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Latest post on 27 July 2011 - 20:55

The poor innocent lives lost in Oslo is so tragic. I look back to the Tsunami and watched footage, and I still say to this day I could NEVER holiday there knowing over 250,000 died. We deal with death in all kind of different ways, its our choice to pick and choose and decide what we want to say on EW, My Cousin was abused and murdered, did it hit the headlines, no it didnt, why would it, did people care, yes ofcourse family and friends cared. We should be able to express it in our own way. I do hope Amy's family now campaign and if only to save one live from drugs it will be an achievement. salsB so sorry about the death of your cousin. I can remember the day my brother was killed by a drunk driver at 21.What impacted me the most I think is that the world just carried on as usual. I wanted to stand and scream at everyone "don't you know my brother is dead, how can you just carry on as if nothing has happened". It took a long time to get over that feeling and to carry on my life as normal. With the world being so connected these days, I think we as a society are able to get a closer and more personal view of these tragedies that touch our world. With this comes an almost personal feeling of " how can the world go about its business when this tragedy has happened". Thus the varied responses we see here. Back to Amy, I sincerely hope her death and the publicity can save at least one life from ending the way hers did. edited by Nomad on 26/07/2011 Nomad, I am so sorry you have lost your brother, very hard to express on a forum, massive hugs to you and the family, and I do mean what I say, xxxxxx salsB, Thank you so very much for your sincere thoughts. He was dead 21 years this year, very difficult this year as he has now been dead as long as he was alive.I was the much older big sis sort of a second mother. @simpleasabc quite true we as parents can only hope what we have instilled in our children when growing up will serve them well when they "leave the nest" so to speak.Leading by example does come to mind, when it comes to choices they will make.

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Latest post on 27 July 2011 - 05:54

Bouganvilla every time, you can get a beautiful selection at the garden souk off Academic City Rd. You can get really decorative ones that have been grafted and woven in different shapes. As fuddles said the secret is not to overwater them. They do very well in DXB and the climbers can be trained over a variety of surfaces. @ shahzadee I never had much success with the traditional type of garden you mentioned.It is just too hot for them I think. For a balcony garden I would go for the Bouganvilla as they are the lowest maintainance for the region.I used to find the guys at the garden souk know their stuff , however they will try and pass off stuff that is high maintainence.Ask loads of questions. Remember everything grows really quickly in DXB so you don't have to buy the bigger more expensive plants.

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Latest post on 27 July 2011 - 05:30

hang on to your pants!! Since I am the author of this thread I think I can speak here!!! Our Souls.....I was listening to Amy when I heard the news. I was shocked and dropped in my thoughts here. I really don't care if you feel we should be doing something else and I also really dont feel anyones grief is up for discusssion!!! so give over, there is another thread on Norway, bless them....I started this one for Amy, not knowing about anything else...I happen to not have a T.V. and radio is spotty, now I have internet so I will be better informed, but please, get off everyones case ..we can say what we like but we cannot critisize who we grieve for, if it does not come in line with your feelings.!!! so, enough, stop arguing and enough, for us to trying to explain ourselves!!! leave it! Well said SueB. Just to add was watching her Bio on TV it seems she was quite a handful growing up.Quite a rebel who did what she wanted when she wanted.A very headstrong young girl. I think the amazing thing about her voice is it appealed to all age groups both young and older generations.So sad it is no more.

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Latest post on 26 July 2011 - 03:01

The poor innocent lives lost in Oslo is so tragic. I look back to the Tsunami and watched footage, and I still say to this day I could NEVER holiday there knowing over 250,000 died. We deal with death in all kind of different ways, its our choice to pick and choose and decide what we want to say on EW, My Cousin was abused and murdered, did it hit the headlines, no it didnt, why would it, did people care, yes ofcourse family and friends cared. We should be able to express it in our own way. I do hope Amy's family now campaign and if only to save one live from drugs it will be an achievement. salsB so sorry about the death of your cousin. I can remember the day my brother was killed by a drunk driver at 21.What impacted me the most I think is that the world just carried on as usual. I wanted to stand and scream at everyone "don't you know my brother is dead, how can you just carry on as if nothing has happened". It took a long time to get over that feeling and to carry on my life as normal. With the world being so connected these days, I think we as a society are able to get a closer and more personal view of these tragedies that touch our world. With this comes an almost personal feeling of " how can the world go about its business when this tragedy has happened". Thus the varied responses we see here. Back to Amy, I sincerely hope her death and the publicity can save at least one life from ending the way hers did. <em>edited by Nomad on 26/07/2011</em>

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Latest post on 25 July 2011 - 20:17

abc hope your friends are safe. Our thoughts and prayers are with those who have lost loved ones.

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Latest post on 25 July 2011 - 08:00

The worlds gone mad !!!! Not a word on here about the 80 odd teenagers who were murdered in Norway but people are mourning the death of a druggie, who ironically, now only in death has become a role model. @ Icfcfem agree the Norway massacre needs a seperate thread. @oursouls if this offends you so, why don't you start a thread. I am sure you will get a big response from the ladies out there. As janesul said this is not a p*ssing contest, merely a point of discussion lamenting the loss of a talented yet misguided soul. May they all RIP

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Latest post on 24 July 2011 - 18:55

Such a sad loss of such a beautiful voice. A very troubled soul hopefully at peace at last. RIP Amy

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Latest post on 20 July 2011 - 20:53

So glad to hear that the little boy has found a good forever home. Joking aside I think your friend and hubby have to chat about why it is OK for him to have a dog but she can't have a cat. Just because he doesn't like cats? Not a good enough excuse in my books. The fact that it has really upset her terribly but she had to go ahead and give her cat away, a sign of things to come. Just my opinion but how some treat animals says a lot about them. All said and done he is far better off in a home where he is wanted.

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Latest post on 20 July 2011 - 08:32

Hi, Can't help as far as ablation treatment for heavy bleeding and HRT, but it is never too early to start researching the different treatments. I elected to go the natural HRT route due to ethical and cancer concerns ( not knocking those on HRT !!) . It has been a long battle and I really regret not having looked into it until menapause hit me like a brick wall. Do loads of research and make lists of questions for your doctors. All the best.

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Latest post on 20 July 2011 - 08:12

What a beautiful little fellow......I know who I'd be kicking out LOL. Hope he gets a good forever home.;) <em>edited by Nomad on 20/07/2011</em>

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Latest post on 19 July 2011 - 23:30

@ Snowflake bless you for getting involved & Assisi for your tireless help. A good idea would be to put up as many posters as possible with their photos on in( the area where they hang out), stating that they areessentially running out of time. Make it as dramatic as possible as they are in fact in grave danger of being euthanised. I know security tend to take the posters down ( you can tell I did this a lot LOL ). What I used to do was to approach them tears welling over in the eyes pleading with them to at least leave them up for 24 hours . From all the traffic of people that it seems cuddle and feed these two there is bound to be someone who can at least foster. If it were me and you can't find any other solution with our kitty angels at FF, bring them home to your garden. At least it gives them a reprieve for the time being. I am not sure how they would do locked in a bathromm at this stage but you could possibly try. Hopefully it will not come to this and FF can come up with a temporary solution. All the best:) <em>edited by Nomad on 19/07/2011</em>

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Latest post on 17 July 2011 - 09:19

Most of the things you can buy in a shop is available here. I won't bother about groceries, etc. It is kinda nice to try out new unknown brands... What I will pack is the personal things which make your house a home. Things like photos, sentimental and personal things. I have met plenty of people who said they only come out here for 2 years and then 5 or 8 years on they are still here. Bring things which you will miss when you are homesick. Bring ALL your original documents. Qualifications, birth and marriage certificates, drivers licences, etc. Everything. Even if you think you won't need it. You probably will at some point. If you have a pre-existing condition or illness, bring copies of your medical records Bring things which will make your children feel 'safe' and loved. Things like their favourite bedding or blanket, favourite toys, etc. If you can, bring that with you on the plane, so they have it with them from the beginning. If you are old fashioned like us and still have your music on CD's instead of on an iPod, bring that, or load it onto an iPod. Lastly, bring a positive attitude. thing are different and adjustment takes time. You will be happy here, but only if you decide to be. Good luck! What a great list really good advice , love the bit about the attitude. So true.

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Latest post on 15 July 2011 - 04:24

@saintlouismama, I just loved the herding story,we had rotties and dobies and they did exactly the same. All were rescues by the way,amazing dogs.

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Latest post on 15 July 2011 - 02:16

I do think that the woman's lib movement has caused women to be under so much pressure to be superwoman these days and all i see are guilty tired stressed mums and that's not good for her or the kids, the joke is all the working mums i know are stressed off their faces and get even less quality time with their kids cause they are to tired yet all their wages go on childcare and it kind of makes you think why bother. Why blame feminism when the fault clearly lies with inflexible workplace expectations which take men with SAHM wives as the default mode, rather than assuming employees of either *** with children are sharing childcare responsibilities? Feminism has only been a force for good - though it's still far from achieving many of its goals - it's the world of work that needs to catch up and institute more flexible models of work that reflect how men and women with children really live. Excellent argument Custard Apple the secret is co parenting. In our day my Dh wouldn't have dreamt of changing a nappy 1or2, yet my son does as much as DIL does re child care.The work place attitude has to change however, in Canada we are moving forward in some aspects.The mother or father can take maternity leave for a year.A definate step in the right direction but more work to be done.

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Latest post on 15 July 2011 - 02:07

Awww girls that was so sweet, thank you. The best way is to be honest with MIL in a direct but kind way. I know some of them take absolutely no notice though ie. my MIL ( she is since deceased) but try anyway. It just made me more determined to do the exact oppisite to what she did to me.Hopefully we can look forward to a whole batch of wonderful MIL's in the future LOL. Sorry for hijacking Two Kids started off with 3 yrs olds and summer camp, ended up MIL thread......but in a nice way. ;)

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Latest post on 14 July 2011 - 19:36

@ Rumour - kudos for the apology for Two Kids. @ Two kids - it was no doubt partly due to my comeback at Rumour that closed the post. I just spent the last 6 years raising 2 kids on my own, (hubby at the weekends), running a business from home in a country I don't even speak the language. I averaged 4 hrs sleep a night of which it was always broken sleep due to breastfeeding and night waking toddlers. I breastfed each child for 12 mths and know how pleasurable, but time consuming this is. Can't go anywhere, do anything because you are on call. I can count on one hand the number of times I went to a restaurant over the past 5 years as we had no baby sitter that I could trust with children so young. I literally had a breakdown last year because the workload was too much. The only thing that got my life back was to send my kids to kindergarten and pre-school. Let's face it, it is not SCHOOL, it is PRE-school in a school building. When I was with my kids, my mind was only half there because I had so many things to do for my business - I felt guilty. Then when I was working, I felt guilty about not spending enough time with the kids. I couldn't win either way I looked at it. Couldn't work because they wanted to play, so I played but was quick to finish so I could get back to my deadlines. Needless to say this wasn't good for anyone. The day I put them into their respective day cares, I started to breathe. They were so happy to play and mix with friends, coming home singing, showing me their artwork etc. I could then allocated guilt free time with them after this because I had the time to work in the mornings. Everybody was happy. My DD was fine, no crying, but my DS gave me some grief - they simply have 2 different personalities. My DS though, would stop crying the minute I left and would have a blast for the rest of the day and didn't want to come home when I picked him up. I would imagine that your child would probably love the summer camp you proposed, but since this was an 'out of the blue' thing, she would have a hard time leaving you after spending so much quality time with you. Any child would have done this. It was maybe just too big of a change too quickly. I put my DS into a summer camp which was part of his nursery. This meant that he saw the same teachers, and the same kids that he already knew. I could not have put my DS into a summer camp, just for a week, if he didn't know anyone.I am sure she just needs a little more time to the adjustment and things would work out just fine for you. Raising kids is an incredibly tough job, but such a rewarding one. Each Mum has to find her own way to find her own balance. There are no matyrs - no way is better than the other - it's just what works for all in YOUR family that counts the most. My mother-in-law would always say to me, still does, well I did this, this and this on my own with no help. Well clap, clap, clap for her. If she is so proud of her achievements, then why does she always have to bring it up with a bitter voice. Don't let ANYONE bully you into thinking you have done something wrong. I hate conflict, and I rarely react like I did last night, but Rumour's comments made me so irate because of the way she said them. Then she made me even more angrier by admitting that she doesn't have any kids and yet she had such harsh criticism. I just could not simply sit back and read such things. Two kids - you sound like a great Mum! Do what you think is best and stuff the rest! @SuzyDuzy really good post. As a MIL and G mother I think it is really important to keep " in touch " with how things have changed as far a child rearing since I had little ones. I had a MIL from h*ll and swore I would never put anyone through what I went through. I love my DIL dearly don't always agree with what she does ( but keep the lip shut !!) , but I am the granny, the back up when they need me. We have some touchy times when my son pipes up and says " my mom didn't do it that way",but we get by that with a well aimed kick in the shin LOL.... Child rearing has changed so drasticaally over the last 30 yrs since I had my boys ( the wooden spoon worked overtime in our house). There was no such thing as a cell or a home computor and the general pace of life was much slower.We weren't "on call" to all and sundry 24/7 with texting etc.At times I honestly don't know how mothers cope in todays world. These cyber chats( yes I know thanks to the home computor he he ) are a wonderful tool a really good way to swop ideas etc. We should always remember to chat online as if that person was sitting infront of us. @ Rumour your apology was most sincere ,well done, not an easy thing to do. As you have said it has made you think differently about having and raising children. @ Two kids you sound so much happier today, armed with a whole lot of new opinions and ideas which I think is what you wanted initially. Have a good week end ladies.

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Latest post on 14 July 2011 - 01:24

To all who have family/friends in Mumbai our prayers and thoughts are with you.

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Latest post on 13 July 2011 - 18:38

Oh, I've had to chuckle as this thread develops. Every three-year-old is different and every three-year-old will react to structured sessions - such as summer camp - differently. There could be many reasons why the OP's LO didn't want to go that particular day (and, let's face it, many of those could simply be toddler 'I-don't-want-to' reasons). On the face of it I definitely don't think she's trying to farm her kids out because she can't be bothered to look after them, as some posters have so eloquently suggested. We all do what we need to do. Rumour, come back when you have kids. I don't mean that in a mean way but honestly, you can have all the plans in the world and you simply have no clue how it's going to be when it actually happens. I was never, ever, ever going to let a child of mine play with things just to shut them up/feed them snacks for an extra ten minutes in the supermarket/let them throw food/give them chocolate/and so on. Then I had a child. @ Dubaicat Loved your post. @Rumour I think you have valid points but just touching on your posts some of your responses are very angry. I think what many are saying is you don't have to agree with the origional poster, everyone is entitled to an opinion. How you voice that opinion is important. A very valid point is when you have had children many of the pre concieved ideas we have go right out of the window. I always remember the saying " unless you have walked a mile in my shoes ". @Two kids I was a stay at home mom,my grandchildren have had to go to day care from age 1. I can honestly say that they are well rounded enjoy day care and cry when they can't go when sick. The fact that you came on the forum to ask adivice is an indication of just how seriously you are looking at all issues. All the best.

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Latest post on 13 July 2011 - 17:55

Lab has been homed by Friends of Animals, and circumstances of original owner surrendering her dog was a very tough one. Trying to contact her to let her know he is in good hands. If anyone knows who she is, pls pass on to contact friends of animals. Sniffy, I can't tell you how happy I was to read your post this morning. Sorry can't help re origional owner I just wanted to make sure that his story reached as many people as possible. I worried about him all night ...... Hopefully someone knows the origional owner and can pass on the good news.

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Latest post on 13 July 2011 - 00:10

The saga continues for any of you familiar with my cat dilema. My parents originally promised to keep my cat at home with them until August when I visited, and I was excited about sending him to my cousin at that point, I had it all figured out as of two days ago. Then I was told today that my parents actually already sent him to a new home last week without telling me. I feel so silly being so emotional about this, but can't help how I feel =( I thought I would at least get the chance to say goodbye. I am so sorry you didn't get the chance to make these decisions yourself but it does sound like he is with a good person. It does not take long for a person to become a "cat" person. The cat will no doubt teach her how to cope ( we do all live with our cats and not the other way around LOL). Does this lady correspond on the net? if so start a bit of a dialogue with her, giving a bit of guidance as to his likes dislikes etc. his little habits.What food he likes the fact that he is de clawed and how he must stay inside for his own safety etc. I have always found that if I send a foster cat to their new home armed with a list of what they like and don't like habits etc. it helps the new family no end. Ask her to send you updates of his progress and some photos from time to time. You have done all you can to try and sort the problem , but sometimes these things are taken out of our hands for one reason or another. Don't say goodbye say see you later. Big hugs

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Latest post on 12 July 2011 - 00:18

Ficus does have a wondering root system but not as invasive as cornicarpus. I don't know about damask is it another name for cornicarpus? We lived in DSO and the peolpe who had planted the cornicarpus trees were having to have them removed as they were doing major damage. I planted a whole bunch of pointsiana (flame tree ) and they were/are beautiful. They grow very quickly, however the only negative was the leaves drop off in Jan/Feb. My neighbour watered them after we left DXB ( they were way to big to be moved ) as you know all water and sprinkler systems are switched off and removed. The new tenants were so grateful. Remember everything grows very quickly in DXB you honestly don't have to pay extra for the bigger trees/plants. Happy gardening

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Latest post on 11 July 2011 - 20:21

I saw the initial thread over BB. How cruel and inresponsible people can be. That said I feel cruel as wel I experience nowadays so many cats dumped in Al Khail Gate. From December I have fed one cat Minky who has a snipped ear and would love to have a permanent home. The cat is used to children and other cats and wants a lot of cuddles and a cooler an quiet environment then the streets of Al Quoz. Since a month I am feeding now up to five cats on and off who at least two got dumped. Since yesterday the bowls with food and water got removed, I got informed that it is not allowed to feed animals and that they have informed municipality. I hope Minky knows how to hide, unfortunately I cannot keep her inside as my cat would kill her. I can not afford cat noise as I am living in a staff accommodation and my neighbours would be on my case. I think the most difficult thing to come to terms with when working with rescuing etc. is that we can't save them all. The way I look at it is one saved is a success. Another way you can help is to try and curb the breeding in the area. Get hold of FF or any of the other rescue organisations and ask their assistance with the Trap Neuter and Release scheme. It improves the general health of the street cat and does help to break the cycle to some extent. Believe me you are not cruel in any sense of the word. You are trying to help which is a lot more than many people in DXB do. Best wishes:)

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Latest post on 11 July 2011 - 08:42

I was chatting to Chocs01 and I think it was SalsB ( middle of the night in DXB as I am in Canada ) and woosh it was gone...... Probably a good thing as for some it is more important to be right than doing the right thing. Hope the little fellow is doing well and your new "house guests" have arrived. Keep up the good work.

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Latest post on 11 July 2011 - 01:28

Just confirm that they are not Cornicarpus (sp) If so they have the most invasive root system that literally lifts the foundations of garden walls. Not a good tree to have in the garden. They grow fast but nothing will grow under them.Very difficult to control as they just keep on growing upward. HTH

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Latest post on 10 July 2011 - 18:35

Yay! Perfect solution! How fortunate for you both! As to taking him back in a couple of years ... why not just wait and see how things go? When you do relocate back, go see him, see how he's settled in. You'll know the best decision to make when the time comes. For now ... just ... Yay! He'll be in a loving home w/someone you know! That's a good feeling to live with. I agree great solution,wait until you get back in two years or as my mum used to say " cross that bridge when you come to it ". The main thing is he will be in a loving home with family while you are away. All the best:)

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Latest post on 09 July 2011 - 23:29

What I usually did was to wear an old t shirt for a few days without deo,( sounds gross I know but I would only wear it for an hour or 2 and then have a shower ! ) to make sure it had my scent. I would put it in the grate with my kitties. Not sure if it worked but it made me feel better..... I would also have the crate around for a few weeks before travel.Then put a bit of catnip inside with their favorite toys to encourage them to play inside it. At one point I even had them eating in the crate. The trick was not to use the same crate to take them to the vet for checkups, it is the smell that sticks to it. My vets always advised against tranquilizers, but you could have a word with your vets and ask their opinion. It is very difficult the first time you ship your pets, I was a basket case, but it all worked out in the end. Good luck

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Latest post on 09 July 2011 - 01:23

Hever Castle I remember seeing Anne Boleyn's diary she kept while in the tower. The gardens were magnificent,even though it was raining!!. One of the places I would like to visit a 2nd time. <em>edited by Nomad on 09/07/2011</em>

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Latest post on 06 July 2011 - 09:17

What I find really disturbing is the crowds of people who have invaded the G parents suburb to get a look at where the Anthonys live. Some came from the other side of the country to have their pictures taken in front of the house !! There has also been a stampede of people at the site where the little body was found.Once more taking pictures of each other standing at the little memorial. Just my opinion but it gave me the creeps, it's one thing to pay respects but this was like a sight seeing tour.

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Latest post on 06 July 2011 - 08:17

I watched parts of the trial live on HLN. It caught my interest as I have a G daughter the same age as Cayley, and of course it is all over the media here in North America. Those poor Grand parents have been to h*ll and back.Firstly she accuses her father and brother of abuse and then she says her father got rid of the body after an accidental drowning. The lies she constantly told were unbelieveable and her lack of emotion in the court room was just plain wierd. My heart goes out to the G parents as the days/months/years ahead will be really difficult. They really loved their precious G daughter and must miss her terribly. RIP little Caylee <em>edited by Nomad on 06/07/2011</em>

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Latest post on 05 July 2011 - 19:23

I have done it both ways ie. transported animals to new country and,on other occasions, left them at home when I had family to look after them. You must always think what is best for the animal. Seeing you are only going to be in DXB for 2 years and you say your cat is not used to crating,it might not be a good idea. Our last posting in DXB was meant to be 8 years plus but due to unforseen circumstances we only did 2.5 yrs. I am now so glad that I left the furries at home, even though they have travelled to so many times( are well seasoned" jet setters" LOL....)it saved us all so much drama and stress. I did miss them terribly though. Trust your gut you know what is best for your kitty. Hope all goes well for you. Best wishes :)

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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 19:32

simpleasabc and Ladies, Happy Canada Day from Canada, sun is shining flags are flying,a lovely day for ice lollies and sunscreen... All the best:)

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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 19:03

zena80, Have you considered not using a shelter either in DXB or Canada ( shelters are mainly for abandoned animals, they might think you are trying to dump the animal on them even though this is not so in your case). What I mean is either arranging to ship herto Canada have your friends collect her and then put her in a kennel there until you arrive. Or put her in a kennel in DXB and have her shipping arranged once you arrive in Canada. Dubai Kennels and Cattery are wonderful I believe and would probably be able to arrange everything for you.This is their business,or I am sure they could steer you in the right direction. I would love to help out in Canada but do not have a secure area for a dog and at present we have 10 cats inside and out,who are not dog friendly. Best of luck <em>edited by Nomad on 01/07/2011</em>

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Latest post on 21 June 2011 - 01:04

Hi Babbs, Where have you been hiding !!!! Your new babies are soooo cute, what do the other two think of the new kids. I wonder if they know their a***s have fallen in the butter !! Keep well my friend

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Latest post on 21 June 2011 - 00:55

Hi DDD, My Grandson 18 mths, started having night terrors at 12 mths. Much younger than your son . My DIL took him to the Pead who said pretty much what the other posted have suggested.GS had them for two weeks straight, my poor DIL was at her wits end. He said pre bed time routine is very important,and that she should document time duration etc . and what he did. He suggested one of the reasons was that they get stuck between REM sleep and normal sleep and can't transition over. DIL was to see if the terror happened same time every night and then to wake him up at least an hour before terror time, then let him go back to sleep. She did this and it seemed to make the terrors less traumatic. I know your son doesn't seem to be having them night after night so this would probably not help too much in your case. I would urge you to see a pead as it really helped DIL to know that it was reasonably normal for her LO to have these. Little monkey was happy as a clam next day no worse off, as has been mentioned they don't remember anything. It seems that his trigger was teething ( no help for your situation ) but it could be something just as simple. All the best

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Latest post on 16 June 2011 - 19:31

Hi Caroline, Thanks for this list, will pass it on over here. Hope all is well, hi to all at NAS. Hugs from Canada. (Squirts/Chloe's foster mom ....)

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Latest post on 16 June 2011 - 19:18

Dogcatcher Great post, you put it brilliantly.Animals are for life,their life not to be disposed of when they don't fit in with your plans. It has cost me an untold fortune to ship animals around the world,6 countries in all.When coming to Dubai I had the good fortune to be able to leave the brood at home in Canada.However we realised that we couldn't take on any more strays as pets so decided to help out and foster.It filled the need to have my furries around give love and get so very much in return. Sorry wondering a bit...... but please all those out there thinking of bringing pets or getting pets while living an expat lifestyle THEY ARE PART OF THE FAMILY and deserve a plane ticket. I am not having a go at those that find themselves in a bind ie having to leave suddenly trying to find a homes etc.(moo moo I think you are amazing a real animal angel,taking care of all your babies before leaving arohadxb I am keeping everything crossed for Kacie). @ CIAC Please consider the advice given by previous posters re Singapore a very dog friendly city/country. All the best :) <em>edited by Nomad on 16/06/2011</em>

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Latest post on 09 June 2011 - 06:45

Granola what a lovely message. When I got to the end I could hardly see the words through the tears. We can learn so much from animals.

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Latest post on 02 June 2011 - 22:40

Had to laugh about the Tramadol been there got the t shirt. Took it on the plane on the way home from Dubai,for a bit of relief WOW.......spaced out for the entire flight. When we went through customs I was slurring!! I am sure they thought "way too much vino lady...."

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Latest post on 02 June 2011 - 20:25

Thx JS, A really good source of information was the internet. After starting with the weekly injections I would be laid up for a day or so and sit surfing the net looking for all the info I could find... Please let us know how you get on.;)

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Latest post on 02 June 2011 - 19:37

JS, I have had back trouble since late the late 70's and it got really bad 2 years ago.Went for an MRI in March they diagnosed severe spinal stenosis ( there are spurs/growths choking the spinal cord ,to put it bluntly). The pain was so bad that I could not straighten my back up when getting up from a sitting or lying position. The doctors sent me for facet injections from L1 right down to S1 (sacrel joint ). It took 8 weeks to complete the injections but I cannot believe the relief.This is not a cure but it does give you give you your life back and they can last for either 3, 6, or 12 months depending on the patient.A band aid as it were until you can have your op. Before the first injection I was terrified as I had no idea what they were going to do with me.The doctor was amazing and they expalined it all to me as they were going along.A local is injected into the area and under xray guidance they inject a dye to guide them to the area that is affected.A mixture of cortico steriod is then injected into the area. You feel a bit of pressure and bam it is all over. I know many folks are wary of corisone and steriods but they have helped me walk again and reduced the inflamation in my spinal joints. I tried acupuncture for 6 weeks but the doctors explained that my problem was too deep seated. I can only imagine what you are going through.Pain is an awful thing to have to deal with constantly, my DH says I am a different person since the injections. I must add I had these done in Canada but it falls under pain management in our health system.I noticed that the UK also has pain management. All the best and sending healing thoughts your way.:) <em>edited by Nomad on 02/06/2011</em>

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Latest post on 02 June 2011 - 03:50

Ummissa, As previous posters have said its normal for you to be upset. This is all new to you. When I had ferrel cats to look after I found that just sitting quietly in the room with them, not making any eye contact, really worked. The tuna idea SueB suggested works magic. I know you have little ones ( of the human variety he he ) to take care of aswell. I would often take a book into the room with me plonk myself down on a cushion and just move slowly.Every now and again just start chatting in a low voice.Eventually you will be able to win mom over first and babies will follow very quickly. You will be doing the babies such a favor by humanising them as they will be adoptable. Have to agree mom has to be spayed ASAP as she will be coming into season again very quickly and the whole thing starts all over again. All the best :)

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Latest post on 28 May 2011 - 19:42

marblesxx, Great post. It is all about the animals and what is best for them. Please help out if you can ladies, there is no better feeling than fostering and following up with a successful adoption.

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Latest post on 27 May 2011 - 06:11

As has been mentioned,before we find fault remember these are volunteers. The people who do the foster/adoption/general enquiries phone line and co ordinations are amazing. They give of themselves day in and out, while still carrying on with their own private lives. One can only imagine the stress involved on a daily basis.Having to say NO we can't help you just now we are full, over and over again. To all the volunteers THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart, the world is a better place for all our furry friends, due to your efforts. :)

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Latest post on 26 May 2011 - 17:49

jmt, Which garden centre was this ? I know there are a load of cats at the garden souk, the workers there feed them. While in Dubai I tried getting as many neutered as I could. I think the best you could possibly do is keep an eye on the situation, possibly supplement feeding mom with bikkies. I used to leave a packet with the workers. Once the babies have been weaned ask FF to help you to trap neuter and release all 3. Another option of course is to try and find them homes. sueB our kitty angel will I am sure add more advice. All the best :)

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Latest post on 25 May 2011 - 07:11

MrsL, You did totally the right thing, you stopped the suffering. As SueB says we save the ones we can and send those we can't over Rainbow Bridge. Hugs to you.

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Latest post on 14 May 2011 - 20:55

Hi Izzy99 Yes the alternative is r*ts ,I am sure we have all heard about the plague in the middle ages. There w*tch hunt that swept the country resulted in most of the cats being destroyed.The healers as I like to call them always had cats living with them and they became a casulty of these hunts. The result too many r*ts who hosted the fleas that caused the plague. History lesson over ladies ...LOL Please contact I.V. to voice your concern, the alternative is too terrible, and will not solve their problems long term. <em>edited by Nomad on 14/05/2011</em>

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Latest post on 09 May 2011 - 05:42

Hi JS, I have recntly been diagnosed with Osteoarthritis with further complications of Spinal Stenosis (they often go hand in hand ) Have done a bit of research and the osteo is not curable but has to be managed. As janesul said light excercise nothing jarring, walking not running swimming and cycling. I have recently had spinal injections to manage the pain in my lower back from the stenosis.This has alowed me to gradually return to a light excercise regamin which includes Yoga and stretching. There has been a marked improvement.....:) All the best. <em>edited by Nomad on 09/05/2011</em>

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Latest post on 07 May 2011 - 23:46

BD, From what I understand "they" are removed by slitting the sac and "they" are simply popped out! Thus leaving the sac behind. It will shrink over time. If it looks like there is any swelling etc. take him back to the vet for a check up. HTH Good on you for doing the deed.... <em>edited by Nomad on 07/05/2011</em>

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Latest post on 04 May 2011 - 03:44

JS I left Dubai over a year ago,but still pop in to read EW now and then. I love reading your posts and see myself in you so often !! A real push over when it comes to animals. While in Dubai I fostered for FF and manged to re home a total of nine cats. As previous posters have said go with your gut instinct. However there are a few basic rules I always stuck to. Always have the prosepctive new owners come round to you to meet the cat at your home. Watch to see how they interact with the cat all the while asking loads and loads of questions. For example: Do they have any animals,have they had any prevoiusly, have they had cats before and of coursemost importantly what are they going to do when/ if they leave the ME.I always advise that they put a little away every month in a seperate account to pay for travel expanses. It is also very important to get the rabies shots done every year for export to certain countries. Another big factor is it is really important that they bring a cat box with when they come to pick up the cat, this shows that they are serious.I have sent people away to go and buy a box before I released the kitty ! As far as the donation is concerned, it is really important that you getsome consideration for the kitty because this once again shows commitment to the kitty. I would also always stress that if there was any doubt and they didn't know if the cat was the right fit, that they were to please bring it back right away. No judging or questions asked. This happened once and I was so glad that I had stressed this point. Any of the cat welfare onganisation would be so pleased to receive the donation. Envelopes are available at a few of the vets that collect for them ( names on FF website ). Fostering is the ultimate in selfless love and so terribly rewarding. The hardest part is letting go and handing over to the new family, however after a few days you feel a little better and are looking for the next needy soul. HTH Thank you for your tireless efforts in helping our furry friends . :):)

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Latest post on 02 April 2011 - 17:49

Hi crimson, I got it in the States but they assured me they ship anywhere in the world. Visit www.Menersa.com. Hope it is as succesful for you. I really do feel for you with the hot flushes. Best of luck

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