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Latest post on 12 November 2013 - 12:15
Maybe this will help http://gulfnews.com/uaessentials/ask-the-law/uae-labour-law-section-14-termination-of-contracts-1.1208171
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Latest post on 12 November 2013 - 11:37
There is no right or wrong answer, it is down to how you feel about it. Many have no choice but to return to work and others just want to work. I had a great job in IT before we had our dd, and I was very driven and loved what I did. I had it all planned to return to work after she was born. However, once she arrived my plans were thrown out the window. I didn't want somebody else spending all day with her, and as others have mentioned they are small for such a short time and it is precious time that you cannot ever have again. Thanks for your reply emlsnre. I think majority feel taking a few yrs off wont do any harm.
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Latest post on 12 November 2013 - 11:25
I went back to work when my lo was six months old. I had my heart set on a nursery but in the end I felt my lo needed one-to-one care. We have a great nanny and daughter is very happy. I've only done a nursery run once when my nanny was away unexpectedly for a week. I was delighted when the week was over! Much easier to have our lo in our own home especially if I get delayed. My daughter is a happy, well adjusted, clever toddler now and I have a wonderful relationship with our nanny. There's nothing wrong with being at home all day whilst parents work. Personally, my lo has thrived having one-to-one care and we are very happy with our choice. Good luck with whatever you decide but don't rule out a nanny, particularly if you plan to return to work when they are small. The right one is worth their weight in gold! X If you don't mind could you tell me from which agency you hired her?
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Latest post on 12 November 2013 - 00:03
I would suggest taking a couple of years off, the little years really do go by very fast and they are never quite the same once they are no longer babies. I agree with those who say that a year or two should not have much of an impact. It also depends on what offers you have received and weigh that against what you feel you will give up to attain a career and whether its worth the time it will take you away from baby. For starters take it at six month blocks and when you reach the end of it, see how you feel, and how well the baby is doing and take it from there. Also I would recommend a well reputed, clean day-care run by trained professionals, rather than alone with a babysitter/nanny all day at home.. Nice advice Redrec Tangle. I'll definitely take up an offer only if it outweighs the sacrifices that I'll have to make. Even I'm having second thoughts on hiring nanny. And search for a good day care in Marina, Jlt area is already on. I would like to hear from experienced mothers on this.
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Latest post on 11 November 2013 - 22:46
Thanx for the post Tallybalt. For me my family comes first of course but I don't want to be a housewife for life. Neither do I dream of holding a topmost title. I want a decent position and good carrier advancement. Though we are financially v much stable I love to earn and put my degree in use. <em>edited by mssassy on 11/11/2013</em>
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Latest post on 11 November 2013 - 22:38
Did u mean something like the Florida cake. http://www.misterbaker.com/cakes.asp
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Latest post on 11 November 2013 - 21:32
I waited too long to go back to full time work (even a good degree) but another year or 2 won't make much difference to you. I'm sure your little one will be fine either way but you'll never get those precious moments of childhood back whereas you'll most likely find work again. If you are working full time, you'll also be more tired at the end of the day when you are home and when you add in travel time, you're giving about 10 hours a day to work. If you are concerned about a gap in your cv, do some short courses or volunteer work, if possible related to your field so you can show you spent your time "productively" to anyone who thinks caring for a new little life is not an important job. Some HRs are nightmares like the one in my previous company who rejected applicants for silly reasons. Eg: she wasn't interested in employing newly married women for the fear of giving maternity leave before they complete 2 yr contract. Can you believe that. All this made me think HRs here are like this. I thought maybe because the job market is highly competitive.
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Latest post on 11 November 2013 - 21:21
You can get a good job if you wait, lots of moms restart. I've picked up after 6 years off and there isn't much of a problem - especially if you have a good degree. But your child will not suffer if you put her with a nanny or day care either. I've done both - with my eldest, he had a nanny and my youngest had me. There is no difference developmentally at all. 6 yrs.Thats long and proves my thoughts are wrong. I was under the notion that HR managers are generally reluctant to take anyone with a long carrier gap. Good to know your kids show no difference. Did you have a full time nanny?
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Latest post on 11 November 2013 - 12:22
I wish to start working again when my DD is 6m and ready to have solids. But my DH feels it is too early to leave her in a day care or with a baby sitter. I fear if I wait for a year more I would be creating a huge gap in my resume which I think no employer would like for an entry level professional with just 2-3 yrs of exp. I’m in a dilemma. Is 6m too early to put her in day care or with a nanny? Will I get a good job if I remain jobless for a longer period? I do have a professional degree.
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Latest post on 10 November 2013 - 11:24
No Notice period to my knowledge. Do check the employment contract/appointment letter.
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Latest post on 09 November 2013 - 11:25
Try elevating your legs with a padded foot rest stool or something while sitting. It helped for me. And also when you lie down keep a pillow or two below your legs. <em>edited by mssassy on 09/11/2013</em>
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Latest post on 07 November 2013 - 20:24
I always got it done from best saloons. As I already mentioned may not be true for all. But many not all end up with some problems in long run.
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Latest post on 07 November 2013 - 12:58
I think I saw one stall in Ibn Battuta.
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Latest post on 07 November 2013 - 12:55
Me too resigned before getting pregnant. My first 4 months were horrific.I had extreme sinus, my nose bled, I spent two weeks without sleeping at night due to nose block, I couldn't stand the smell of any food, only thing I could digest without puking was pizza base and plain bread(weird i know), I lost pounds.....and so I never regret for taking a career break. I used to go crazy sitting at home idle and cooking up stupid thoughts in mind before deciding to ask my mom if she can come here - n she did,so lovely she is. Once my mom came down I felt so relieved and I started enjoying my pregnancy. I also had my aunt who is put up here, to take care of me whenever I felt v sick. So if you have any relatives around or someone who can come down to give you a company for while, go ahead, ask them! you won't feel lonely anymore.
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Latest post on 07 November 2013 - 12:24
LOL
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Latest post on 07 November 2013 - 11:30
I was also searching for the same......
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Latest post on 06 November 2013 - 12:56
The most funniest 2- "Be careful when you cough or sneeze" - oh yeah as if your c****x is wide open and you are going to pop the fetus out when you Achoo!! "Never sleep during day time because you don't want your baby to be a sleepyhead!!"- Com'on your body is working 24x7 and you should rest as much as you can. Like someone advised me on another thread just SNI-Smile,nod and ignore!! <em>edited by mssassy on 06/11/2013</em>
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Latest post on 06 November 2013 - 12:43
I had an emergency c section about 3 months back, after 7 hours of pain and no progress even after getting epidural. I was dilating but my babys head was still floating because she was in a tricky position. I so not expected it because my tummy was so low during my last trimester and everyone who met me said I was going to have a normal delivery. My postpartum days were very painful and only thing which made me happy was my healthy little daughters cute face. Be happy that you got your baby perfectly fine. I have heard tragic cases which I don't want to even mention it over here. Btw Congratulations!!!xoxo <em>edited by mssassy on 06/11/2013</em>
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Latest post on 31 October 2013 - 11:14
Isnt it bizarre that they didnt even know for sure what position they were looking to fill? Nor did you know what position you were being interviewed for? how does one conduct an interview for an unknown job?! It is more common than you think! Yes, over here.
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Latest post on 31 October 2013 - 10:49
I had loads of that, mainly from in laws. I purposely did the opposite of what ever they said lol. They soon got the hint that i run this show. I was actually biting my tongue for a while until my mother in law said "I want her to call me mum" that's when i spoke up and said "you've had your chance, your now a grandma and thats what u will be called" still get **** over skype at times but i just let them speak so they feel important now...so over it....can't wait for them to find out we're staying here for our 2nd...roll on the we know best speeches again. :/ Oh my goodness MrsDB, my mother in law also wanted my kids to call her mum!! (when I pointed out that I was 'mum' she said... 'no, you are mummy, so I can be mum!!!). Makes me feel better knowing I'm not the only one who has to put up with this sort of nonsense, as my husband didn't seem to think it was that terrible!! I don't understand these MILs. Is it because they don't want to be reminded of the fact that they ve hit menopause by calling grandma??? <em>edited by mssassy on 31/10/2013</em>
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Latest post on 30 October 2013 - 21:36
Thank you so much ladies for sharing your experiences and views.
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Latest post on 30 October 2013 - 21:14
Two days ago she dropped by for tea and literally pulls my DD’s little thumb out from her mouth seeing her sucking it. I wish I should have shouted but I did SNI yet again due to the fear of offending this otherwise really helpful lady. In fact she took care of me for 3 weeks when I fell really sick during my pregnancy. It's lovely that she was such a help to you but that doesn't mean she can tell you how to raise your child. Unwanted advice is one thing but I'd be really cross if someone removed my baby's thumb from his mouth - he loves his thumb and who are they to decide he isn't allowed to comfort himself. If she does it again I'd ask her to please not do it again and say you are happy with her sucking her thumb. You don't need to justify it or offer excuses. I will not wimp out next time an opportunity presents itself!
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Latest post on 30 October 2013 - 13:57
My MIL, now gone bless her, was a bit of a nightmare when my DD was born. Too many incidents to describe here but I eventually snapped and told her that this was MY baby and my DH and I would bring her up OUR way. If we wanted advice, we'd ask for it. When she didn't comply, we simply stayed away for a few weeks. She would never come to our house uninvited because she knew that she didn't have the upper hand there. When she and my FIL and SIL came to visit us days after I came home from hospital with our DS 3 years later, it started all over again. DS was a whingey baby from birth and always wanted to suck so we bought a dummy, something I never thought I'd have to resort to but with him, it was a lifesaver. I had just got him to sleep when they arrived. First thing MIL did was look in the carrycot and say "aw my poor wee grandson with that horrible thing in his mouth" and pulled it out!!!!! My DH saw red and said "mum, if you do anything like that again, you won't be seeing either of your grandchildren!!" All this with my now awake and screaming 6 day old DS! I picked him up and went upstairs. The inlaws left in a huff but phoned later to apologise. Reckon my FIL tore strips off his wife!! Oh lord. Terrible. Now I feel what I'm facing is nothing.
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Latest post on 30 October 2013 - 13:50
Here is a glance into kind of situations I am facing. My DD loves sucking her thumb. Knowing this an old aunt of mine tells me I should let her do that because it’s going to protrude her jaw. I do SNI (smile, nod, ignore). A few days later we bump into her in a mall, she sees my DD happily thumb sucking in her pram and looks at me like ‘Still’?? I tell her I read on the internet that thumb sucking is a good soothing technique till the age of 3-4. She tells me from her experience she knows that’s nonsense. I do SNI again. Two days ago she dropped by for tea and literally pulls my DD’s little thumb out from her mouth seeing her sucking it. I wish I should have shouted but I did SNI yet again due to the fear of offending this otherwise really helpful lady. In fact she took care of me for 3 weeks when I fell really sick during my pregnancy. I would just say something along the lines of. "I know it's bad but orthodontic dentists can do amazing things these days, so I am not stressed out over it", and smile. edited by Alismum on 30/10/2013 Nice One Alismum.Im definetly gonna say something like this next time. SNI just wont work with this lady. I wasn't given a dummy and sucked my fingers until I was 16 ( Very embarrassing at sleepovers) it hasn't done anything to my gums/teeth and I am now over 40! Haha.I don't prefer giving her dummy as well. I sucked my finger till 2 and my jaws r fine though not perfect.
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Latest post on 30 October 2013 - 12:49
Here is a glance into kind of situations I am facing. My DD loves sucking her thumb. Knowing this an old aunt of mine tells me I should let her do that because it’s going to protrude her jaw. I do SNI (smile, nod, ignore). A few days later we bump into her in a mall, she sees my DD happily thumb sucking in her pram and looks at me like ‘Still’?? I tell her I read on the internet that thumb sucking is a good soothing technique till the age of 3-4. She tells me from her experience she knows that’s nonsense. I do SNI again. Two days ago she dropped by for tea and literally pulls my DD’s little thumb out from her mouth seeing her sucking it. I wish I should have shouted but I did SNI yet again due to the fear of offending this otherwise really helpful lady. In fact she took care of me for 3 weeks when I fell really sick during my pregnancy. I would just say something along the lines of. "I know it's bad but orthodontic dentists can do amazing things these days, so I am not stressed out over it", and smile. edited by Alismum on 30/10/2013 Nice One Alismum.Im definetly gonna say something like this next time. SNI just wont work with this lady.
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Latest post on 30 October 2013 - 12:45
One good reason to stay in another country :D I wish I could.:(
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Latest post on 30 October 2013 - 11:08
Three children. Still get advice. Enjoy parenthood! I have a soon to be 17 year old and still get advice (although not from my own family). :) I like the smile, nod and thank you for your input, sadly I have a bit of a sharp tongue myself and find it immensely difficult in practice ;) edited by Alismum on 30/10/2013 I'll faint now. My DD is just 3 months old and Im already irritated to the core.
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Latest post on 30 October 2013 - 11:06
Here is a glance into kind of situations I am facing. My DD loves sucking her thumb. Knowing this an old aunt of mine tells me I should let her do that because it’s going to protrude her jaw. I do SNI (smile, nod, ignore). A few days later we bump into her in a mall, she sees my DD happily thumb sucking in her pram and looks at me like ‘Still’?? I tell her I read on the internet that thumb sucking is a good soothing technique till the age of 3-4. She tells me from her experience she knows that’s nonsense. I do SNI again. Two days ago she dropped by for tea and literally pulls my DD’s little thumb out from her mouth seeing her sucking it. I wish I should have shouted but I did SNI yet again due to the fear of offending this otherwise really helpful lady. In fact she took care of me for 3 weeks when I fell really sick during my pregnancy.
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Latest post on 29 October 2013 - 23:20
I had loads of that, mainly from in laws. I purposely did the opposite of what ever they said lol. They soon got the hint that i run this show. I was actually biting my tongue for a while until my mother in law said "I want her to call me mum" that's when i spoke up and said "you've had your chance, your now a grandma and thats what u will be called" still get **** over skype at times but i just let them speak so they feel important now...so over it....can't wait for them to find out we're staying here for our 2nd...roll on the we know best speeches again. :/ Your monster in law oh sorry mom in law ?is not one of a kind. I'm sure.
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Latest post on 29 October 2013 - 23:02
Good to know I'm not alone. But in my case if these people where my in laws my very supportive DH would have zipped their mouth but unfortunately they are my own beloved relatives who are put up right here near me in Dubai. Smile, nod and ignore is what I do over the phone, when they come over, at parties .... I'm sick and tired .For how long will this continue ???? <em>edited by mssassy on 29/10/2013</em>
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Latest post on 29 October 2013 - 17:59
He called again today and DH was with me at the time and told him in no uncertain terms what will happen to him if he calls again. He started saying 'sorry, sorry' and DH told him he did not give a toss if he was sorry and if he calls again he will regret it. I have blocked the number as well so if he calls he will just get an engaged tone on my phone. Unfortunately that does not stop him sending an SMS. Anyway, I hope it is the end of it, but if he makes one more call I will go to the Police. I have kept the log of calls and the SMS log in case it is required. Thanks for the advice ladies! Way to go!
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Latest post on 29 October 2013 - 15:30
could we have more lanes perhaps? Mothers Lane: this is like 'wacky races' as they break for no reason, generally drive whilst head is turned facing children in back of car. If you choose to drive in this lane and make it out without any scrapes or scratches to your car you get bonus points Taxi driver lane: this is like a white knuckle ride. If you make it out alive then its pointless making a trip to Ferrari world Construction worker lane (for Nissan Sunnys with work helmets on the back shelf) you get blinded by their CD hanging from the rear view mirror or manage to dodge the falling parts coming off their car OR dont get gassed out by the petrol smoke from their 1979 Datsun... Construction bus lane: if your husband doesnt pay you enough attention, drive in this lane, you will be oggled by every man and come out feeling loved. and their should be a surprise lane for those who cut in/push in. your car automatically goes into a black hole and you will never be seen again. Rofl
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Latest post on 29 October 2013 - 14:47
Hey Redrec Tangle great suggestions. Think we like same kinda movies. Haven't watched the intrepreter and the constant gardner. Liked the plots. Will watch both today. Me to love love love taken.
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Latest post on 29 October 2013 - 12:47
Did u try PAN emirates??
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Latest post on 29 October 2013 - 11:22
Straight to the police station. Give them the number. They will deal with it efficiently and promptly. It is a crime here to harass women. Exactly. Go to the police!
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Latest post on 29 October 2013 - 11:16
Thank you ladies!! I think I got 3-4 to watch. <em>edited by mssassy on 29/10/2013</em>
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Latest post on 29 October 2013 - 11:12
I don't think treating your hair with any chemicals is good in the long run. I have straightened my hair thrice before deciding to stop it once and for all last year. Thanks to pregnancy for helping me refrain from doing it again. Now I have my natural and definitely much healthier hair. Once you chemical treat your hair you are more likely to end up doing it again and again because when your hair grows you wouldn't love it looking that way-half treated and half real hair and it being a shortcut to looking tidy and stylish. Initially you will be amazed with your new look but in a while you might get split ends and hair fall-may not be true for all. I Am much happier now that I have my natural hair back. <em>edited by mssassy on 29/10/2013</em>
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Latest post on 28 October 2013 - 15:21
Saw both. Love Denzel Washington. I'm tired of googling. Saw most of them suggested by few good sites. Thought I might find something they might have missed out from here.
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Latest post on 28 October 2013 - 15:00
Oh and The Lincoln Lawyer + for old skool thriller, edge of seat stuff, A Time to Kill is brilliant The lincoln Lawyer-already watched. A Time to Kill - good plot (just read on imdb) - added to my list again. Thanks a lot Pollydxb1.
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Latest post on 28 October 2013 - 14:54
Arbitrage is good with Richard Gere Added to my list.
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Latest post on 28 October 2013 - 14:52
So you want Thriller not Horror So can't help, I am a horror girl through and through! I stopped horror after watching "The Exorcism of Emily Rose". Scared the s**t out of me.....
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Latest post on 28 October 2013 - 14:49
Does it have to be a movie? The series 24 is edge of your seat gripping thriller. Plus there is eight series of 24 episodes, that's a lot of hours of excellent viewing. Thanks Daza.
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Latest post on 28 October 2013 - 14:48
The Call with Hale Berry had me on the edge of my seat I recently watched this one and yeah it had me on the edge of my seat as well.
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Latest post on 28 October 2013 - 14:47
The Blind Side is good but I am in a mood to watch a thriller.
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Latest post on 28 October 2013 - 14:30
DH downloaded the Impossible recently - it's about a family caught up in the tsunami and it was quite gripping. Saw that already!!Very touching. Liked it.
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Latest post on 28 October 2013 - 14:23
I guess its Gothika!! Isnt it creepy.I prefer something like 'The debt', 'Taken', 'Olympus has fallen','Orpahan'.....but no ghosts!!! :( <em>edited by mssassy on 28/10/2013</em>
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Latest post on 28 October 2013 - 13:50
Sentosa Island is amazing!!
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Latest post on 27 October 2013 - 23:37
Nutrition zone in IBN Battuta Mall. Also there is an online site which would deliver in two business days. Former is from The UK and latter from Egypt. Let me know if you want the site.
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Latest post on 27 October 2013 - 15:33
Fishes with high content of mercury should be avoided. Google them out. But fishes like sardines are very good for the baby as far as I know. I had a ton of it during my pregnancy and even other fishes at times. Some people say prawns should be avoided but I used to love it for those nine months.
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Latest post on 27 October 2013 - 14:51
Guess what our washing machine stopped working last month and we kept wondering why. It seems the control board of the machine got destroyed cos we used a top load detergent for front load machine which eventually heated it up. What a costly destruction. Got it fixed by whirlpool technicians cos our machine belongs to them. So try contacting your machines co.