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Latest post on 10 March 2015 - 16:14
What did you decide to do? I was at The Beach on JBR earlier and it's actually quite nice out. If you go to the galleries in Al Quoz, Tom & Serg is a great place to take a break for lunch/coffee & cake. :angry: Still waiting for a repair man :angry:
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Latest post on 10 March 2015 - 14:01
Why did OP delete all her posts?
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Latest post on 10 March 2015 - 11:53
Don't send that email. You'll regret it. Take a deep breath, be happy you're living far away, don't let them get to you and contact her as little as possible. But why should I allow her to blame me for everything all the time? This is a woman who ruined my hen night, ruined my wedding morning and then wedding night, invites herself to my sisters wedding... she is awful! I feel the email will give me closure on 13 years of pent up anger... Because she's your husband's mum. Be the bigger person. If anything, I think your husband should stand up for you and speak to his mum. Trust me, sending an email will totally blow things up. So go ahead and send it, if that's what you want to happen. I dont care its my husband's mam. Respect works both ways and she has none for me. None whatsoever. I have been the bigger person for 10 years or so now, bit my lip said nothing, and it gets no better. Clearly worse. He will speak to her, trust me about that. I dont think things could blow up any more, were pretty much at the worst place we have ever been. Fine, I guess you've just answered your original query. Your post is a rant, not a request for advice. Actually no its both. Not just a rant. Advice is to be listened to, which I am and doing, not necessarily agreed with. I am playing devils advocate and trying to tell you I have said nothing for alot of years... when is enough enough - that was my point... Of course you can disagree with advice. You however don't have to argue it as fervently as you seem to do. It makes me think your MIL may not be the only one to blame in this.
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Latest post on 10 March 2015 - 11:49
Art Gallery sounds good Izzy. I know there are quite a few in Al Quoz, but have no idea where to start looking.
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Latest post on 10 March 2015 - 11:47
Don't send that email. You'll regret it. Take a deep breath, be happy you're living far away, don't let them get to you and contact her as little as possible. But why should I allow her to blame me for everything all the time? This is a woman who ruined my hen night, ruined my wedding morning and then wedding night, invites herself to my sisters wedding... she is awful! I feel the email will give me closure on 13 years of pent up anger... Because she's your husband's mum. Be the bigger person. If anything, I think your husband should stand up for you and speak to his mum. Trust me, sending an email will totally blow things up. So go ahead and send it, if that's what you want to happen. I dont care its my husband's mam. Respect works both ways and she has none for me. None whatsoever. I have been the bigger person for 10 years or so now, bit my lip said nothing, and it gets no better. Clearly worse. He will speak to her, trust me about that. I dont think things could blow up any more, were pretty much at the worst place we have ever been. Fine, I guess you've just answered your original query. Your post is a rant, not a request for advice. I apologise for taking the time to give you my advice. <em>edited by Oopsiedaisy on 10/03/2015</em>
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Latest post on 10 March 2015 - 11:28
Don't send that email. You'll regret it. Take a deep breath, be happy you're living far away, don't let them get to you and contact her as little as possible. But why should I allow her to blame me for everything all the time? This is a woman who ruined my hen night, ruined my wedding morning and then wedding night, invites herself to my sisters wedding... she is awful! I feel the email will give me closure on 13 years of pent up anger... Because she's your husband's mum. Be the bigger person. If anything, I think your husband should stand up for you and speak to his mum. Trust me, sending an email will totally blow things up. So go ahead and send it, if that's what you want to happen.
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Latest post on 10 March 2015 - 11:26
I noticed there's a blind long haired very pretty cat looking for a new home advertised at Dubai off shore sailing club. I know nothing about cats so would have to have another look for the breed if you're interested, Doubt OP will want a blind cat Kooky. But hey, who knows....
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Latest post on 10 March 2015 - 11:23
Don't send that email. You'll regret it. Take a deep breath, be happy you're living far away, don't let them get to you and contact her as little as possible.
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Latest post on 10 March 2015 - 09:06
Galleries Lafayette sells them.
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Latest post on 10 March 2015 - 08:56
I believe it's either invalid, or will expire automatically. No need for action.
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Latest post on 10 March 2015 - 08:39
How about Trader's Vic in Souk Madinat? <em>edited by Oopsiedaisy on 10/03/2015</em>
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Latest post on 09 March 2015 - 23:24
Do you ladies realise that with your working hour requirements and adding at least 2x1 hour daily commute for a live-out you are expecting them to have at least 14 hour days? 6 days a week? How much exactly are you intending to pay them? And then you want them commuting in a bus at all hours, in the dark? That's really not safe, have you thought of that? I hope they're there to clean as you can hardly expect them to watch your children with so little sleep. Either get a live-in maid, or pay a more than decent salary and add a taxi fare for safe transport. If you can't afford it, you shouldn't get a maid, as has been said so many times on this forum.
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Latest post on 06 March 2015 - 18:12
Yes and yes. Just got back from Lulu's and I didn't buy them all. May regret it later though. Do they have a regular supply coming in? Thanks for the tip. :hug: PS They cost a lot more than 20 dhs a pack though. Found lot's of other stuff at a much better price than at Spinney's or things they just don't carry at all.
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Latest post on 05 March 2015 - 22:50
Please leave some behind Northern Lights. I'm not an early bird. Hmm, tempted to go now, but won't. I trust you, because without my question, you would have had to wait until autumn :biggrin: edited by Oopsiedaisy on 05/03/2015 <em>edited by Oopsiedaisy on 05/03/2015</em>
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Latest post on 05 March 2015 - 16:11
Out of curiosity, what makes Dutch swimming level's so special? Surely an Australian coach could accomplish excellent results as well?
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Latest post on 02 March 2015 - 13:02
Not to mention "fifty shades of grey". They won't release it for cinema screening but will allow it on RAK Ibiza????
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Latest post on 02 March 2015 - 08:11
A "transferred maid" isn't a species. Better that saying you wish to rehome your maid!!!! True :lol:
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Latest post on 02 March 2015 - 07:50
A "transferred maid" isn't a species. What you mean is that you take on a maid who is leaving her current sponsor before or at end of contract. As such her current sponsor terminates the contract and you have to start a new sponsor process. This way you can avoid agency fees, which make it cheaper. http://www.expatwoman.com/dubai/monthly_home_garden_Getting_A_Maid_Visa_and_Medical_Dubai_8824.aspx
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Latest post on 02 March 2015 - 07:42
Never gonna happen. They may serve booze, but they're certainly not going to condone all the other things that are going on in Ibiza. Rival island? No way.
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Latest post on 24 February 2015 - 10:18
Why not follow your own advice: Don't worry, be happy. No stress and no need for health insurance. On topic: finding the cheapest health insurance is not a smart thing to do. Find a good one.
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Latest post on 24 February 2015 - 09:10
Apparently there's a number of residents who are not happy with children on skateboards and bikes or playing football on the grass, so maybe it isn't such a family friendly compound as you thought it was. It's up to the compound owner to decide how he wants his compound to be run. If you don't like it, better move to another compound than categorically ignore the rules. Two groups of neighbours fighting each other is a terribe environment to live in.
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Latest post on 24 February 2015 - 07:35
If you manage to make significant lifestyle changes, and your weight and lifestyle are indeed the cause of your high BP, there's no reason for you to stay on BP medication for life. However, until you have, you shouldn't take any risks. So the best thing for you is to take the meds for say 6-12 months while getting your weight back on track and exercise on a daily basis. In the meantime find another GP who is willing to assist you in this process. You shouldn't stop the medication "cold turkey" , but after you've demonstrated that you can indeed loose weight and change your lifestyle he can gradually decrease the medication to zero. Unless it's something else that's causing high BP.
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Latest post on 24 February 2015 - 07:10
Interesting thread. I for one wouldn't want to live in a compound where my neighbours would intentionally disregard the compound rules just because they don't suit them. You complained, don't like the outcome and now you just go ahead and do what you want? Not very social is it?
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Latest post on 23 February 2015 - 08:11
Hi Sar53 Excellent question as far as I'm concerned. DH and I moved here in our late forties and are early fifties now. I don't work. I noticed that it is a lot harder to make friends and socialise than it was in our previous postings. The Dubai crowd is very young, the ones who are older have usually been here for a very long time, have established lives and are quite often married to locals or muslims. Or they are working. A lot of coffee mornings and meeting groups etc. really are about mums with (young) children, or young and single people. DH and I are often the oldest when going to a show or an event. A couple of years ago there was an attempt here to organise a get-together with 40+ ladies but Admin kindly nipt the attempt in the **** . That said, we're still having a wonderful time here. We found a small group of friends (most of whom have sadly left at the end of last year), travel around in the region and spend our weekends exploring the desert. A lot will depend on your nationality and your husbands company. Some companies have large expat communities and are as such a great p,ace to make new friends. Some nationalities are active in organising fellow countrymen events. There are lots if meet-up groups (google meet-up Dubai) with all kinds of common interest you may be interested in. You will be fine, it may take some time. If you decide to come try and get back on the forum, sometimes Admin is not watching and contact details can be exchanged and we can go have a coffee or something. :)
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Latest post on 18 February 2015 - 19:26
Tell her to stay home for lunch. This sounds really strange if you ask me.
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Latest post on 18 February 2015 - 19:14
We have our own white goods. Don't know if a LL is expected to provide them. What does your lease contract say? Standard or sub-standard are relative terms. What's standard for you may be sub-standard or top notch for someone else, so I wouldn't start that battle. Have LL take them away and buy your own.
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Latest post on 18 February 2015 - 10:00
If you're planning on renting it out, I would think it's worth doing it. If selling: no.
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Latest post on 17 February 2015 - 09:16
You could try Plug-Inns at Festival City. I usually buy mine there and you can call before you go to check if they have it in stock.
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Latest post on 15 February 2015 - 23:49
You simply cannot put a price on three to four hours a day everyday, not to mention the bad example I'd be setting for my girls by doing that kind of work How would taking care of your own home yourself be setting a bad example to your girls? I would have thought the opposite to be true, many choose to do their own housework out of preference, and for whatever reason there's nothing demeaning in doing so. edited by chezmoi on 15/02/2015 I would like for them to one day marry men that can properly provide for them. You are entitled to raise your daughters as you like of course, and I don't mean to be critical but how can you guarantee that even if they marry super wealthy men that something could not possibly happen to affect their wealth? If they are raised to only expect to be served by maids they will be ill prepared to deal with any eventually that might heaven forbid change their circumstances. Even the Queen of England was taught how to sweep, mop, clean and dust as a young girl, does she ever need to do these things, no, but actually she chooses to sometimes to when she is on her private vacations so she can enjoy a bit of privacy away from servants. She also regularly walks her dogs herself as well. Just my opinion, I do not deny you yours, and I wish you all the best. edited by chezmoi on 15/02/2015 I am raising my daughters in the fashion of which I was raised, and I turned out just fine That's only your opinion :lol: One that's shared by more than just a few people I might add Apparently. On top of your tigercat you also received your first star today! Congrats :biggrin:
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Latest post on 15 February 2015 - 23:44
True:lol:
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Latest post on 15 February 2015 - 23:39
Come tomorrow nobody will get this thread, but yes, it sure did. :biggrin:
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Latest post on 15 February 2015 - 23:31
My husband bought me a little Toyger, that is a domesticated cat that looks just like a tiger. They are very rare and very expensive so little Hurammi will be a house cat. I also recievied a Roberto Coin White Gold 5 Diamond Station Anklet. Hurammi looks like this http://www.catsofaustralia.com/images/Toyger-Cat-101.jpg edited by MoonFlower582 on 15/02/2015 Moonflower, I have never researched a posters previous post, but please explain to me the purpose of informing all EW readers: - about your very expensive Valentine Gifts - your housing budget of 450, your 6 ensuite bedroom villa with pool and view - yet fixing your varicose vains is too expensive - real estate agents are the lowest creatures on earth, like bacteria and all are morally corrupt - and a woman needs at least 1 maid because doing household chores yourself is setting a wrong example for your daughters who will all hopefully find a rich guy to provide for them. And all of this in your 6 posts so far, Can't wait to hear what else you have to share with us. I'm beginning to think its all a wind up! She missed telling us about her car/cars, surely she has at least a fleet of Supercars as opposed to just renting the odd Ferrari or Lambo, can't wait on that one too! I hope so but sadly doubt it. By the way, she's looking for a dog walker service as well. Apparently the maids can't take are of that. :evil:
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Latest post on 15 February 2015 - 22:53
My husband bought me a little Toyger, that is a domesticated cat that looks just like a tiger. They are very rare and very expensive so little Hurammi will be a house cat. I also recievied a Roberto Coin White Gold 5 Diamond Station Anklet. Hurammi looks like this http://www.catsofaustralia.com/images/Toyger-Cat-101.jpg edited by MoonFlower582 on 15/02/2015 Moonflower, I have never researched a posters previous post, but please explain to me the purpose of informing all EW readers: - about your very expensive Valentine Gifts - your housing budget of 450, your 6 ensuite bedroom villa with pool and view - yet fixing your varicose vains is too expensive - real estate agents are the lowest creatures on earth, like bacteria and all are morally corrupt - and a woman needs at least 1 maid because doing household chores yourself is setting a wrong example for your daughters who will all hopefully find a rich guy to provide for them. And all of this in your 6 posts so far, Can't wait to hear what else you have to share with us.
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Latest post on 14 February 2015 - 09:38
That's nice to know on Valentines day !!!! :brokenheart:
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Latest post on 13 February 2015 - 07:58
1. There are several (standard) contracts, they may vary per nationality. Here's a link to the one we use (provided to us by DH!s employer , we use it for our philipino maid and the embassy is fine with it) . By the way, it mentions a duration of 2 years, but since you have to renew her visa every year you'll need to have a new contract every year. http://www.bdembassyuae.org/forms/Employment%20Agreement%20between%20Domestic%20Workers%20and%20Sponsor%20English.pdf 2. I wouldn't let her stay until 2 am on a regular basis (and then commute to her home) if I needed her to be back at work early next morning. Personally I think she needs at least 8 hours rest, so do I. I wouldn't mind on occasion, but once or twice a week, even if it isn't every week is too much. 3. Most maids do indeed take one month holiday at a time. The reason for this is that most of them want to go visit their family back home. And keep in mind that for them that often means their children! We all have our kids here and we can afford many little breaks with them, and visit parents etc. on occasion. There's a huge difference. The maids get one ticket each year and most want to spend that ticket for a month vacation with their children. 4. Medical package is anything you choose, between 1000 to 3000 per year. You will find many threads on it. Noor Takaful used to do it, Daman, AXA. You'll just have to shop around. 4. No probation on the contract. If after 6 month you decide it doesn't work out, you will loose your sponsorship costs.
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Latest post on 09 February 2015 - 10:43
DH dear husband, DD dear daughter etc. MIL mother in law, FIL father in law etc TIA thanks in advance Other than that we (I) hate people using text message language or any other social media slang kind of thing. hth (hope to help) :)
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Latest post on 08 February 2015 - 15:37
Oopsadaisy - do you know where I can buy boric acid? You can buy it at any pharmacy Yes, any pharmacy will sell it. And you are right, often the boric acid will do the tric, so health-wise it's better to try that first. Good luck.
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Latest post on 08 February 2015 - 15:31
Why would you bring alcohol to a hotel that serves it? Just order it....
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Latest post on 08 February 2015 - 08:43
We too seem to have an increase, especially around the dishwasher. We screwed open the dishwasher door, sprinkled boric acid, left it for a few days and then cleaned it thoroughly. Hopefully it will do the trick. If not we will have to go the pest control way as well. Little one, please keep us updated on that, as it seems many dodgy pest control companies are around.
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Latest post on 08 February 2015 - 07:58
Thanks for your suggestions, off to buy some today.
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Latest post on 05 February 2015 - 17:01
You can't actually "transfer" the visa. You cancel and the new sponsor starts a visa process. You will not get any refund except for the deposit (which you will get back AFTER her new visa has been issued).
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Latest post on 05 February 2015 - 16:59
Twiggy, did you happen to use Khaleel and were you happy with the results?
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Latest post on 05 February 2015 - 16:55
Well, my posts have been edited in a way they make no sense whatsoever. So I'm deleting them. Admin should either delete a post or let it be. Editing so that it only makes sense to them is ridiculous.
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Latest post on 05 February 2015 - 09:46
Our LL arranges it and we pay for it. He arranges something which takes 10 mins to do? It's not a complicated thing. I don't care if it's easy or not, just answering OP.
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Latest post on 05 February 2015 - 09:38
Our LL arranges it and we pay for it.
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Latest post on 19 January 2015 - 11:14
Business Breakfast said people were down there from 9pm last night queuing for tix The queue was 150 foot deep Business Breakfast was lying. I went and queued up at 04.30 this morning. No way the queue was 150 foot. They were handing out numbers and all was fairly civilised as always. Back home at 9 am this morning, with season tickets for both men's and woman's. happy girl here :)
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Latest post on 10 January 2015 - 18:32
Bumping this thread. Am looking for a bed skirt and wondering whether any of you ladies have any suggestions. TIA
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Latest post on 09 January 2015 - 18:25
Just ***(be creative) about your answers.
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Latest post on 09 January 2015 - 18:22
I too have tons of stuff to sell/give away. Because of the above mentioned reasons I tend to give it all to my maid who happily sends it home or distributes amongst her friends here. She's delighted with the smallest thing, if I were to sell it all it probably wouldn't get me nearly as much as I would expect to get out of it. Now at least I have a happy maid who appreciates it.
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Latest post on 08 January 2015 - 08:47
5000 is still a lot beter than in Sharjah, where you pay the equivalent of her annual salary to the government. I thought I read somewhere that fees would become equal in all emirates, let's hope Sharjah also adopts this 5000 fee.
 
 
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