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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 13:08
Same problem at the Safa Park junction. I never get a clear run at it these days and am starting to take circuitous routes to avoid it. I have almost 2 years did not drive there, because the traffic is horrible. as much as I can I always avoid it, same thing with Al Wasl Road, only 2 lanes.
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 12:57
As a perent we do as much as we can to get our children the best benefits of everything, and education is one of the most important things we provide for our children, we do enrol our children in the school to provide what we as parents can not provide, not every parent is academically qualified to teach the children at home, not every one is educated enough to do so, and surly I did encounter parents did not even have the elementary education but their kids are holders of honour degrees....whatever is the reason parents can't/ unable to teach their children is totally up to the parents. The OP is asking over here to have a cross check with any poster able to provide info if she is right about her fears or it's not founded, as a parent of children who had gone throw this I can say this school is not doing their job: education. OP my elder son was the older one in his class when he joined KG1, in KG generally the teach children how to hold the pencil and how to write, by the end of KG1 he was able to read and write 3 and 4 litters words, in KG2 he was able to free write what he wants to write and can read an article in the news paper - I do choose it for him due to age suitability - and now he is in year 1 and moving on ..... You checked with the school and gave you this clumsy response, you need to go to KHDA and the ministry of education, and check for yourself and find out what is supposed to be happening, then you will get your answers. It worth trying to find another school to your child before you go complain about the school, so you can get a decent report from them to be able to move your child from the school in the first place. I am a parent and did not get the same education my children are having, so I do my best, the school they attend is very good at this, they do send instruction with communication book what to do to keep what the kids learnt from school and apply it at home, this is what a responsible school would do, not leaving your child not being educated for 2 years and going to do the same at year 3 in the same school. Be prepared that your girl could re-do the same year she is in as a result of moving her to another responsible school that really do educate children, not only a money drain - TBH all schools are a money drain but some do their job beside that. All the best and good luck
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Latest post on 22 September 2013 - 21:33
Don't really want to get bogged down in this but the expression of splitting in half is simply a common male way of bragging about the size of his um...you know.... Let me guess....you have no daughters right? and I have never been one either !! lol interesting !
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Latest post on 22 September 2013 - 21:09
I'm having trouble understanding where you get the part that she's crying and he doesn't like it. I've read the lyrics now a few times and unless I'm horrible at reading into it, I just don't see it. here the part of her in pain: Shake the vibe, get down, get up Do it like it hurt, like it hurt What you don't like work? Baby can you breathe? I got this from Jamaica It always works for me, Dakota to Decatur, uh huh No more pretending Hey, hey, hey Cause now you winning Hey, hey, hey Here's our beginning
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Latest post on 22 September 2013 - 20:59
Don't really want to get bogged down in this but the expression of splitting in half is simply a common male way of bragging about the size of his um...you know.... If only it was a comment.....please do not get this out of the whole lyrics....otherwise you are a man and sure have no idea what is this all about. Last time I would say it: read the whole lyrics and you can see for yourself the song is about one situation that the dude seen a girl, he eyed her, then he forces his way on her, describing the whole thing is not s ex, this is rape......if you can't see it....well....I have my doubts you can understand the woman point of view, a woman or a man who have daughters will understand what is this all about. This is only my opinion and you are entitled to your opinion, however I do stand my ground if something degrading someone for the sake of someones else or thinking men can tell what women want - particularly on this issue - s ex - I did see last week a very interesting documentary about s ex education in east Germany and west Germany.... surprisingly discovered that east Germany had freedom in that matter in early 50s, that they did protect women - hence the population after WWII women were more than men - 8 M women with no husbands who died in the war, women did work everything, got education, and sure they had the freedom of choosing the s ex partners, as s ex industry were forbidden by law, they did show videos of s ex education in schools - mix schools - talking about that NO means NO, and that's why when the girl says NO the boy have to stop, full stop, and when the pill was invented, in women day they did provide it for free for ever girl and every woman, just to stop the marriage because the girl fell pregnant. While the west - the free one - did segregate boys and girls- no one discussed s ex, and assumed it was bad thing to discuss at home, the church did not discuss it likewise...... what make me bring all this that since 50s the eastern Germany did teach boys and girl[b'>[u'> NO means NO,[/u'>[/b'> and it was interesting to see that in that time everything were discussed except politics, and in west Germany everything were discussed except s ex. <em>edited by Gorobattie on 22/09/2013</em>
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Latest post on 22 September 2013 - 20:28
ok so I read the lyrics and apart from being repetitive there was absolutely nothing to suggest a rape, just s ex...only bad words are b*tch and @ss, otherwise I could copy and paste them here... How about the part he will split her into half? what about the (good girl) want it BUT not saying she want it? what about the part she is crying while her is(doing) her and he doesn't like her crying? I think s ex is not about someone (assuming ) that this good girl want it but not saying she want it? s ex is consensual, not someone KNOW she want it but saying no....no means no, when someone says that this girl - any girl - says no means yes but she is a good girl that's why she won't say yes?!!!! first time i heard the song it did stop me, another 3 hours it did play again and this time I wanted to hear it, what strikes me the wording : ((you want to hug me? what rimes with hug me?)) and then going down the road saying he have something from such country that will split her - ahem - into 2!!!!! then the part she is not happy and crying......I can go on and on about this, it does promote rape culture that every girl want it - rape - and even if she said NO, that is a green light for the dude to keep on what he is doing as she want this to happen..... then you read about s ex offenders that the victim wanted it, she asked for it, she provoked him, and that makes areal castro a victim himself!!!! this kind of songs that comes with easy music on the ears, and it become part of the culture and the ideas of the listeners....... English is not my first language so I do keep my attention so I do not let things I do not understand or I do not welcome in my home to sneak in my children's lives... and whom think this is about s ex, please think again about the nest stranger WHO wants you and force his way on you, then come back and say it was just s ex.......I do not hope any one encounter this, the student in the bus that some scumbags do this to her and then raped her with a bar that got her intestines out of her body, as they assumed she enjoyed it even if she said NO. Gorobattie Out of this thread.
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Latest post on 22 September 2013 - 13:21
@ sarahlou123 I have bunch of songs I do not allow it at home or in the car, however this video is age restricted, however it's free for everybody to hear it on radio in UAE, just listen to the lines like: You wanna hug me What rhymes with hug me? or the part he is elaborating about what he will tear her into 2 !!!! or the part that she is crying and he is not enjoying it while she is crying!!!! this is all too graphic and yes you can not see the video, but the way he is describing the whole thing, with offensive F words - not the exact F one - so this is all in the ears of everybody. so yes it's like someone is describing rape and saying the good girl can not say she want it but she does wants it! if this is not rape, then what is rape?
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Latest post on 22 September 2013 - 12:34
I heard this song months ago and didn't like what it was implying, yet all radio stations keep playing it. the song I am talking about is: Robin Thicke's blurred lines. yes it is like the whistle song, still blured lines is all about rape. this song really ticks me off and make me switch off the radio or turn the channel, however that's me who do this, however so many men( youth and young boys) and so grown up men do listen to this song, and it does really promote the rape culture, just read the lyrics and you will understand what I am talking about. I didn't know it was? http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/robinthicke/blurredlines.html
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Latest post on 15 September 2013 - 10:58
I did hire them 3 times, different babysitter every time. they will be on time and even early 10 or 15 min.And very expensive service . However I found the babysitters really have no idea of babysitting, like they are more prone on cleaning the house than really babysitting, DS2 is not a baby but had and come home to find that the only time DS2 were fed only plain white rice - which was in the fridge- not the sandwiches I had prepared to him, every time I come home he is dressed only in his shorts and no under pants, asked the baby sitter a she claims she doesn't know where I placed them!!! sure she dressed him from the wear drop the same one I keep all his clean cloths! and ask why he was dressed in the first place? then the baby sitter says he soiled his pants!!! DS2 do not do it, unless she was busy doing something else. the baby sitters from that agency are hooked up on the BBM, even when I was talking with any one before she leave. one of them do not have any kind of command of english of any kind. Sorry not encouraging, but in that time needed a babysitter in these 3 times, at least DS2 not a baby and he is above 3, so he can talk and tell me. but if you have a baby....then I would not leave my baby in any of these babysitters hands.
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Latest post on 15 September 2013 - 10:38
Al Khwārizmī? you say it: Al Kha-Wa-Riz-mee does it make sense?
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Latest post on 15 September 2013 - 10:22
Hi Angel joy, I have a car seat FAA aircraft approved, you are more than welcome to buy it from me, as I do not have babies anymore, you are more than welcome to take it if you like it. I did buy it many years ago, it have 3 sittings from new born, it can be used as rear seating for new born and forward seating. the colour is black and grey. If you are interested please drop me your email, I will keep watching this thread until you get back to me.
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Latest post on 08 September 2013 - 13:42
Did anybody noticed that OP did not give any response at all?
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Latest post on 08 September 2013 - 13:30
I think the allowance for additional 15 min delay on ek414 was all staged. I did work with ajoy in another life, and he do not tolerate any passenger not showing up and he does start the offload procedures, this flight can not be delayed that much, and showing the wheelchair staff showing up that much late is all a drag act! the wheel chairs are the first one who board the flights, as it does take long to let these passengers settle in, another thing showed it was a stage act: the transfer desk over there do send ek staff to accompany passengers from the in bound flights, not leaving them to wonder about like that. the only real thing I had seen was the sentence ajoy said to the other person on the phone ( telling off the staff) to not bother bringing the passengers. and.....why they are using phones while every body does use the walkies over there? it cheap and effective more than phones, as it ek policy no staff on duty use mobile phones, even Mr Sami do use the walkie! <em>edited by Gorobattie on 08/09/2013</em>
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Latest post on 08 September 2013 - 12:50
As Izzy Said: Separate homes, Or you got married where you are then come to ME.
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Latest post on 06 August 2013 - 18:46
PoV - so sorry you're feeling sad & insecure during what should be such a happy time for you, but as he other ladies have said, pregnancy hormones can play havoc with your emotions. Seems to me your husband is trying his best to be kind and helpful, and maybe has had words with you maid to this effect too. [u'>[b'>To be honest, I'm shocked that so many ladies are saying 'cancel her visa, no references, send her home, ban her, etc etc' [/b'>[/u'> Unless you have evidence of any wrong-doing, this is unnecessarily harsh as she has not done anything wrong. Poor girl will be punished & penalised through no fault of her own. If you're unhappy with her, by all means get rid of her, but try and help her find another position rather than send her home. Hope all goes well and you're feeling better. Would you please READ what I post? I believe I posted to no ban on the maid.... READ again edited by Gorobattie on 06/08/2013 But you DID say "get her sacked, send her home". Really? As far as we know she has done nothing wrong. Accusing the maid of playing mind games etc. OP said nothing of the sort. Just because you had a bad experience with your maid, doesn't mean they all act alike. Oopsiedaisy, I just said my five cent in the whole thing, no need to make this thread a debate of bad maid and good maid....I do have my new maid and she is good as far as she is doing her job, so don't start the analysing, thinking that you are a forum guru and know it all. this thread about OP not me, so please be objective like me, you can't judge someone with another person's acts....I do this and hope you do the same. Plus...why did the OP thought about the maid in the first place? it was easy of her to think it was someone else, but no she said the maid, which mean this woman (the maid) is already doing her tricks, OP did have her doubts regarding the maid, the fact OP said the maid is getting upset when she ask her to do something in a certain way, which means the maid doesn't want to do her work as the boss says, she wants to do it the way she wants, I dare anyone can do this in his or her work place, why should a maid have her way doing her tasks in her way? think about it every one trying to judge me and throw me with accusation of not being fare with maids. this is my last input in about me or what I had gone throw in someone else's thread, and won't discuss it in a separate thread. Sorry OP for the thread hijacking it won't happen again from my side. <em>edited by Gorobattie on 06/08/2013</em>
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Latest post on 06 August 2013 - 16:35
PoV - so sorry you're feeling sad & insecure during what should be such a happy time for you, but as he other ladies have said, pregnancy hormones can play havoc with your emotions. Seems to me your husband is trying his best to be kind and helpful, and maybe has had words with you maid to this effect too. [u'>[b'>To be honest, I'm shocked that so many ladies are saying 'cancel her visa, no references, send her home, ban her, etc etc' [/b'>[/u'> Unless you have evidence of any wrong-doing, this is unnecessarily harsh as she has not done anything wrong. Poor girl will be punished & penalised through no fault of her own. If you're unhappy with her, by all means get rid of her, but try and help her find another position rather than send her home. Hope all goes well and you're feeling better. Would you please READ what I post? I believe I posted to no ban on the maid.... READ again <em>edited by Gorobattie on 06/08/2013</em>
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Latest post on 06 August 2013 - 15:42
In the old times, some countries used to add pages to the passports, I don't know what your country will do about this, you need to go personally to the consulate and find out, some consulates have websites, try them now and see if you get any response by email from them. good luck
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Latest post on 06 August 2013 - 15:28
I will say something is totally different than the other posters said; I believe your husband is just being your husband, and he is feeling the change - being a father - that explains why he take care of himself, and the weather is very hot outside no surprise he is showering all the time. As for less sOx, well men tend to leave pregnant women *thinking* she is tired and it's the last thing on the list - h@ll yeah - they do not know that pregnancy hormones make a pregnant woman thinks about it like a man!!! As for the chatty pit with the maid....well your husband is just naive, he is just being friendly with her, but you need to have this in your mind: that maids always compare themselves with the wives they work for, and the secret desire of the what if scenarios in their minds ( the maids) and yes, this maid need to go, she is trying something that is not her right to try, she thinks your DH being friendly with her means he is in to her, and that explained the different looks she look at him. get her sacked, send her home, you can do it with out a maid living in your home, you can always bring agency maid to do the big clean up as much as you want during the week, and when the baby arrive, you can always bring a nanny to take care of the baby when you are out with DH. This is assuming you are stay at home wife, if you are working, then you can always find a good nursery in your way to work, I know what I say sounds difficult, but the peace of your mind worth it. Take care and you will do it. xxx ETA: OP you said: I don't want to say anything to my maid yet as she gets upset even when I ask her to do something a different way. But I will watch her more carefully. I want to say she is playing mind games on both of you, showing a different personality to each one of you, front of DH she is the smiling chatty hard worker, and with you she is doing what she wants the way she wants. you need to get DH out of any type of conversations with her, by saying both of you need to be more professional with her, after all she is you employee that suppose to make your lives easy, not that way you are posting. if it was me, I would sake her and send her home, no reference, and no ban. <em>edited by Gorobattie on 06/08/2013</em>
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Latest post on 11 July 2013 - 13:27
The last 2 days me and the children were doing DIY decoration in the home. it's very nice to bring the joy to Ramadan atmosphere, as the children they expect easter and Xmas and knew the decorations and all that sorts...so that's why we did Ramadan decorations and it was fun.
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Latest post on 10 July 2013 - 22:44
As per what I always knew; seeing eye is the only exempted from going to the baggage hold, and they have a special arrangements for the seeing eye, and only seats in the aircrafts can accommodate this - as not all aircraft types can do this. Oh yes! seeing eye is trained to not to be a dog as long as the guiding collar is on them, and they place them on a mat beside the passenger seat all the time. Maybe my info is old now. <em>edited by Gorobattie on 10/07/2013</em>
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Latest post on 10 July 2013 - 22:40
Hi all, we are considering hiring a new nanny, seems lovely. Her husband is also here. She would live with us. How have other people handled "conjugal" (did i spell that right?) visits? We have two young daughters, and live in a 2+ apartment. My gut says visiting ok, but not crazy about the idea of overnights. Wondering how others have delt with this, have not had a conversation, no idea what her expectations are. TIA! Why would you get yourself into such a situation like that? No visitors, and no overnight stay for him in your house, or her in his house.
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Latest post on 10 July 2013 - 22:40
It was awful today.
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Latest post on 10 July 2013 - 22:37
The idea of (men) who will not help - like the security guard - to help stopping sExuall harassment is they (think) nothing had happen, the ( happen ) is rap, so saying to someone to help stop the offender is not a big deal for them, as (nothing) had happened to the victim. Another food for thoughts; so many men - any race or social background - have the believe of women do ask for it or they wanted it, or it's just another way of telling everybody something about her to be the centre of the attention. plus there will be number of men who want to do this secretly and that's why they stand by each other when a man had been fought of sExuall harassing a woman. Now go to the point of view of the victim, who had this...so many women tend to feel ashamed about what had happen to them, thinking that they did bring it on themselves by the way they talk, walk, move or dress or anything, and this is culture had been planted on so many decades of direct and indirect bringing up girls and women. it's sad what this girl is experiencing right now, I believe she is already in her home taking long showers just to clean herself of what had happened to her, hammering this girl will just make her misery double, I believe OP must side by this girl and talk with her and strength her to go and file a police report about what happen, OP you too must joint with her to file this report, you too had been harassed by this @#$%#$% and I believe you must stand by this girl in your office in that matter. She - and you OP - have the time and the opportunity to get rid of another offender for good, letting go of your right, make you both accessory in what happen. Stand your ground and go and talk with the that girl, both of you will make each other stronger. This is my cent in this discussion and I will not debate my views or go further as I was watching this thread and felt I must say that to clear my mind and tell other women to not to be afraid to voice out you fears or stop crimes against you.
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Latest post on 23 June 2013 - 22:23
Gorobattie, if you only knew half of it :( Irooni, I can tell you what my mum and MIL did. Both tried all their best to show me how I am not a good mum, and I was quite and it was the moment that I told each one that they had their chance of raising their own children the way they like, and now it's my turn to raise my children, without interference in my parenthood style. Regarding the original post, I believe a flat chested little girl should be a little girl as long as she is, until the b00by fairy pay her a visit, then it will be the time for that shopping trip mummy and little girl do with much fun and ice cream stop :D But leaving a girl that really needs the bra, and deny her the right to have her bra... this is I am totally against, it will make the girl feel not on the same level with her class mates and it will lower the self esteem. Being a girl that her mum denied her to have a "clean" underarms, made me shameful all the time from PE class, I used to forget - on purpose - my PE set at home so I do not have to go in the humiliation parade that other girls put me throw. and had to stand alone watching the other girls play. So I know the feelings of being denied what I need, but the OP's DD do not need the bra now, maybe later, so there is a pressure this little girl is going throw, and her peers parading their chests that made her wants to be like them. OP, you need to have a nice talk with your DD and talk with her about her feelings, take her out and spend time both of you only, just talking with each other, you know your little girl more than any one, I hope you can calm her down and wait for her changes to happen by the time.
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Latest post on 23 June 2013 - 22:00
Oh thank god one person thinks like me! I don't see the point at all. Forgive me for being graphical, but to me it's like wearing a pad before you ever get your period! [b'>MIL thinks I am crazy to be fighting this battle cause it is pointless and her wearing one will just make her happy and hurt no one![/b'> Your MIL can think whatever she wants, STILL, DD is YOUR DD, not her's!!! Her time of raising up children had passed long time ago, now it's your time to raise your own children, don't let any one lead you to do something against your believes as a mother, as another poster said: parenting is not democracy
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Latest post on 19 June 2013 - 09:39
OP, my advice: get your children to your parents place, spend time you and your DH alone, You both need to spend time with each other as a man and a woman, not flatmates or mum and dad....just both of you this could help you both to look deep in your relationship and renew the dull stream of your lives. I don't want to take a dig at you or try to analyse you and your DH, but I believe both of you really need a time out only both of you together. Take it easy and calm down things at your home. HTH
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Latest post on 19 June 2013 - 08:23
OP, here you are some advices that could help you get your self esteem back; make arrangement with a baby sitting agency at least 2 times a week, so you can have ME time, this me time you need to go out with friends, if you do not have friends; go to the coffee mornings been held by EW so you meet new friends, make these kind of coffee meetings - not only EW meetings - a regular thing in your life. Have a new hair colour and hair style, dress up and go everyday, even if you are going to buy milk and bread, wearing nice cloths with nice hair style and light make up will left you up and make you feel good about yourself. In the weekend when he is spending time with your son, please do dress up and leave the house, go to a nice coffee shop with a good book and spend at least an hour over there, and you can always go home but after you spend nice quiet time with yourself, when you come home, please oh please do not try to engage in any type of conversation with him as a husband and wife, or 2 old friends or sister to him, do not ask him about his work or his week went by, show him that you moved on and you will be surprised by how he will be the one who is chasing you to come back. I am so sorry you are going throw this, men tend to forget us women after a while of marriage, they stop looking at us as women, we become another norm in life for them and by the time they loos interest in us as women, once you don't beg him and move on in your life, with the dramatic change in YOU, he will start looking at you like the first time again - just like your early days - at the moment, I am praying that you have the strength to be strong and not to look back if he decided to separate and move on, when this happen, it means he already set his eyes on another woman and you do not want to be an option for him, you need to move with your own life, so you are a key stone for your self. HTH and stay strong.
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Latest post on 03 June 2013 - 15:07
OP, I had been in your place with a new born and a toddler and sick, I wasn't here in UAE, and did know my neighbours and the only one I knew she was over 86 and always comes over to invite me for drinks!!!! any way, what I can suggest in that particular situation - if the babysitter thing did not work, just secure everything in the room you are going to nap in preferably the living room, close the doors, windows, open the tv on disney junior channel - that is the bravest thing you will do - lay on the couch and relax, believe it or not, once DD starts to ask for a meal or nappy change, you will be awake to do it, give her toys to play with, and keep every thing you thing it might get broken and could be dangerous for DD. Get well xx
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Latest post on 22 May 2013 - 21:46
Sorry for the silence - Been busy trying out keys to maids room etc. DH been in to her room and she certainly hasn't taken her belongings and even her laptop is still there. We don't think she'd have gone for good without it. Anyway, we will see tomorrow morning. laptop left behind is not an indication she will come back or not going to do a runner, my ex maid did the same and did a runner. edited by Gorobattie on 22/05/2013
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Latest post on 20 May 2013 - 11:02
Thanks Meagle, I don't have something like that, however I will try to get some fabrics from satwa and do some quick stitching for this. The production is this thursday, so I am running out of time and it was a bit short notice from the class teacher....Thanks :)
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Latest post on 20 May 2013 - 10:21
gentle bump :)
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Latest post on 19 May 2013 - 14:01
I did not comment on their work, I did refer to their behaviour ... full stop. I do remember more than 14 months ago, a Bangladeshi hard worker in building the city of dubai, went to his annual leave back home and cut off the five fingers of his wife, only because she wanted to study. What does have to do with anything? An isolated case of one worker committing a crime. Not that I agree with anyone touching or taking pictures of other people's kids. I was expressing the point of: being a hard worker have no connection of your behaviour. every expat is a hard worker, giving the reasons you left your home country, beloved ones, and working in a strange country is brave act, and if someone couldn't get throw their position can not be branded as hard worker. It was a simple example to tell that that man was working for 2 consecutive years - a hard worker - then went home and done this gruesome crime against his wife. there is no connection between the job and the behaviour.
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Latest post on 19 May 2013 - 13:50
I am an arab descendent and DH is EU descendant, our children are not fair, blond or blue or green eyed, however in my culture taking photos of stingers - not only children - is a big no no, same with DH. culture or not, if someone wants to respect my culture, should ask first, and the answer is always no. why should I give a total stranger photos of me or my kids anyway? it's a weird behaviour anyway. knowing how to say no is key in teaching children how to defend themselves in life, not to be afraid or thinking they will hurt someone's feelings, it;s the personal safety that I teach my children. Plus who knows what will happen to these photos anyway? maybe will be deleted after couple of days, got sent to another total stranger and the sending game keeps going on and on....the most important thing is: we don't know the real person front of us; what they are and what they are really capable of. I do respect everybody's culture and I expect the same, dubai being a cosmopolitan city, which means different cultures and a big mix of personalities, no one have a sign above his or her head saying they are good or bad people, why should I put my self or my children in a situation that me or my children have no control of? everybody can exercise their culture with whom is familiar with it, not with someone have no idea of it and expect others to comply with it, meanwhile respecting the law of the land - UAE - which shows that clicking photos of someone or something who did not get authority to, gets you in trouble with the law.
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Latest post on 19 May 2013 - 12:42
Gb, it's ok for you to refer to the hard working women in Ibn Battuta as "these women" but not ok for me to refer to you as "this woman?" Teaching your children to panic when they meet people from a different culture and to be so rude to them will not serve them well in later life. I know you probably meant well, but I think you need to have a look around you at the people who live in Dubai with a less arrogant frame of mind. I did not comment on their work, I did refer to their behaviour ... full stop. I do remember more than 14 months ago, a Bangladeshi hard worker in building the city of dubai, went to his annual leave back home and cut off the five fingers of his wife, only because she wanted to study. You need to tell the difference between someone's behaviour and his job....these women their job to sell nail art kits to women, not clicking photos of children, so what work they are doing? leaving the job that they are supposed to be hard working in, and snapping photos with children with out the consent of the parents or the guardians. when talking about 6 and 4 years old children, yes, it's my job to protect them, being in a mall is exactly in the street. so in that age it's my job and it's none of your business to comment about that. Again, Grab a life Quinn
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Latest post on 19 May 2013 - 12:26
What did you think those women were going to do to your son that you had to get him away so urgently? Sorry? I can't get your point. Do you think it's ok and natural for total strangers take your child's photo? You said, "I didn't have the time really to give her piece of my mind, as I had to get my other son away from these women." I'm just wondering why you felt it was so urgent to get your children away from them? Quinn - may I ask are you a Westerner? Why do you ask? Because where I come from, it is NOT ACCEPTABLE to have photos taken of your children, regardless whether harmless or not, by complete and utter strangers and without permission - also should not be questioned in any respect. Internet downloading and so forth? Yes, I'm completely western but I've lived and traveled all over the world. I agree they probably should have asked but I don't thing there was any need to panic - which this woman clearly did! When I read the title, I thought for sure her children had nearly been nabbed! Using terms of (This Woman) is not acceptable at all. Children all over the world been nabbed for less than that, I believe you do defend these strang women actions, I do suggest you go and offer total strangers to have a photo with you, maybe you will get what I am posting over here and understand it. back to the topic, I am not in a contest for the coolest mum, or anything else, children are vulnerable and they need parents to protect them, not subjecting them to these weirdoes, cultural differences or not, I am posting this to tell mothers who care to not let off their guard, however, I am not allowing you to question me about how I do bring up my children, you want to question someone for their parenting methods: please do ask every speeding car having toddlers poking their heads off the roof of the car, sitting on the lap of the driver while the car on the move....or letting their children be unbearable toward any human around them....the list goes on and on. So you think panicking is bad? I do have every right to panic, if I tell this situation happened in another part of the world everybody will say these weirdoes will get arrested, however you think this totally different because it happened in dubai? are children a touristic sites? or they are nice objects to take photos of? so you want to have a go at me? I am so sorry that you think weirdoes are okay to let them touch your child and take photos with....please do it with your own children - if you have - because you do not want to hurt the strangers feeling however you can subject your children to these weirdoes. Grab a life Quinn <em>edited by Gorobattie on 19/05/2013</em>
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Latest post on 19 May 2013 - 10:47
I know it's annoying for you as mother to have your kids' photo taken by strangers, but I've seen it happening here often. Especially if they blonde hair-fair skin-blue eyes kids. I don't think they would have done anything to harm them and you were in your right to ask them to delete the photo,but no need to panic. I don't know the women, why on earth leave my son's photos with a total stranger? it's not the concept it become acceptable by some over here, it's the concept it self, can any of us take a photo of a total male stranger? I doubt this fine. To be fair, my children are not blond, not blue or green eyes either, my children are my children, we are not celebrity or part of a royal family... so why the strange attitude of these women? The panic was how fast they are! it was a matter of seconds, it takes me long time to get my kids to pose of a family photo, someone have to be looking somewhere else, trying to pick the nose, hiding the face or just blurred photos....half an hour before that we were on the train inside the mall and took over 23 photos and only 4 is acceptable photos, the rest got deleted as they are not good to keep. That's why I am surprised that it was only matter of seconds I was running after them to see this happen, however the pose was the woman was hugging my son.... <em>edited by Gorobattie on 19/05/2013</em>
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Latest post on 19 May 2013 - 10:43
What did you think those women were going to do to your son that you had to get him away so urgently? Sorry? I can't get your point. Do you think it's ok and natural for total strangers take your child's photo? You said, "I didn't have the time really to give her piece of my mind, as I had to get my other son away from these women." I'm just wondering why you felt it was so urgent to get your children away from them? My children were excited and I really needed to address this with them, reminding them of stranger danger, do you think doing this front of passing people in a mall is a good parenting method? <em>edited by Gorobattie on 19/05/2013</em>
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Latest post on 19 May 2013 - 10:40
What did you think those women were going to do to your son that you had to get him away so urgently? Sorry? I can't get your point. Do you think it's ok and natural for total strangers take your child's photo?
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Latest post on 15 May 2013 - 15:04
You don't pay gratuity for someone who worked 5 years in your home because of their circumstances... you pay it if the law tells you so, however you don't pay it because someone asked for it. hiring a maid in your home is the only option for who can afford as there is no family near you to help you around with work times and school times.... you get a maid so you can go to work. we as expats have this as it's our only option to manage our work schedules and our children schedules .... I did not know that hiring a maid was a charity in the first place?!!!! You can't just bump to your boss and tell him/her about your misfortune back home, so he/she pay you this and that?
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Latest post on 15 May 2013 - 14:35
Gorobattie . Hugs back . It is not a very nice situation to be in I am heartbroken and will take years to get over this.There is so much more to my story too long to write but he has torn the whole family apart his mother is drinking heavily ,his brother has disowned him and his children have refused any contact with him . How can one person destroy so much . I will never understand .xx((hugs)) No, He did not destroy a family, he simply removed himself from the family, you and the children are a family, do not think about him and conceder him doesn't exist any more, if he have a bad effect on the children then do not encourage these meetings, just make it apart and please do not say anything bad about the dad to the children, it will be tough tho, but this is how to be a good parent, you can do it and you will do it, you know why? because you are strong and do not need this man in your lives. Hang on there, you are on the right path, do not derail from it, keep going and don't look back, it's his loss not yours, as you said: what goes around comes around. do not think about him, think about yourself and your children, this is the important thing, I know what you feel, don't worry, you will see, six months from now you will see the difference and a year after that; you will have a different you, but please do not crumble down and stop living, as this is what these men wants to do to you both - you and nippy - you will pass this, and being busy building a new life for you and the children will keep you away from falling apart, once you find your own feet, only then, you will know that you reached your own way. Just hang on there.
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Latest post on 15 May 2013 - 14:10
A rancher thank you for your kind comments i am perhaps a little sensitive and emotional right now I need to toughen up but will be strong for my children as I am also not a well woman and the children are worried about me. I am grieving for what could have been and expected to be with this man for the rest of my days. Life is cruel but I look on the positive I have wonderful children who love me a loving Family network and I will be there for the children in the future and be proud of their achievements not my husband who perhaps will end up sad and miserable . karma will get him I truly believe in what goes around comes around. Thanks for listening . xx My post is for you too madaboutpink, you will know your way, you will find yourself again, just hang on there dear, you will survive this, you will see. Hugs((()))
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Latest post on 15 May 2013 - 13:57
Nippy35, You are there dear, you already started, and the start is the most difficult to do.... you are there. Being by yourself it could be difficult and makes you want to scream and cry and just do not want to get out of the bed, but having another little innocent souls attached to you and you are their only anchor to reach their ports, THIS is the only thing that makes you stronger and no one can defeat you. you were and still in situation that left you nothing but being stronger and a fighter, that what will make you. You are amazing and do not let anybody or anyone to tell you are not, you did not meet your new you, your are just started knowing you. the first 6 months of any great change are always the most devastating, but you survived it, you are a survivor! I am thinking about you all the time and I know it's difficult what you are going throw, hang on there, you are almost there. The fact you are the one who is being your own family and your own support will make you strong and mighty, mark my words, you will remember them in a year from now, and you will smile and please have a drink for that, that is a worth a toast for. Hugs and prayers are going toward you and your little ones.
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Latest post on 15 May 2013 - 13:43
They key for these creatures who insult you, is to make them feel they are pests. Sorry, but think about it, they do it knowing they are being rude and they want to insult you, just to amuse themselves, however you have to defend yourself from these pests.... being nice with them will just keep them having a go on you, specially if it's a place you are frequently visiting or using their services... so giving them a piece of your mind with a big smile on your face....this is the best comeback on them. Some posters will start telling me off how I describe them as creatures or pests....I repeat it's only the ones who do this rude commenting..... I do believe in the power of solidarity and demanding a change of these rude people comment to stop, if every one did this, I don't think any rude commentator will venture doing it again. <em>edited by Gorobattie on 15/05/2013</em>
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Latest post on 02 May 2013 - 16:59
I was on my way to Ibn Battuta this morning to take DS to the toddler group. When passing the metro station I spotted a little "lump" by the side of the road. I'm pretty sure you already know what I am getting at... So yes, it was yet an other kitten run over and left for dead only this time it was also decapitated. I said a little prayer for the poor thing and drove on. (probably naive but I was trying to make myself believe that I didn't see it right and the poor little thing wondered onto the road...) when just over the bridge saw yet an other little "lump". This kitten was similar color as the one before and yet again body only. Luckily DS feel asleep so I decided to turn around and go home getting pretty upset by it all. Unfortunately I saw a third "lump" just by the metro car park before getting on to SZR. Body only, same coloring as the previous two. Really disgusted and upset by it all. It is also very scary as whoever does stuff like this must be mentally disturbed. And what if once they bored with abusing animals move on to children????? Is there anything I/ we can do?? Feeling teary and so powerless :-( This Post- almost same wording - is in 7 Days todays letter to 7 days....I wonder is OP is aware of this, or it's as usual the editor just been lazy and posted as it come to 7 days? I don't know.
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Latest post on 14 April 2013 - 11:01
What does your husbands boss do for his birthday? Nothing more to say after that.... So you are in return expecting your maid to do what in your birthday? you are expecting her to get you a gift? or what? Or do you or your husband get birthday gifts from his boss? does you or him get a birthday card from your employer? It's a day like any day in the year, just wish her a happy birthday if she told you today is my birthday....that's it.
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Latest post on 14 April 2013 - 09:37
May I suggest something? Children in that age like stories and movies, specially stories that parents interact with them, why not get a story book or a family movie and have a nice family weekday all the family sit down and watch it, I believe you will get a nice story book about this matter, and read it - or a very nice movie - and after reading/ watching all of you discuss it, and talk about how family is a group of people who love and care for each other, and sitting examples by telling the child that dad he always wanted to be your dad, and when he found us he couldn't let go of us, and in the same time you need to discuss the biological father and what he is really involved in the child life, and please if he is the devil himself, you can not say that to your child, he/she need to know they are loved, and it's just mum and dad can not live with each other anymore, and they have to go separate way..... it's tricky situation I know, but you need to get your self prepared for questions about the biological dad, and you need to give answers and do not give more details about it, keep it sweet and short. Good Luck for both of you.
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Latest post on 13 April 2013 - 15:22
Have you tried to contact Tefal over here or the international one to buy a replacement ? I do have one like you, but never had an accident with it - not yet but I feel it will happen due to children naughtiness - and I would be interested like you to know. HTH
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Latest post on 11 April 2013 - 10:28
Jeano, just wanted to say thank god for colleagues like you. Hope they get it sorted out. This is so unfair. We were at Shakespeare's the other day. Waiter forgot to put our tarts on the bill. Never seen a happier guy then when we mentioned this to him. Bet he would have had to pay it himself if we hadn't said something. Oopsiedaisy, I had similar situation, it was in Spenies express(spl?) after I paid for phone credit top up, then went home, discovered that I hadn't get the top up which it was supposedly attached to purchase receipt, went back and asked for it, after looking for it, and viewed her register, her supervisor told her to get it, the cashier girl started crying and apologising for the miscommunication, then she was getting cash from her wallet to pay for another top up! then I asked her why she is doing this, she said that sometimes etisalat system count they give the top up, but in that case it did not print the top up for some resone, and as I had already paid for it, this mistake had to be corrected by her to pay it from her pocket! I told her I don't want her to pay for me, and this is not her mistake it's the system itself that wiped out the transaction for some reason, and I will be happy to pay it again, as I am the one who want it not her. She was so relieved that I did that, and started crying, and told the supervisor he know it's not her mistake at all, and he shouldn't make her pay for that, and he should told me what was going on, even if it will make me pay twice for that same product. it's strange treatment to staff and employees to pay from their own pockets even if the mistake it's not the employee or the company mistake, in my case was bad connection to etisalat! I paid again and calmed down the staff, I did feel bad for the whole situation, and the attitude of that supervisor toward the issue. To the OP, please consult the UAE labor law, I do believe there is Juristic Association in Sharjah Tel: 06 556 4888 they did publish a book: UAE labour Law in the book there is nothing saying anything about that situation - deduction as a fine for sold items - however the book says any amounts of money been deducted from employee due a fine it have to be placed in a separate account that can not be used for anything, except for the employees welfare in that branch only, like social club for the employees, or medical treatment if the employer does not cover the expenses of employees medical insurance, or anything that only goes toward the employees benefits only, and the company can not use it as bonus or buying food or clothing for the employees, and can not be counted as a profit or loss of the company, and can not be invested in any business or project that could gain profits or have financial loss. this deductions/fines have to be taken after a hearing session within the company, and not been disputed by the fined employee. HTH
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Latest post on 01 April 2013 - 19:17
Thanks Nomad, that is very helpful, I will arrange this with the vet and rent or borrow the trap. thanks a million.
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Latest post on 01 April 2013 - 18:47
gummy, I would do this, but he won't go to the carrier in the first place. do you think I can buy the spray first and spray it on where he hangs out in the garden and when he calms down it will be easy to get him in the carrier? or do the vet do home visits? Sorry, this is my first time having a pet, so I would have dummy guide for pets.
 
 
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