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Latest post on 08 January 2014 - 17:40
I would think it very uncomfortable if the maid has to move out of her room if guests come. For both the guests and the maid. A maid needs/deserves a place of her own. If an employer can't offer that they shouldn't hire a live-in maid. Spot on.
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Latest post on 08 January 2014 - 17:28
I just can't get over a man walking away from his own young child. Surely it goes against all natural instincts to leave a young one. It's slightly easier to understand when a child is a teen. My brother and his wife split up and then my brother completely changed his life (business, property etc) to relocate to be nearer his daughter. These men forget that these children will grow up one day and may have to be faced. I read that one of the boys from One Direction is from a broken home where the dad walked out and he's tried to come back into his son's life now that he's famous...... I just can't get over a man walking away from his own young child. Surely it goes against all natural instincts to leave a young one. .... When the man in question would go as far as wanting his mistress to be at a Christmas bbq in his house you're not really talking about the general run of the mill cheater. Its more likely the person is a nutter, (a narcissist or a sociopath) and to these people this kind of thing is more of turn on that all the sexy undies in the world. Is also why they are apparently able to just walk out of one relationship and into another without having to mourn the current one. Its just in their make up - they get up, move on, don't look back, and never feel a moments regret or shame for doing so. They can't. And facing a child in the future - no problem because they just don't get it. There is so much of this sad sorry tale that's confusing - why was she able to visit Celesti if she'd already been sacked and banned. But confusion aside, this is someones life as it was coming to a shattering end and its just awful. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 08/01/2014</em>
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Latest post on 07 January 2014 - 18:39
Thank you for your opinions Ladies, It comforts my decision and I have made an appointment to meet the teacher tomorrow. The question was about the lesson they were studying at the time. My DS could not remember the specific word (I cannot say here what subject it was), and that's when the teacher called him idiot. I think that some teachers forget too easily that for many children English is not their first language and it can be very hard for them sometimes. I also had my share of bad/bullying teachers when I was younger and I know it can make a huge difference to the way a child perceives school and it does undermine their self confidence (and their grades). it is an important academic subject and I know that he used to enjoy and really be interested in it. I just hope that the teacher's behavior wont put him off for good. So I will "have a chat" with the said teacher (I will stay calm and polite) and make it clear that it should not happen again. I will keep you updated (unless I lose it and so tomorrow you can read in the headlines "crazy mum attacks teacher") :) Could it perhaps be that the teacher was trying to be hip and trendy and speaking to the kids the way they can talk to each other at times. Ok, it may not be the best thing to do but I think once kids are in secondary school the interaction between teachers and pupils can change a bit. Perhaps its just a daft things to say backfiring on him.
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Latest post on 07 January 2014 - 18:32
Celesti, there's no need to explain to anyone your decision to give your marriage another go. Maybe it will work out, maybe it wont, and you'll never find out unless you give it a go. However, the bit about your husband asking if his mistress was going to be at the BBQ has me puzzled. Was he asking because he was scared you might invite her out of politeness, it does happen to teachers? Or was he asking for her to be invited. If its the latter I think there is a very good chance your husband doesn't fall into the realm of a 'normal' cheater, he needs more than the average thrill that comes from an affair, and as such I think its highly likely he will always need a thrill from somewhere. I speak from family experience, and I really do wish you well, but I would urge you to have a plan in your head and not to let getting things back on track take over years of your life and lots of sticking plaster because before you know it the best years of your life will have passed on by and no one is worth that. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 07/01/2014</em>
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Latest post on 05 January 2014 - 13:51
My family are regular travelers to Tanzania/Zanzibar/Kenya/Mombassa/Nairobi to the extent two of my sons married there within the last year, and nipping off to any of these places was something they/we did on the spur of a moment - and often. For most of my in-laws/family its seen as going home. Sadly its no longer safe to do so and we have put our visits on hold for safety and security reasons. We are not cowardy custards, just people with extensive local knowledge the ability to know when we smell danger in the air. The restaurant where one of the kids had a wedding dinner just 2 months ago had had a grenade lobbed through the door one evening, it didn't go off. We use the place regularly. The reality is that the whole of the East African coast is a hot bed of some very bad things and people. edited by DesertRose1958 on 05/01/2014 <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 05/01/2014</em>
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Latest post on 05 January 2014 - 13:14
Ladies you all come across as young in your postings; wise but not jaded! I'm in the middle age group, I think. Some people do sound "old" and even slightly bitter, hard. No offence to Grumpy but what age is she? Her posts are often as her name suggests. edited by A Rancher on 05/01/2014 If you were surrounded by a goody two shoes day in and day out, and one day she was killed by a Glen Close look alike who'd come along and robbed you out of a feel good factor - you'd be grumpy as well. edited by DesertRose1958 on 05/01/2014 ??? Oh do keep up Dopey Grumpy as in dwarf and snow white and the wicked stepmother. with best wishes sneezy <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 05/01/2014</em>
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Latest post on 05 January 2014 - 13:12
It should be easy enough to look up the T&Cs of all the insurers you are considering to see what their policies are on pre-existing conditions. Daman, for example, will cover PECs under certain circumstances. Does your existing doctor have to be involved? Could you not sign up for your insurance, wait a while, then go to a different doctor and have the condition "discovered" then? No because you are asked - have you been to see a Dr within the last 2 or so years and if so why? The poster couldn't honestly answer 'no'.
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Latest post on 05 January 2014 - 12:44
Ladies you all come across as young in your postings; wise but not jaded! I'm in the middle age group, I think. Some people do sound "old" and even slightly bitter, hard. No offence to Grumpy but what age is she? Her posts are often as her name suggests. edited by A Rancher on 05/01/2014 If you were surrounded by a goody two shoes day in and day out, and one day she was killed by a Glen Close look alike who'd come along and robbed you out of a feel good factor - you'd be grumpy as well. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 05/01/2014</em>
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Latest post on 05 January 2014 - 12:31
Thailand in the summer with my daughter and her family so I can help with the children. I'm not looking forward to it apart from being with the children - Asia does absolutely nothing for me to the extent I went to Thailand to do a vegan detox 10 months ago and the trip lasted 72 hours including travelling time instead of a fortnight. I loved the detox but once again just couldn't do Thailand. I'll it this time round though because I really want the family to have a lovely time and be able to go out without the children at times. Later on in the year a quick trip to Romania for my sons belated wedding reception. Then its a Caribbean Cruise with a big contingent of my brother/Scottish lot before going to Orlando with my brother for a week of roller coasters - our other halves wont be with us for this part of the trip. Once that's done I go to my dad for a week. I'll be away about 5 weeks in total and I'm feeling very grown up - at last. The America bit of this holiday is a surprise because its a place I was never interested in going to, but this year I went for a fortnight, I was with my brother and his wife and we spent a fortnight doing Disney, and I mean we did Disney (and nothing else) and I want to go back and see more of Florida (and not just roller coasters though we will be going on a lot of them). I just felt really nice there. Ive been on Safari and loved it, and one day I hope to go to South Africa and Australia, the Darwin area. Apart from that its really Europe I enjoy. edited by DesertRose1958 on 05/01/2014 <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 05/01/2014</em>
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Latest post on 05 January 2014 - 11:07
Its okay. I find it quite easy to confuse people even without a long day to blame it on :D
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Latest post on 05 January 2014 - 11:04
She previously lived in Muscat. She's now in Dubai. We wouldn't let the distance stop us from seeing her again as she's willing to travel, and so are we. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 05/01/2014</em>
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Latest post on 05 January 2014 - 10:58
Hello ladies, I'd love to be playing today but I feel grim, just grim. Hopefully tomorrow. Sorry.
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Latest post on 05 January 2014 - 10:52
Ok Girls we have done it this way so we don't fall foul of what nots. info at simonecarter dot com dot au Up until a few months ago she lived here in Muscat but if we ever had another wedding to do, or just generally wanted a spring in our step, or had a bit of a do to go to, she'd still be our first port of call for the day. Oh and she got me wearting make up and Im as blind as a bat and can hardly see to put it on. She has made me feel fab on more than one occasion, so fab that I carry a particular pic around in my bag and look at it when I'm feeling past it. I'm so vain I know they wrote that song all about me I'm so vaaaaaiiiiiiiiiinnnnnnnnnn <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 05/01/2014</em>
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Latest post on 05 January 2014 - 10:02
Can I jump in there too please? c o l dash h o l at b i g p o n d . c o m. Desert Rose can you also please let me know when you have my address? I don't like to leave it up! Ok, got it. Will report back with the contact details later today.
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Latest post on 05 January 2014 - 10:02
Can I jump in there too please? c o l dash h o l at b i g p o n d . c o m. Desert Rose can you also please let me know when you have my address? I don't like to leave it up! Ok, got it. Will report back with the contact details later today.
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Latest post on 04 January 2014 - 22:01
Sundancing, leave your email address and I will get them for you tomorrow.
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Latest post on 04 January 2014 - 13:52
AnonDubai and DR1958, I have added you, does my real name show or my Username on EW? I played you yesterday with your EW username.
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Latest post on 04 January 2014 - 13:51
The only thing i am finding a tad frustrating is why it takes soo long for some to respond back! Not everyone sits down to specifically play the game till its done, you can take a few days over it, just pick up and leave off as you go. Ive only done it because Im banished to my room with a cold - but that said I'm off back to bed now because I feel grim. And you also have to take into account that some people will play with online dictionaries so can put an answer in very quickly, others really do have to ponder it and it can take ages. Sometimes your lucky and you get a good answer straight away but I think those chances are quite few.
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Latest post on 04 January 2014 - 11:57
There's a lady in Dubai by the name of Simone, she's Australian. She does all of our family weddings from the bride down to the wee girls wanting a wee bit of lippy on. She's marvelous. She'll come to wherever you are and her and our hairdresser have set up shop in a couple of hotel rooms with us, but they have also set up shop in my house. In truth if you have an occasion where you need make up doing - she's your girl. She does lessons and it involves her doing one side of your face and you then doing the other. She will also take you to buy new products but first of all she'll go through your make up bag and see what she can do with the things you already have - if suitable. She has a really good portfolio and an excellent background, she has previously worked in Hollywood. Her charges are very reasonable.
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Latest post on 04 January 2014 - 10:58
Thanks girls, I'm loving it. I have a really ugly cold and have been banished to my room - Im not complaining. :D Some of the words people come up with amaze me but I suspect a lot of them are down to a kind of throw mud and hope it sticks in some kind of order. I've had a thrashing in a really good game and at one stage I messaged another player and said - that was my move. I had the word all laid out - and she got their first.
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Latest post on 04 January 2014 - 01:23
Im playing with someone and two of my words are Fatwa and Boozes. I'm kind of hoping Maroosh didn't get her blackberry fired up :D lol - if anything reading this should be it Unfortunately for me and luckily for you I wasn't able to find the app on my prehistoric BB. Had such a good word list ready.... I was playing with someone and the first few words were pause, dare, prayer - and for a moment I got the wind up because of something earlier in the day. :D :D
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Latest post on 04 January 2014 - 01:21
Anondubai has no idea what she's started. :) I'm loving this.
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Latest post on 03 January 2014 - 20:21
Im playing with someone and two of my words are Fatwa and Boozes. I'm kind of hoping Maroosh didn't get her blackberry fired up :D
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Latest post on 03 January 2014 - 20:14
Yes, just added you DR. Get set to be dazzled by a lot of two and three letter words as I am learning on the go. We'll blind each other with our two and three letter words
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Latest post on 03 January 2014 - 20:03
ok - you are playing me now.
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Latest post on 03 January 2014 - 20:02
Redrec, just join in, you play with as many people as you like. I think I currently have 6 games on the go and I only started to play yesterday. I think I'm doing ok, I'm not using a dictionary or anything, and I'm hoping over the next few games I can start scoring on more than single words. Someone I'm playing put in a few letters and created multiple two letter words as well as a new 'big' word and scored an amazing amount of points. It was very skillful. Its just a scrabble type game. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 03/01/2014</em>
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Latest post on 03 January 2014 - 18:29
I wouldn't mind, I kind of miss my skelpings :-P I'd be careful what you're admitting to. Wishful thinking and all that. :D I miss the humour (and the kindness that was hidden underneath it all)
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Latest post on 03 January 2014 - 17:39
Happy New Year, Lang May Yer Lum Reek an all that ;) I have been wondering the same thing!!! You're a clever wee thing. Could it be so? (about the last course of a meal!) Happy new year, a bottle oh beer, and a skelp in the lug till next new year. :D That's what we'll be getting - that last bit. :D
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Latest post on 03 January 2014 - 14:44
Now that is a cunning idea Anon. I started a game with you, first word ROAD Yes, I figured that was you. I have responded. Do you see me as my user name or my real name on the app? I see your username
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Latest post on 02 January 2014 - 23:42
Hi Fiat500 & Laura2, Hijacking post a bit… But I am a vet nurse who has just adopted a mature Sulcata lady who I am totally in love with… Wanted to ask two questions; 1) Best vet in Dubai for tortoises? (I am not practising in DXB & have very limited exotics/reptile experience anyway so not in the know…) 2) Best online site for advice re: bathing/wallowing & general sulcata advice. (I know a lot of sites are not aimed at our ME climate but still…). Any tips, advice, pearls of wisdom? champagneblonde77 at g mail dot com TIA edited by champagneblonde on 02/01/2014 The best vets for Torts are Nad AL Sheba, they can have water when the temp is warmer, remember cold blooded. Many like a nice warm tray of water to go in and drink. After this post I'm almost convinced that you are indeed .........................a clever wee pudding so to speak. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 03/01/2014</em>
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Latest post on 02 January 2014 - 23:41
Hi Fiat500 & Laura2, Hijacking post a bit… But I am a vet nurse who has just adopted a mature Sulcata lady who I am totally in love with… Wanted to ask two questions; 1) Best vet in Dubai for tortoises? (I am not practising in DXB & have very limited exotics/reptile experience anyway so not in the know…) 2) Best online site for advice re: bathing/wallowing & general sulcata advice. (I know a lot of sites are not aimed at our ME climate but still…). Any tips, advice, pearls of wisdom? champagneblonde77 at g mail dot com TIA edited by champagneblonde on 02/01/2014 The best vets for Torts are Nad AL Sheba, they can have water when the temp is warmer, remember cold blooded. Many like a nice warm tray of water to go in and drink. After this post I'm almost convinced that you are indeed .........................
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Latest post on 02 January 2014 - 23:13
Ok, just to ask, how many of you are doing it off the top of your head and not turning to other means of inspiration? I am.
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Latest post on 02 January 2014 - 22:09
There's another thread and if you do a search on my name you'll find it. I think its from about 2 weeks ago. I was my DIL birth partner and Ive explained how it went.
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Latest post on 02 January 2014 - 16:03
wont be long, have to bung something in the oven
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Latest post on 02 January 2014 - 15:45
I can see you are very good at this girls.
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Latest post on 02 January 2014 - 15:26
Ok girls, give me your user names and I'll hunt you down. I changed my name to mindymoo1958 but it still shows as my real name
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Latest post on 02 January 2014 - 15:16
Ok girls, try Mindymoo1958 and yes, I'd like to play. I think I'll like this, Ive been feeling really brain dead recently. I do have to go to the kitchen by 4 though - I have all the brats coming for their new year dinner tonight.
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Latest post on 02 January 2014 - 15:09
my computer has now frozen. I'll hang about a wee while longer and see what happens next. I mean the words with friends screen has frozen. Its been sending my reply for minutes now. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 02/01/2014</em>
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Latest post on 02 January 2014 - 15:06
are you dawn
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Latest post on 02 January 2014 - 15:00
DR1958, give me your user name and I will help you learn how to play. It seems complicated at first but it's really not. The good thing about this game is that you only have to play it if you have time so you lose nothing if your game sits for a few days. thanks, I think I got started but then the other person resigned. its - ill remove it in a mo <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 02/01/2014</em>
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Latest post on 02 January 2014 - 14:38
Well this interested me so I set it up but all I can see is a board with DL TL WL on it and other buttons saying swap etc. I cant see where I get the actual letters from
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Latest post on 02 January 2014 - 14:38
Well this interested me so I set it up but all I can see is a board with DL TL WL on it and other buttons saying swap etc. I cant see where I get the actual letters from
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Latest post on 02 January 2014 - 14:38
Well this interested me so I set it up but all I can see is a board with DL TL WL on it and other buttons saying swap etc. I cant see where I get the actual letters from
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Latest post on 02 January 2014 - 13:32
Some of the carers went to Sandance and said it was good. They collected their tickets and boarded a bus at 7 and arrived at the venue 3 hours later, one of them says she felt a bit sick from the bus starting and stopping so much. She also said it was a bit scary when a zombie movie unfolded in front on her eyes and people came at their bus because only people on a bus could enter the venue. She's laughing about it now though. I think she also said she missed the one singer she had really wanted to see but made it for Pete Tong? whoever he is. She maintains that despite the hitches she had a great time. I think anyone who expected it all to go in a smooth and orderly fashion isn't living in the real world, and to be demanding answers, well, have fun with that one. Things happen, its life, so either trust that lessons will be learnt from it all, or don't, and just stay at home the next time there's something big going on. But then what would people have to rant about it if they did that eh? The reality is that these goings on are all very small stuff in the grand scheme of things and not really worth more than the fedupedness caused on the night. I love a good night out and would have been pretty peed off I'd been part of the shenanigans but to be carrying it with me for days - no! It is what it is - a bad night out. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 02/01/2014</em>
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Latest post on 01 January 2014 - 02:04
1928????? THUD!!!!!!!!!
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Latest post on 31 December 2013 - 11:31
Hope you're feeling better OP! I agree that manners seem to be dwindling these days.What happened to men holding the door open for you, giving up their seat for you and allowing you into the elevator first? These little, but very meaningful, acts of decency are disappearing and I don't like it. I was in the elevator the other day when the door opened and five men pushed in WHILE I was trying to get out in spite of my repeated "excuse me" which they ignored. Having been backed into a corner, I had to ask them firmly and loudly to let people get out before they got on.What really got me? they seemed surprised! Just one of many cases. A shame really. What happened to men holding doors open etc? I very much suspect we women did the day men decided they'd rather keep their testicles than suffer the wrath of one of our militant 'sisters' who saw any kind of chivalry or good manners as an insult. We wanted equality. We got it. Plus a whole lot more besides.
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Latest post on 30 December 2013 - 18:00
DR 1958, we all have stories and as LT so sadly points out by the lottery of birth. Your situation was bad luck based on an oversight, luckily for your help they have moral employers who could help. I am not suggesting the employer pays all medical costs, obviously this could be an impossible situation. What i am suggesting is exhausting all routes as to whether there is a feasible option here re medical care / insurance available. I do understand but the reality is that its almost impossible to cover what if scenarios when it comes to deciding on how much medical cover to buy and the bottom line is that people should be asking themselves will I take on the cost of this if the insurance limit is reached. We even had special coverage for cancer treatment at the amount recommended by the insurer - to date we have spent twice what they suggested as being the cost of the treatment. So even if he had renewed on time we would still be having to pay about 400k ( to date). The wee boy got a very rare fungal infection that almost killed him during his chemo. It was in his brain and in-operable. The treatment was months and months and months on tablets costing about 10dhms daily, or months on tablets costing 600 dhms daily - what choice was there? But more to the point, even if he hadn't let the insurance expire the very expensive medication wouldn't have been covered, even the cheaper one would have been difficult to get approval for. After being through what we have, I would look at a pregnant maid and say sorry but I cannot see you through this pregnancy. I would never just send her away empty handed or in despair but it would be her pregnancy to deal with, not mine, even with insurance. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 30/12/2013</em>
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Latest post on 30 December 2013 - 17:15
People never think things will happen and that if they do there's ways around things. There generally isn't and all the moreso in the filthy world of insurance. My right hand mans insurance was 'just' expired and the insurance company being what they are refused to take anything into consideration. Then to add to it all, the next year when we were renewing there was a kings ransom to pay for the wee ones renewal and an exclusion list the length of a role of wall paper. We didn't pay for the renewal and we had to tell our bloke that as soon as the treatment is finished they all have to go home. He will have been with us for 27 years by then but we cannot carry this problem anymore even on an emotional level, we have enough to live with as it is. Things are being put in place so he can go home, and he will receive a lifelong pension from us, but that's as much as we are now willing to do. He is a poor man (by our standards) from a very poor place but we cannot carry him and his family through life forever. We really had to harden our hearts and make this decision but he had his children and that's the reality of it. And just to add that when you're facing a medical emergency you do stand at a bedside containing a dying child and YOU ARE ASKED - will you pay for this or shall we make the patient comfortable. My youngest girl had to make the decision and said yes but the Dr still made her call me in the Uk and ask if it was ok. It was a nightmare. One minute you think the wee one has a cold and they are taken to the Drs and suddenly all **** breaks loose and with half an hour they are dying of something you never even knew they had. edited by DesertRose1958 on 30/12/2013 edited by DesertRose1958 on 30/12/2013 <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 30/12/2013</em>
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Latest post on 30 December 2013 - 16:47
My new DIL is pregnant Mabrook! Thank you :) It means my two sons and my favourite nephew who are all the best of pals with each other are going to be bringing up their children together and hopefully they'll be the same kind of pals their dads are. The first one is here already, my new grandson who's six weeks old. Two more by August next year. <em>edited by DesertRose1958 on 30/12/2013</em>
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Latest post on 30 December 2013 - 16:43
I think it would be best to send the maid home with 2/3 months salary. I wouldn't be comfortable having a pregnant woman doing my housework. I agree with Lolacat that it is a shame that we as women we are not more supportive of a pregnant maid but in this country being a sponsor carries so many more responsibilities and repercussions. I agree A Rancher. The cost of unlimited maternity cover with no exclusions for an already pregnant women would be higher than what most maids earn in a year. If there are exclusions then as a sponsor you have to be able/willing to pay the extra costs if complications occur. These can run in to tens of thousands of dirhams or hundreds of thousands if NICU care is needed after the birth. If you aren't in a position to pay or don't want to then what other option is there but to send her home? Lolacat, would you really be willing to potentially be hundreds of thousands of dirhams out of pocket for the sake of employing someone for a few extra months? If so you're a better person than I am. Or maybe just richer ;) We are still smarting from the now 800k (and still rising) medical bill for our right hand mans sons treatment for leukemia. Its being going on for 15 months now and if things go well it will finish in march of 2015. He read the date on the insurance card the wrong way and thought it hadn't expired so he didn't ask me for the money, but it had expired, a few weeks previously, and as a result we were given the choice of let the wee one die there and then in the casualty dept or pay up, so we paid up. As it is I would never again let us be in a situation where I could be landed with huge bills for another persons medical emergencies, so given the choice between paying the medical expenses of another child, or paying for the care my son requires now and will require the rest of his life - my son wins hands down every time. There's no contest, my family comes first, always.