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Latest post on 18 February 2014 - 10:46
Hi oopsiedaisy. I do know that the reason the organisers have said no reselling is due to people making a massive profit. I know the other year there were people standing outside the gate trying to sell their tickets but at a discounted rate. Maybe some of your friends would be willing to buy them from you? Hi MissS Don't judge before you know the facts. I was outside the tennis stadium at 6 am the morning tickets went on sale, and bought the tickets I wanted for my own use. Have done so for 3 years now and watched the touts blatantly misuse the event, in the open, no organisers preventing them from doing so. Last year one of our friends couldn't make it to the finals and I sold that ticket via EW at the normal ticket price. This year we can luckily all make it. So no, nor me or my friends would buy from touts at ridiculous rates. I was merely responding to Izzy who apparently has the same problem I had last year. If someone has a spare ticket and is willing to sell it at the regular price because something unforeseen happened I really see no harm in offering someone the opportunity of watching a good game of tennis. edited by Oopsiedaisy on 18/02/2014 <em>edited by Oopsiedaisy on 18/02/2014</em>
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Latest post on 18 February 2014 - 08:35
Dubizzle advertises them all the time. Really, it's last minute now, I don't see any harm in regular posters selling a ticket or two because plans have changed. Happens all the time and you can hardly call us touts.
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Latest post on 12 February 2014 - 14:19
I prefer email then I have everything in writing should a problem arise ;-) yeah i know... just joking Me too, but it's a shame we don't know where the LL will be when they open said email :) Probably driving his Ferrari 150 km/hr on SZR causing a huge traffic accident. So don't worry, we'll know ?
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Latest post on 12 February 2014 - 12:10
dont you wish you wish you were a fly on the wall for that one.... (evil streak) I would love to be there when he hears that. Hahahaha oooh - lets organise an EW event...... MODS????? Will it be over 40 without kids ?
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Latest post on 12 February 2014 - 11:34
Banana milk shake.
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Latest post on 12 February 2014 - 11:15
It is hard for us to find a good maid and it is equally hard for many maids to find a good employer as well. We are leaving in the summer and will have to let ours go. Still many months till summer and already I am anxious for her. Hoping that she will find a new family that will appreciate her as much as we do. Hoping that she will get at least the same salary or more. Hoping the employer will let her eat what they eat or at least give her food allowance. Hoping the child or children and/or pet will like and even love her like ours do. All these are in my mind. She might be my employee and what happen to her in the future will not affect us in any way but I can't help feeling that if I know she will be alright, then I can leave Dubai in peace. She is in no way perfect but where it matters, she is. I am not advertising but I just want to say that good maids are out there just as good employers are out there for them too ;-) Does luck has anything to do with it? I honestly don't know. Nice post Blimey! We currently have a lovely maid ourselves, have had in the past as well and we still visit her and her family in her home country every now and then. I too believe in responsibility after the working relationship (provided it was a good one) has ended. To the OP, I see where dogs can make it hard to find a maid. All I can say it that you will probably find one whose expectations meet yours in the end. it will just take time.
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Latest post on 10 February 2014 - 21:04
OP, the problem with accepting "unpaid" family help is that you cannot necessarily dictate how the family is approaching the way they raise your kid. Sure, you have the right to be upset, you have explained how you want your DS to be raised. However you have to accept your MIL does it differently. All MIL's do, so will you 40 years from now. So if you have a problem with MIL hire professional help. I really think that it is a bit derogatory to call a MIL 'unpaid help'!!! For some reason in this society, money seems to play a part in everything. I see this as a case of MIL doing her best to keep a screaming child quiet in the middle of the night, so that her DIL could have a good sleep, as she is pregnant and also working. Don't you think that this was an act of kindness? Yes there are many ways to bring up children, and I know that nowadays stricter routines are the order of the day but there are also times when so-called rules may be broken with no long term damage. edited by Pink Lily on 10/02/2014 Aren't we saying the same here? Isn't "unpaid help" the equivalent of volunteering in this case? As you I'm of the opinion OP should be grateful to her MIL. Sorry if my post suggested differently by a wrong choice of words.
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Latest post on 10 February 2014 - 20:35
And ladies, let's try not to turn this thread into another "Dubai is such a bad place" thread. We've had enough of these already. Really, life can and will be stressful in any country on this lovely planet of ours. So true Marroosh. Given the fact that the UAE is only 42 years old, they have done an amazing thing compared to many other countries that have been establishing their systems for hundreds of years (and still aren't perfect).
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Latest post on 10 February 2014 - 12:46
OP, the problem with accepting "unpaid" family help is that you cannot necessarily dictate how the family is approaching the way they raise your kid. Sure, you have the right to be upset, you have explained how you want your DS to be raised. However you have to accept your MIL does it differently. All MIL's do, so will you 40 years from now. So if you have a problem with MIL hire professional help.
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Latest post on 10 February 2014 - 12:34
Good news indeed. Here's the link: http://www.dubailand.gov.ae/english/Tanzeem/Rentals/Rental_Increase_Calculator.aspx And of course he knows, they all do!
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Latest post on 09 February 2014 - 21:35
Living in a stand-alone villa in Jumeirah 1. Loving it! Wouldn't consider anywhere else. Whaling distance to the beach and Mercato as well as the smallish malls in "old juneirah". And an extremely reasonable rent AND landlord makes it possible for us to live here.
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Latest post on 09 February 2014 - 19:19
Depending on the circumstances you have several options: - you can ask her to take her annual leave while you're away. (Some will say you can make her, personally I think that's unfair) - you can take her with you. - If she lives out, you could cut her hours and ask her to come in every other day or so. - Let her do things she never has the time for. - Let her do the grocery shopping and cooking when you're husband is here. When we're away she comes in to water the plants, sweep the terraces, makes sure the house is oke etc. Basically it's just her luck, and I'm fine with that.
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Latest post on 09 February 2014 - 08:12
Thanks DT, doesn't give me exactly what I was looking for, but it's something at least.
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Latest post on 07 February 2014 - 22:26
Ikea has lots of different sizes. Maybe you can try them. The costs are usually in the doors though, cabinets are dead cheap. Could you do it 59/50 with the landlord? We did and he was very happy to cooperate as it increased the value of his property.
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Latest post on 07 February 2014 - 13:10
How can they not if someone is asking for a recommendation??? A genuine recommendation is not commercial. It turns commercial when people (usually new posters) start promoting their own business.
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Latest post on 07 February 2014 - 13:05
How do cupcakes and hairdresser's threads always turn commercial??
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Latest post on 07 February 2014 - 13:03
There's a nice fish restaurant near the Aquarium, I believe it's called Samach.
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Latest post on 07 February 2014 - 11:29
Congratulations! You don't mention how many days you have, but for a perfect long weekend I would choose Ziggy Bay.
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Latest post on 07 February 2014 - 11:24
I guess you have con's anywhere at anytime. Religion or culture have nothing to do with it. Hope you bounce back Basil.
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Latest post on 07 February 2014 - 00:30
Just to let you all know, we noticed that Baskin Robbins vouchers have been removed from the app; they were in there a few weeks ago. My other half has contacted The Entertainer so I will post their response. Not a good sign that they can just remove vouchers from the app, but hopefully there is a good reason for this. On the other hand, if they' can remove they can also add new ones. The Dubai book is indeed split in two, but you buy them as a package. You cannot buy them separate.
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Latest post on 06 February 2014 - 07:47
The new permitted rent rises of 15-20 percent will most likely have many ex-pats leaving this year. It's not just a matter of affordability but also how much money you want to spend on rent. I've also noticed that the cost of food have gone up. That is why all existing tenants need to stand firm with regards to LL trying to kick them out to increase the rent when the calculator says different :-) Like Like Like :) If we all stand firm hopefully some LL will soon realise that it's better to have good sitting tenants paying a reasonable rent, that trying to get impossible rents and hence no money coming in. I agree tenants should stand firm if rent calculator says different, but how about if it doesn't? In many cases the calculator does indicate a 15% increase. A tenant doesn't have a leg to stand on if he/she disagrees. So they agree, and next year the average will go up again and so on.... And it's all still a bubble, the media are fooling us into thinking Dubai us booming, I just don't buy it, but what can you do if you want or have to live here? Besides, it not much better in most other countries.
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Latest post on 05 February 2014 - 09:17
[..........it would be better if these threads stayed clear of opinion and remained helpful. READ MY POSTS: " They cycle anywhere between 40 and 60 km per hour, roads will remain closed 3 hours max.
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Latest post on 05 February 2014 - 09:15
I'm all for such an event, just annoyed they should have informed us sooner so we could plan! DD's nursery just e-mailed now that they are closed tomorrow and now I have to scramble and figure out what to do, since DH and I both have work. If they had told us a week ago, could have planned better, thats all :\ People who don't have children in schools/nurseries don't quite understand such things. You can't rest Lolacat, can you. I do understand and have said so before, read my posts. But these things happen in Dubai all the time. Get used to it.
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Latest post on 05 February 2014 - 08:57
When you have to collect children from school (if schools stay open) or meet children off school buses it is rather critical for people to work out whether they will actually be able to get there. You cannnot just 'wait and see what happens' if you are responsible for others. If I was a non-working mother I might choose to keep my children at home for the day but, as most employers are unlikely to give a day off, it could be a problem for many! I know, but as I said: you don't control it and can't do anything about it. Soo based on your statement parents should be irresponsible and just sit back and wait and see and not try to plan ahead? I wonder how many children you have in various schools in Dubai and what your plan is? All advice is surely appreciated. You are missing the point (mine that is), which is why keep whining about things you have no control about. Posters have been whining for 2 days no, nobody has anything useful to say, nobody has come up with any useful suggestion. IMO the various maps re pretty clear, plan around it and if you can't call the school what's happening. If you have a maid or sitter good for you, if you s don't take a day of. And if you can't you have a problem, but being glued to EW will not solve it. Sorry.
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Latest post on 05 February 2014 - 08:43
Personally, i think it is great for Dubai to host the cycling tour.... But you have to admit, they could have informed everybody just a little earlier though! They never do, so why change now?
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Latest post on 05 February 2014 - 08:30
When you have to collect children from school (if schools stay open) or meet children off school buses it is rather critical for people to work out whether they will actually be able to get there. You cannnot just 'wait and see what happens' if you are responsible for others. If I was a non-working mother I might choose to keep my children at home for the day but, as most employers are unlikely to give a day off, it could be a problem for many! I know, but as I said: you don't control it and can't do anything about it.
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Latest post on 05 February 2014 - 08:29
i recall reading that they should finish at 4.30 pm They'll cycle anywhere between 40 and 60 km per hour.
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Latest post on 05 February 2014 - 08:24
Personally, i think it is great for Dubai to host the cycling tour.... Amen to that!
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Latest post on 05 February 2014 - 08:22
Not strictly directed at OP but at posters of the other thread as well,...why can't you just wait and see what happens. I know I know, everyone is busy having to do school runs and driving back and forth to work. But really, this is Dubai, things happen and there's nothing you can do to control or change that. At OP, my guess would be 3 hours max.
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Latest post on 03 February 2014 - 11:46
Don't think so. (Hope not!)
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Latest post on 03 February 2014 - 11:37
In the final analysis, does it matter what the renumeration is called? Except of course that under the old system, ESB costs to the company were much less if the base was padded out by additional allowances. In a more mature employment market the base salary itself would be commensurate with the cost of living which would also remove one of the more feudal aspects of employment in UAE. As it stood the discretionary allowance system was open to abuse as many posters have found to their cost when company policies have changed overnight. Also, Dubai is no longer the extra paying "hardship" posting of twenty years ago, for Western expats it is no longer the Eldorado it once was, their skills can be sourced more locally and a great deal more cheaply. Arh yes cheap, always a good investment for a forward thinking company. lol Opinion based and massive generalisation.
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Latest post on 03 February 2014 - 11:31
We can work in other places, we choose not to. If we wanted to live somewhere else then we would move. I am not complaining about a loss of housing, I was just pointing out that there are plenty of people that work in these positions that do not get stupid amounts of money thrown at them and there are qualified people in many fields who would be more than hapy with just a tax free salary and some sunshine, they dont NEED to be making 3 times the amount they make in their home countries to move A rather simplistic and bias view perhaps? It's all about perspective really isn't it? You recently posted about sourcing a what many would term a luxury holiday, cook, maids, driver, i remember chuckling about it as you mentioned having a one year old and jokingly mentioning having to go back to Maldives if you couldn't find what you wanted. Not needing to make 3 times their salary is your view based on your situation not the view of many who have older kids to put through school, need larger accommodation etc and still probably can not afford a holiday in the Maldives, it's all about perspective. edited by Lolacat on 03/02/2014 I think mumofmoo is spot on actually. It all depends on your salary whether or not you can afford holidays to the Maldives. In most countries families with children cannot afford luxuries or expensive holidays, so they do without. Here in Dubai middle class families seem to think Maldives, Thailand or whatever holidays are part of the package without realising how privileged they are.
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Latest post on 03 February 2014 - 10:11
I used to have a full time career before we moved abroad. One of the conditions for me to give that up was that I would never have to live on an allowance or ask for money. So yes, I have full access to our finances, including credit and debit cards. I never ask, neither does DH.
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Latest post on 03 February 2014 - 09:47
Can't find them anywhere. Loads of mince around and those fillet things, but no pieces. My family are missing their Thursday night curry :-) I would be grateful if anybody sees any to let us know. Thanks. How about cutting the "fillet things" into pieces?
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Latest post on 03 February 2014 - 09:45
I for one find that a very good development. As long as the good ones stay around I don't see any harm in it. It will also decrease the rises in rents, utilities and costs in general. So bring it on. Isnt that a bit naive ? :) We have seen this in the late 90s as well, and what happens is 1 costlier staff is replaced by a cheaper staff and then eventually the 1 cheaper staff turns into 3 cheap staff who end up doing the same job. Housing rents have no reason to come down just because cheaper staff are being hired Singapore has had the same thing over last few years. Native Singaporeans and costlier expats being replaced by PRC's and other South east Asians, yet rents and costs have not come down, and have only increased Dubai already has a huge single population, do we really want a city with moslty singles without families, and few families? With respect to the decrease in prices it may be naive, you're right. However who says that cheaper expats who do the jobs are single or come without families? There may be a shift in nationalities, but many non-western expats are equally, if not higher, qualified and have better work ethics than many so called western high flyers. Slight generalisation there! Well, I did say many, not all ;-) And isn't this forum all about generalisation?
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Latest post on 03 February 2014 - 09:43
Yes please, any suggestions?
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Latest post on 03 February 2014 - 09:39
I for one find that a very good development. As long as the good ones stay around I don't see any harm in it. It will also decrease the rises in rents, utilities and costs in general. So bring it on. Isnt that a bit naive ? :) We have seen this in the late 90s as well, and what happens is 1 costlier staff is replaced by a cheaper staff and then eventually the 1 cheaper staff turns into 3 cheap staff who end up doing the same job. Housing rents have no reason to come down just because cheaper staff are being hired Singapore has had the same thing over last few years. Native Singaporeans and costlier expats being replaced by PRC's and other South east Asians, yet rents and costs have not come down, and have only increased Dubai already has a huge single population, do we really want a city with moslty singles without families, and few families? With respect to the decrease in prices it may be naive, you're right. However who says that cheaper expats who do the jobs are single or come without families? There may be a shift in nationalities, but many non-western expats are equally, if not higher, qualified and have better work ethics than many so called western high flyers.
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Latest post on 03 February 2014 - 09:35
Another development that I have seen in action over the last 12 months is the introduction of a hypothetical tax on earnings. This basically means that the company will stop an amount from your salary equivalent to the tax that you would have paid if you had been assessed under you home tax regime. However, rather than this amount being paid to the tax authority, it is retained by the employer. Obviously the impact of this policy will vary from nationality to nationality. Interesting times to be an expat in Dubai... How can they possibly do that? Yes, this is called a Tax Sharing Agreement and many multinational companies are trying to implement this where they have offices in different regions. if you are tax exempt from your home country how on earth can a company legally do this? The company can put whatever they want in their contract. They're not obligated to give you allowances, they do. They don't have to tax you, they can. Our previous company did this, called it Hypotax (as in hypothetical tax).
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Latest post on 03 February 2014 - 00:53
Not saying it's going to be a general thing or anything like that, but it's probably fair to say that there are enough signs out there to predict that expensive Western expats are going to be less prominent in Dubai in the coming years. I for one find that a very good development. As long as the good ones stay around I don't see any harm in it. It will also decrease the rises in rents, utilities and costs in general. So bring it on.
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Latest post on 03 February 2014 - 00:15
I clean the pool myself. Really no big deal, maybe 20 minutes once a week, tops. And for me it's very comforting to know that I'm the one in charge of the chemicals, so no one puts anything in the pool that I'm not aware of.
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Latest post on 02 February 2014 - 17:10
I have not get bought the Entertainer as I was hoping to find it free with something else. I signed up for the National but did not receive anything? Has anyone else. National only started to do this promo about a week back, I got sms from them about it....if you subscribed earlier there was no promo Yes, got the same text. When I renewed 1 month ago, I asked would there be a discount, they said no. Personally I find this a bit misleading, so I will definitely not renew again next year.
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Latest post on 02 February 2014 - 17:06
There was a sneaky discount 2 weeks ago: Buy one Entertainer and get the body at 60% discount. Well, I already bought the others, so that was no help.
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Latest post on 02 February 2014 - 17:04
Why not ask HR if it is correct that you haven't received your salary yet? Chances are you haven't been fully processed. See what they say and take it from there.
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Latest post on 02 February 2014 - 17:02
I would NEVER deduct from her salary. But if as you say you have sat her down and discussed the issue many times, I would not renew her contract.
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Latest post on 29 January 2014 - 13:37
I'm not going to ban her - I made it very clear before hiring her that traveling was a must and she had no objections. As I mentioned before, I really think what's keeping her from leaving to Europe is the fact that she has a boyfriend now. And yes, we've all had to do things for work that we didn't want to do - that's how life is, there are no exceptions. I wouldn't ban her, but I wouldn't renew her visa/contract either. She obviously has other priorities now. Since her visa expires beginning of February, put her on a plane back to Sri Lanka. As long as she's in the country she's your responsibility, and given the fact that her father lives her it's too easy to stay (and fool around with her boyfriend). As for you, it's tough to find a new maid, but it cannot be more stress than the stress you're under right now.
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Latest post on 29 January 2014 - 13:21
I did it earlier this month. Your maid needs to go to the consulate and bring: 1. Immigration Contract (original) of the worker with two (2) xerox copies; 2. Original passport of the worker 3. Passport copy of the sponsor and the worker - two (2) xerox copies; 4. Residence Visa copy of the worker - two (2) xerox copies; 5. If the sponsor is non local, she should include two (2) sposnor's residence visa copy 6. Affidavit of undertaking of sponsor 7. Information sheet of sponsor The forms mentioned in 6 and 7 can be downloaded from this page: http://www.polodubai.com/how-to-get-an-oec.html Make sure your maid goes there very early, as the wait is long and they only proceed a limited number each day. The consulate will issue the OEC at a cost of 40 AED
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Latest post on 25 January 2014 - 21:05
Sorry ladies but the moral outrage on here is almost as silly as the man's comments. Just scroll through any of the "Maid" threads. Well said !! Agree, the hypocrisy is outstanding. Totally with you ladies. Not just the maids forum, many posts on here are equally horrid. And I honestly believe the guy was just trying the be funny. Might not be everyone's kind of humour, but so be it.
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Latest post on 25 January 2014 - 21:02
Unfortunately it seems to be bringing out the worst in people ... http://www.facebook.com/pages/Anton-Casey/183043651906540?fref=ts I'm horrified at this page. Me too. It's utterly sick. Makes EW look like poetry.
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Latest post on 25 January 2014 - 20:58
My pick would be Traiteur at the Park Hyatt. Not a kid in sight, probably best food in town and lovely setting at the Creek. <em>edited by Oopsiedaisy on 25/01/2014</em>
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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 11:05
Contacting her family on Skype is much cheaper than with a sim. So yes, I would get her a device that supports Internet and give her our Wifi password. I mean, these girls are far away from home and family, and for a long long time. Keeping in touch with their kids is crucial for most. I know our maid Skyped with her kids back home on a daily basis. If you don't want to spoil her, tell her it's not hers, but on loan. And to avoid her being on the Internet all day make sure to set the rules clearly. She can Skyoe, Internet etc. in her free time, not during working hours, unless it's strictly necessary.