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Latest post on 27 April 2011 - 23:07
Jokay is it at all possible that your personal circumstances are causing you a certain amount of skewed vision here? Absolutly not, i grew up in a tight family, where family dinners where a must and communication is plenty, no maids. I just saddens me to see it here so often, just thought id express what i see because i dont think mothers see this. That may very well be the case but I still think your present personal circumstances are causing you to have a bit of skewed vision with regards to this subject.. Im guessing you dont have a problem with your kids growing up saying they dont know anything about their mother cause their maid brought them up, or my maid is more of a mother to me than my own. Me not being able to have kids is something my husband and i will have to deal with and when the time comes maybe God with bless me with one or more. its not up to you. Lolol - I had 4 children who were born very close together and had no maid. However when number 5 came along I employed one. Number 5 by the way is severly autistic and has tourettes syndrome also. He's 20 now and has never been to school, he was home educated by me. See what generalising and assuming does for you Jokay? Hopefully one day you will be blessed with children - and when you are here's hoping it make you a less judgemental person and bestows on you a clearer sense of vision. But given that I really do think this thread is a wind up and I've fallen for it hook line and sinker I'll leave you to be Jokay on your own. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 27/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 27 April 2011 - 22:57
Jokay is it at all possible that your personal circumstances are causing you a certain amount of skewed vision here? Absolutly not, i grew up in a tight family, where family dinners where a must and communication is plenty, no maids. I just saddens me to see it here so often, just thought id express what i see because i dont think mothers see this. That may very well be the case but I still think your present personal circumstances are causing you to have a bit of skewed vision with regards to this subject. You're generalising in the extreme. And no, I didnt have a maid when I was bringing up my 4 children who were all born close together. But I did when number 5 came along. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 27/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 27 April 2011 - 22:48
Hahaha I'll come back in and answer this in a few days = after I've met three of them that I didnt know I had for the very first time tomorrow. Wish me luck.
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Latest post on 27 April 2011 - 22:45
Jokay is it at all possible that your personal circumstances are causing you a certain amount of skewed vision here?
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Latest post on 26 April 2011 - 09:50
Truthfully I dont know if there is one who's up and running in a clinic, and thats what you'd be looking for unless you did it informally with an expat wife working out of her spare room. Not that there's much wrong with that, you'd at least get an idea of what's what - if not much more. However I was doing a seach on autism/oman just last week and found a few links to a couple of workshops that had been going on and 2 OT's were listed as speakers. You could maybe do search and see what you come up with. Or you may want to contact Al Harub Clinic in Shati Al Qurum. I know for sure that recently they were very close to employing a paediatric OT, it didnt work out, but the lady is still in Oman. It really is a bit of a desert when it comes to things like this which I why for anything OT related we come to the UK. Its where we currently are, and though I do have my OT friends visiting me on holiday often, its not something thats likely to happen again for a while or I would have helped you out. I'm sorry I cant be of more help. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 26/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 26 April 2011 - 09:39
How many of you can't get of your child's DS? While on holiday, DD gave me the console a couple of times asking me to get her through a hard part (12 dancing princesses game). Well I did that and the next level and the next and couldn't stop myslef. Now all I can think about is getting back on it to finish the game. I haven't touched it 10 days so I have been good. Hate to get addicted to it. As a teenager I was glued to Super Mario Bros. Please, please, tell me I am not the only one! :)) I cant get to grips with any of these gizmos, they're just totally and utterly beyond me. Its to the extent I'm sitting here looking at an IPAD thats now being used by very special boy, to chart his daily schdule and tasks - and I want him to go back to his white board because I can at least operate a white board and marker. I hate the IPAD, I cant do it and I cant do dvd's/phones/remote controls and and the likes either. As for the IPAD how blooming dare it turn the screen upside down and to the side and god only knows where else just when I think I'm managing to at least hold it still!!!!!!!!!!!
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Latest post on 23 April 2011 - 22:31
Hope this helps. It is unfair to comment on whether this is unfair or not, imo, it's just the way it is. yeah, from your side of a hard neck it would be.
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Latest post on 22 April 2011 - 23:21
To heat/chill a pool you need a heat exchanger. Do you have one? If so I'd budget about 2500 for the additional costs to your utility bill. If you dont have a heat exchanger, depending on the size of your pool you're outlay for one could be as much as 80,000 - 100,000 dirhams.
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Latest post on 22 April 2011 - 21:27
and this is another family and friends favourite. I also love it and not just because its a dessert that was really made for this region http://theculinarychase.blogspot.com/2009/03/mango-coconut-trifles-with-lime-syrup.html
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Latest post on 22 April 2011 - 21:10
Ive made these passion fruit pots a few times recently and they got down a treat. They're also the easiest thing in the world to make. As are the biscuits. I serve them in little omani coffee cups but they are equally nice in shot glasses or espresso cups. http://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/8784/passion-fruit-pots-with-coconut-stars But for my all time favourite dessert it has to be a proper lemon tart.
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Latest post on 21 April 2011 - 21:52
anyway, Saudi Arabia are building a taller Burj....so there! Dear God if its a hotel please spare us the mirrors above and behind the bed. DR, the only reason I hate mirrors above the bed is that I am terrified of them falling on me. I'd sooner die of a falling mirror than almost dying of fright like I did in the Burj a few years ago. I got into bed in such a way that I managed to just scare myself a wee bit - that was till I glanced behind me and nearly finished myself off because of what I saw in the mirror above the head board. Never again.
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Latest post on 21 April 2011 - 21:42
anyway, Saudi Arabia are building a taller Burj....so there! Dear God if its a hotel please spare us the mirrors above and behind the bed.
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Latest post on 21 April 2011 - 08:32
Mrs123 - dont panic, calm down :) It really is a very easy procedure, honestly. You'll soon be sorted. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 21/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 21 April 2011 - 08:23
Evenstar, this is a link to a website I've heard much about. Have a look through it and see what you think. The last link will give you an idea of what its all about. Oh and its not as daft or twee as the website can make it look, some of the smartest housewifes I know use a lot of her tips. https://www.bigtent.com/groups/flylady http://www.flylady.net/pages/FLYingLessons_Routines.asp <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 21/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 21 April 2011 - 00:32
Evenstar I dont think it happens overnight, and I think its also very much to do with whether your work of not. I never did, I've always been a housewife, so I looked on keeping the house as my job. As soon as my husband went off to work - my working day started. It very rarely finished much before he got home and I think thats where women of my age differ from a lot of todays mums - going out socialising during the day wasn't something we did that often, we were too busy. We did go out but we had our day for seeing a pal, just like we had a day for doing our weekly shop. We had routines. And I learned when I was young how to clean, we had to muck in at home because my mum worked and when I got home from school me and my sister had to do the beds, the breakfast dishes if they hadnt been done in the morning, the kitchen and the sitting room. We also has to set the table. It sounds a lot but it wasnt because my mum kep on top of everything and hardly sat down, she'd work all day and do housework at night. We weren't allowed though to just do a token job of things, it had to be done properly and we were shown how to do this when we cleaned the house from top to bottom on a friday night with my mum. It was great fun, we used to put dusters on our feet and clean the parquet flooring by skating on it. I loved friday nights cos we were all in it together and we used to have lemonade and hot chocolate and a nice supper when we'd finished. We'd start the work when we'd finished our tea and we'd be done by 9. On saturdays it was up to my grans with my mum to clean for my gran because she was an invalid. My mum would then go and do the shopping for both houses and come 3 o'clock we'd sit and watch the saturday film on bbc 2. They were great times and I have very happy memories of that part of my life. We still had childhoods though, I was a figure skater and at the rink every saturday morning by 7am, and on the days I didnt have to do that I would go to the saturday morning pictures. I think my advice to you would be to just do what has to be done and very soon you'll get some kind of system going. I used to have a great big cleaning day on a Saturday so the week got off to a good start so maybe thats something you could start off with. hth edited by DesertRose1958 on 21/04/2011 <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 21/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 19 April 2011 - 15:03
Assisi, you're a little smasher, honestly. :)
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Latest post on 19 April 2011 - 08:28
Thanks for replies ladies ... would love the steriliser janesul (email me missuswalker at yahoo dot co dot uk). I would go down the sterilizing tablets line, however, she has already said on email that it will 'be a pain' for her to do this ... (hint, hint!). Will defo get an Ikea High Chair now ... Yes, she is a nightmare ... what's worse is we have two dogs, and (currently, lol) two cats, and I'm currently preparing for the dogs to be shut in the maids room/laundry for the duration of their stay! So getting stuff to prepare for their arrival is easy compared with sorting them out! The bit about the sterilising tablets really does beggar belief.
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Latest post on 19 April 2011 - 08:25
Hmm, well you see, I think 'Pinky' is the term Asian men use for fair skinned people (which I am ... very) :( Yes that crossed my mind also. But saying that I don't think its anything sinister - probably kids just playing around.
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Latest post on 19 April 2011 - 08:21
Yes, I know, I know :) but just want it to be perfect, you know, and not give her any excuse to whinge :( I know, but please dont stop me in mid rant, I'm enjoying myself - I say give her an excuse to whinge!!!!!!!!! :D In fact get in nothing and give her more than one excuse to whinge!!!!!!!! <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 19/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 19 April 2011 - 08:18
I said she was demanding ... that isn't the whole list, the other stuff I've worked out where to buy etc (formula, baby rice etc etc lol)! Buy enough for a few days and then take her to the shops. And I'm sorry if I sound grumpy or mean - jeez its a weeks holiday she's going on, not a trek across the Himalayas. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 19/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 19 April 2011 - 08:10
I would improvise - its what people did before a million and one things were invented to get a child to school age. Sterilizer - a saucepan and boiling water does the trick. high chair - the baby can be sat on a lap, or in a buggy, whilst being fed. And if its for the older child - now could be good time to get him or her sitting on an ordinary chair at the table. If you're worried about the child falling off the chair, just fashion a big sash around their waist with a pashmina and tie them to the chair. Well not actually tie them but I'm sure you'll know what I mean. Nappies I can understand as its the norm to have to try a few different kinds before you get the fit - but if you cant get them you cant get them, and she'll just have to bring them with her. They are very easy to pack. You sound like a really nice aunty :) <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 19/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 18 April 2011 - 22:37
I would say she pays for it herself but if you feel its something you would like to do, then why not? :)
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Latest post on 18 April 2011 - 22:00
It was in my garden! I have no idea where it is coming from. Gardener caught it and we put it in a bucket. What should we do? Buy it a ticket on the next bus to Salalah and tell it when to get off. Or if its too young to make the journey alone give it to a kindly looking lady passenger and tell her to let it off at the first stop down from the Jebel. What on earth are you rambling about here DR? Chameleon Arabicus commonly found in Salalah. I'm surprised you didnt know. But then no-one ever said the Devil knew everything - just that she wears Prada and had a starring role in 101 Dalmations. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 18/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 18 April 2011 - 21:36
It was in my garden! I have no idea where it is coming from. Gardener caught it and we put it in a bucket. What should we do? Buy it a ticket on the next bus to Salalah and tell it when to get off. Or if its too young to make the journey alone give it to a kindly looking lady passenger and tell her to let it off at the first stop down from the Jebel.
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Latest post on 17 April 2011 - 20:59
Ok - could you maybe make a big fuss of her once a week say. Go and do something together and tell her how you appreciate the quality time with her etc. Give her cuddle and what not. The family scenario sounds very complicated and maybe she is just trying to make amends for something thats happened in the past.
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Latest post on 17 April 2011 - 20:33
JS - just had another thought. Could it be that when she came to Dubai she was very lonely etc and as a result she's trying to spare you from feeling the same way. As for what she does when she goes home on vacation - it all sounds very normal. Is she an anxious person by nature and could she just not know she's going overboard in her care of you.
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Latest post on 17 April 2011 - 20:16
JS - could she feel very responsible for you because your dad or your brother have told her to look after you. Could your aunty be dead scared that if something happened to you she's mistakenly be held responsble?
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Latest post on 17 April 2011 - 20:07
That's what I did now.. I texted her that I am taking medicine and going to bed, while I am still awake.. I cannot tell her straight: "You ask lot of questions" because she is very sensitive and she will make a big drama.. sometimes I am really tired after a long day at work and she calls to ask what I am having for dinner, what I will do, etc... If I didnt answer, she doesnt give up and she keeps calling.. I cannot knock her out because I love her and dont wanna hurt her.. though she is annoying :( Dont make excuses like saying you are going to bed etc - just say sorry aunty I cant talk right now. Dont give her anything to comment on later - you'll see tomorrow she'll ask you about the medecine etc. You need to stop her having too many things to ask about, she needs to get used to not having a reason to call so often. eta - I just read the last post and realised your the lady who had the surgery done. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 17/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 17 April 2011 - 19:33
JS - you'd soon feel it if you didnt have your aunty looking out for you - but she does seem to be taking this to another dimension. You say she's busy and has lots of friends but I think she's actually quite lonely, she might just have lots of friends but not really any of quality. I think you should just start missing the occasional phone call and if she persists on an answer just send her a message saying - sorry aunty but I cant talk right now. Dont knock her though because as I said before - you'd miss her if she wasnt around. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 17/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 17 April 2011 - 19:16
Actually my 5 yr old just fell down the toilet which did make me giggle. Divine retribution. See I would have told her the jobbie monster sucked her down the loo for what she did in the shops today. ;)
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Latest post on 16 April 2011 - 09:37
Go in red, white and blue stripes and pretend you're the French Flag.
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Latest post on 16 April 2011 - 07:39
We did the Hotel Cheyenne the first time we went and though the rooms were tiny, it was OK. But ever since then we've stayed at the Disney Hotel because it just makes the whole experience nicer for us - and not really being disney people we need nice to help us through the stay :D. Saying that though, we're going again in august with our grandchildren and looking forward to it - but we are keeping in mind that once the children are in bed there really isnt much in the rooms to keep an adult occupied. And the key rating of the hotels means nothing really - you're in disney and of course its all going to be perfect - even when its not :D And I think if the characters do go to other hotels its just 2 of them for photo opportunities with the official photographers, and if you want more of them than that you have to book a breakfast or lunch with them in one of the restaurants. However if you stay at the DH (or the Hotel New York ?), they're there just wandering around and its a much more up close and personal experience. They just come from round a corner and the kids nearly go into orbit in shock and delight :) At the DH (and I think the Hotel NY) you also get fast track passes that enable you to not have to line up for rides for too long. And I did notice a few days ago when doing our booking that a stay at the Hotel NY was a good 35% cheaper than the DH. I would have been happy to stay there, but with 3 little one to handle I wanted to be as close to the park as possible for going back to let them have a nap and things. Oh and try and do half board, and half board premium if you can - it really does make a difference to what you'll spend on meals. With the premium you can eat at any of the outlets in the park but with the half board you're restricted to certain places. And Buffalo Bill comes with the half board premium. http://www.tripadvisor.co.uk/Hotel_Review-g226865-d262683-Reviews-Disney_s_Hotel_Santa_Fe-Marne_la_Vallee_Seine_et_Marne_Ile_de_France.html hth edited by DesertRose1958 on 16/04/2011 <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 16/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 14 April 2011 - 22:54
Will mail you tomorrow. :)
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Latest post on 12 April 2011 - 11:39
You have to be honest because if you're not you're going to look really bad when you have to stand and lie your way through and explanation a few weeks from now. You many think you have time to take the job and plan a strategy but you dont for the simple reason that anytime from now you could start to experience morning sickness, or all day and night sickness - and how are you going to explain that in the office. But besides all of that - honesty really is the best policy. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 12/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 12 April 2011 - 11:35
Did you also see Elvis? No, he'd already left the building.
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Latest post on 10 April 2011 - 21:39
A 22 year old jocky is in hospital with serious head injuries sustained at Aintree yesterday. He's had to be put into a medical induced coma and is in a critical condition.
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Latest post on 09 April 2011 - 09:51
See he would have had me wanting to make a citizens arrest. Not that there is such I thing I suspect. Unfortunately. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 09/04/2011</em>
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Latest post on 09 April 2011 - 01:03
Any comments or info ??!!! LOOK BEHIND YOU!!!!!!!!!!
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Latest post on 08 April 2011 - 10:05
Some of the sights I saw last year in York on race day weren't nice, but I actually found it quite sad. There's nothing nice about trying to be something you're not, on the cheap, and without any natural style or grace. Worse for me was the girls carrying their bottles of Cava with them on the way to the course. It just summed it up - we cant even afford to buy the drinks in there. It really was quite horrible and I felt sorry for them.
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Latest post on 06 April 2011 - 21:59
Oh I just saw this, so in reply to Artyzan - I will get a contact number for you withint the next few days. I'm currently in the Uk so it will take that long - is that ok :)
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Latest post on 06 April 2011 - 21:22
Well I have 5 children and was as scared on number 5, as I was on number 1. As for it being enjoyable - I hated it, each time I did it. I didnt embrace it, I just got on with it and if I wanted to cry and say I was scared, I did. My largest child weighed 5 kilos and was deliverd without any stitches - but plenty of drugs. I didnt just want my share, I wanted any stray earth mothers share as well. In only did it once without pain relief and that was by mistake. I found nothing empowering about it all - it was awful and not just because it was painful. I felt like I was a victim to mother nature and to be honest If I'm going to be in that state I'd rather be drunk or drugged so I dont know about it. My daughter on the other hand is a totally different story altogether - during one delivery she didnt even raise a sweat and kind of hypnotised herself. She has very quick labours, no more than a couple of hours and her last one was 45 mins from start to finish. I'm in awe of her in the delivery room but I do wish at times she was even a bit of a chip off the old block - if only to make me feel better. :D
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Latest post on 02 April 2011 - 21:06
What Pound currency is it referring to ? 1800 is fine for someone to look after your child. Most people I know are paying less than that. There's currently a Nannies position in Dubai advertised on Reed Uk. Its states 12 hour shifts, own room and bathroom in the family home. The salary advertised is 700 pounds per week. Britsh Pounds.
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Latest post on 02 April 2011 - 21:03
1800 is fine for someone to look after your child. Most people I know are paying less than that. There's currently a Nannies position in Dubai advertised on Reed Uk. Its states 12 hour shifts, own room and bathroom in the family home. The salary advertised is 700 pounds per week.
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Latest post on 29 March 2011 - 11:15
Well at least you gave it a go :) And for all you know, if you went down this path again you might just end up with someone you'd go on to have a long and happy marriage with. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 29/03/2011</em>
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Latest post on 28 March 2011 - 21:36
My son works there and is now totally fed up of all of us at home asking how he is etc and how are things in Bahrain. We take it to mean he's not concerned and things are do-able. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 28/03/2011</em>
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Latest post on 27 March 2011 - 12:04
yes also me - and I'm the Uk.
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Latest post on 27 March 2011 - 11:27
JS - I came back to this as I've been thinking of you. I wanted to say what Dentro has said but I couldnt find a way to say it that didnt sound really critical or cruel, but she's hit the nail on the head. Everytime you posted you mentioned something else you were eating whilst saying you couldnt really eat anything - and sugar and fat cropped up repeatedly. I know why you're eating those things - its a fact they help food go down in anyone. Its why ready made and processed foods are full of them. I also wanted to suggest you have some counselling because any kind of weight loss isnt about the body only - its all abouy mind, body and soul. You have to approach this from all angles. You have to honestly work out what you were feeding when you were eating - and it was an emotion, a feeling, even if its was 'only' boredom. You say you'll be happy when you're a size 8. Well I'm very sorry but thats not true - you'll be happy when you get to the bottom of yourself. Being a size 8, if thats a reasonable size for your height and build, will be the icing on the cake but its the journey to being the size 8 that matters. Its not just weight you're trying to shed - its everything else that goes with it. xxxxxx <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 27/03/2011</em>
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Latest post on 25 March 2011 - 10:53
Oh I wanted to have the band but the doctor advised that "As per my eatings' habits", Sleeve would be better for me :( Also my 2 cousins who did the band, one of them lost weight but then she gained it all again, she was able to swallow food somehow :D The other one lost sooo much, she became so slim but she was visiting too much the hospital, the band caused infection in her stomach and she was vomitting every meal she eats so after 2 years she removed it so she can live a normal life. It seems that Sleeve is a good option for extremely obese people.. I just need to loose these 15 or even 10 kgs.. I think what I need to do is when I feel hungry (which is almost every hour - 2 hours) eat one bite or 2 bites of an apple or banana or whatever and dont complete on eating it slowly.. I will have a bite and stop.. when I feel the hunger pain again, I can have another bite.. maybe this will help.. The hunger pain which I am having is really painful, it makes me feel "I have to feed my stomach".. Thank you for the link, I've seen it sometime back, not good news though :) JS :), anyone who's got the band and has been a successful bandster could look at whats happened to your cousins and say exactly why they had the outcome they did. Their results are not down to anything the band did (or didnt) do to them, its all about what they did to the band and themselves. I'm sorry if thats sounds tetchy but it rankles a bit when people speak of their relatives (or themselves) who had the band and its all - this that and the other happened when the reality is - it more than likely happened because the person caused it to happen. The second cousin you mentioned was relying on the band to do all the work for her and she ended up strangling herself with it , then she blocked it by not eating/chewing properly, then she got an infection. The first cousin was more than likely eating whats called slider foods, foods containing fat and sugar that slide down without much effort and as a result can still be eating in large enough quantities to stretch the persons tummy and make the reason for having the band in the first place a waste of time. Really, the band is nothing more than a TOOL that aids weight loss and it only aids weight loss because you have to be doing so many other things alongside having it in order for it to be successful. You have to be making changes that will last a life time, and yes sometimes people can chose to get the band removed later on down the line because the feel confident enough to do so. Since I had the band done almost 3 years ago now I havent had one single problem with it, or any of the side effects people can have due to not chewing properly and eating too quickly. I've slowly lost weight because my band isnt tightened very much at all, just tight enought to make me eat less and have to excercise more. I always ate healthily - I just ate too much of it. Enough spaghetti on your plate to knit a jumper is too much for anyone - even for someone with big bones :D The only people who know I have the band are people I've told, anyone sitting at a table with me thinks I've just cut down a bit and over almost 3 years Ive lost weight. Thats how it should be for most people if they do what they have to do and use the band properly. I dont know what to say to you about the problems you're facing. I'm shocked you had the op you did and I think the doc really does have to justify it to you in view of how you are now. And as pink says, see a nutritionist, that and another Dr who can monitor you - I'm very suspicious of the person who did this particular op on you. I wish I could help you but I dont know how to. xxxxx eta - cross posted with other posters. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 25/03/2011</em>
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Latest post on 24 March 2011 - 23:33
JS, This is a link to the procedure you had done. It explains the surgery is generally done on patients who are too obese to have the more tradional weight loss surgery done. That once they've lost weight with the vertical sleeve, they then have the likes of the Roux en Y. I'm taking this to meant the op is done on people who are morbidly obese - you havent come across being what morbidly obese can mean and what I think it means in this link. The last section of the link - typical outcomes etc, is interesting and it might help you to understand why it could be that you're not losing weight. I hope this helps you :) http://surgery.about.com/od/proceduresaz/a/VSGWLSSurgery.htm eta - we must have crossed posted. And if it helps you I can well believe what you were able to eat previously - I had the band done a few years ago ;) <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 24/03/2011</em>
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 24 March 2011 - 23:06
JS, I have a sneaking suspicion you're probably still eating way more than you think and that what you're eating is high in sugar and fat. So perhaps you could write down everything that passes your lips for the next week just to make sure you are actually eating as little as you think you are. In my personal experience there's no weight loss surgery that cant be cheated, no matter how much a person wants to belive otherwise. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, it not meant to, but to have had the op and to not be losing weight has to be faced up to truthfully. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 24/03/2011</em>
 
 
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