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Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 23:22
Hi Gorbattie, Having had kids and many many fostered/ rescued cats over my lifetime, I would say yes a kitten is a responsibility but for me it was not as big a step as having kids :) but that is me. The most important thing for me when someone who have never had animals wants to get them is: What is the reason you want to get an animal. They are your responsibility for the rest of their lives. Animals in an expat situation are a big responsibility in that when you leave they must leave with you. Having said that when you are wanting to get a cat remember: They do have a tendancy to scratch on furniture,I have even had one that loved to scratch the wallpaper !! I mention this as you did...it can be a problem.There are those who declaw to prevent it but it is a very cruel practice where they remove the first digit on the finger.If these animlas ever find themselves outside they have no way of defending themselves. Cats are a lot easier than most animals as they are quite happy to eat poop and sleep....and they happily use a litterbox for their business.... Kittens can be very playful and young children who may get a bit too playful on the rough side can very easily get scratched by the kitten trying to defend itself. This has never been a problem for me as it taught my children from a young age to respect animlas and that there are boundries.However I do know of cases where a kittens have been given to families with young children and the father went for the cat with a stick because it scratched his child. Please I am in no way saying any of these examples refer to you but I am always brutally honest with famalies who are adopting for the very first time with smaller children. Be very honest with FF about your misgivings if you have any.I know when I intervied adoptive parents I asked loads of questions,as should you. All in all most love to be cuddled or lay next to a warm body a cuddle and a love and for so little you get so much back.But then again I am pretty much an animal nut....:):):) All the very best with your decision......
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Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 15:40
The ladies are right - the packers will repack what you've done - they won't take responsibillity for things they haven't packed themselves. Better to spend the time selling! True,they can't insure anything that they have not packed themselves.
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Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 15:17
Our neighbour moved to a nearby villa development and decided not to bother taking the cat with her, just left it to fend for itself. How can people be so heartless and cruel. The poor cat just sits day after day on the doorstep crying to be let in. I know it is just heartbreaking.... is anyone feeding the cat and giving it water ?
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 21:29
I'm with AnonDubai, can't see any reason for you to stay even until Thursday. If I was in your position I would be getting on a plane home tomorrow! What do you have to gain from attending court on Thursday? Nothing it seems to me, and I am certain that if he told you about this on Wednesday he can't 'force' you to attend Court one week later to sign for divorce. Do you want to stay here in the long run? Do you work here? Do you have access to any funds here? Will he pay school fees when next due? I can see absolutely no reason for you to stay. He is scared you will leave, why? Because it's in his interests for you to stay, not his. Can you go home, stay with family, get your children enrolled in a local school, and take it from there? You don't need to buy property you can rent. Seek advice back home, he will least be expecting this. True,but this piece of work might have put a travel ban on Nippy to force her to stay until Thursday and then lift it once she has signed his papers.He seems to be pretty organised as all the paperwork for a divorce is already in place and Nippy has only just found out. I wouldn't underestimate him it sounds like he has had an awful lot of legal advice. Nippy is it at all possible to start corresponding with him via texts and not talking on the phone.Start to get all your conversations in writing then if he threatens you it will be there for anyone who needs it to read.....
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 20:34
Nippy do you have anyone right now who you can turn to for moral support, friends etc.? I am not in the ME but am very worried about your husband bullying you. Why the EXTREME urgency.....he has been planning this for a long time and it seems is doing what will be best for HIM.He hasn't given a thought to what effect this will have on his children, and doesn't care.....what a piece of work. You need to try really hard to think practically at the moment (really a tall order I know ) and slow things down until you have been able to see a lawyer. I might be out of line here but you may have to resort to his type of tactics and tell him to stop harassing you or you will go to the authorities. Believe me I am sure whatever he has been doing has been taking place on the wrong side of the blanket. Any reasonable person would want to find out what they are signing before signing ANY document,for all you know YOU could be admitting to adultry!!!!!! Please don't do anything until you have been able to see a lawyer. Put a delay on your ticket home. Is there anyone on the board who can be of assistance in finding someone to help out for just one appointment .... I will be sending postive prayers and thoughts your way. N X
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Latest post on 15 December 2012 - 03:34
Thank you.Yes we celebrate Christmas and a Happy Cristmas to you and yours. Mom passed in May and I tell you I have my days.....
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Latest post on 15 December 2012 - 02:25
RIP little ones....prayers for all. Kind of puts life in perspective doesn't it.
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Latest post on 15 December 2012 - 02:11
Simples so sorry about your Mom,I too waited from afar this year for that same call. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. australiajudy I too was petrified of SZR and can feel your pain. TDB all the very best for tomorrow,you are one organised lady and I am sure you are well prepared,I was in total caos with both births !!! DR as someone has said you daughter sounds like one switched on girl and I am sure will have a lovely wedding....your description of 'round em up and push out bra' was priceless .Sending best wishes her way for a loooong and happy marriage. Neamhai strength and prayers to you as you support your dad.In time you will be able to grieve,I know I have not done mine yet....:'( Don't want to sound like the cat that got the cream..... but have no gripes to add to the pity party..... <em>edited by Nomad on 15/12/2012</em>
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Latest post on 14 December 2012 - 08:10
Good link Belinda! Unfortunately everyone will just turn a blind eye and say "but they look happy". The human race gets worse and worse every year, whether its towards animals or humans, or the earth in general! Here's to a new start in 2013....may we all care just a BIT more!! Spot on......
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Latest post on 14 December 2012 - 04:35
Thanks...found it !
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Latest post on 14 December 2012 - 04:31
Thread about being told you are beautiful.......went downhill and off topic. I did reply to you JoyceB but it has gone.Please don't let anyone 'run you off'. N
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Latest post on 13 December 2012 - 01:08
A good idea is to keep documentation of the emails ,if he does go to Sri Lanka and she lands up calling the police she has proof of the basis for calling them.This happened to a friend but didn't involve family,the evidence of the emails were all the cops needed. Hope it all works out.
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Latest post on 12 December 2012 - 19:35
YES age appropriate.......my mom was the same age as her at the time and I would NEVER let my mom up onto a rickety ladder to clean. She(the maid) had bad hips from HARD WORK she put in with other families. As DR said some of us 55+ can't do what we used to and my maid was in that bracket........obviously you aren't......good for you ;).I know I can't climb a ladder or spend hours ironing any more and yes it is because I have had many a manual job in my time.Today I don't have a maid and leave the difficult out of reach cleaning for the house help I get once a month who by the way is in her 20's <em>edited by Nomad on 13/12/2012</em>
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Latest post on 11 December 2012 - 22:07
As has been mentioned maybe call Mall Management about your concerns.... <em>edited by Nomad on 12/12/2012</em>
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Latest post on 11 December 2012 - 21:58
Great response Hairy......Thirty Three odd years back when my eldest started school a very wise old lady (my gran) always said boys are emotionally behind girls of the same age and she trotted out many examples. My son was in the youngest in his class bracket......I adopted the I will let him start with his peers and if it doesn't work out we will hold him back.Our issue was all of his friends from nursery were going onto big school and he was so adamant to start with them. Lucky for us it worked out , he was a BIG boy who excelled at sport and was very social. His young brother on the other hand was a preemie (4 weeks early due MIL stress LOL) born mid school year who was average age in his class, smaller of stature not as outgoing .He was fine fine in junior school but had hassels in high school. You know your child better than anyone and I would honestly go with your gut feeling guided by all the literature out there.
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Latest post on 11 December 2012 - 21:40
I'm an almost 55 year old hands on nana to 3. I'm feeling it physically when I have one or all of them all day, but I didnt 6 months ago. In fact I had two of them away on holiday for a fortnight in the summer, just the three of us and it was great. But I dont know what has happened to me since then. At 50 it was all a doddle, at almost 55 its a bit of a diddery doddle. Would a 50 year old be suitable - well all I can say is that I wish I had been as good a mum as I am a nana. Age does have certain benefits. You really have learnt how not to sweat the small stuff and work out just what is important and what isn't. Fun and laughter is the order of the day - anything else can go to blazes to be quite honest with you. :) edited by DesertRose1958 on 11/12/2012 Once again DR spot on.When I had home help age to me was an advantage, I was a young mom and the last help I had raising my boys was in her 50's, she was a gem.However I would never expect her to do that which wasn't age appropriate (climbing ladders to clean the top of closets, standing iorning too long etc.) what she gave to my boys was amazing and I was more than happy to pick up and run with what she couldn't manage. Just my 2 cents worth....
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Latest post on 11 December 2012 - 00:40
Totally in line with you Nomad :) My cat was found abandonned in the streets of Abu Dhabi. With her thick fur, below zero street-smart and no claws (yes, he previous owner had her declawed..), she had no chance of survival whatsoever. I'm glad Al Rahma picked her up and gave her a second chance. Awww bless flucie she sounds lovely and sooooo lucky to have found you. I have a rescue who was declawed, she is such a sweety who would be totally helpless out in the big bad world....what people do to animals eh.....
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Latest post on 11 December 2012 - 00:29
Mrsg 1 agree with the previous posters as it seems you have done everything you can to change this behaviour. Heaven forbid that the dog snaps at or even bites the baby, and unless you can find a truly dedicated home (but that too comes with risks),it would be thekindest thing you could do to put him down.I would take the advice of the posters who have had experience with the breed. In the past I have had to make difficult decisions like this, it is never easy but sometimes it is the only way.
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Latest post on 10 December 2012 - 23:43
Oh Scribs I am so happy for you all.....am sure my Mom is too! Big hugs to you all and have a wonderful Christmas N XXX
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Latest post on 08 December 2012 - 22:16
Oh Scribs BIG cyber hugs to you (((()))) N XXX
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Latest post on 08 December 2012 - 21:52
Thanks Scribs it is and my poor Mom had it from a very early age... undiagnosed for many years.She got a double whammy by developing Alzheimers in later years which made medicating her very difficult. Will keep you all in my prayers..........
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Latest post on 08 December 2012 - 21:37
Oh Scribs this really hits home......I lost my mom to Parkinsons/ Alzheimers in May. I know how you feel as the doctors were always putting mom on some new fangeld treatment which never seemed to help. However she was never offered the treatment your dad was. Here's hoping and praying that it goes well,even the smallest suggestion of a difference could be all that he needs. I will light a candle for him on Monday and ask my mom to give a special lookout...... N XXX <em>edited by Nomad on 08/12/2012</em>
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Latest post on 08 December 2012 - 19:12
I wonder what makes them act this strange way someone took their small baby away yet those with sons - will we turn out the same? it's a question we ponder, time and again A MIL here who suffered the brunt of a MIL from H**L. I can honestly say it made me so determined NOT to make the same mistakes as she did. All I ever wanted was a DIL who loved my sons as much as I did. Happy to say I have an awsum relationship with mine,and had a real flashback the other day when she asked me if I would trim my GS's hair. Do any of you remember the thread when the MIL cut her GS'shair.I did a double take and said 'are you sure you want me to cut it ?'.I went on to explain the story and she said 'after the morning I have had trying to brush it you could shave it off and it would be fine' !! Must say that she does some things differently to the way I do but, I would NEVER overstep the line, and have had the odd occasion when I have had to give DS a kick in the shin when he comes out with 'you should try and cook it the way my mom does'. Now going to choke on my halo hehehe.....
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Latest post on 08 December 2012 - 18:50
Awwwwww that is just lovely..... An unexpected Christmas present.! ;)
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Latest post on 08 December 2012 - 18:45
Oh DR how I envy you....I had a day with my grand kids yesterday,inside,too cold and snowy out.My house looks like a tornado has hit I ache all over and must get off here and start cleaning......Have a few extra chockkies for me. edited by Nomad on 07/12/2012 Nomad, the tornado style of home decor - there really is nothing like it eh :) :) Tell me about it...further cleaning discoveries produced a couch cushion with a particular fetching design of pruple, orange & green, marker pen !!!!!!! aaaaaand my DH can't understand why I won't get an upgrade.Our is 17 years old and I could really use a new one but have put my foot down until the kids are older. Managed to get most of it off and simply turned the cushion over ......BUT, will be having a strong word with the young culprit when I get my hands on him !! Still wouldn't have it any other way just love them to bits.......:) Have a quiet day today and going to have the stray greys banished and off to a dinner and theatre show tonight.......If we can get through the snow and cold forcasted.
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Latest post on 07 December 2012 - 23:46
Thanks.....
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Latest post on 07 December 2012 - 23:13
Excellent..... Could you please tell me where you got the cute dummy smiley ? I know I am totally smitten LOL.
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Latest post on 07 December 2012 - 22:12
Actually my son says he thinks it is the oldest on the planet..... I got it in 2007.....yep I hate change when it comes to phones and the like.
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Latest post on 07 December 2012 - 22:06
Oh DR how I envy you....I had a day with my grand kids yesterday,inside,too cold and snowy out.My house looks like a tornado has hit I ache all over and must get off here and start cleaning......Have a few extra chockkies for me. <em>edited by Nomad on 07/12/2012</em>
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Latest post on 07 December 2012 - 22:00
Sorry can't help but I just love the little dummy smiley !!!! My kids call my cell phone the dinosaur.....so know exactly how you feel.;)
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Latest post on 07 December 2012 - 09:56
Good morning to you ecochic however it is night time for me right now :)..... Just want to add my thoughts on the cat issue. If a cat is wild and living in the desert as you say yes we should leave well alone.....however a large no of the cats in dxb are abandoned pets for whatever reason. To take these animals out into the desert would mean a slow and painful death. The trap neuter and release programme for bin kitty's etc. I think is an excellent solution and should be supported by the autorities, trapping the cats and merely putting them to sleep has in the past been a short term solution.These cats give a valuable service in keeping the rodent population under control and can get by in most cases by bin diving for food. That being said the other issue is the abandoned pet cats,these poor souls are tossed out with no street smarts and not a clue how to fend for themselves. As you say Lolacat it is a very touchy subject and one that has to be looked at very seriously.The best advice I can pass on is that which was given to me. You can't help all the animals all of the time but you can help one at a time...... Off to bed now on the other side of the pond :)
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Latest post on 07 December 2012 - 01:07
I think it also has to be said, from what I have seen, the folk running some rescue groups are in all honestly trying to help with the plight of strays on the streets of DXB. I have not had a personal experience as ecochic and Lolacat have but I honestly feel it is more the case of the heart ruling the head so to speak.They just want to save as many animals as they can, the trick is to be able to say 'sorry no more room at the inn' and deal with those you already have in your care.A really hard call to make.:(:( <em>edited by Nomad on 07/12/2012</em>
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Latest post on 07 December 2012 - 00:36
Hi ecochic,while I so agree with most of what you have said, I just can't go with the' letting them go in the desert ' part. If an animal is not bred to stand these conditions all that you are doing is condeming it to a slow and painful death. If I had to make the call it would be to peacefully put the animal down. I am not sure if this is the DM's policy but it would be terribly cruel to say put a Lab or Retriver or heaven forbid a Husky in the desert to try and survive. Just my two cents for what it's worth..........
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Latest post on 06 December 2012 - 22:31
Thanks for that Lolacat......great article
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Latest post on 06 December 2012 - 21:16
Volvo in particular devalue very quickly in the ME.We had friends who lost a bundle.As TDB said it seems the European models don't fare too well on a resale basis.Japanese models seem to hold their value no matter what age.Personally we had an Expedition which we bought 2nd hand and managed to get a really respectable price when we sold it on. ETA Good rear AC is a must. <em>edited by Nomad on 06/12/2012</em>
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Latest post on 06 December 2012 - 21:08
With my grandkids and cats poking at the ornaments it would a messy pile of books in no time.....very clever though.:)
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Latest post on 06 December 2012 - 20:59
When I grew up the no kill shelter /organisations did not exist. The local SPCA was the only animal rescue group and they would keep an animal for up to 10 days for the owner to claim.If no owner then the animal had another 2 weeks to find a home. The folk who worked there could only do so for an average of 2 years, the ones who held out the longest did it for maybe 8 years. I am not saying that one is right or the other wrong but I do say you have to make an informed and sometimes VERY HARD judgement call when running any rescue organisation.It is not possible to save all of these poor souls all of the time.Believe me I nearly lost my mind trying to do just this but thank goodness I saw sense in the end. Lolacat hope you find the 'right ' fit rather sooner than later,must say I am a firm believer that the right animal will 'find you'....... Wednesday Genius I find the easiest thing to suggest is tell them to google puppy mills suggesting they don't do it in front of their kids......sheer curiosity gets the better of them.
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Latest post on 04 December 2012 - 21:51
I have not had to deal with it mayself in years but I do remember it is really important to isolate the kitten.It has to be done for a few weeks. Don't let the kids pet it for that time as it be can easily be transmitted. Get to the vet ASAP they will give you medication and a special shampoo to bath the kitten in. Once you yourself have been touching the kitten it is important to wash you hands thoroughly before touching anything else. The poor mite may get lonely isolated in a bathroom/maidsroom/laundry but it is important to stop the chain of the infection.With my kids I put up a makeshift cardboard screen that they looked over and chatted to the kitty while I was on the other side holding it. A bit of a bind but worth it in the long run. Watch the kids closely for any signs of infection. HTH and thanks for taking the little scarp in. ETA Hopefully SueB will be along to check up on the board,she is the EW cat expert and I am sure can add to what I have suggested. <em>edited by Nomad on 04/12/2012</em>
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Latest post on 04 December 2012 - 21:33
There was someone on not too long ago who was also looking for a pedigree,don't think it was a Daxie though. She managed to source one in the UK and was actually going to pick her puppy up and fly it out to DXB. Perhaps do a search going back a few months ,sorry can't remember her name. Perhaps you could enquire about breeders in the UK through the various organisations/animal welfare groups and bring a dog/puppy out when you do your next trip home. That is of course if you can't find one here who needs a home.;) ETA An ethical breeder will probably want to meet you in any case if not they will bombard you with a million questions :) but it can be done. I find they have a 6th sense when it comes to potential homes for their wee ones.... edited by Nomad on 04/12/2012 <em>edited by Nomad on 04/12/2012</em>
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Latest post on 04 December 2012 - 19:51
But the puppies in pets habitat are 10,000 dhs! That is so expensive! A reputable breeder would not charge this for a kennel club puppy :( Exactly.....that is just one of the reasons I always advise against getting from a local pet store.... Please see my LOOOONG posts under British Short Hair Kitties. Getting a pedigree animal in this part of the world is a challenge.The safest and ethical route is to bring one in from an ethical breeder reccomended by a Kennel Club etc possibly in your home country.There is then the import costs to bring the dog to DXB. The bottom line is go with your conscience. All the best with your search.
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Latest post on 04 December 2012 - 19:42
Hi :) I too was a 'lurker' for years before I decided to join and then we promply left the ME !
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Latest post on 03 December 2012 - 22:03
My DS if looking to be transferred with his job to Perth, Nigeria, Malaysia, Indonesia, Mozambique or Angola. He has a wife and 2 year old toddler and trying hard to find the best option, tax wise and otherwise. Any EW members out there facing or faced a similar situation? He is British. Although Africa is amazingly beautiful,safety and security are issues you have to consider.The fact that he is taking his young family along I would honestly suggest if he really wants to re-locate to the any of the African countries you have listed he should visit before hand,then make a decision.
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Latest post on 03 December 2012 - 19:02
Try calling K9,Animal Action AD,DARC and PAWS,if they can't help you I am sure they will steer you in the right direction.
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Latest post on 03 December 2012 - 18:57
As per the UAE Federal Law, breeding for sale is ILLEGAL in the UAE, hence there are only backyard illegal breeders and most of those pets are un healthy sadly . Let me try and find the engilsh version of this law for everyone to read and see. Most reputable pet sellers never house locally bred pets hence most of them have international passports. edited by ecochic on 03/12/2012 ecochic that would be great. This issue comes up so often on EW. @humanitarian no I have not had a reply back from CFA.
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Latest post on 30 November 2012 - 00:43
I honestly wouldn't read too much into it, as I said may just be a phase.I know with my GS had goop in his hair one day (from making crafts ) and that night after bath time mom had all heck trying to brush his hair. Boys will be boys.... our little gem even with the short hair only looks tidy for the first 5 minutes after he is dreesed up anyway! With the shorter hair it is a lot easier than dealing with a DIVA GD and her tangled hair that reaches her b*m ,after a day of crafts.:) <em>edited by Nomad on 30/11/2012</em>
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Latest post on 30 November 2012 - 00:33
Sounds like my 3 yr old GS....hoping it is just a phase. I would get his hair cut and make the trip to the hairdresser/ barber an adventure rather than a punishment. When I have the little man overnight and it comes time to brush his hair, my back is really bad so I can't chase after him so DIL took him for a really short haircut . What a pleaseure,we sort of give it a quick smooth over with a hand/brush. <em>edited by Nomad on 30/11/2012</em>
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Latest post on 30 November 2012 - 00:26
Sounds like you have done it all !! Have you put an ad on dubizzle with his photo.Also try and post a link to his photo her for the AR ladies. Hope he is just hiding in the bushes nearby, poor thing.....
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Latest post on 29 November 2012 - 20:08
So agree plum2.Lost my Mom in May,by the time I got home I found out her last few months were a nightmare.The doctors were just giving her pills ontop of pills and her cargivers had no idea what the heck was going on.I tried to keep track from afar but did'nt have much family support from those at home.It is sooooo important to get medications sorted. Do a bit of research on google yourself while mom is with you and maybe get another professional opinion. By a process of elimination and thinking out of the box you can hopefully get her on the right track. Hope your Mom improves soon.
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Latest post on 29 November 2012 - 19:57
Jess have you done the usual with flyers, box of bikkies etc.as per Pets and Vets section on EW ?
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Latest post on 29 November 2012 - 19:55
There are great hints to help find your cat in the family section on EW under Pets and Vets... A really good one is passing out flyers, with her picture and the REWARD word in really big letters, to the maids, gardeners and seciruty in the area. Hope she comes strolling in soon.. Good luck.