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Latest post on 07 September 2011 - 15:51

Being a mum is the best job in the world, but it's also very hard work. If you are at home all day, it's tough. If you are out all day, it is also tough having to make up for the time that you weren't there. If you work, you feel guilty because you work. If you don't work, you feel like you are losing your work skills or that you are not doing enough with your LO etc. At the end of the day you have to do what works for you and your family. Nobody else has the right to criticise your decision, nobody knows why you have made it, and absolutely nobody has the right to make you feel guilty about it. Your LO loves you more than anyone else in the world, no matter what your decision is. Really Like!! We need a 'Like' button here!

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Latest post on 07 September 2011 - 15:36

Easy answer? Give up work. Your child deserves your full-time attention. No need to panic ladies I just checked my calendar and it is 2011 not 1956. Sorry but have children evolved in some way that I am not aware about that requires them to have less attention these days from Mum than they did in 1956? lets see shall we: In '72 when I was born my mum still had to handwash and mangle all the clothes...a backbreaking, thankless, time consuming and constantly repetitive task. Through all those hours at the laundry, was her time focused solely on myself or my sisters? Not so much different from 1956, though probably a slightly easier task. All food was grown/harvested/slaughtered/processed from scratch. Given the machinery involved was the attention of my parents focused soley on their children? All of the cooking/canning/sauce making was done from scratch Clothes were made by hand, knitted and sewn from scratch. Their days RUSHED at fullspeed passed them in the effort to feed, clothe and shelter us. Their justice was swift, sure and punishing. Their time was consumed with the effort of raising their children to be strong, healthy, and to survive. And if some mums had to work to make ends meet they did, and everyone got on with it. People of my generation know that you only had to be home when the street lights came on, that we could only go inside if someone was bleeding, and that there had better BE blood. That we drunk from the outside tap if thirsty, and made dam sure we ate what was put infront of us, because there would be no more til the next meal. Our children of today have evolved somewhat then it seems: they require, demand and get (and deserve to a certain extent) more from their parents than their parents ever recieved. They have our constant 100% focus much of the time as the the demands of just 'living' have lessened with the availabilty of clothes/food, household chores and tasks being made easier with technology etc. I've read some of your judgemental posts on this thread Lady luck, and I don't wish to even get into the debate with working/versus SAHM with you...but if you must make sweeping generalizations in an attempt to back up your critical messages to a lot of women...could you at least use a little of your brain capacity to reason it through somewhat? Love this post!

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