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Latest post on 21 October 2012 - 13:56

Thanks Simpleasabc.. that will do :)

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Latest post on 30 September 2012 - 00:30

I went to Barsha Mall Union Coop the other weekend - it wasn't a bun fight (well not compared to C4 anyway) The veggie section was a bit busy especially at the weigh-in area, and there were a few mad kids racing with the kids trolleys, but they're easily mown down lol! Much less stressful. I refuse point blank to go to C4 in MoE on a weekend - it's worse than Ikea and I hate that with a vengeance too! lol! the local tomatoes section @ C4 is ALWAYS a bun fight! There should be a 3 minute limit there!! edited to add, what the heck can you say to someone that eats a pear off the shelf? What is more worrying, the hygiene aspect of her eating one and putting it back (without paying for it) or the fact that she is not terrified to eat an unwashed pear? edited by Beebers on 29/09/2012 i would say to her, excuse me, pls pay for that. that is a totally dirty thing you did. to eat and put it back. yuck. I would just tell her that I did see a cockroach a minute ago crawling on an apple.....and leave her..... by the way; the cockroach part is true story....when ever I go to a place do sell fresh veg or fruits I do see them.....

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Latest post on 25 September 2012 - 22:57

My husband is from Europe and i m from Asian Country, so we have two different background of course. He's been living in Dubai for 15 years, i guess he adapts the middle east way :). He is not the issue, the issue is my in law They visit us on regular basis, before it was one month holiday...recently reduce to two weeks maximum (i guess that's because they always has a loud discussion with DH at one point:). Don't get me wrong, they are two lovely people and i do like them...but sometimes there are things that we just had enough. When i do my cooking, i like to use herb and spices (onions, garlic, coriander, salt, pepper etc) prior cooking the meal so yes, it will definitely has some smell. She always made comment on my cooking, "stinky food" that's how she call it. I ignore most of the time cause i knew she doesn't mean it, but sometimes she keeps bringing it up again and again. So i start responding to her comment...i said your food is bland, cant even taste salt and pepper on it (well perhaps because there are none). I feel I am a bit hard....but i just need to say something. Comment and reaction on food she doesn't like. Whenever she doesn't like food she tried, she always comment "eeeh don't like this" with face expression that you just cant imagine OMG. I always wondering why can't she just say "no thank you" without showing those expression. Good job i didn't cook for them though, if i have to...then will do roast...safe... :) Washing dishes. She likes to wash the dishes, i knew that from 1st time i meet her. The problem is she does not rinse the soap, so basically she put some washing liquid in one sink, place those dirty dishes, simply rub it, and place it in rack. Then wipe it with kitchen towel... :\: I've ask her to rinse it (especially if she's in Dubai), does she listen....not really. She just simply rinse it. Tell you....some still dirty or oily :\: Having the feeling that i m using the plates, glass, etc that still dirty just put me off. Sometimes, when she doesn't look i rewash the whole things. I have kept quite most of the time and don't want to make big fuzz about it considering they only staying for two weeks, like my husband said "just ignore it". What will you do if you were in my position? TIA NO! This is typical my MIL!!!! the dishwashing, the rude comments that is hidden insults, and food..... Just use plastic - sorry but that I did with my MIL - or just have a dishwashing machine - and do not talk with her, keep your self away from her, if nothing read a book in your own language so she won't nose in. Good Luck you will need it.

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Latest post on 25 September 2012 - 22:49

Oh my! I am overwhelmed by the responses ladies! I am just an ordinary woman trying hard to be a good mother for her children, saying that I did blamed myself for not acting quick enough once I did see the signs; doesn't want to go to school, wanting to sleep in my bed all the time, not wanting to talk about school at all. I even thought it was something in the class and did wright to his teacher to meet her, and she sat an appointment for today- sure I did show up yesterday and finished the whole situation - now I am working on boosting his self esteem and confidence, and this need patience. I did enrolled DS in a self defense class as after school activity, karate will help me as well as zebra55 recommended. Ladies either it was the school keen on keeping the 0% bullying tolerance or it was contacting the police and KHDA did the magic, what I can think off was you wonderful ladies, you are the one who gave me the strength throw this, your words and advices did solve this problem in the first place, I won't have the power to go to police in the first place only because this forum have wonderful knowledgable ladies who guided me in this mayhem. I did receive the apology letters from the 3 boys, 2 of them are real apology, and one only is not an apology more than shifting the blame, this one is the elder brother of the 2 boys. I can accept this, knowing I will keep an eye and told DS not to talk to any of them, knowing it will be a matter of time, that we will be shifting homes - hopefully soon - then changing buses will be involved, unless DH do listen to me and let me drive him to work then take DS to school every day, yes I will be tired but will guarantee the safety and well-being of DS. Oh EW! I love you. Thank lovely ladies :)

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Latest post on 24 September 2012 - 12:06

Just got off the phone with the deputy of junior school, he told me the 3 bullies got a big tell off, that the 2 brothers were upset that their parents will knew about what they had done, and the school did contact the parents of the bullies and the parents were cooperative in that manner. All the 3 boys been separated around in the same bus and won't be allowed to sit with each other anymore, the attendant in question been issued a warning letter for her neglect ion, my son will be seated beside the attendant, and in general the attendants of the school buses will be monitored in this regard, that they are encouraged to intervene and they have to be proactive, and lastly I will be issued an apology letter from the parents of these 3 boys and signed by them, the deputy will visit DS to check on him and comfort him that he doesn't have to be afraid of school or the school bus....already the bus attendant been changed and been assigned in another bus. He asked me to dismiss or cancel the police report as there is no need to follow up on it, and asked me to contact KHDA with the same. I can say that I am now relieved and can go have a shower and get some sleep, as I am awake since yesterday morning, I finished the phone call surprisingly crying with relief. Alismum, thank you for your words, it did made me tearful, you are wonderful woman. simpleasabc,Marroosh, verdeque, salsB,and Kooky, Thank you for your wonderful support and nice advices, you are great. And last thing; Do not accept or settle for accepting this treatment of bullying, it won't go away, it will stay unless you stood up for it and nip it in the bud, the more you keep quite, the more you will be bullied, after all what I had gone throw my school years, that made me not being able to go bathrooms where beating up happens, I kept quite about it, didn't had someone to tell, it made me keep looking over my shoulder all the time, that I swear to myself I will never ever let my LO go throw what I went throw. Please do go to police and raise the matter, police do listen to these concerns and they are more than understanding these issues. Once more, thank you all for your support, now I am just awaiting the letters, and I will keep picking up and dropping off DS to school, that means I will be the family driver until we shift homes - God only know when - then DS will be transferred to another bus that go to the new neighborhood, and in the mean time, working on DS self esteem and getting him off the nail bitting habit. Thank EW, you never fail me.

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Latest post on 24 September 2012 - 10:00

Couldn't sleep at all, maybe only an hour throw the night. I walk up this morning, told DS that I will take him to school not by school bus, ladies, I wish you could see his face, he was happy and no dramas as usual in the morning, he was chatty and cheerful. I waited for the school bus, to know what grades are these 3 boys are, 2 of them are in the same class G5, and the other G3, and one from the G5 is the brother of the G3. I asked about - the names of the bullies, and only one answered, I asked him what grade he is, then he was concerned what happened, I told him you know exactly what you did, and you will hear from your teacher, and the same with the other 2 boys. Took DS to school and he was kind enough to help another child to swipe their access card - the attendance card - then he done his own :) then went to see the deputy of junior school, I told him exactly what happened and I did file a complain with the police and KHDA, the deputy told me he already was not happy with the performance of the bus attendants as they do not involve enough in such situations like that and not proactive, that he pulled out 2 of them, he listened to me carefully and - surprised surprise - he told me why go to police or the ministry with something like that, and I should go first to school, but he said he totally understand what I am going throw, I requested from him a letter from the parents of the 3 boys and sign it, that these 3 boys won't get in touch under any condition with DS, and the deputy assured me that what will happen, and a full investigation with the attendant why she did nothing and ignored the complain of DS, he is only a KG2 boy. Now I am waiting for the reply from the school, as I won't let this go under the bridge, if I did not get a reply by the end of the school day, as the police officer last night told me, I will initiate the police report about the 3 bullies, now I have their full name, as there were a list of every school bus number with the names of the children/kids attending it. I feel weak and tired, but can't go to sleep, I will go to sleep after I get a resolve to this issue. Ladies, thank you for your words and advices, it did support me throw the night and kept me going. EW you never fail me. Thank you.

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Latest post on 23 September 2012 - 23:54

I really feel for you! And glad you went to the police station, as I wouldn't have even thought of that, but that should scare the heck out of the bus driver and the school. Can you follow the bus to school to confront them as they get off and get their full names? Can your son tell you their names? Please do go to their teachers and the head teacher, and insist that they protect your child! Keep that fire in you! If it makes you feel better, my son asked if I could home school him today, as the schools here are so different from what they're used to. I'm just trying to get as much as I can out of him every day, to stay on top of anything he or his sister needs help with. If you ever need to speak with someone privately, let me know and I'll post my email address for you. Best of luck tomorrow! DS did told me their names - only first names - and that is more than enough, the bus is a hiac one that max it will take 11 passenger in. Believe it or not, I was bullied when I was in school, I know that feeling, and my children or any child in the world should not know this feeling.

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Latest post on 23 September 2012 - 23:48

for a first thought, going after the bus and knowing where does every boy live sounded great idea, but if I done this; it will be personal, I need to have big profile for this matter so it will get resolved, keeping it quite won't solve it, in fact; it will make these boys go further. Once the school involved and knew that police does know that - and I did complained to KHDA via email - this will solve it, if I went to the parents, most of the time - as I did made a research earlier - parent will be denial and won't do anything or just will try to bully me as well - as some parents of the bullies do have a sweet nice approach that make it difficult for the victim's parents to complain, then the bullies do feel they have powers over the little one that nothing can stop them. I did involved KHDA, and the school will know about it and I will let them know that I did went to police. the school did have the courage to rise the fees this year because of the KHDA report, so they have to be afraid that KHDA will investigate them for that matter. I can't believe myself thinking this way now. I guess the emotional rollercoster did finish it's ride, and my problem solving thinking did come back to it's place.

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Latest post on 23 September 2012 - 23:32

Grobattie perhaps you could ask for a copy of the video from the bus and send it to the parents/police? Great to see so many ladies standing by their bullied kids - they don't have the skills to deal with it and REALLY need you. edited by Kooky on 23/09/2012 I wish if they have CCTV in the bus, they don't, and really I have no idea about the other three boys, as DS is the first one to be picked up and the last one to be picked up.

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Latest post on 23 September 2012 - 23:29

Just come home from the police station, the police told me that I need to go to the school and not let my son go on the bus in the morning, and get an apology from the 3 boys and the bus attendant, in the beginning he told me he need a hospital report, I told the officer the damage is psychological not physical, and DS was holding back, then the officer insisted that I need to give the school the names of the 3 boys, and tell them that I was in the police station last nigh, and see the reaction of the school, if no action been taken, then this time I have to make a police report and hospital report. The officer was kind and understanding, that's why he told me to tell the school that I was in the police station for that matter. DS now is sleeping in my bed - which now make sense he started sleeping in my bed since the beginning of the school - and I told him he is bright, he is kind and he is smart. I am now trying to revers all the negative ideas these 3 boys from h e l l planted in him, I feel fire inside me, that I want to bully these 3 boys the same way they bullied my sweet DS. I finished crying but now I feel the anger eating me, I need to finish this anger tonight, as I need to be cool minded when I go to school tomorrow morning. I went even crazy that I want home schooling him, but this not the right thing to do. I will be in the morning to talk with the bus attendant and ask her what grades are these boys in, the school bus company is arab falcon, and they have their office inside the school, so the bus is fully responsibility of the school itself.

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Latest post on 23 September 2012 - 21:57

Gorobattie, Perhaps you could get in touch with the school bus company and file a complaint about these boys and ask them to take action, also inform them that you will be contacting the police and relevant authorities. See how they respond.. Also I saw this on the KHDA website [i'>"What should I do if my child is being bullied at school? KHDA encourages all schools to have a child protection policy in place. We advise you to raise any incidents or concerns immediately with the school and, if you are not able to resolve the issue, please contact us".[/i'> http://www.khda.gov.ae/Pages/En/commonQuestionssch.aspx Knowledge and Human Development Authority Block 8, Academic City, P.O Box 500008, Dubai, U.A.E. Tel: +971-4-3640000 Fax: +971-4-3640001 Email: info@khda.gov.ae Twitter: twitter.com\KHDA Just got off the phone with the police - couldn't get intouch with the department - and police did advise me to go to school and complain and tell the school.If it have not been resolved I can file a police report about those 3 boys. I am crying as I couldn't see this, I did ask the bus attendant if there are older kids in the bus and she said no there isn't - she lied - in the beginning of the year. It just all come to me when DS - he is bright - and he was spelling words that he hear it and wright it down in - not his homework - and he spelt the name of the ring-gang boy, I asked him what is this boy doing : is he good to you? then he told me that he wants this boy to like him so - the bully - stops annoying him! then he told me about the other 2 who grab him from his cloths, telling him he is from h e l l , one of them told DS he have brain better than DS's, and calling names, been hit on his head, and one hold DS's knee in aggressive way, and singing the I love you - barny's song - in a bad way with words saying he will kill him, and the bully will eat DS for dinner. I asked him what did the bus attendant said, he told me she said nothing. It hurts me that DS is going throw this mental torture and physical abuse and didn't say a word about it, he just kept telling me it's easy to skip school simply by not getting in the school bus. DS is sweet little boy, and I can't imagine where I went wrong in this, I always old him he can tell me anything even if he made a big mistake, and I won't shout at him.

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Latest post on 23 September 2012 - 21:13

So after all....does anybody know contacts or which department to report a school for the bulling? I am really need to get in touch with any government department to report about. You know what I have been looking but haven't been able to find anything! I would start with the KHDA and then MOE.. Thanks Marroosh....I had been searching up and down, find couple of threads leading to a police department that is protecting children....unfortunately could get hold of any contacts for this department, it's part of dubai police, they did seminars and campaigns to stop bullying in schools and how to identify the kids who will be victims and the kids who will end up eventually in jovi ... this threads is news articles in arabic.....as my 5 years old is been bullied by other 3 elder boys in the school bus....the more I talk with DS, the more I discover that these boys not only verbal, they did go to grab his shirt and frighten him.....I can't believe that DS kept quite about it and didn't say a word about it, it make me feel i want to beat the heck out of these 3 boys. Aww poor thing:( there is nobody on the bus with them who you can ask to keep and eye on him? Would just call any Dubai Police office and ask them where to find this dept that deals with bullying. I will do try call the police and check with them..

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Latest post on 23 September 2012 - 20:48

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Latest post on 23 September 2012 - 18:55

So after all....does anybody know contacts or which department to report a school for the bulling? I am really need to get in touch with any government department to report about.

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Latest post on 23 September 2012 - 12:43

Actually I had been on look for the same the last 3 years.... I can do stencils itself, again it's bond to the plastic that been used to do it, my best plastic to use was the x-ray photos, as they are tardy and can be washed and reused for many years to come....again it's not that simple to find used x-ray photos....and I can't find any plastic good enough to take the cutting very well..... so yeah I am just like you looking for them.

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Latest post on 19 September 2012 - 11:35

This will be up to the life style her family lived.... did your mum say anything about their life style? where they lived? what nursery / school this little girl attended? where did this girl were hanging around? this all the factors that lead nowadays for lead poisoning

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Latest post on 19 September 2012 - 10:58

Dr Bagat Second that.

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Latest post on 19 September 2012 - 10:54

I'm all for this! I was just yesterday talking to my husband about how I have to take my nearly 5 year old for the 5 year vaccinations, and how difficult it's going to be to have to convince her to willingly be injected - before that they have no idea what's coming and you just go for it! Now if the school would like to take that responsibility from me then I have no objections at all!! I know your dilemma, I did took my 2 boys for their vaccination ( 5 years and 3 years vaccinations ) and made DS1 to sit on my lap, not looking at the injection and talked to him, and it was only a tiny ouch he said, then my 3 years old, who I did the same but to make sure he is not going to move while the injection proceeding, and it all finished in 5 min. just make sure your LO not seeing the injection before or while it's been injected. Good Luck.

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Latest post on 18 September 2012 - 10:41

My account on EW is of such little interest, why would someone wanna hack it? ;) it's not you or me, it's about the hackers who wants account everywhere, for something God only know.....

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Latest post on 18 September 2012 - 10:38

I really can't see a 5 or 8 year old going into a purse to take money????? When I babysat for a 6 year old boy, he took a gold bracelet from me and hid it for a week. He thought it was a game! Yes, some children do take things. but only ONE 50 dirham note? how skilful is this child to pull out one note and return the others back neatly in the wallet then in the bag. it happens....not all the time little children know it's ( steeling) they think it's a game... once DS1 - he was 4 years then - he opened my handbag, got my wallet out, took the 500 dhs note out, as he liked it was shiny. when I asked DH about it, DS1 one just said that he took it, b/c it was shiny and spanking new!

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