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Latest post on 28 May 2014 - 08:54
Thank you so much gingercat. I m really happy cause Canadian nursery is v close to my work place. I ll b visiting them soon. Hope they r nice. <em>edited by mssassy on 28/05/2014</em>
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Latest post on 24 May 2014 - 19:02
Is there any nursery near by jlt, marina or discovery that function on Saturdays ??
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Latest post on 10 April 2014 - 11:43
When I said new to work I actually meant back to work after being a mom(career break). I was working before but never got exposed to such a situation and that too from first week. Izzy at first I thought it's my feeling but after a few days I realised it's more than that. Being in HR dept I have access to all info and that's how I got to know she's getting lesser pay though on same grade. We need to work together which makes it more difficult. Me too feel discussing with my boss is too early to think of and might leave a bad impression. I just want to ignore it but I don't want to feel left out as well.
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Latest post on 10 April 2014 - 09:12
My boss is really nice.But its just been a few weeks since I joined and he likes this lady. So will it look good I discuss it now?
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Latest post on 19 February 2014 - 23:27
Thank you ladies. IKEA doesn't have the material Im looking for. Will try bur Dubai, satwa and Chen one.
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Latest post on 19 February 2014 - 13:32
Oh JoyceB really sad to hear this but like ladies below have mentioned already miracles do happen and I'm a strong believer of it. Don't know much to say but big hugs for you and your DD and family.
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Latest post on 17 January 2014 - 23:48
Check OS LIGHT. It's unsweetened.
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Latest post on 17 January 2014 - 20:20
I'm almost sure ocean spray LIGHT is unsweetened. Not the normal one.
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Latest post on 15 January 2014 - 12:12
okay! Informed the security. Cat is rescued!
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Latest post on 15 January 2014 - 12:01
Anything. Anyone? Anywhere I can call?? I can hear the poor cat crying. Really sad.
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Latest post on 15 January 2014 - 11:39
The security of the other building can't be seen outside that's what my care taker said and the building is password protected.
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Latest post on 15 January 2014 - 10:51
Ocean spray light cranberry juice is unsweetened. Isn't it? I used to have it while pregnant to keep out UTI.
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 17:39
I think the timing of this night away was very unfortunate as the little girl would have been sensitive to her parents being at home with the baby and without her so she is feeling pushed out of the family. She is only 3 - which is in my opinion very young to sleep away from her parents and especially at a time of disruption in her life. I have also known several 3 year olds who have taken months to get to grips with the fact that the new baby is going to live with them forever - it is quite a shock Please try and talk your family members out of threatening and punishing a 3 year old - it will make things worse. The little girl is acting out because she is unable to deal with her strong emotions of being jealous, scared that her parents don't love her as much, worried that she is going to be sent away. It is important that the adults are calm and reassuring. So the important thing is to make her life stable, predictable and safe - not put her in fear that new changes might be coming such as her toys or baby brother might disappear! Perhaps her mother can spend time with her when the baby is sleeping or appeal to her new "big girl" status to help with the baby and choose his outfits/help bath him etc The important thing is that people are calm and normal as toddlers pick up on the way that adults are acting Totally agree with this very sensible post................also I must add two points. Firstly, it seems to me as though there is a huge amount of overreaction going on here, the poor wee scrap is THREE not thirty, she got upset and voiced it in the only way she could, she had a tantrum, no more no less. Three year olds do that, it's quite normal. Secondly, it sounds as though FAR too many people in the family are getting involved, she is not your child, OP nor is she her grandparents',,,,,sometimes too many cooks can spoil the broth. And to reiterate another earlier poster, stop over thinking situations, it's rarely helpful and sometimes downright unhealthy. I agree with puffinlunde too. And livelytrish I'm not getting involved at all. I just happened to witness this through skype and just thought myself on my sister shoe since I too have a wee one. As I said before I just wanted to know what is the right manner to deal with such a situation , nothing more. My parents just interfered for the moment since they were present there. My mother also told my sister it's her who have to make her child understand.
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 16:00
I know, they did a mistake and I really don't know why she let her go.
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 15:16
Mssassy, just wanted to add that you might be over thinking things a bit. Stop worrying, it's totally normal for a toddler to get their nose out of joint and start acting up when a new baby arrives. It's unusual that a child doesn't show any effects. If her behaviour is a continuation of previous behaviour and her parents can't handle it then by all means seek further help but it would be a bit premature if this is brand new behaviour as a reaction to the new baby. As Lolacat suggested, a book on positive parenting might help. I do have to totally disagree with the notion that newborns don't need emotional input and it's just taking care if their physical needs. I also think it sets a bad precident to treat the toddler like they are still the most important one in the family. They should know that they are as important as they always have been but that the new baby is also as important and that your love is big enough for both if them. They have to learn it at some point unless you plan on playing favourites forever. The longer you leave it the more they will think that they come first. Learning to share the limelight is good thing. edited by Daza on 13/01/2014 When she is too irritated she sometimes raise her voice a bit and repeats phrases my sister uses when she looses her temper. But thats very rare. She is otherwise a very happy kid and smarter compared to her peers. I really hope this phase will be over soon. Your advices are much appreciated Daza.
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 12:56
Gaviscon is not helping?? For me hot water works but some people say it worsens. Walking a few steps after a meal may also help.
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 12:51
I delivered in my Home Country, not here.
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 12:50
They test baby's blood group right after birth everywhere, I believe. This is one of the newborn screening procedure because if the baby is having a different group than yours he/she has greater chance for developing jaundice. PS:I just pasted this on your other thread as well.
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 12:49
They test baby's blood group right after birth everywhere, I believe. This is one of the newborn screening procedure because if the baby is having a different group than yours he/she has greater chance for developing jaundice.
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 12:46
Exactly. Why should you bother if its not affecting you in anyway.
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 12:36
Hi mssassy. I feel so much for your sister and BIL and their daughter!! Poor things. Its not an easy situation. Its late so I'll be quick! When my DS was born I made sure to give my DD (1yr7m at the time) all the attention I could. It had all been just about her until DS' birth, so I wanted her to see DS as someone to love etc not feel jealous or upset that now its all about someone else. . Even though she didn't really understand we told her that DS bought her a present and gave her a brand new doll. So that was one tactic. Also, for the first 2 or 3 months all DS did was sleep eat and poo! So thats all the attention he needed. I would tend to that and then that's it. He didnt need me to play with him etc he was still too small so I made sure mostly it was all still about DD. Now hes almost 6 months so needs more attn so gradually shifting the attn that I give them. She does still get upset sometimes and always wants all the toys to herself but i just try to explain that hes nice and hes your brother etcetc. I hope that helps! Ill check in again tomoro if I can think of anything else! Hope everything goes ok. Oh! I just remembered! I also even took her out of nursery because she wasn't 100% settled in anyhow and didnt really have to be there. So didnt want her to feel rejected. Try and make things about her and if people are giving the new baby attn make sure that someone gives her attn at the same time. :) Thanks much bintyibbs2 for taking time to reply late night. They did take good care to make DD feel at ease but I think something went wrong somewhere. In fact during the delivery day she happily stayed with her grandparents at home overnight. Maybe just like Daza was saying the new sibling worries begin few weeks later....
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 12:32
Sounds like she may have been angry at being "sent away" in her eyes and would have been aware that mummy and daddy were at home with this new interloper. How was she during the sleepover, did she sleep, eat, play as normal or was she upset with the friends? I remember my DD at 3 when her brother was born. She rarely left my side and wanted to be involved with the new baby. I would spend as much time with the LO and make sure that she is included as much as possible with the baby but also make special time for her when baby is sleeping. I always remember my midwife saying to our mothercraft class when discussing older siblings, "Imagine your DH arriving home one night with another wife and announcing that she is here to stay" How would we react! I do hope that everything calms down. Tomorrow is another day. x Thanks Joyceb. I just asked my sister how she was at the sleepover, it seems she was very happy and had such a lovely time with the family in their own swimming pool. Also she was so happy that one of the elder kid put her nail polish-something my sister and I think no mother would allow at this age. So basically I think she got to do things she was never allowed to before. Btw I'll keep that quote in mind-good one.
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 11:57
One thing that has helped me immensely in disciplining my child is taking my DH's advice and staying completely calm and patient when she is misbehaving.. My DD had started shouting quite a bit on me and at times raising her hands to hit me in frustration... My DH, bless him for being intuitive and smart enough (or maybe an advantage of being bystander) told me that she is just 3.4 yrs and does not understand my threats or short tempered attempts at discipline.. so i got my act together and am at the moment trying to keep my self completely calm no matter how irritated i become with her... and its helping a lot... i did not even realize that it was my behaviour that she was copying or reacting to.. So no matter what the reason for your niece's short temper the best way to deal with the tantrums is to stay calm, with positive reinforcement and no-threat policy.. and yes the new-born does not need any emotional attention right now so concentrate on the daughter... I feel you are so right. She always say exact same words my sister uses when she gets irritated with her. She is short tempered and right now fighting with BFing problems, God help her to stay calm. I will definitely tell her about some good advises I'm getting here.
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 11:20
Bump! Anybody using Jojoba oil for baby????
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 10:46
I too think punishments and threatening are going to make things worse. My sister was talking about her friend who is a counsellor. Do you think she should take her there?
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 10:43
Go to one of the Aster clinic nearby.
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 10:17
See some companies solely depend on the consultancy. Such companies ask the consultants to fill up the candidates online application form on thier career site. So in such cases if you apply both ways and when the consultant try to fill your application, they might not be able to cause your data already exist. Henceforth they won't be able to proceed with your candidature further. And this is followed only by companies with very high attrition rate. I have worked for such a co.
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 07:57
Thank you everyone who replied. First of all it's she who insisted she want to spend the night with the family's kid but anyway I agree, my sister did the wrong thing by letting her go. That said what is done Is done now what I want to know is how would you react or calm the child down in the right manner. I saw different reactions - My sister started explaining to her that the family had called up in the morning to ask her to take her back home and that they are her friends family and not hers etc.... My mother offered her favourite custard and started asking her to stop behaving like a bad girl My BIL said she is not going to have her toys till she start realising how rudely she is behaving My dad said he is taking away her baby brother because she doesn't like him What is the right manner to make a child understand what is right in this scenario? As far as I know and have seen nobody treated her badly. Everyone took extra care to help her and make her welcome her brother happily and infact she did and had no problems till two days back.
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Latest post on 12 January 2014 - 16:44
Thanks a lot for the link:)
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Latest post on 12 January 2014 - 13:31
Thanks mumto2. Sounds good. Something I haven't tried yet. Will see if I can get it from some pharmacy.
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Latest post on 12 January 2014 - 13:17
MAC or Bobbi Brown for high coverage. I like Bourjois for its price.
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Latest post on 12 January 2014 - 12:38
Sorry all I forgot to mention that I'm having infection and is on antibiotics and antihistamines for the past one week. Since I'm BFing the Doc prescribed low dose which is why I haven't fully recovered yet. I have sinus too and usually suffer from blocked nose during winter. I can hardly breath through my nose and its so hard to sleep at night. I have already consulted around 5-6 diff ENTs so far, don't think there is a permanent solution to this. Im hoping to get some temporary relief. Maybe Ill try NASONEX, if thats fine during BFing.
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Latest post on 31 December 2013 - 15:55
We got it done at Al barsha center. We were offered an appointment. They even remind us the dates by sending SMS. No extra fees. No long queue. First the nurse will check the weight, height, head circumference, body temperature etc and proceed to taking vaccination if baby is not ill. However they don't have certain optional vaccinations which can be taken from private clinics. On the whole I liked the centre and the cafeteria there with yummy cakes from a French bakery.
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Latest post on 31 December 2013 - 14:46
Oh no, I typed a long paragraph and it didn't get posted! wow. Here i go again....I thank everyone who replied. I love EW because there are so many experienced ladies who always provide valuable advices. Queen L, When I was working I used to travel from New Dubai to the other end of Dubai and my day used to start at 5:30am. Its after child birth that everything changed and became so wacky. I wake up late because I hardly get sound sleep. I still don't know to feed her lying down. Everytime she wakes up I have to sit up,take my boppy pillow and feed-this strains my back and i find it difficult to get back to sleep. :( . About 'me time'- I give more importance to 'we time' rather. I love it when we get out and have some quality time-I feel lively for those few hours but I think I should listen to the experienced mothers here and cut off night outings finding more time for day outings. Good news is my friend in the other apartment is back with her 3 month old and we had tea together today. I really feel the difference. I feel so energetic and happy today. @ Daza - I liked your idea of cooking in bulk though I love and is used to eating freshly cooked hot food. God that will save so much time. One more sacrifice ain't gonna make any difference anyway. Redrec Tangle I always wait for your post because I like them-my baby is so used to going out at night under bright lights and people that she starts being cranky the evening we don't take her out. Untouchable123-please tell me about playgroups. And TDB i dont have any toys with mothers scent yet. Did you ship them? Where can will i find them in Dubai. @Lolacat- My parents were willing to come down for me but my sister who is expecting her second, I mean was(she gave birth to a little prince today at 6:25AEDT) needed them. Maybe I'll ask them again once she is settled. PS- DD is not allowing to type. Sorry if i have made any mistakes. Thank all who replied. edited by mssassy on 31/12/2013 <em>edited by mssassy on 31/12/2013</em>
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Latest post on 30 December 2013 - 13:15
Yes I know I have to change my lifestyle but not sure where to start from. How do I get my baby to sleep early. She used to hardly sleep at night during her first 2 months. From 3rd month, after much effort, she started sleeping by 12am or 1am and never used to wake up until 5am or 6am for her feed but lately she has been waking up very frequently for feeds because of which I started solids. This has not helped yet. I breast feed her which makes it very tiresome. I think half probs can be solved if I can get this fixed. If i can get out in the morning I can definitely avoid getting out at night but for this my DD has to sleep early and wake up early. I have tried rocking,singing,feeding etc to make her sleep early several times but she just dont sleep until 12am or 1am.
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Latest post on 30 December 2013 - 00:46
Thank you so much Joyceb and Goribattie for your lovely posts. Atleast someone understands me. Joyceb - postnatal depression??? Oh no. Maybe it's just the hormones. I like to think it that way. I remember you mentioning in some post that you are retired nurse and so I'm sure you know better Gorobattie you really really understood what I'm going through. You are exactly correct-I hardly get me time. We have a pretty wacky daily routine now. And because of this I can't go for any coffee meetings or even shopping in the morning or evening like Joyce was saying. DH leaves for Work by 8am and returns by 7pm. All three of us love going out and so we do most of the days after dinner. We sleep by 12 or sometimes by 1. Me and DD have very broken sleep because she wakes up for feeds like every two hours. Both of us end up waking up at 10am after which I get busy with cooking and entertaining her-I only have maids for cleaning weekly. Everday I think of taking her to the park but by the time I finish cooking lunch it's her nap time. And at evening when she wakes up I have to cook dinner. Now how do I manage to find some me time unless this entire schedule us changed. I so wanna do something but I don't know what, when and how. Sometimes I'm searching for part time jobs on the net or enquiring about some courses or making plans to start some business but I'm clueless what I actually want. Also forgot to mention my DH hates putting his DD with someone else. PS-Even my posts in EW is mostly about confusions and frustrations. I really hope this period ends soon.
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Latest post on 24 December 2013 - 11:26
Emailed you already!
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Latest post on 24 December 2013 - 11:09
Which Aster? The one in JLT? There is a Female Doc in Discovery Gardens Aster. She is nice. You can visit their website and view all doctors profiles. <em>edited by mssassy on 24/12/2013</em>
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Latest post on 24 December 2013 - 10:01
I will be mailing you soon :)
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Latest post on 23 December 2013 - 20:04
Thanks Mrsb. Planning to go to gold souk this weekend. With a LO in hand it's hard to check out a lot of shops.
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Latest post on 23 December 2013 - 15:58
LOL. Well i suffer from migraine and I did straightening thrice. Migraine attacks remained same before and after. Thank you. Do u mind telling me what kind of straightening did u do? The Japanese one.
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Latest post on 23 December 2013 - 12:59
Thanks Big Blue. Yeah I gave her pear and prunes in lesser quantity for past 2 days. She pooped a lot day before yesterday but nothing from yesterday but she seems very happy and her tummy is soft. So Im not tensed yet! Never thought introducing solids would be this crazy. Now I can relate to what her pediatrician said. "Breastfed babies will face no problems till they are introduced to solid food". Sad!
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Latest post on 23 December 2013 - 12:54
O my, the horrors of Dubai life. Migraines about choosing a hairstyle, total panic about where to get take-away turkey. http://thatguynoman-blog.com/2013/05/13/dubai-tragedies-based-on-real-life-accounts/ I found this very funny, and sadly could imagine people making some of these statements!! Haha myself about my data plan running out half way through the month last month :D Yeah, funny indeed. Someone posted this earlier.
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Latest post on 23 December 2013 - 11:52
LOL. Well i suffer from migraine and I did straightening thrice. Migraine attacks remained same before and after.
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Latest post on 22 December 2013 - 15:26
Celesti presenting this to the school authorities is not a good idea considering you don't know who started this affair. What if the teacher says your husband did? Do you have any proof on who the initiator was? I don't think she will make any move even if you blackmail her. What if she says your husband started all this? And such kind of women are usually very shrewd and well planned. My friend went through a similar situation and when she confronted the culprit woman she told my friend was not good enough to control and satisfy her husband. So they can be this harsh. And all may not be same though. I think better idea is to talk with your family and husband first. edited by mssassy on 22/12/2013 <em>edited by mssassy on 22/12/2013</em>
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Latest post on 22 December 2013 - 14:07
Thats really sad and I'm out of words now. But be strong and I wish you will find a solution soon. Have a safe flight. XOXO
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Latest post on 21 December 2013 - 16:10
She is fine today?
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Latest post on 21 December 2013 - 11:02
Celesti hope you confronted already. how did it go? Is everything alright?
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Latest post on 21 December 2013 - 10:57
@bintyibbs - Lol brand of spoon of course. Because when you said you give half baby teaspoon of food to your DS I was hitting my head considering the size of my baby spoon and the amount I feed her. Our spoon (pigeon) is way too tiny. @joyce - thank you for sharing your experience. Fortunately my neighbour is a GP and she is the one who asked us to try glycerine suppositories and she also mentioned it would just soften the stool in rectum.
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Latest post on 21 December 2013 - 00:12
OMG baby teaspoon? I think I gave her way too much then. I was just following her cues and fed her as much as she ate as per my sisters advice. She did that with my niece. Isn't baby teaspoon too small? Which brand are you using?