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Latest post on 02 January 2013 - 22:06
Shame, I should have gone there when I first heard about it! Ah well. Perhaps it's worth a trip for the food anyway. Thanks all! :)
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Latest post on 02 January 2013 - 20:22
How about a dressing table or a side table I could use as a dressing table?
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Latest post on 02 January 2013 - 19:27
Thanks all. We do try and get out and about and burn off energy in the morning, and most of the time that seems to work but he is just being seriously weird at the moment! Two mornings this week he's been wide awake and ready to go at 5.30am and that is just not normal for him :(. I guess we'll just have to ride it out and see what happens. Keeping his door open when he goes down seems to be helping with the going to bed, but then in the night if the dogs bark he gets woken up. I can't win!
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Latest post on 02 January 2013 - 19:23
I see Dr Hassan at Medicentres Motor City, mainly because she's just down the road from me and I didn't know who else to go to. I didn't like her to start with but I'm OK with her now. Her manner can sometimes come across as arrogant and she does like to talk, but overall I'm confident in her. I do like the way she constantly reiterates that PPD is so biological and due to chemical imbalances in your brain, so it makes you feel slightly less like you're nuts! I've heard good things about a lady called Helen, I think at Lifeworks (I'll double check) if you're also looking for a counsellor. I used to see a lady at Medicentres but she's left now. If you just want a chat about it over a cuppa I know plenty of people who've been there and are happy to lend an ear, me included :).
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Latest post on 02 January 2013 - 19:18
I think, from memory, DH just rocked up to the Emirates Hospital and... well, you know what! :D. I don't think we had a referral. He repeated the test at City and my doctor gave him a requisition form to take to the lab. What has your doctor said already? She'll be the best person to tell you what you should be doing and when, based on your medical history and current cycles. There are a range of tests you can have, but you really don't want to be putting yourself through unnecessary poking and prodding if there isn't any need (some of them bl00dy hurt!). What have you seen so far with your charting? Have you identified a thermal shift and worked out how long your luteal phase is?
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Latest post on 29 December 2012 - 16:41
Quiet time definitely sounds like a good idea; hopefully that'll take away the 'battle' element !
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Latest post on 29 December 2012 - 16:23
Same here - door open, Daddy cuddles, where's my milk, Mummy get in and snuggle me... anything to prolong bedtime and get out of going to sleep! I'm so pleased it's not just mine :).
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Latest post on 27 December 2012 - 21:58
He sounds just like my DS at that age. Does he sleep well at night? DS was up anywhere from 4 times to 15 times and his daytime naps were erratic and a complete challenge for me. I muddled along till he was 7 months then saw Cecile de Scally, and she got us back on track in no time. He was basically just ridiculously overtired and, thanks to me feeding and rocking him to sleep, incapable of getting himself to sleep. Once we'd sorted that out he turned into a brilliant sleeper in a matter of days and was no longer agitated all the time.
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Latest post on 27 December 2012 - 21:50
First things first, get one of your other friends to slap that 'friend' upside the head. What's wrong with visitors?! Send her round to my house and I'll explain exactly what's wrong with visitors if you don't want them and don't feel ready for them when YOU'VE JUST HAD A BABY! Jeez, some people. And then... keep an eye on how you're feeling and seek help straight away if you're at all concerned it's not just baby blues. I had the classic baby blues with DS - bawling at nothing, ridiculously emotional, all that fun stuff - which stopped after a few days and then I got mild PND that crept up on me. With DD, I had the baby blues bit that never went away but instead came accompanied by its good pal, severe PND, that hit me like a brick when she was about a week old. Probably the most horrendous time of my life; I simply could not function most of the time, I had terrible anxiety and the smallest of hurdles was like Mount Everest and left me in floods of tears. Don't let anyone tell you what you're feeling is OK if you don't think it is. Everybody reacts to having a baby differently, and you're the only one who can judge how you're feeling. But honestly, don't hesitate to ask for help from medical professionals if you think you need it. I'd say it's better to be safe than sorry and if you go to a doctor and they tell you it's likely just baby blues - great. If not, you're in the right place to get the help you need. I saw Dr Delphine at Motor City Medicentres, who is a family GP and lactation consultant, and she is very knowledgeable about taking medications while BFing. Sadly the counsellor I saw at Medicentres has left Dubai now and I don't know another to recommend. I saw (and still see) psychiatrist Dr Hassan at Medicentres and while her manner can sometimes put you off, I do think she's good at what she does. Just ignore her tendency towards arrogance and bad case of verbal diarrhoea. Re the not knowing what you're doing and panicking you're doing things wrong. Did your LO come with a manual mine didn't?! I had absolutely no clue what I was doing with DS! I remember feeding him one night and falling asleep with him on my chest, and my chin ended up resting on the soft part of his head. I woke up in the morning to find it had left a dent so I was convinced I'd given him brain damage. It's all a steep, steep learning curve and not an easy one at that. Give yourself time to get to know baby, get used to being a Mum and settling in as a new family. Listen to what well-meaning friends and family say when they give you advice, but remember, while they may have had A baby, they haven't had YOUR baby. Trust your instincts and know that while you may not know exactly what you're doing every time, chances are you'll wing it with your natural instinct. And lastly, the birth. A 'failed' induction means the medical intervention the doctors tried didn't work. It doesn't EVER mean you failed. You got your baby into the world safely, and that's all that matters. I think there's a counsellor at Lifeworks who specialises in birth trauma, so that might be a good route if you think you need it. I wish I'd known about her after DS's birth - I didn't seek any counselling for birth trauma and my first reaction when I found out I was pregnant with DD was to burst into tears and have a total panic attack about having to give birth again. Needless to say, she was a section. I know it's probably all very bewildering right now and you likely don't know if you're Arthur or Martha. The most important thing, though, is to reach out if you need help. Whether it's on here, your Mum, friends who do actually care about you and don't just want to barge round for a visit, other new mums you've met, it doesn't matter. Just don't keep it all to yourself and try and muddle through. I read somewhere that prime candidates for PND are women who normally 'just cope' and think they can carry on doing that. There is help out there and whether you've got a bad case of the baby blues or proper PND, it will get better. I promise.
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Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 22:15
DD had a tongue tie at birth and the paed at City told us it was only minor so just to ignore it. Feeding was an absolute nightmare so we took her to Dr Delphine at Motor City, as she was recommended as specialising in tongue tie. She told us DD's tongue tie was clear and pronounced, and gave us information on what might happen if we left it and what fixing it would entail. We chose to fix it (although we never felt pressured to do so) and it was a ten-second procedure. Within hours feeding was much easier, and completely painless after a couple of days. DD cried when the tie was snipped and that was it. Immediately after the procedure we were able to see she could move her tongue far better than before, and it was obvious how much the tie had restricted movement before.
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Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 20:27
I've read a ton of times that babies start to 'learn' habits at around the four-month mark, so they start working out that being rocked or snuggled or fed to sleep is a whole lot more fun than getting themselves to sleep in their cot! Now could be the time to start introducing a good naptime/bedtime routine that involves baby self-settling. Anyway, that's not why I clicked on this thread (although baby sleep fascinates me). I just wanted to say that my DD is 13 months and if she's upset or hurt, she no longer looks to me to pick her up because she knows I can't. I had surgery recently and can't lift either or my children for three months, so our housemaid has had to literally follow me around to do what I can't. It is the most horrendous feeling on the planet but there's absolutely nothing I can do about it. Why you need a maid, and what you need her to do, is nobody's business but your own.
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Latest post on 11 December 2012 - 13:41
Thanks - I'll take a look! :)
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Latest post on 09 December 2012 - 22:09
My MIL rocked up for a holiday when I was 8 months pregnant with DS, complete with a list as long as her arm of what she wanted to do while she was here. Bus tours, souqs, water parks, dinners, fountains, Hajar mountains, the works. She also rocked up for a holiday when I was 8 months pregnant with DD, complete with another equally long list, same again. Funnily enough, both my children arrived early as I was ill...
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Latest post on 09 December 2012 - 14:16
Hi DC, Someone actually recommended one of these to me earlier but had never heard of them. How did you find it? Is it easy to feed while LO is inside? She is not one to like to be put down so I find I am carrying her a LOT! Im thinking of a sling to give me free hands to be able to do things around the house but also in the hope of being able to get out and about more without having to worry about feeding in public. Do you think the sling would help with these issues? Tnx so much For me, it made the difference between ending up sobbing on the floor while DD yelled and DS ran riot, and managing to feed DS his dinner while feeding DD in the sling! It was a Godsend. I also found it really useful for being able to get out and about, because DD hated her buggy when she was tiny and without it I'd never have been able to go anywhere. You're welcome to try it and see if you like it. harpersdxb at gmail dot com.
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Latest post on 09 December 2012 - 13:46
I have a small to medium pink and brown Peanut Shell sling if you're interested. [url=http://www.thepeanutshell.com/Products/Baby-Slings/Classic-Baby-Sling'>link[/url'> It's reversible, plain brown on one side and with pink spots on the other. I found it brilliant with DD when she was tiny, because she wanted to be carried all the time and it kept her nicely snuggled in. You can also feed while wearing it.
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Latest post on 07 December 2012 - 23:04
Ahlan it is! Thanks all :). Oopsiedaisy, I've always found Ahlan to be reasonably quick, apart from when my MIL came through. But then if they'd carried her through on a golden chariot she'd probably have complained so I don't think that's a good example.
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Latest post on 07 December 2012 - 22:07
Is it just me, but do you need to worry yet about a school for a six month old baby? Welcom to Dubai, Claudia, hope all goes well for you and your hubby. I know people who had their offspring's name down from birth and for some schools, it seems it's necessary! But with the might of Emirates behind you I think it's somewhat easier to get your little darlings into your choice of school :D.
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Latest post on 04 December 2012 - 22:54
Is the company registered/licensed here? I have an email address for the guy who deals with agency licensing at RERA here if you want to file a complaint.
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Latest post on 03 December 2012 - 22:19
Bring your bestie round to my house in the afternoon and help us polish off all the laughing juice we're left with after DH's birthday! x
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Latest post on 03 December 2012 - 22:18
My favourite Christmas album is lost somewhere between here and the UK :(. I took it home a few years ago and had it either at Mum's or my sister's, and it's never been seen since. It was a 'Now Christmas' album but I think maybe a Far East version, as I got it in Singapore and haven't been able to find it on any Now listing online. It had the Spice Girls, Kate Winslet, John Denver, Kylie, Mariah Carey and all sorts else on it. If anyone knows where I might be able to get my hands on a replacement I'd be eternally grateful! Christmas just isn't Christmas without it :(.
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Latest post on 03 December 2012 - 22:07
There's no harm in going to see a doctor now, but just be aware that as soon as you do, there's a risk you'll tip yourself into the mindset of 'there might be something wrong'. And that is not a fun place to be! According to babycentre.com; 30 percent get pregnant the first cycle (about one month) 59 percent get pregnant within three cycles (about three months) 80 percent get pregnant within six cycles (about six months) 85 percent get pregnant within 12 cycles (about one year) 91 percent get pregnant within 36 cycles (about three years) 93 to 95 percent get pregnant within 48 cycles (about four years) If you think you have the patience, try charting your temperatures for a few months before you go see someone. That way, you'll have a stack of information you can take to an ob/gyn and they'll be able to pinpoint any potential issues far easier than you turning up as a blank slate/'average' woman. A good starting point for charting is Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler (try Borders or Kinokuniya) and then fertilityfriend.com.
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Latest post on 03 December 2012 - 22:00
I know it'll be expensive (and hard to do!) but if you really want to keep your secret, order something like a vodka and tonic and ask for it served with the tonic still in the can. Then when nobody's looking, ditch the vodka and pour in the tonic :D.
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Latest post on 03 December 2012 - 21:58
How old are they? I have two Britax ones suitable for about 3+ you're welcome to borrow - they're not exactly in brand-new condition (I bought them second-hand to use when my niece and nephew visit) but they do the job just fine. harpersdxb at gmail dot com. <em>edited by DubaiCat on 03/12/2012</em>
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Latest post on 01 December 2012 - 22:26
Yep I think so - I remember eating there with visitors and them getting up to stand at the fence and watch.
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Latest post on 27 November 2012 - 14:35
DS had awful constipation a few weeks ago and was literally holding it in because it had got so large and hard it was too painful for him to get out :(. Awful. His paed gave us Duphalac and told me to up his fruit, veg and water intake and touch wood, he seems to be back on track. She did say they could give themselves tiny tears around their bottoms and the pain makes them try to hold it in, which in turn makes the constipation worse so it's better to get it sorted sooner rather than later. Re the cause, she asked if we were going all out to potty train as sometimes if you're too intense too early it can backfire. It's not the case with us and I still have no idea what caused it, but it's worth thinking about if you're potty training.
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Latest post on 26 November 2012 - 23:54
Ouch - did somebody graze a nerve?! :D I'm not sure I could have found Dubai on a map when I first moved here. But then, I was 22, single, footloose... If it hadn't worked I'd have had nothing to lose. Now I have a husband and two small children to think about, I'm not sure I'd be so brave (or headstrong!). If you're confident you and the family can make a go of it whatever the situation, then go for it. But if your children are at critical stages of their education and you're concerned they might be negatively affected, I think that definitely needs to be a consideration and probably one that might need a first-hand encounter with their potential schools. Good luck!
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Latest post on 26 November 2012 - 23:47
Huh? It's going to rain and thunderstorm tomorrow night?! YEE HA!
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Latest post on 26 November 2012 - 23:44
We have one we don't use. Let me look what brand it is and ask DH if he can get it off the wall!
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Latest post on 26 November 2012 - 23:43
Crushed mint leaves (lots), balsamic vinegar, olive oil, crushed garlic (but not too much). Yum.
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Latest post on 26 November 2012 - 23:40
My Mum always says 'Things always look better in the morning'. I hope this is true for you :).
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Latest post on 26 November 2012 - 23:39
We aren't allowed to swap vouchers on here but I have the Body Book and I'm pretty sure nobody has used the particular page you're after so you're welcome to it :D. Drop me a line on harpersdxb at gmail dot com. PS But if you don't want Spice Emporium at the Westin, I'm pretty sure I can make use of it :D.
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Latest post on 25 November 2012 - 22:27
I have what I think is the basic one and it connects to WiFi and downloads books directly from the Kindle store onto the Kindle, so I don't need to connect it to a computer. Sorry I can't help more - I'm a bit technologically challenged! ETA: I thought I'd hate mine with a passion - I'm a real old-fashioned 'give me the broadsheet or the paperback' kind of person - but I love, love, love it. <em>edited by DubaiCat on 25/11/2012</em>
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Latest post on 25 November 2012 - 22:24
Can you ask the seller for an updated invoice with the correct postage to here? ETA: I've never seen an option to change country - when I need something sent here I usually just get the seller to send me an invoice with the relevant postage included. edited by DubaiCat on 25/11/2012 you mean after buying it? wont you want to know the shipping charge and expected time of delivery beforehand? I email and ask the seller before I buy ;). But then I haven't come across anything that's had the option to change shipping destination, so if I did it would be useful then I wouldn't have to email.
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Latest post on 25 November 2012 - 21:00
Can you ask the seller for an updated invoice with the correct postage to here? ETA: I've never seen an option to change country - when I need something sent here I usually just get the seller to send me an invoice with the relevant postage included. <em>edited by DubaiCat on 25/11/2012</em>
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Latest post on 25 November 2012 - 20:58
I lived in Springs 12 a few years ago and loved it. Nice community feel, nice and quiet because it's at the back, and good access to the Al Khail exit (and you can now get back onto Emirates Road towards Dubai too which is a huge bonus). We could walk to Choithrams at Springs 7 and the pool is easily walkable too. Sadly we're not there any more but I'm sure there will be plenty of people with kids your ages there. Happy moving!
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Latest post on 21 November 2012 - 14:17
Wow, I didn't know you could just ask for a drinks package! I'll give that a go. And I remember going to Chef House once for DH's birthday - the meat was lovely. Thanks!
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Latest post on 21 November 2012 - 13:38
I went to the new CottonOn Kids in Ibn Battuta recently and loved it. That's where I'll be going when I need to stock up.
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Latest post on 21 November 2012 - 13:36
So they did - well remembered! I'll try and find out.
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Latest post on 20 November 2012 - 21:38
I am a muppet. It's a Friday. Thanks!
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Latest post on 20 November 2012 - 21:09
Hubby said its gonna rain, so it must be true coz he is a man and never wrong !!!!!!!! LIKE!
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Latest post on 20 November 2012 - 21:02
Thanks! I'll run it by the crew :D . ETA: B*gger, just realised it's on a Thursday night. Sorry, I should have mentioned that bit! <em>edited by DubaiCat on 20/11/2012</em>
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Latest post on 20 November 2012 - 20:43
I think lizard's got it in one - take what you agree with and discard what you don't. I had a home visit with her when DS was 17 months and DD had just been born, and she certainly solved a lot of problems in our house. I don't believe in smacking or shutting children in small rooms and I wouldn't use those as disciplinary tools, but time outs in the same room as us worked brilliantly from day one and are still working now. For me, she has a lot of valuable inputs and I'd say the visit was worth it. PS NannyMacTee, do you do it here? <em>edited by DubaiCat on 20/11/2012</em>
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Latest post on 20 November 2012 - 20:41
I'm not sure this will help at all but it sounds like she found the separation quite traumatic, and her new behaviours might be a reaction. Is there a health visitor in Canada you can discuss it with, or somebody else your paediatrician could recommend? I'm way out of my depth here but I'm pretty sure there's a professional you could find to help you out - if it is that she's suffering the after-effects of being separated from you, I'd guess you'd need to be careful you treat her new behaviours the right way so you don't make a bad situation worse. I know that's probably not helpful but I just wanted to say what it looks like from a complete outsider's view, because sometimes it's hard to see the wood from the trees when you're stuck in the middle of a situation and can't focus. I know how awful it is when you feel so relied-upon (my DS didn't sleep for ages when he was small and I was his on-call butler) so I hope you get something sorted soon for your own sanity. Just think, the move is over now and that's the worst part, so now you can look to the future and do your best to get everybody settled and back on track. Good luck!
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Latest post on 20 November 2012 - 20:29
Last year my car was overdue as I'd been in the UK, and I needed new tyres for it to pass the Tasjeel test. When I was on my way to the tyre place I got pulled over for not having valid registration. At the time I was rather pregnant and visibly upset as I'd just got bad news from home so the policeman kindly let me off. When I got to the registration centre I explained it was overdue and why, and although I didn't have to pay any fines I had to pay a full year's registration fee but the car was only registered up until the end of what would have been a year from the original expiry date. This year, I had to rush home to the UK in a hurry the week before my registration expired and my car sat in the driveway for four months. I took it to the registration centre as soon as I got back and not only did I not pay any fines, I was also able to register it for the full year from the date I renewed. Confusing, much?!
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Latest post on 20 November 2012 - 15:20
I found things started to get easier with my first when I managed to establish some kind of routine. Not a military 'It's 2pm so you WILL sleep' kind of thing, more a 'follow baby's cues and do the same thing in the same order every day' kind of thing. I went to see Cecile de Scally and she really helped me with this. I carried the skills she taught me over for #2 and found I could manage her far easier than the living nightmare I had with DS for a while. It made such a difference to me knowing roughly when they would both eat and sleep, and when I'd get half an hour to myself. That's when I started feeling like something remotely resembling normal life would be possible somewhere in the distant future. Incidentally, DS spoke at around 11 months and his little sister is approaching 13 months without a word. He walked at 10 months, she's taken three steps and can't be bothered with anything else yet. They're all little individuals :). <em>edited by DubaiCat on 20/11/2012</em>
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Latest post on 20 November 2012 - 15:13
Have sent her a message, will post ASAP :).
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Latest post on 20 November 2012 - 14:46
For sure, he deserved a smack in the chops! But how's he 'doing it the way most of us seem to think is appropriate'? He should have been upfront and told you what he was after from the beginning.
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Latest post on 20 November 2012 - 14:42
Lynn66 had the same issue with her parents and managed to find cover in the end, although they're coming from the UK. Post if you're still stuck and I'll get her to come on and tell you where she found cover.
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Latest post on 20 November 2012 - 14:23
I had a night out when I was back home in the UK at the end of October and I was just as appalled by the lack of clothing on some girls there as I am here. The UK isn't a Muslim country, the UAE is, but decency is decency wherever you are. I don't need to see your a$$ cheeks or your boobs, thanks. Are we done with this one now? Have you forgotten what it was like to be young and have something worth showing off? :-P I'm still young and I still have something worth showing off! :D
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Latest post on 20 November 2012 - 13:59
Thanks a million, blondie - I'll pass it on. And thanks to everyone for all the advice, it's very much appreciated :).