is doing, whether that is unfair or not and that has helped me a lot.
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Latest post on 27 April 2012 - 17:03
After a few weeks I went and sat in the landlords office talking loudly about how they were liars and thieves as people passed until they gave me our cheque... ;)
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Latest post on 10 April 2012 - 15:11
Just have 3 Nuttella sandwiches per day and nothing else. Excersise and see they weight fall off. [b'>A woman doesn't need more than 1200 calories in a day[/b'>. 3 Nutella sandwiches is over 1600 calories= Not healthy. And no veg, fruit and other nutrients. Bad diet! Erm, some women do, depends on height, frame and current weight, 1200 may be too many for some and not near enough for others...
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Latest post on 02 April 2012 - 12:05
You could try a runny-ish paste of bio washing powder, leave for a little while then wash off. A bit labour intensive if you have a big area, so maybe you could try a ton of powder in your mop bucket, slosh on and leave then for a little while before mopping off. I used to do that when we had un-house trained dogs, seemed to work (I think I read it breaks the urine down...?). However, if there were so many cats peeing all the time, then you may find that replacing the tiles might be the only true solution. Wipe the walls too - as SueB said, they pee up those too - you'd be amazed how far they can get!
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Latest post on 21 March 2012 - 20:02
You could try: http://www.coutureevents.ae/ and no, I don't work for them but I know someone who does and she is very hard working and extremely dedicated to doing a really good job.
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Latest post on 18 March 2012 - 14:42
so if you were alone with more than one child how would you cope? Take them both out - nothing like peer pressure of a sibling to make them behave!
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Latest post on 18 March 2012 - 14:40
sometimes easier said than done keeping your children quiet - as a mother of 2 young boys, sometimes they are angelic, and sometimes they want to destroy everything! if you have 2 and you're alone, its not so easy to walk out staightaway when they kick off....thats why you chose your venue carefully and hope for the best! so instead of always criticising, spare a thought for the parent who is probably even more distraught than you are... But to be fair to you, I imagine you are unlikely to take your two boys to a brunch on your own, without having some other adult with you that could step in at least for a moment until you could deal with it... So it is unlikely in this particular scenario that [i'>someone[/i'> wasn't able to deal with the baby... I am full of sympathy for a lone parent trying to deal with several kids out and about and would not dream of commenting if it was obvious that the parent was trying to deal with the situation, but let's face it, not all preants are as considerate as you obviously are! :)
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Latest post on 18 March 2012 - 14:33
I'm in the harsh corner. I have a LO and if at that age she screamed for more than a few seconds and couldn't immediately be pacified with food / bottle etc then she would be taken out of the room until she was quiet. I get really annoyed if my meal is spoilt by someone thinking it is fine to let their child scream so that they can finish their meal before they do anything. Sorry, but as a parent, I have had my food go stone cold as I had to deal with my LO, that is just one of the "joys" of being a parent...
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Latest post on 18 March 2012 - 14:25
Some of these comments about the maid being OLD at 58 are hilarious... My mother is 67, does all her own housework, including washing windows and, shock horror, moving the sofa to hoover under it, she also does all her own gardening and lawn mowing. She can keep up with all her grand children too, goes swimming twice a week and swims a mile each time in half the time I could! If you told her she was "too old" for such things as cleaning she would probably laugh herself into a puddle after giving you a look that would make you want to curl up and die for making such a ridiculous comment! Good on you Anne for taking someone on who may otherwise be foolishly looked over in favour of a youngster, I hope you can resolve the situation with the visa.
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Latest post on 16 March 2012 - 15:56
Have just done a search for "missing cat" and it came up with quite a few, even from just the past few days. Maybe have a look and see if any of them match your visitoirs description, I am sure you would have a very happy owner if you managed a "snap"!
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Latest post on 16 March 2012 - 15:54
Could you put your location and describe the cat a little more, maybe it's colour? Someone on here might recognise it. It certainly sounds like a pet rather than a stray. I am sure iIread on here the other day about a missing cat with medium long hair, I shall try to find it.
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Latest post on 13 March 2012 - 19:38
To be honest, I would be very wary about getting a maid to look after a child with an allergy, especially if you are hoping not to pay too much. I know circumstances may well dictate you have to, but a low-cost maid is unlikely to have the skills to be able to read all ingredient lists, supervise firmly enough if other kids are trying to share or be able to know what to do in an emergency if god-forbid he should actually eat something with egg in it. Is creche / nursery something that you could consider? Good luck with your search, hopefully someone may be able to point you in the right direction.
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Latest post on 13 March 2012 - 19:32
Yeh ive been trying to get in touch with my insurance company, Arab Orient, to extend my insurance for 5 days or so. As i said i wouldn't be driving it after tomorrow except to rta which can see from my apartment building. An insurance company that you can't contact for 5 days? Doesn't say much for them, does it? Next time go with RSA or AXA. I read it as she was thinking of extending the insurance for 5 days rather than thad been rying to contact them for 5 days... ;) Although I could be wrong, in which case, definitely the wrong insurance company to be covered by!
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Latest post on 13 March 2012 - 19:31
Yeh ive been trying to get in touch with my insurance company, Arab Orient, to extend my insurance for 5 days or so. As i said i wouldn't be driving it after tomorrow [b'>except to rta [/b'>which can see from my apartment building. Just to put another slant on it - how would you feel if you were driving today and were in a bump where the other person was "just driving two minutes down the road to transfer the car". S*d's law says this short time is when an accident will happen, or a police car will read your plate... Also, what happens if you even have a no-injury bump, who will pay to repair your car? the person buying it won't want it buy it banged up and you could be hugely out of pocket. Definitely worth the insurance extension. Just not worth it in my humble opinion to even consider it.
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Latest post on 12 March 2012 - 15:21
I would want a lot more information and written confirmation that this was actually MY debt before I paid a dirham. Why hasn't there been contact before now? Why have the monthly statements not been sent every month for the last three years? Does your friend have any paperwork relating to the clearance of the debt? If this was me I would ring the general number and speak to someone there, don't give specifics but just tell them you have been told you still owe money and see what they say. I would not deal with this specific woman again. If they have time, they should go and sit in the bank until a manager meets with them and explains what exactly is the situation. If your friend knows they have cleared the debt then it may be an admin error and the debt might belong to someone else. Hope they get it sorted without too much hassle!
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Latest post on 09 March 2012 - 13:23
Personally I would tell them - they CAN handle the truth! You don't need to go into full details, especially financial worries etc, just simply explain that Daddy's job has now finished so you are going to move to wherever so daddy can get a new one, won't it be exciting to go and explore somewhere new? The 8 & 6 year old are old enough to understand basics and everything will go over the top of the 2 year old really and they will most likely pick up on everyone elses feelings. So if you can convince the older two it's going to be fun and exciting then the 2yo will feel the same. If it's any help, our 3 year old has has lived in three different countries, (one of them twice), and in the last month has slept in 9 different beds and been on 4 flights and a ship journey... she is loving it - she is with Mummy and Daddy and is getting to see lots of new things and meet lots of new friends! Kids are a lot more flexible than we sometimes give them credit for. If Mummy and Daddy are giving of the right "This is so much fun, isn't it great?" vibes, they will be happy. Give off "Isn't this a worry, so stressful, what a nightmare", they are also going to feel the same! Good luck and hugs, I hope it all works out for you.
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Latest post on 15 February 2012 - 12:13
Just to revive the original question, there was a fantastic article in the Sunday Times this week about how internet dating agencies have increased "homogamy"in relationships (people marrying versions of themselves). The internet gives people access to a much larger number of potential partners than traditional dating methods, this allows people to be very specific about their requirements. Apparently, there is are statistically fewer divorces among couple who have met in this way. Academics said that "Opposites attract, then they attack"...."the greater the differences, the greater the drain on their marital energy". It is believed that there are five traits. The more of these traits that are shared, the greater the emotional closeness. The traits are: 1 - sense of humour 2 - intelligence 3 - same interests 4 - moral code 5 - having grown up in the same area Interesting. Very interesting Chewit - I think we have 3 out of 5 for sure - maybe even 4 :)...thanks for sharing this article. DH and I have 1/5! :\: we are 1/5 too Us too - we have no. 4 in common and that's it, haha. The rest we are just about polar opposites! But we are ten years and counting so maybe there a re a few exceptions to prove the rule... Vive La Difference and all that eh?
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Latest post on 13 February 2012 - 21:36
hansten, to answer your original question, yes, opposites attract! DH and I have been together for 10 years, married for 5 with a 3 year old DD. We are about as opposite as you can get. We were just friends for a while before we became closer... and closer... I am loud, he is very quiet, he had a private school eduacation followed by university, I went to comprehensive and came out with dismal A-levels. he has a career, I had a succession of jobs, I talk all the time, to everyone and anyone I bump into, he barely speaks... He speaks (when he does) beautiful Queens English, I have a broad Yorkshire accent. I'm very close to my family, he rarely sees his, I love stinky cheese, he can't bear it... and I could go on. We are Yin and Yang and therefore fit together perfectly! Give it a go, you have nothing to lose, a marriage should be based on friendship as wild passion and youth fade over time, companionship into wrinkledon lasts forever - My DH and I will be just as comfortable, happy and in love with each other when we are 90 as we are now... all the very best to you!
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Latest post on 22 January 2012 - 00:32
There are LOADS of resorts in the Maldives that do all inclusive, we found dozens and dozens when we were researching for our honeymoon. We had previously taken the all inclusive package at Kuredu which was a great island, but for our honeymoon we went to Komandoo which was an adults only island, again all inclusive, and the food was FABULOUS!
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Latest post on 18 January 2012 - 01:13
I always wonder at how for all the different people in the world, whoever learns English as second (or third) language, what they all have in common is that they seem to like to assert that they speak it better than people who speak it as a first language. I hope my English is not also being judged by the typos and auto-corrects in my hasty informal EW posts :S. I am a Lancashire / Yorkshire mix, so to be fair, most people who have English as a second (or twentieth) language have better grammar than me!! ;)
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Latest post on 18 January 2012 - 00:35
Hhhhmmm, 3 and a half...? :\: My LO has wandered into the bathroom twice - once when I was changing a tampon and once when I was changing a towel after my miscarriage just before Christmas. She seemed quite pragmatic about the whole growing up / blood / it's a ladies thing / mummy's baby died, but that's her all over!! I guess it's never too young if the subject comes up...! You just have to choose your words to your DD's understanding level and always be open to answer any question, no matter how embarrassing. I learnt the hard way about the facts of life so am happy for my LO to ask away and answer as best as I think she can manage so she is better prepared for life than I was.
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Latest post on 18 January 2012 - 00:27
If he loves her, why should age matter, it is just a number after all! I know women who are 50 that look and act 65 and some that are 50 that look and act 40... My DH is younger than me and doesn't care. But if she is lying to him about her age then he might not be impressed with the lie itself rather than the age fact. Besides, 7 years is not really much at all.
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Latest post on 11 January 2012 - 00:52
Thank you ladies!
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Latest post on 10 January 2012 - 22:07
Are the headphone sockets in EK business class 1, 2 or 3 pin...?! I used to be crew and [i'>think[/i'> they are 2 pin, but something is nagging that some of them [i'>may[/i'> have been 3 or possibly just the one, haha (and when I think of the thousands I have collected you would think it would be etched into my brain!)... Just want to know as wanting to take our LO's earphones and have a 2 pin adapter but not a 3 and of course wouldn't need one at all for a one pin. Many thanks in advance, CM
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Latest post on 10 January 2012 - 12:35
If it happens again, go and speak to the crew in the galley and ask them to say something, they should oblige, I used to. If not then as you pass the couple say in a loud, startled voice "Oh my goodness, WHAT are you two upto?!!" and then just walk on. Very effective, especially on a busy flight haha! ;)
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Latest post on 10 January 2012 - 12:32
Has he contacted Scuba Dubai? They may have some dive instructor work. I think there is another dive school somewhere too, but can't remember the name.
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Latest post on 03 January 2012 - 19:25
Thank you to you all so very much for your kind words and support, they really do help, even if they made me cry again, haha! And big hugs to those that have suffered a MC too. It should have been our 12 week scan today so am feeling particularly sensitive. DH doesn't really talk to his family, not in a bad way, it's just they are scattered around the world and are all a bit "stiff upper lip", who don't talk about such vulgar things as "feelings"! So a counsellor is out too as he is "fine". Unfortunately we are moving countries at the end of the month so no time for a holiday, but I guess at least with the festive time we have just had and planning for our move, we don't have too much time to dwell on things, I'm exhausted! New country, new start and all that. The worst thing was when I had to tell our LO the day after the MC when she started talking about what she was going to teach "her" new baby, she sobbed and sobbed "no, no, my baby, my baby". Broke my heart. Luckily at three and a half she was quickly distracted by Christmas and her new bike... Thanks again ladies, you really are the best!