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Latest post on 02 August 2011 - 11:24
i definately think you need the contact. they satmp it and will not take anyones' word for anything- and things are a real croweded mess over there right now. i sent my maid 4 days in a row- 1 day to stamp contract, 2 days to check if pass is there as they ran out and finally yesterday she was there from 10 to 16:30 and got her pass ( her flight was today morning) they are very slow and inflexible but i havd heard you can get the exit pass from the philipines but they have to pay 6000 pesos( ie 600 dhs)
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Latest post on 02 August 2011 - 11:11
well there wouldn't be so much issue if the press hadn't published that it is illegal for companies to make nonmuslims work more than 6 hrs during ramadan... now everyone feels like they have a right to wind up early... link to the article... http://gulfnews.com/news/gulf/uae/employment/non-muslim-employees-entitled-to-work-six-hours-during-ramadan-1.844505 the press does that every year. there is a good chance that if it was a SME they could take some action. But being a government entity, there is no chance any action will be taken...
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Latest post on 02 August 2011 - 10:48
definately not the tellers.....must be back office....
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Latest post on 02 August 2011 - 10:47
Maybe your time spent on here could be spent spending time with your baby before you jet off leaving him/her, especially when your mind seems made up. or maybe I should leave my DD go hungry and count on you to provide for us. Oh dear. Whatever. exactly. this entire thread seems like a royal wind up by th OP... cue original confused post - followed by rude replies to everyone......very strange i don't even see how a post like this could end up in 7 days and it's not even thursday :\:
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Latest post on 02 August 2011 - 10:38
In terms of work timings, the main issue is that Dubai follows a 48 hour work week i.e 8 hours a day 6 days a week. The reduction of 2 hours works across the whole work week- the law is clear on this. So if any of you get a five day work week- the 36 hours is divided by 5 days. Managers ( as per their visa- because companies pay an extra fee for manager's visa's every year at the time of renewal) have to work as much as required to complete their work. Overtime applies mainly for lower level staff without manager designation. All of this is as writeen in the actual labour law....
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Latest post on 27 July 2011 - 13:03
I have booked for Arboretum at Jumeirah Madinat. There is a 2 for 1 voucher with Entertainer book so a great deal. It is for the Sat brunch! Fist time I'll be usuing a voucher- do you always book in advance? and do you tell the people at reservation that you have a voucher? TIA
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Latest post on 27 July 2011 - 13:02
how do I access the vouchers? i have joined the site, but do I need to have already bought a book to get access to vouchers? sorry to sound a bit thick.. Go to My Entertainer, then Monthly Special Offers. Then you will get a list. Happy saving! i think you have to have bought a book (which i haven't) and entered the serial number etc to access this.. will ask any friends if they can do this for me to get me a voucher. @basil- first time i am trying this - so do you have to always call in advance to book? and do you tell them you have a voucher while reserving? TIA thanks I dont think you need to buy the book. you just register online and then go to the my entertainer section of the page and download the special offers.
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Latest post on 27 July 2011 - 12:09
I am follower of a traditionla foods diet and AFAIK the best diet for healing a leaky gut is GAPs. http://gapsdiet.com/ Dr Natasha Campbell-McBride's book and diet protocol has healed a number of people's leaky gut (though most of these people I know online) http://www.westonaprice.org/childrens-health/gut-and-psychology-syndrome-gaps <em>edited by designbabe on 27/07/2011</em>
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Latest post on 13 July 2011 - 22:37
i've never seen a closed thread before- any idea why it is closed?
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Latest post on 13 July 2011 - 12:40
I think the reason rumour felt the need the comment is because the title clearly asked the question "is 3 years too young for summer camp?" and she was giving her opinion - which is YES. I myself find it hard to understand why young children who cannot communicate their needs are sent to the care of fairly unqualifed caregivers here when their mothers don't even work. Children need to be socialised but not from birth to 3 years - those are the ages when mothers are the most important and while daycares and nurseries are hugely popular, strangers who have no emotional attachment to our kids spending large parts of the days bringing up really young children is detrimental to our society. I know of 1 year olds in the UK who spend 8 am- 6 pm in nursery and come home and fall asleep. Dr. Peter cooks book- mothering denied is an excellent book to read- especially if it is your choice socially to put your really young child in a nursery facilty when most studies show they are less stressed and do better in school in later years if they are at home with thier mother. "the NICHD Network reported in American Educational Research Journal (39, 133-164) that, although higher quality childcare was associated with better cognitive performance at four and a half years, the more time during these years that these children had spent in any type of non-maternal childcare, regardless of its quality, the more assertiveness, disobedience and aggression they showed with adults, both in kindergarten and at home." NICHD studies also found that when children spent more time in childcare, their mothers displayed less sensitivity when interacting with them at six, 15, 24, and 36 months of age. Sensitive, responsive mothering through the early years was the best predictor of social competence at six years, which in turn predicts schooling success. Early childcare also precludes longer breastfeeding, which, besides better health, leads to significantly higher IQs in adults. For example, those breastfed for 9 months, averaged 6 points higher IQ as young adults. (Journal of the American Medical Association, May 8, 2002). The movement for women's "liberation", while advancing women in the workplace, devalued and undermined their role as mothers. This denied infants' needs for mothering, and mothers' needs to provide it. There was another long term survery done by Penelope Leach in 1997, which also mirroed the same result. Children who spent early years with their mothers, by the third grade, were better , behaved, less aggressive and had higher etst scores. Just joining the debate- not trying to offend anybody...:)
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Latest post on 12 July 2011 - 21:57
have 2 toddlers- a 14 month old and a 3 yr old. They hang out in the garden till thier cheeks turn red.....then fight over toys all day!! Fun city a couple of hours a day on weekdays and all the play dates we can manage. We are doing a big one on saturday for desi mums in the morning. Would be happy to have you join....:)
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Latest post on 06 July 2011 - 12:46
You could try collegiate american school. they are opening up a new school in dubai in september in ummsuqeim- very close to palm and american curriculam from kg to grade 5. should be very easy to get in and them you can look at transferring if you are not haapy to another school on the waiting list of your choice. http://www.casdubai.com/home/
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Latest post on 04 July 2011 - 13:10
When I said that I was under the impression that for the first year, bm is supposed to be a baby's primary source of nutrition, she clearly stated that many books/publications misquote and thereby mislead mothers into believing this and that by now DD should be getting most of her nutrition from solids and NOT bm. When I said that DD's weight charts look good and she is thriving and healthy, she specifically said that while her weight gain may be good, we have to be sure she is getting the weight from the right sources (i.e. solids) at this point. That BM is high in sugar and yes she also stated that by giving her too much bm at this point I could be setting her up for obesity and diabetes later in life./quote'> edited by kiwispiers on 04/07/2011 [color=#000000'>Yikes!, what terrible advice, completely medically unfounded, and yes, potentially dangerous. I am glad you have chosen to ignore it. I wonder where on earth she has taken this viewpoint from, breastmilk is high in natural simple carbohydrates (sugar) which a 7 month old can digest and gain energy from rather than a complex carbohydrate (starch) which they are only beginning to make enzymes for (and which if they can digest it ultimately gets converted to sugar anyway) The other major component of breastmilk is fat and it is of course full of fat soluble vitamins/fatty acids etc etc. Why it would be "better" to get protein, fat and carbs from other sources I can not imagine, if you see her again perhaps you should question further/ask for some research to support her view. I don't like to criticize someone I have never met and who is by all accounts very well meaning/caring and may have good knowledge on methods to make babies sleep longer, but I am now, also shocked.[/color'> edited by kiwispiers on 04/07/2011 ditto- and this was the only reason i posted on what was the most recent thread on ceclie- just to inform mothers that while her sleep info may be useful if they are desperate for rest, her feeding info flies in the face of what is medically and scientifically accepted in 2011 as the mechanics of sucessfully feeding your baby. My DS1 is going to be 3 years old on wed and b/f for the longest time- he was really averse to most solid food - unlike his brother- and a less obese and more active child would be difficult to find. Its only anecdotal in my case, but all the research on bm shows that it is meant to be fed to babies frequently because of its composition and children fed mainly BM, by age 4 , have differnt fatty compostions which protect them from obesity and diabetes later in life.
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Latest post on 04 July 2011 - 12:10
That is fine Nutty, mine had only one night feed from around 10 weeks too (although now has 2), but some babies don't take enough BM by day, regardless of how many times the breast is offered and many mothers are fine with night feeding for other reasons too (ie comforting/soothing). Presumably since the mother had gone to cecile she was concerned about the number of night wakings and wanted tools to reduce them, I don't see a problem at all with trying to up the daytime BM intake by clusterfeeding as you have suggested (although not always possible) but upping the calories through solids at the expense of BM in a 7 month old is not good advice and it is not appropriate to suggest that nightfeeding is harmful to an infant. I was just about to post to nutty but you said it before I could.......I agree completely. It is very difficult sometimes to get a distractable 7-8 month old to take a good feed during the day as they are so amused and interested in the world and it is really impossible to force feed them BM. Hence I imagine th preference for solids to "fill them up". However, most solids are not absorbed and utilized optimally (or in the case of my DS1 barely at all - as quite a few of them came out pretty much the way they went in - even pieces of apple till he was almost 18 months - he digests fab now at almost 3) and BM is recommended as it is used fully by the baby for growth and development. There is a reason why current medical advice is current. The old advice to fill babies up so they remain fuller and sleep longer is not given anymore - nor is the inclination to feed tons of sugary cereal. My point with relation to the advice given was more to do with the disruption it would cause to a sucessful B/F relationship that the mother had with her baby and the fact that she was very clear that her intention was to feed her baby BM for atleasta year and longer if required. This advice if taken would result in immidiate failure of the b/f as you cannot maintain milk supply if you barely feed in the day, just mostly solids and then cut all night feed excpet the 11 p.m feed. You cannot produce milk if you do not empty your breasts regularly.
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Latest post on 03 July 2011 - 16:11
Yes but the computer alert wasn't denied, scary! I would be interested to know if what DB is saying is true. THIS can be really SCARY if this is what cecile is teaching to new mother. Why would it be an IF? I got off the phone with my friend perfectly horrified. She is a western educated well informed well intentioned mother of a 7 month old baby who typical of 7 month old babies wakes up a few times at night hungry and was told by a "recommended health care provider" that she is "breast feeding TOO much" and as breast milk is "sweet" it "MAY" cause her child to develop diabetes even though all related studies of human milk feeding show that it decreases incedence of obesity and diabetes in human babies and her baby "should get most of her nutrition from solids". I am the mother of 2 boys, a 14 month old(still b/f) and a 3 yr old ( who sometimes still b/fs) and I tandem nursed them. I am quite shocked as her advice would result in the failure of any b/f relationship ( majority feeding from solids in the day and no night nursing- no mother will have a supply - b/f is a supply and demand thing) This is a thriving 7 months old- 9 kgs in weight very happy crawling and pulling up to stand. By implying that the mother is doing something wrong ( when by all reports she is doing very well - a babies only job is to eat and grow and it depends on its mother for that )she is going against all medical recomendations and in a more impressionable mother, potentially harming a thriving baby as she feels the "mother needs her life back". If you search this board, there are only glowing reports of cecile and i have never judged or questioned mothers who use her methods to get much needed sleep if they are desperate. Her other, completly wrong and dangerous advice horrfies me and i feel people should be warned that they might get such medically wrong advice too when they go to her and then only use the information they need. <em>edited by designbabe on 03/07/2011</em>
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Latest post on 03 July 2011 - 14:12
Are you always so aggressive when people want to discuss points, must be great to be your friend! actually i'm never ever agressive- just shocked this time- :)
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Latest post on 03 July 2011 - 14:02
she should reduce the number of night feeds- only one dream feed and no more till morning (because babies dont need food to grow!!!) At 7months why is your friend still feeding during the night? Think Cecile is right on this one. As for the rest of it,unless you heard it from Cecile, wouldn't believe everything you hear. Yes ofcourse - my friend is lying to me but ceclie must be revered!!! I never attepmted to sleep train my children so I do not think I will ever need her Gina Fordesque "advice". I feed my 14 month old when he wakes up at night because he is HUNGRY!!! I also have a 3 year old who i fed till about 18 months and he sleeps beautifully like a champ now.... <em>edited by designbabe on 03/07/2011</em>
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Latest post on 03 July 2011 - 13:47
Green-ish replied : Ah salome...up to your usual 'tricks' I see. If you have something constructive and non-judgemental to say, please just come out and say it. Thanks for your comment....does this forum not allow a simple question ? I am sure BTW that you did your best for all your babies . Despite salome's not too eloquent manner of saying it, in terms of cecile, I now am her 100 percent supporter. Was just shocked speaking to a friend of a 7 month old baby who had visited cecile due to recommendations and got the most ridiculous advice ever. To summarize what she was told- 7 month old babies need most of their calories from solids as per the WHO and she is breasfeeding her baby TOO much???? she should reduce the number of night feeds- only one dream feed and no more till morning (because babies dont need food to grow!!!) breast milk is very sweet and she could cause her child to have diabetes later in life if she feed a 7 MONTH OLD baby too much breast milk -(OMFG- my babies are SOOOO going to get diabetes then as I fed my older son till 2.5 yrs) All the stuff in brackets are my comments- the rest are her recommendations!!! I must say Salome is absolutely correct in her evaluation of Cecile. If there was any sort of board here that we could report people to for giving medical advice absolutely opposite to current medical recommendations, I would have asked my friend to report her!!! As a breastfeeding mother- I must say I am absolutely horrified at waht I heard and luckily my friend did not listen to her and walked out but I shudder to think what a more impressionable, tired, sleep deprived mother would do with her demented advice!!! edited by designbabe on 03/07/2011 <em>edited by designbabe on 03/07/2011</em>
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Latest post on 27 June 2011 - 21:48
stop eating carbs- no bread, pasta, rice....lost 10 kgs in 4 months - not painful, no starvation- still making tons of milk for lo. low GI is the best way to go- the paleo way of eating is best....i would have lost even more of i excercised..
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Latest post on 22 June 2011 - 13:02
Thanks Pentel . I dont work for myself but for a private company . I am leaving Dubai soon. I know that a lot of posters will enjoy reading this . Good luck to everybody ! edited by salome on 22/06/2011 salome, i have always largely agreed with what you say..as there has been strong science behind it but i think most of the posters get offended with your direct ( and sometimes very dramatic/offensive/scary) posts which mince no words...
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Latest post on 22 June 2011 - 13:00
wow... I really dont understand why this thread has gone to personal attack... I dont agree on cecile's method, can I share my view or is it not allowed on this forum ? I am really wondering why it is soooo controversial to not agree with her ??? And please, I am not judging anyone. This is a real shortcut and really caricatural. agree with you spamm- it seems like cecile has a lot of fans. For those of us who have never used her help..we have been given to understand that she is strong fan of sleep schedules and cry it out... My input about my own babies here- my 3 year old only started sleeping through at about 17-18 months when i night weaned him after he was able to understand converstaion about time, morning etc and thats when he would get milk. Not much help for me as i was already pregnant with DS 2 (5 months preg). My now 14 month old DS2, just like his brother did at that age wakes up for night feeds- usually 1-2 times a night but this varies. He was recently ill vomitting and once he got better, he woke up 4 times in one night (probably to regain some lost calories) DS1 is a champion sleeper now despite no sleep training at all and all his night wakings till 18 months...he sleeps a solid 10 hrs at night and has a day nap of 1 1/2 to 2 hrs a day. I read somewhere that it all evens out by the time they are 2-2.5 yrs. The scheduled ones and the unscheduled ones, the cry it outs and and fed on demands, the co-sleepers and the own cribbers. My own experience has been the same. DS1 - schdeuled feeds, EBM form a bottle to give mommy more free time etc etc,picky eater of solids, hated purees and spoons- now has the smae schedule as all his 3 yr old friends. DS2- no schedules, no bottles, fed on demand- following absolutely the same sleep and development patterns as DS1 - only he is substantially higher on the growth and head circumference charts at the same age...I will see when he is 3 what is the difference. I think sleep depraviation,stress worry are all part of the deal when we become mommies and we like to believe we are doing what is best for our babies ( and we are - no matter if we follow different methods and ideologies - we are the BEST mommies for our babies and they love us to bits) and maybe thats why we get defensive when someone critizes the methodolgy we follow.....
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Latest post on 16 June 2011 - 11:22
Seville's on 10th May 2001.....through some friends of friends. We've been together pretty much since then- married 6 years and 2 kids and we work together in our own company..... Amazing how many of us havemet our DH's during a night out partying...
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Latest post on 31 May 2011 - 22:04
could you please send it to me too? my maid is just about to take her vacation in [email protected]. TIA
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Latest post on 26 May 2011 - 12:33
I would be interested...have tried some eft at home on tuttorials /videos but would love to be able to unblock negative energy. my email is [email protected]
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Latest post on 26 May 2011 - 12:31
till the day i delivered....even on the morning. I too was on 3 feeds a day, so fed DS1 in the morning and then went to the hospital ( c-section) to have DS2....hardest thing I have ever had to do.... My Ds never self weaned but i think self weaning has a lot to do with mommy being too tired during preg and not being as cuddly as she was....so LO's just are considerate and give up...
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Latest post on 22 May 2011 - 11:00
There are lots of biomedical interventions for autism- not just chelation http://www.tacanow.org/family-resources/ http://www.tacanow.org/tag/medical/ http://www.tacanow.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/how-to-start-biomed.pdf I have the book by Dr Jerry Kartzinel - Healing and preventing Autism and will be happy to give it to you. http://www.pppvonline.com/ you can mail me at [email protected] <em>edited by designbabe on 22/05/2011</em>
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Latest post on 21 May 2011 - 23:22
My friend has four kids all of whom have 18months between them and she BF'ed all four until they were nearly 3 or self weaned. She continued breastfeeding while pregnant with all 3 pregnancies and then fed new born and toddler, no idea how she had the energy! Have only 2 boys - 22 months apart but b/f through the pregnancy and then tandem nursing till now (DS1 almost 3 and DS2 13 months old). The milk does not always go away completely but does drop a lot so you will have to supplement with complementary foods
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Latest post on 21 May 2011 - 22:53
have sent you a mail....
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Latest post on 19 May 2011 - 22:29
i would love to hear everyones views... especially those who are against vaccinating, i decided to wait till my daughter was 6 months, which she will be this weekend, and i just am so scared after all the research i have done, i hate the whole 50/50 chance of anything happening, i decided i would get them because my husband, mom and pediatrician all think its important, so 3-1 ... it has to be done. and i do understand i am in a country where people are coming in by the bus loads, and polio is still prevalent here too... (those are the reasons i have given up the anti vaccination fight, should i keep fighting?) edited by julzandrews on 19/05/2011 well i'm coming from the same side as you. Its not just the vaccine itseld that is the problem, its the sheer number for the number of diseases they give it for as compared to when we recieved ours. I was born in 1975 and we were given shots for DTp, Polio,BCG and measles...nowadays they have tripled the shots since 1990. I do no beleive there were vast epidemics of eveything and anything in the late "80's and since then the allergy and auto immune diseases amongst children have grown dramatically. If you are reluctant about anything, just delay and space out shots so you are not giving so many so close at the same time... I have read a lot of resaerch too and it is available by the heaps on both sides of the argument but nothing changes the fact that each individual parent must decide what is best for their child....i don't like to get into any flaming arguments on this forum as this issue can be very heated but you can mail me offlist at [email protected] and i can let you know what we did....
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Latest post on 13 May 2011 - 13:00
i second everyones comments to change your ped. My DS2 was born 3.65kg and at 3 months was 7.2 kgs...at 12 months he is about 12 kgs and totally on the 85-90 percentage of the chart. I still B/f him 5-6 times a day and he eats about 3 meals and a fruit snack. their only job is to eat and grow....
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Latest post on 22 April 2011 - 11:36
HI, I just need to lose weight to get a hubby or at least a date. LOL Seems all the ladies here are on the tiny and beautiful side. I have been doing this diet that will seem crazy but I know many ladies and men back home in the USA that have done it and have kept the weight off for over a year. It's called the HCG diet, you can get the drops at GNC. You will drop between 0.5 and 1 pound a day. The diet last between 23-43 days. It is very strict and you must follow it or you will gain. There is a great deal of controversy on it but just read and judge for yourself. Personally I lost 23 pounds in 38 days and am in maintance now. I plan on doing another round in a few weeks to get off another 20 pounds so I can compete with the lovely ladies of dubai. LOL I was not hungry and had plenty of energy. Good luck. hi have you done the one with the injections or the homeopathic one? I was intending always to go on the homeopathic one once i stop b/f my second DS.....are the drops available at GNC the homeopathic ones? also, do they also sell the diet plan? TIA
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Latest post on 11 April 2011 - 23:11
@Crystil: I hope I am never a MIL like mine. While she is a nice human being, her level of insecurity is just unreal (read going through my things, stealing my cupboard keys, breaking into my cupboard, never asks to borrow my things- just tells me to give them to her, changes my instructions to my maid, nags nags nags and thinks everyone else is stupid and she knows what is best for DD to the extent that my maid cant stand talking to her anymore). After going through this rubbish, I will do my best to ensure I am a hands off MIL. @Fretty: your hormones ensure you have loads of milk for the first 6 weeks (or so I have read). Maybe your baby just went through a growth spurt and your body needs a few days to adjust. Just say "we'll see" and do what you want. @kinthecity-The problem is she lives with you...my MIL is the same - crazy crazy insecure. After all these years and the fact that she lives far away ( thank the lord for that or I would be a divorcee) I have learnt how to play a few mind games too.
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Latest post on 10 April 2011 - 11:52
please try the biocare baby probiotic available at organics supermarket- about 1/2 a tsp mixed in yogurt everyday and you will see softer better stools as it is beneficial probiotic bactreria that helps in digestion. its importantant for babies that it should be bifidus only so even though it is a bit expensive use the baby one first followed in month by the strawberry or banana flavoured child one.you will see dramatic results. My kids are fab poopers (sorry TMI) and DS2 has been on the probiotic regularly as it helps with his exzema. Been a lifesaver and cheaper than ped visits in the long run....and not a med so only beneficial.
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Latest post on 05 April 2011 - 21:51
My life has started when I had DD! I would not have been able to know that beforehand, so I think that you can never really tell until the baby arrives cause every woman is different. you might not like kids now, but your kid is something totally different! Absolutely agree. I was one to snarl at whining screaming kids in malls but I adore my two whining sreaming jumping monkey boys and am delighted to have them. I also know people totally not suited to kids and though they love them, they make terrible mommies (always snapping irritated angry etc) and wish for their life before the kids. So I dont belive you can tell till you have your kids- but i think deep down you will know if you want them...Me and DH always knew we wanted kids and would have them. Its super hard but I love being their mommy...its a love like nothing else- driven by hormones, primal, protective, poignant, wistful, filled with softness and longing...and makes you cry a lot...and fear a lot But thats what life is - not to live indifferently and detachedly in the shadows but experience the extreme love, pain, joy,nostalgia,passion,fear and protectiveness that having a child brings out in all of us. It will awaken parts of you you never knew existed.
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Latest post on 27 March 2011 - 22:43
congratulations ...... thats pretty much how we had DS2 ...one night of fun.... my DH was pretty much glazed with horror when i showed him my test...
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Latest post on 27 March 2011 - 22:39
Sometimes time out is not the answer. My LO 2.7 yrs had a lot more tantrums when we fought it out and threatened punishment and the naughty chair. I'm cut pasting this from a blog i follow but some of it may resonate with you... Violence is a symptom of an underlying emotion. The child can feel rejected, irritated, frustrated, bored, hungry, sleepy, even love. Violence can also be a scientific experiment: what happens if I do X? And if I do it again? That doesn't mean they are manipulating or testing you, they are just being children: learning from experience. Another source of violence can be a lack of physical or mental activity, or doing the wrong ones. How to deal with it Personally, I don't think aggression is such a bad thing. If it's there, it's better to let it out than to let it consume them and feed and grow. Suppressing aggression in childhood will only lead to aggression in their adult life. The importance is to find healthy ways of getting it out their system. As a parent, it is important to not see the behavior as negative, to not label your child because of it, and to deal with it in the same way as you would deal with any other strong emotion. Remember that the child that is violent needs as much love and comforting as the person or object that gets caught in the eye of the storm. The first step should be to diagnose the underlying emotion of the behavior, and to try and find other ways of dealing with that emotion. Only you can find the plan of action that works for your child, as all children respond differently in this situation. Here are some common tips that might work for you, but be creative and find something that works for all of you. •Punching Bunny: Give them a stuffed animal they can bite, kick, punch... •Screaming box: when your child is prone to yelling and name calling: give the a box where they can yell into, and where they can confide all the angry words to. Afterwards the box can be closed and when they're ready, they can empty it in the wind. •Soothing corner: With older kids, create a little space somewhere, where they can have soothing objects of their choice (a doll, a book, a blanket, a pillow...) and where they can turn to when they feel overwhelmed. Choose the objects together and decorate the corner with your child so they grasp the idea and feel like they really have their own space. This needn't be big, just the size of a large tile, so they can sit there or stand there is enough. •Remain calm: If the violence does happen, do not respond emotionally, because things may only escalate. Respond calmly and with love. If a second party is involved, show you care for both of their sorts. If there are two parents present, tend to a child each. •Take deep breaths together: Even if your child is too small to understand, the fact that you are breathing deeply will help you. When they get older, they'll start mimicking and benefit from the action. •Primal needs: hunger, thirst or lack of sleep will get the best of anyone, so make sure these are fullfilled at all time. •Talk: When the emotional roller coaster has come to an end, talk through the emotions. Ask your child how they feel, how their emotions made them feel. Tell them how it made you feel. •Redirect: When you see the aggression building in your child, try to turn their attention to something else. •Balance in activity: Make sure your child gets to do a variety of physical activities, some that are soothing and some that are high energy, so they can achieve a balance in emotional and physical energy. Find out which activities provide the right mind-body connection for your child. •Change the scenery: Going out, or just stepping into another room can relieve the tension. If possible, remove your child from the 'location of the crime'. Then return the place together, when the aggression has subsided.
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Latest post on 26 March 2011 - 15:06
Fun Square in Time Square has a large soft play area for little ones and free if under 1 year old. It is separate to to the soft climbing area, so not too many running toddlers! i love it but everytime we go they are having a birthday party in that area and my little guy cant go in.....
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Latest post on 26 March 2011 - 15:05
amazon and then shop and ship through aramex....:)
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Latest post on 26 March 2011 - 15:04
Age is relative.....after you have the baby you will be super tired no matter how old you are. The most important question is do you WANT a baby or do you feel it is something you should just do? If you are 50 and have no children, will you regret it?
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Latest post on 26 March 2011 - 15:02
Dont worry- its no big deal since you are applying for a residence visa for her. If you transfer the visa in country without exiting- it will work out at AED30 a day - so the fine will be a total of 450 dhs for 15 days whihc they will add on when they stamp....
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Latest post on 24 March 2011 - 12:23
Same situation here, life has gone topsy turvy with the lil one in our life, not that i ever complain about it ... she is a joy to have but its just not the same. Cant make last minute plans anymore, hvnt gone for a movie since her birth which is 9mths. Frankly friends are not friends anymore as they have older kids and are buzy with play dates of their own. Miss having coffee with friends and just gossiping. Sometimes one need ME time! I think most of us find ourselves in the same place after having babies. The babyless friends have nothing in common with us.....and new moomy friends have very little time.
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Latest post on 24 March 2011 - 11:41
I definately believe they do it too often- with my second I had like an ultrasound each visit.... :\: http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/ultrasound-may-harm-foetuses-1509275.html http://www.midwiferytoday.com/articles/ultrasoundwagner.asp?q=ultrasound while there are no peer reviewd studies yet showing that there is eveidence of harm, its best to avoid unecessary U/S and just stick to the major 3 they require in each trimester. I now feel guilty that i didnt say no to the frequent unecessary U/S with DS2 as he has a number of food sensitivites and eczema that DS1 never had ( not implying thers is a definate connection but it is something i will never know for sure - DS1 had only 3 scans total - DS2 about 8) Also DS1 has walked, crawled and talked faster than DS2....... My advice- definately do only the necessary ones and find a doctor who is agreeble to minimal U/S <em>edited by designbabe on 24/03/2011</em>
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Latest post on 24 March 2011 - 11:29
what are empower/ DEWA bills like for the villas? cheaper that the crazy DEWA ones in Dubai....?
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Latest post on 24 March 2011 - 11:25
I sincerely hope so. In the same situation now that life has taken on a different turn. how is your working mums playgroup working out? was very interested but am neither a stay at home nor a fulltime working mum.....:)
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Latest post on 23 March 2011 - 09:09
Thanks ladies, I am being offered a commercial leasing position on purely commission with no basic. I am pondering on this based on issues like the first couple months being zero which scares me. I am not averse to the work or anything just new to the field so dont know what to expect :S i would steer clear of commercial leasing - well I wouldnt quite agree.....i run an interior design company and we apy out quite a fair bit ( as additional commision) to RE Agents who rent commercial properties as those are the people who need interior design services......so they usually earn a double whammy of commision.
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Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 12:05
Try Property Shop (Lorraine) or Twinett for Sidra Village. There are two vacant in Al Manara as they have boards up but I can't remember the name of the agent. There doesn't seem to be the same exclusivity here for estate agents, so if you tell an agent you want to live such and such a place then they seem to be able to get the property for you even if they didn't advertise it in the first place. I'll get the name / number of the agents for Al Manara on my way home tonight thanks....we stay in manara and need to move in a couple of weeks
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Latest post on 22 March 2011 - 11:45
who do we contact for the sidra villas and manara villas? do u have a contact and are any available?
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Latest post on 17 March 2011 - 23:16
I really like living in a Podium villa. Used to live in Jumeira too, and believe it would be really hard to find a brand new villa there at the same price. We were ok to give up the garden (high maintenance anyway) in favor of this. Hopefully we will have shops and facilities soon .... when it will be all done, I am sure ET will be a great place to live. On another subject, does anyone know if there are SWIMMING classes organized by the pools? I have a 4 and 2 years old, and would love to take them for swimming lessons. DH is totally thrilled about not having the garden maintainence....... I suppose its just me resisitng change....the villa we saw was nice- amazing terrace.Its just that I've changed houses twice already in the last 3 years and both times when I was 7 and then 8 months pregnant- so am probably not looking forward to moving again with 2 cats, a toddler and a baby....sigh Thanks MB....but we even saw one of the so called garden villa - which was more like a ground floor penthouse apt...DH is a fiend for space and he didnt like it (neither did I though ) I gues I'm also a bit droopy about the idea of coming there in April - the podium level is so lovely and I wanted my kids to enjoy it but summer will start sort of right away.. edited by designbabe on 17/03/2011 <em>edited by designbabe on 17/03/2011</em>
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Latest post on 16 March 2011 - 23:31
Have you had chicken pox? If you have and you are b/f the LO gets the antibodies.....My DS's were exposed to chicken pox but did'nt catch it when I was b/f .....same applies for the other diseases they vax for at 1 yr.... I hope to God u r right! My 1month old is exclusively BFed and i have had CP before. no problem for the one month old then....you're 21 month old may get it though. But its not half bad when they are younger. I have a 10 month old and a 2 1/2 year old and I would'nt mind them getting it after my little guy is 2. I've seen people suffer with CP as adults and it was easy peasy when I got it as a child. If you just get the vax, i think you need a lot of boosters- sort of every 10 years... I'm sure the thought of looking after sick kids is so overwhelming right now - espcially since your 2 are so close together.....been in that boat. Its not necessary that your 21 month old will get it either. A friend of mine got chicken pox recently but her 2 year old spent all day with her but didnt get it... best of luck
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Latest post on 16 March 2011 - 23:25
We went to see the podium villa this weekend.....It seems they are almost fully occupied... We have been staying in Jumeirah for the last 3 years and are looking to move for the convienience factor... The rents for the podium villas seem fairly high for smaller villas than we get in Jumeriah with no garden space but ofcourse I imagine the amenities are there. I'm just finding it hard to reconcile to paying about the more money for a smaller house with no garden...... Or are there some super fabulous positives about ET that i'm missing? Am in the same boat as you. I wonder if there are specific towers to be looked at or avoided completely. We have not been shown many choices as I think almost all the villas are full up . The one we got to see was only because the owner took possession late. I love the idea of convienence (sp) and community living....but it just seems a bit overpriced in terms of rentals and when its obvious that there is such a high demand...I'm wodering what I'm missing...especially since there are no shops, saloons or restaurants there yet... :\:
 
 
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