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Latest post on 20 October 2015 - 12:01
You don't have to put up with that kind of behaviour! Have you got a bank account back home? If I was in your position I would just leave with the first available flight and get divorced. As you don't have children yet just get the h*ll out of the relationship. Once a cheat, always a cheat. Are you ok with wearing an Abaya and headscarf? Were you allowed to wear what you wanted back home? What will happen if you refuse to wear what he tells you to wear? I'm so sorry to hear that your story turned this way. Some of the (now deleted) posts did have a point. I hope things get better for you. Is there anywhere in Netherlands/Europe where you have family/friends who you could turn to?
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Latest post on 19 October 2015 - 16:07
I also recommend Bin Kitty. There is a wide range of cats needing a foster or a forever home. They also arrange regular adoption days so that you can meet different cats. The member are really helpful and you can ask for advise and get your concerns addressed. The cats are checked by a vet and usually have already been spayed/neutered as well as had their vaccines (this varies). You only need to pay a small adoption fee.
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Latest post on 19 October 2015 - 16:01
That was the best news of today! :-)
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Latest post on 12 October 2015 - 11:12
OFGS! Have some humanity. How would you feel if you worked and your employer told you that you weren't allowed to use the bathroom? You're not even cleaning the bathroom yourself so what is your problem here? Perhaps you shouldn't employ a gardener and a pool boy if you cannot provide them basic human rights? Perhaps the below would be a solution for you... :\: http://www.reuters.com/article/2007/05/03/us-chile-retail-diapers-idUSN0237031620070503 http://metro.co.uk/2013/08/14/workers-wearing-nappies-over-fears-of-being-sacked-if-they-take-toilet-breaks-3924165/ I hope they pee and poop in your bushes.
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Latest post on 07 October 2015 - 10:45
Funny how some people can't wait for crash in prices so they can benefit from lower rents, but have no consideration for the financial and legal burdens of the landlord who has to still pay the whopping mortgage payments even if the rent falls. There is such a huge risk to owning property in the UAE... rents need to remain high enough to cover the mortgage costs, service charges, vacant periods and upkeep. Property is a market driven by supply and demand, not a non profit social organisation! Supply and demand indeed. Just remember that the value of your property might go down as well as up. Are we meant to get the violins out for property speculators? Bring on the crash (and THEN future landlords can buy properties at more realistic prices...).
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Latest post on 29 September 2015 - 13:12
Great news! The briefcase was handed in to a police station in Diera yesterday and husband has now got his stuff back :) .... we have the drivers details so will sort out a reward and we can go on holiday next week :) Great news, indeed! :-) And well done for sorting out a reward, well deserved!
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Latest post on 29 September 2015 - 12:08
I know somebody who left the wallet in a taxi. Never got it back even though it was reported within minutes to RTA. Have you seen the men on the streets in Marina and SZR near Crowne Plaza who flog expensive smartphones? I wonder where they got them from? They don't even do a runner when you threaten to ring the police...
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Latest post on 21 September 2015 - 15:54
No, there's a global issue on Skype at the moment. http://heartbeat.skype.com/ Contact DU about the slow internet.
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Latest post on 21 September 2015 - 07:46
Greenheart is good and I've not had any issues with the delivery. http://www.greenheartuae.com/
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Latest post on 20 September 2015 - 01:52
Sharaf DG in Times Square is one of the better ones. They usually have voucher offers (you get the discount at the check out).
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Latest post on 09 September 2015 - 11:50
Are the posts and photos tagged with friends? Are you sure you haven't put "friends of friends" instead of just friends? The icons look quite similar.
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Latest post on 07 September 2015 - 16:24
If it was me I'd go to the nearest "safe" country and then take it from there. Yes, and so would I. As I said, I don't think one can pick and chose when at the mercy of getting help/refuge. Whether you like it or not, the current world is made up of countries with borders. Most people cannot just like that select where they want to live. Yes, if you have money (and a lot of it) you can live nearly wherever you want. Us others usually live where we work and are at the mercy of the employer/sponsor/husband. I would LOVE to live in France. At the moment it is not possible due to the practical reasons that I cannot master French and we cannot afford to move. So we plod along and hope that one day we've worked hard enough to realise our dreams.
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Latest post on 07 September 2015 - 15:34
While there are clearly a lot of people in need of help it would be better if the help could be means-tested like all benefits in Europe usually are. There should be no benefits for people who have savings/money. I do agree that Europe should be looking after own first. I don't think one should be allowed to pick and chose where they want to live when they are asking for help/refugee. Any European country should be fine, shouldn't it? The "I want Germany", "I want UK" etc demands do not sound like genuine cries for help.
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Latest post on 03 September 2015 - 18:29
Only ever used Essentials in all the time I've been here and never ever had one complaint about either cut or colour :biggrin: With all due respect GE, the reason you never had complaint could be..... You never tried "better" ppl. It's been a long time, I have stopped going there. Inly reason because they were close to my house. Sorry, I can't take this **** any more :angry::sleepy: Oh, come on now. We get it, yes you had a great hair cut. It's not that big of a deal. What do you think you're gaining with sla**ing other hairdressers/salons? Different people/ different preferences. Yes, Slam is good and they have built up a good reputation swiftly. All you're achieving here is that you make it easy for them to increase prices and making waiting lists longer.
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Latest post on 03 September 2015 - 09:38
There is a fair bit of construction in the area. The below map is more up to date than google maps and shows what is planned and under construction. http://wikimapia.org/#lang=en&lat=25.103360&lon=55.147033&z=17&m=b&search=dubai
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Latest post on 01 September 2015 - 17:38
Well... It needs to get built first! We might not see that day... And yes, if I had that sort of money it would get spread across a few properties. Elsewhere!
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Latest post on 30 August 2015 - 10:29
You know it won't be forever. Take it as one experience and think about all the fun you will have remembering the different & peculiar Dubai times once you have moved on somewhere else. While you're here, try experiencing things you can't do back home. It will be a lot easier once the weather improves.
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Latest post on 30 August 2015 - 10:11
What type of art are you into? There are art galleries in Alserkal Avenue in Al Quoz. http://www.alserkalavenue.ae/ DIFC also has some galleries http://www.timeoutdubai.com/art/search/difc If you like photo art, Lumas gallery has some great pieces http://www.thenational.ae/arts-lifestyle/art/dubais-lumas-gallery-wants-to-change-the-way-people-think-about-buying-art The ARTE market has some art: https://www.facebook.com/ARTE And on the ground floor in Times Square there is 1x1 Art Gallery with affordable pieces by emerging artists In Old Dubai, try http://www.themajlisgallery.com/ For very affordable pieces, try Ikea in Festival City.
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Latest post on 30 August 2015 - 09:58
Real coffee lovers drink coffee made of freshly ground beans. Nespresso is not proper coffee... Here's an interesting article. http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/wordofmouth/2013/apr/10/rise-coffee-pod-machines-nespresso
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Latest post on 26 August 2015 - 18:17
Here's more recent info about Airbnb in Dubai. It sounds like a very limited amount of landlords are allowed to offer their apartments legally. http://www.thenational.ae/business/the-life/can-dubai-tenant-sublease-property-on-airbnb#full
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Latest post on 24 August 2015 - 10:07
Perhaps some maids have succeeded in taking over from ma'am and are in process to become the new ma'am?
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Latest post on 24 August 2015 - 10:06
I recommend VIP service at Knowledge village. It's not so cramped there, you get seen to swiftly. You get the results a lot quicker too. https://www.dha.gov.ae/en/ServiceCatalogue/eServices/MedicalFitness/Pages/MedicalFitnessCenters.aspx
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Latest post on 20 August 2015 - 19:02
As long as you have a decent internet package there are plenty of options...Filmon for example. You can connect a laptop to the TV to watch on a proper sized screen.
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Latest post on 20 August 2015 - 18:59
We viewed an apartment there last year and decided against it. The window frames in the living room weren't straight so there was a gap between the doors and frames. I would dread to think of the A/C bills... There was also no dishwasher nor space for it. The bathroom was lovely though.
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Latest post on 20 August 2015 - 18:55
I wouldn't gift a specific facial before a wedding, everyone's skin is different and some get a reaction after having one, definitely go with a gift certificate at a Spa and she can choose what to do. If you go to an experienced beautician who analyses the skin before the treatment as well as uses good products there shouldn't be any issues. Most people get a little bit red if extracting impurities but that clams down within a day. It makes a big difference to the skin to have regular facials. Doh, yes I had facials before and knows how it works, wasn't particularly happy with Beauty Within, bought a Groupon there before and don't think it's a place for somewhere a bit special. Service was so so and the same went for the facial. I've been there recently and I found it a nice and relaxing experience. I was talking to the new owner and she's changed a lot of things after taking over. I wasn't primarily there for a facial, that was a bit of a treat while I was there getting my hair back into prime condition after another place butchered it a few months ago. I'm not going to mention any names though...
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Latest post on 20 August 2015 - 16:09
I wouldn't gift a specific facial before a wedding, everyone's skin is different and some get a reaction after having one, definitely go with a gift certificate at a Spa and she can choose what to do. If you go to an experienced beautician who analyses the skin before the treatment as well as uses good products there shouldn't be any issues. Most people get a little bit red if extracting impurities but that clams down within a day. It makes a big difference to the skin to have regular facials.
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Latest post on 20 August 2015 - 14:50
I'm a regular customer at Beauty Within in Dubai Marina. They do lovely facials with very good products. I can recommend facials with either Farmogal or Dr Dennis Gross products. My skin is very sensitive so I'm very careful what products I use and what spas I go to.
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Latest post on 30 July 2015 - 22:50
They were definitely lower in the last few months/weeks. Don't give in to their bullying. It's obviously in the estate agents' interest to keep the rents as high as possible as their commission is a percentage of the annual rent.
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Latest post on 30 July 2015 - 22:43
You're already legally married in USA aren't you? The easiest and quickest way to deal with your situation would be to get your US marriage attested by an authorized company. I can recommend http://www.authxperts.com/. It will cost you a few hundred dollars but they will deal with all the paperwork in USA and send it you via FedEx. All you have to do at this end is to get the Ministry of Foreign Affairs to authorize it (at a cost).
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Latest post on 30 July 2015 - 22:34
Norak and Wickedangel_78 are right. The A/C in public indoor spaces is adjusted according to local clothing. The metro and the malls are fine as long as you are dressed according to the rules (shoulders and knees covered). You can always carry a pashmina with you in case you feel cold. However I do feel for the ladies who have to work in offices with the A/C set to freezing temperatures. I had the same problem in Europe and I would always turn it down as the cold draft is bad for your neck, shoulders and back. I also had cardigans and gloves for when it got particularly bad.
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Latest post on 30 July 2015 - 19:32
Try these: http://www.detainedindubai.org/#!police-checks/c246s They might be able to help you and apparently their fees are reasonable.
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Latest post on 14 July 2015 - 17:24
Perhaps some harsher comments too. :biggrin: OP might turn to Gulf News next, just to get at least one sympathetic comment. What a drama queen....
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Latest post on 09 July 2015 - 12:54
A question for you: If that was a shocking experience in your opinion, how would you deal with an actual shocking experience? I'm glad salons enforce the no children policy. It's not just the potential noise, it could also be dangerous for the children. Sharp utensils, acetone, nail polish and other chemicals. Some children are left to their own devices to run riot, a salon is not the place to do that.
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Latest post on 14 June 2015 - 11:17
It's an easier process to get a job in large parts of Europe. The jobs get advertised and discrimination is not allowed. Agencies actually do some work for the job candidates, here I have not seen that happening. I would have to disagree about the "childcare availability factor" too. There is the maid option, some people like others don't. A maid would not usually be a qualified child carer. The level of English might not be the best either. There are nurseries and they are very expensive. In a lot of European countries mothers are encouraged to work and nurseries/kindergartens are heavily subsidised. The working hours are usually longer here and the maternity benefits are pittance compared to what Europeans would be used to. In job interviews they might ask you questions that are not even allowed in Europe. You might be discouraged to have children or might not get a job at all due to having children. Some women might get dismissed for getting pregnant. There are not enough laws in place to protect women and mother's rights. It all depends on where you come from and what you are used to. For some this might be better than where they came from. In regards to schools, check out where UAE is placed on the PISA...
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Latest post on 14 June 2015 - 09:55
If I had the choice again I would NOT move here. The day we get to move back to Europe will be a very happy day in my life. It's not easy for a lot of women to get a job here, even more difficult to get a good job that matches their education and experience. Yes, there some women have a career here but it seems to be more of an exception than rule. All those years studying [i'>could [/i'>go to waste if you can't get on the career ladder. If having a career is important to you, OP, think carefully and logically about your options. Think about your values and what you want out of life. What do you enjoy doing? Would you be able to fill your time with things you like doing if you don't get a job? Dubai is a very expensive city to live in and only a small percentage of the jobs here pay decent salaries. Do also double check what your husband's new employer actually offers. Make sure you get everything promised in writing. There are other threads on this and other forums about salaries and benefits. A lot of people have been stung by empty or false promises. Make sure your husband is provided with a contract that takes wife and potential children into consideration in regards to health insurance, flights and education. These links might be useful. I have occasionally seen some Dubai based jobs on these. http://reliefweb.int/jobs http://unjobs.org/ Good luck with whatever you chose to do.
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Latest post on 08 April 2015 - 12:13
Well, they market them with "private beach". It doesn't look like there is much if any privacy at all.
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Latest post on 08 April 2015 - 11:59
I wonder what goes through their simple minds when they meet an English person of Indian descent or a French woman wearing a niqab... lol edited by AnonDubai on 08/04/2015 Just WOW! 'Simple minds'? Terrible assumption to make. Really, really, shame on you for that comment. edited by FairyDust on 08/04/2015 I agree. Very, very shameful. No wonder maids try to be selective who they work for. Just because somebody isn't perhaps fully fluent in let's say English, doesn't give one the right to assume they are simple minded. What people who badmouth maids seem to forget that it is a employer-employee relationship. It is up to the employer to train their staff, treat them with dignity and respect. As a few others mentioned, it is normal to be selective with who you want to work for. Once you sign the contract you're pretty much stuck with it (especially in this region with the sponsorship system) so it's well worth it to do your own research, ask important questions before making any decisions. It's better to find out straight away the important criteria in order to minimize the waste of both parties time. I really don't like the way some people treat their staff as commodity and make all sorts of assumptions.
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Latest post on 05 March 2015 - 10:19
Market & Platter in Marina has some lovely gourmet products.
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Latest post on 02 March 2015 - 12:51
What a ridiculous plan! They are looking for funding at the moment though so it may well be another one that will never happen. If they market it as a new "Ibiza" they can't have ever visited Ibiza and seen what kind of party island it is. Drugs are a big part of the party scene there in case that was unclear to anybody.
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Latest post on 02 March 2015 - 12:44
We bought a table with eight chairs from Home Centre over two years ago for around 1200 AED. The cushion covers are machine washable. They seem to have some sale going on at the moment.
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Latest post on 22 October 2014 - 16:01
Here's an old article but it might give you some information. http://www.thenational.ae/news/uae-news/hotels-defend-holding-employees-passports
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Latest post on 20 October 2014 - 21:18
A bad day is no excuse to not perform and behave properly in a job, especially not in a customer service job. It is extremely unprofessional to let your personal life affect your work life. I have come across all sorts of behaviours here from all sorts of nationalities. I'm not going to point any fingers now but I have to say I prefer European customer service. Staff tend to be properly trained and know what is expected of them as well as how to treat and approach customers. I had a poxy day today but I was still able to say "sorry", "excuse me" and "thank you" and that was just in the regular interacting with people and as a customer. dear Ilovecandy, there is a strong link between having a bad day and being rude. If you have had some difficulties there is no way we give off the same good-mannered vibes as you would if you had had some great news. Also, what is rude to one is not rude to another. Two weeks back in Jordan a lady kept pushing her pram onto my abaya in the queue at Max (we were all queueing well by the way, Arab and non-Arab); by the third push I began to get a bit irritated but tried to remain patient; she was a smart lady and noticed and said, "well what can I do when your abaya is so long!!" and she said it in the loudest voice for all the (relatively ordered) queue to hear. Being on the shy side I was a bit mortified, but forced my mind into contemplating the differences between Emirati and Jordanian abayas, the latter being so much shorter than the former. Really the lady meant no harm, she didnt mean to wreck my abaya, nor did she mean to shame me in public bringing everyones attention to the inordinate length of my abaya; and it is all cultural. Jordanians talk their heart out and wear their abayas shorter. So we can say: she was rude; or we can say: she wasnt rude, she was just behaving in the way she has been culturally conditioned. dear ummuhammad123, We will have to agree to disagree on this one. What is good-mannered vibes to one is not good-mannered vibes to another. So sorry I dont have great news to share re rude people in Dubai but I am happy you have had good experiences, we certainly need more of those. However, I refuse to be a doormat and if I come across rude people, I say something and dont justify their manners or lack thereof (in my mind) due to the way they have been conditioned. I will say it again, as I really believe, there is no excuse for being rude and there is a difference between being rude and having an off day. I've got to agree with you Candy, there is no excuse for someone to be rude.. I would never push at the front of a queue just because last night I had an argument with my husband or I had a flat tyre. It costs nothing to say 'thank you' if you are holding a door open for people, waiting your turn in a queue, holding a lift door open (beebers your story made me laugh), packing your own bags if the bag packer isn't there etc etc. Its easy to make excuses for people. Today I saw a lady refuse to unload her items from her trolley onto the conveyor belt and she made the woman behind the till do it (she was holding the queue up). Now I *know* for a fact that woman is perfectly fit (I had just been in the same class at the gym with her). So if it wasn't a physical problem she couldn't bend down and do it herself....what is the excuse for that then? Also she was really giving the poor till girl a dreadful time about how she should pack her bags. I would have LOVED to have seen her pull that one in my local Sainsburys back home ;) I agree that I would rather not get cross and have to say something to a complete stranger, but I like to think by pointing out their behaviour they may, JUST MAY realise that there are other people living on this planet besides them.
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Latest post on 20 October 2014 - 21:07
I'm sorry Red139 that you felt that you had to delete your original post. It's not normal to ask for wifi passwords to a neighbour's internet. You're the one paying for it and you're perfectly within your rights to say no. As the internet account is in your name you're the one responsible for the usage. What if they downloaded questionable things? There is also the issue with having a slower internet due to increased traffic. Just say no and tell them to not ask for it again.
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Latest post on 14 October 2014 - 14:37
Have you just learnt to use a computer or are you just getting your post count up before you start your spamming? :-/
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Latest post on 14 October 2014 - 14:31
Unbelievable waste of time to ponder back and forth with sentencing of a killer. Imagine if all courts went though the whole history of the criminal before sentencing and making the sentence lighter for a whole list of "circumstances". "Oh, you had a difficult childhood" "Oh, apparently you love and miss the person you shot several times through a door" "Oh, apparently you are a role model" "Oh, apparently you have done so much for sport" The whole "poor me" sobbing has really got on my nerves. He committed a serious crime and should get a full length custodial sentence. I feel sorry for the family and friends of Reeva. Please think about them when sentencing her killer. <em>edited by N0rdique on 14/10/2014</em>
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Latest post on 14 October 2014 - 13:50
If the property was rented unfurnished I find it a bit unfair that the agents would come around taking photos of the property with your furniture and personal belongings in there. Tell them use some stock photos. A lot of agents just seem to knick other's photographs anyway with no respect for intellectual property. I would also be very strict with viewings as you should not have to suffer from unreasonable demands with people in and out all the time. You are within your right to refuse entry if you're not there. <em>edited by N0rdique on 14/10/2014</em>
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Latest post on 14 October 2014 - 13:40
Dropping the paper in the loo is an automatic reaction. Think about the poor cleaners that would have to deal with emptying the used paper bins. Was the sign in a newly built place (last 40 years or so)? If so, there is no excuse to not build it properly so that paper can be flushed down. Toilet paper dissolves anyway... <em>edited by N0rdique on 14/10/2014</em>
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Latest post on 14 October 2014 - 13:36
The thought behind it was probably to want to have you involved. It's not well thought out though. Why would anybody want to go to family gatherings to a foreign country when you barely know the people? I wouldn't appreciate getting invitations to weddings abroad if it's not close friends or family. It's not exactly cheap to pay for tickets, hotels, outfits and spending money as well as taking time off work.
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Latest post on 14 October 2014 - 13:28
Halal and Kosher slaughtering was banned there in February this year. That law appears to have taken priority over the bestiality law...
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Latest post on 30 September 2014 - 19:59
Just out of interest, what's the best way to report a rogue estate agent to RERA? I've tried to email them before and I was directed to a government website which required far too much personal information for my linking.