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Latest post on 16 May 2011 - 08:40
I thought the extra month salary was due as end of contract bonus. I could be wrong, and I don't have the contract in front of me, but that's what I remember. So, if ur maid completes the contract in november, that is when you would pay the bonus month.
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Latest post on 15 May 2011 - 08:29
We used to take our maid with us every time we went out to eat... normal places, and really nice places. In the beginning, she was always very consious of the amount of the meal she was ordering and always tried to order equivalent or less than us. However, through time she started ordering the most expensive thing. For exampe... we all order burgers and she orders steak or shrimp. We were too embarrassed to say anything, so just quit taking her with us. The [b'>kids aren't much work [/b'>anyway, and we really didn't need her. We only took her because we just thought it was a nice treat for her. sorry but :\: agree with the earlier poster who can't understand why ppl don't "enjoy" their children....i can't either... and to the OP - there are a million different scenarios to expalin what you saw... all your post tells me is how judgemental ppl are here..... Who says that I don't enjoy my children? edited by momof3 on 15/05/2011 lol @ editing out the other stuff...no i am not perfect, nor do i claim to be ;-) Yes, I edited because I don't usually make comments out of anger and thought the better of it. I edited again to note that you want to talk about how judgemental ppl here are... and yet you are judging me. lol actually i wasn't especially - hence the new paragraph after the smiley...i was simply a bit taken aback that anyone would regard their children in those terms ie "work"... the comment about agreeing with the earlier poster was just that - agreeing with someone else's post... if you took it personally then sorry. Taking care of children is a job...ie work. However, it is a labor of love, and my children are easy and well behaved. My point in saying that my children weren't much work was to show that I didn't need the help. We only took the maid as a treat. I am the main caregiver to my children, not the maid. It is very easy to take things out of context when they are written instead of spoken.
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Latest post on 15 May 2011 - 08:14
We used to take our maid with us every time we went out to eat... normal places, and really nice places. In the beginning, she was always very consious of the amount of the meal she was ordering and always tried to order equivalent or less than us. However, through time she started ordering the most expensive thing. For exampe... we all order burgers and she orders steak or shrimp. We were too embarrassed to say anything, so just quit taking her with us. The [b'>kids aren't much work [/b'>anyway, and we really didn't need her. We only took her because we just thought it was a nice treat for her. sorry but :\: agree with the earlier poster who can't understand why ppl don't "enjoy" their children....i can't either... and to the OP - there are a million different scenarios to expalin what you saw... all your post tells me is how judgemental ppl are here..... Who says that I don't enjoy my children? edited by momof3 on 15/05/2011 lol @ editing out the other stuff...no i am not perfect, nor do i claim to be ;-) Yes, I edited because I don't usually make comments out of anger and thought the better of it. I edited again to note that you want to talk about how judgemental ppl here are... and yet you are judging me. lol
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Latest post on 15 May 2011 - 07:59
We used to take our maid with us every time we went out to eat... normal places, and really nice places. In the beginning, she was always very consious of the amount of the meal she was ordering and always tried to order equivalent or less than us. However, through time she started ordering the most expensive thing. For exampe... we all order burgers and she orders steak or shrimp. We were too embarrassed to say anything, so just quit taking her with us. The [b'>kids aren't much work [/b'>anyway, and we really didn't need her. We only took her because we just thought it was a nice treat for her. sorry but :\: agree with the earlier poster who can't understand why ppl don't "enjoy" their children....i can't either... and to the OP - there are a million different scenarios to expalin what you saw... all your post tells me is how judgemental ppl are here..... Who says that I don't enjoy my children? All your post tells me is that you are also one of the judgemental ppl here. edited by momof3 on 15/05/2011 <em>edited by momof3 on 15/05/2011</em>
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Latest post on 14 May 2011 - 22:13
We used to take our maid with us every time we went out to eat... normal places, and really nice places. In the beginning, she was always very consious of the amount of the meal she was ordering and always tried to order equivalent or less than us. However, through time she started ordering the most expensive thing. For exampe... we all order burgers and she orders steak or shrimp. We were too embarrassed to say anything, so just quit taking her with us. The kids aren't much work anyway, and we really didn't need her. We only took her because we just thought it was a nice treat for her.
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Latest post on 03 May 2011 - 19:07
Am from the US, and had never seen this word until I interned one summer in canada. I was pronouncing it how it was spelled until I was corrected by a coworker. so KEYS and that QWAYS? Yes, I was calling it qways, but i had never seen the word before in my life. They corrected me to pronouncing it "keys". In the US, I learned, the term for a quay is wharf, so completely different word.
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Latest post on 03 May 2011 - 18:08
Am from the US, and had never seen this word until I interned one summer in canada. I was pronouncing it how it was spelled until I was corrected by a coworker.
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Latest post on 03 May 2011 - 16:13
It is a daily chart. Realistically, if child has been perfect all day and gets 5 coins, could get little prize daily. (Hence the reason to not make the prizes expensive. Think of the little goodies they give out at the dentist or dr office.). It works well because the child sees almost an immediate reward from being good. If it takes too long, they give up. Mine loved to dump out the fish bowl and count her coins then have a look thru the sacks to decide what she wanted. She mostly went for small and medium rewards, and I think only once saved enough for chuck e cheese, but it really gave her a sense of control and awareness of the benefit of good behavior. She turned around very quickly. I really hope this helps your friend because it was a lifesaver for us.
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Latest post on 03 May 2011 - 11:48
We went through a similar time when our oldest was about 5. We had tried time outs, grounding, taking things away and even spanking, but she was still just out of control. I spoke to a counselor for advice. She told me that instead of using the negative reinforcement that we had been using, to start using positive reinforcement. Reward for the good behavior instead of punishing the bad behavior. What she had us do was create a chart with around five different actions, some that she had trouble with and others that were very easy for her... for ex, we had brushing her teeth, good attitude with her preschool teacher, good attitude with mommy after school, eating her dinner, and one other i cant remember. The main ones we were working on were the attitude ones, the others were easy for her. Every day her preschool teacher would send me a note about her attitude for the day. After each task on the chart was completed, we would put a sticker for her if it was accomplished and nothing if it wasn't. At the end of the day she counted how many stickers she received and was given a poker chip for each sticker. Poker chips into the fish bowl. There was also a reward chart for what she could redeem the poker chips...ex 5 = something from small sack (dollar store trinkets), 10= item from medium sack (notebook, crayons, a little nicer stuff), 15= item from big sack (dvd, etc) 25= chuck e cheese, cinema, etc. The child then sees a positive outcome from positive behavior, and gets the control of choosing her reward now or saving for something bigger. The restrictions the counselor put on the system were: never use food as a reward, make sure the big things were something u will not do with them unless they save the coins, be sure u don't make the easy rewards so valuable that you will go broke keeping up, don't make the amount to save bigger than child can count and not so large that it will take too long to see a reward. Within a couple of weeks, our daughter completely changed. We kept it up for the entire school year, but then it naturally fell off during summer vacation and travels. good luck, and i hope this helps you
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Latest post on 24 April 2011 - 18:34
Ask her if she is registered anywhere
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Latest post on 24 April 2011 - 17:38
How strictly they look at your info depends on your country of origin
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Latest post on 24 April 2011 - 17:33
We also used Zain, and they were great, and half the price of delight
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Latest post on 15 April 2011 - 22:29
We took our housemaid to the us 2 summers ago, and it really wasn't that complicated. Online app from us embassy website, then booked appt online for the interview. Pay fee at nbad. To interview take printed online app, nbad receipt, pics, passport for her and you. At embassy fill out form agreeing to pay min wage and give time off. It also states you are responsible for any medical, food and housing. She does not have to have worked for you for one year; that's a european requirement, not a US requirement. They will ask her a few questions like: does she know where in the US she will be staying, how long, does she have relatives in US, does she understand her rights on the form, does she know how to call 911 for emergency, what she will be doing, and does she know that she is not allowed to wk for anyone else while in US. Total interview was less than 5 mins. Visa was ready 2 days later. It was painless. just be sure that she is under your sponsor if your husband might not travel with you. She must be with her sponsor to enter the US. Ours is under our husband for uae cisa, but under mine on us visa cause husband was not travelling with us at the time. Good luck!
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Latest post on 28 March 2011 - 17:34
It could be that we were just sick of paris by the time we made it to disney. We found the people there very uptight and unfriendly. We stayed in paris and took the train to disney for the day. On the way there my daughter put her foot up on the seat in front of her and some guy started freaking out and yelling at her. We could not figure out what in the world was the problem, then a lady told my daughter to put her foot down because we were disgusting and french people don't do disgusting things like this. Seriously, we had no idea it was some cultural no-no, and would have been happy to put her feet down, but they really didn't need to humiliate us like this. I think that experience tainted the entire day, and we will never return again.
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Latest post on 28 March 2011 - 17:20
If you have ever been to disney in florida, then you will likely be disappointed by the one in paris. We have been to the one in florida many times and absolutely love it, so were really looking forward to the one in paris. We went last summer and my kids were bored out of their minds. It is much smaller, and we saw almost no princesses at all. We were also put off by the overall attitudes there. One day was more than enough for us, but if you have never been to the one in florida, then you won't have anything to compare. We went to 2 other parks in europe, europapark and phantasialand, both in germany, and we really loved phantasialand. It was much less expensive, few lines, and lots for the little kids to do. We spent 2 days at phantasialand. It wasn't huge, but had a really fun atmosphere.
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Latest post on 25 March 2011 - 09:10
Shopping in san marcos is great! There is also a small coastal town just south of houston called kemah. Boardwalk, boat rides, restaurants, outdoor entertainment., etc. Its an easy day trip
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Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 16:45
Regarding sharia marriage, I have read on another forum about non muslin couple marrying in sharia court just so they can legally live together but not necessarily register it with their embassy. Don't know if it works or not but just a thought
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Latest post on 08 March 2011 - 15:21
Is it possible just to do a quickie sharia marriage here so as not to fall afould of laws here, and then later do a formal marriage how you want. Not sure how it works, but maybe a possibility.
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Latest post on 01 February 2011 - 16:37
I thought it was based on the purity of the gasoline... 93% vs 97% pure. Usually high end vehicles specify to use the more pure gasoline to maintain the engine.
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Latest post on 26 January 2011 - 16:23
Nobody tells you when you hire a maid that your costs are not limited to agency fee, medical, visa, salary, food, toiletries, but also includes some percentage of depreciation on all of your household goods. Quite frankly, their common sense is nothing close to what we are used to, and they really will never care for your things like you will. They didn't pay for them, so no appreciation of their value. No matter how good they may be in general, these things will still happen. Most families I know just refuse to buy nice things because they are likely to be destroyed or lost. Our maid is a kind person, good with the kids, and overall we trust and like her. However, there are many times I have to remember that she was raised in a completely different world, with different values and doesn't have the same life experiences in which her common sense was developed, so will not be the same. Can give you a partial list of things that have happened: Chipped, banged and scratched almost every pieces of new furniture in the house Used the pillow cases from my new sheets to lay the iron on when she wants to put iron down, and burned them to a crisp. Can't be bothered to sit the iron up cause she always bangs her arm into it and burns herself. Table too close to oven, so instead of scooting it just a bit, opens and closes oven door several times on the table tearing up the wooden leg. Have replaced iron at least 4 times cause she keeps dropping it. Tons of broken and missing dishes. Laundry with bleach spots and mysterious stains Asked her to wipe down baby bed that was stored in alcove next to my guest room, with a damp rag. Instead she took a water hose to it, ruining the bed and flooding the guest room. Stained carpet (red) all in back of my car cause she brings her soda in car and leaves it instead of throwing out her trash, and it eventually spills over and now permanent stain. There are many more, but enough to show the pattern. After all of this, we still keep her, and have never asked her to pay for any mistake. She is a good person, and always has a good attitude, and as far as we know has been honest. She does help us a lot, and know if we start over, the next one could be worse. We just look at all the damaged stuff as the added cost of a maid. Some things like laundry and dishes could have happened with me as well, so don't hold them over her head. Not sure what it would take for us to get rid of her, and hope we don't get to that point. Anyway, my point, even if you get rid of the maid and start over, expect that the next will also not be perfect and expect that things will get damaged and destroyed. They are not raised like we were, and will never value your things in the same way you do.
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Latest post on 17 January 2011 - 20:10
The nurse at my kids school takes expired medicines for appropriate disposal. Try checking with your kids school to see if they do the same.
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Latest post on 06 January 2011 - 17:40
Sharing a nanny is illegal, with up to 100k fine. Home daycares don't exist because of the red tape involved in licensing. The only option is to sponsor your own nanny, or find a spot in a daycare center. Good luck.
 
 
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